Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs

512: Dealing with Extended Family Conflict

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 07 Apr 2026 03:00:00 -0400

Family dynamics can get complicated quickly, especially when expectations, boundaries, and communication styles start to clash. Today we’re talking about how to navigate tension with extended family without losing your peace (or your voice.) We hope you’ll walk away with practical ways to communicate clearly, pursue peace, and love your extended family well.

Episode Recap:

Moms can easily get stuck in the middle of family conflicts (1:59)
I’m stuck in the middle of conflicts between my mom and my husband, help! (4:02)
My MIL is extremely difficult, even mean and petty toward me (7:47)
How can I be good friends with my mother in law and still have boundaries? (11:30)
How can grandparents be closer to the grandchildren of divorced parents? (14:33)
Join us for more questions on WT+ - link in show notes! (18:00)

Scripture: Romans 12:18 (NIV)
“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”

Discussion Questions:

Where do you feel the most tension right now with extended family or in-laws? What makes that situation difficult?
Do you tend to avoid conflict or confront it quickly? How does your temperament affect the way you handle family tension?
Are you currently acting as a “middleman” in any relationships? What would it look like to step out of that role in a healthy way?
What does it look like to “live at peace…as far as it depends on you” in your current situation?
What is one practical step you can take this week to improve communication or reduce tension in a family relationship?

Resources:

Become a WT+ Insider today! boaw.mom/insider
Check out Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
Listen to a past episode on boundaries with family
Download our FREE temperaments packet

Want More of This Conversation?
On WT+ today we are answering more questions about extended family - how to make vacations and extended time together work well - and Karen shares her insights on keeping family connected and what to do when someone pulls away.

Head HERE and join us for the full conversation.

511: When Nothing Seems To Work: Second Guessing Your Parenting Instincts

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 31 Mar 2026 03:00:00 -0400

Ever find yourself second guessing your parenting decisions? You’re not alone. In this episode, Karen answers questions from moms navigating school struggles, motivation, and knowing when to step back. We hope you walk away feeling encouraged to trust God with the parenting choices you are making.

Episode Recap:

One parenting decision won’t make or break your child (1:50)
My 1st grader doesn’t work hard in school and I can’t make her care! (2:30)
How do I motivate my 10 year old yellow/green son? (5:00)
My son is reluctant to participate in extracurriculars, how should I handle this? (11:42)
Don’t project your fears and anxieties onto your child (14:15)
Ask God for the wisdom you need to make parenting decisions today (15:00)

Scripture: James 1:5 (NASB)
“But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach and it will be given to him”

Discussion Questions:

When do you find yourself second guessing your parenting the most? What tends to be the trigger?
Are there areas where you might be over-helping (or enabling) instead of allowing natural consequences to teach your child?
What practical systems (routines, checklists etc.) could help your child take more ownership?
Are you projecting fears about your child’s future instead of focusing on what’s true today?
What would it look like to release your parenting decisions to God and trust Him with the outcome?

Resources:

Listen to the rest of our conversation on WT+: boaw.mom/insider
Use A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring to become a better student of your child
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible
Download our FREE temperaments packet

Want More of This Conversation?
In WT+, we dive into tougher parenting moments: attachment struggles, discipline that isn’t working, and navigating disagreements with your spouse. Plus, you’ll hear Karen’s practical ways to stay consistent when it feels like nothing is sticking.

Head HERE and join us for the full conversation.

510: Am I Ruining My Teenager’s Life?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 24 Mar 2026 03:00:00 -0400

If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I ruining my teenager’s life?” - you’re not alone. Today, Karen answers questions from moms navigating strong personalities, emotional pushback, and the tension between protecting and preparing their teens. With her trademark practical wisdom, she reminds us that what feels like conflict is often part of God’s process for refining our kids.

Episode Recap:

As moms, we can see the writing on the wall but our teens literally can’t (1:45)
My daughter and I fight all the time, I just do not like her right now (4:02)
You cannot take their attitude and/or push back personally (7:43)
How do I motivate my lazy teenage son? (9:01)
We don’t need to coddle our sons (11:09)
Look into our new study: How to Teach Your Kids the Bible (13:30)
My daughter’s career dreams are unrealistic, how do we talk to her about it? (13:45)
Any tips for a blue mom raising a melancholy 15 year old teen? (17:36)
Our job is not to solve all our kids’ problems, it’s to point them to the Lord (19:41)

Scripture: Galatians 6:9 (NLT)
“So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.”

Discussion Questions:

When have you felt like your teen misunderstood your intentions? How did you respond?
Where are you tempted to take your teen’s behavior personally?
What would it look like to “get out of God’s way” in your parenting right now?
How can you stay emotionally steady when your teen is not?
What is one boundary you need to hold with confidence this week?

Resources:

Listen to the rest of our conversation on WT+: boaw.mom/insider
Check out Karen’s Peace for the Anxious Mom study today
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible
Download our FREE temperaments packet
Pick up Karen’s devotional for Teenage Girls on Amazon

Want More of This Conversation?
WT+ listeners will hear Karen encourage you to stand firm in your parental convictions without damaging the relationship. Karen shares personal stories of the fruit that both she and her children have reaped from maintaining stricter boundaries in the teenage years.

Head HERE and join us for the full conversation.

509: Tantrums, Tears, and Temperaments

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 17 Mar 2026 03:00:00 -0400

If you’re in the stage of parenting where tears, tantrums, and big emotions seem to take over every day, you’re not alone. Today Karen and Emily are tackling questions from moms navigating the emotional ups and downs of preschoolers and early elementary kids. They discuss why some kids cry more than others, how to handle tantrums without giving in, and how to guide sensitive kids through big feelings. If you’re in the thick of it these days, we hope this episode reminds you that this stage is normal and it won’t last forever!

Episode Recap:

All of our kids go through hard phases, you are not alone (1:08)
My 5 year old boy cries about EVERYTHING - help! (3:05)
My son’s temper tantrums are out of control, what can I do? (7:08)
My 4 yr old is very dependent on her brother, I’m worried about her clinginess (9:11)
How do I approach the “stranger danger” conversation with my outgoing girl? (12:39)
You’re not going to change the way your kid is wired, but you can understand it (20:00)

Scripture: Proverbs 22:6 (NIV)
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

Discussion Questions:

How do you usually respond when your child cries or throws a tantrum? How’s that working for your family?
Karen talked about helping kids learn that not every situation is a “10 out of 10.” How do you teach your children perspective when they’re upset?
What are some practical ways you can help your child learn to express feelings with words instead of tears?
How does remembering that this stage is temporary change the way you respond in the moment?

Resources:

Listen to the rest of our conversation on WT+: boaw.mom/insider
Send us your questions through the BOAW Moms app [Apple] [Google Play]
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible

Want More?

Wire Talk+ listeners get extended conversations every week. Today Karen and Emily are sharing tips for how to make mornings easier with reluctant risers.

Head HERE and join us for the full conversation.

508: Parenting Strong-Willed Kids Without Losing Your Cool

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 10 Mar 2026 03:00:00 -0400

Last week, Karen talked about the temperaments. This week, she takes that conversation one step further by answering real questions from moms who are navigating strong-willed kids, harsh words, whining, and emotional outbursts. If you’ve ever looked at your child and thought, I know their heart is sweet, so why is this coming out so sideways? this episode is for you. Karen shares practical wisdom for understanding your child’s wiring, correcting with grace, and helping them grow.

Episode Recap:

Last week, we talked about blue and red temperaments (2:00)
My blue/green son often comes across as critical and harsh (3:00)
My rising Kindergartener is controlling and bossy and can be physical (7:23)
My daughter used to love being the center of attention, now she’s self-conscious (12:25)
What is the temperaments book you reference all the time? (16:05)
Pick a “lane” when you take the temperaments test (18:57)

Scripture: Hebrews 12:11 (NIV)
“No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”

Discussion Questions:

Which of my child’s behaviors may be connected to their temperament, and which ones need clear correction?
Do I tend to react to my child’s tone or behavior in a way that escalates things?
How can I better coach my child after the emotional moment has passed?
Where does my own temperament make parenting this child especially hard?
What would it look like to be more patient and intentional in helping this child grow over time?

Resources:

Listen to the rest of our conversation on WT+: boaw.mom/insider
Episodes featuring moms of different temperament colors: 330, 331, 332, 333
Grab Personality Plus for Parents by Florence Littauer
Take the Colors Temperament Quiz today

Want More of This Conversation?

Wire Talk+ listeners get extended conversations every week! Today Karen delves deeper into how moms’ own temperaments affect the way they respond to their kids and gives a helpful rundown of the core needs of each temperament.

Head HERE and join us for the full conversation.

507: How To Handle Big Emotions in Kids

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 03 Mar 2026 03:00:00 -0500

Today Karen and Emily tackle listener questions about kids with big emotions; the pouters, the perfectionists, the rule followers, and the fiercely competitive. Whether your child melts down when they lose, struggles to say they’re having fun, or takes rules a little too seriously, this episode will help you parent the way they’re wired instead of fighting against it.

Episode Recap:

Join Wire Talk+, our VIP club for listeners (3:45)
Is it okay to let my sensitive child pout in his room? (4:27)
My “blue child” never says she’s having fun and it’s discouraging to me (9:55)
How do I handle an overly strict rule follower? (13:30)
My 9 yr old cannot bear losing - should I give him consequences for meltdowns? (17:28)
You’re not going to change the way your kid is wired, but you can understand it (20:00)

Scripture: Proverbs 22:6 (NIV) “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.”

Discussion Questions:

Does my child need space or correction in emotional moments?
Am I reacting to their personality, or am I training their character?
Do I expect my child to respond emotionally the way I would?
Where do I need to be more consistent with consequences?
How can I model emotional regulation in my own responses?

Resources:

Listen to the rest of our conversation on WT+: boaw.mom/insider
Send us your questions through the BOAW Moms app [Apple] [Google Play]
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible
Check out Raising Emotionally Strong Boys by David Thomas

Want More of This Conversation?

Wire Talk+ listeners get extended conversations every week! Today Karen is sharing insights on parenting “blue” temperaments specifically.

Head HERE and join us for the full conversation.

506: Raising Resilient Kids in a Fragile Culture

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 24 Feb 2026 03:00:00 -0500

Are you parenting a Gen Z child and wondering why everything feels so different from when you were growing up? Today Karen and Emily sit down with leadership expert Tim Elmore, founder of Growing Leaders, to talk about the unique pressures facing this generation.

From overexposure to information and technology and underexposure to real-world experiences, Tim helps moms understand what’s really happening beneath the surface in a Gen Z kid. Don’t miss his fantastic illustration of what it means to be a “velvet-covered brick” as a parent!

Episode Recap:

Growing Leaders was created to help parents understand the next generation (00:54)
Who is the Gen Z kid? Who is Gen Alpha? (2:00)
Gen Z makes us better leaders (4:20)
Gen Z is overwhelmed by their overexposure to information (8:25)
This generation is underexposed to experiences (10:09)
How can a generation be so connected and still so lonely? (13:06)
How do I equip my kids to overcome hardship? (16:04)
Parents allow their kids to risk too little, and then rescue too much. (18:54)
What intentional habits can make a difference for this generation? (22:44)
Enter our giveaway on @birdsonawiremoms to win one of Tim’s books (27:20)

Scripture: James 1:2-4 (NIV)
“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”

Discussion Questions:

Where am I most tempted to rescue my child instead of coaching them through something hard?
When my child says they’re overwhelmed, how do I typically respond?
How well am I balancing “be yourself” with teaching my child to belong to something bigger than themselves?
What is one real-life experience I could intentionally create this year to help my child grow up (not just grow older)?

Resources:

Listen to the rest of our conversation on WT+: boaw.mom/insider
Check out all of Tim’s books on Amazon: https://amzn.to/4tQ7Iig
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible

Want More of This Conversation?

Wire Talk+ listeners get extended conversations every week! Today Tim shares his perspective on the top 3 mistakes parents of teens are making with this generation.

Head HERE and join us for the full conversation.

505: Good and Hard Can Run on Parallel Lines

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 17 Feb 2026 03:00:00 -0500

Do you ever feel overwhelmed, overtouched, overstimulated and find yourself wondering, why does this feel so hard?

Today Karen answers real questions from moms about marriage, resentment, anxiety, exhaustion, and the emotional weight of motherhood. From mismatched sex drives in the toddler years to school-day overload and traveling husbands, this conversation will remind you that you are not alone. Motherhood can be beautiful and exhausting at the same time- and good and hard can truly run on parallel lines.

Episode Recap:

Good and hard can run on parallel tracks! (3:10)
How can I honor my husband’s higher sex drive and actually enjoy sex right now? (4:33)
My afternoons are exhausting with 3 school age daughters - is this normal? (6:57)
My husband travels for work & chooses golf on weekends, I feel resentful (12:50)
My job and homeschooling has me feeling so anxious, I dread my day to day life (18:28)

Scripture: Philippians 4:19 (NIV)
“And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.”

Discussion Questions:

Where am I currently feeling the most overwhelmed — marriage, work, parenting, or emotionally?
Is there resentment quietly building in my heart? What honest conversation needs to happen?
What small buffer or margin could I create this week?
Am I trying to solve everything myself instead of laying it before the Lord?
Where do I need to remind myself that “good and hard can run on parallel lines”?

Resources:

Listen to the rest of our conversation on WT+: boaw.mom/insider
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible
Listen to episode 131 or 165 on having a healthy sex life after kids

Want More of This Conversation?

Wire Talk+ listeners get extended conversations every week! Today Karen shares a personal story about a painful season when she had to “bend the knee” to God’s will in her life. Join us and we hope you’ll come away encouraged.

Head HERE and join us for the full conversation.

504: The Myth of the ‘Perfect Friendship’

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 10 Feb 2026 03:00:00 -0500

Friendships in motherhood are rarely as simple as we expect them to be. Today Karen and Emily are continuing our friendship conversation by tackling comparison, conflict, cliques, and what to do when a friendship changes. They answer listeners’ questions about unmet expectations and learning when to lean in and when to let go. If friendship feels confusing, discouraging, or just plain messy right now, we hope this episode encourages you!

Episode Recap:

What is happening over on Wire Talk+? (4:01)
Where do your friendship expectations come from? (10:30)
How have your healthy friendships naturally changed over time? (12:56)
Ask God for what you need - even in your friendships (14:52)
Friendship doesn’t always look exactly like what we have imagined (18:02)
How do we handle conflict and tension in friendship? (18:30)
You can create space without ghosting people (21:37)
How do I make friends when everywhere around me is full of cliques? (22:00)
My friend continually brings up a topic of conversation that irritates me (25:25)

Scripture: Proverbs 17:17 (EST) “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”

Discussion Questions:

How has comparison (especially through social media) shaped your expectations of friendship?
Are there friendships in your life where proximity (distance, schedules, seasons of life) has changed the relationship?
When conflict or tension shows up, do you tend to address it or pull away? Why?
What kind of friend do you have the capacity to be right now? What kind of friendship do you realistically need in this season?
Is there one practical step you could take this month to strengthen a current friendship or pursue a new one?

Resources:

Listen to the rest of our conversation on WT+: boaw.mom/insider
Join our BOAW Moms Facebook group
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible

503: Why Mom Friendships Feel Harder Than We Expected

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 03 Feb 2026 03:00:00 -0500

Friendships in motherhood can feel complicated, especially when old wounds and insecurities get stirred up in new seasons. In this episode, Karen and Emily talk honestly about why friendships can feel hard for moms and how to move forward with grace, healthy expectations, and a “generous explanation” for the people around us.

Episode Recap:

Friendship is difficult as a mom (2:23)
We all have past hurts that impact how we receive or offer friendship today (4:30)
How do we prevent self-sabotaging friendships? (6:17)
Communicate clearly when you have moved into a new season of life (8:06)
Choose a generous explanation whenever possible (10:02)
How do I handle someone who is not a good fit wanting to be friends?! (13:54)
How do I maintain friendships in a very full season? (16:45)
Continue this conversation on WT+ at the link below (20:16)

Scripture: Ephesians 4:2 (NLT) “Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.”

Discussion Questions:

Have you had a friendship since becoming a mom that didn’t turn out the way you expected. What made it hard?
When friendships feel disappointing or painful, what past experiences or insecurities tend to get stirred up for you?
Where do you think your expectations in friendships might need to shift to match the reality of your current season?
What would it look like for you to give a “generous explanation” instead of assuming the worst in a friendship right now?
What is one practical way you can pursue friendship with more grace this month without overextending yourself?

Resources:

Listen to the rest of our conversation on WT+: boaw.mom/insider
Join our BOAW Moms Facebook group
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible

Want More of This Conversation?

Wire Talk+ listeners get extended conversations every week! Today Karen and Emily share how their past relationships have affected the kind of friend they are today.

To become a Wire Talk+ Insider, head HERE and join us for the full conversation.

502: Parenting Adult Children: How to Let Go Without Losing the Relationship with Jim Burns

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 27 Jan 2026 03:00:00 -0500

Parenting doesn’t end when your kids turn 18. In many ways, it gets more complicated! Today Karen and Erin are joined by longtime parenting expert Jim Burns for a wise and honest conversation about parenting adult children. They talk about releasing control, shifting your role, navigating boundaries, resisting unsolicited advice, and discerning the difference between helping and enabling. Whether your kids are still at home, newly launched, or already raising families of their own, this episode will help you parent with clarity, peace, and long-term perspective.

Episode Recap:

Jim is the founder of Homeward Ministries (3:06)
When our children become adults, we have to give up control (4:43)
What does it look like to embrace a new “job description” as moms? (7:00)
How can we offer wisdom to our adult children or do we just bite our tongues? (11:37)
Resist the urge to become a “one topic” parent (13:15)
What’s the difference between helping your kids and enabling them? (15:45)
How do we place good boundaries when adult kids move back in? (19:10)
What does it mean to, “wear beige and keep your mouth shut?” (24:00)
Can you cast vision for the grandparent years? (28:00)
Continue this conversation on WT+ at the link below (32:00)

Scripture: Ecclesiastes 3:1 (ESV) – “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.”

Discussion Questions:

What part of parenting adult children feels most difficult for you right now? If you don’t have adult children yet, what fears or worries do you have about that season of life?
How can you shift from giving advice to asking permission before speaking?
Is there an area where helping may have crossed into enabling dependency?
What expectations need to be clearly communicated in your family right now?
How can you focus on relationship building rather than behavior correcting?

Resources:

Listen to the rest of our conversation with Jim over on WT+: boaw.mom/insider
Grab a copy of Jim’s new book, Doing Life With Your Adult Children
Connect with HomeWord Ministries online
Check out Jim’s podcast and his recent episode on Long Distance Grandparenting
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible

Want More of This Conversation?

Wire Talk+ listeners get extended conversations every week! Today we go deeper into parenting wayward adult children, setting boundaries, and navigating complicated family dynamics.

To become a Wire Talk+ Insider, head HERE and join us for the full conversation.

501: Parenting Principles From Proverbs (Part 3): The Fruit of Faithful Discipline

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 20 Jan 2026 10:35:54 -0500

Discipline is hard, especially when the results feel slow or invisible. In this final episode of our Parenting Principles from Proverbs series, Karen and Emily shift the focus to the long-term fruit of faithful discipline and the peace it brings to both children and parents.

Drawing from Proverbs and Hebrews, Karen reminds moms that discipline is discipleship. It is not about control or behavior management in the moment, but about shaping hearts, building security, and leaving a generational blessing. Don’t miss the end of today’s episode, when Emily announces our big winners from last week’s giveaway!!

Episode Recap:

What does the fruit of discipline look like? (2:30)
Discipline now will bring peace later (7:10)
How do I teach my son to obey without all the drama? (11:30)
How do I stay calm while disciplining my bonus child? (14:12)
My kids argue and whine about everything. I’m exhausted! (17:30)
Discipline takes time and repetition (21:17)
Discipline leaves a generational blessing (22:54)
Our big giveaway winners announced! (24:42)

Scripture: Hebrews 12:11 (ESV) – “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.”

Discussion Questions:

Why do you think discipline feels especially hard when results are not immediate?
How does seeing discipline as discipleship change your perspective?
Which scripture from this episode encouraged you the most and why?
Where might God be asking you to stay consistent, even when you feel tired?
What kind of long-term fruit do you hope to see in your children ten years from now?

Resources:

Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible
Listen to episode 347 with David Thomas, Raising Emotionally Strong Boys
Grab Thomas’ book: Raising Emotionally Strong Boys

500: Parenting Principles from Proverbs (Part 2): How to Be a Wise Mom

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 13 Jan 2026 03:00:00 -0500

We are celebrating 500 episodes of Wire Talk and using this milestone to talk about something every mom wants: wisdom that actually works in real life. Today Karen breaks down what it means to be a wise mom, not a perfect one, and offers a simple grid for everyday moments by asking, “Will my response build my house or tear it down?” From discipline to independence, this conversation focuses on proactive parenting that shapes our kids over time.

Episode Recap:

Wire Talk is celebrating 500 episodes - don’t miss our BIG GIVEAWAY (2:34)
A wise mom builds her house up in all she does (7:10)
Children are born with a sin nature (11:00)
Being intentional is hard work (14:31)
What is the difference between teaching, training, and discipline? (15:50)
Consistency builds trust (20:30)
Discipline sets your child up for success long term (23:40)
Listener question - how do I discipline my biter? (26:44)
Listener question - is it too late for me to disciple my child in faith? (29:39)
How do I discipline tantrums in public? (31:52)
I don’t know how to help my daughters solve sibling conflict… (33:30)

Scripture: Proverbs 14:1 (NIV) – “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”

Discussion Questions:

Karen’s guiding question is, “Will my response build my house or tear it down?” Where do you most need that filter right now? (Discipline, mornings, homework, sibling conflict, or marriage?)
Where do you tend to parent reactively, and what would it look like to be proactive instead?
How does remembering your child’s sin nature change both your expectations and your compassion?
Karen talks about how tearing down can show up in our words with kids or a spouse. Where do you need to shift from criticism to building up?
Which do you lean toward most: teaching, training, or disciplining, and which one do you tend to avoid? Why?
Where do you need to ask God for help right now, one specific area where you are asking Him to meet you with encouragement?

Resources:

Join our giveaway by commenting on this episode over on YouTube!
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible
Listen to Wire Talk Episode 1!
Start a new habit this year with Karen’s devotional: Moments with God for Moms

499: Parenting Principles from Proverbs (Part 1): How to Parent with Confidence Instead of Anxiety

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 06 Jan 2026 03:00:00 -0500

Karen and Emily are kicking off the year with a three-part series about parenting principles we can learn from the book of Proverbs. Today, Karen addresses the confusion many moms today feel around discipline, authority, and the pressure to “get it right.” Drawing from Solomon’s teaching, she reminds us that children need leadership, clear boundaries, and parents who are willing to direct them with confidence rather than fear. We hope this conversation encourages you to trust God for wisdom no matter what you are facing this week!

Episode Recap:

Wire Talk is celebrating 500 episodes next week
Subscribe to our YT podcast so you don’t miss the giveaway
Gentle parenting does not work
Stop Googling and start getting into the Word of God
We are bombarding ourselves with information overload
Moms are afraid of messing up and uncertain of what to do
What are the 3 stages of discipline?
How do I discipline without introducing shame?
Children are so resilient, we do not give them enough credit
Trust that God will give us wisdom exactly when we need it

Scripture: Proverbs 1:1-5 (ESV) – “The proverbs of Solomon son of David, king of Israel: for gaining wisdom and instruction; for understanding words of insight; for receiving instruction in prudent behavior, doing what is right and just and fair; for giving prudence to those who are simple, knowledge and discretion to the young—let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance…”

Discussion Questions:

What messages about parenting have influenced you the most in recent years—culture, social media, your upbringing, or Scripture?
“More information is not always good information.” Where have you felt overwhelmed or anxious because of too much advice?
Why do you think the word authority has become uncomfortable in parenting conversations?
How does Proverbs reframe discipline as protection and love rather than punishment?
What is one area of parenting where you need to ask God for wisdom instead of trying to figure it out on your own?

Resources:

Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible
Listen to our series on the 3 stages of discipline: 154, 155, 156
Grab Karen’s devotional book: Moments with God for Moms

498: Choosing Love This Christmas

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 23 Dec 2025 03:00:00 -0500

As Christmas approaches, we are turning our focus to love this final week of Advent. In this episode, Karen and Emily unpack what it looks like to love like Jesus in everyday moments: choosing presence, serving quietly, pausing before reacting, and remembering that we love others because Christ first loved us. If the holidays have stretched your patience thin, we hope this conversation will help you refocus your heart on what truly matters!

Episode Recap:

We’re talking about love this week (6:05)
How do we respond to God’s love practically? (7:55)
Loving others looks like not being selfish (8:44)
Take an interest in others this Christmas (12:34)
Choose presence over perfection (15:54)
Speak life with your words (16:31)
Pause before you react (18:42)
Enjoy simple moments (20:20)
Serve quietly (21:15)
Focus on gratitude (22:42)

Scripture: Philippians 2:1-5 (NIV)
“Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus.”

Discussion Questions:

Why do you think loving others feels harder during the holidays?
In what ways do you catch yourself trying to impress others rather than love them?
Which part of Philippians 2:1–5 challenges you the most right now?
What does “choosing presence over perfection” look like in your home?
What is one thing you can do this week to respond with love instead of frustration?

Resources:

Please give today to help us reach more moms with Wire Talk in 2026!

497: How to Tune Your Heart to Joy This Christmas

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 16 Dec 2025 03:00:00 -0500

Joy doesn’t just happen, our hearts have to be tuned to it. In this third week of Advent, Karen and Emily talk honestly about how hard it can be to find joy in the middle of exhaustion, family stress, and the very real unmet expectations of the season. Using the picture of tuning an instrument, they unpack how joy comes when we continually refocus our hearts on Jesus, not on our circumstances. If you’re longing for a steadier joy this Christmas season, this conversation is for you!

Episode Recap:

Intro (00:00)
Today we’re talking about joy (2:10)
We have to tune our hearts to joy (4:12)
Jesus often becomes a secondary thought in this season (5:55)
Remind yourself on a daily basis that this life is not about you, it’s about Christ (7:50)
Find ways to re-center yourself on Christ this Christmas (10:30)
Decide to have NO expectations each day, live with an open hand (11:35)
Focusing on God makes the trivial things of this world fade away (16:01)

Scripture: Luke 2:10-11 (ESV)
“And the angel said to them, “Fear not, for behold, I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord.”

Discussion Questions:

When you hear the idea of “tuning your heart to joy,” what stands out to you personally?
What tends to pull your focus away from Jesus most during the Christmas season?
Can you identify a recent moment where unmet expectations robbed you of joy?
What practical practices help you re-center on Christ?
How does Mary’s response to God’s plan challenge the way you respond to interruptions or disappointments?
What would it look like to hold your plans and expectations with open hands this season?

Resources:

Please give today to help us reach more moms with Wire Talk in 2026! boaw.mom/give

496: Preparing Your Heart for Christmas

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 09 Dec 2025 03:00:00 -0500

It’s easy to find ourselves in the middle of December with a packed calendar and an unprepared spirit, carrying bitterness, comparison, or disappointment into every day. Drawing from Matthew 3:3, Karen talks about what it means to “prepare the way for the Lord” so we don’t miss Jesus in the middle of our own expectations. You’ll come away with simple, practical ways to prepare your heart for Christmas, no matter what your circumstances are like.

Episode Recap:

Today we’re talking about preparation (2:15)
We must prepare our hearts so we don’t miss Christ (3:54)
We prepare through self-reflection, repentance, readiness (5:06)
It’s hard to see the condition of your own heart, so pray about it (6:12)
This world is full of trouble, but Christ has overcome the world (13:09)
We have to take our thoughts captive over and over and over again (14:45)
Practically, how do we prepare our hearts? (17:13)

Scripture: Matthew 3:3 (NIV) – ‘Prepare the way for the Lord, make straight paths for him.’

Discussion Questions:

When you look at this Christmas season, where do you see that your heart might be “unprepared”? (Bitterness, comparison, resentment, fear, exhaustion, etc.)
What “self-talk” tends to get loud for you during the holidays (i.e.: life isn’t fair, I never have enough, no one appreciates me)? Which scriptures could help you renew your mind with truth instead?
Karen shared practical ideas for preparing your heart: starting the day with Jesus, lighting a candle, sitting in silence, simplifying your schedule, serving someone in need. Which one could you realistically try this week?
Is there one thing you could say no to this December to create more space for peace, presence, and noticing Jesus? What would it look like to trust God with that decision?

Resources:

Give today to help us reach more moms with Wire Talk in 2026! boaw.mom/give
Pick up a copy of Karen’s Self Talk curriculum today: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/products/six-truths-study-guide?pr_prod_strat=e5_desc&pr_rec_id=ac36e3440&pr_rec_pid=1414191513677&pr_ref_pid=4773089017933&pr_seq=uniform
Listen to Noel by Tommee Profitt: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qDyA9W9CaeQ

495: Finding Hope This Christmas

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 02 Dec 2025 03:00:00 -0500

Today we’re kicking off our Advent series with a focus on hope. December fills up fast with activities, expectations, and pressure for a picture-perfect holiday, making it easy to place our hope in circumstances, schedules, and our spouses. But what do we do when Christmas doesn’t go as planned?

In this episode, Karen invites us to ask a powerful question: Where am I placing my hope this Christmas? If you’re craving a calmer, more Christ-centered Christmas, this conversation will help you anchor your hope in Him alone.

(Psst! If you’re listening with littles, you may want to skip to 3:30, we talk about Santa early on.)

Episode Recap:

Karen and Emily talk Santa and gift purchasing (1:45)
What is one thing about Christmas you love & one thing you could do without? (4:15)
Karen went on an advent deep dive this year (7:59)
Everyone can use more hope (12:27)
There’s a lot of grief and sadness at the holidays (14:50)
Emmanuel means ‘God with Us’ (16:52)
Our hope cannot be in our circumstances (18:02)
Where are you placing your hope right now? (19:07)

Scripture: Micah 7:7 (NIV)
“But as for me, I watch in hope for the Lord, I wait for God my Savior; my God will hear me.”

Discussion Questions:

Where are you most tempted to place your hope: your spouse, finances, health, kids’ behavior, or a “perfect” holiday?
Have you ever walked through a Christmas marked by grief, disappointment, or loneliness? How did God meet you there (or how are you asking Him to now)?
What would it look like, practically, to shift your hope from circumstances to Christ this month?
How can you help your kids see Christmas as a season of hope in Jesus, not just presents and activities?

Resources:

Give today to help us reach more moms with Wire Talk in 2026! boaw.mom/give
Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!
Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

494: Helping Teens Grow Up: Boundaries, Phones & Real-Life Responsibility

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 25 Nov 2025 03:00:00 -0500

Today Karen is tackling your questions about navigating the teenage years, from motivating strong-willed teens to handling independence, changing relationships, and the ever-present “that’s not fair!” Karen shares what worked in her home, including how to stay connected to strong-willed teens, helping boys who are pulling away, and parenting through the ever-changing norms of phones, jobs, and freedom.

Episode Recap:

You can be strict in the teen years and have great relationships with adult kids (4:00)
Give them a “no, because…” during the teen years (5:54)
How do I motivate my 15 year old to help out around home? (7:25)
Help! My 13 yr old thinks he knows everything! (11:37)
My teenage son is pulling away, I feel sad and rejected (15:35)
How do you handle keeping things “fair” during the teenage years? (18:40)
We have to remember our teens are growing up and that’s messy (22:01)

Scripture: James 1:5 (NIV)
“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”

Discussion Questions:

Where do you struggle most in balancing independence and safety with your teen?
Are you naturally stronger in boundaries or connection? What needs strengthening?
How does remembering your teen is still maturing affect your responses to them?
Who supports you during the teen years, and how can you invite more support?

Resources:

Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!
Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

493: The Secret to Stress-Free Potty Training

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 18 Nov 2025 03:00:00 -0500

If you’re staring down the potty training season with dread, this one’s for you! Karen and Emily are joined by Christine Clark—a mom, preschool teacher, and pro who’s successfully potty trained 17 children. From handling accidents with grace to dealing with fear, regression, or defiance, this episode is packed with wisdom and encouragement for moms in the potty-training trenches.

Episode Recap:

Christine runs an in-home daycare and LOVES toddlers (2:33)
Personality definitely feeds into potty training (5:58)
Is there a difference in training girls vs boys? (7:25)
Give us a step-by-step for those who are new to this (8:55)
What are the biggest mistakes parents make? (12:00)
How to support your child’s training at daycare (14:16)
What about kids who have “accidents” out of defiance? (16:35)
What if a child is afraid to go #2? (22:21)

Scripture: Galatians 6:9 (NIV)
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

Discussion Questions:

What’s been your biggest potty training challenge so far, and what mindset shift could help you handle it with more patience?
How can you bring fun and encouragement into the process instead of frustration?
What does “everything can be cleaned” look like for you in this season of motherhood?
What other “hard things” have you done recently that remind you you’re capable of more than you think?

Resources:

Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!
Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

492: How to Handle a Difficult Mother-in-Law (Without Starting a Family War)

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 11 Nov 2025 03:00:00 -0500

This week, Karen tackles listener questions on navigating everything from over-involved mother-in-laws to family disagreements and unmet expectations. Karen shares wisdom from her 39 years of marriage about when to speak up, when to set boundaries, and how to keep your marriage strong even when extended family drama threatens your peace!

Episode Recap:

How do we make our relationships with our MILs stronger and better? (2:53)
As a MIL, how can I best help my DIL when Baby #3 arrives? (4:25)
My MIL doesn’t get along well in family situations, should I intervene? (8:35)
Boundaries are for you, not the other person (10:17)
My SIL never prioritizes our family, should I talk to her? (12:25)
My MIL is upset over our parenting choices, (15:18)
My husband and I are at odds over how best to honor his family (18:20)

Scripture: Matthew 11:28 (NIV)
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

Discussion Questions:

When have you found it hardest to set boundaries with family? What helped you hold firm?
How can you and your spouse stay unified when you see a family situation differently?
What practical ways can you show love to your in-laws while still protecting your family’s peace?
When conflict rises, what would it look like for you to “take it to the Lord” instead of trying to fix it yourself?

Resources:

Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!
Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

491: Why Helping Your Kids Might Be Hurting Them with Elizabeth Pehrson

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 04 Nov 2025 03:00:00 -0500

When it comes to raising independent kids, doing less can actually mean loving more. Karen and Emily welcome back mom of eight, Elizabeth Pehrson, whose last Wire Talk clip went viral with over 7.6 million views! In this powerful conversation, Elizabeth unpacks the long-term value of letting kids struggle, take responsibility, and learn from consequences. From packing lunches to doing laundry, she shares age-appropriate ways to teach kids ownership and why moms need to resist the urge to over-function.

Episode Recap:

Elizabeth’s last conversation on Wire Talk struck a nerve with viewers (3:31)
Her children are reaping the rewards of parents who did less, not more (8:16)
Age-appropriate chores for all ages (9:28)
How does not helping set our kids up for success in the long run? (14:30)
We set ourselves up for failure when we put too much of ourselves into our kids (19:20)
Overfunctioning means doing things for your child that they can do for themselves (17:23)
How can we start small this week? (23:00)
It’s not what matters today, it’s what matters when they’re 30 (29:11)
Just because you can do, provide, or give…doesn’t mean you should (29:43)

Scripture: Proverbs 22:6 (NIV)
“Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.”

Discussion Questions:

What’s one area where you tend to step in for your kids instead of letting them handle it?
How does doing less for your children actually prepare them for adulthood?
Elizabeth said, “Just because you can do, provide, or give, doesn’t mean you should.” What does that look like in your home?
What are some areas you need to teach your children to do for themselves this week?
What might God be teaching you about releasing control as your children grow?

Resources:

Follow Elizabeth online: www.instagram.com/octomama or www.instagram.com/theexchangeus
Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!
Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

490: Raising Kids with Faith in a Confusing World

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 28 Oct 2025 03:00:00 -0400

The moms we’re hearing from today are facing questions that feel big; from whether to move our families, to when to say yes at church, to how we pray, parent, and pass down faith to our children. Karen is tackling listener questions that cover everything from culture and church life, to leading your child to Christ. We hope you’ll come away from listening encouraged that God’s wisdom is available to you in every decision, big or small.

Episode Recap:

Emily’s family does Halloween right! (3:37)
Should we move our family away from family for a better overall culture? (6:06)
How do you know what to say yes to at church? There’s always a need. (8:32)
How can I make time to pray for everything I should be praying about? (11:10)
What are your favorite parenting resources (14:33)
How do I tell if my child truly understands salvation? (17:23)

Scripture: 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (NASB)
“Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

Discussion Questions:

Karen shared that she prays throughout her day, even mid-conversation, asking God for guidance. What would “praying without ceasing” look like in your own daily routines?
Have you ever faced a big family decision—like moving or changing schools—and had to rely on prayer for clarity? What helped you discern God’s will?
How can you model an authentic prayer life for your kids so they grow up seeing prayer as part of everyday life, not just something done before meals or bedtime?
For moms whose children are beginning to ask questions about salvation, what practical steps can you take to guide them with confidence and faith rather than fear?

Resources:

Grab a copy of Karen’s book, Survival Guide to Motherhood
Find all Karen’s FREE curricula in the BOAW Moms app: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/free-curriculum
Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!
Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

489: Shaping Character From Ages 6-10

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 21 Oct 2025 03:00:00 -0400

Between ages 6 and 10, kids are learning big lessons about honesty, responsibility, and gratitude…and those moments don’t always feel peaceful. Today Karen and Emily are talking about shaping character during these years. From handling bad attitudes and entitlement to teaching kids about truthfulness and contentment, they share practical ways to mold your child’s heart without losing your cool.

Episode Recap:

My 10 yr old pitches a fit when he has to do something he’s not prepared for (5:50)
Life doesn’t always go the way we want it to go, that’s what builds character (10:50)
My 6 yr old struggles with gratitude and contentment (11:30)
My kiddo is a whiny complainer! Help (17:50)
My niece recently stole a ring from my home and lied about it, my sister won’t address it! (20:40)

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Scripture: Proverbs 22:6 (NIV)
Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.

Discussion Questions:

Why is it important to address small character issues early, instead of assuming kids will “grow out of them”?
Do your kids struggle with gratitude and contentment? What did you think of Karen’s approach to dealing with that heart issue?
What’s one area of character (honesty, gratitude, perseverance, responsibility) that you want to intentionally strengthen in your child this month?

Resources:

Use coupon code HBDK for 30% off a cozy Peace sweatshirt
Raising Emotionally Strong Boys with David Thomas: https://amzn.to/4hkvDk9
A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring: https://amzn.to/3J8ZTlq

488: House Rules, Hard Talks and Helping Your Kids Grow with Grace

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 14 Oct 2025 03:00:00 -0400

From setting boundaries to tackling tough topics, today’s episode is all about navigating the hard parts of parenting with truth and grace. In this conversation, Karen shares practical wisdom for protecting your home, teaching empathy, and leaning on the Holy Spirit to do what only He can do, change hearts. Whether you’re navigating big emotions, sensitive subjects, or family boundaries, this conversation will help you parent with confidence and compassion.

Episode Recap:

My daughter’s friend is coming to live with us; what rules do we need to establish? (3:55)
My daughter struggles with a judgmental heart, how can we help her? (5:15)
My 8 year old son is asking questions about sex, help! (8:02)
My SIL’s family has very different values from ours which makes visits stressful (11:45)

Scripture: James 1:5 (NASB)
“But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him.”

Discussion Questions:

Do you have “house rules”? If so, what principles guided those rules? How do you balance firm boundaries with a spirit of grace?
How can we help our kids live out their convictions without becoming judgmental toward others who make different choices?
Does the sex conversation feel intimidating to you? Is it time for a conversation in your home? If so, how can you approach it with honesty and calm?
Karen mentioned the Holy Spirit’s role in transforming hearts; how can you rely on His guidance more in your day to day parenting?
Is there a “hard talk” or situation in your home right now that you can approach differently after hearing this episode?

Resources:

Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!
Follow @birds_bees for tips about talking to your kids about sex
Grab the God’s Design for Sex series on Amazon! https://amzn.to/43jefX5
Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

487: Balancing Discipline with Connection

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 07 Oct 2025 03:00:00 -0400

How do you discipline your kids without damaging your relationship? Today Karen and Emily are talking about what it looks like to set boundaries, correct behavior, and still be your child’s safe place. From toddler tantrums to teenage independence, they share wisdom that will help you the next time you’re doling out discipline.

Episode Recap:

We’re afraid to discipline because we worry it will damage our relationship (4:52)
My daughter confessed something small to me after YEARS (5:26)
My child is hypersensitive to discipline from dad, what can I do? (7:39)
My husband is too harsh with our teenage son (12:51)
Our son doesn’t respect me the way he respects his dad (16:28)
God commands us to discipline our children (21:17)

Scripture: Proverbs 3:12 (NIV)
“Because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.”

Discussion Questions:

What helps you stay calm when you need to discipline your child?
Do you and your spouse have the same discipline style?
Do your children respond differently to discipline from different parents?
Emily talked about the notes Greg left her, which helped build up a base of connection. What’s one way you can affirm and encourage your child this week?
What’s one tweak you need to make in your home this week to better balance discipline and relationship?

Resources:

Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!
Grab Karen’s lunch box notes to encourage your child: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/gifts/products/lunch-box-notes
Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

486: How to Handle Preschool Tantrums and Toddler Meltdowns

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 30 Sep 2025 03:00:00 -0400

Between toddler tantrums, potty training battles, and endless power struggles, the preschool years can feel like the wild west of parenting. Today Karen is answering your preschool questions with her trademark practical tips, reminding us that structure, consistency, and patience go a long way. Above all, your daily walk with the Lord is what will sustain you during these exhausting and beautiful years!

Episode Recap:

My husband and I are at our wit’s end with our strong-willed 4 year old’s tantrums (6:11)
Take a deep dive into the temperaments to learn how to discipline your child (7:00)
My husband’s job keeps him away from home often, how can I help my young children cope? (10:30)
Help! Potty training is driving me nuts! (14:54)
How do I help my 3 year old regulate his emotions? (17:40)
Giving in to a tantrum makes it worse 100% of the time (19:00)
Everything is an argument with my four year old, any advice? (23:22)
Your walk with the Lord truly does make a difference (27:49)

Scripture: Galatians 5:22–23
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”

Discussion Questions:

How do you usually respond when your preschooler throws a tantrum? Is it working? Is there a new strategy you could try this week?
Karen shared the importance of structure. What does a typical day look like in your home, and how could a little more routine help your preschooler?
When your spouse travels or works long hours (or if you are co-parenting and splitting time between parents), how can you help your kids feel connected to their parent who is away?
Potty training can be one of the most frustrating seasons. What’s worked (or not worked) in your family, and how do you keep patience in the process?
Karen reminded us that we need to lean on the Holy Spirit’s fruit to parent well. Which “fruit” do you most need to pray for in this season? Let’s pray for one another this week!

Resources:

We are booking for 2026! Reach out to bring Karen’s wisdom to the moms in your community: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak
Learn more about temperaments in our most recent episode with Kathleen Edelman: https://wiretalk.transistor.fm/episodes/470-why-your-child-s-wiring-matters
Send us your question! Use the Ask Karen function in the BOAW Moms app: App Store: https://apps.apple.com/md/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927 Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.subsplashconsulting.s_JVZ5JB&hl=en_US

485: Happy Couples Think Differently

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 23 Sep 2025 03:00:00 -0400

What if a better marriage starts not with more work, but with changing the way you think? This week we’re sitting down with author and speaker Ted Lowe to talk about his book Us in Mind and the simple things that separate happy couples from struggling ones. From celebrating small wins to practicing empathy and taking thoughts captive, Ted unpacks practical ways to renew your mind and see your spouse differently. Whether your marriage feels stuck or just needs a little spark, we hope this conversation leaves you encouraged and equipped to do the next right thing.

Episode Recap:

How are great marriages different from struggling marriages? (6:42)
Happy couples think in a way that unhappy couples don’t (8:42)
“Madly in love” couples focus on what they do love about their spouse, not what they don’t (12:00)
What you think about yourself affects how you interact with your spouse (17:08)
Why do celebrations make such a big difference in our marriages? (25:12)
Empathy is huge for happy marriages (30:01)
Two words that changed Ted’s marriage (33:53)
For Christians, our marriages are not just about us (38:44)

Scripture:

Romans 12:2 “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

Philippians 4:8 – “Whatever is true, whatever is noble… think about such things.”

Discussion Questions:

How does the way you think about your spouse shape the way you act toward them?
Ted talked about “seeing the best” in your spouse. What does that look like in your marriage right now?
Why is empathy so powerful in marriage? How could you practice “stepping into the puddle” with your spouse this week?
How do you typically respond to your spouse’s successes or joys? What’s one way you can celebrate with them more intentionally?
Which of Ted’s practical shifts (empathy, celebration, reframing thoughts, writing notes, pausing in conflict) feels most helpful for your current season of marriage?
Marriage is meant to reflect the love of Christ. How does remembering this bigger purpose change the way you approach your relationship?

Resources:

Pick up a copy of Ted’s book today: https://amzn.to/4nKdkqD
Connect with Ted: https://forusmarriage.com/
Check out our Parenting Together curriculum for FREE in the BOAW Moms app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927

Download the companion study guide in the BOAW store: boaw.mom/parentingtogether

484: When Marriage Feels Like Hard Work

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 16 Sep 2025 03:00:00 -0400

When one mom asks a hard marriage question, we know hundreds more are wondering the same thing. Today, Karen and Emily tackle your vulnerable questions about jealousy, mismatched sex drives, and resentment at home. Karen reminds us that fighting for our marriages is worth it, even when it means doing the hard work like going to counseling, seeing a doctor, or having the tough conversation. We hope this episode will encourage you to keep investing in your marriage no matter the season you are in!

Episode Recap:

I struggle with jealousy when my husband is around other women, is that normal? (5:11)
My husband doesn’t initiate sex, what should I do? (8:20)
As a SAHM, I’m super frustrated with the home workload (10:34)
Communicate when things are calm, not just in the heat of the moment (17:03)
My husband and I disagree about SO MUCH - how do we compromise? (18:16)
My spouse will NOT apologize. What are my options? (23:39)
How do you stay connected when you’re outnumbered by kids & have busy schedules? (24:18)

Scripture: Colossians 3:13–14
“Bear with each other and forgive one another… And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”

Discussion Questions:

What expectations do you carry into your marriage that you haven’t clearly communicated to your spouse?
How do you and your husband currently handle disagreements? What could you do to practice more “active listening” with one another?
When it comes to intimacy, how comfortable are you being honest about your needs? What might help you take a step toward open communication?
What are some small, practical ways you and your spouse can prioritize your marriage this week?
What regular rhythms/routines could you establish to make sure you prioritize your marriage even when life feels overwhelming?

Resources:

Check out our Parenting Together curriculum for FREE in the BOAW Moms app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927
Download the companion study guide in the BOAW store: boaw.mom/parentingtogether

483: Four Small Shifts That Will Make a Big Difference in Your Marriage

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 09 Sep 2025 03:00:00 -0400

Marriage doesn’t have to feel heavy or complicated, sometimes we just need a gentle nudge to see where we’ve let things slide. In this conversation with Arlene Pellicane, author of Making Marriage Easier, Karen and Emily unpack the four practical shifts that can strengthen your relationship: play by the rules, speak kindly and listen well, practice gratitude, and take fun seriously. Whether you’re in the trenches with little ones or looking ahead to the golden years, this episode will encourage you to invest in your marriage today!

Episode Recap:

Arlene’s background and marriage (5:43)
Ask yourself, what can I do to make my marriage easier? (7:59)
What does it mean to “play by the rules” in marriage? (9:47)
Divorce is highly predictable based on how couples speak to one another (11:05)
How does giving thanks make marriage easier? (14:37)
The source of our happiness is God, nothing else (17:36)
Our phones are essentially a third person in modern marriages (18:15)
Don’t forget to have FUN together! (21:57)
In marriage, you will reap what you sow (26:21)

Scripture: 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18 (NIV)“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

Discussion Questions:

What is one small step you could take this week to “make marriage easier”?
How do you and your spouse communicate? Do you notice more admiration or criticism in your words?
When was the last time you laughed/just had fun with your spouse? How could you plan something simple and enjoyable together soon?
In what ways can practicing gratitude shift your perspective in marriage?
How has phone or screen usage affected your relationship? What boundary might help protect your connection?
What was most encouraging to you about this conversation?

Resources:

Snag Arlene’s book, Making Marriage Easier on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3KbFMD3
Grab easy date night ideas (scroll down) at MakingMarriageEasier.com
Check out our Parenting Together curriculum for FREE in the BOAW Moms app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927
Download the companion study guide in the BOAW store: boaw.mom/parentingtogether

482: Marriage First — Why Your Spouse Comes Before the Kids

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 02 Sep 2025 03:00:00 -0400

Moms, you don’t want to miss this conversation! Karen and Greg pull back the curtain on nearly four decades of marriage—the good, the hard, the early years, and the season they’re in now. Their honesty will inspire you to invest in your own marriage now so you can reap the rewards later. This heartfelt episode will make you smile, and maybe even tear up, as they remind us that we serve a good and faithful God who wants the best for us and our marriages.

Episode Recap:

How Karen and Greg back met in 1984 (4:00)
What Greg thought marriage was going to be like (6:40)
What were some of your biggest differences as newlyweds? (7:50)
How did you stay connected during the early years of raising kids? (10:09)
We always prioritized us over the kids. (13:22)
How did serving in the military impact your marriage and family? (14:45)
What has been the hardest season of your marriage? (18:48)
How did your faith carry you through that season? (22:54)
What have you come to love or appreciate about one another more recently? (29:10)
How has your relationship changed now that your kids are grown and gone? (31:35)
What’s one way that you protect your marriage even now? (35:55)
What has surprised you about becoming grandparents? (37:19)
Lightening round questions (40:12)

Scripture: Proverbs 3:5–6 (NIV)
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

Discussion Questions:

Karen and Greg talked about prioritizing their marriage even while raising young kids. How do you currently make space for your spouse in a busy season of parenting?
Greg shared the advice he received from his dad: “Your family is your hobby.” What might it look like for you to protect your margin for your family?
Karen described her “needy gal” season where she learned to depend on God to meet her needs. How have you experienced God providing for you in a hard marriage or parenting season?
What small rhythms (like a daily debrief, date nights, or intentional quiet time) could you adopt to strengthen your connection with your spouse?
Looking ahead, what do you hope your marriage will look like when you reach the “high five” finish line of raising kids together?

Resources:

Get the Parenting Together curriculum videos FREE in the BOAW Moms app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927
Grab the discussion guide in our store: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/mom-studies/products/parenting-together-free-in-the-app-copy
Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!
Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

481: How Do You Keep Going When Homeschooling Gets Hard?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 26 Aug 2025 03:00:00 -0400

No matter where your kids are in school this year, every mom will take away encouragement and wisdom from this conversation about homeschooling. In this episode, Karen and Emily sit down with Wire Talk producer (and homeschool mom of four) Katie Leipprandt, who shares the truths she’s learned over 15 years of parenting and schooling at home. From choosing relationship over results, to leaning on community, to remembering your “why” when days get hard, Katie’s wisdom applies to every mom—no matter how your kids are educated.

Episode Recap:

How did you get started homeschooling? (4:00)
I wish someone had told me to prioritize relationship first (7:33)
How has your ‘why’ changed for your homeschool? (11:30)
What does a typical day look like homeschooling four kids? (14:30)
How do you differentiate between your “mom hat” and your “teacher hat”? (18:00)
What would you say to the homeschool mom who is already overwhelmed? (21:43)
How do you teach a child who doesn’t want to do the work? (26:32)
How do you juggle multiple ages and teach with toddlers? (32:24)
What fruit have you seen because of homeschooling? (37:40)
What’s your encouragement for the homeschool mom this year? (42:40)

Scripture: Deuteronomy 6:6–7 (NIV)
“These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

Discussion Questions:

What is your “why” for the educational path you’ve chosen for your children? How can you remind yourself of it on hard days?
Katie talked about prioritizing relationships over results. How does that idea challenge or encourage you in your current season?
In the early years, expectations for homeschooling (and parenting in general!) can be sky-high. What expectations might you need to lay down to create more peace in your home?
What role has community played in your parenting journey? How can you pursue encouragement and support if you’re feeling isolated?
Katie shared that one of the sweetest fruits of homeschooling has been the bond between her children. What “fruit” do you see or hope to see in your family through the choices you’re making now?

Resources:

Connect with Katie online: www.instagram.com/leipprandt
Dumbing Us Down by John Taylor Gatto: https://amzn.to/4fONcrK
Purchase Birds on a Wire curricula in the store: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/available-for-purchase-1
Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!
Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

480: Helping Kids Thrive in Middle and High School

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 19 Aug 2025 03:00:00 -0400

School today looks a lot different than when we were kids, and moms often feel stuck between supporting their children and not piling on more pressure. In this episode, Karen and Emily sit down with longtime educator and principal Jerome Huff to share how parents can help their kids thrive during their middle and high school years. We loved the reminder that your child’s school still needs you! Your prayers and presence can make a lasting impact, not only on your child but on the entire school community.

Episode Recap:

“Principal Coach” Jerome Huff joins us today to talk about helping our middle and high schoolers thrive (2:20)
How coming from a single parent home influenced the way he ran his schools (5:45)
How schools have changed over Jerome’s time as a principal (8:30)
What do you wish more parents understood about what teachers are dealing with day to day? (16:30)
High schools need parent volunteers as well! Ask, “what can I do?” (23:18)
The role the Holy Spirit played in Jerome’s approach to being a principal (26:45)
What are you most proud of from your career? (30:12)

Scripture: Philippians 4:6–7
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God…”

Discussion Questions:
1. How do you balance encouraging your child to do their best but not overwhelming them with pressure?
2. Jerome mentioned the importance of letting kids advocate for themselves—what opportunities could you give your child this week to practice independence?
3. Jerome emphasized the role of balance (school + outside interests) in thriving kids. How can you help your child find that healthy balance this year?
4. What’s one way you can support teachers or administrators at your child’s school in a tangible way this semester?
5. How can you begin praying more intentionally for your child’s school, teachers, and classmates?

Resources:
- Grab a pad of Lunchbox Notes to start your year off strong! https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/gifts/products/lunch-box-notes
- Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community
- Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

479: What Elementary Teachers Wish Parents Knew

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 12 Aug 2025 03:00:00 -0400

If you’re parenting an elementary-age child, this episode is for you! Today Karen and Emily sit down with elementary school principal Amber Lamb to share practical ways you can partner with teachers, encourage independence, and help your child navigate friendships during these formative years. With 20+ years in education, Amber offers encouragement and practical tips to set your family up for a strong and connected school year.

Episode Recap:

Elementary school principal Amber Lamb joins us today (4:15)
What has changed in the school world since you became an administrator? (6:45)
Fewer parents are coming into the building now (8:30)
How can parent involvement make a difference at this stage? (11:15)
I wish more moms understood education is a journey (14:45)
Put your “kids lens” on when talking to your kid about what’s going on at school (21:15)
Go in to talking with your teacher with positive intent (29:02)
No contribution to the classroom is too small! (30:26)
Encourage independence and be curious about your child this school year! (34:42)

Scripture: Colossians 4:5-6 (NIV)
“Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”

Discussion Questions:

What’s one way you can build good communication with your child’s teacher this year?
How do you currently encourage independence at home? What’s one age-appropriate step you could add?
Think about a time your child didn’t have the “perfect” teacher match; did it help them grow? How so?
How can you support your child as they navigate friendships when conflict arises?
Where do you have margin this year to serve and/or encourage your child’s school staff?

Resources:

Grab a pad of Lunchbox Notes to start your year off strong! https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/gifts/products/lunch-box-notes
Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community
Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

478: Preparing Your Preschooler (and Yourself!)

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 05 Aug 2025 03:00:00 -0400

Starting preschool can feel overwhelming, both for moms and our little ones! That’s why Karen and Emily are joined today by veteran preschool director Lisa Lucas, who brings 20 years of wisdom to this conversation. Lisa shares how preschool has changed over the years, what kids really need to be ready, and how moms can ease the transition with a few small habits at home. Whether you’re a first-time preschool mom or just looking for a reset, this episode is packed with tips to help your family thrive this school year!

Episode Recap:

Preschool director Lisa Lucas and Karen go way back! (2:45)
How the preschool environment has changed over the past 20 years (7:00)
Preschoolers are capable of a lot more than we think (14:40)
Solid sleep habits and good nutrition make a world of difference (17:20)
How can I ease separation anxiety? (19:40)
How can moms support their preschool teachers? (26:30)
The small chane that will make a BIG difference in your school year (29:51)

Scripture: Luke 2:52 (NIV)
“And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man.”

Discussion Questions:

What were your biggest emotions or concerns when sending your child to preschool for the first time?
Lisa mentioned that preschoolers are more capable than we give them credit for. In what areas could you offer your preschooler more responsibility at home?
How do you think your family's technology use impacts your child’s behavior, imagination, or attention span? What changes might you consider for the year ahead?
What’s one new habit or routine (e.g., sleep schedule, communication skill, attitude shift) that could help your preschooler feel more confident about school?
How can you support and encourage your child's teacher/school this year?

Resources:

Grab a pad of Lunchbox Notes to start your year off strong! https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/gifts/products/lunch-box-notes
Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community
Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

477: The State of Motherhood Address | Part 2 (RE AIR)

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 29 Jul 2025 03:00:00 -0400

As we turn the corner into a new school year, we’re bringing back part two of one of our most-loved mini-series: the State of Motherhood. In this candid conversation, Karen doesn’t hold back! She challenges us to take ownership of our world, root out laziness, and remember that all the hard work of motherhood is worth it. Whether you're clinging to the last days of summer or knee-deep in school prep, we hope this episode reminds you that everything we do, including being a mom, is to be done unto the Lord.

Episode Recap:

Focus on progress over perfection as a mom (3:45)
Go back and listen to part 1 for Truths 1 & 2 (5:00)
Truth #3 - Take ownership for your mom life (6:30)
Stop playing the blame game (12:50)
Truth #4 - Stop being lazy (18:05)
It’s all worth it (31:51)

Resources:

Want Karen to come deliver some tough love and major encouragement to the moms in your community? Reach out: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak
Grab Peace for the Anxious Mom as your Bible study for the new school year: www.boaw.mom/peace
Need a devotional for the school year? Grab Karen’s devotional: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/books/products/copy-of-moments-with-god-for-moms-daily-devotional-faux-leather
Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms
Follow BOAW Moms everywhere: @birdsonawiremoms

476: The State of Motherhood Address | Part 1 (RE AIR)

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 22 Jul 2025 03:00:00 -0400

As July comes to an end, many moms are turning their eyes toward the school year ahead. That’s why we’re bringing back one of our most-loved mini-series: the State of Motherhood. This honest two part conversation dives into the good, the hard, and the unfair parts of motherhood and offers the loving kick in the pants we all need to reset our perspective. Whether you’re wrapping up summer or bracing for new routines this fall, we hope this episode helps you gear up for what lies ahead!

Episode Recap:

Check out all our new curriculums (6:30)
Join our private Facebook group this year (9:20)
The amount of complaining we do doesn’t change how hard motherhood is (19:21)
Life is not fair (24:02)
You are doing a good job and you are going to get through this (38:42)

Resources:

Find all Karen’s FREE curricula in the BOAW Moms app: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/free-curriculum
Purchase brand-new curricula in the store: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/available-for-purchase-1
Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!
Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

475: You Are Not Your Husband’s Holy Spirit (RE AIR)

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 15 Jul 2025 03:00:00 -0400

Today Karen and Emily dive into the dynamics of marriage and parenting by reminding us that we are not our husband's Holy Spirit! Karen shares her own story about letting go of the urge to control her husband's spiritual journey and offers practical wisdom for managing the emotional ups and downs that come with doing life together. Lean in for practical advice about navigating differences with your spouse, remembering that it is God who ultimately guides our faith journey!

Episode Recap:

1:49 We diminish God’s power when we try to control our husbands

6:10 How do I let go of my husband’s lack of a quiet time?

9:05 Allow the Holy Spirit to do its job, your job is to love and respect your husband

10:15 My husband is harsh when he disciplines, what do I do?

14:10 How can I get my husband to take more initiative and help me more?

17:30 Be specific when you ask for help

18:45 My husband’s moodiness brings me down!

Scripture for Reflection:

1 Corinthians 3: 6-7 (NIV): "I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow. So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow."

Questions for Discussion:

Can you relate to the feeling of wanting to control your husband's spiritual walk? When has this happened in your own marriage, and how have you handled it?
How do you and your spouse parent differently? What strengths does your husband’s style bring to the family? What strengths does your style bring? Do you think you make a good team or is there a lack of balance?
Do you ever struggle with resentment or feeling overwhelmed in your role as a wife and mother? What steps have you taken to address these feelings, and how did your husband respond?
When your husband is in a "blue mood," how do you typically react? Have you found any strategies that help both of you during those times, and how do you maintain your own emotional balance?
Have you or your husband used this idea of space to deescalate tension in your relationship? Was it effective?

Resources:

Looking for a summer study? Check out Peace for the Anxious Mom: https://boaw.teachable.com/p/peace-for-the-anxious-mom
Sign up for Soar at Sea: https://www.soaratsea.com

474: How To Avoid Overcommitting Your Family (RE AIR)

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 08 Jul 2025 03:00:00 -0400

Today Karen and Emily are talking about one of the biggest challenges moms face—knowing when (and how) to say no. With stories from their own families and practical advice for every season, this conversation will help you evaluate what’s best for your family right now. Whether you're navigating sports schedules, volunteer asks, or the push to "do it all," this conversation will give you permission to prioritize wisely and protect your peace, so you can say yes to what matters most.

Episode Recap:

8:02 How can I say no to one more thing? I feel guilty!

11:00 Travel soccer used to be fun but now it’s expensive and overwhelming…what do we do?

15:05 I’m struggling to prioritize time with my husband, any tips?

17:30 You need to determine for your own family what are your non-negotiables

18:26 What steps can I take to prevent over commitment?

20:22 - Your best yes looks different from other families

Scripture for Reflection: Philippians 1:10 (NLT)
“For I want you to understand what really matters, so that you may live pure and blameless lives until the day of Christ’s return.”

Questions for Discussion:

How do you evaluate whether a commitment is a “best yes” for your family? What criteria do you use to make sure your commitments support your family’s well-being?
How can you ensure that your marriage remains a priority amidst the busyness of life? Is this easy for you or is it a struggle?
Karen talks about dividing your time into three categories: essentials, non-negotiables, and bonuses. How do you currently categorize your commitments? What activities or priorities fall into each category in your life? Are there any adjustments you feel called to make after reflecting on this idea?
What strategies can you implement to create intentional rest and unstructured family time in your weekly routine?

Resources:

Looking for a summer study? Check out Survival Guide to Motherhood: https://boaw.teachable.com/p/survival-guide-to-motherhood
Sign up for Soar at Sea: https://www.soaratsea.com

473: The Discipline Episode Every Mom Needs (RE AIR)

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 01 Jul 2025 03:00:00 -0400

Discipline is one of the hardest parts of parenting—and one of the most frequently asked-about topics from Wire Talk listeners. In this popular re-air, Karen breaks down discipline into three practical stages and shares wisdom from her book Survival Guide to Motherhood. Whether you're parenting toddlers, school-aged kids, or teens, grab your headphones and get ready to reframe your mindset with the powerful biblical principle: pain now equals peace later.

Episode Recap:

8:14 Discipline starts with your mindset

9:36 Pain now equals peace later

12:24 Discipline has to be consistent.

13:34 The three stages of discipline each require a different focus from moms

16:17 The “B”s of discipline with young kids are: Be Consistent, Be United, Be Clear

17:05 In the middle years it’s time to teach the “why” behind the no

18:11 You have to slow down and make time to teach your child

20:20 During the “coaching” stage, parents have to let consequences play out

Scripture for Reflection: Hebrews 12:11 (NIV)
“No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”

Questions for Discussion:

Are there any negative behaviors you see in your child now that you are tempted to ignore, thinking they will grow out of it?
Karen mentioned the idea that "pain now will equal peace later" when it comes to parenting. Have you experienced this in your own life? How have you seen this in your parenting journey?
Which stage of discipline are you in right now? (Laying the Foundation, Teaching the ‘Whys’, The Coaching Years)
Do you think the pace of your life is preventing you from disciplining effectively? How so?
Of the three “B”s (Be Consistent, Be United, Be Clear), which do you struggle with most?
Have you ever prayed and asked for wisdom to know how to discipline your child? Pray together as a group today for the wisdom to discipline effectively.

Resources:

Get your copy of Karen’s book Survival Guide to Motherhood: https://amzn.to/3I8jxNx
Sign up for Soar at Sea: https://www.soaratsea.com
More Wire Talk episodes on discipline: Laying the Foundation, The Middle Years, The Coaching Years
Find ALL the episodes we’ve ever recorded on discipline HERE.

472: Choose Conversation Over Control

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 24 Jun 2025 03:00:00 -0400

We can’t shield our kids from everything—but we can prepare them. In today’s episode, Karen answers your questions about navigating tricky situations that stem from outside influences. From toddlers to teens, the answer isn’t control—it’s conversation. Listen and learn why awkward talks now might be the most powerful gift you can give your kids!

Episode Recap:

3:39 - My preschooler is coming home using potty words, how do I address it?

5:41 - My neighbors’ kids are obnoxious and I don’t want my kids around them…

9:46 - My teenager’s friend (the son of a friend of mine) uses foul language in his texting, should I address it with her?

13:34 - How do I balance our family values and God’s command to think about praiseworthy things with my daughter’s taste in popular music that isn’t God-honoring?

20:05 - These conversations are awkward and hard but if we don’t teach our children, who will?

Scripture for Reflection: Deuteronomy 6:6–7 (NIV)
“These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

Questions for Discussion:

When have you had to address a peer-related influence or issue with your child? How did it go?
Are there any boundaries you need to reinforce in your home—around language, media, or friendships?
How can you create a safe environment for your child to be honest with you about what they’re seeing and hearing?
What makes it hard for you to have uncomfortable conversations with your kids—and what truth from Scripture gives you courage?

Resources:

471: Spirit-Filled Parenting Starts with Us

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 17 Jun 2025 03:00:00 -0400

From disappointment in marriage to disrespectful teens, today’s episode tackles some hard moments moms are facing. Karen answers questions about how to parent through anger, restore broken relationships, and course-correct when obedience and respect have gone off track. With stories from her own life and wisdom rooted in Scripture, Karen reminds us thar God is in the business of redemption—and it’s never too late!

Episode Recap:

4:36 - My life is not at all going as I had planned - is there a Bible Study for that?

10:44 - We missed the boat on disciplining our boys well in their younger years, how do we course correct now? Is it too late?

15:45 - You answer to the Lord and you don’t need to apologize to anyone.

16:46 - My husband is an extremely permissive parent - what can I do?

19:40 - My 14 year old son hates me (I think in many ways, it’s deserved) what can I do?

Scripture for Reflection: Galatians 5:22-33 (NIV)
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control."

Questions for Discussion:

What area of your life or parenting feels like it's “not going as planned” right now?
Have you been tempted to sit in self-pity or blame? What truth do you need to remind yourself of today?
Is there a place in your parenting where you need to course-correct—like obedience, respect, or consistency?
How can you invite God into the process of healing a relationship that feels broken or strained?

Resources:

Six Truths of Motherhood study guide: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/mom-studies/products/six-truths-study-guide
Look for BOAW Moms studies for FREE in the BOAW Moms app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927
Register for Soar at Sea today: https://www.soaratsea.com

470: Why Your Child’s Wiring Matters

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 10 Jun 2025 03:00:00 -0400

What if understanding your child’s temperament could transform the way you parent? Today Karen and Emily sit down with author and temperament expert Kathleen Edelman to talk about wiring, communication, and the power of speaking life into our kids. Kathleen shares tips for how to spot your child’s core temperament, explains why it’s so important to know your own, and reminds us that God intentionally chose each of us to be the mother of our unique child.

Episode Recap:

4:05 - Kathleen Edelman joins us in the studio today to talk temperaments

6:15 - God chose YOU, with your unique temperament, to be the mother of your unique children. It was not an accident.

8:00 - Where did this idea of the 4 temperaments come from?

10:50 - You can watch the body language of your child and pay attention to their words to discern their temperament

14:00 - Temperaments are innate, personality evolves

18:44 - You have to understand how God uniquely wired you to be able to speak your child’s language well

22:00 - What are common mistakes parents make with each temperament and how can they adjust their approach?

31:53 - How can parents manage being the opposite temperament from their spouse?

36:40 - Kathleen and Karen share stories of how this knowledge can transform relationships

44:27 - Children are pure in their wiring before the world starts reprimanding them

Scripture for Reflection: Ephesians 4:29 (ESV)
“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”

Questions for Discussion:

Do you know your temperament color? If so, how has that shaped your parenting style?
Has learning about your child’s temperament changed the way you respond to their emotions or behavior?
Are there any common communication mistakes you’re making with your child’s specific wiring?
How can you speak more intentionally to build your child up according to their God-given design?

Resources:

Enter our giveaway: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms
Register for Soar at Sea today: https://www.soaratsea.com
Kathleen’s website: https://isaidyouheard.com/
Follow Kathleen on IG: @kathleenedelman
BOAW Moms Temperament Colors Quiz: boaw.mom/quiz
The temperament book that started it all for Karen: Personality Plus
Karen’s book with a chapter on temperaments: Survival Guide to Motherhood
I Said, You Heard resources on FB: https://www.facebook.com/isaidyouheard
Download the BOAW app to send us your questions! https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927

469: Peace for the Anxious Mom

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 03 Jun 2025 03:00:00 -0400

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by anxiety, resentment, or fear in motherhood? You’re not alone. Today Karen and Emily open up about navigating hard seasons—from managing a home alone while your husband is away, to struggling with trust in God when fear creeps in. They dive into real questions from moms who are tired, discouraged, and looking for peace. Grab your coffee, because this one’s packed with encouragement, truth, and a little tough love. ;)

Episode Recap:
7:05 - The world is loud and stressful, but we can have peace because God is with us

9:18 - I feel overwhelmingly resentful toward my husband because the weight of family life is all on me - how can I get through this season?

10:30 - Some seasons are just HARD and you have to persevere

12:20 - Self pity is of the devil. Ask God to meet your needs.

17:16 - My husband is SO moody - help!

18:50 - What are the various temperament colors?

25:00 - It is easy to forget the strengths of our spouse and only focus on their negatives.

31:00 - My 17 yr old struggles with anxiety and has a friend who exacerbates it. What can I do?

38:11 - How do I entrust my children to God? I love God but I have realized I don’t trust Him.

43:33 - Check out our Peace for the Anxious Mom curriculum today!

Scripture for Reflection: Matthew 6:26 (NIV)
"Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?”

Questions for Discussion:

When you’re in a hard season, what do you tend to focus on—what’s lacking or what’s good? How can you shift that focus?
What fears are hardest for you to surrender to God? What helps you move toward trust?
Have you seen prayer work miracles in your family? Share if you feel comfortable.

Resources:

Peace for the Anxious Mom curriculum: boaw.mom/peace
Last call for DISCOUNTED Soar at Sea registration: https://www.soaratsea.com
Emily’s Air Essentials: https://spanx.com/collections/matching-sets
Wire Talk 431: You’re Not Your Husband's Holy Spirit: https://wiretalk.transistor.fm/episodes/431-you-are-not-your-husbands-holy-spirit
BOAW Moms Temperament Colors Quiz: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/personality-quiz
Download the BOAW app to send us your questions! https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927

468: Raising Brave Kids

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 27 May 2025 03:00:00 -0400

From dentist visits to bedtime clinginess, today’s conversation is all about helping kids face fear with confidence. Karen answers your questions about navigating anxiety, new experiences, and tough transitions. With practical ideas and plenty of encouragement, this episode will equip you to walk with your child through fear and toward courage.

Episode Recap:
2:05 - Emily is more than halfway through her pregnancy
6:50 - How can I help my 3.5 year old face the dentist without a meltdown?
10:12 - My outgoing, bubbly 5 year old becomes totally silent at school - what do I do?
12:00 - After an active shooter drill, my daughter is terrified to go to school
16:00 - My child is overly attached to me, how can I help her gain independence?

Scripture for Reflection: Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.”

Questions for Discussion:

What does fear look like in your child’s behavior—and how do you usually respond?
What are some situations where you’ve helped your child face their fear with confidence?
How can you point your child to God when they’re anxious or afraid?
Are there any bedtime or transition routines that could use a reset in your home?

Resources:

Register for Soar at Sea today: https://www.soaratsea.com
Get Sissy Goff’s book, Braver, Stronger, Smarter: https://amzn.to/3SQWHvN
Pick up Raising Worry-Free Girls this week: https://amzn.to/4dBRXnF
Download the BOAW app to send us your questions!

467: Disrespect, Devices and Meltdowns

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 20 May 2025 03:00:00 -0400

From tantrums to name-calling to after-school meltdowns, this episode is packed with practical help for moms dealing with big emotions—and even bigger attitudes. Karen and Emily talk about red temperaments, ADHD outbursts, and how to handle disrespectful behavior without losing your cool. Listen in for advice on teaching kids to pause before reacting, role-playing tough situations, plus learn why setting boundaries with screens and school is worth the fight.

Episode Recap:
2:10 - Meltdowns can happen at 6 or 16
5:14 - Lean into the Lord and He will help you
6:31- What do I do about a 10 year old who dominates her friends all the time?
8:56 - Role playing is a powerful teaching tool
9:39 - My daughter resorts to name calling when she’s angry - any advice?
18:00 - Anger is a secondary emotion
18:30 - What does being intentional this summer look like?
24:00 - I’m struggling with the amount of screen time that is embedded in school/homework, it clearly changes my kid’s behavior. What can I do?

Scripture for Reflection:
Proverbs 15:1 (NIV) — “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

Questions for Discussion:
1. How do you typically respond when your child is disrespectful or melts down?
2. What do you think is really behind your child’s anger in those moments?
3. What boundaries do you need to reinforce in your home around disrespect, screen time, or emotional outbursts?
4. How could role-playing or using tools like the feelings wheel help your child grow in emotional maturity?

Resources:

Don’t miss the boat! Register for Soar at Sea today: https://www.soaratsea.com
Listen to our interview with David Thomas about kids and BIG emotions:

https://wiretalk.transistor.fm/episodes/wt-140-the-emotional-world-of-kids-with-special-guest-david-thomas

https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927

Listen to ADHD specific Wire Talk episodes:

https://wiretalk.transistor.fm/episodes/wt-207-adhd-and-your-family-with-dr-staci-bolton-part-one

https://wiretalk.transistor.fm/episodes/wt-208-adhd-and-your-family-with-dr-staci-bolton-part-two

Download the BOAW app to send us your questions!

466: Making the Most of Summer with Your Kids

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 13 May 2025 03:00:00 -0400

Whether you're juggling work or chasing toddlers all day, summer can sneak up fast—and so can the pressure to make it “magical.” So today, Karen and Emily talk about how to define “winning” for your family before the season starts. They share practical ways to keep things meaningful without overextending yourself, and how to set realistic expectations for chores, rhythms, and fun. No matter what your summer looks like, you can make it a win for your family!

Episode Recap:
4:10 - Your summer won’t look like everybody else’s
6:25 - Decide on what would be a ‘win’ this summer for your family
10:10 - How can shifting your mindset help you accept your summer?
13:00 - How do I enjoy my summer when I’m working all the time?
16:00 - Involving your kids around the house more will make your summer smoother!
17:45 - Chores are a great way to stop hearing, “I’m bored!”
18:30 - What does being intentional this summer look like?

Scripture for Reflection: Proverbs 16:3 (NIV)
“Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.”

Questions for Discussion:

What would “winning” this summer look like for your family this year?
What are two expectations—one big, one small—you can name and plan for with your kids?
How can you shift your mindset to stay positive, even when plans change or challenges arise?
What practical changes could you make (like chore charts or spontaneous fun nights) to make summer more enjoyable for everyone?

Resources:

Don’t miss the boat! Register for Soar at Sea today: https://www.soaratsea.com
Check out Katie’s Chore List on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/C6pGDuRLE46/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet
Download the BOAW app to send us your questions! https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927

465: What Moms Really Want on Mother’s Day

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 06 May 2025 03:00:00 -0400

Mother’s Day can be sweet, stressful, or just plain disappointing—sometimes all at once! In today’s episode, Karen and Emily get real about unmet expectations, social media comparison, and the emotional weight this day can carry. They also share stories from their own celebrations—some simple, some funny, and some that didn’t go as planned. Whether you're anticipating brunch with your people or dreading a day that feels heavy, this conversation will remind you: it’s okay to name what you need and celebrate in a way that feels meaningful to you.

Episode Recap:
1:37 - Mother’s Day can be a mixed bag of emotions
3:35- There’s a lot of pressure surrounding celebrating well
7:00- Social media can quickly steal your joy
9:05 - How can we communicate what we want for Mother’s Day effectively?
12:30 - What if you want a special day but you know your family won’t plan anything?
16:21 - How do you navigate a difficult Mother’s Day?

Scripture for Reflection: Romans 12:15 (NIV)
“Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.”

Questions for Discussion:

What emotions does Mother’s Day bring up for you this year—joy, sorrow, both?
Have you ever been disappointed by an unmet expectation on this day? What did you learn from it?
What would your ideal Mother’s Day actually look like—and how can you communicate that clearly?
How can you support another mom who may be hurting or overwhelmed this year?

Resources:

Don’t miss the boat! Register for Soar at Sea today: https://www.soaratsea.com
Download the BOAW app to send us your questions! https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927

464: How to Welcome Your College Kid Home Well

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 29 Apr 2025 03:00:00 -0400

Your college student has changed—and so has your family. In today’s episode, Karen and Emily talk about preparing for the emotional and practical realities of having a college student return home for the summer. From setting clear expectations to embracing the growth in your child, you'll walk away with practical tips (and encouragement) to navigate this bittersweet transition with grace!

Episode Recap:

3:45 - Karen shares how re-entry was with different kids coming home from college

8:08- How can I temper my expectations before my kiddo comes home?

11:05 - Encourage your college student to get a job!

13:00 - How do we prepare our younger kids for their sibling’s reentry?

15:52 - What’s reasonable to ask of my college kid while they’re home?

21:34 - Is it ok for me to tell my college kid how their actions made me feel? If so, what’s the best way to do that?

25:19 - We have to allow our children to grow and learn on their own because God is at work in their lives. Don’t try to smooth the road out for them, let them learn.

Scripture for Reflection: Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NIV)
"There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens."

Questions for Discussion:

How has your family dynamic changed since your child left for college?
What expectations do you need to reset—both for yourself and for your college student—before they return home?
How can you communicate boundaries and responsibilities clearly without treating your college student like a child?
In what ways can you celebrate and embrace who your child is becoming as a young adult?

Resources:

Don’t miss the boat! Register for Soar at Sea today: https://www.soaratsea.com
Download the BOAW app to send us your questions! https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927

463: Surviving Seasons of Solo Parenting

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 22 Apr 2025 03:00:00 -0400

When your husband’s job pulls him away from home, it can leave you holding the weight of family life alone—and it’s exhausting. Today Karen is answering questions from moms whose husbands are frequently gone due to their line of work. From managing toddler tantrums and homeschooling to navigating resentment and self-pity, Karen shares hard-won wisdom from her own years in the trenches. Don’t miss Karen’s honest encouragement about what it means to trust God and stay grounded through the hard seasons!

Episode Recap:

2:35 - Karen’s husband Greg travelled extensively with his job during their early family years

6:10 - How did you manage the inconsistency in your husband’s work schedule?

10:25 - We have to bring God into our daily walk as moms, He will sustain us

11:30 - My husband works in a traumatic field, how do I support him without letting the darkness and stress of his job affect our family?

15:05 - How do I help my husband get on board with what I’m doing at home since he’s away so often

18:23 - Emily’s tips for keeping preschooler occupied while mom homeschools other child

21:15 - I’m a working mom and my husband is in residency. I struggle with resentment and self-pity, how did you handle these emotions?

Scripture for Reflection: Psalm 73:26 (NIV)
“My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.”

Questions for Discussion:

What do you find most difficult when your husband is away—emotionally, practically, or spiritually?
Have you ever struggled with self-pity or resentment in your parenting journey? What helped you move forward?
Karen talks about letting go of the “scoreboard” in marriage and not expecting equal contribution all the time. How does that idea sit with you?
What are some practical ways you could invite God into your hard season right now?
If you’re parenting a strong-willed toddler, which of Karen and Emily’s ideas could you try this week?

Resources:

Download the BOAW app to send us your questions! https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927
Don’t miss the boat! Register for Soar at Sea today: https://www.soaratsea.com
Check out the Scoreboard of Life session within Karen’s The Six Truths of Motherhood curriculum: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/available-for-purchase/products/six-truths-study-guide

462: Why We Call It Good Friday

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 15 Apr 2025 03:00:00 -0400

Today we’re talking about Good Friday —and reflecting on why something so awful was called ‘good.’ Karen walks through the events leading up to the cross, explains why Jesus had to die, and answers some common (and hard!) questions your kids and teens might be asking. Whether your children are little or nearly grown, we hope this conversation equips you to talk about Jesus’ sacrifice and bring the hope of Easter into your home this week.

Episode Recap:

2:10 - We don’t have to know everything, moms! But it’s our job to point our kids to answers

2:36 - Recap of events leading up to Good Friday

5:42 - Matthew 27:51-53 shares some incredible things that happened when Jesus died

8:44 - Jesus willing endured the Cross for us - that makes Friday good!

9:30 - Why did Jesus have to die? Wasn’t there another way?

12:51 - Jesus was fully man and fully God, He is our High Priest

13:35- Forgiveness doesn’t mean justice is ignored

14:24 - How do we know Jesus’ death was real? What about the Resurrection?

20:16 - What are practical ways to bring your family together around the story of Good Friday and Easter?

24:00 - Don’t be afraid of your kids’ questions, dive in together and look for the truth!

Scripture for Reflection: Isaiah 53:5 (NIV)
“But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed.”

Questions for Discussion:

What makes Good Friday “good,” even though it was such a dark day?
How can we engage well with our kids when they ask hard questions about Jesus’ death or the resurrection?
What does it mean to you personally that Jesus said, “Not my will, but yours be done”?
How can your family focus on Jesus this Easter in a meaningful way—especially if your kids aren’t naturally interested?

Resources:

Download the BOAW app to send us your questions! https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927
Don’t miss the boat! Register for Soar at Sea today: https://www.soaratsea.com

461: When Little Ones Push Back: Practical Discipline for Moms

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 08 Apr 2025 03:00:00 -0400

From dealing with toddlers who constantly say "no!" to navigating three-year-old stubbornness, today Karen is answering your questions and sharing practical strategies to help you respond with consistency and grace. You’ll learn how to set boundaries that stick and understand why repetition is key to laying a foundation of obedience. Whether you're managing meltdowns or guiding a strong-willed child, this episode will equip you to keep calm and parent on!

Episode Recap:

2:43 - Is age two or three more difficult?

4:41 - My four yr old doesn’t listen and it puts him in danger! How can I get him to take me seriously?

7:15 - Toddlers HAVE to know that you are going to follow through!

8:50 - I’m constantly threatening my 2.5 yr old daughter with consequences for not obeying, is she only obeying out of fear?

11:00 - My 7 year old daughter has no motivation to do anything! How do I get her to get moving?

14:25 - Talk to your child’s teacher if their homework seems to take them forever at home, there could be something to pay attention to there.

18:55 - Help! My husband and I are at our wit’s end with our combative 4 year old.

Scripture for Reflection: Galatians 6:9 (NIV)
"Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up."

Questions for Discussion:

What are some challenges you face with your toddler or preschooler’s strong emotions? How do you typically respond?
How do you balance immediate consequences with teaching long-term obedience?
What strategies have you found helpful for setting boundaries with strong-willed children?
How can you maintain consistency when it feels like your child isn’t getting the message?

Resources:

Download the BOAW app to send us your questions! https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927
Don’t miss the boat! Register for Soar at Sea today: https://www.soaratsea.com
Kathleen Edelman’s A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring: https://amzn.to/4lmF5VF
Wire Talk episode 433 with Wellesley Jongko: https://wiretalk.transistor.fm/episodes/433-you-can-set-your-child-up-for-readin

460: Help! My Teen is Struggling

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 01 Apr 2025 03:00:00 -0400

The stakes feel high when you’re parenting teenagers, but you don’t have to go it alone! Today Karen is answering questions from moms facing challenges as they are navigating the teen years. From dealing with inappropriate relationships and emotional struggles to setting boundaries and having tough conversations, Karen offers encouragement to help you parent with confidence. Whether your teen is acting out or just feeling melancholic, you'll find practical wisdom and support in this candid conversation.

Episode Recap:
4:06- It’s critical to be a parent rather than a friend during the teen years.
6:48- My 16 yr old is texting inappropriate pictures with his girlfriend, what do we do?
11:49- Strategies for connecting with a melancholic teen.
16:50- My college-age child is making poor choices when it comes to grades/work ethic - what does tough love look like?
23:07- How do I firmly address drug/alcohol use concerns with young adults who aren’t living at home anymore?
26:21- My 16 year old is dealing with depression and thoughts of self-harm - help!

Scripture for Reflection: Proverbs 22:6 (NIV)
"Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it."

Questions for Discussion:

Do you struggle with balancing being a parent versus being a friend to your teenager?
Think of a time your teen has made a poor choice. Did you manage your own emotions well while addressing the behavior? If not, what would it look like to have a re-do in that particular situation?
What role does prayer play in your parenting during the teen years? What are 3 things you can be praying for your teen right now? Write them down and hold one another accountable to praying daily for those things in our teens’ lives.

Resources:

Check out our studio glow up on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@birdsonawiremoms
Don’t miss the boat! Register for Soar at Sea today: https://www.soaratsea.com
Listen to Raising Emotionally Strong Boys with David Thomas: https://wiretalk.transistor.fm/episodes/347-raising-emotionally-strong-boys-with-david-thomas

459: Not Every Conflict With Your Child Is Defiance (Sometimes, It’s Just Personality)

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 25 Mar 2025 03:00:00 -0400

From preschool power struggles to teenage arguments, this episode is full of real mom moments. Today, Karen’s answering your questions on sibling conflict, possessiveness, and strong-willed kids. Whether it’s a four year old not wanting to share, or a teenager pushing against boundaries, Karen reminds us that parenting isn’t about controlling every outcome—it’s about cultivating character, modeling grace, and being a steady presence as kids grow and learn.

Episode Recap:

5:24- How do I help my child get over her excessive possessiveness?
9:50 - Should I get involved over the messiness of my daughters’ room?
12:18- My teens’ argumentativeness ruins the mood of our entire family, help!
17:55- How can I help cultivate a close relationship between siblings?

Scripture for Reflection: Ephesians 4:2 (NIV)
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”

Questions for Discussion:

Have you ever struggled with a child being overly possessive or anxious about their belongings? What has helped (or what would you try based on this episode)?
How do you handle arguments with your strong-willed children, especially when they push back against authority? Is what you’re doing working?
What’s one way you’ve helped your kids build or maintain a strong sibling bond?
How do you balance honoring your child’s temperament with helping them grow in areas like generosity, respect, and submission?
Which part of Karen’s advice in this episode resonated most with you today—and why?

Resources:

Check out our studio glow up on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/@birdsonawiremoms
Don’t miss the boat! Register for Soar at Sea today: www.soaratsea.com
Want more on parenting toward your child’s temperament? Check out A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring: https://amzn.to/4c34sYC
Listen to Karen’s episode with Abby: https://wiretalk.transistor.fm/episodes/wt-284-worth-the-fight-with-karen-and-abby
Grab a copy of Karen’s devotional for Teen Girls: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/all-active-products/products/preorder-teen-devotional
Want to know your or your child’s temperament? Take our FREE Colors Quiz! www.boaw.mom/quiz

458: Handling Hard Conversations with Grace

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 18 Mar 2025 03:00:00 -0400

Navigating hard conversations can feel like walking a tightrope, especially when it comes to extended family! Today Karen is answering your questions about setting boundaries, honoring traditions while carving out your own space, and maintaining peace without losing your voice. We hope you’ll take away some practical nuggets for the next time you find yourself facing a difficult conversation.

Episode Recap:

5:20 How do I know when to stand up for myself and when to bend?
6:22 My husband’s family celebrates religious holidays in a purely secular way. I’m always frustrated by it when we are with them! What can I do?
10:18 We feel guilted into vacationing with extended family every year when it really doesn’t work for us anymore. It has become a source of tension between my husband and I. How do we navigate this?
15:26 How do I “uninvite” our babysitter on our family vacation??!
20:00 My dad doesn’t want to see us at the holidays because he says we haven’t seen him/done enough with him all year long. How do I approach him?

Scripture for Reflection: James 1:5 (NIV)
"If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you."

Questions for Discussion:

Did you relate to Karen’s story about being “afraid” of the 7 year old neighbor? Do unpleasant conversations make you nervous?
Have you experienced tension around family traditions or expectations?
Do you have particular family members you find it difficult to communicate with?
When navigating family gatherings or vacations, what boundaries have you established that have been helpful?
How can you invite God into these difficult conversations for wisdom and peace?
What steps can you take to ensure your core family unit is nurtured and protected, even amidst extended family obligations?

Resources:
- Don’t miss the boat! Register for Soar at Sea today: www.soaratsea.com
- Check out Wire Talk’s viral clip - https://youtube.com/shorts/yd-lyxHD0HU?feature=share
- Take the free colors quiz - www.boaw.mom/quiz

457: Talking to Kids About Loss: Lessons from Where Did TJ Go?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 11 Mar 2025 03:00:00 -0400

Grief and joy don’t have to be opposites—sometimes, they go hand in hand. In this tender conversation, Annie F. Downs shares the story behind Where Did TJ Go?, a book she co-authored with her sister to help families navigate the loss of a child. Annie opens up about how her nephew TJ’s brief but impactful life deepened their family’s bond and taught them the beauty of holding joy and sorrow together. Whether you’ve experienced loss yourself or want to support a grieving family, this episode is filled with wisdom, encouragement, and hope.

Episode Recap:

4:26- Annie F. Downs joins us today!
5:40- Prior to TJ’s death, Annie’s family was not nearly as close
8:00- Annie’s sister discovered she was pregnant with a child who had a life limiting diagnosis
10:45- Aunts and uncles get to say yes, so do it often!
12:45- How can we love on families who are raising kids while grieving?
14:30- Where Did TJ Go? is a conduit for families to connect while grieving
16:00- There is good news in sad stories, this is a Gospel story
20:50- Get a bookplate customized with the name of a child you want to honor

Scripture for Reflection: Romans 12:15 (NIV)
"Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn."

Questions for Discussion:

Annie talked about how grief and joy can coexist. Have you seen this play out in your own life or in the lives of those around you?
How can we, as moms, create space for our children to express their emotions—both happy and sad—without feeling like they have to choose one over the other?
Annie’s family found a surprising closeness through their loss. Have you experienced a hardship that has brought you closer to family? How did it change your relationships?
What are some ways we can support grieving families, especially those with young children, in a way that honors their loss while also bringing hope?

Resources:

Pick up Where Did TJ Go? anywhere books are sold: https://amzn.to/4kxSYzT
Get a bookplate customized with a name you want to honor at wheredidtjgo.com
Last chance to register for the Soar Conference! Don’t procrastinate another day: https://subsplash.com/birdsonawire-ga/lb/ev/+j2j9wpq
Connect with Annie: https://www.anniefdowns.com/

456: Raising Kids with Unshakable Faith

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 04 Mar 2025 03:00:00 -0500

What is it like to raise children in the middle of a war? In this special episode, Karen sits down with Kimmie Saado, an American mom raising her five kids in Israel, to hear about the realities of life during conflict. From sirens and safe rooms to worshiping through fear, Kimmie shares how faith has anchored her family in uncertain times. Listen in as she encourages moms to raise up the next generation of Daniels—children who stand firm in faith, no matter the circumstances.

Episode Recap:
1:26- Kimmie is an American mom raising five kids in Israel
3:03- How Kimmie and Sahar met and challenges of cross-cultural dating/engagement
7:50- What it’s like to lead a Bible tour company in Israel
13:20- Karen and Kimmie’s favorite places in Israel
15:45- what has it been like to raise children in a conflict zone?
19:39- how Kimmie’s son led their family in worship during moments of fear.
22:30- how faith-filled habits help equip our kids and others to stand firm in faith.
24:31- what does it mean to be a “Daniel”?
28:15- what Kimmie and Sahar are doing in the States this year
30:00- how Americans can pray and support the Jewish people right now
37:30- we have made God so small and our problems so big

Scripture for Reflection: 2 Timothy 1:7 (NIV)
“For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.”

Questions for Discussion:

Kimmie shared a vivid story about responding to a bombing by shouting a Bible verse and also, how her son responded to bombing sirens with worship. How do you model turning to your faith in scary times? Do your kids get to witness that?
What does it mean to raise a "Daniel" in today’s world? How can we instill resilience and faith in our children?
Kimmie and her husband took intentional steps to prepare for challenges before those challenges arrived. How can we spiritually equip our families before trials come?
Kimmie spoke about finding peace in God’s presence, even in uncertainty. What are some practical ways we can cultivate that kind of faith in our own lives?

Resources:

Last chance to register for the Soar Conference! Don’t procrastinate another day: https://subsplash.com/birdsonawire-ga/lb/ev/+j2j9wpq
Check out Kimmie and Sahar’s company: Israel Bible Tours: https://www.israelbibletours.com/

455: Helping Moms Lead Their Families in Faith

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 25 Feb 2025 03:00:00 -0500

Discipling our kids can feel like a big responsibility, but moms don’t have to do it alone! In this episode, the new BOAW Moms operations manager, Erin Mashaw, shares her journey in ministry and her passion for equipping parents to lead their children in faith. She opens up about her own experiences as a pastor’s kid, her years in church ministry, and the resources she’s excited to create to support moms. Tune in for encouragement that you absolutely can disciple your kids with confidence!

Episode Recap:

1:10 - Erin is going to be a breakout session speaker at the Soar Conference

4:05 - True discipleship happens at home

5:25 - Moms are the faith catalyst in American homes right now

7:20 - During difficult times, we experience the deepest intimacy with God

8:48 - How do we trust God in the waiting and the what ifs?

10:40 - What can moms expect from you in your breakout session?

11:30 - Sign up for the Soar Conference!

12:15 - Fill your mind with truth through Scripture, worship, etc.

Scripture for Reflection:

Isaiah 41:10 (NIV) – “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Questions for Discussion:

Do you feel like the primary catalyst for your family’s faith journey? If so, do you resent your husband? Are you content in that role?
How do you typically respond to uncertainty or fear in parenting? What helps you refocus on God’s truth?
Erin talked about using worship music, scripture, and even meditation apps to combat anxiety—what are some ways you can incorporate these practices into your daily routine?
What’s one step you can take this week to invite your spouse or children into a deeper faith walk alongside you?

Resources:

Snag your ticket for the Soar Conference: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/soar-2025
Barna study on the influence of moms in Christian homes: https://www.barna.com/research/moms-christians-households/

454: Raising Kind and Respectful Kids

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 18 Feb 2025 03:00:00 -0500

Raising kind and respectful kids feels like a lofty goal some days, but it's possible! Today Karen tackles your questions about guiding kids through friendship struggles, addressing disrespectful behavior, and teaching them to stay true to their values. Whether your child struggles with peer pressure, sibling dynamics, or showing respect at home, listen in for Karen’s practical wisdom and discipline strategies to shape your child’s heart for the long haul.

Episode Recap:

5:45 - The Soar Conference is a chance to pour into your home, get signed up!

9:00 - My 8 year old is picking up bad behavior from friends, how do I influence her?

11:30 - Sometimes our kids have to learn the hard way

12:15 - My daughter changes her personality depending on who she’s with- how do I handle it?

17:30 - My husband and I have different approaches to parenting disrespect, what can we do?

23:35 - My child is so stubborn! How do I motivate her?

Scripture for Reflection: Ephesians 4:2 (NIV)
"Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love."

Questions for Discussion:

Have you felt like your influence as a mom is fading as your child’s friendships become more important? How do you navigate that shift?
How do you encourage your child to stay true to who they are in different social settings?
How do you handle discipline in a way that connects with your child’s personality?
If you and your spouse differ in your parenting approaches, how have you worked toward unity? What has helped you get on the same page?
For moms of green-wired children, what strategies have worked best in motivating them without overwhelming them?

Resources:

Snag your ticket for the Soar Conference: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/soar-2025
Our Parenting Together curriculum is FREE in the BOAW Moms app: [App Store] [Google Play]
Curious about your child’s personality “color”? Take the free quiz: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/personality-quiz

453: How to Parent a Sensitive Son By Encouraging His Strengths

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 11 Feb 2025 03:00:00 -0500

Today, we’re diving into your questions about parenting kids with melancholy personalities—from helping a 5-year-old navigate self-critical thoughts to encouraging a 10-year-old who always wants to leave the party early, to figuring out how to connect with a tween who keeps butting heads with you. If you’ve ever wondered how to better understand your child’s temperament and parent with both wisdom and grace, you’re in the right place.

Episode Recap:

9:15 - My son can be so negative about himself, how can I coach him?

12:10 - My melancholy child always wants to leave events early - how would you approach this?

14:45 - We have to learn not to be embarrassed our kids behavior

15:40 - How do I build a better relationship with my blue son?

17:55 - Practice encouraging your son in his strengths

19:00 - How can I figure out my child’s personality color?

Scripture for Reflection:

Psalm 139:14 (NIV) – “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

Questions for Discussion:

How do you see your child’s temperament influencing their everyday experiences?
What strengths do you notice in your child that may be hidden beneath their struggles?
How can you shift your parenting approach to encourage and support, rather than correct, your child’s personality?
What strategies have worked for you in connecting with a child who tends to be more withdrawn or self-critical?
Are you praying for the Lord’s guidance so that you can parent your son according to his strengths?

Resources:

Register for the Soar Conference today: https://subsplash.com/birdsonawire-ga/lb/ev/+j2j9wpq
Take the Colors Quiz for yourself or your child! https://birdsonawiremoms.com/personality-quiz
Download our FREE temperaments guide: www.boaw.mom/colors
Pick up the book A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring https://amzn.to/40QLoaO

452: How to Build a Stronger Bond with Your Daughter – With Sandra Stanley & Allie Cooney

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 04 Feb 2025 03:00:00 -0500

This week on Wire Talk, we welcome Sandra Stanley and her daughter Allie Cooney, co-authors of Meet Me in the Middle, a book designed to help moms and daughters build strong, faith-filled relationships. Sandra and Allie share lessons from their own relationship, and insights from their book—covering everything from communication struggles to the challenges of raising (and being) a teen girl today. They discuss the importance of creating a safe space for daughters, avoiding the “know-it-all” trap as moms, and learning to let go of control while guiding daughters toward wisdom and faith.

Episode Recap:

6:30 - Sandra Stanley & Allie Cooney join us to talk about their book, Meet Me in the Middle

13:00 - This book was written for girls in 5th through 10th grade and their moms

14:30 - Social media creates so much noise for our daughters today

17:20 - Moms and daughters are facing many of the same pressures, just at different times in our lives and at different levels of maturity.

20:02 - When our girls feel safe with us, they are more likely to share with us

22:00 - We don’t need to turn everything into a teachable moment, be interested and be humble

24:00 - It is normal for teen girls to pull away in this season

27:35 - How do we help our daughters deal with comparison?

31:10 - What we do in parenting is far more important than what we say

Scripture for Reflection: Philippians 4:4-9 (NIV)
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.”

Questions for Discussion:

Sandra and Allie emphasize that moms should aim to be a safe place for their daughters. What are some ways you’ve seen this play out in your own parenting? What challenges make it difficult for you to be that safe space?
Allie mentioned that her mom, instead of forcing conversations, placed wise mentors in her life. Does your daughter have wise women in her world other than you that she could learn from?
Have you ever found yourself turning every conversation into a teachable moment? How can you shift toward more natural, two-way conversations with your kids?
What are some practical ways you model faith in your daily life, and how do you encourage your daughter to cultivate her own personal faith journey?

Resources:

Register for SOAR 2025 in the BOAW Moms app today [App Store] [Google Play]
Pick up a copy of Meet Me in the Middle: https://amzn.to/42JaRp1

451: Reclaiming Peace in Your Home

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 28 Jan 2025 03:00:00 -0500

If you’ve ever felt buried under clutter, you’re not alone. Today Maria and Rebecca of Simple Spaces Ohio join us to share how decluttering has transformed their lives, how you can help your kids understand the value of less, and how a simple morning routine can bring order to the chaos. Whether you're naturally sentimental or just in need of a little guidance, this episode will encourage you to reclaim peace in your home and take back valuable time in your day.

Episode Recap:

2:15 - Clutter affects the way we feel in our homes

4:00 - Young moms are overwhelmed by the chaos in their homes

6:30 - As your kids get older, you can help them understand they don’t need so much stuff

9:45 - Some people are naturally more sentimental than others

11:10 - Having a morning routine with just a few chores can help manage the overwhelm

13:00 - Decluttering gives you back time in your day

Scripture for Reflection: 1 Corinthians 14:33
"For God is not a God of disorder but of peace—As in all the congregations of the Lord’s people."

Questions for Discussion:

What areas of your home feel the most overwhelming to you right now? What would it look like to create a sense of peace in those spaces?
How do you balance keeping sentimental items with the desire to declutter? Are there any items you find hard to let go of?
What small changes or routines have you implemented in your daily life that have helped you manage the clutter and find more peace?
How can we involve our kids in the decluttering process without overwhelming them, and what are some ways to teach them the value of less stuff?

Resources:

450: Handling Grandparents and In Laws: Tips for Healthy Boundaries

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 21 Jan 2025 03:00:00 -0500

Navigating relationships with in-laws and grandparents can be tricky, especially when it comes to setting boundaries for the safety and well-being of your kids. Today Karen tackles your questions about managing challenging family dynamics with wisdom, grace, and confidence. Whether you're dealing with safety concerns, feeling smothered, or struggling with differing parenting approaches, this conversation is packed with practical advice to help you protect your family while fostering peace.

Episode Recap:

2:10 - Check out our new podcast set up on YouTube

4:35 - How do I graciously handle having two sets of hyper-involved grandparents?

9:15- How do I handle my mother-in-law’s disrespect in a kind but firm way?

12:45- My mom hovers and overprotects my kids - what should I do?

16:45 - My in-laws have repeatedly shown they do not respect my boundaries, is there anything I can do?

Scripture for Reflection: James 1:5 (NIV)
If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

Questions for Discussion:

Have you ever had to set boundaries with family members? What was the outcome, and how did you approach it with kindness and firmness?
What role should prayer play in preparing for difficult conversations about boundaries?
In what ways can we shift our focus from trying to please everyone to focusing on our responsibilities as moms?
What practical steps can you take this week to ensure your nuclear family has time to bond without extended family involvement?

Resources:

Register for SOAR 2025 in the BOAW Moms app today [App Store] [Google Play]
Grab a copy of Karen’s devotional: Moments with God for Moms

449: New Habits for the New Year

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 14 Jan 2025 03:00:00 -0500

Description: As we step into a new year, Karen and Emily are here to help you start fresh. In this episode, they discuss practical tips for breaking bad habits, finding contentment in your current season, and making space for your own growth as a mom. If you’re ready to embrace 2025 with renewed purpose and encouragement, you’re in the right place.

Episode Recap:

2:30 - Jumping into the New Year, what are your New Year’s resolutions?

9:02 - My childrens’ bad moods put me in a bad mood! What can I do about this?

13:34 - How do I prioritize my spiritual growth with 3 under 3 in my home?

17:15 - How do I break the habit of having my 5 year old share the bed with us?

20:50 - I’m struggling with contentment because I want another child but my husband and I both feel like we can’t afford another one, help!

Scripture for Reflection:

2 Corinthians 5:17 (NIV): “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”

Questions for Discussion:

Does your child’s behavior affect your own emotions? Practically speaking, how can you disconnect your emotions from your child’s behavior?
What strategies or tools have helped you find time for spiritual growth during a busy season of motherhood?
Are there any bad habits you’ve developed when it comes to behavior or situations in your home (like the mom who was bed sharing longer than she wanted to)? What are they and are you ready to work to break them this year?
Do you struggle with contentment? Maybe it’s the size of your family or your financial situation…how can you practice contentment while trusting God with your family’s future?

Resources:

Register for SOAR 2025 in the BOAW Moms app today [App Store] [Google Play]
Grab a copy of Karen’s devotional: Moments with God for Moms

448: Do Less For Your Kids - Parenting for the Long Haul

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 07 Jan 2025 03:00:00 -0500

Today Karen and Emily sit down with Elizabeth Pehrson to discuss how moms can parent with purpose by focusing on the long game. In this conversation, Elizabeth shares her no-nonsense approach to raising independent, contributing adults. Whether you’re navigating the pressures of parenting littles or wondering how to prepare your teens for the real world, this episode will leave you inspired and equipped. Don’t miss the rest of the interview over on Patreon!

Episode Recap:

2:09 - Elizabeth is a long time friend of BOAW Moms and a breakout speaker at Soar 2025

3:36 - She is mom to 8 and founder of The Exchange

8:08 - Most women live a Groundhog Day kind of life, but they don’t have to

10:32 - We can’t love others when we’re not loving ourselves well

12:37 - How did The Exchange come about?

18:25 - We need to raise adults who are contributors, not consumers

21:00 - We are overprotecting and under preparing our kids for the real world

24:00 - Young adults today do not know how to problem solve on their own

25:01 - We run a race differently when the length of the race changes - keep the long game in mind!

Scripture for Reflection:

Proverbs 22:6 (ESV) Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old, he will not depart from it."

Questions for Discussion:

What areas of parenting do you feel pressured to “do more,” and how might adopting a “do less” mindset bring freedom to your family?
How are you currently preparing your children for independence, and what’s one practical step you can take to help them contribute more?
Elizabeth emphasizes the importance of rediscovering yourself as a mom. What’s something you used to enjoy that you can reintroduce into your life?
How can shifting your focus from short-term achievements to long-term character development change the way you approach parenting?

Resources:

Register for SOAR 2025 in the BOAW Moms app today [App Store] [Google Play]
Become a Patreon member and listen to the rest of the interview with Elizabeth
Check out Elizabeth’s organization, The Exchange
How Do I Get Some Help Around the House? previous WT episode with Elizabeth

447: Staying Connected When Life Gets Busy

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 17 Dec 2024 03:00:00 -0500

As we wrap up Wire Talk for 2024, we’re diving into practical ways to connect with your spouse during busy seasons. From showing appreciation in small ways to navigating family expectations and finding joy in spontaneity, Karen has got wisdom and real-life practical tips for you! Whether you’re balancing the holidays, family dynamics, or simply trying to plan a date night, we hope this conversation inspires you to be intentional in your marriage.

Episode Recap:

5:30 - How can I show my spouse they matter in small, but meaningful ways?

9:00 - How can I accommodate my in-laws' tendency to plan way ahead?

11:45 - Communicating clearly is gracious, even if it disappoints others

13:30 - I don’t feel lovey-dovey when we’re travelling, but my husband does. How do we navigate this dynamic?

16:50 - Did your yellow ever rub your blue husband the wrong way? How do I be more spontaneous to accommodate him?

23:00 - Thank you for all of your support this year! Sign up for SOAR in 2025

Scripture for Reflection:

1 Corinthians 16:14 (NIV) "Do everything in love."

Questions for Discussion:

What are some small but meaningful ways you can show your spouse they are appreciated during busy seasons?
How can you find balance between accommodating family expectations and maintaining boundaries for your immediate family?
Have you experienced differences in how you and your spouse handle travel or holiday dynamics? How do you navigate those differences?
How can you practice flexibility in your plans while still honoring your own needs and personality?
What’s one new date-night idea you’d like to try with your spouse?

Resources:

Register for SOAR 2025 in the BOAW Moms app today [App Store] [Google Play]
Give today to support BOAW Moms and our plans in 2025: boaw.mom/donate

446: Loving Like Jesus During the Holidays

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 10 Dec 2024 03:00:00 -0500

Today Karen and Emily are diving into what it means to love like Jesus, even when it’s difficult. They cover preparing your heart, navigating tricky relationships, and approaching family gatherings with humility. You’ll learn how to manage expectations and hear practical ways we can love others like Christ loves us. Whether you’re juggling in-laws, extended family, or just trying to survive the season, this episode is packed with encouragement and wisdom for the holidays.

Episode Recap:

5:41 - Why is it so challenging to love our extended family like Jesus?

10:26 - How can we shift our mindset and love family when it feels impossible?

12:33 - You can’t ignore your feelings, but you don’t have to act on your feelings.

13:30 - What are some practical ways we can prepare our hearts before family gatherings?

16:00 - Pray and ask God to show you what He loves about hard to love people

23:44 - The holidays can bring joy, but they can bring a lot of trigger points as well

Scripture for Reflection: John 13:34-35 (NIV)
"A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another."

Questions for Discussion:

How can you demonstrate love to family members who may be difficult to connect with during the holidays?
What practical steps can you take to prepare your heart to approach family gatherings with humility and grace?
How does Jesus’ example of unconditional love challenge the way you interact with extended family or in-laws?
What boundaries could you set to help maintain peace and joy during the holiday season, while still showing Christ-like love?

Resources:

Give today to support BOAW Moms and our plans in 2025: boaw.mom/donate
Register for SOAR 2025 in the BOAW Moms app today [App Store] [Google Play]

445: Creating Stress-Free Holiday Memories with Your Family

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 03 Dec 2024 03:00:00 -0500

The holidays can often bring stress and guilt for moms as we try to make everything perfect for our families. In this episode, Karen and Emily share how to embrace a simpler, more joyful approach to Christmas. From favorite childhood memories to navigating tight budgets, they remind us that the best moments often come from just being together! We hope this episode inspires you to let go of the pressure, focus on what truly matters (Jesus’ birth!), and create meaningful traditions—whether planned or unplanned.

Episode Recap:

3:08 - Karen and Emily “This or That’ Christmas edition

9:30 - Emily’s favorite Christmas memories growing up in the Stubbs’ home

11:20 - The best memories aren’t always the ones you plan

16:54 - Pick a few things that are important to you and forget the rest

18:20 - Some traditions happen organically and end up being the kids’ favorite

20:10 - How do I keep the holiday spirit alive as my kids grow?

23:00 - Explain the budget to your kids and don’t feel bad about sticking to it

25:32 - Mishaps can lead to new traditions and memories.

27:30 - Give yourself grace and just enjoy this holiday season!

Scripture for Reflection: Luke 2:10-12 (NIV)
“But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord. This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger.”

Questions for Discussion:

What are some of your favorite childhood holiday memories?
How can you simplify your holiday plans this year to focus more on connection and less on perfection?
What are some inexpensive ways to create lasting memories with your family during the holiday season?
How can you be intentional about letting go of comparison during the holidays?
What new traditions could you start as your children grow older and your family’s needs change?

Resources:

Register for SOAR 2025 in the BOAW Moms app today [App Store] [Google Play]
Give today to support BOAW Moms and our plans in 2025: boaw.mom/donate

444: Letting Go of Mom Guilt and Overthinking

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 26 Nov 2024 03:00:00 -0500

Moms often struggle with guilt and overthinking, especially when it comes to making decisions for their families. In this episode, Karen talks about how to avoid the trap of overanalyzing every choice and instead focus on what brings peace and unity to your family. Whether you're navigating school decisions, holiday traditions, or just everyday challenges, this discussion will help you let go of guilt and embrace the best yes for your family with confidence.

Episode Recap:

4:00 Navigating mom guilt around holiday decisions
7:30 Deciding whether to do Elf on the Shelf
13:00 Setting boundaries for attending kids' birthday parties
17:45 Learning to communicate clearly with your children before making commitments
22:00 Making decisions that are right for YOUR family, without comparison

Scripture for Reflection:

Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV): "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight."

Questions for Discussion:

What kind of mom guilt are you facing in this season of parenting, and how can you let go of it?
How do you decide which traditions to embrace and which to let go of?
What are some ways you can involve your kids in making decisions, like attending parties or events?
How can we give ourselves grace if our plans or decisions don’t look like those of other families?

Resources:

Download the BOAW Moms app (for FREE!) [App Store] [Google Play]

443: Holiday Survival Guide for Grandparents

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 19 Nov 2024 03:00:00 -0500

Navigating the holidays as a grandparent can be tricky, but holding plans with open hands can make all the difference. In this episode, we talk about how to foster unity, embrace flexibility, and keep a spirit of grace at the center of holiday gatherings. Whether you're a mom of grown children or still in the thick of raising kids at home, Karen offers practical tips to help you approach the season with love and understanding.

Episode Recap:

4:56 Grandparents need to hold holiday plans with open hands

7:45 Remember what it was like to be a young adult and all of the pressures they are facing

10:00 Be open and flexible to new traditions

13:00 Enjoy the kids when they are around and be okay if they are not present some years

14:55 Learn how to communicate plans early

16:30 It’s okay for grandparents to spoil the grandkids and overindulge them once a year!

19:30 Ask your grown children, “what can I do to make holidays easier/better for you?”

23:00 The holidays aren’t about exactly ‘when’ or ‘how,’ they are about being together

Scripture for Reflection:

Philippians 2:3-4 (NIV): "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others."

Questions for Discussion:

In what ways can you be more understanding of the pressures your grown children face during the holiday season?
What new traditions could you embrace that might help create a more joyful and flexible holiday experience for everyone?
How can you learn to hold your holiday traditions with open hands? Is there anything specific you know will be hard to let go of?
What steps can you take to communicate our holiday plans early, while still being considerate of everyone’s needs and desires?
How can you maintain a spirit of grace if plans change or things don't go as expected?

Resources:

Download the BOAW Moms app (for FREE!) [App Store] [Google Play]

442: Protecting Your Kids from Screen Addiction with Practical Tech Limits

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 12 Nov 2024 03:00:00 -0500

Today, DeDe Wilbanks joins us to explore how we can set healthy boundaries around the technology in our homes. With John 10:10 as our guide, DeDe reminds us of our God-given role to protect our children's hearts and minds from the addictive nature of technology. While we can't control everything, we can be intentional about setting limits that nurture our families, trusting God with the rest.

Episode Recap:

4:30 What downtime and screen time parameters do you put on your devices?
9:43 Is there a right age to give kids a phone?
13:09 Why do screen time limits matter?
15:15 What mistakes have you made when it comes to technology in your home?
19:10 I had to learn to enjoy the “no”
22:00 How do you actually set limits on the iphone?
31:22 What simple practical tips can you offer to get started?

Scripture for Reflection:

John 10:10 (NIV) "The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.”

Questions for Discussion:

What boundaries are in place around the tech that your kids have access to? (Games, ipads, TV, phones, etc.)
Have you made any mistakes with the technology you have allowed in your home?
How do you model healthy technology habits for your children?
What challenges do you face when setting screen time limits, and how do you handle them?
What action steps are you taking after listening to this episode?

Resources:

Download the BOAW Moms app (for FREE!) [App Store] [Google Play]
The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt

441: A Faithful Approach to an Anxious World

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 05 Nov 2024 03:00:00 -0500

Election Day can bring a lot of uncertainty and even fear into our lives. Today, Karen and Emily remind us to keep our focus on God, no matter who ends up in the White House. They encourage us to pray for our leaders and show us how to foster peace, especially if our families are divided on political views. Karen shares powerful biblical truths to help us navigate the ups and downs of the election season with faith and grace, reminding us that our hope is always in Christ and that we are citizens of heaven.

Episode Recap:

7:12 How should Christians approach political elections?

10:20 What does Jesus say about engaging with governments and politics?

13:04 Daniel 2:21 says God “deposes kings and raises up others”

14:30 We have to focus our eyes on God and not our circumstances

15:45 Go vote! And also, pray for our leaders

17:45 Look at the story of Nebuchadnezzer, God can turn the hearts of evil leaders

20:39 We can have different opinions and still love one another

21:58 Your children are watching you

Scripture for Reflection:

Romans 13:1 (NIV) "Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God."

Questions for Discussion:

Do you enjoy talking about politics, would you rather ignore it, or do you fall somewhere in between?
Has this election season disrupted your internal peace?
Do you pray for the leaders in our country? Would you be willing to commit to praying for the President Elect until Inauguration Day?
Did any of the verses Karen mentioned during this episode resonate with you? What is something you can do to practically apply the message of this conversation?

Resources:

Download the BOAW Moms app (for FREE!) [App Store] [Google Play]

440: How Can I Effectively Discipline My Young Children?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 29 Oct 2024 03:00:00 -0400

“You just have to last one second longer…” If you are constantly fighting discipline battles these days, we hope those words stay with you long after this episode! In this conversation, Karen tackles questions about disciplining your younger children. From chaos in the car, to rough play, to bad behavior that only happens at school, Karen offers practical advice for finding consequences that work for your child.

Episode Recap:

6:37 My four year old is constantly getting in trouble at school - what can we do?

12:30 Car rides are the worst! How can I stop the cycle of craziness?

17:00 You just have to last one second longer than they do!

18:25 My son plays too rough at school - does he need therapy?

21:30 How do I know which things are discipline worthy and which things I should let go?

27:18 My son gets really angry- we don’t want to punish him for feeling emotions, but know we need to find ways to help him regulate, any advice?

Scripture for Reflection:

Proverbs 29:17 (NIV) “Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire.”

Questions for Discussion:

What are some of the biggest discipline challenges you face with your young children?
Have you found any specific consequences that seem to work well with your child? What hasn’t worked as well?
How do you decide which behaviors are worth disciplining and which ones to let go?
How do you handle situations where your child gets very angry? Are there strategies that help them regulate their emotions?

Resources:

Send Karen your questions using the BOAW Moms app (for FREE!) [App Store] [Google Play]
Raising Emotionally Strong Boys by David Thomas: https://amzn.to/48r4ZkZ
Listen to Wire Talk episode 347 with David Thomas: https://wiretalk.transistor.fm/episodes/347-raising-emotionally-strong-boys-with-david-thomas
A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring: https://amzn.to/3YmsRlo
Survival Guide to Motherhood: https://amzn.to/3NKXXyd

439: Birth Order and Sibling Squabbles

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 22 Oct 2024 03:00:00 -0400

Are your kids’ personalities shaped by their birth order? In today’s episode, Karen and Emily explore how birth order influences personality. They share insights from their own families and tackle questions like, “How do I help my oldest think of others before herself?” and “How can I teach my daughter to let go of things without holding on to everything?” Plus, Emily talks about how she’s using the BOAW Moms app to keep up with studies and episodes!

Episode Recap:

2:00 Emily is loving using the BOAW Moms app to watch studies and look up podcast episodes

3:45 Karen and Emily share how their personalities were shaped by their birth order

7:13 Is it possible to avoid reinforcing birth order stereotypes as a parent?

10:25 How do I help my 5 year old let go of things? She wants to hold onto all the things!

15:24 How do I help my oldest daughter think of others before herself?

20:45 How do I help nurture my daughter’s kindness?

24:50 Send in your question on the app using the “Ask Karen” section

Scripture for Reflection:

Galatians 6:9 (NASB) “Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary.”

Questions for Discussion:

How do you think birth order has influenced your children’s personalities? Can you see any traits that match typical birth order stereotypes?
How do you encourage your child to let go of unnecessary items or habits without making them feel pressured?
What did you think of Karen’s story about taking Kelsey to the Dominican Republic and the change she saw in her heart afterwards? Is that something you have done or would consider doing with your children?
Karen mentioned several times that some issues we see in our kids are heart issues while others are merely maturity issues (things they will grow out of)- do you feel like you can tell the difference in your children?

Resources:

Check out Karen’s new study: The Counter-Intuitive Parent on Right Now Media or from the BOAW Moms store
Download the BOAW Moms app: [App Store] [Google Play]
Kevin Leman’s Birth Order book: https://amzn.to/3AdPCzI

438: A Student’s Guide to Sexual Integrity

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 15 Oct 2024 03:00:00 -0400

“There is nothing that beats conversation with our kids.” Today we’re chatting with Erin Mashaw about the new book she co-authored, A Student’s Guide to Sexual Integrity. We touch on purity culture, pornography, and the constantly shifting cultural values around us. Erin shared the importance of having small conversations early and often and offered practical tips for getting over the awkwardness! Our hope is that you will be encouraged to engage in new conversations this week in your home and feel equipped that YOU are the best source of information for your child. Psst - pop some earbuds in for this one!

Episode Recap:

3:20 What is the difference between integrity and purity?
6:54 ‘The Talk’ is no longer one marathon session, it’s simpler than that!
8:30: Is it possible to make these conversations less awkward?
11:37 Your mind is your most important sex organ
14:00 Teach your kids to live by the Integrity Code
18:30 How do we share the truth that the historical biblical sexual ethic is loving and not exclusive with kids who are seeing something different all around them?
20:30 It’s parents’ job to be the first voice speaking to our children a consistent message on sexuality
24:00 What do moms need to know about protecting our (even young) kids from being sexualized online?
30:10 It’s never too late to start this conversation!
33:00 God is writing your child’s story and His Holy Spirit will guide you as you lead your kids in this area of their lives

Scripture for Reflection:

Deuteronomy 11:18-19 (NIV): “Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

Questions for Discussion:

When did you begin talking with your kids about topics related to sex? If you haven’t started yet, what’s holding you back? Did this episode encourage you to initiate those conversations in your home?
How do you define sexual integrity versus purity, and why do you think this distinction is important when talking with your children? What stood out to you in Erin’s explanation?
How can you be proactive in protecting your children from exposure to inappropriate content online? What strategies have worked for you, or what new steps could you take based on the information shared in this episode?
What does it look like to trust God with your child’s journey while still being intentional about shaping their understanding of sexual integrity

Resources:

Check out Karen’s new study: The Counter-Intuitive Parent on Right Now Media or from the BOAW Moms store
Grab a copy of A Student’s Guide to Sexual Integrity
Jim Burns book, God Made Your Body, How God Makes Babies
More resources from HomeWord ministry: https://homeword.com/
Download the BOAW Moms app for FREE [App Store] [Google Play]

437: Balancing Marriage, Parenting, and Life’s Big Decisions

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 08 Oct 2024 03:00:00 -0400

When your kids are little, the challenges of day-to-day parenting often pit one spouse against another. Today Karen and Emily are answering questions from weary moms. They discuss practical ways you can connect with your spouse, strategies for handling the stress that comes with parenting young children, and remind us of the importance of prioritizing our husband’s needs during this season of life.

Episode Recap:

4:50 BIG announcement coming later this month - get the app to be the first to know

10:45 How do we find time to connect as spouses with 3 little kids at home?

15:05: Help! My 3 yr old twins are pitting us against one another!

17:14 Our marriage is struggling! We need help.

22:20 Ask your spouse: what is one way I can love you better this month?

25:20 I want to move back to where my family lives. What do you think we should do?

Scripture for Reflection:

Mark 10:9 (NIV): “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Questions for Discussion:

How do you currently prioritize connection with your spouse while raising young children? What practical strategies have worked for you, and where do you feel there’s room for improvement?
How do you and your spouse handle conflict when your children (especially young ones) try to pit you against one another? Do you feel like you have a united front, or is this something you struggle with?
What’s one way you could better support your husband’s needs during this busy season of life? Have you asked him how you can show love to him in the coming weeks?
When making major family decisions, such as moving or changing jobs, how do you and your spouse communicate and weigh each other’s opinions? What steps do you take to ensure that both of your voices are heard?

Resources:

Download the BOAW Moms app for FREE [App Store] [Google Play]
Watch the Parenting Together curriculum in the app! [App Store] [Google Play]

436: Resolve Conflicts by Tapping into Your Child's Unique Personality

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 01 Oct 2024 03:00:00 -0400

Understanding how your child is wired can be a key to resolving conflict in your home! In today's episode, Karen dives into the dynamics of family conflict and emphasizes how important it is to recognize your child's personality type. By taking the time to understand their unique traits, we can cultivate patience and empathy in our relationships. Join us as we explore practical ways to bear with one another instead of butting heads!

Episode Recap:

6:08 I’m worried about my 9 yr old son’s lack of sociability…should I be?

9:05 My daughter and I are constantly butting heads! Help!

12:15 What are the four core needs of the Red personality?

14:08 How did your husband being away for so long affect your children and the home?

18:32 My 1st grade daughter’s social awkwardness is affecting her relationships, what can I do?

Scripture for Reflection:

Ephesians 4:2 (NIV): Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.

Questions for Discussion:

How well do you know each of your children’s personalities? Share with the group the personalities of each of your family members.
Do any of the personalities in your family butt heads more so than others?
Can you see how taking personalities into account could create a more peaceful home?
Refer to the four needs of each personality type in the resource packet linked below: do any needs stand out that you could work to be more mindful of in your parenting?

Resources:

Download the BOAW Moms app for FREE [App Store] [Google Play]
Not sure your child’s color? Take our Colors Personality quiz
Print off the FREE personality resource packet from BOAW

435: Transform Your Parenting By Renewing Your Mind

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 24 Sep 2024 03:00:00 -0400

Today we’re diving into the idea of being a countercultural parent. Join us as Karen shares how important it is to parent in a way that aligns with God’s will instead of seeking the approval of others. From practical tips on renewing your mind to choosing God as your guiding “North Star,” Karen offers encouragement to moms who may feel out of step with the world – but exactly in step with God’s design.

Episode Recap:

3:51 Karen shares about her newest curriculum, The Counter Intuitive Parent

8:36 How have you seen parenting trends/choices change over the years?

11:38 Were you always countercultural as a parent or did you change as you realized you needed to parent differently from the world?

16:25 What worldly patterns do you see affecting families right now?

19:05 What can a mom do today to renew her mind?

23:00 God is our “North Star” as believers

26:30 There is a lot on the horizon for BOAW Moms this year!

Scripture for Reflection:

Romans 12:2 (NIV) – "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

Galatians 1:10 (NIV) - “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

Questions for Discussion:

What parenting “trends” have you noticed in the circles you are parenting in these days? Do you feel pressure to conform to any of them?
Karen spoke about renewing your mind and making choices for your family based on God’s will rather than the world’s expectations. How can you practically begin to “renew your mind” in your daily parenting?
In what ways do you feel countercultural as a parent? Have there been moments where you doubted your approach because it went against what society expects?
How can you make God your “North Star” in your decision-making as a parent? What are some distractions that keep you from doing this, and how can you overcome them?

Resources:

Download the Birds on a Wire Moms app now for FREE wherever you get your apps: [App Store] [Google Play]
Check out The Counter Intuitive Parent available now through Right Now Media): https://app.rightnowmedia.org/en/content/details/883497

434: Setting Your Young Adult Up for Independence

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 17 Sep 2024 03:00:00 -0400

Today Karen is answering questions from moms whose kids are in college or working and living on their own for the first time. She shares how to support them without enabling them, how to gently guide them toward wise-decision making, and how to encourage them toward maturity while simultaneously stepping back. She also reminds us that now, more than ever, is the time to get on your knees and PRAY for your kids! Moms, this season is hard, but the fruit of these years is worth the investment of time and energy.

Episode Recap:

3:41 How do I help my college-age daughter who is already struggling with time management while she’s away? She’s calling me in tears weekly!

8:00 I feel like my son is growing apart from us as a young adult living in another state. Is this normal? How can I adjust my mindset?

13:02 My daughter calls me all the time about every little thing now that she’s living on her own. How can I help her be more confident in her decision making?

17:18 I think my son could be classified as “failure to launch” at this point in time. How can I get him to think about his future seriously?!

Scripture for Reflection:

Philippians 1:9-10 (NIV) – "And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ."

Questions for Discussion:

Were there any suggestions Karen offered during this episode that surprised you? Which ones did you love?
When your young adult is constantly seeking advice, how do you balance offering support with encouraging them to develop their own confidence in decision-making?
Do you struggle with feelings of separation or distance when your child is living far from home? What are some practical things you could do (besides visiting!) to close that relational gap?
What are some practical ways we can support our young adults in their independence without overstepping or enabling them?
In what specific ways can you be praying for your young adult as they transition into greater independence? Do you think prayer influences your ability to trust God in this season?

Resources:

Jump in on the Survival Guide to Motherhood study this fall! Today is the last day to register: boaw.mom/SGTM
Download the Birds on a Wire Moms app FOR FREE wherever you get your apps!
Come hear Karen teach at an event near you: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/events

433: You Can Set Your Child Up for Reading Success!

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 10 Sep 2024 03:00:00 -0400

Literacy coach Welsley Jongko joins us in the studio today to talk about the process of learning to read and to encourage those of us who have beginning readers at home! She explains the current reading crisis in America and the simple but effective things parents can do to support their children on their way to become lifelong readers. There are so many great tips and resources shared in the conversation today, be sure you check the links in today’s show notes!

Episode Recap:

2:11 Welsley is a literacy coach supporting teachers in the K-5 school system

4:00 Karen shares the story of Abby’s dyslexia diagnosis

7:56 Tips for parents who are already overwhelmed by the new school year

9:40 How can parents help foster a love of learning in their child?

12:12 Is there a difference between a late learner and a struggling reader?

16:00 What are the red flags your child is struggling to read?

23:08 Additional early signs of dyslexia

26:00 What is the problem with “whole language” instruction?

30:37 Tips and strategies for helping your beginning reader enjoy the process

34:15 More resources from Welsley Jongko on learning to read

Scripture for Reflection: Proverbs 3:13 (NIV)
“Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding.”

Questions for Discussion:

Did Welsley’s insights on the reading crisis in America resonate with your own experiences? Have you had or do you have a child who struggles with reading?
Were there any strategies or suggestions for helping your child that stood out to you as particularly helpful?
Fostering a love of learning is crucial for young readers. Does reading aloud happen regularly in your home? What are some favorite books in your family? Have you ever tried listening to audiobooks together? Is this an area you can grow in as a family?

Resources:

Welsley’s book, Teach Me to Read: https://amzn.to/4d1lJAe
Follow Little Literacy Nook! @littleliteracynook
More resources on Welsley’s website: https://littleliteracynook.com
Sold a Story podcast on flawed reading instruction: https://features.apmreports.org/sold-a-story/
The reading crisis among elementary students in America: https://edtrust.org/blog/the-literacy-crisis-in-the-u-s-is-deeply-concerning-and-totally-preventable/#:~:text=Last%20year%2C%20the%20National%20Assessment,a%20proficient%20level%20in%20reading.
Love Every Reading Skills Set: https://lovevery.com/pages/the-reading-skill-set
Come hear Karen teach at an event near you: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/events
Join our private BOAW Moms FB group for community and collective wisdom: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

432: Choosing the ‘Best Yes’ For Your Family

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 03 Sep 2024 03:00:00 -0400

Today Karen is answering questions from moms juggling packed schedules, managing family commitments, and trying to make a little time for themselves! From balancing kids' activities with family time to learning when to say no, in this episode you’ll hear practical advice to help you protect your energy and prioritize what matters most. Pop in those earbuds or grab a basket of laundry to fold and let's figure out what your best "yes" is for this season.

Episode Recap:

- 3:57 Survival Guide to Motherhood is now available as an online course! Register today

- 6:14 My schedule is packed and I was recently asked to lead a group at church. I want to say no, but how can I?

- 8:37 I’m conflicted about travel sports - help!

- 12:31 I’m exhausted, how do I stay connected to my husband in this season of parenting?

- 15:42 How can I set boundaries now to avoid overcommitment in the future?

Scripture for Reflection:

Matthew 6:33 (NIV) "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”

Questions for Discussion:

How do you evaluate whether a commitment is a “best yes” for your family? What criteria do you use to make sure your commitments support your family’s well-being?
How can you ensure that your marriage remains a priority amidst the busyness of life? Is this easy for you or is it a struggle?
Karen talks about dividing your time into three categories: essentials, non-negotiables, and bonuses. How do you currently categorize your commitments? What activities or priorities fall into each category in your life? Are there any adjustments you feel called to make after reflecting on this concept?
What strategies can you implement to create intentional rest and unstructured family time in your weekly routine?

Resources:

Register for Survival Guide to Motherhood today: www.boaw.mom/SGTM Use coupon code THRIVE for your exclusive Wire Talk listener discount.
Come hear Karen teach at an event near you: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/events
Join our private BOAW Moms FB group for community and collective wisdom: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

431: You Are Not Your Husband's Holy Spirit

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 27 Aug 2024 03:00:00 -0400

Today Karen and Emily dive into the dynamics of marriage and parenting, reminding us that we are not our husband's Holy Spirit! Karen talks about letting go of the urge to control her husband's spiritual journey, addresses differences in parenting styles, and offers practical wisdom for managing the emotional ups and downs that come with doing life together. Lean in for practical advice rooted in love and respect, remembering that it is God who ultimately guides our growth.

Episode Recap:

5:15 How do I let go of my husband’s lack of a quiet time?

7:41 Our job is to love and respect our husbands

8:00 My husband is harsh when he disciplines, what do I do?

11:29 How can I get my husband to take more initiative?

15:55 My husband’s moodiness brings me down!

Scripture for Reflection:

1 Corinthians 3: 6-7 (NIV): "I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow. So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow."

Questions for Discussion:

Can you relate to the feeling of wanting to control your husband's spiritual walk? When has this happened in your own marriage, and how have you handled it?
In what ways have you seen differences in parenting styles between you and your spouse? What strengths does your husband’s style bring to the family? What strengths does your style bring? Do you think you make a good team or is there a lack of balance?
Do you ever struggle with resentment or feeling overwhelmed in your role as a wife and mother? What steps have you taken to address these feelings, and how did your husband respond?
When your husband is in a "blue mood," how do you typically react? Have you found any strategies that help both of you during those times, and how do you maintain your own emotional balance?
Reflecting on the idea of giving space in your marriage, how have you or your husband used space to deescalate tensions? What are some practical ways you’ve implemented this in your relationship?

Resources:

Check out BOAW’s curriculum Parenting Together (from Preschool to Prom): https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/studies/products/parenting-together-digital-video
Come hear Karen teach at an event near you: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/events
Join our private BOAW Moms FB group for community and collective wisdom: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

430: Empowering Moms to Pray on All Occasions

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 20 Aug 2024 03:00:00 -0400

In the final episode of our 3-part series on Ephesians 6:14-18, we're taking an in-depth look at verse 18 and Paul's call to pray in the Spirit on all occasions. Karen and Emily explore what it means to be vigilant in prayer and the different types of prayers we should keep in mind. They also dive into how we, as moms, can cultivate a consistent and effective prayer life and teach our kids to pray. This conversation is rich with wisdom and Scripture, so pull up a chair and have your Bible nearby as we close out this powerful series!

Episode Recap:

5:55 Ephesians 6:18- Paul’s admonition to the church to pray in the spirit on all occasions

8:54 What are the different types of prayers we need to keep in mind?

13:20 How can we develop a consistent and effective prayer life as moms?

14:41 How do we teach our kids to pray?

17:47 Putting on the armor of God empowers us

21:30 Karen shares various times from her life when she depended on prayer

Scripture for Reflection:

Ephesians 6:18 (NIV): “And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.”

Questions for Discussion:

Reflecting on Ephesians 6:18, how do you personally practice "praying in the Spirit on all occasions"? What are some specific ways you integrate prayer into your daily routine, and how has that impacted your spiritual life?
Karen and Emily discussed different types of prayers we should keep in mind.
Which type of prayer do you find yourself leaning on the most, and why? Are there any types of prayers you feel you could focus on more in your life?
Can you recall a time in your own life when prayer was essential in getting through a difficult situation? How did that experience strengthen your faith?
What challenges have you faced in maintaining a regular prayer practice? What strategies have you found helpful in overcoming these obstacles?
How have you approached teaching prayer to your children? What methods or practices have you found effective in helping them develop their own prayer lives?

Resources:

Check out BOAW’s 52 week prayer journal: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/accessories/products/moments-in-prayer-52-week-prayer-journal
Come hear Karen teach at an event near you: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/events
Join our private BOAW Moms FB group for community and collective wisdom: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

429: Standing Firm: How to Equip Yourself with Spiritual Armor for Daily Battles

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 13 Aug 2024 03:00:00 -0400

Today we're diving deep into Ephesians 6:14-18, exploring how to equip ourselves with spiritual armor needed for the daily battles we face. Karen and Emily discuss the practical steps to "put on" the belt of truth, the breastplate of righteousness, and the gospel of peace, empowering you to stand firm against the challenges of life. This conversation is chock full of Scripture, so grab your Bible and follow along as we discover how to stand firm, knowing that God is with us in every fight.

Episode Recap:

4:19 Today we’re looking at Ephesians 6:14-18 together

6:54 We have to strap on the truth of Jesus Christ. We have to know what He says, which means reading our Bibles

7:58 Use Scripture to combat the lies we face in our daily lives

15:10 How do we practically put on the belt of truth?

17:39 What is the breastplate of righteousness and how do we “put it on” practically speaking?

22:43 Let’s break down what it means to “have your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace”

26:00 We can’t hold it all together, we have to open up our hands and trust that God has us and our kids

34:20 Stand firm and fight, prepared with these spiritual weapons, because God is with you

Scripture for Reflection:

Ephesians 6:14-18 (NIV): “Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.”

Questions for Discussion:

How can we practically "put on" the belt of truth in our daily lives as mothers?
Consider specific ways you can incorporate Scripture into your daily routine to combat the lies and doubts you might face.
What does it mean to wear the breastplate of righteousness as a mom?
Discuss how living righteously affects your parenting and the example it sets for your children. How can you model this for them?
In what areas of your life do you need to trust that God "has you and your kids"?
Reflect on situations where you may be trying to control too much. How can you release those burdens and trust in God's provision?
How can being rooted in the gospel of peace help you navigate the challenges of motherhood? Discuss how staying grounded in God's peace can shape your reactions to stressful situations and bring a calming influence to your family.

Resources:

Grab Karen’s 365 day devotional Moments with God for Moms: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/accessories/products/copy-of-moments-with-god-for-moms-daily-devotional-faux-leather
Check out BOAW’s 52 week prayer journal: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/accessories/products/moments-in-prayer-52-week-prayer-journal
Come hear Karen teach at an event near you: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/events
Join our private BOAW Moms FB group for community and collective wisdom: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

428: Armor of God: Preparing for Spiritual Battles in the New School Year

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 06 Aug 2024 03:00:00 -0400

Back-to-school feels like the start of a new year for moms, so it’s a perfect time to prepare our hearts and minds. Over the next three weeks, we're diving into Ephesians to explore the armor of God, a biblical metaphor Paul uses to remind us that we are in a spiritual battle every day. This isn't about fear—it's about living a victorious life through Christ.

Join us as we encourage you to wake up, equip yourself with God’s truth, and get ready to stand strong in this new season. You’ve got this, and with God’s help, it’s going to be an amazing school year!

Episode Recap:

4:30 Karen recaps upcoming speaking events and her travel calendar

6:00 The new school year as the real "new year" for moms

9:11 Why is the armor of God crucial for spiritual battles?

12:32 We don’t think about the fact that we are in a spiritual battle everyday

16:43 How do we practically apply this in our families? Karen offers tangible examples

22:14 ‘Stand firm’ means we have to be ready. Wake up! Expect the battles to come and be prepared.

24:23 We have to retrain ourselves to see the spiritual battles around us and plug into God’s power

Scripture for Reflection:

Ephesians 6:10-13 (NIV): “Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.”

Questions for Discussion:

Why do you think Paul chose the metaphor of the armor of God to describe our spiritual battles? How does this imagery resonate with your own experiences as a mom?
Karen emphasized the importance of 'standing firm' and being prepared for spiritual battles. In what areas of your life do you feel the most unprepared, and how can you start to equip yourself spiritually?
In the episode, Emily mentions that we often don’t realize we’re even in a spiritual battle. What are some practical ways you can remind yourself to stay aware of this reality?
How do you see the devil’s schemes manifesting in your daily life, particularly in your role as a mom? How can you counteract these schemes with the truths from Ephesians 6?
Karen talks about the need to retrain ourselves to see spiritual battles and plug into God’s power. What steps can you take this week to start viewing challenges from a spiritual perspective rather than just a physical one?

Resources:

Grab a copy of Karen’s all-new Survival Guide to Motherhood: https://amzn.to/4dxAL1o
Come hear Karen teach at an event near you: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/events
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

427: Finding Your Worth in Christ

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 30 Jul 2024 03:00:00 -0400

What does God say about you? Do you know?! It is all too easy to get caught up in who the world says you are, so today Karen and Emily remind us the truth of what God says. They talk about identity, the phrase “just a mom,” and fighting against comparison. We hope today’s conversation encourages you to celebrate your unique gifts and talents and focus on the truth that you are fearfully and wonderfully made!

Episode Recap:
3:45 Survival Guide to Motherhood releases today!

6:30 Karen’s purpose at BOAW Moms is to be your biggest cheerleader

11:50 It is critical that we base our identity and find our worth in who we are in Christ

16:40 Get off social media and stay in your lane if you struggle with this!

21:15 You are fearfully and wonderfully made, start out each day by meditating on that truth

Scripture for Reflection:

Psalm 139:14 (NIV): “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

Questions for Discussion:

Are there specific areas where you’ve struggled to see yourself the way God sees you? How has your understanding of your identity in Christ changed after listening to this episode?
Karen and Emily talked about the phrase “just a mom.” Have you ever told anyone you are “just a mom”? Has this episode helped you reframe that mindset?
Social media can lead to feelings of inadequacy and comparison. What steps can you take to "stay in your lane" and avoid comparing yourself to others? How can focusing on your unique gifts help with this?
Karen shared that her purpose in starting BOAW Moms was to be a cheerleader for other moms. How can you encourage and support other women in your community to see their worth and celebrate their unique gifts?

Resources:

Karen’s all-new Survival Guide to Motherhood is available now! https://amzn.to/3Vr7LlD
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

426: There's a Difference Between Nurturing and Enabling

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 23 Jul 2024 03:00:00 -0400

Are you raising confident kids? Today Karen encourages moms to take a step back so our kids can step up. She and Emily discuss the pitfalls of doing things for our kids and the reasons we often fall into that trap. They also talk about the difference between nurturing and enabling and share the critical connection between kids who take ownership and confident kids!

Episode Recap:

6:40 Why is there a whole chapter on confidence in this book?

8:32 Where are moms missing the mark when it comes to raising confident kids?

12:56 What role do chores play in confidence?

14:04 Small, practical ways you can allow your children to grow in confidence

Scripture for Reflection:

Galatians 6:5 (NIV): "For each one should carry their own load."

Questions for Discussion:

Can you identify any specific behaviors or actions where you might be enabling your child rather than nurturing their independence? What changes could you make to shift from enabling to nurturing?
Reflect on a recent situation where you stepped back and allowed your child to handle something on their own. How did it go, and what did you learn from the experience?
How do you incorporate chores into your child's routine? How have you seen chores impact your child's sense of responsibility and confidence?
What are some small, practical steps you can take to help your child grow in confidence? How can you implement these steps in your daily routine?

Resources:

- Pre-order Karen’s all-new Survival Guide to Motherhood today! Orders ship July 30th: https://amzn.to/3Vr7LlD
- Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

425: You Can Learn to Discipline Well, No Matter the Age of Your Child

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 16 Jul 2024 03:00:00 -0400

In this third part of our series on Karen's new book, "Survival Guide to Motherhood," Karen and Emily discuss the importance of raising kids with a strong foundation in biblical principles, even when it goes against the grain of today's world. They chat about how teaching kids to obey their parents leads to a more peaceful home in the long run. Don’t miss Karen’s prayer at the end of the episode asking for wisdom, courage, and blessings for all the families tuning in!

Episode Recap:

6:29 Discipline is hard and different for every child and in every season

7:43 Discipline has to be taught - it does not come naturally to children

11:42 Discipline has to be consistent.

13:00 The 3 stages of discipline each require a different focus from parents

17:07 The “B”s of discipline are: Be Consistent, Be United, Be Clear

18:08 In the later years, we have to give our kids the “why” behind the no

Scripture for Reflection:

Hebrews 12:11 “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”

James 1:5 “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”

Questions for Discussion:

Are there any negative behaviors you see in your child now that you are tempted to ignore, thinking they will grow out of it?
Karen mentioned the idea that "pain now will equal peace later" when it comes to parenting. Have you experienced this in your own life? How have you seen this in your parenting journey?
Which stage of discipline are you in right now? (Laying the Foundation, Teaching the ‘Whys’, The Coaching Years)
Do you think the pace of your life is preventing you from disciplining effectively? How so?
Of the three “B”s (Be Consistent, Be United, Be Clear), which do you struggle with most?
Have you ever prayed and asked for wisdom to know how to discipline your child? Pray together as a group today for the wisdom to discipline effectively.

Resources:

Pre-order Karen’s all-new Survival Guide to Motherhood today! Orders ship July 30th: https://amzn.to/3Vr7LlD
More Wire Talk episodes on discipline: Laying the Foundation, The Middle Years, The Coaching Years
Find ALL the episodes we’ve ever recorded on discipline HERE.
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

424: A Healthy Mom = Healthy Kids

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 09 Jul 2024 03:00:00 -0400

How do you make sacrifices for your kids without sacrificing yourself in the process? In today’s conversation, Karen and Emily explore this question and Karen offers wisdom on knowing when it’s time to prioritize yourself. We'll dig into taking care of your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health because a healthy mom equals healthy kids!

Episode Recap:

(3:31) There is a difference between sacrificing for others and sacrificing yourself in the process

(5:42) Surround yourself with the wise counsel of those who are ahead of you on the journey

(10:19) Good emotional health for a mom results in good emotional health for her children

(15:26) Take care of your spiritual health and invest in a resource to help you

Questions for Discussion:

Can you share a time when you felt you were sacrificing too much of yourself for your children? How did you recognize this, and what steps did you take to find a better balance? If you’re in the middle of this right now, can you share more about what’s going on?
Karen mentions the importance of surrounding yourself with wise counsel. Who are the people in your life that provide you with wisdom and support, and how have they helped you navigate motherhood?
Karen shares that emotional health is passed from parent to child. What was the emotional climate in your home growing up? What effect did that climate have on you and the way you respond emotionally now? How do you want to change or maintain that climate in your home now as a parent?
On a scale of 1 (not at all) to 10 (all of the time) how well do you think you are prioritizing your physical health? What changes if any do you need to make in this area?
How are you nurturing your faith right now, and what resources or practices have you found most beneficial in staying connected to God during this season of life?

Resources:

Pre-order Karen’s all-new Survival Guide to Motherhood today! Orders ship July 30th: https://amzn.to/3Vr7LlD
Grab a copy of Karen’s Six Truths of Motherhood and use code WTSix for free shipping
Pick up the Moments with God for Moms daily devotional or Karen’s weekly prayer journal for your quiet time.
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

423: Your Kid is a Crock-Pot, Give Them Time!

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 02 Jul 2024 03:00:00 -0400

Today we’re cracking the spine of Karen’s newest book, Survival Guide to Motherhood. Karen shares insightful excerpts from the opening chapters, exploring the ideas that kids develop like Crock-Pots, joy is a choice, and moms are the CEOs of their homes. Grab your copy of Survival Guide today. Check the show notes for the link.

Episode Recap:

3:17 Survival Guide to Motherhood is available for pre-order

9:58 Process of recording the audiobook version

13:25 Moms all want to “get it right” and we all want someone to walk alongside us

16:43 Kids are like Crock-Pots

21:19 Joy is a choice

24:20 Moms, you are the boss of your home

26:25 You’re not in control (God is!) but you can control the atmosphere in your home

Questions for Discussion:

Reflecting on Karen's analogy that kids are like crock pots, how have you seen your child's growth and maturity reflect the concept that progress takes time, much like a slow-cooked meal? Is there something going on right now with a child where you are finding it hard to be patient with their slow maturation process?
Is it easy for you to “choose joy” in your day to day situation right now? Can you share a time when choosing joy made a difference in your approach to a difficult situation with your children or spouse?
In what ways do you see yourself as the "boss" of your home, and how does this influence your daily decision-making?
Can you share an example of a time when taking charge in your household led to a positive outcome for your family?

Resources:

Pre-order Karen’s all-new Survival Guide to Motherhood today! Orders ship July 30th: https://amzn.to/3Vr7LlD
Want to bring Karen to speak in your community? Reach out: https://www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

422: Knowing When to Lean In and When to Let It Go

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 25 Jun 2024 03:00:00 -0400

In this episode, we're tackling one of the biggest challenges moms face: determining when to address a child's behavior and when to let things slide. Today Karen is answering your questions about managing high expectations, handling stress-induced blow-ups, guiding toddlers through tantrums, fostering honesty in kids, and navigating family dynamics with your less disciplined relatives. We hope today’s encouragement helps you find the balance between leaning in and letting go!

Episode Recap:

4:20 Are my expectations for my 5 year old too high?

8:06 Help! I have zero patience for my energetic kiddo right now!

12:28 You don’t have time “not have time” for your daily quiet time with God.

14:45 How do I handle a toddler who won’t stop crying?

18:53 I always have to fact-check my child. How do we stop the habit of lying?

21:09 My siblings’ children are wild at family functions and it sucks the joy out of our time together. What can I do?

Questions for Discussion:

How do you decide when to address your child's behavior and when to let things go?
Do you turn to prayer during challenging parenting moments, and can you share a time when it made a difference for you or your child?
Did you relate to the question about the toddler who won’t stop crying? Are any of your children especially sensitive or outwardly emotional? How do you help your child learn to express their emotions in a healthy way?
Do you have any relatives or close friends who have different parenting styles from you? Does it make those interactions challenging or have you found effective ways to handle those relationships?

Resources:

Pre-order Karen’s all-new Survival Guide to Motherhood today! Orders ship July 30th: https://amzn.to/3Vr7LlD
Want to bring Karen to speak in your community? Reach out: https://www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

421: The Secret to a Happy Marriage After Kids

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 18 Jun 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Want to know the secret to being happily married for 37 years? Listen and learn from Karen in today’s episode! We’re exploring how to navigate differences, keep the love alive, and build the strong, united front that benefits your kids. With personal stories, practical tips, and plenty of laughs, this episode is all about celebrating the joys and quirks of married life. Tune in and learn from the best. :)

Episode Recap:

5:21 A strong marriage brings security to children

7:53 Principle #1- Be United

10:14 How to actively listen to your spouse

17:05 Strategies to navigate and embrace differences

21:39 Principle #2- Be FOR one another

27:01 Be your spouse’s #1 cheerleader

Questions for Discussion:

What shared values are most important in your marriage, and how do you reinforce them?
How do you and your partner handle differences in parenting styles?
What are some ways you keep the romance alive amidst the chaos of family life?
Can you share a time when overcoming a challenge together strengthened your relationship?
How do you celebrate the small, everyday moments in your marriage?

Resources:

Pre-order Karen’s all-new Survival Guide to Motherhood today! Orders ship July 30th: https://amzn.to/3Vr7LlD
Want to bring Karen to speak in your community? Reach out: https://www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

420: How to Keep it Simple This Summer

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 11 Jun 2024 03:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Karen and Emily share practical tips for creating a fun and memorable summer for your family. From nostalgic ice cream runs and imaginative backyard play to volunteering and fostering independence in kids, they offer ideas for keeping summer simple and enjoyable. Don’t miss Karen’s nuggets on balancing work with quality family time! Share your own summer ideas with us on YouTube, Spotify, Apple, or Instagram and join the conversation!

Episode Recap:

3:20 - Karen shares her summer plans
5:51 - Karen was a laid back mom, so summer was a always fun for her
7:16 - Question 1: I'm a working mom and summer feels frantic for me, help!
11:04 - Question 2: I’m dreading hearing “I’m bored!” Any suggestions?
17:48 - Emily offers ideas: do your research and prepare ahead of time for a fun summer!

23:56 - Question 3: What are your thoughts on summer jobs for teens?

26:58 - Question 4: How do I manage working from home with my kids this summer?

30:00 - Remember, you are not the cruise director for your kids’ lives!

Questions for Discussion:

What are some of your favorite summer memories or traditions from your own childhood? Can you recreate or adapt any of them for your family today?
Do you have to balance work responsibilities with family time during the summer? How have you planned ahead or what can you implement that you heard in this episode?
How do you promote creativity and independence in your children during summer? Are you hovering too much or do you allow your kids to get bored?!
Reflect on the idea of not being the "cruise director" for your children's lives. How do you manage expectations and foster self-sufficiency in your kids?

Resources:

Pre-order Karen’s all-new Survival Guide to Motherhood today! Orders ship July 30th: https://amzn.to/3Vr7LlD
Want to bring Karen to speak in your community? Reach out: https://www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

419: Countdown to College: How to Make the Most of the “Last Summer” with Your Young Adult

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 04 Jun 2024 03:00:00 -0400

In this episode of "The Summer Before...", Karen and Emily discuss the summer before college and answer your questions about preparing for this big transition. They talk about fostering independence, celebrating your Senior, and teaching essential life skills. Emily shares some hilarious advice on dorm room safety, and Karen reminds moms to lower our expectations when it comes to phone calls. As always, tune in for practical tips and heartfelt encouragement as your child embarks on this exciting new chapter.

Episode Recap:
5:16 - Karen’s goal was to have her kids ready for independence by the time they left high school
7:19 - How can I celebrate my Senior well?
10:10 - Karen shares how she ended up at Auburn University
11:29 - What are some life skills I can teach my 18 year old this summer?
14:52 - Emily gives advice for how not to set your college dorm room on fire ;)

15:45 - How do I set my teen up to be supported in their faith while they are away from home

17:23 - Your prayer life is essential to your child’s faith

18:18 - What should my expectations be for how often I talk to my kids while they’re at school?

22:58 - Be excited for your child as they enter this new phase of life!

Questions for Discussion:

How are you feeling about your child leaving for college? What emotions have surfaced as you prepare for this significant transition, and how are you processing them?
How do you think the dynamics in your household will change with your child away at college? Have you thought ahead to how you will navigate that shift?
What challenges do you foresee in balancing guidance and allowing your child to make their own decisions? How do you plan to handle situations where you might need to step back and let them navigate on their own?
What are you most excited about for your child as they embark on this new journey?

Resources:

Pre-order Karen’s all-new Survival Guide to Motherhood today! Orders ship July 31st: https://amzn.to/3Vr7LlD
Want to bring Karen to speak in your community? Reach out: https://www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

418: The Summer Before: Preparing Your Child for Middle and High School

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 28 May 2024 04:00:00 -0400

As your kids transition to a new season in their school journey, summer presents a unique opportunity to support and celebrate them. In this episode, we discuss the developmental changes happening at this stage and the importance of letting your middle schooler discover their identity. We also tackle preparing your daughter for dealing with mean girls and how your child evolves during high school years. Plus, we explore the benefits of summer jobs, ways to connect with your son, and setting reasonable expectations for this new season. Tune in for practical tips and encouragement as you navigate this pivotal summer with your child!

Episode Recap:

3:25 - What is changing developmentally as our kids move on from elementary years?

7:14 - Let your middle schooler start to figure out who they are and find their path

13:47 - How do I prepare my daughter for dealing with mean girls?

20:43 - How are our kids changing as they move into the high school years?

25:10 - Is having a summer job important?

28:43 - How can I connect with my son this summer?

31:49 - How do I set reasonable expectations for my child in this new season?

Questions for Discussion:

After hearing about the developmental changes our kids go through as they move from elementary to middle and high school, what new insights did you gain about your child’s behavior or needs?
What strategies have you used (or do you plan to use) to help your middle schooler begin to figure out who they are and find their path?
What are your thoughts on encouraging your child to get a summer job? Do you think it’s important, and why?
How do you plan to set reasonable expectations for your child in this new season of middle or high school?
What challenges do you foresee in setting these expectations, and how do you plan to address them?

Resources:

Moments with God for Teenage Girls: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/accessories/products/preorder-teen-devotional
Want to bring Karen to speak in your community? Reach out: https://www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

417: Countdown to Kindergarten: How to Make the Most of the Summer Before School Starts

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 21 May 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Karen and Emily answer questions about helping prepare your child for their big Kindergarten transition. From building essential skills to creating lasting memories, we've got you covered with tips to make summer fun and to ease you into a new routine this fall. Don’t miss Karen’s life hack for getting those adorable first day of school pictures and her assurance that God goes before your child in every place they go and in every season.

Episode Recap:

2:45 - Emily’s feelings about her daughter going to Kindergarten next year

5:34 - Karen reminisces about Kelsey’s Kindergarten years

6:15 - How can I prepare my household for the Kindergarten transition?

9:35 - How do you manage tired and worn out kiddos after a (new to them) long day at school?

11:45 - As a working mom, I’m stressed out during the summer. How can I make summer special since Kindergarten will be a change of pace?

14:05 - Are there practical skills I should be working on with my rising Kindergarteners this summer?

16:50 - What FUN things can we do to mark this milestone in our kids’ lives?

21:00 - Don’t miss the BEST hack for getting those adorable first day of school pics?

21:45 - Any tips for communication when kids get home from school?

24:00 - God goes before them in every season! God has your kids.

Questions for Discussion:

Does the transition to Kindergarten make you feel excited, anxious, or something else?
What are you looking forward to in this season of your child’s life?
What worries can you give to the Lord about this next year?

Resources:

Want to bring Karen to speak in your community? Reach out: https://www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

416: 5 Must-Read Parenting Books for Every Mom

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 14 May 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Whether you’re parenting toddlers or teens - these 5 books will give you the tools you need to create a healthier family. Join us as we dive into Karen's top recommendations for parenting books that offer invaluable insights, practical strategies, and wisdom to navigate the ups and downs of raising children. From building strong connections to setting boundaries with love, this episode is packed with essential reads for every parent's bookshelf.

Episode Recap:

4:25 - These 5 books truly helped Karen in her parenting journey

5:25 - Personality Plus for Parents unpacks the four temperaments

7:30 - PPP helps you understand the child’s strengths and weaknesses, especially if they are very different from your own

13:21- A Grown Ups Guide to Kids’ Wiring - great for “translating” our kids behavior and helping us speak to them in ways that are more effective

15:40 - Boundaries book: moms are afraid to set boundaries with our kids, but boundaries bring security

18:17- The Birth Order Book explains how the order of our children and age gaps in our family can help us understand our kids’ behavior and tendencies

22:10 - The Five Love Languages of Children

28:02 - Honorable Mentions: Survival Guide to Motherhood, Parenting By The Book, Raising Worry-free Girls, Raising Emotionally Strong Boys, Wild Things, Shepherding A Child’s Heart, Parenting Your Powerful Child, The New Strong-Willed Child, Moms on Call Parenting Series

Questions for Discussion:

What is the most helpful parenting book you have read to date? Why?
Have you read any of Karen’s Top 5 books? Which one? How has it helped you parent more effectively?
Which of these books do you think would help equip you for the season of parenting you are in?

Resources:

Personality Plus for Parents: https://amzn.to/3UHqTdy
A Grown Ups Guide to Kids’ Wiring: https://amzn.to/3ysKgzi
Boundaries series of books:
https://amzn.to/3ypMYFM
https://amzn.to/3WFjXA1
Even Jesus Set Boundaries blog post: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/blog/2019/3/21/even-jesus-set-boundaries
The Birth Order Book: https://amzn.to/4bypAEl
The Five Love Languages of Children: https://amzn.to/4bCFkqe
Honorable Mentions:
Survival Guide to Motherhood: https://amzn.to/4bysA3z
Parenting By The Book: https://amzn.to/4bfuR46
Raising Worry-free Girls: https://amzn.to/4ag7fLj
Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: https://amzn.to/4dF5hH8
Wild Things: https://amzn.to/4dEN2lq
Shepherding A Child’s Heart: https://amzn.to/3UXO4l4
Parenting Your Powerful Child: https://amzn.to/44FtB7M
The New Strong-Willed Child: https://amzn.to/4bgvJWf
Moms on Call Parenting Series: https://amzn.to/44ClNnn
Want to bring Karen to speak in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
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415: Honoring Your Own Mother

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 07 May 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In today’s episode, we’re fielding questions about the situations you are facing in your relationship with your own mom. Whether it’s a conflict over parenting style, a strained relationship, or a concern about childcare, Karen has the practical answers you’re looking for so you can honor your mother while still maintaining your boundaries.

Episode Recap:

2:31 - Honoring your mom can be difficult when the relationship has not been good

3:57 - This can be a spiritual battle more than anything

4:40 - How can I help my mom out after the death of my father?

8:15 - My mom watches my kids weekly and their misbehavior is causing tension between us

13:00 - I’m afraid my mom will resent us choosing daycare, how would you address it?

16:37- My mom has a new boyfriend and I don’t want to be around his dysfunctional family. What can I do?

Questions for Discussion:

How would you characterize the relationship you have with your mother? Healthy? Distant? Conflicted? Non-existent?
If that is a healthy relationship, what part have you played in keeping it healthy?
If your relationship with your mom is difficult, strained, or unhealthy, how does that impact your mental and spiritual health?
What is one thing you can do to honor your mother this week, no matter what the current state of that relationship is?

Resources:

Grief podcast with Dr. Judy Wolfe: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wt-159-processing-grief-in-motherhood-with-judy-wolfe/id1101953069?i=1000436874170
Want to bring Karen to speak in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

414: God Does Not Give Us A Spirit of Fear

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 30 Apr 2024 04:13:46 -0400

Fear and anxiety among moms today is rampant. In the emails we receive, the churches we visit, and with the moms Karen speaks to- fear is a big deal. Today Karen teaches us a powerful verse and reminds us to fight fear with the truth of God’s Word.

Episode Recap:

5:32 - Generally speaking, moms these days are incredibly fearful

6:23 - If fear does not come from God, where is it coming from?

8:27 - I want to trust my family to watch my kids, but feel like I should be scared of letting others watch them based on what I hear in society

12:12 - Help! I worry about all the “what ifs” in life

16:23 - Every evening my anxiety spikes and fear persists

19:33 - My son struggles with fear and I find it hard to understand or be compassionate

Questions for Discussion:

Do you struggle with fear in your life? Have you ever contemplated 2 Timothy 1:7 “For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.”?
Do you truly believe that God loves your child and is actively pursuing your child’s heart?
How can you fight fear with the Word of God this week? Some ideas: memorize it, write it out and post it around your home, play worship music, etc.
How are you praying for your child and your home this week?

Resources:

2 Timothy 1:7: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=2+tim+1%3A7&version=ESV
Sissy Goff’s The Worry-Free Parent: https://amzn.to/3QcTp5e
Want to bring Karen to speak in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

413: Help! It’s gonna Be May…

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 23 Apr 2024 03:14:28 -0400

May is coming moms - and it’s full of school commitments, parties, end of year events and more. Today we’re talking about what you can do before the chaos begins to prepare yourself and your family for a more peaceful May.

Episode Recap:

7:36 - You can’t do everything for everybody

10:58 - Find the beauty in letting your Senior go

12:50 - Stay present and enjoy it!

16:25 - Find time for self-care

18:53 - Involve your husband in the to-do list

Questions for Discussion:

What does your calendar look like as you look ahead to May? What can you do this week to protect your time and account for the busyness ahead?
From 0-10, how are you doing with self-care right now? What little things can you incorporate into your day and week that help you feel like you?
When was the last time you spent time alone praying and reading your Bible or just connecting with God? Can you make time for that this week?

Resources:

Karen’s 365 day devotional for moms: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/accessories/products/copy-of-moments-with-god-for-moms-daily-devotional-faux-leather
Related episode: Preparing Your Senior for College - https://birdsonawiremoms.com/podcast/episode158
Want to bring Karen to speak in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

412: Trusting God Enough to Take a Break

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 16 Apr 2024 03:00:00 -0400

Today Courtney DeFeo, host of the Pardon the Mess podcast and a dear friend of Karen’s joins us to talk about raising her daughters. They talk about the season when Courtney felt God calling her to take a break from the professional world - which turned into a 3 year pause. Courtney shares what God did in her world during those years and the new season she is moving into now. She and Karen also share how motherhood uncovered their deep-seated selfishness and how the Lord has worked in their hearts to enable them to celebrate their husband’s successes. We know Courtney’s story will encourage you today!

Episode Recap:

2:40 - How Courtney and Karen know one another

4:25 - Courtney’s family and work history

9:55 - God called Courtney to take a complete break from work

13:53 - Just as He told her when to get out, He told her when to get back in

15:58 - Motherhood taught them how selfish they were

21:20- Being jealous of their husbands’ careers and successes

24:19 - Separating her children’s struggles from her responsibilities

30:45 - Pause and pray when you are tempted to jump in and fix the situation

32:58 - Learning not to overcommit

34:17 - Seeing how God has been faithful and brought women into her children’s lives to encourage their faith

Questions for Discussion:

Have you ever felt God calling you to a season of rest?
Is there any tension in your relationship with work right now?
Do you feel like you compete with your husband when it comes to your career or your success in life?
Do you struggle with feeling guilty or responsible for the struggles your children are going through?
What is something God has taught you through your journey of motherhood?

Resources:

Courtney’s podcast: Pardon the Mess: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pardon-the-mess-with-courtney-defeo/id1424241361
Ephesians 3:18: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ephesians%203%3A18&version=NIV
Want Karen to speak to the moms in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

411: "Dumb" Bible Questions Answered

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 09 Apr 2024 03:00:00 -0400

Today we’re answering Bible questions you might feel silly asking out loud! This episode is full of insights across a breadth of biblical topics. Be sure to check out the show notes for every scripture reference Karen mentions! We hope this one encourages you to pick up your Bible, pray for wisdom, and get reading this week!

Episode Recap:

1:45 - Emily’s confusion over multiple James and Johns in the New Testament

4:30 - Is everything all white in heaven? Where does that stereotype come from?

9:43 - What did the “judges” do in biblical times?

13:04 - Why do we tithe? Where does God command it?

15:50 - Help me straighten out all the ‘Marys’ in the New Testament!

19:03 - Why do so many Bible characters go by two different names?

21:30- What’s the difference between the Pharisees and the Sadducees?

23:20 - Where does the phrase, “for this child I have prayed” come from?

26:00 - Why do we obey the Ten Commandments but not the Levitical law?

28:30 - Help! Reading the Bible confuses me!

31:20 - Tools for studying the Bible

Questions for Discussion:

Did you learn anything new from this episode?
What tools do you currently use when you study the Bible?
Are there any “silly” Bible questions that came to mind as you listened to this conversation? What are they?

Resources:

Karen’s study Bible: https://amzn.to/4aGhFVP
John McArthur’s Revelation study: https://amzn.to/4aowoo8
References to the color white in heaven (in the order Karen mentions them): Revelation 3:4-5, 6:11, 7:9&13, 19:8&14, Matthew 17:2, 28:3, Revelation 4:4, 6:2, 7:14
References to color in heaven: Revelation 21:16-21
Tithing Scripture: Malachi 3:10 https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Malachi%203%3A10&version=NIV
Mary who poured perfume on Jesus’ feet Matthew 26:7: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=matthew+26%3A7&version=NIV
Name change references: Genesis 17:5, 15, 32:2, Acts 13:9
Hannah’s prayer of thanksgiving: 1 Samuel 1:27 https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+samuel+1%3A27&version=NIV
Luke 22:19-20, John 14:6
The Bible Recap podcast & study tools: https://www.thebiblerecap.com/
Want Karen to speak to the moms in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

410: How Can I Be More Intentional in My Marriage?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 02 Apr 2024 06:24:30 -0400

Danielle from Intentional Marriages joins us today to share insights from over a decade of working with married couples. She offers practical ways couples raising young kids can connect with one another on a daily and weekly basis and shares hope for couples who are struggling in their marriage.

We hope you pick up one practical tip that helps you be intentional about prioritizing your marriage relationship today.

Episode Recap:

11:45 - Connecting with Your Spouse in Seasons of Busyness

14:30 - What Does a Daily Check-In Look Like?

15:50 - Pausing to Talk Through “The Story I’m Telling Myself…”

19:10 - Tigers Vs. Turtles

23:15 - You Need a Weekly Check-In

27:30 - Everything Else Is Scheduled, Schedule Sex!

31:30 - Get Help Before Your Relationship Is In Trouble

Resources:

Check out Danielle and Russ’s ministry and resources: Intentional Marriages: https://www.intentionalmarriages.net/
Want Karen to speak to the moms in your community? Reach out to us for events in 2025: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

Questions for Group Discussion:

If you were to rank the health of your marriage today on a scale from 1 (on life support) to 5 (thriving) where would you put it?
Are you the “turtle’ or the “tiger” in your relationship?
What’s one practical thing Danielle mentioned in this conversation that you can put into practice this week?
When’s the last time you had a weekly check-in with your spouse?

409: How Do I Discipline My Strong-Willed “Red” Child

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 26 Mar 2024 03:00:00 -0400

Our strong-willed children can drive parents up the wall with their forceful opinions! In today’s episode Karen gives advice for any mom locked in a battle with her “red” child. She reminds us of the needs our strong-willed children have, and offers encouragement for coming alongside them without giving in to their demands.

Episode Recap:

4:28 - Why Karen Loves Her Reds

5:30 - Strengths and Weaknesses of the Red Personality

7:50 - Dead Giveaways You Have a Red Child

11:00 - How Do I Handle My 6 Year Old’s Stubbornness?

19:00 - How Do I Discipline a Defiant Toddler Who Hits?

24:15 - How Do I Break Bad Habits We Started During Covid?

29:05 What Do I Do About My Picky Eater?

32:00 - Give Choices to Your Strong-Willed Child

34:33 - Reds Are Your Leaders, Get Them on the Right Path

Resources:

Take the quick quiz to learn your child’s personality color: boaw.mom/quiz
Grab Kathleen Edelman’s book: A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring https://amzn.to/3vnmyUd
Check out Karen’s latest curriculum on Right Now Media: Survival Guide to Motherhood: https://app.rightnowmedia.org/en/content/details/760101
Want Karen to speak to the moms in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

408: How Do I Talk to My Kids About the Resurrection?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 19 Mar 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Today Karen is sharing a simple way to talk with your kids about the meaning of Easter. Listen as she walks us step-by-step through the Easter story using Resurrection Eggs. This may be a great new tradition you can start with your family this year!

Episode Recap:

11:00 - Karen walks through the Resurrection Eggs

14:30 - Old Testament prophecy Jesus fulfilled (Zec. 9:9)

22:10 - Don’t try to sugarcoat the ugliness of the crucifixion for your kids

36:05 - You can have fun with Easter and still focus on the reason we celebrate

36:45 - How can we share the Good News of the resurrection with our older kids?

Resources:

Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@birdsonawiremoms
Grab Resurrection Eggs for your family this Easter! https://amzn.to/48QOWM5
Pick up Karen’s Teen Devotional: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/frontpage/products/preorder-teen-devotional
Want Karen to speak to the moms in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

407: Choosing Between Conflicting Priorities

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 12 Mar 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Moms face conflicting priorities daily. From little things, like: do I wake up early to get a workout in or catch extra sleep because the baby was up last night to bigger questions like, do we have another baby or do I prioritize going back to work? The answers aren’t always black and white, but today Karen offers up wisdom to help guide you when you’re caught between two good choices.

Episode Recap:

08:34 - How do I shift my mindset about the heavy workload I carry as a working mom?

15:44 - How can I be a more playful mom?

20:07 - I’m finding it hard to be joyful as a newly expectant older mom…

22:37 - Help! The blue personalities in my life are draining me!

Resources:

Pick up Karen’s Teen Devotional: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/frontpage/products/preorder-teen-devotional
Check out Karen’s grandkids on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ee2YYTZ-mfQ
Listen to our Dad Color series from last summer: 368, 369, 370, 371
Want Karen to speak to the moms in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

406: Defiance in the Powerful Perfectionist Personality (Red/Blue)

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 05 Mar 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Today's episode rides the emotional rollercoaster ride of defiance, particularly with red/blue personality kids. Karen shares insights, encouragement, and practical tips for parents who are facing defiance head-on.

Episode Recap:

08:26 - Red and Blue Temperament Combination

10:16 - Seeking God's Wisdom

19:41 - Addressing Defiance in Children

24:56 - Gaining Respect from a Defiant Child

27:54 - Letting Fathers Take the Lead

Resources:

Don’t miss it! Register for Mom Core Online today! www.boaw.mom/momcoreonline
Pick up Karen’s Teen Devotional: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/frontpage/products/preorder-teen-devotional
Want Karen to speak to the moms in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

405: The Ultimate Potty Training Episode

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 27 Feb 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Today we’re answering your questions about the challenges of potty training. We cover dealing with frequent bathroom trips during outings and handling stubborn three-year-olds and Karen shares practical tips for creating routines and staying patient through the ups and downs of potty training. Tune in for helpful advice, encouragement, and reassurance that you’re not alone on this messy adventure!

Episode Recap:

2:16 - Potty Training Boys vs. Girls

3:24 - Frequent Potty Breaks Issue

5:15 - Motivating a Stubborn Child to Potty

7:16 - Dealing with Weak Pelvic Floor in Children

10:21 - Empathy and Understanding in Potty Training

11:36 - Strategies for Poop Training

Resources:

- Register for Mom Core Online today! www.boaw.mom/momcoreonline

- Want Karen to speak to the moms in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite

- Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

404: Q&A with Karen’s son Taylor Stubbs

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 20 Feb 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Taylor joins Karen and Emily in the studio today to answer your questions about creating a healthy relationship with your son. We answer questions about what experiences bonded Taylor’s heart to Karen early on in life and how Karen being a student of Taylor’s (blue/melancholy) personality helped him to feel known growing up in a house full of girls. This conversation is full of nuggets that will both encourage your heart and help you invest in your sons.

Episode Recap:

- Mother-Son Relationship Dynamics

- How Karen Showed Love During Taylor’s Teen Years

- Strategies for Interacting with a Blue Personality

- Learning to Communicate with a Blue Child

- Dating Rules for Taylor vs. His Sisters

- The Four S's for Blues

- Structuring Family Time for Blues

- Advice for Grandparenting with Sensitivity and Staying in Your Lane

Resources:

- Register for Mom Core Online today! www.boaw.mom/momcoreonline

- Want Karen to speak to the moms in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite

- Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

403: You Need Friends

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 13 Feb 2024 04:00:00 -0500

As moms, making time to prioritize friendship can feel difficult or downright impossible depending on your situation. In today’s episode, Karen answers questions about friendship from the new mom in town, working moms, introverted moms, and the mom who feels out of place with others in her peer group.

Episode Recap:

4:17 - The Loneliness of Motherhood
7:15 - Finding New Friends After Moving
9:15 - The Challenge of Making Friends as an Introvert
10:45 - Balancing Work & Friendship
13:43 - Dealing with Past Hurt from Mom Cliques

Resources:

Want to start a group? Learn more: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/start-a-group
Codependent No More book: https://amzn.to/4bmmrs4
Want Karen to speak to the moms in your community? Reach out: www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

402: You Need a Church Family

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 06 Feb 2024 04:00:00 -0500

If the church has hurt you - this is one conversation you don’t want to miss. Today Karen is answering questions about what to do if your teens don’t enjoy the church you attend, seeking a new church family, when church hurts, and how to respond to a church that seems to be slowly dying. We hope this conversation encourages you to persevere in your efforts to be a part of a local church and reminds you why it is worth it!

Episode Recap:
4:30 - There’s no such thing as a perfect church
11:20 - How to handle teens hurt by church
16:30 - Help! My teens dislike our church
22:00 - Our church is dying…what do we do?

Resources:

Available Now! Karen’s new Teen Girls Devotional: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/products/preorder-teen-devotional
Want Karen to come deliver some encouragement to the moms in your community? Reach out to Katie at www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

401: Encouraging Your Teens’ Faith

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 30 Jan 2024 04:00:00 -0500

We’re talking teens and their faith on today’s show. Join us as Karen answers your questions on everything from choosing a Bible for your teen to navigating difficult life situations and even to questioning God. Our prayer is that this episode gives you the encouragement and the resources you need to help guide your teens along their faith journey. Check out today’s show notes for links to all the recommendations from the episode and then some!

Episode Recap:

7:48 - Bible study recommendations for teen girls
8:06 - Announcing Karen’s devotional for teen girls!
9:43 - Handling apathy in your teen's faith
10:01 - Encouraging your teen to read their Bible
10:54 - Creating boundaries around your teen’s behavior

Resources:

Find great Bible studies for teens on Right Now Media: https://www.rightnowmedia.org/
Available Now! Karen’s new Teen Girls Devotional: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/products/preorder-teen-devotional
Great Bible for Teen Boys: https://amzn.to/48IJTOF
Katie’s choice Bible for Tween Boys: https://amzn.to/3vJVI8G
Karen’s choice Bible for Tween or Teen Girls: https://amzn.to/3SsgnHa
Guidance for your prayer life - The Power of a Praying Mom: https://amzn.to/3S91oAy
Boundaries with Teens: https://amzn.to/3OfuKfc
Want Karen to come deliver some encouragement to the moms in your community? Reach out to Katie at www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

400: Training Your Children To Do Chores

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 23 Jan 2024 04:00:00 -0500

It's a milestone episode for us—number 400—and today we are going to answer all your questions about chores! When should we start assigning them? Do we need to pay for them? Is it all just part of being in the family? How do we instill this into our family unit and get it going as a mom? Tune in as Karen shares how chores were handled in the Stubbs home as her kids were growing up and encourages us to reframe how we think about chores!

Episode Recap:

6:09 - Adjusting Chore Expectations

8:00 - Consistency & Allowance for Chores

12:20 - Tailoring Chores to Children's Ages

14:19 - Paying for Chores: Yes or No?

17:04 - Simplifying Chore Systems

Resources:

Want Karen to come deliver some tough love and major encouragement to the moms in your community? Reach out to Katie at https://www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite

Check out Mom Core Online, course registration opens February 2024: https://www.boaw.mom/momcore2024

Pre-order Karen’s new Teen Girls Devotional: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/products/preorder-teen-devotional

Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

399: What Should My Prayer Life Look Like?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 16 Jan 2024 04:00:00 -0500

Join us today as we dive deep into the heart of prayer, answering your questions and offering wisdom on where to start. From instilling the power of prayer in your children to practical tips about getting your mind focused when you pause to pray, we hope this conversation encourages you to make prayer an integral part of your daily routine this year!

Episode Recap:
- Overcoming Guilt in Prayer Life (8:47)
- Staying Focused During Prayer (10:16)
- Praying with Kids and Modeling Prayer (13:35)
- Structure/Format for Effective Prayer (17:34)

Resources:

Want Karen to come deliver some tough love and major encouragement to the moms in your community? Reach out to Katie at www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Kick start your prayer life this year with Karen’s 52 week long prayer journal: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/accessories/products/moments-in-prayer-52-week-prayer-journal
Grab Moments with God for Moms to guide you during your time with God: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/accessories/products/copy-of-moments-with-god-for-moms-daily-devotional-faux-leather
Pre-order Karen’s new devotional, Moments with God for Teen Girls: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/products/preorder-teen-devotional
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

398: The State of Motherhood Address | Part 2

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 09 Jan 2024 03:00:00 -0500

We’re back with part two of our “State of Motherhood” address and we hope you’ve got on your closed toe shoes, because Karen might step on your toes today! As we continue this candid conversation about the good, the bad, and the ugly aspects of being a mom, we talk about the necessity of taking ownership for your world and encourage you to root out laziness wherever it has crept into your life. Don’t miss Karen’s encouragement for us all at the end, that it is worth it. Despite the challenges and the seemingly never-ending work of motherhood - there are great rewards in this calling. We hope this episode reminds you that everything we do should be done unto the Lord, and that includes being a mom!

Episode Recap

• Stop blaming others, take ownership for your life (6:00-18:00)

• Stop being lazy (18:53)

• Proverbs 31 and the virtuous woman (29:17)

• It’s all worth it (32:07)

Resources:

Want Karen to come deliver some tough love and major encouragement to the moms in your community? Reach out to Katie at www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite

Check out Mom Core Online, course registration opens February 2024: www.boaw.mom/momcore2024

Pre-order Survival Guide to Motherhood on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Survival-Guide-Motherhood-Parenting-Christian/dp/0736990054/ref=sr_1_5?crid=3IHHWBH00N3CV&keywords=survival+guide+to+motherhood&qid=1703862226&sprefix=survival+guide+to+mother%2Caps%2C102&sr=8-5

Already purchased Survival Guide? Send us an email (info@birdsonawiremoms.com) with a picture of your copy and we’ll put you on our list to receive a brand-new signed copy when the new release comes out!

Pre-order Karen’s new Teen Girls Devotional: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/products/preorder-teen-devotional

Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

397: The State of Motherhood Address | Part 1

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 02 Jan 2024 03:00:00 -0500

Welcome back to Wire Talk, moms! It's a new year, and today we're kicking off a two-part series with a "State of Motherhood" address. We're acknowledging the good, the hard, and the unfair aspects of motherhood, and we're here to give you a loving kick in the pants to help you refocus and maintain perspective as we jump back into the “real world” this week.

Episode Recap

• What’s coming up at BOAW Moms this year (0:00-10:54)

• Moms are pursuing wisdom and excellence in parenting (10:54-13:09)

• Life isn’t fair (13:09-20:20)

• Being a mom is HARD (20:20-32:27)

• Lean in on Christ and on others (32:27- 35:57)

Resources:

Want Karen to come deliver some tough love and major encouragement to the moms in your community? Reach out to Katie at www.birdsonwiremoms.com/invite
Check out Mom Core Online, course registration opens February 2024: www.boaw.mom/momcore2024
Pre-order Survival Guide to Motherhood on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Survival-Guide-Motherhood-Parenting-Christian/dp/0736990054/ref=sr_1_5?crid=3IHHWBH00N3CV&keywords=survival+guide+to+motherhood&qid=1703862226&sprefix=survival+guide+to+mother%2Caps%2C102&sr=8-5
Already purchased Survival Guide? Send us an email (info@birdsonawiremoms.com) with a picture of your copy and we’ll put you on our list to receive a brand-new signed copy when the new release comes out!
Pre-order Karen’s new Teen Girls Devotional: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/products/preorder-teen-devotional
Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms
Connect with Birds on a Wire Moms on Instagram: www.instagram.com/birdsonawiremoms and Facebook: www.facebook.com/birdsonawiremoms

396: Preparing Our Hearts for Christmas | Pt. 3 The Lamb of God

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 19 Dec 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Today we’re wrapping up our three-part series, Preparing Our Hearts for Christmas, by looking at parallels between the circumstances of Jesus’ birth and the ancient Jewish Passover tradition. Listen as Karen unpacks the significance that Jesus is the Lamb of God, and His life is the very best gift we can all receive this Christmas.

Mentioned on today’s show:

- Give to Birds on a Wire Moms to help us carry on our mission in 2024

- Watch today's episode on YouTube

- Messianic Prophecies print out

- Scripture referenced: Exodus 12:3-27, John the Baptist declaring, “Behold, the Lamb of God!” (John 1:29)

395: Preparing Our Hearts for Christmas | Pt. 2 The Trustworthiness of God

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 12 Dec 2023 04:00:00 -0500

We’re back with the second episode in a three-part series leading up to Christmas. In the middle of this FULL season as moms, our hope is that these episodes allow you to take a moment for yourself and pause and reflect on the reason behind this season.

Today we’re focusing on the role Mary played in the story of Jesus’ arrival. Karen points out that Mary's life was completely disrupted when she was chosen to give birth to the Messiah, but she chose to trust God despite the messiness of her situation. Join us as we meditate on the faithfulness of God, who walks with us through the challenges and the uncertainty of our own messy lives.

Mentioned on today’s show:

- birdsonawiremoms.com

- Give today to help us grow next year

- Watch today's episode on YouTube

- Messianic Prophecies print out

- Luke 1:26-56

394: Preparing Our Hearts for Christmas | Pt. 1 The Faithfulness of God

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 05 Dec 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Join us for the first installment of a special three-part series leading up to Christmas. We all know how crazy December can be with shopping, family gatherings, cooking, and so much more. It's easy for Christmas to become background noise. But in these next three weeks, let's take a moment to pause and reflect on the faithfulness of God.

Today, we'll dive into the topic of God's faithfulness by exploring Old Testament prophecies that found their fulfillment in the birth of Jesus. Karen shares parallels between a God who kept His promises in ancient times and the God who keeps his promises to us today. No matter what your personal circumstances look like this year, we hope you’ll find peace as you reflect on God’s faithfulness today, which anchors us even in the midst of chaos.

Mentioned on today’s show:

Watch today's episode on YouTube!

Chapter 3 of Science Speaks (regarding the probability of one man fulfilling all the OT prophecies about Christ)

393: Parenting with an Absent or Uninvolved Spouse

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 28 Nov 2023 04:00:00 -0500

We know that for many moms, parenting solo is a daily reality. For whatever reason and for however long you are walking through this season, it is HARD. The questions in today’s conversation come from moms whose situations may sound like your own. We pray this episode encourages you today and points you to your heavenly Father, who always stands ready to meet your every need.

Mentioned on today’s show:

- Watch today's episode on YouTube

- Take the BOAW Moms Colors quiz for insights into your particular temperament

392: Raising the Level of R-E-S-P-E-C-T in Your Home

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 21 Nov 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Whether you have toddlers or teens in the house, disrespect can rear its ugly head at any stage of parenting. Today Karen helps us define disrespect, offers encouragement for the weary disciplinarian, and offers up a script for dealing with sassy behavior.

Mentioned today: BOAW Moms Colors personality quiz

391: Staying Engaged When you Want to Throw in the Towel

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 14 Nov 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Have your ‘say’ match your ‘do’ mom! That’s the theme of this episode as Karen answers questions from moms who are fed up, exhausted, or on the struggle bus in some form or fashion when it comes to parenting. We talk about going to the Lord in prayer first, finding your child’s “currency”, and looking for small wins during seasons you are stretched thin. No matter how old your child is, this episode is going to encourage your heart!

Mentioned on today’s show: Watch today's episode on YouTube!

390: Motivating Your Laidback Child

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 07 Nov 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Those laidback personalities are a dream to parent...except when they’re not. :) Today Karen and her laidback daughter, Emily, answer your questions about how to help these kids get going in the morning, how we can encourage them to make friends in new situations, what to do about a teenager with little to no ambition, and how to love and encourage a child suffering with low self-esteem. As always, we hope you carry a nugget of practical advice away from today’s show!

- Watch today's episode on YouTube!

- Take the BOAW Moms Colors temperament quiz HERE

- Learn more about all of the temperaments HERE

389: Establishing Boundaries with Your In-Laws

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 31 Oct 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Today’s conversation deals with an always tricky subject: the in laws! With the holidays approaching, this discussion is extra timely. You’ll glean wisdom on how to set boundaries, how to keep boundaries, and how to release the guilt that comes from not being able to please everyone.

Mentioned on this episode: Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend

388: Raising Boys Right: Balancing Discipline and Love

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 24 Oct 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Join us as we dive into the wild, wonderful world of parenting boys in today’s show. Karen shares her wisdom on re-integrating older sons who return from college and disrupt your routine, navigating the world of a perfectionist 7-year-old who's feeling blue (in more ways than one), and handling an argumentative teenager who could debate for a living. Plus, we answer the age-old question: when is it okay to ignore a temper tantrum in order to keep your sanity intact?

Mentioned on this episode:

- A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring

- Raising Emotionally Strong Boys book and workbook

- Wire Talk interview with David Thomas

387: Juggling Parenting and Marriage in Busy Seasons

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 17 Oct 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Greg Stubbs joins Karen in the studio today to talk about marriage during the busy season of raising kids. We cover how to handle disagreements, rekindling a connection with your spouse, and addressing financial tension. Listen in for practical ways to revive your marriage when it feels like you're living as roommates, and be encouraged that your marriage can thrive in the beautiful chaos of family life!

Mentioned on this episode:

- Invite Karen to speak to the moms in your community! Learn more.

- Parenting Together curriculum

386: Reclaiming Your Kids From Screen Overload with Arlene Pellicane

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 10 Oct 2023 04:00:00 -0400

There’s no getting away from technology use these days, but parents need to recognize screens for the double-edged sword that they are. In this conversation with author of Screen Kids, Arlene Pellicane, we discuss the threat technology poses to our kids’ development, strategies for developing tech boundaries in our homes, and action steps parents can take to reclaim their family time from screens.

Mentioned in this episode:

- Screen Kids by Arlene Pellicane and Grandparenting Screen Kids by Gary Chapman

- Parents Rising conference San Diego, March 2, 2024

- The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer

- Hamlet’s Blackberry by William Powers

385: Maintaining Consistency in Disciplining Your Toddler

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 03 Oct 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Whether you’re at home or in public, consistency is KEY when it comes to disciplining your toddler! Today Karen answers questions about setting expectations, addressing undesirable behaviors, and enforcing consequences with your little one. This conversation will leave you motivated and encouraged to maintain a firm but loving approach the next time your toddler pushes a boundary!

384: The Worry-Free Parent: Insights on Anxiety from Sissy Goff

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 26 Sep 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this eye-opening episode, we sit down with Sissy Goff, author of "The Worry-Free Parent," to discuss anxiety's impact on parents and children. We explore how anxiety can be contagious, affecting brain chemistry and parenting strategies. Sissy explains the difference between fear, worry, and chronic anxiety and shares practical strategies to tackle our own anxiety as moms. Tune in to learn how to break the anxiety cycle in your family.

Mentioned on this episode:

- Last week's conversation - Understanding and Supporting Your Anxious Middle Schooler

- The Worry-Free Parent by Sissy Goff and The Worry-Free Parent workbook

383: Understanding and Supporting Your Anxious Middle Schooler

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 19 Sep 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Today Karen and Emily welcome school counselor, Sarah Coats, to discuss anxiety in middle schoolers. Sarah opens a window into what she sees in her office and in the halls of middle school right now. We'll learn how to discern everyday worries from anxiety, and Sarah offers practical tips for moms who wants to support an anxious student without enabling anxious behavior.

382: Balancing the Needs of Different Personalities

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 12 Sep 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Today we are talking about how to address the needs of very different kids growing up under one roof. We cover personalities, educating your kids about their differences, and something most moms struggle with - bickering!

Mentioned on today's episode:

- WT 283 - Understand the Personality Colors

- Colors Quiz

- Personality Strengths and Weaknesses Chart

- More Personality Resources from BOAW Moms

381: Tween Girls

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 05 Sep 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Today we are fielding questions from the moms of Tween Girls. This is a tricky stage for sure, but also a sweet one. In this episode we’re covering modesty, social media, mean girls and more.

Mentioned on this episode:

- Register for Mom Core Online today

- Watch this episode on YouTube

- Colossians 3:14-17

- Arlene’s book Screen Kids

- WT116: Technology and Your Kids

- Stock up on Karen’s Lunchbox Notes for the school year! (Available in Kids, Teen Boy, and Teen Girl options)

380: 6 Keys to Thriving in Motherhood

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 29 Aug 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Today we are talking about 6 key areas that are fundamental to thriving in motherhood. Just like in college, when you had to get your “core” classes out of the way before you could move on to more advanced subjects, these fundamentals make up the “core” information you need to have a solid grasp on as a mom.

From over a decade of talking to moms and refining my wisdom on these subjects, Birds on a Wire Moms created the Mom Core curriculum. This curriculum has been available as a group study for years, but now it’s an online course that any mom, anywhere, can go through at her own pace!

Mentioned on this episode:

- Register for Mom Core Online today

- Take our temperament colors quiz - boaw.mom/quiz

- Watch this episode on YouTube

- Stock up on Karen’s Lunchbox Notes for the school year! (Available in Kids, Teen Boy, and Teen Girl options)

379: Establishing Routines and Rhythms for a New Year

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 22 Aug 2023 04:00:00 -0400

The start of school each year is like January 1st for families. New activities, new schedules, and oftentimes, new stresses! Today Karen is answering your questions about the transition from summer to school, how to stay involved in your child’s class, fostering independence in your older kids, and the mindset moms need to embrace when schedules are crazy and you are juggling allllllll the things!

Mentioned on this episode: Check out Mom Core Online - registration opens 8/25/23

378: Working Moms

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 15 Aug 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Today we’re answering questions from the working moms in the BOAW Moms community. We’re going to address the transition from work to home, the ever-present mom guilt, negotiating to re-distribute responsibilities on the home front, and learning to say no. Working moms, we see you, and we hope this episode helps bring peace to your home this week.

Mentioned on this episode:

- Check out Mom Core Online - registration opens on August 25

- BARNA study about mothers and the church

- Want to bring Karen to speak at your church? Fill out this form!

377: Back to School Basics (What Teachers REALLY Want This Year)

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 08 Aug 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Today the tables have turned and Karen is the one asking the questions of Emily. With her background as an elementary school teacher, Emily is sharing what teachers REALLY want this year! She’s offering tips for starting the school year well, sharing how to prepare your child for a new school, class or teacher, and of course, giving us the inside scoop on what gift teachers really look forward to getting. Tune in and let’s get ready for back-to-school together!

Mentioned on this episode:

- Autism interview with Dr. Kristen Hodges

- Check out the new studio on our YouTube channel! Subscribe, share and leave us a comment telling us what you think about the show. :)

- Stock up on a few packs of Karen’s Lunchbox Notes for the new school year! (Available in Kids, Teen Boy, and Teen Girl options)

376: Understanding Your Autistic Child with Dr. Kristen Hodges

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 01 Aug 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Dr. Hodges joins us today to share wisdom that comes not only from her clinical background in psychology, but also from 3 years of raising her own autistic son. She encourages moms not to fear a diagnosis, and shares how to pursue free early intervention measures and support from your community. You’ll love the wisdom she shares about deescalating situations with your autistic child and the advice she gives on how to discipline in a manner that works with their brain’s wiring instead of fighting against it. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it today!

Mentioned on this episode:

- Dr. Hodges’ website: TheSensoryCloset.com

- “Do not be afraid, God has heard the boy crying…” Genesis 21:17

- The Explosive Child

- Uniquely Human A Different Way of Seeing Autism

375: How Do I Lead My Kids When I'm So Overwhelmed? [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 25 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0400

From chaos in your newsfeed to chaos in your living room...there's plenty to be overwhelmed by in a mom's world. Today we're talking about how to have hope in the midst of a depressing season, how to stay sane despite bickering kids, how to manage the overwhelm of 3 kids under 3, and how to keep your home from falling apart on top of it all.

Loads of grace and encouragement in this conversation, moms! It's a good one to share with a friend who may be feeling overwhelmed right now.

Check out our whole series on Psalm 23: 359, 360, 361, 362

374: Prioritizing Your Marriage (Over Your Kids!) [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 18 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0400

It’s natural that our kids try to “trump” their dad and become the priority in a mom’s world, but your husband came first! And like Karen always says, you want him to be there after the kids leave home. Join the conversation today as we tackle your questions about keeping your spouse #1.

Mentioned on today’s show:

- A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids Wiring

- Worth the Fight with Karen and Abby

- Parenting Together from Preschool through Prom

373: Dealing With Out of Control Anger [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 11 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Whether it’s you or your child struggling with angry outbursts, we’ve all been there. On today’s show, Karen and Sunny tackle questions from moms about aggressive behavior and physical tantrums, and Karen reminds us where self control ultimately comes from.

Links from today’s show:

- 365 Devotional - Moments with God for Moms

- Curriculum lessons on Discipline: Mom Core, Six Truths, Parenting Together

- FREE BOAW resources to learn more about personality

- Karen’s recommended reads on personality

- Become a BOAW Patreon supporter today!

Wire Talk Has Joined The Christian Parenting podcast network

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 11 Jul 2023 03:45:00 -0400

We are thrilled to share this big news with you! Christian Parenting is a trusted source of practical and spiritual parenting advice in the crowded podcast landscape.

Visit www.ChristianParenting.org to learn about each of our partner podcasts.

372: Worth the Fight with Karen and Abby [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 04 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Listen in as Karen and her youngest daughter, Abby, open up about the highs and lows their relationship has gone through over the years. From sweet preschool memories through going to counseling when Abby was in high school, this authentic conversation will encourage you to fight for your relationship with your child, no matter where it's at today. As Karen says, it's never too late to start building a bridge toward a better relationship with your child.

371: An Interview with Two "Playful" Yellow Dads

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0400

We are wrapping up our month of dad interviews with two of our favorite YELLOWS today. With characteristic energy and enthusiasm, Al and Stu bring some “woo hoo” to the studio as they share how they view life through the lens of a YELLOW.

Mentioned on today’s episode:

Check out the rest of the episodes in this series with dads: 368, 369, 370

A great listen if you and your spouse are opposite personalities: WT 199

Not sure your color? Don't forget to take our quiz at BOAW.MOM/QUIZ

Want to hear last summer’s temperament interview series with moms? Listen to episodes 330, 331, 332, and 333.

370: An Interview with Two "Powerful" Red Dads

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 20 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Wayne and Matt join us today to talk about fatherhood, career, and family from the perspective of a “red” personality. Reds are natural leaders, action-oriented, and fiercely loyal. If you have a red dad in your life, this episode will help you gain empathy and understanding.

Mentioned on today’s episode:

Not sure your color? Don't forget to take our quiz at BOAW.MOM/QUIZ

Be sure to catch up on WT 368: GREEN DADS and WT 369: BLUE DADS

Want to hear last summer’s temperament interview series with moms? Listen to episodes 330, 331, 332, and 333.

Parenting a Red kiddo? Read Karen’s top tips HERE.

369: An Interview with Two "Perfect" Blue Dads

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 13 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0400

We’re back with two "perfect" dads on Wire Talk today! Greg and Matt are in the studio to share their perspective on life and parenting through the lens of a BLUE temperament. Blues are thoughtful, precise, perfection-seeking, and extra reflective, so we're confident you’ll take away some great insights into the world of BLUES when you tune in.

Mentioned on today’s episode:

Not sure your color? Don't forget to take our quiz at BOAW.MOM/QUIZ

Be sure to catch up on WT 368: GREEN DADS

Want to hear last summer’s temperament interview series with moms? Listen to episodes 330, 331, 332, and 333.

368: An Interview with Two "Peaceful" Green Dads

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 06 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Welcome to DAD month on Wire Talk! In celebration of all the great dads in our lives, we are diving into the temperament colors just like last summer, but this time, from the male perspective! You are going to love hearing from 8 different dads over the course of the next few weeks.

Today, Matt and Brian join us to share how they process parenting as a GREEN. What a gift to learn and understand more about how our green husbands and fathers relate to their families and the world around them. If you're a green, we think you'll recognize a bit of your own experience in this conversation, and if you're not green, we think it will give you surprising insights into the way greens approach parenting.

Not sure your color? Don't forget to take our quiz at BOAW.MOM/QUIZ

Want to hear last summer’s temperament interview series with moms? Listen to episodes 330, 331, 332, and 333.

367: Growing Pains - Navigating the Parent-Child Relationship As An Adult

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 30 May 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Adjusting to the dynamic of a parent-child relationship as an adult can be painful. Today Emily and Karen talk about the season of life that they are in right now and Karen answers your questions about extended family visits, aging parents, and even passive aggressive mother-in-laws. As with every episode, our goal is to give you tangible wisdom you can use this week to bring more peace to your home.

Mentioned on this episode:

Want Karen to come teach the moms in your community? It’s easier than you think! Fill out this form.

Love Wire Talk? Leave us a review on Apple podcasts. Not sure how? Head here and scroll to the bottom of the page for a quick how-to. And thanks!

366: Homefront Heroes - Wisdom for Military Moms

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 23 May 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode of Wire Talk, we're addressing the unique challenges that military families face. Join us as we discuss the impact of deployments on children, how to maintain a strong relationship with your spouse despite long periods of separation, and practical tips for making the most of the time you have together. Plus, we've got tips for supporting military moms from a civilian perspective. Whether you're a military spouse or not, this episode has wisdom for you this week!

Mentioned on this episode:

Want Karen to come teach the moms in your community? It’s easier than you think! Fill out this form.

Love Wire Talk? Leave us a review on Apple podcasts. Not sure how? Head here and scroll to the bottom of the page for a quick how-to. And thanks!

365: How to Break the Habit of Yelling (and other discipline tips)

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 16 May 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Are you tired of feeling like a broken record when it comes to disciplining your kids? Do you find yourself yelling way more often than you care to admit? On today's episode of Wire Talk, we're sharing practical tips to help you stay consistent and break the cycle of yelling.

Mentioned on this episode:

Related blog post: The 4 A’s Yellow Kids Crave

Scripture: Hebrews 12:11

Want Karen to come teach the moms in your community? It’s easier than you think! Fill out this form.

Love Wire Talk? Leave us a review on Apple podcasts. Not sure how? Head here and scroll to the bottom of the page for a quick how-to. And thanks!

364: Marriage Maintenance

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 09 May 2023 04:00:00 -0400

On today's episode of Wire Talk, we're diving into all things marriage. From learning to speak your spouse's love language to prioritizing time together, we're answering your most pressing questions. Listen in for practical encouragement to help strengthen your marriage this week.

Mentioned on this episode:

Want Karen to come teach the moms in your community? It’s easier than you think! Fill out this form.

We have a whole website full of resources for you! Check out our blog for more wisdom on your marriage.

Love Wire Talk? Leave us a review on Apple podcasts. Not sure how? Head here and scroll to the bottom of the page for a quick how-to. And thanks!

363: What To Do When Your Mom Heart Aches For Them

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 02 May 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Join Karen and Emily today as they tackle questions from moms who are hurting for their kids. From navigating the dating world to dealing with school pressures, we've got you covered with practical advice to help you parent with confidence. As always, you’ll come away with something tangible you can implement in your home this week.

Mentioned on this episode:

Read the blog post: 4 Ground Rules for Loving Your Blues

Want Karen to come teach the moms in your community? It’s easier than you think! Fill out this form.

Love Wire Talk? Leave us a review on Apple podcasts. Not sure how? Head here and scroll to the bottom of the page for a quick how-to. And thanks!

362: Psalm 23 - I Will Dwell in the House of the Lord Forever

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 25 Apr 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Join us for Karen’s teaching on the final stanza of Psalm 23: 'You prepare a feast before me in the presence of my enemies; you honor me by anointing my head with oil; my cup overflows with blessings. Surely your goodness and unfailing love will pursue me all the days of my life, and I will live in the house of the Lord forever.' With her trademark warmth and wisdom, Karen reminds us that God has set a table for us, and the enemy has not been invited to it! She challenges us to ask ourselves if we have invited the enemy to sit down with us?

Mentioned on this episode:

Invite Karen to teach in your community this fall!

New Living Translation version of Psalm 23

Listen to Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3 of this series

361: Psalm 23 - Even Though I Walk Through the Valley

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 18 Apr 2023 04:00:00 -0400

On this special live episode of Wire Talk, recorded at our Survive retreat in Asheville, NC, Karen delves into Psalm 23:4. This session speaks directly to the fears and anxieties that can overwhelm a mom. Karen weaves biblical wisdom in with stories from her own motherhood journey as she reminds us that God is bigger than our fears. This episode will give you strength and equip you to take your fear and worry to God, who is with you and will give you what you need for today.

Mentioned on this episode:

Go back and listen to Part 1 and Part 2 of this series

Want to put on an event with Karen and the moms in your community? Reach out to us today!

360: Psalm 23 - He Leads Me Beside Still Waters

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 11 Apr 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Join us as we continue our four-part series on Psalm 23 today with a focus on verses 2 and 3: 'He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters. He restores my soul.' Through her insightful commentary and personal stories, Karen shares what it looks like practically to trust and follow our Shepherd’s voice. Don’t miss reflecting on Karen’s poignant question at the end, “What am I not trusting my Shepherd with today?”

Mentioned on this episode:

Go back and listen to Part 1 of this series

Karen’s 365 day devotional for moms

Prayer Journal

Want Karen to come encourage the moms in your community with this kind of teaching? Get in touch with us!

359: Psalm 23 - The Lord is My Shepherd

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 04 Apr 2023 04:00:00 -0400

This month on Wire Talk, we’re sharing a special four-part series Karen shared during our Survive retreat on Psalm 23, one of the most beloved and well-known passages of Scripture. In part one of the series, Karen unpacks the first verse of Psalm 23, exploring what it means to have the Lord as our Shepherd. Join Karen for this insightful session as she dives deep into the rich and timeless truths of this beautiful psalm.

Mentioned on this episode:

Want to host an event with Karen in your city? It's easier than you think. Reach out to us today.

358: Help! What Do I Do About My "Wild" Child?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 28 Mar 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Do you have a child who is full of energy and constantly testing your limits? Then pop in those earbuds! Today Karen is tackling listener questions about raising a 'wild' child. She offers advice on effective discipline, seeing their strengths, and managing their over-the-top energy. Whether you have boys or girls, toddlers or elementary-age kids, this episode is a must-listen!"

Mentioned on this episode:

Get the book! Survival Guide to Motherhood in our shop and on Amazon

Want Karen to come teach the moms in your community? It’s easier than you think! Fill out this form.

Love Wire Talk? Leave us a review on Apple podcasts. Not sure how? Head here and scroll to the bottom of the page for a quick how-to. And thanks!

357: Know Your Self-Worth

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 21 Mar 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Today on Wire Talk, we're wrapping up our series on Karen's brand-new book, Survival Guide to Motherhood, by exploring the topic of self-worth. As moms, it's easy to feel like we're not enough, like we're always failing in some way. But the truth is, our self-worth comes from the Lord, not from our performance as moms or in any other aspect of our lives.

Join us as Karen and Emily share encouraging insights and practical tips on how to cultivate a healthy sense of self-worth, no matter what season of motherhood you're in.

Mentioned on this episode:

Get the book! Survival Guide to Motherhood in our shop and on Amazon

Want Karen to come teach the moms in your community? It’s easier than you think! Fill out this form.

Need to be reminded of your strengths? Take the Colors Quiz and be reminded!!

356: Know the Difference Between 'Your Best' and 'You're Perfect'

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 14 Mar 2023 05:00:00 -0400

Today Karen shares 3 destructive patterns in the life of a perfectionist. She and Emily chat about the burden a parent carries when they pursue perfection, and Karen offers tangible, practical things that we can each do this week to switch our focus from perfection to doing our best.

Mentioned on this episode:

Get Karen’s book: Survival Guide to Motherhood

Wire Talk is on YouTube. Subscribe today to help us reach more moms!

Don’t know your color? Take the quiz

WT episode: Looking At Life Through the Lens of a BLUE Mom

Gift a New Mom’s Box for an expecting mom in your world!

355: Know How To Set Your Own Pace

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 07 Mar 2023 04:00:00 -0500

To say moms are busy these days is an understatement. Most of us keep a pace that just isn’t sustainable. It’s non-stop from the minute your alarm goes off until your head hits the pillow at night. So today Karen and Emily are talking about how to set the pace for your family. Karen shares two specific problems she sees happening in families because of busyness and as always, we’ll wrap up with tangible, PRACTICAL things you can do this week to set a better pace for your family.

Mentioned on this episode:

Get Survival Guide to Motherhood HERE.

Join us on Patreon for just $5

Wire Talk is now on YouTube. Subscribe and watch full episodes starting in March.

Bring Karen to speak at your church, it's easier than you think!

354: Know How To Build Confidence in Your Child

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 28 Feb 2023 04:00:00 -0500

When our kids are young, we have to do everything for them. But as they grow up, some moms get stuck continuing to do for their kids what they can and ought to do for themselves. Today Karen encourages us all to take a step back so our kids can step up, and suggests appropriate tasks for our kids to “own,” whether they are 6 or 16. Don’t miss the connection between kids who take ownership and confident kids!

Mentioned on this episode:

Grab Survival Guide to Motherhood

Interested in having Karen come to your community? Reach out.

Join our Patreon community for just $5

Bonus Episode: Real Life, Real Moms with Kelsey Cordell

Karen Stubbs — Thu, 23 Feb 2023 13:54:00 -0500

Surprise! We're bringing you an extra episode this week!

Did you know BOAW has a monthly podcast available exclusively on Patreon? Well, we do! Real Life, Real Mom subscribers get an extra dose of Karen each month. Listen in today as Karen's oldest daughter, Kelsey, opens up about her family, her faith, and her walk with God. (Psst - you might want to grab a tissue before listening!)

Become a member of our Patreon community today and get a brand new Real Life, Real Moms conversation in your podcast feed next week.

353: Know How To Be a Student of Your Child

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 21 Feb 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Your child was uniquely formed by God before he or she took their first breath. When we approach a child with their uniqueness in mind, we can parent more effectively. Join Karen and Emily as they discuss temperaments and love languages and show us how we can use these lenses to study our child and parent them in wisdom.

Mentioned on this episode:

Survival Guide to Motherhood by Karen Stubbs

Personality Plus for Parents by Florence Littauer

Birth Order book by Kevin Lehmen

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Colors Quiz

Additional Personality Resources

352: Know How To Discipline

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 14 Feb 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Discipline might just be the most critical survival skill a mom can have! Whether you have toddlers or teens in the home, this episode gives practical steps you can take to focus on discipline this week. Listen for Karen's 3 stages of discipline and learn what each stage requires from parents. This is a great episode for dads to tune in to as well!

Get the book! Survival Guide to Motherhood

Deep dive into discipline with more episodes:

WT 154: Laying the Foundation

WT 155: The Middle Years

WT 156: Adolescence & Beyond

Find blog posts, more Wire Talk episodes and Karen's upcoming speaking events at birdsonawiremoms.com

351: Know How To Stay Connected To Your Spouse

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 07 Feb 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Our family began with our marriage, and hopefully our marriage will be there long after the kids move out! Today we’re digging into the next chapter of Karen’s new book, Survival Guide to Motherhood - How to Stay Connected To Your Spouse. Listen in for Karen’s marital wisdom on respect, expectations, sex, and the idea of “choosing love.”

Mentioned on this episode:

Past episodes on sex + motherhood: WT 131 with Dr. Mike Sytsma, WT 165 with Juli Slattery

Get the book! Survival Guide to Motherhood

Invite Karen to speak to the moms in your community!

How the heck do I leave a WT review? (scroll all the way to the bottom of the page)

350: Know How To Keep Your Sanity

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 31 Jan 2023 04:00:00 -0500

We sacrifice all the time as a mom, and if we’re not careful, we can lose ourselves in the process. This week we’re discussing the next chapter of Survival Guide to Motherhood- Know How To Keep Your Sanity.

Karen reminds us of the importance of paying attention to our health and gives practical tips for keeping healthy in 4 different aspects of life, which will in turn, keep us from losing our minds as we raise our child!

Mentioned on this episode:

Chapter 1 of SGTM: Know How To Get Through the Day

Chapter 2 of SGTM: Know How To Take Charge of Your Home

Get the book! Survival Guide to Motherhood

Karen’s Self Talk curriculum

Karen’s daily devotional and prayer journal for moms

How the heck do I leave a WT review? (scroll all the way to the bottom of the page)

349: Know How To Take Charge of Your Home

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 04:00:00 -0500

We’re in the second week of diving into Karen’s new book: Survival Guide to Motherhood. Today we’re unpacking Karen’s accumulated wisdom on taking charge in your home. If you are struggling with a home that seems to have been taken over by a surly teenage attitude or by a tyrannical toddler, this episode is for you! Don't miss Karen's practical tips for taking back charge so you feel at ease and at peace in your own home.

Mentioned on this episode:

Chapter 1 of Survival Guide to Motherhood: Know How To Get Through the Day

Get the book! Survival Guide to Motherhood

Invite Karen to speak to your community or church

Meal Planning blog post

348: Know How To Get Through The Day

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 17 Jan 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Dive in to Karen's brand-new book, Survival Guide to Motherhood, with us today! We are digging deep into the first chapter, Know How to Get Through the Day. This one is for new moms, for whom each day can feel like a lifetime, and for seasoned moms, who face unanticipated challenges almost every season. You're going to love Karen's perspective on choosing joy daily!

Mentioned on this episode:

Survival Guide to Motherhood

347: Raising Emotionally Strong Boys with David Thomas

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 04:00:00 -0500

Today friend of BOAW and family therapist, David Thomas, joins us in the studio to talk about our boys and their emotional health. He shares practical wisdom for how parents can equip boys with the tools they need to understand and manage their emotions. Don’t miss David sharing who we can look to as the ultimate blueprint for masculinity!

Mentioned on this episode:

Wire Talk #140 with David Thomas - The Emotional World of Kids

Grab a copy of David's new book - Raising Emotionally Strong Boys

Accompanying workbook - Tools Your Son Can Build on For Life

346: Creating the Community You Crave

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 02 Jan 2023 07:24:00 -0500

Motherhood is a journey, and it’s often a lonely one. Today we’re talking about taking one step to create the community that you are craving - starting a moms group. We are answering your questions about what that could look like and giving you encouragement to go for it!

Mentioned on today’s episode:

Join our private Facebook group for all moms

Join our private Facebook group for group leaders

Which BOAW study is right for your group of moms?

More episodes on starting a group: WT 143, WT 193

Still have questions or doubts? Email us at info@birdsonawiremoms.com for a virtual pep talk!

345: Walking Through the Christmas Story: Luke 2:1-21

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 20 Dec 2022 04:00:00 -0500

We are wrapping up our reading of the Christmas Story today in chapter 2 of Luke. I think you’ll enjoy re-visiting this famous birth story through fresh eyes as we unpack Luke’s words verse by verse.

Questions for Reflection:

What is God doing in my life that I need to be treasuring in this season?
Do you need to ask God to help you keep faith during a season when you can’t see Him at work in your life?

Mentioned on this episode:

Go back and listen to this series from the beginning: WT 342, WT 343, WT 344

Order Karen’s new book, Survival Guide to Motherhood, today!

344: Walking Through the Christmas Story: Luke 1:39-56

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 13 Dec 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Today in Luke, we read about Mary sharing her good news with her cousin, Elizabeth. I love that Luke recorded this intimate look at two women’s friendship and the way they rejoiced with one another! As you listen and read this passage on your own this week - reflect and ask yourself, “Who do I run to when I want to celebrate?” and, “When life gives me a surprise, is my first instinct to praise God?”

Mentioned on this episode:

Go back and listen to this series from the beginning: WT 342, WT 343

Order Karen’s new book, Survival Guide to Motherhood, today!

343: Walking Through the Christmas Story: Luke 1:26-38

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 06 Dec 2022 04:00:00 -0500

We’re continuing to unpack Luke’s account of the Christmas story today in chapter 1 of Luke. As Karen breaks down the angel Gabriel’s visit to Mary and her response to him she draws out beautiful and practical truths we can learn from this section of Scripture.

Mentioned on today’s episode:

Wire Talk series on James

Luke 1:26-38 (NLT version)

Life Application Study Bible

2 Samuel 7 - God’s promise to David that his kingdom will never end

342: Walking Through the Christmas Story: Luke 1:1-25

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 29 Nov 2022 04:00:00 -0500

It’s easy as a mom to spend all of your time leading up to Christmas morning checking off a giant to-do list and completely neglect to set aside any time to focus your heart on what the point of all this fuss is - JESUS’s arrival! That’s why, over the next 4 weeks Karen is going to walk us through the Christmas story as recorded by Luke, and give you a slice of time that is just for your spirit. Today we are getting started in Luke 1 with the story of Zechariah and his wife, Elizabeth.

Mentioned on this episode:

Wire Talk James study - Week 1

Luke 1:1-25 NLT version

Life Application Study Bible

Pre-order Survival Guide to Motherhood!

341: Handling Extended Family (Especially Around the Holidays!)

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 22 Nov 2022 04:00:00 -0500

The holidays are a special time of year but they can be extremely tricky for families. Whether you're traveling or staying home, struggling with your mother-in-law or your own mom, there’s lots of family time involved and that often leads to tension. Today Karen gives moms tips for having tactful conversations with grandparents, preparing our kids for situations that are outside the everyday, and being especially proactive as we parent at this time of year.

Mentioned on the episode:

Pre-order Survival Guide to Motherhood today!

Find resources for educating grandparents or other family members about your child's personality color HERE.

340: Tackling Sensitive Topics with Your Teenager

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 15 Nov 2022 04:00:00 -0500

What topics aren’t sensitive when you’re talking to a teenager! Today Karen is tackling tricky questions, from how to talk about health issues and personality differences to sneaky behavior and dealing with aging parents. As always, Karen doles out her trademark practical wisdom with some gems for the teenage years!

Mentioned on today’s episode:

Karen’s new book is available for pre-order!

Take Birds on a Wire’s personality colors quiz HERE

Find more BOAW personality resources HERE.

Kathleen Edelman’s A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring

339: Technology and Your Kids

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 08 Nov 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Technology is increasingly a part of every aspect of today's world and there is so much to navigate! From gaming to social media to smartphones and everything in between, today Karen is answering questions about how to set boundaries and how to think about the technology we allow into our homes and into our kids' lives.

Mentioned on today’s episode:

GABB Wireless - safe phones for kids

Wire Talk episode 116 with expert Tom Shefchunas

Circle internet filtering

Right Now Media - video library for kids

Good Pictures, Bad Pictures (book about pornography for ages 6-11)

Good Pictures, Bad Pictures JR. (ages 3-6)

338: Brave Enough to Be Broken with Toni Collier

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 01 Nov 2022 04:00:00 -0400

Toni Collier, founder of the women’s ministry, Broken Crayons Still Color, joins Karen today to talk about the message of her brand new book - Brave Enough to be Broken. We know you’ll enjoy hearing Toni’s personal story and resonate with the message that God uses all of our brokenness for His glory.

Be sure to grab a copy of Toni’s brand new book and share this episode with a woman in your life who needs some encouragement today!

Mentioned on today’s episode:

Toni’s ministry

Get the book: Brave Enough to be Broken

Connect with Toni on social media

337: The Nap Time Struggle is Real

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 25 Oct 2022 04:00:00 -0400

If you have toddlers in the house, you know nap time is a BIG deal! Today Karen is fielding questions from moms desperate for a little afternoon peace. Listen in for tips on how to create a “quiet time” for your kiddo and how to navigate the tricky in-between season when they still need sleep, but just won’t surrender!

336: Letting Your Husband Lead in His Own Way

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 18 Oct 2022 04:00:00 -0400

Disagreement is inevitable in any relationship and marriage is no exception. When you’re parenting together, and your husband has his own way of doing things, disagreements cause even greater tension. Today we’re answering your questions about conflict with your husband, everything from planning date nights and handling criticism to riding motorcycles with the kids!

Mentioned on today’s episode:

Wild At Heart

WT 197: Creative Date Nights

Survival Guide to Motherhood (ages 0-5)

335: How Do I Handle My Toddler's Temper Tantrums?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 11 Oct 2022 04:00:00 -0400

There's a reason they're called the 'Terrible Twos' friends! Whether it's daycare drop-off, not wanting to share, or just not getting their way, it can take us by surprise when our little angels find their voice and use it in a big way. If there's a toddler in your home, today's questions will probably sound familiar, so listen for a pep talk from Karen to stay the course, not give in, and keep up the good work, mom!

334: Juggling Kids' Sports & Activities

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 04 Oct 2022 04:00:00 -0400

When you have elementary and middle school aged kids, the pressure and the busy schedule that come with pursuing athletics or the arts can really stress a mom out! Whether it’s pushback from your kids, or a strain on your schedule and your finances, today Karen gives advice on how to juggle it all and keep the most important things central in your world during this season of life.

Check out today's shownotes and find all things BOAW at: birdsonawiremoms.com

333: Looking at Life Through the Lens of a GREEN MOM

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 27 Sep 2022 04:00:30 -0400

Megan and Leigh join us in the studio today to share how they see the world through the lens of a GREEN MOM. They'll talk about what makes motherhood easy for greens and how it challenges their temperaments; if you're a green, we think you'll hear a bit of your own experience in this conversation and if you're not green, we think it will give you valuable insights into the green moms in your world.

Not sure your color? Don't forget to take our quiz at BOAW.MOM/QUIZ

Mentioned on the show:

Personality Plus for Parents

I Said This, You Heard That by Kathleen Edelman

332: Looking at Life Through the Lens of a BLUE MOM

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 20 Sep 2022 04:00:06 -0400

Today Ashley and Anisa join us in the studio to share how they see the world through the lens of a BLUE MOM. They'll talk about how blues thrive in mom world and what doesn't come easily to them as blues.

If you're a blue, we think you'll hear a bit of your own experience in this conversation and if you're not blue, we think it will give you valuable insights into the blue moms in your world.

Not sure your color? Don't forget to take our quiz at BOAW.MOM/QUIZ

331: Looking at Life Through the Lens of a YELLOW MOM

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 13 Sep 2022 04:00:32 -0400

Mandee and Erin join us in the studio today to share how they see the world through the lens of a YELLOW MOM. You know Karen is yellow, so this is one FUN conversation!

We'll hear what these yellows love about mom life, but also how it refines them. If you're a yellow, we think you'll hear a bit of your own experience in this conversation and if you're not yellow, we think it will give you valuable insights into the yellow moms in your world.

Not sure your color? Don't forget to take our quiz at BOAW.MOM/QUIZ

330: Looking at Life Through the Lens of a RED MOM

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 06 Sep 2022 04:00:08 -0400

Today Katie and Kelly join us in the studio to share how they see life and parenting through the lens of being a "red". They'll talk about working life, home life, and everything in between. If you're a red, we think you'll hear a bit of your own experience in this conversation and if you're not red, we think it will give you valuable insights into the red moms in your world. Not sure your color? Don't forget to take our colors quiz at BOAW.MOM/QUIZ

Mentioned on today's episode:

Personality Plus for Parents

I Said This, You Heard That

329: The What, the How, and the Why of the Personality Colors

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 30 Aug 2022 04:00:15 -0400

This episode kicks off 5 weeks of a new Personality Colors series! We're going to share what the colors are, where the concept comes from, how to find out your color, and why it’s a helpful tool for families. Then, week by week we're bringing you interviews with moms of each color to help you understand how this temperament plays out in motherhood. We hope you come away encouraged and equipped to use the colors in your family!

Mentioned on the show:

The BOAW Colors Quiz

Personality Plus for Parents

I Said This, You Heard That by Kathleen Edelman

A Grown Up's Guide to Kids' Wiring

328: When You and Your Spouse Disagree on Parenting Style

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 23 Aug 2022 04:00:14 -0400

We all know focusing on a healthy marriage should be a priority while you raise kids, but sometimes your kids are the source of conflict in your marriage! Today Karen and Sunny are answering your questions about how to navigate the inevitable disagreements that go hand in hand with parenting together.

Links from today's show:

Parenting Together curriculum

Our newest study: Survival Guide to Motherhoood (ages 0-5)

327: Equipping Our Kids to Handle BIG Emotions

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 16 Aug 2022 04:00:12 -0400

Have you ever been taken aback by the BIG feelings coming out of your child's small body? Today we're talking about angry outbursts, emotional meltdowns, sibling jealousy, and a crippling fear of failure. Listen and learn from Karen's wisdom so you can equip your kids to handle big emotions.

Mentioned on today’s episode:

A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring

The Anger Iceberg blog post

Snag Karen’s devotional and start the school year off right: Moments with God for Moms

326: How Do I Get Some Help Around The House?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 09 Aug 2022 04:00:57 -0400

Moms often feel like we work all day—either at an office or at home—and then we start a second shift in the evening: dinner, dishes, bathtime, etc. Sometimes it can feel like we do it all alone! Today, we're answering questions about spouses who don't carry half the weight, kids who are perpetual mess-makers, and how to motivate your family to pitch in and help a mom out!

Mentioned on today's episode:

Elizabeth Pehrson's ministry (mom of 8 who gives lots of chores!!): The Exchange

Moms on Call sleep training program

YouVersion plan: 10 Days to a Better Back to School

Snag Karen’s devotional and start the school year off right: Moments with God for Moms

325: Resetting Routines for a New School Year

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 02 Aug 2022 04:00:48 -0400

August is basically another New Year for moms, right? New schools, new teachers, new schedules, everything starts over and we get a chance for a fresh start. Listen in today for Karen's tips on hitting the reset button and starting off on the right foot this school year.

Mentioned on today's episode:

YouVersion reading plan - 10 Days to a Better Back to School

Karen's daily devotional - Moments with God for Moms

324: What Do I Do About Mom Guilt? [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 26 Jul 2022 04:00:12 -0400

The feelings of guilt are REAL in a mom’s world. Today Karen talks about how she's experienced mom guilt in the past and how she manages it in the present. She also offers advice on asking for help, dropping kids off at child care, and what to do when guilt creeps in. Tune in and be encouraged today!

Mentioned on today’s episode:

Moms of Teens! Register for the SURVIVE retreat today!

Get on Karen’s monthly email list

Share Your Thoughts about BOAW with us!

323: Teen Mental Health & Suicide Risk Factors with Debbie Causey [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 19 Jul 2022 04:00:04 -0400

Suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death among students today. As a society, we are clearly in crisis. As mothers, we are fighting on the front lines.

Today, mental health professional Debbie Causey joins us to talk about her own journey as the mother of a child with mental health conditions. Debbie also shares wisdom on the warning signs we can be alert for and the steps we can take to fight for our children's lives.

Even if you have toddlers and this conversation feels light years away, listen for a friend, a family member, or a student you know and love.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Moms of teens, register for the SURVIVE retreat today! It's a weekend away with Karen focused specifically on the challenges and the joys of parenting teens.

Karen’s book The Art of Motherhood

NAMI.ORG

National Suicide Prevention Hotline

Crisis Text Line

NAMI Classes

322: Understanding Sensory Based Behavior with Occupational Therapist Christy Bennett [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 12 Jul 2022 04:00:58 -0400

Mother and occupational therapist Christy Bennett joins Sunny and Karen today to dive into sensory based behavior. We discuss what sensory behaviors are, and how to provide the sensory stimulus (or lack thereof) that your child is craving.

Christy also answers your questions on how to talk to teachers about your child's specific needs and how parents can advocate for their child in the school system and in situations with other adults (coaches, church leaders, etc.)

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Moms of teens! Register for the SURVIVE retreat today.

Lucy the Lapdog

How to Leave a Wire Talk review

Share Your Thoughts about BOAW with us!

321: Sex and Motherhood with Dr. Mike Sytsma [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 05 Jul 2022 04:00:04 -0400

Dr. Mike Sytsma joins us to answer your questions about sex and motherhood. Dr. Mike is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Georgia, a Certified Sex Therapist, and a Certified Sexual Addictions Specialist. He is also an ordained minister who is passionate about marriage and helping couples grow in their marriage! We are so glad he is here to provide expert level advice and answers to your questions.

Learn more about the Survive Retreat for Moms of Teens

Take a second to tell us what you love about BOAW!

Intimate Marriage - Dr. Mike's online couples group

IntimateMarriage.Org - Dr. Mike's organization

Winshape Marriage retreats

Parenting Together study with Karen and Greg Stubbs

320: Tackling Fear in Motherhood

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 28 Jun 2022 04:00:16 -0400

Fear in motherhood is a very real thing. It starts when they're young: are they hungry, are they hurting? And never stops, even when they are adults! Many of us are worried we’ll mess something up and mess up our kids in the process. Today Karen reminds us what is true and where to keep our focus when fear threatens to take us down.

Get the New Mom's Baby Box: boaw.mom/babybox

Join our private FB community of moms seeking godly wisdom: facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms

319: Pick Your Battles!

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 21 Jun 2022 04:00:18 -0400

We've all heard the advice to "pick your battles" as a mom. But which battles are the right ones to pick? We asked you to send in the battles you're frustrated by in your home and Karen is going to weigh in with whether or not it's worth the fight. Play along as you listen, can you guess what Karen's answer will be??

Take a second to tell us what you love about BOAW!

Grab our New Mom's Baby Box

Save the Date - Survive: A Retreat for Moms of Teens registration opens July 10th!

318: Newborn Mom Isolation

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 14 Jun 2022 04:00:43 -0400

There are all kinds of books and podcasts that aim to prepare you for childbirth or breastfeeding, but one thing that’s hard to prepare for is the isolation you’ll experience in those early days as a newborn mom. From how to "get out there" with a newborn to overcoming FOMO because you're breastfeeding all the time, on today's episode, Karen shares wisdom for the newest moms in our community.

Mentioned on today's episode:

Start a BOAW Group and go through Mom Core together

New Mom’s Baby Box

Share Your Thoughts about BOAW with us!

317: How to Survive Summer With Kids At Home

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 07 Jun 2022 04:00:07 -0400

Whether you love or loathe summer, no one can deny that longer days, soaring temperatures, and no school routine means a change of pace around the house. Today we're tackling questions about how to keep your kids fed, how to manage work from home life when the kids are around, and how to inject FUN into summer as a red mom.

Mentioned on today’s episode:

New Mom’s Baby Box

Share Your Thoughts about BOAW with us!

316: Transitioning to An Empty Nest

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 31 May 2022 04:00:14 -0400

We spend decades trying to figure out how to parent them well, and then all of a sudden, they are grown ups and we are staring at an empty nest. Today we're talking about how to handle the loneliness that sometimes accompanies a quiet house, how to prepare yourself for this stage of life, and how to move into your new role as mom to an adult child!

Find all the show notes at: birdsonawiremoms.com/podcast/episode316

315: Transitioning Your High Schooler into Adulthood

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 24 May 2022 04:00:26 -0400

Just when you think you’re getting a handle on motherhood, your child moves into a new season of life and you’ve got to relearn everything! Today we're talking about high schoolers on the verge of adulthood. Karen shares her thoughts on how to let go without giving up, how to guide without pushing and how to handle college students when they come back home.

314: Transitioning Your Tween into Adolescence

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 17 May 2022 04:00:02 -0400

Ahhhhh adolescence. Everyone’s favorite time of life. Today’s episode is about that transition from almost teen to full blown teenager. From pushing boundaries to pulling away emotionally, Karen offers wisdom for how to help your child when they still have one foot in both worlds.

Find the shownotes at: birdsonawiremoms.com/podcast/episode314

313: Transitioning Your Toddler to More Independence

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 10 May 2022 04:00:44 -0400

Today’s episode is about that season when your toddler is growing more independent. From using the bathroom, to getting dressed, this is the "I do it myself!" phase of life. You’d think that means life gets easier for a mom, but each new season comes with its own difficulties. Listen in as Karen offers advice for keeping little escape artists safe, moving toddlers to a "big kid" bed and letting go of control so your little one can learn.

312: How Do I Respectfully Deal With My Difficult Mother?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 03 May 2022 04:00:45 -0400

If you had a difficult relationship with your mom as a teenager, you may be shocked to find that the relationship gets even more complicated when you become a mom.

On today’s episode, we are answering questions about boundaries, passive-aggressive behavior, expectations and we even have a question that a teen emailed us… a first for Wire Talk!

311: Walking Through the Book of James: James 5

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 26 Apr 2022 04:00:18 -0400

We are wrapping up our time in the book of James today by reading and talking through chapter 5.

I pray that this month has made you more confident and comfortable in sitting down with your own Bible to study the Word.

James 5:16 NLT "...The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results."

310: Walking Through the Book of James: James 3-4

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 19 Apr 2022 04:00:16 -0400

We are continuing our journey through the book of James this week. Today Karen is reading and teaching through chapters 3 and 4- focusing on the power of the tongue and seeking God's wisdom.

309: Walking Through the Book of James: James 2

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 12 Apr 2022 04:00:16 -0400

We're back in the book of James this week!

Join us as Karen reads and teaches through the second chapter of this highly practical book and shares truths that apply to our world today.

308: Walking Through the Book of James: James 1

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 05 Apr 2022 04:00:51 -0400

As Easter approaches, many of us feel like we should be getting into the Word and reading our Bibles, but if we're honest, a lot of times we don't know how to study the Bible! This month, Karen is going to walk us through the book of James, verse by verse, and share the nuggets of wisdom she takes away from this very practical book. Join us today as we walk through chapter 1 together.

307: When Mom is the One Who Needs an Attitude Adjustment

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 29 Mar 2022 04:00:29 -0400

At times we all need someone to tell us how to think about things differently, and that’s something Karen does really well. On today's show, we’ve gathered questions from moms who are burnt out, disheartened, or just plain TIRED! With loads of encouragement and a little tough love, Karen help us all adjust their attitudes in this conversation.

306: Faith, Family, and Loss with Bryant and Kristin Young

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 22 Mar 2022 04:00:18 -0400

All month long, we've been sharing conversations about the 'battles we don’t always see.'

We’ve talked about raising a special needs child, anxiety, struggling with a chaotic marriage, and today we are going to hear from NFL hall of famer, Bryant Young, and his incredible wife Kristin, as they share their testimony of walking with the Lord through cancer, grief, and loss.

From the prayer they prayed when they received the news of their son's diagnosis, to the way they walked this road with 5 other children at home, hearing their story will grow your faith.

Their testimony is one that epitomizes Romans 5:3-4, "...we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope."

WT 305: Finding Peace in Chaos with Jenny Boyett

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 15 Mar 2022 05:00:44 -0400

Today you’re going to hear from dear friend and long time BOAW mom, Jenny Boyett, as she joins Karen to share what it has been like to walk through a marriage that did not turn out the way she dreamed. Unless you have a friend walking through this season of life, or you are going through a situation like this yourself, you may never otherwise know what it’s like to be faced with this scenario. All month long, we are sharing these stories so we can grow in empathy and compassion alongside our fellow BOAW moms.

WT 304: Anxiety in Moms with Dr. Chinwé Williams

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 08 Mar 2022 04:00:14 -0500

We've talked about the anxiety epidemic our kids are facing these days, but there are a ton of moms battling chronic anxiety as well. Today, Dr. Chinwé Williams joins Karen to give us practical ways to combat anxiety and shares how to know when we need extra help.

WT 303: Raising a Special Needs Teenager with Cady Dugger

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 01 Mar 2022 04:00:30 -0500

Cady Dugger joins us in the studio to talk about raising her daughter, Christine, who was born with a rare chromosomal disorder. All month long we want to pull back the curtain on the battles moms in our community are facing, battles that many of us know little to nothing about. Our hope is that today’s conversation will inspire empathy and grow your compassion for the moms in your world who are facing unseen battles of their own.

WT 302: Hormonal Health with Dr. Sharon Marcanthony

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 22 Feb 2022 04:00:52 -0500

Dr. Sharon Marcanthony joins Karen and Sunny today to talk about the changing hormones women experience throughout our lives. We’re asking Sharon your questions about menopause, sexual health, postpartum depression, and managing PMS. Sharon reminds us of the importance of having a comfortable relationship with our health care providers as well as how critical community is in helping us navigate the changing seasons of our lives (i.e. don’t menopause alone!)

WT 301: Prioritizing Self Care

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 15 Feb 2022 04:00:44 -0500

A lot of moms put their needs on the sideline when their children are young- but when those children get older, a mom can’t even recognize what her needs are anymore. Self care is the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one's own health, and it’s something we need to make time for as moms.

WT 300: Prioritizing Your Marriage (Over Your Kids!)

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 08 Feb 2022 04:00:31 -0500

It’s natural that our kids try to “trump” their dad and become the priority in a mom’s world, but your husband came first! And like Karen always says, you want him to be there after the kids leave home! Join the conversation today as we tackle your questions about keeping your spouse #1.

Find links to all the resources Karen shared in this episode at: birdsonawiremoms.com/podcast/episode300

WT 299: Getting Your Priorities Straight: Friendship

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 01 Feb 2022 04:00:30 -0500

All month long we are talking about getting our priorities straight. Many of us try to do this going into the new year, but come February, we’ve already given up on many of the changes we said we wanted to make. So, think of this whole month like a priorities pep talk!

We’re going to cover marriage, self-care, and even hormonal health with a guest later this month, but today we are kicking things off talking about friendship.

WT 298: Limiting Negative Influences in Your Teen's Life

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 25 Jan 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Parenting a teen in today’s world is not for the faint of heart! Join us today as we answer your questions about raising teenagers and dealing with tough topics like pornography, low self-esteem, smartphones, and social media. Moms of littles, please listen! Looking down the road a few years can help you make choices today that will make your tomorrow easier.

Find show notes at: birdsonawiremoms.com/podcast/episode298

WT 297: How Can I Help Foster My Teen's Faith?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 18 Jan 2022 04:00:00 -0500

One of our primary roles in our child's life is to point them toward God, but their relationship with God is just that, it's their relationship. Your child is not an extension of you, and for better or worse, you are not in control! In this conversation we talk about the importance of being a prayer warrior for your child and how to approach them in a winning way.

WT 296: Disciplining Your Teenager

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 11 Jan 2022 04:00:00 -0500

Consistency is Karen’s key word for discipline and on today’s episode we are talking about what that looks like in the life of a teenager. From how to pick your battles and knowing which topics aren’t worth the fight, today’s episode gives practical tips and encouragement to stay the course and be consistent during the teenage years.

WT 295: Dealing with Teenage Drama

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 04 Jan 2022 04:00:00 -0500

We’re baaaaack! And we’re kicking off the New Year with a month of episodes focused on teenagers. Whether you’re the mom of multiple teens or you’re still in toddler world, you’ll benefit from tuning into today’s practical wisdom for dealing with drama.

Grab a copy of Karen's 365 day devotional for moms HERE.

WT 294: Real Life, Real Moms sneak peek with Ann Mason

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 14 Dec 2021 04:00:00 -0500

Today we’re giving you a peek into our Patreon podcast - Real Life, Real Moms!

Ann Mason and I have been friends for a while, and I've been so impressed by the God-honoring way she parents. She has three children, one of whom is special needs and non-verbal. We talk a little about that and the isolation and grieving that often comes alongside having a special needs child. We also chat a little about boundaries and freedoms as kids get older.

Become a Patron today and hear the rest of Ann's episode!

WT 293: Preparing to Blend with author Ron Deal

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 07 Dec 2021 04:00:00 -0500

Blended family expert Ron Deal joins Wire Talk today to answer questions from moms in our BOAW community and offer his unique perspective from decades of ministry with stepfamilies. Ron tackles everything from how to prepare your child's heart to accept a new relationship to disciplining stepchildren. This episode is packed with great advice, and no matter what kind of family you have, listening will leave you with a nugget of wisdom you can put into practice today.

Mentioned on today's episode:

Become a Birds donor and enable us to continue making episodes like this one!

Find all of Ron’s resources at SmartStepFamilies.com

Ron’s new book: Preparing to Blend

Join our Patreon community this month!

WT 292: BOAW Advice That Worked For Me!

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 30 Nov 2021 04:00:00 -0500

We love how this show has enabled the Birds ministry to grow and impact families across the world. Today, Karen and Sunny share emails from listeners with BOAW advice that is making a difference in their lives today. What BOAW advice has worked for YOU lately?

Find show notes (and that family values pic) HERE.

WT 291: Handling Disappointment at the Holidays

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 23 Nov 2021 04:00:00 -0500

When expectations collide with reality, especially around the holidays, disappointment can be the inevitable result. Today Karen shares how the holidays will be different for her this year with four married children and gives us practical ways to keep our heart in the right place no matter what the season looks like this year.

Become a Patreon supporter today and get immediate access to two years of Real Life, Real Moms episodes!

WT 290: How To Give Dating Advice Your Teens Will Actually Listen To

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 16 Nov 2021 04:00:00 -0500

Helping our teens navigate the world of dating can be tricky. In this episode, Karen offers fantastic, practical advice for keeping the lines of communication open and speaking truth in love into your teen’s life.

Pick up a copy of Karen's Prayer Journal in the BOAW shop today!

WT 289: Liar, Liar!

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 09 Nov 2021 04:00:00 -0500

Lying wreaks havoc on family relationships, whether your child is a toddler or a tween. Today Karen shares her thoughts on disciplining a habitual liar and reminds us of the importance of dealing with lying early and consistently, so our children's hearts do not get hardened to this sin.

You might also enjoy this episode: How Do I Handle My Sweet Little Liar?

WT 288: Good For Her, Not For Me

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 02 Nov 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Moms make all kinds of magic happen for our families. And these days, it’s easy to look around and see the awesome ways other moms love on their families and feel like you fall short by comparison. So today, we are celebrating some of the fun traditions BOAW moms have started in their families and at the same time, releasing you from any pressure to do the same things! You do you, because you are enough for your own family!

WT 287: Finding Consequences that WORK

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 26 Oct 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Disciplining children is both a science and an art. What works at one age doesn’t work at a different age and just when you think you’ve got a handle on things, they throw something new at you and you’re back to square one. Today we are talking about disciplining lying, how to handle a child who runs from confrontation, and bickering siblings. As Karen reminds us in this episode, children learn through repetition (and so do we!) so join us today and learn a few nuggets to help you out next time you’re stuck with a discipline issue.

Psst...don't forget to grab a copy of Karen's Prayer Journal while they're in stock!

WT 286: How Do I Lead My Kids Well When I'm So Overwhelmed?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 19 Oct 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Loads of grace and encouragement in this conversation, moms! It's a good one to share with a friend who may be feeling overwhelmed right now.

Don't forget to grab a copy of Karen's Prayer Journal while they're in stock!

WT 285: How Do I Handle Divisive Discussions with Friends and Family?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 12 Oct 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Whether it’s an issue surrounding family choices, politics, or religion, it’s not easy to know when to speak up and when to let something go. Today Karen offers wisdom for moms facing difficult conversations, and reminds us that as Christ-followers we can find a way to maintain personal boundaries and also be peacemakers in this world.

WT 284: Worth the Fight with Karen and Abby

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 05 Oct 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Listen in as Karen and her youngest daughter, Abby, open up about the highs and lows their relationship has gone through over the years. From sweet preschool memories to going to counseling when Abby was in high school, this authentic conversation will encourage you to fight for your relationship with your child, no matter where it's at today. As Karen says, it's never too late to start building a bridge toward a better relationship with your child.

WT 283: Understanding Your Child's Temperament (Their "Color")

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 28 Sep 2021 04:00:00 -0400

We get more questions about how to parent according to your child's personality than anything else! In today's show, Karen and Sunny answer your questions about kids with each of the temperament colors. As always, Karen offers practical tips that will help you better understand your child TODAY!

WT 282: I Am At My Wit's End With My 4 Year Old!

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Any moms with a “4nager” listening out there? Have we got a show for you! Today, Karen offers advice for moms wondering what on earth to do about disrespectful back talk, defiant behavior, and non-stop talking from their sweet little four year olds. We also tackle a poop question and Karen reminds us that it’s sometimes smart to call in the big guns (aka the pediatrician!) Tune in and share with a friend who may be at their wit’s end with their little angel. :)

Shownotes at: birdsonawiremoms.com/podcast/episode282

WT 281: Addressing Issues At School

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 14 Sep 2021 04:00:00 -0400

If you have a school-age child, odds are good you’ve come up against one or more of the situations we’re talking about today. Whether it’s homework, teachers, relationships with classmates, or the behavior of your own child, knowing how to handle these issues can be tricky. Tune in today to hear Karen and Sunny’s advice for helping get school off to a great start this year!

Have a middle or high schooler in the house? Don't miss our SURVIVE retreat just for moms of teens. Join Karen (in person!!) in North Carolina in November to be equipped specifically for this season of life. boaw.mom/survive

WT 280: Marriage is Good, Hard Work

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 07 Sep 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Between Karen and Sunny, we've got 54 years of marital wisdom coming your way in this episode! In this episode, they tackle questions about helping your husband prepare to be a dad, dealing with extended family issues as a couple, how to handle disagreements about the number of children in your family, and we even talk about the "s" word (yep, submission).

Tune in and share with a friend who might need encouragement during a hard season in their marriage!

WT 279: Teaching Our Kids to Wait (Whether They Are Toddlers or Teens!)

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 31 Aug 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Learn to wait patiently is a life skill we all need to work on, but man, is it hard to teach to our kids! Today Karen and Sunny offer tips for helping your toddler wait at the doctor's office and practice patience when you're having an adult conversation as well as tips for teaching your teen to wait for a phone, or to begin dating.

As Karen says, it's always going to be easier to give in, but consistency will pay off in the long run as you work diligently to teach these skills!

WT 278: Addressing Conflict with Siblings and Friends

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 24 Aug 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Conflict is inevitable! As Sunny says, this is one of those episodes that applies to every family. Today, Karen tackles your questions about sibling conflict, a neighborhood cold war, toddlers who bite, and an only child who struggles to cope when she doesn't get her way.

Be sure to check our show notes for links to everything we talked about on the show! birdsonawiremoms.com/podcast/episode278

WT 277: Finding Your Back to School Rhythm

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 17 Aug 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Today we're answering your questions about all things back to school! How to set yourself up for success on crazy mornings, when to ask for help, and questions you can ask to find out how their day really went. We also commiserate with you about packing lunches and Karen and Sunny share their love for a good, old-fashioned school lunch.

Soar is THIS WEEKEND! Grab your ticket HERE and snag a group pass for $50 off using code BOAWGROUP.

WT 276: A Mother's Guide to Raising Herself with special guest Sarah Bragg

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 10 Aug 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Longtime podcaster and author Sarah Bragg joins us in The Nest to share a few lessons she’s learned about herself as she’s worked to raise her two daughters. We discuss how good and hard can run parallel to one another, why sometimes we have to say no to good things, and how to shut down the “shoulds” in our life and run our own race.

Sarah’s new book, A Mother’s Guide to Raising Herself is out soon, be sure to pre-order your copy today!

And check out episode 41 of Sarah's podcast featuring Karen.

WT 275: Go to Bed, Kids!

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 03 Aug 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Whether it’s going to sleep, staying asleep, or dealing with fears at bedtime, nighttime can become a battleground when young kids are in the home. Today Karen offers tips and practical advice for taking back your evenings and helping your children get the rest their little growing bodies desperately need!

Find links to everything mentioned on today's show at birdsonawiremoms.com/podcast/episode275

WT 274: Talking With Your Kids About Sex

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 27 Jul 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Whether your child is 7 or 17, talking with them about sex and sexuality is often a little bit awkward. Today Karen offer no-nonsense advice on how to approach these conversations without going too deep or avoiding the topic altogether. We cover periods, puberty, TV, and TMI today's show, so pop in your earbuds and join us for a good one! ;)

Find links to all our recommended resources in today's show notes.

WT 273: Are You Addicted to Your Phone, Mom?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 20 Jul 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Our kids aren't the only ones who struggle with screen time, are they? Today Karen and Sunny commiserate about how easy it is to let our phones control how we spend our time and offer thoughts for cutting back and setting boundaries. We hope this show reminds you that you are not the only mom struggling here, and also encourages you to make some changes to your habits this week.

Don't miss out on this year's Soar conference! Register today and use coupon code BOAW21 for $10 off your ticket.

WT 272: Dealing With Your Anger Issues

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 13 Jul 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Whether you are dealing with your own anger or angry outbursts from a child or spouse, in this episode Karen and Sunny offer encouragement and practical strategies you can implement in your home today. From anger that explodes when your kids won't behave to anger that simmers under the surface from feeling unappreciated, today's conversation covers it all with biblical wisdom and practical nuggets to help you find hope moving forward. This is a great one to share with a friend or discuss in your women's group this week.

Psst! Grab a ticket to this year's Soar conference if you haven't already. Use coupon code BOAW21 for $10 off your ticket today!

WT 271: Fostering a Great Relationship with your Teenage Son

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 06 Jul 2021 04:00:00 -0400

A mom’s relationship with her son is by nature going to be different from her relationship with her daughter. Our boys usually pull away toward independence sooner than our girls and that’s okay! Today Karen shares her thoughts on maintaining your connection with older boys while still being the adult. We cover how to find common ground with your newly independent teen, what to do about disrespectful behavior, navigating a rebellious college student coming back home, and how to instill character in your boys all along the way. If you’re a girl mom, be sure to go back and listen to episode 265 where Karen shares all the wisdom on teenage daughters!

Don't miss out on this fall's SURVIVE retreat (just for moms of teens and pre-teens!) Register today.

WT 270: Managing Your Family's Schedule [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 29 Jun 2021 04:00:00 -0400

These days moms work more hours than ever and are usually the primary keepers of the family schedule. Grocery shopping, doctor's appointments, preparing dinner, driving carpool, buying birthday gifts, folding laundry and oh yeah, that little thing called work, too. We're often looking at our calendars and scratching our heads, wondering how we can control them instead of being controlled by them.

To round out our June 2021 of re-airs, we're bringing back this popular show where Karen and Sunny answer questions about routine, schedules and managing the busyness that accompanies family life. We hope you're encouraged by a tip to help calm the chaos and as always, reminded that you are not alone!

WT 269: How Do I Teach My Kids To Be Grateful? [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 22 Jun 2021 04:00:00 -0400

How many times have you coached your child to say, "thank you" during their younger years? Teaching a two year old to respond politely is one task, but teaching a 14 year old to be grateful for opportunities and possessions is entirely another! Today we're re-airing this popular episode answering your questions about instilling gratitude in a child's heart, whether they are toddlers or teens.

Show notes are at birdsonawiremoms.com/podcast/episode269

WT 268: Discontentment in Marriage [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 15 Jun 2021 04:00:00 -0400

We all walk down the aisle with hearts full of hope, but a few years and a kid or two down the road, we often discover marriage is more work than we thought it would be. Right after discipline, marriage is the topic we get the most questions about for Wire Talk. If you have a friend whose marriage could use a shot of encouragement, share this episode!

WT 267: Finding Your Purpose in Motherhood with Candace Cameron Bure [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 08 Jun 2021 04:00:00 -0400

We've got a fun one for you today moms! Today we're re-airing one of our favorite interviews of all time. Candace Cameron Bure, actress, wife, mom, and as she often points out, first and foremost, a follower of Jesus joins us in the studio to talk faith, career, and motherhood. We love Candace's words of encouragement for young mothers and think that wherever you are in your journey of motherhood, you'll benefit from the reminder in this conversation that our primary purpose in all that we do is to glorify God.

Love this conversation? Get more of Karen talking with moms on our Patreon podcast, Real Life Real Moms...become a Patreon member today!

WT 266: How Do We Survive the Chaos of the Toddler Years? [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 01 Jun 2021 04:00:00 -0400

During the month of June, Wire Talk is re-airing 5 of our most popular episodes from years past. We’re kicking off the month with a great one, all about toddlers! Moms are constantly asking, how can we survive the chaos and maybe even enjoy a little bit of these fleeting years? Today Sunny and Karen are addressing your questions and hopefully giving you hope that you CAN do this!

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WT 265: Fostering a Great Relationship with Your Teenage Daughter

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 25 May 2021 04:00:00 -0400

As your little girl turns the corner toward adulthood, your relationship dynamic will definitely start to change. Today Karen shares her thoughts on connecting with older daughters while still holding the line on boundaries and discipline. Don’t miss wisdom bombs, like, “listen before you lecture” and “you do not need to be your child’s best friend”. :) We hope this episode equips those of you navigating Tinder and tattoos while encouraging our toddler moms that you really can enjoy the teenage years. And stay tuned for an upcoming episode all about fostering a great relationship with your teenage son!

Save the Date for Survive: A Retreat for Moms of Teens

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WT 264: Taking Your Family Values Outside the Home

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 18 May 2021 04:00:00 -0400

We all want kids with great character, but how do you help your kids take the lessons you are teaching them at home out into the real world? Today Karen is sharing the family values she and Greg tried to instill in their kids (and why they never had a family mission statement!) while answering questions about character issues at school and on the ball field.

Mentioned on today’s episode:

Wire Talk episode 125: How Do I Handle My Sweet Little Liar

Join our BOAW Moms FB group today!

WT 263: How Do I Teach My Child to Be a Good Friend?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 11 May 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Whether it’s a friend’s bad behavior rubbing off on your child, or your child having trouble being a good friend, today Karen and Sunny are tackling your questions about friendship. As always, we hope this conversation encourages you right where you are, and gives you a practical tool (or two!) that you can put into practice with your kids today.

Mentioned on today’s episode:

WT 133: What Do I Do About Mean Girls?

Join our Patreon community, Real Life, Real Moms, today!

WT 262: How's Your Anxiety Level, Mom? with special guest Sissy Goff

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 04 May 2021 04:00:00 -0400

"We feel out of control and so the easiest place and most natural place to control when we feel fearful, even fearful for our kids, is to step in and control them."

Author and counselor Sissy Goff joins us today to talk about the rise in anxiety and depression among moms (and our kids!) in the past year. There is so much wisdom packed into this conversation, moms. Please listen and SHARE!

Need to hear more about anxiety in your kids? Listen to episode 191

Pick up a copy of Brave: A Teen Girl's Guide to Beating Worry and Anxiety today!

WT 261: Spiritual Disciplines for Mom Life: Practicing Sabbath

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 27 Apr 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Sabbath first appears in the story of creation and again in the 10 commandments, but what does Sabbath actually look like in a mom's world? Today pastor Shireen Eldridge joins Karen and Sunny to share how practicing Sabbath helps recalibrate our hearts to love God and love the people around us better. We also dive into the practical; what does Sabbath REALLY look like in a house with young kids? Join us for this encouraging conversation!

WT 260: Spiritual Disciplines for Moms: Community with Other Believers

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 20 Apr 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Gathering together this past year has been a complicated component of spiritual life for many of us. On today’s episode Karen and Sunny answer questions from moms weary of virtual church, about what to do when your kids hate going to church, and offer suggestions for gathering together with other moms during this unique season.

Resources from today’s episode:

Curious about starting a BOAW group? Head here.

Read about each of the BOAW mom studies HERE.

Parent Cue - more faith resources for kids

WT 259: Spiritual Disciplines for Moms: Pray Continually

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 13 Apr 2021 04:00:00 -0400

We're continuing this month's series on Spiritual Disciplines with a conversation about prayer today. Karen and Sunny address the tenderest questions from moms about how to pray when the words won't come, why Christians say the words, "In Jesus' name, Amen" at the end of prayers and what the purpose of prayer is. If your prayer life is feeling less than inspired lately, we hope this conversation is an encouragement to begin where you are.

P.S. That prayer journal Karen mentions? It's not available yet, but will be later this year. Be sure you're subscribed to our email list to know when it is released!

WT 258: Spiritual Disciplines for Moms: Studying God's Word

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 06 Apr 2021 04:00:00 -0400

All month long we are diving into spiritual disciplines of the Christian faith. We’ll be talking about studying God’s Word, prayer, intentional community with other believers and Sabbath.

Today we are kicking things off by answering your questions about studying the Word. Practically speaking, what does that look like with little kids (and little quiet) in your house? What resources do Karen and Sunny recommend and how can we lead our children well in this discipline? We hope this episode encourages you to start today, whenever you are, knowing that God sees you and has grace and understanding for the season of life that you are in.

Links from today’s episode:

Keep God’s encouragement close by with our Moments with God or Tips on Motherhood card sets.

Listen to our Spotify worship playlist on the go

Adventures in Odyssey

@kidsbiblestories

God’s Big Story podcast from The Village Church

Wild & Wacky and Totally True Bible Stories

A study Karen is currently doing: The Grave Robber by Mark Batterson

Sunny recommends: No Other Gods by Kelly Minter

The Bible Project (cartoon animations explaining major themes, events, stories in the Bible)

Become a Patron today!

Parenting Together study from Greg and Karen Stubbs

The Ark Encounter

The Action Bible (for ages 8+)

One Night with the King movie

WT 257: Fighting For Control With Your Strong-Willed (RED) Child

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Those strong-willed kiddos - phew! We know they'll be leaders one day, but what do we do TODAY when they won't listen or are constantly pushing back against us?

How do we establish our authority without crushing their spirits? How do we teach them to harness their innate confidence without being aggressive or coming across as a bully? We hope this conversation gives you a few tools to parent your headstrong children with confidence.

Don't know your kid's color? Take our quiz!

WT 256: Navigating a Family Move

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 23 Mar 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Both Karen and Sunny have moved A LOT in their lifetimes! In this episode, we’re answering questions about preparing your heart to move, staying in touch with friends and family who live far away, and helping your child navigate the difficulties that come with moving frequently.

Shownotes: birdsonawiremoms.com/podcast/episode256

Related Wire Talk episode:

Getting on the Same Page With Your Partner

WT 255: Organizing Your Life, One Day at a Time

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 16 Mar 2021 04:00:00 -0400

Today we are talking all things home management on Wire Talk. From splitting space in your home with a work-from-home spouse to organizing toys and rooms, we even talk about how to keep the kids from getting into your stuff! Karen is feeling fiesty today, so get ready for a little tough love.

Become a Patron today and gain instant access to our other podcast, Real Life Real Moms.

WT 254: What Do I Do When They Want to Eat...Again?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 09 Mar 2021 04:00:00 -0500

How is it possible that we are always making food and yet our kids never seem to be full? Keeping our families fed is not for the faint of heart! Today Sunny and Karen are answering questions about feeding your people day in and day out. Tune in for practical tips about cooking with babies and toddlers underfoot as well as the one thing Greg did that made dinner prep at the Stubbs home so much easier.

Get the show notes: birdsonawiremoms.com/podcast/episode254

WT 253: The Only Child Family

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 02 Mar 2021 04:00:00 -0500

Recent census data has shown one-child families are the fastest growing family unit in the United States. But often times families with one child feel isolated by the culture of family and siblings around them. On today's show we are diving into questions from moms with one child. A big shout out goes to our mom of the month, Casey Cattell, who suggested this topic and helped us gather questions from moms of one! If you're not a mom of one, we'd love for you to listen to learn, and share with a friend.

WT 252: When Potty Training Isn't Working

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 23 Feb 2021 04:00:00 -0500

Any toddler moms out there at their wit’s end with potty training?! In our first-ever episode on this topic, Karen and Sunny are sharing encouragement and wisdom for all those moms spending a LOT of time in the bathroom these days. The bottom line? Your sanity is just as (and maybe even more) important as wearing big kid undies.

Want an extra dose of Karen in your podcast feed each month? Become a Patreon member today!

WT 251: Loving Your Rebellious Child Well

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 16 Feb 2021 04:00:00 -0500

Let's be honest moms, all of our children can be rebellious at times. And when your child is walking through a season of rebellion, sometimes it's really hard to "feel the love." On today's episode we're answering your questions on everything from toddlers who obey daddy but not mommy to lying to teenagers having sex. Yup, today we're running the full gamut. Pop in those earbuds and join us for this conversation - we hope you'll leave encouraged knowing you're not alone, momma!

WT 250: Loving Your Spouse Well

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 09 Feb 2021 04:00:00 -0500

‘Happily ever after’ requires a LOT of work when you’re raising kids, and we could all use some encouragement in this arena from time to time. So today, Karen and Sunny are leaning in to your questions about keeping your marriage in a healthy place. Whether it’s that the day-to-day logistics of life have snuffed out your romantic spark, or that there’s tension in your home around who should lead, Karen has a word of encouragement for you amidst it all.

Want more podcasts about marriage? Check out these episodes:

WT 148: Keeping The Spark Alive

WT 129: How Do I Re-Connect With My Spouse After Kids?

WT 146: Discontentment in Marriage

BONUS EPISODE: Real Life / Real Moms with Claire Stanfill

Karen Stubbs — Fri, 05 Feb 2021 09:55:32 -0500

SURPRISE! We wanted you to overhear a conversation between me and my good friend Claire Stanfill, which we recorded together last spring as episode 5 of our other podcast Real Life / Real Moms, which is available exclusively on Patreon.

Patreon is a way for you to support podcasts you love so we can make bonus content for our best supporters. Become a Family Level Patron $10 per month (or $114 / year if you pay annually). Your support sustains our non-profit ministry and has kept Wire Talk ad-free for all 249 episodes now. This $10 / month level also gets you companion journaling pages for self-reflection, and (my favorite!) quarterly Zoom Q&A sessions with a very small group.

We couldn’t do this without your support and we are grateful for each one of you! // Sign up at PATREON.COM/BOAW

WT 249: Mother & Missionary: An Interview with Betty Loudermilk

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 02 Feb 2021 04:00:00 -0500

In the wake of World War II, a young college graduate decided to answer God's call on her heart to share the Gospel in Japan. Today, 90 year old Betty Loudermilk joins Sunny and Karen in the studio to share stories from her 50+ years of ministry in Japan.

Over the years, Betty placed more than 250 children with their forever families and adopted 15 children as a single woman herself! Don't miss Betty sharing the word God spoke to her heart when she felt overwhelmed by His calling (skip to 20:00 if you are in a hurry). This is one powerful story of provision and encouragement mamas! Enjoy.

WT 248: Why Can't My Kids Play Nicely?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 26 Jan 2021 04:00:00 -0500

From team sports to bedroom boundaries, your questions in this episode concern the problems we face when our kids refuse to play nicely. Get ready for some practical tips as always and a little bit of tough love from Karen: remember that your children aren't Instant Pots and some of this stuff is going to take time!

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Want more episodes like this one?

WT 120: When Multiple Personalities Collide

WT 151: Sibling Rivalry

WT 247: Quality Time with Teenagers

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 19 Jan 2021 04:00:00 -0500

Parenting teenagers means late nights, empty pantry shelves and more than a few tricky situations. Today Karen and Sunny answer your questions about getting quality time with your teen…plus, Karen shares her secrets to having the “cool” hang out house.

Mentioned on the show:

BOAW Colors Personality Test

WT 246: Building Character in our Daughters

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 12 Jan 2021 04:00:00 -0500

From absorbing bad behavior from TV and social media to making good friends - on today's episode Karen is answering your questions about dealing with character issues in your daughters and showing us simple ways to point our girls to Christ in every season.

Don't have a daughter? Listen to these episodes all about boys:

WT 181: Building Character in Your Son with Taylor Stubbs

WT 109: Raising Older Boys

WT 108: Raising Little Boys

WT 245: A New Year's Pep Talk from Karen

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 04:00:00 -0500

It's the first full week of 2021 and we are more than ready. Today Karen and Sunny are chatting about how they do (and don't do) goal setting, if they have any resolutions to kick off the new year right, and what's in store this year for Birds on a Wire. Whether you've already got your word of the year emblazoned across your annual planner, or you're tip toeing quietly into 2021 just hoping to catch a break, join us as we ring in the New Year at Wire Talk!

WT 244: Behind the Mic on Wire Talk

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 29 Dec 2020 04:00:00 -0500

Wire Talk's producer, Katie @Leipprandt, joins Karen and Sunny in the studio for this episode to talk about all things Wire Talk. We discuss how the BOAW team decides on episode topics, which questions we answer, and what's coming up in 2021 for the show. Join us as we say, "Peace out!" to 2020 and welcome a fresh New Year in together.

Got questions for Karen and Sunny? Send them in to info@birdsonawiremoms.com and use the subject line "Wire Talk questions" - we'd love to answer your question on the show!

WT 243: He Is Worthy of Our Praise

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 22 Dec 2020 04:00:00 -0500

Karen is reading from her Moments with God devotional again today, reminding us to set our minds and our hearts rightly on God. As we celebrate Christmas with our family and hopefully get some much needed rest this week, let's take a moment out of each day to declare His praises and give Him honor.

Moments with God for Moms is available from Amazon HERE.

WT 242: Does Worrying Add A Single Hour To Your Life?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 15 Dec 2020 04:00:00 -0500

We know you're running hard toward Christmas this week and today's episode is intended to give you a minute of peace. Listen as Karen reads from her devotional and reminds us to place our weary souls into God's very capable hands. We love you mommas!

Find Karen's devotional HERE.

WT 241: Navigating Christmas as a Christian, Part 2

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 08 Dec 2020 04:00:00 -0500

We’re talking all things Santa Claus on today’s episode! From how to handle the conversation when your kids ask if Santa is real, to making a decision to not start the Santa tradition at all, Karen shares her thoughts on walking that line this Christmas. However your family chooses to celebrate, Karen reminds us to stand firm and be confident in our choices - something we can never hear enough!

WT 240: Navigating Christmas as a Christian, Part 1

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 01 Dec 2020 04:00:00 -0500

As believers, how do we navigate the hustle and bustle of the holiday season while keeping our eyes focused on the reason we celebrate Christmas in the first place? In part one of this series, Karen answers your questions about how to celebrate in a season when your church doors may be closed, how to prevent overwhelm as a single mom and of course, how to navigate gift giving.

WT 239: Boundaries with Friends & Family

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 24 Nov 2020 04:00:00 -0500

Navigating the differences between our needs and desires and those of our family and friends is tricky. On today's episode Karen answers questions about vacationing with family, teen dating, excessive gift giving (hello grandparents!) and being married to an extrovert when you're 100% an introvert! You're sure to find a practical nugget in this conversation that will provide wisdom for your world.

WT 238: Can You Help Me Handle Our Clashing Personality Colors?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 17 Nov 2020 04:00:00 -0500

Is there a recurring conflict in your home because your personality color is clashing with your child's? Tune in today to hear Karen's thoughts on the exhausting yellow kids, defiant red kids, and lethargic green kids who have their moms wondering how to cope.

Mentioned on today's episode:

Colors Personality Quiz
smile.amazon.com
Mom Core- Being a Student of your Child
Personality Plus for Parents by Florence Littauer
Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
2020 Soar Together bonus session with Dr Henry Cloud
BOAW Moms Facebook group

WT 237: Why Is Dinner Time The Worst?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 10 Nov 2020 04:00:00 -0500

From toddlers flinging food off high chair trays to siblings bickering during the blessing, dinner time is rife with opportunities for stress isn't it? Listen in as Karen tackles questions from moms tired of the chaos on today's episode and helps us survive meal time with her tips!

Continue the conversation with us over in our private BOAW Moms Facebook group, where moms ask and answer questions with grace and humility all week long.

WT 236: Managing the Needs of Multiple Children

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 03 Nov 2020 04:00:00 -0500

No matter the number of kids under your roof, managing the needs of your children isn’t easy! On today’s show we are answering questions from moms who are struggling with the revolving door of need that comes with having multiple children in the house.

WT 235: Building Your Own Family Traditions

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 27 Oct 2020 04:00:00 -0400

This year the holidays might look a little different than years’ past. Managing all of the expectations (yours, your family’s, your in-laws…) can be overwhelming as a mom, so today Karen shares her thoughts on making traditions that work for you and your tribe, while letting go of all the things that truly don’t matter.

WT 234: Talking To Your Kids About Race with Alexandra Bates

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 20 Oct 2020 04:00:00 -0400

We are excited to release this much-anticipated conversation about race with friend of BOAW, Alexandra Bates. Last spring, when Alex discovered resources for talking to her daughters about race were lacking, she reached out to Karen and initiated a conversation. Their ensuing relationship has been enlightening for Karen, who wanted to share Alex's point of view and experience with the wider BOAW community. Alex shares her thoughts on racism and how we as moms can teach our children to love those from different races and backgrounds through the behavior we model.

WT 233: Mental Health and Motherhood with Wendi Nunnery

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 13 Oct 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Today’s conversation with author Wendi Nunnery drips with wisdom and grace as she shares her journey with mental health, the church, and motherhood. From growing up in a legalistic church culture to being diagnosed with OCD after becoming a mother, Wendi shares how her brokenness has driven her to Jesus and how she finds rest in His holiness. This is a good one mamas, be sure to share it with a friend who needs to be encouraged today. You can pre-order Wendi’s new book, Good Enough: Letting Go of Perfect for the Sake of Holy over on Amazon or enter our giveaway for a free copy over on Instagram.

WT 232: The Story of Soar

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 06 Oct 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Have you heard about the Soar Conference for years but never been able to attend? Listen in as Karen shares the story of God putting a vision for Soar in her heart almost a decade ago and how this conference has evolved since it began in 2015. We hope you're encouraged to set aside the time and financial resources to make attending a priority this year, because for the first time ever - location and time are not limiting factors! You can Soar Together from wherever you are, whenever you want to this fall.

Find out more at: boaw.mom/soar

WT 231: Loving Your (Actual) Neighbor

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 29 Sep 2020 04:00:00 -0400

God did not create us to live this life alone, He created us for community! And if nothing else, 2020 has taught us just how important community really is. On today's episode Karen and Sunny share your ideas and chat about the simple ways we can love on our actual neighbors even during these pandemic times.

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WT 230: Moms and Military Life

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 22 Sep 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Today Karen is answering questions from moms about military life. Whether it's a mom facing deployment, a child struggling with the frequent moves that are the norm in the military, or a mom fearful about her child's interest in joining the military, there's something you can relate to in this conversation. If you’re not a military family, listen and learn about the issues our military families face. And if you have mom friends in the military - share this episode with them so they can be encouraged!

Moms - don't wait another day to sign up for Soar Together! Tuesday, Sept. 22 is the last day for early bird pricing!

WT 229: Taking Care of Yourself During Crazy Seasons

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 15 Sep 2020 04:00:00 -0400

2020 has been a crazy season in and of itself! How well are you taking care of yourself, momma? From big things like feeling lonely and isolated to little things like how to manage chaos in the car - today Karen answers questions from moms who need a little TLC. Listen and be encouraged!

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WT 228: Time Management for Mom Life

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 08 Sep 2020 04:00:00 -0400

From how to sneak in time with God when your kids are home all the time to managing a move and a new baby with a spouse who has a demanding job, today’s questions are from moms struggling to manage their own needs alongside the needs of their household and their kids. Exhale deeply as you hear Karen and Sunny encourage these mamas to give themselves grace in these seasons and lower the imaginary bar you have set for yourself.

WT 227: The Messy Middle School Years

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 01 Sep 2020 04:00:00 -0400

These are the ‘no-man’s land’ years mommas, when our kids are caught in between childhood and adolescence. They are all insecure and they are all searching for their identity. Listen in today for some big picture thoughts about middle school in general as well as the practical answers you can always expect from Karen.

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WT 226: Allowance, Budgets, and Teaching Our Kids Financial Responsibility

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 25 Aug 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Giving our kids a firm footing when it comes to financial habits is one the most helpful things we can teach as parents. Listen in to today’s show as Karen shares about her struggle with being on a budget early in her marriage and the lessons she and Greg have taught their kids over the years. Hear how they handled talking about finances in their family, what they taught their kids about money, and how they still budget to this day!

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WT 225: Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 18 Aug 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Have you ever walked into a situation with certain expectations and been disappointed when they weren't met? Today Karen shares how expectations can set our relationships up for failure. She defines the difference between desires and expectations and offers several tools for helping change expectations (for our children's faith, our marriage, our kids behavior) into desires so we can experience peace in our daily lives.

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WT 224: What Do New Homeschoolers Need to Know? with Katie Leipprandt

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 11 Aug 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Today we’re answering questions from those of you who’ve decided to homeschool your kids for the first time this year. From how to choose a curriculum to managing the needs of toddlers and school-age kids at the same time, Wire Talk’s producer, Katie Leipprandt, shares her insights and experience from homeschooling her four children for the past 6 years. Whatever your school situation looks like this year, we hope this episode reminds you that in spite of imperfect circumstances, God will equip you with everything you need.

Head HERE for links to everything mentioned in today's episode!

WT 223: How Do I Prepare My Child For Puberty?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 04 Aug 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Preparing our kids for puberty and sex does not have to intimidate us, mommas! If the thought of having “the talk” gives you all kinds of anxiety, tune into today’s episode to hear some straight talk from Karen. In this episode we cover talking about sex, modesty, and the physical changes our kids will be going through. As usual, Karen reminds us moms that we may not be perfect, but we are the perfect parent for our child!

WT 222: How Do I Discipline My Toddler's Defiance?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 28 Jul 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Disciplining a toddler is no joke. As moms, we want our discipline to work the first time and every time, but as Karen reminds us, toddlers take time. If you need some encouragement to stay the course with your toddler, tune in today and take heart!

WT 221: How Do I Handle the Anxiety Surrounding Back to School This Year?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 21 Jul 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Plans for school this year are changing daily in school districts around our nation. One thing we know for sure this year? We have no idea what to expect! That’s why we brought Dr. Chinwé Williams into the studio today, to ask for her thoughts both as a therapist and as a mom, about how we can handle our own anxiety surrounding going back to school and how we can help our children navigate these strange days.

WT 220: Help! A Summer Without Normal Activities Has Us At Each Other's Throats

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 14 Jul 2020 04:00:00 -0400

By this point in the year, it seems like everyone has had more than enough ‘quantity time’ with our families…but summer is still going strong! Today on Wire Talk Sunny and Karen answer questions from moms whose families are getting a little edgy from all of the time spent together. From how to give some structure to your summer days to how to teach your children boundaries, Karen shares wisdom on keeping your sanity as a family during this unusual summer.

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WT 219: Inviting Play Into Your Everyday featuring Days with Grey

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 07 Jul 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Beth Rosenbleeth of Days with Grey joins Karen and Sunny today to talk about keeping your toddlers engaged in play during these long summer days. If you've ever found yourself wishing for nap time by 9am, this is the episode for you! Hear Beth share her philosophy and practical tips for beginning your morning with intention, so you can fill your child's creative bucket and lead them toward independent play for the rest of the day.

WT 218: [RE-AIR] Little Miss Sunshine: Parenting Your Yellow Child

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 30 Jun 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Today wraps up a month of diving into the vault to re-air some of our most popular episodes. In this episode, Karen and Sunny are answering all of of your questions about "yellow" kids. Yellows are bubbly, affectionate, fun loving...and they can be exhausting! If you've ever wished your child would just stop talking, this is an episode you don't want to skip.

Wondering what color your child is? Try taking our temperament quiz with them in mind: birdsonawiremoms.com/quiz.

WT 217: [RE-AIR] Help! My Blue Kid is Making Me Melancholy

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 04:00:00 -0400

All month long, we're re-airing some of the most downloaded episodes from the Wire Talk vault:

Today Karen and Sunny address questions from listeners all about the blue, or melancholy, temperament. Organized, thoughtful, loyal, precise - our blues have so many strengths! From how to balance their need for quiet with your family's activities to addressing their mood swings without catering to them, this is one episode packed with practical advice for all you moms of little Eeyores!

WT 216: [RE-AIR] Gaining Understanding of Our Green Children

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 04:00:00 -0400

All month long we're re-airing some of the most downloaded episodes from the Wire Talk vault:

Peaceful, easy-going, conflict avoiders...however you describe them, to a parent who doesn't understand their motivations, "green" kids can be a mystery. Today Karen and Sunny discuss teaching our greens to take responsibility for themselves and how we can help them handle the pressures that come along with high school. If there's a green in your life, we think you'll learn something new when you tune in.

WT 215: [RE-AIR] Parenting Your Red Strong-Willed Child

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 09 Jun 2020 04:00:00 -0400

All month long we're re-airing some of the most downloaded episodes from the Wire Talk vault!

On Wire Talk today Karen and Sunny take questions about your little future president; how do we effectively discipline them? How do we establish our authority without crushing their spirits? How do we teach them to harness their innate confidence without being aggressive or coming across as a bully? We hope this conversation gives you practical tools today to parent your headstrong child with confidence.

WT 214: [RE-AIR] Navigating the Emotional World of Kids with special guest David Thomas

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 02 Jun 2020 04:00:00 -0400

All month long we're re-airing some of the most downloaded episodes from the Wire Talk vault. In today's interview Sunny is joined by one of our most popular guests, child psychologist David Thomas. During their conversation David addresses your questions about the emotional needs of our kids.

Sunny and David cover when to lean in and when to back off, how to discern what is hormones and what is normal behavior and David gives loads of practical tips to help you navigate the outbursts. Whether you're dealing with anger, sadness, anxiety or frustration in your kids, we think you'll hear something today that equips you to respond with grace.

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WT 213: How Do I Stop the Whining?!

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 26 May 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Today’s topic is one all moms can relate to - whiny kids! Whether your child is 4 or 14, listen as Karen answers your questions about how to handle whininess in the moment and how to nip it in the bud for good.

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WT 212: Quarantine Talk with Kelsey, Emily and Abby

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 19 May 2020 04:00:00 -0400

The Stubbs girls got together for this special episode to discuss the way quarantine has changed daily life. From job losses and pregnancy to missing out on the end of her senior year of college and travel opportunities, the girls share the challenges they are still walking through and what God is teaching them in this season.

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WT 211: Being United in Marriage with Greg and Karen Stubbs

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 12 May 2020 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, we’re sharing exclusive audio from a live event featuring both Karen and her husband, Greg. Listen in as they teach on the topic of staying united as a couple and share a few tools you can use today to communicate better in your marriage.

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WT 210: Parenting and the Enneagram with Beth McCord

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 05 May 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Beth McCord (@YourEnneagramCoach) joins Karen and Sunny today to dive into the popular personality typing system, the Enneagram. We loved hearing Beth’s perspective on what makes the Enneagram such an effective tool for understanding ourselves and learning how we can use that knowledge to empower our parenting. Be sure to check out the show notes for links to the many resources Beth shares!

WT 209: How Do I Battle Mom Exhaustion?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 28 Apr 2020 04:00:00 -0400

From getting up in the middle of the night with babies to staying up until the wee hours because your teen wants to talk late at night, this mom-gig is literally 24/7. On today’s episode we cover sleep regression, Saturday morning tussles over who has to get up with the kids, and dealing with parenting solo when your spouse travels. Sunny and Karen answer your questions and offer tips so you can be there for your kids, no matter what time of day it is. And don’t miss Karen sharing a prayer prayed over her many years ago that still brings peace whenever Greg is away to this day.

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WT 208: ADHD and Your Family with Dr. Staci Bolton, Part Two

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 21 Apr 2020 04:00:00 -0400

We’re back this week with a continuation of this fantastic conversation about ADHD with Dr. Staci Bolton. Today Dr. Bolton answers your questions about treatment alternatives to medication, how to help your teen develop stronger executive functioning skills, and how to discipline when ADHD is a factor. Don’t miss Dr. Bolton talking about how girls with ADHD Inattentive often fall through the cracks.

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WT 207: ADHD and Your Family with Dr. Staci Bolton: Part One

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 14 Apr 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Today Karen and Sunny ask clinical psychologist Dr. Staci Bolton your questions all about raising a child with ADHD. Dr. Bolton brings years of wisdom and expertise to this conversation, including her take on the difference between ADHD and a typically developing active child in the early years, the misdiagnosis of ADHD, and practical strategies for families dealing with the difficult dynamics ADHD can introduce into sibling and parent relationships. This conversation was so rich, we've split it into 2 episodes so you have time to digest all of the information Dr. Bolton shares.

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WT 206: Life in the Time of COVID-19

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 07 Apr 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Karen and Sunny gathered virtually this week to talk about how COVID-19 has changed life for us all this month. They talk about the highs and lows, from having more meals together as a family, to feeling overwhelmed by the kids' questions all day long. Stay tuned til the end to hear Karen's encouraging word for us from the book of Job.

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WT 205: The Bottom Line With Adult Children

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 31 Mar 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Today's episode should give us all hope. Moms, this is what we are all aiming for - the stage when we finally get to be our child's friend! As your child begins to stand on their own two feet, help maintain a great relationship with them by tucking away the tips Karen shares during this rich discussion.

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WT 204: The Bottom Line During High School

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 24 Mar 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Wherever you are on your journey of motherhood, don't miss hearing Karen's perspective on the high school years! The more you learn early on, the better off you'll be when you do get to those high school years.

This season is all about gradually letting go of control so your child can leave your nest prepared for the wider world. Hear Karen's tips about helping your child earn trust, about the importance of letting them fail, and don't miss the one thing Karen says moms absolutely must not do during high school.

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WT 203: The Bottom Line During the Middle School Years

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 17 Mar 2020 04:00:00 -0400

Today on Wire Talk Karen and Sunny are talking middle schoolers. These middle school years are when your child is trying desperately to figure out who they are. If you only take one thing away from this conversation, that’s the thing I hope you remember! Middle school is a time of transition and it’s a time when as moms, we need to lean in and pay attention to who they ARE, not who we want them to be.

WT 202: The Bottom Line During Elementary School

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 10 Mar 2020 04:00:00 -0400

These are crucial teaching years. Like we talked about last week, hopefully by elementary school you’ve laid the foundation with your child that you are the authority they need to obey. Now is the time to your child teach the 'why' behind the 'what'. Use Scripture and use real life stories to teach your child the principles of how life works. This is the age when you need to help them begin to take responsibility for themselves.

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WT 201: The Bottom Line From Age 0-5

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 03 Mar 2020 04:00:00 -0500

So many times in parenting we get caught up in the weeds with our kids and we can’t see the forest for the trees. This series is a way to help moms pause for just a moment, and look at the big picture. During our month long Bottom Line series, Karen and Sunny are tackling 5 different stages of life for our kid and sharing wisdom for what we moms need to keep our focus on during those years. Today we’re talking all about the early years, where you need to keep your focus ages 0-5.

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WT 200: Real Life. Real Moms. with Sunny Williams

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 25 Feb 2020 04:00:00 -0500

Today we're celebrating 200 episodes of Wire Talk by flipping the script on our typical show! Listen in as Karen interviews Sunny - Real Life. Real Moms. style - about her journey of motherhood; what has been challenging, what she is loving, and how God has grown her faith in this season of her life.

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WT 199: When Personality Colors Collide

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 18 Feb 2020 04:00:00 -0500

Opposites may attract, but when it comes to parenting your kids, how do you parent effectively as a team when your partner’s personality is the exact opposite of yours? On today’s show Karen answers questions from moms about their husband’s red, blue, green, or yellow personality clashing with their own.

Find out what 'color' you are with our free quiz.

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WT 198: Dealing With Out of Control Anger

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 11 Feb 2020 04:00:00 -0500

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WT 197: Making Deposits In Your Marriage With Creative Date Nights

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 04 Feb 2020 04:00:00 -0500

If you think of your marriage like a bank account, when was the last time you made a deposit? During the years your kids are at home it’s easy to get in the habit of constantly making withdrawals and forgetting to “put money in the bank”. On today’s episode, Karen and Sunny are sharing date night ideas that are sure to improve your balance. We’ve got stay-at-home date ideas, creative childcare solutions, and outside-the-box date night activities. Pick something new to try this month and let us know how it goes!

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WT 196: Setting Boundaries and Sticking to Them

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 28 Jan 2020 04:00:00 -0500

Setting boundaries can be uncomfortable, whether you are trying to take control of your schedule, your toddler, or any other area of life. Listen in as Karen and Sunny answer questions from moms in our Facebook group about healthy, biblical boundaries and saying “no” without guilt!

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Sneak Peek: Real Life Real Moms with Kelsey & Emily

Karen Stubbs — Thu, 23 Jan 2020 04:00:00 -0500

Our first episode of Real Life Real Moms is coming soon and features Karen's daughters Kelsey and Emily. Listen in for a sneak peek of their conversation and to hear Karen explain what our new show is all about.

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WT 195: How To Talk To Your Kids About Pornography with special guest Kristen Jenson

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 21 Jan 2020 04:00:00 -0500

Until our society makes the internet safe for kids, parents must be proactive in teaching what pornography is, why it’s dangerous and exactly how to reject it. Today Karen and Sunny talk with Kristen Jenson, author of Good Pictures, Bad Pictures about porn-proofing our kids. We discuss age-appropriate definitions of pornography, how to talk about it with our kids, and how to help our kids form a plan for what to do when they see it.

Warning: this topic is not for young ears, moms. Pop in those earbuds before you start listening!

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WT 194: How Do I Handle This Conflict With My Mother or Mother-In-Law?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 14 Jan 2020 04:00:00 -0500

Whether you wish you had a closer relationship with your in-laws, are dealing with a broken relationship with a parent, or your relationship is a little too close (and not in a good way) with the grandparents, we think you’ll relate to one of the questions Karen tackles on today’s show. Don’t miss Karen walking us through how we can forgive someone who does not deserve our forgiveness or her surprising (to Sunny) take on one momma’s situation. You’ll especially want to her perspective as a grandmother herself to the very last question!

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WT 193: Saying Yes to Community with Maria Shanlian

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 07 Jan 2020 04:00:00 -0500

On today’s episode, Maria Shanlian from the Birds on a Wire group in Wayne County, OH joins Karen and Sunny to share what happened in her community when she and a friend said yes to God’s prompting to pour into the moms in their community. Maria shares the hesitations they had, how God confirmed this calling, and how they went from 35 moms to more than 125 moms in just two years.

We think what’s going on in Wayne County is inspiring and we are praying hearts are stirred by this conversation!

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WT 192: Finding Rest in Busy Seasons

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 17 Dec 2019 04:00:00 -0500

Prioritizing rest is hard to do throughout the year, and for moms, it can be especially difficult during the holiday season. We're going all of the places and doing all of the things, all of the time! On today’s show Karen answers questions from moms about making room in their schedules, their hearts, and in their cars, for rest this season. Whether you’re a single mom, a new mom, or just a mom of non-stop talkers, listen in and be encouraged to find rest even in the busiest of seasons.

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WT 191: Raising Worry-Free Girls with Sissy Goff

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 10 Dec 2019 04:00:00 -0500

Author and counselor Sissy Goff joins Karen and Sunny in the studio today to talk about the rise of anxiety in our daughters. Sissy shares how anxiety presents in girls, the power there is in naming anxious thoughts, and offers strategies we can put in place to help our daughters cope with their “worry monster” in healthy ways. Plus, she gives a little tough love to moms by suggesting a few ways we may be contributing to our daughters’ struggles without knowing it. While this conversation is specific to girls, boy moms, there is a ton of wisdom in this episode for you as well!

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WT 190: When Bedtime Becomes A Problem

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 03 Dec 2019 04:00:00 -0500

Why does bedtime have to come at the end of the day when we’re already exhausted? All of us know what it’s like to look forward to getting our little ones down, only to be called back to their rooms again and again or woken up in the middle of the night by a scared little one. If you’re in the middle of a rough sleep season, listen in and be encouraged, you are not alone! We hope Karen’s wisdom equips you to handle the bedtime routine with confidence this evening!

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WT 189: We Need An Attitude Adjustment Over Here!

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 26 Nov 2019 04:00:00 -0500

Whether it’s a clash over chores, homework, or just a difference of personality, our kids’ attitudes can bring us down in a heartbeat. Listen for Karen’s wisdom on how to handle attitude explosions, how to celebrate and not fight your kids’ wiring, and how to set healthy boundaries so their emotions don’t suck you in!

Check out today's show notes for links to all the books and resources Karen mentions in this episode.

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WT 188: Getting on the Same Page With Your Partner

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 19 Nov 2019 04:00:00 -0500

Learning to do life alongside a spouse is a constantly evolving process. Similar to being a student of your child, we have to work to understand and connect with our partners, even after decades of marriage! In this episode, Karen tackles your questions about communication, what to do when you’re at an impasse with your husband, and of course, sex! Enjoy mommas!

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WT 187: What If What I'm Doing Isn't Working?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 12 Nov 2019 04:00:00 -0500

Whether it’s outbursts of your own anger, temper tantrums from your 5 year old, or the overwhelm that comes from working full time as a new mom…we all know what it’s like to feel defeated from day to day in motherhood. On today’s show Karen answers questions about what to do when it seems like nothing you’ve done has worked. Listen in, be encouraged, and as always, remember that you are a GREAT mom!

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WT 186: Walking By Faith

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 05 Nov 2019 04:00:00 -0500

From losing a parent and co-parenting with a wayward ex, to dealing with disappointment and silence from God - today we are talking about the role faith plays in our lives when things are not easy. Don’t miss Karen sharing stories she’s never told before about experiencing God’s voice throughout her life, including the story of God telling her to start this ministry. We hope today’s show leaves you encouraged to seek God and run after his will regardless of the circumstances of your life.

Check out today's show notes for all the links from this episode, including two powerful news articles from 1996 detailing Greg's mid air collision.

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WT 185: Communicating with Elementary Aged Kids

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 29 Oct 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Whether you're trying to understand what is actually happening during their school day, or struggling with an issue at home, today Karen answers your questions and shares wisdom on how to communicate so our school-age kids hear and understand us. Don't miss a short list of alternative questions to ask besides, "how was your day?" and Karen's approach to dealing with sibling jealousy. As always, we hope this conversation encourages you and gives you a practical nugget to carry into your mom world today.

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WT 184: Speaking Your Child's Love Language: Part Three

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 22 Oct 2019 04:00:00 -0400

We're back today with the last installment in our Love Languages mini-series. Acts of service and physical touch are the final languages we're covering as we answer your questions and Karen gives loads of practical tips. If you're just tuning in, be sure to catch up with episodes 182 and 183 in this series!

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WT 183: Speaking Your Child's Love Language: Part Two

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 04:00:00 -0400

We're back with part two of our conversation on the five love languages today. In this episode, we're taking a look at Quality Time and Gifts. Karen defines what it means to speak these languages to your kids and answers your questions like, "how much quality time is enough?" and "how do I deal with sibling jealousy when I give gifts to one child?"

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WT 182: Speaking Your Child's Love Language: Part One

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 08 Oct 2019 04:00:00 -0400

We're kicking off a brand-new series today with Part One of a three-part conversation all about the five love languages. You'll get a birds-eye view (no pun intended) of what the five languages are, and then we'll deep dive into Words of Affirmation. As always, Karen gives loads of practical phrases you can start using this week, and even shares how the love languages still help her love her adult children well today.

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Karen’s Lunch Box Notes

The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman

Video lesson: Being A Student of your Child from Mom Core

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WT 181: Building Character in Your Son with Taylor Stubbs

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 01 Oct 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Karen’s son Taylor joins her in the studio today for a conversation about his years growing up in the Stubbs household. He reflects on some of the ways Karen and Greg instilled character in him across the years and the one family habit that stands out in his mind as character-building. He also shares a recent story of personal failure, and how the lessons he was taught as a boy gave him resilience to get back up again as a man.

Mentioned on the show:

Colors Personality Quiz

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WT 180: Creating a Family Culture That Sticks

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 24 Sep 2019 04:00:00 -0400

On today's show we're talking about the habits that bring our families together. From big, intentional practices like creating a family mission statement to fun traditions like weekly queso-fests at the local Mexican restaurant, Karen shares her thoughts on how to create a family culture that ensures your children know they belong. Whatever your family looks like, we think you'll find something in this episode that you can take and make your own.

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WT 179: What I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Motherhood

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 17 Sep 2019 04:00:00 -0400

On today’s episode, Karen reflects back over 29 years of parenting and shares the big lessons she learned from all of those small moments. Plus, she shares the greatest lesson she believes she taught her kids and gives a great little tip for any moms of perfection-minded blue kids. We hope this episode inspires you to take a deep breath, to keep the long view in mind, and reminds you that raising children really does take a village.

Links from today's show:

Corey's Auto Service - Karen’s mechanic, aka the best mechanic in North Georgia!

Get the BOAW app

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WT 178: Finding Your Child's Currency

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 10 Sep 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Discipline is a constant in our world as moms and it's made harder by the fact that what works for your family constantly changes depending on the child you're disciplining and their age. On today's show we're discussing the idea of discipline as "currency", what that means and how to find out what your child's is. Plus, hear Karen delve into the idea of "pain now = peace later" and the Scripture that keeps her motivated to be consistent. If you're struggling with disciplining one or more children in your family, listen in and be encouraged!

Links from the show today:

Discipline series: Episodes 154, 155, 156

Mom Core curriculum - Discipline lesson

Start a BOAW group!

Books on raising boys: Boy Mom, Bringing Up Boys

Hebrews 4:11

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WT 177: Your Most Popular Questions from the Summer Answered

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 03 Sep 2019 04:00:00 -0400

We got a ton of questions from you guys over the summer and on today’s show we’ve picked out 5 questions that seem to come up over and over again. From sibling rivalry and sleepovers to meal time and bed time shenanigans, Karen and Sunny tackle it all.

Mentioned on the Show Today:

Episode 151: Sibling Rivalry

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WT 176: Keep It Simple, Momma!

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 27 Aug 2019 04:00:00 -0400

From managing extracurricular activities and keeping our homes in order, to shepherding our children's faith and paying attention to our marriage in the midst of it all; on today's show we're talking about 4 aspects of family life that are easy to overcomplicate. If you're feeling overwhelmed by pressure to do it all and do it all well, this episode is one you don't want to miss.

Mentioned on the show today:

Episode 175: Launching Your College Freshman Well

Karen's Studies: Says Who? Part 2 and Parenting Together

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WT 175: Launching Your College Freshman Well

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Karen and Sunny are back together today talking about the experience of sending our children off to college for the first time. They cover so much territory in this episode! From the best advice Karen gave her kids before they left for school to how to handle boyfriends/girlfriends coming back home with them. Karen also advises how to help siblings left behind adjust to the empty place at the dinner table. Whether you are facing this transition right now or if it's on the horizon, listen and be encouraged as Karen shares why she loved this season of mothering so much.

Mentioned on the show today:

Get tickets to Mom's Night Out with Karen at Christ's Church in Jacksonville HERE.

Wire Talk episode on Grief with Judy Wolfe

Praying for Your Adult Children

Grace Walk by Steve McVey

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WT 174: Your Child's First Device with Arlene Pellicane

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 13 Aug 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Arlene Pellicane joins us again today to talk about a relatively recent parenting milestone: giving our kids their first phone. From pitfalls we want to avoid, to steps we can proactively take to ensure our child's health and safety, we are talking about it all. This is a conversation that is relevant whether you have a 5 year old or 15 year old, so grab a cup of coffee or pop in those earbuds and join us. As always, we hope you are encouraged and equipped!

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WT 173: Technology + Motherhood with Arlene Pellicane

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 06 Aug 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Karen and guest host Katie Leipprandt are chatting with Arlene Pellicane today about how technology has impacted our parenting world. We talk about the ways we use technology as moms, the benefits and pitfalls of having a world of technology at arm's length and some boundaries we can consider putting in place to stay connected in our most important relationships - our families.

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WT 172: Real Talk with Karen's Kids

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 30 Jul 2019 04:00:00 -0400

On today's episode all of Karen's children join her in the studio to answer questions you guys have asked about the Stubbs family. Hear their thoughts on growing up in a big family, what traditions they want to carry into their own families one day, and for sure don't miss them answering the question, "How did Karen mess up as a mom?"

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WT 171: Mom Friendships

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 23 Jul 2019 04:00:00 -0400

On today’s episode we’re getting real about how isolating and lonely life as a mom can be. Listen in to hear Karen answer questions from moms who have recently moved, single moms, and a newly stay-at-home mom. As always, we hope this conversation encourages you! Let us know what you want to hear more of on the show by emailing us at info@birdsonawiremoms.com.

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WT 170: Surviving (and Thriving!) As A Single Mom

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 16 Jul 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Two single moms, Misty Paige and Michelle Lane, join Karen and Sunny on today’s episode to answer your questions, share their hearts, and discuss their experiences as single parents. Listen to hear how they grew as they journeyed from being single moms to young children, to watching those well-adjusted children leave their nests. We hope this encourages your heart whether you are parenting on your own, or have single moms in your circle of friends.

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WT 169: Blended Families and Helping Kids Handle Divorce

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 09 Jul 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Karen shares wisdom for talking about divorce, separation, and navigating a blended family on today’s episode of Wire Talk. Even if you are not in a blended family or going through a divorce, listen to better understand the moms around you. (And don’t miss Karen sharing the prayer she prays that helps her love even the most unloveable people in her life!)

Whether you’re married for the first time, re-married or divorced, we hope this episode gives you a few tools for navigating a tough season of life.

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WT 168: Being a Working Mom

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 02 Jul 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Any working moms out there? We thought so. On today's show Karen answers your questions about managing work plus motherhood and the conflicting emotions that often accompany that combination. She reminds us all to quit chasing perfect and tells us exactly what we should do with all our mom guilt.

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WT 167: How Do We Fight Fair in Our Families?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 25 Jun 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Karen dives into her mentoring bag of tricks on today's episode to share three key principles for fighting fairly in our families. Learn to practice assertiveness and what it means to actively listen to one another. Plus, find out what Karen's "wish list" activity for conflict resolution is all about.

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WT 166: Clinging to the Upside of Life's Downs with Whoa, Susannah!

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 18 Jun 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Author Susannah B. Lewis of Whoa, Susannah! joins Karen and Sunny today for a conversation you don't want to miss. Susannah opens up about the very real way she clings to God and His Word while facing the curve balls life inevitably throws. If you're already a fan, you're going to love Susannah even more after this chat (if that's possible). And if she's a new voice for you, you're going to understand why more than a million folks find her honest and encouraging humor so refreshing! Stay tuned through the end of the show for details on a fun giveaway!

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WT 165: Authentic Intimacy with Dr. Juli Slattery

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 11 Jun 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Dr. Juli Slattery joins Karen and Sunny today to answer your questions about sexual intimacy within marriage. Juli gives her thoughts on what to do when you’re the one with the higher sex drive, how to keep your sex life alive when you’re exhausted at the end of every day, and how we can integrate our spirituality with our sexuality. (Psst, pop in your earbuds for this one!)

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WT 164: Playing To Your Strengths As A Yellow Mom

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 04 Jun 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Yellow moms, this episode is for YOU! Karen is also a yellow, so this conversation is especially fun to listen to as she tells stories about growing up as a yellow and how she brought her yellow strengths to play in her mothering. Not a yellow mom? Listen in to better understand and love on your friends!

In today's conversation, Karen and Sunny address your questions about the monotony of mothering, how to balance your desire for FUN with your kiddo's need for structure, and how to keep the long-term in mind when your nature is to live for the moment.

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WT 163: Disordered Eating & Body Image with Therapist Angela Schaffner

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 28 May 2019 04:00:00 -0400

We all want to be the healthiest version of ourselves possible, but what happens when we fall into destructive patterns with exercise or eating? And what can we do when we see a loved one struggling with the same thing?

Today, therapist Angela Schaffner joins Karen and Sunny in the studio to answer your questions about struggling with eating disorders, uncovering the reasons behind our damaging behaviors, and setting an example for our children.

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WT 162: Positive Body Image & Staying Healthy Amidst the Demands of Motherhood

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 21 May 2019 04:00:00 -0400

There's no way around it, motherhood changes a woman's body. Whether it's stretch marks from giving birth, or a stretched schedule that allows little time for exercise, there's a new normal once kids are a part of your daily routine.

Today Sunny and Karen answer your questions about making time to work out, giving yourself grace, and ultimately, making peace with the beautiful and capable body God has given you.

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WT 161: Friends Are Friends Forever...Or Are They?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 14 May 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Is it okay that my 7 year old prefers to spend time with our family over other kids? How can I teach my son to be a good friend at school? How do I handle “tricky” friends - ones who look good on paper but who are secretly doing all the things I don’t want my teenage son involved in?

On today’s show we’re tackling questions about your kids and their peer relationships. Tune in to hear this far-ranging discussion and stay tuned until the end for the verse Karen wants us to meditate on as we relinquish control over this arena of our children’s lives.

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WT 160: Help For The Perfection-Seeking Blue Mom

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 07 May 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Blue mommas, today is all about YOU. You love order, routine, and nothing makes you smile quite like fresh vacuum lines on a rug. So often times the chaos of mom life drives you nuts! Today Karen and Sunny are tackling your questions on how to carve out time to restore your peace, how to let go of the mile-long to-do list in your mind and just enjoy your kids, and how to communicate your needs to your spouse or kids.

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WT 159: Processing Grief in Motherhood with Judy Wolfe

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 30 Apr 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Grief doesn't make exceptions or take a time out because you're a mom. Whether you're dealing with the loss of a parent or pregnancy, an unexpected diagnosis or the death of a dream, grief touches us all at some point along our journey of motherhood. On today's episode Karen speaks with reverend Judy Wolfe on how we can navigate the complex emotion of grief and how we can help our children process grief when it intersects with their lives as well.

If you've ever wondered how you're supposed to keep driving carpool and checking homework while walking through the valley of grief, we hope you'll tune in today and be encouraged. You are not alone, momma.

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WT 158: Preparing Your Senior for College

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 23 Apr 2019 04:00:00 -0400

On today’s episode Karen and Sunny answer questions from moms with high school seniors getting ready for graduation! We cover enjoying this last summer at home with your child, how often is too often to “check in”, what to expect on move-in day and even how to handle visits home now that your child is living independently at school.

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WT 157: Letting Go of Your Need For Control As A Red Mom

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 16 Apr 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Red moms, this is the episode you've been waiting for! Today Karen tackles your questions and talks about both the positives and the negatives that come along with being a red mom. We discuss anger, identity, and what happens when a red mom and a red child face off.

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WT 156: Discipline 3.0 - Adolescence & Beyond

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 09 Apr 2019 04:00:00 -0400

Today we're wrapping up our three part series by answering your questions on what discipline looks like as our kids move into adolescence. Karen explains the key principle that as moms, these are the years when we need to let consequences play out in our kids' lives. We answer questions about a lying daughter, how to address arrogant attitudes, and the role men can play in our sons' life during high school. Plus, find out why a pair of AirPods might just be the thing you need to make it through these years without losing your mind.

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WT 155: Discipline 2.0 - The Middle Years

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 02 Apr 2019 04:00:00 -0400

How do you discipline in the middle years when time outs aren't an effective option any more and your kids are rapidly closing in on adolescence? Tune in to hear Karen's philosophy on the purpose of discipline in these years and hear your questions answered about the discipline situations you are facing with your 6 to 12 year olds.

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WT 154: Discipline 1.0 - Laying the Foundation

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 26 Mar 2019 04:00:00 -0400

What do you do when time outs just aren't cutting it anymore? Join Karen and Sunny today for the first discussion in a three part mini-series all about discipline. We talk about the why behind the how, explain what Karen means when she talks about a child's "currency," and even take a deep dive into the topic of spanking. We hope this episode is a little refresher course on the purpose of discipline and helps you understand the importance of laying a solid foundation during the early years.

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WT 153: Establishing & Communicating Boundaries

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 19 Mar 2019 04:00:00 -0400

We all know establishing boundaries is important, but we don't always understand how to communicate those boundaries to those around us. On today's show, Karen helps us understand how to communicate our family boundaries to our children, how to deal with toxic relationships in extended families, and how to stand your ground without feeling guilty. Plus Sunny shares a great tip for taking the pressure off of your child as far as keeping your rules when they head to a friend's home.

Mommas, we hope this episode brings you great freedom as you parent this week!

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WT 152: Thriving As A Calm & Peaceful Green Mom

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 12 Mar 2019 04:00:00 -0400

We're talking personalities again today, but this time we're discussing YOUR personality, and specifically answering questions from our tender and peace-loving GREEN mamas. Listen to hear the advice Karen has for a green mom worn out by her red and yellow kids, how green moms can thrive in a rainbow of competing family members, and stay tuned to hear Karen share a text she receives in the middle of recording with exciting news about her son! :)

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WT 151: Sibling Rivalry

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 05 Mar 2019 04:00:00 -0500

Do your bickering kids drive you nuts some days? You're in good company, momma! On today's episode Karen and Sunny answer your questions all about sibling relationships, rivalry, and the inevitable run-ins that happen when you have more than one child in your family.

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WT 150: To Grow or Not To Grow?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 26 Feb 2019 04:00:00 -0500

How do you know when your family is complete? On today's episode of Wire Talk Karen and Sunny answer questions about family planning, infertility, and what it looks like to seek God in prayer when it comes to His plans for your future family.

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WT 149: Teens & Dating with Karen and Greg Stubbs

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 19 Feb 2019 04:00:00 -0500

Today Greg Stubbs joins Karen in the studio to talk about how they navigated dating relationships during their children's teenage years. They discuss the boundaries they set for their kids during the dating years, how they handled boyfriends and girlfriends they didn't like, and how they kept the lines of communication open during these important years.

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WT 148: Keeping The Spark Alive

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 04:00:00 -0500

After being married for a while, it's easy to get stuck in a rut. Especially in the busy years between having kids and becoming empty nesters, it’s easy for our weeks to become a blur of dividing kid duties. This week on Wire Talk, Sunny and Karen talk about getting creative for date night, how to find great babysitters and why we should even bother!

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WT 147: The Truth About Postpartum Depression with Dr. Michele Harding

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 05 Feb 2019 04:01:00 -0500

Dr. Michelle Harding joins Sunny and Karen in the studio today to share her professional wisdom and personal experience with postpartum depression. We answer your questions about how to recognize PPD, what to do if you're going through PPD, and how we can be good friends to moms around us walking through a season of postpartum depression. As always, we hope you are encouraged by this conversation!

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WT 146: Handling Discontment in Marriage

Karen Stubbs — Wed, 23 Jan 2019 10:41:40 -0500

We all walk down the aisle with hearts full of hope, but a few years and a kid or two down the road, we often discover marriage is more work than we thought it would be.

On today's episode Karen and Sunny answer questions from moms struggling in their marriages in different ways; wondering how to stay content, how to get on the same page with their spouse, and even what to do when they aren't sure their marriage will survive. We hope this conversation encourages you to choose joy and fight for your marriage, especially when it feels like the hardest thing to do.

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WT 145: Little Miss Sunshine - Parenting Your Yellow Child

Karen Stubbs — Thu, 17 Jan 2019 17:55:51 -0500

Yellow kids are bubbly, affectionate, fun loving...and they can be exhausting! Today we're wrapping up our series on the four personality temperaments by answering questions all about "yellow" kids. If you've ever wished your child would just stop talking, this is an episode you don't want to skip.

For more advice from Karen on the other personality types, listen to episodes 121, 132 and 136.

Read all of our blog posts specific to the personality colors HERE.

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WT 144: Managing Your Family's Schedule

Karen Stubbs — Thu, 10 Jan 2019 12:00:00 -0500

These days moms work more hours than ever and are usually the primary keepers of the family schedule. Grocery shopping, doctor's appointments, preparing dinner, driving carpool, buying birthday gifts, folding laundry and oh yeah, for many of us there's a little thing called work, too. We're often looking at our calendars and scratching our heads, wondering how we can control them instead of being controlled by them.

On today's show, Karen and Sunny answer questions about routine, schedules and managing the busyness that accompanies family life. We hope you're encouraged by a tip to help calm the chaos and as always, reminded that you are not alone!

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WT 143: How to Lead Other Moms Well

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 01 Jan 2019 22:59:05 -0500

Did you know moms all over the U.S. and even across the world gather together weekly or monthly in small groups to learn from Birds on a Wire studies together? On today's Wire Talk we're answering questions from moms who host BOAW groups. Everything from, "how do I get a new group going?" and "how can I get moms to open up?" to "what do I do when I need a break from leading but don't want the group to end?" Tune in to hear the advice Karen has for our BOAW host moms - maybe you'll be inspired to host a BOAW group yourself!

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WT 142: Delighting in the Holidays

Karen Stubbs — Wed, 12 Dec 2018 07:47:18 -0500

It’s our last episode of 2018 and this year we are doing something we have never done before. Wire Talk is taking some time off! We wanted to take the advice we are always giving moms, and take a break from our usual routine so we can spend the time in between Christmas and New Year's Day resting and enjoying our families. Enjoy this episode all about the holidays and we'll see you back here in 2019!

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WT 141: Parenting When Your Spouse is Often Away

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 03 Dec 2018 20:31:25 -0500

Being on the same page with your spouse is never simple, and when one spouse is frequently away from home, things get even more complicated. On Wire Talk today, Karen and Sunny answer questions about how to squash resentment, smooth out the re-entry process, and even get dinner on the table when you're flying solo.

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WT 140: The Emotional World of Kids with special guest David Thomas

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 03 Dec 2018 16:36:39 -0500

Maybe your teenage daughter suddenly bursts into tears at the drop of a hat or maybe your 9 year old son is constantly slamming the door over math homework. The variety of emotions our kids express in one afternoon can leave us confused and exhausted.

David Thomas, one of our most popular break-out speakers at this year's Soar conference, joins Sunny today to address the questions so many of us have when it comes to our kids' emotional needs. We cover when to lean in and when to back off, how to discern what is hormones and what is normal behavior and David gives loads of practical tips to help you navigate the outbursts. Whether you're dealing with anger, sadness, anxiety or frustration, we think you'll hear something in this episode that equips you to respond with grace.

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WT 139: Surviving the Chaos of the Toddler Years

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 26 Nov 2018 16:40:15 -0500

Meal times, temper tantrums, their constant desire for your undivided attention ... it seems we can't do enough episodes on how to survive the toddler years! Many of you are asking, how can we survive the chaos and maybe even enjoy a little bit of these fleeting years? Today Sunny and Karen are addressing your questions and hopefully giving you hope that you CAN do this!

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WT 138: Can You Help Me Navigate The Grandparents?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 13 Nov 2018 16:26:04 -0500

Just in time for the holidays! On today's episode we're answering your questions on how to handle those awkward, messy, and sometimes frustrating situations that occasionally (okay, maybe often) pop up with the grandparents. Karen and Sunny address boundaries, holiday travel and child care questions. So tune in on that long drive to see your family and we hope you feel ready to engage your family in a healthy way this year.

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WT 137: Teen Mental Health & Suicide Risk Factors with special guest Debbie Causey

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 12 Nov 2018 15:33:43 -0500

Suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death among students today. As a society we are clearly in crisis, and as mothers, we are fighting on the front line in this battle. Today one of Karen's best friends, Debbie Causey, joins us to talk about her own journey as the mother of a child with mental health conditions. As a mental health professional, Debbie also shares her wisdom on warning signs we can be looking for and the steps we can take to fight for our children's lives.

Even if you have toddlers and this conversation feels light years away, listen for a friend, a family member, or a student you know and love.

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WT 136: Help! My "Blue" Kid Is Making Me Melancholy

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 05 Nov 2018 17:52:41 -0500

Organized, thoughtful, loyal, precise. Our "blue" kids will grow up to be incredible leaders one day. The only problem is ... today may not be that day. Listen in as Karen and Sunny address questions from listeners all about the blue, or melancholy, temperament. From how to balance their need for quiet with your family's activities to addressing their mood swings without catering to them, this is one episode packed with practical advice for all you moms of little Eeyores!

Read all of our blog posts specific to the personality colors HERE.

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WT 135: How Do I Teach My Kids Gratitude?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 29 Oct 2018 13:16:52 -0400

How many times have you coached your child to say, "thank you" during the younger years? While teaching a two year old to respond politely is one task, teaching a 14 year old to be grateful for opportunities and possessions is entirely another. On today's episode Sunny and Karen answer your questions about instilling gratitude in our children's hearts. Make sure you have your close-toed shoes on mommas, Karen may step on a few toes in this one!

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WT 134: Understanding Sensory Based Behavior with Occupational Therapist Christy Bennett

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 22 Oct 2018 14:23:19 -0400

Mother and occupational therapist Christy Bennett joins Sunny and Karen in this episode to dive into sensory based behavior. We discuss what sensory behaviors are and how to provide the sensory stimulus (or lack thereof) that your child is craving. Christy also answers your questions on how to talk to teachers about your child's specific needs and how parents can advocate for their child in the school system and in situations with other adults (coaches, church leaders, etc.)

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WT 133: What Do I Do About Mean Girls?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 09 Oct 2018 17:05:45 -0400

We may love to quote Lindsay Lohan in Mean Girls, but no one thinks it's funny when you encounter a real-life mean girl. On Wire Talk today Sunny and Karen answer your questions all about girl drama. From playdate peer pressure to the high school hierarchy, how do you equip your daughter to handle mean girls and the yuck that inevitably comes along with some female relationships? Whether your daughter is 3, 13 or 30, tune in to hear Karen's thoughts, and be encouraged that you can mother with confidence through these difficult times.

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WT 132: Gaining Understanding of Our 'Greens'

Karen Stubbs — Sat, 06 Oct 2018 22:33:39 -0400

Peaceful, easy-going, conflict-avoiders ... however you describe them, to a parent who doesn't understand their motivations, 'green' kids can be a mystery. Today Karen and Sunny discuss teaching our greens to take responsibility for themselves when they are younger and how we can help them handle the pressures that come along with high school when they get older. Whether or not you have a green child, we think you'll learn something new when you tune in.

For Karen's blog posts about each of the personality colors, head HERE.

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WT 131: Intimacy After Babies with special guest Dr. Mike Sytsma

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 01 Oct 2018 16:03:10 -0400

Today we have a much anticipated episode for you! With us in the Nest studio is Dr. Mike Sytsma. Dr. Mike has been a break-out speaker the past several years at our annual Soar Conference. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Georgia, a Certified Sex Therapist, and a Certified Sexual Addictions Specialist. He's also an ordained minister who is passionate about marriage and helping couples grow in their marriage.

We are so glad he is hear to provide expert level advice and answers to your questions moms about Intimacy After Babies. Dr. Mike thank you for joining us!

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WT 130: How Do I Create a Peaceful Home? [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Fri, 21 Sep 2018 13:59:34 -0400

We often talk about bringing peace to the world, but what about bringing peace to your home? On the last of our month-long series of re-broadcast episodes today, Karen doles out advice on everything from creating a family routine and what do when the kids come to you with the dreaded, "I'm bored!" to how to handle differences between you and your spouse when it come to chores and household maintenance. As always, we hope you take away a nugget of practical advice that helps you maintain the peace in your home this week.

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WT 129: How Do I Re-Connect with My Spouse After Kids? [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 17 Sep 2018 13:36:57 -0400

When children enter the picture, your life changes forever. Your sleep habits change, your diet is changed, your schedule is changed and the amount of laundry you do definitely changes. As your child grows, some of these areas in your life get back to normal, except for your laundry ... that continues to build!

The addition of children changes your marriage too. So how do you balance life with children and your spouse? It's hard to do, and let’s be honest, sometimes our spouses are put on the back burner because we don’t have the energy to put in the “extra” time with them. Tune in to today's episode to hear Karen answer questions from moms about how to re-connect with their spouse now that kids are in the picture!

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WT 128: How Do I Create A Balanced Life? [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Fri, 07 Sep 2018 17:33:05 -0400

How do you keep a balance between kids, marriage, work, spirituality, and time for yourself? On today's re-broadcast of a Wire Talk favorite, Karen tackles a broad variety of questions moms constantly ask. Is balance possible? And what does a balanced life even look like? Tune in to hear Karen's straightforward advice as always!

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WT 127: How Do I Overcome Mommy Guilt? [RE-AIR]

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 03 Sep 2018 21:50:20 -0400

Moms, the feelings of guilt are REAL. We feel guilty being late to get our kids at daycare and guilty for not staying late at the office. Guilty for taking them to Chick-fil-A for dinner and guilty that we DIDN'T take them to Chick-fil-A for dinner! That's why we love what Karen has to say about guilt and how we can shake free of what can feel like a constant burden to us as mothers. We hope this episode gives you a practical way to overcome your mommy guilt and leaves you encouraged!

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WT 126: Can You Please Help Me Get Some Sleep?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 27 Aug 2018 20:49:10 -0400

If anything is a universal experience among mothers, it's sleep deprivation. Whether you're nursing through the night, have a toddler who climbs into your bed too early in the morning or you're staying up late to take advantage of a finally quiet home ... moms know what it's like to miss out on sleep.

Listen in for Karen and Sunny's practical advice on how to get the sleep both you and your kids need!

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WT 125: How Do I Handle My Sweet Little Liar?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 20 Aug 2018 20:03:36 -0400

Lying is one thing we never teach our kids how to do and yet somehow they figure it out all on their own. On today's episode Karen shares her thoughts on how to discipline when you're not sure which child is lying, what the difference is between tattling and confessing and how to encourage honesty between teenagers.

Like what you heard? Visit www.birdsonawiremoms.com for more encouragement in your daily walk of motherhood.

WT 124: Managing the Homefront

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 13 Aug 2018 15:26:02 -0400

Whether you're a working mom or a stay at home mom, studies show that women tend to bear the brunt of the work in and around the home. On today's episode Karen and Sunny answer questions from moms about household chores, fighting with our kids over mealtime and how to ask for help from our partners. We love that Karen tells one mom to let it go, one mom to ask for help and one mom to get a maid! Stay tuned 'til the end to hear Karen's #1 hack for keeping your house tidy.

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WT 123: Back to School

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 16:12:50 -0400

Whether your kids have already headed back to school or the yellow bus will be rolling around the corner in the next few weeks - today's episode is for all moms with school-age kiddos. From getting out the door in the morning to checking homework at night, Karen doles out practical wisdom to help you and your kids thrive this school year. Don't miss Karen's advice for those of you suffering from volunteeritis (the inability to say no when asked to volunteer at school) and stay tuned to hear about the perfect back-to-school product you can snag at this year's Soar Conference.

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WT 122: Finding Your Purpose with Candace Cameron Bure

Karen Stubbs — Wed, 25 Jul 2018 18:24:51 -0400

We've got a fun one for you today moms! Candace Cameron Bure, actress, mom and as she often points out, first and foremost a follower of Jesus, joins us to talk about faith and family. We love Candace's words of encouragement for young mothers and think that wherever you are in your journey of motherhood, you'll benefit from the reminder in this conversation that our primary purpose in all that we do is to glorify God.

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WT 121: How Do I Parent My "Red" Strong-Willed Child?

Karen Stubbs — Sat, 21 Jul 2018 11:08:51 -0400

Those strong-willed kiddos - phew! We know they'll be leaders one day, but what do we do TODAY when they won't listen or are constantly pushing back against us?

In this discussion, Karen and Sunny take questions about these strong personalities; how do we effectively discipline them? How do we establish our authority without crushing their spirits? How do we teach them to harness their innate confidence without being aggressive or coming across as a bully?

We hope this conversation gives you a few tools to parent your headstrong children with confidence.

For Karen's blog posts about each of the personality colors, head HERE.

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WT 120: When Multiple Personalities Collide

Karen Stubbs — Sun, 15 Jul 2018 12:00:00 -0400

On today's show we talk about what happens when all of your darling children’s personalities collide. We talk about the fighting and bickering that is so common among siblings as well as how we moms can give to each of our children so they feel known and loved. Karen and Sunny chat about what it feels like to be the mom caught in the middle and offer their insights into how we can maintain a peaceful home in the midst of what often feels like chaos.

If you like what you heard, subscribe in iTunes and leave a review to help other moms find Wire Talk!

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WT 119: How Do I Communicate Well With My Mom (Or My Mother-In-Law!) About My Kids?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 09 Jul 2018 21:22:28 -0400

Becoming a mom changes everything - but some of those changes catch us completely off guard. On today's episode Karen answers your questions about how to communicate with your own mother (or mother in law!) now that your kids are a part of your relationship. Karen also answers a question from a mom about how to talk to her adult son - this is one episode you don't want to miss!

Like what you heard? Visit www.birdsonawiremoms.com for more encouragement on your journey of motherhood. And don't forget to subscribe in iTunes and leave us a review if you are loving Wire Talk!

WT 118: I Want It All & I Want It Now

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 02 Jul 2018 11:08:25 -0400

Today's episode is all about finding contentment mommas. Karen answers questions about comparison, entitlement and allowances in this episode about learning to be content in our lives. Tune in to hear Karen's wisdom about how we can pass on to our children the peace that comes from running your own race at your own pace.

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WT 117: Why Is Mom Life So Lonely?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 15:23:23 -0400

We’re getting real about how lonely and isolating motherhood can be on Wire Talk today. Karen talks about her time as a young mom living away from family and friends when Greg was in the Navy, offers advice to a single mom wondering how she can relate to all of her married friends and gives a brand new mom tips on making and being a good friend.

If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe and leave a review in iTunes and be sure to check out www.birdsonawiremoms.com for more encouragement from Karen every week!

WT 116: Technology & Your Kids with special guest Tom Shefchunas

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 13:18:30 -0400

Today’s episode is really important moms and because we wanted to get it right, we called in an expert. Today Tom Shefchunas joins us in the Nest to talk about technology and our kids. We were incredibly grateful he could share his expertise with us and we look forward to hearing more from him as a break-out speaker at this year’s Soar conference!

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WT 115: Honoring Dad with special guest Greg Stubbs

Karen Stubbs — Fri, 08 Jun 2018 16:31:35 -0400

In honor of Father’s Day next weekend (hint hint ladies) today on Wire Talk we're answering your questions all about dad! Since we're not dads ourselves, we thought it made sense to bring in a real-life dad to offer up his thoughts, so Greg Stubbs joins Karen and Sunny in the studio today with his thoughts on everything from good Father's Day gifts and traveling for work to how we can communicate effectively with our husbands. Listen in for Greg's wisdom on fatherhood and so much more.

If you enjoyed Wire Talk, visit www.birdsonawiremoms.com for more encouragement on your journey of motherhood.

And snag tickets to the upcoming Soar conference at www.birdsonsawiremoms.com/soar2018

WT 114: How To Survive Summer

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 04 Jun 2018 08:29:10 -0400

On today's episode of Wire Talk we are answering questions about how as moms we can make it through the dog days of summer. From how to make vacation actually feel like vacation when there's so much work involved, to helping our kids learn to entertain themselves ... listen in for Karen's practical answers and encouragement on making this a great summer for your kids and you too momma!

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WT 113: I Want To Do It All, But I'm Just SO Tired

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 28 May 2018 22:18:03 -0400

On today's episode of Wire Talk, Sunny and Karen answer questions from moms who are feeling overwhelmed by all they have to manage day to day. From working to intimacy, bedtime talks with kids to keeping the house clean, listen in to hear Karen's thoughts on what needs to be a priority and what can be let go in the midst of busy seasons.

Like what you heard?

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WT 112: Anxiety in Motherhood with Special Guest Dr. Emily Shupert

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 21 May 2018 06:00:00 -0400

Today we are here with Dr. Emily Shupert of Simplify Life Counseling to talk about anxiety and how it affects us as mothers. Dr. Shupert is a licensed professional counselor in the Atlanta area - in her practice she integrates psychology with theology and in particular loves helping clients work through anxiety and depression.

We hope this episode brings you hope and help if anxiety as a mother has been a struggle for you!

WT 111: Raising Older Girls

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 14 May 2018 14:17:27 -0400

Today we're wrapping up a 4 part mini-series focused on raising boys and girls. In this last episode of the series we are taking questions from moms about their pre-teen and teenage daughters - we even have a question coming from a grandmother on the show today which we love! Tune in if you're wondering how on earth to have "the talk" with your girls, if social media concerns you or if gossip has taken a hold of your daughter's heart.

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WT 110: Raising Little Girls

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 07 May 2018 15:32:32 -0400

Today we're talking all about little girls. This is the 3rd episode in a mini-series focused on raising boys and girls. For the last two weeks we tackled tough questions from boy mamas and today we are switching gears to talk about raising little girls. Tune in if sassiness, body image or competition between sisters is something you've ever dealt with!

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WT 109: Raising Older Boys

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 30 Apr 2018 14:58:29 -0400

Being a boy mom is not for the faint of heart! On today's episode Karen and Sunny answer questions from moms that will make you laugh and might even make you cry. We tackle body odor, pornography and Karen suggests how single moms can fill the gap when Dad isn't around as a role model for their boys.

Like what you heard? Visit www.birdsonawiremoms.com for more encouragement and make sure you subscribe and leave a review in iTunes!

WT 108: Raising Little Boys

Karen Stubbs — Thu, 19 Apr 2018 17:33:36 -0400

We are excited to bring you the first episode in our mini-series all about Raising Boys & Girls today. In this episode we are fielding questions from boy moms - specifically moms with little boys. Body odor and hormones here we come! What a privilege and what a challenge to be a boy mom huh?

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WT 107: Handling Conflict With Our Husbands

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 16 Apr 2018 08:47:24 -0400

Today's episode is all about spouses and how we handle conflict with them. No biggie right? We’ve got questions on everything from intimacy and discipline to finances. Don't miss the teaser Karen sneaks in about the new curriculum she and Greg are developing!

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WT 106: Raising a Child with Special Needs (with guest Kimber Burgess)

Karen Stubbs — Sun, 08 Apr 2018 21:03:08 -0400

Today we are speaking with Kimber Burgess, a friend of the show and incredible mom raising a child with special needs. We know many of you also have a child with special needs and we hope this conversation encourages you. This episode is packed with incredible wisdom for us all, including ways you can encourage the families of children with special needs in your community. If a mom of a child with special needs comes to mind, share this episode with her so she can be encouraged today!

WT 105: Is There A Right Way To Be A Working Mom?

Karen Stubbs — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 22:02:16 -0400

There's no 'right' way to be a working mom and of course it's not 'wrong' to be a working mom either! On today's episode Karen and Sunny take questions from moms about work, work-life balance and all the emotions that come along with navigating this part of life once kids enter the picture.

If today's episode encouraged you, visit www.birdsonawiremoms.com for more encouragement on your journey of motherhood. And, don't forget to subscribe and leave a review on iTunes!

WT 104: How Do I Get Through To My Tween

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 26 Mar 2018 15:08:52 -0400

The middle school years are a time of change and awkwardness that most of us would never willingly return to, but they are also the time when you really start to see the adult your child is going to be emerging. The tween years don’t have to merely be endured, I promise you can enjoy them mom!

WT 103: How Do You Parent the Kid God Gave You?

Karen Stubbs — Sat, 17 Mar 2018 00:22:15 -0400

Wire Talk is a podcast designed to encourage and equip moms by answering your questions about motherhood, hopefully helping you maintain your faithfulness to God while experiencing a peaceful life on your journey.

WT 102: How Do I Figure Out What Good Discipline Looks Like?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 06 Mar 2018 15:34:23 -0500

WT 101: Where Did All These Mom Emotions Come From?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 05 Mar 2018 16:03:01 -0500

WT 100: A Candid Conversation with Karen's Kids

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 26 Feb 2018 19:17:34 -0500

WT 99: Keeping the Future in Mind

Karen Stubbs — Fri, 16 Feb 2018 22:47:02 -0500

WT 98: How Do I Get on The Same Page As My Husband?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 06 Feb 2018 17:00:47 -0500

WT 97: Navigating the Terrible Twos

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 05 Feb 2018 14:04:42 -0500

The toddler days are hard and long days. I loved my children and now I look at pictures and think to myself, or my goodness they were so cute! But, teaching, disciplining and training a toddler is no joke.

Join us for this episode as we take questions from moms all about the toddler years.

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WT 96: How Do I Help My Child Find A Faith of Their Own?

Karen Stubbs — Fri, 26 Jan 2018 17:24:42 -0500

WT 95: Discipling Your Child's Heart

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 22 Jan 2018 15:49:48 -0500

Today's episode focuses on how to talk to your child about what is going on inside of their heart and how to address some of the behaviors that don’t necessarily deserve a time out.

Join us as Karen and Sunny answer your questions and offer their insights into how to disciple your child's heart.

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WT 94: How Do I Manage My Home Without Going Crazy?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 15 Jan 2018 21:11:46 -0500

WT 93: How Can I Be More Intentional in 2018?

Karen Stubbs — Sat, 06 Jan 2018 15:06:16 -0500

WT 92: How Do I Start a Birds on a Wire Group?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 01 Jan 2018 14:58:40 -0500

WT 91: Happy Holidays from Birds on a Wire Pt. 2

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 18 Dec 2017 23:40:52 -0500

WT 90: Happy Holidays from Birds on a Wire: A Special Note for Moms

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 18 Dec 2017 19:54:23 -0500

WT 89: How Do I Show My Husband He Matters Too?

Karen Stubbs — Sat, 09 Dec 2017 13:41:26 -0500

WT 88: How Do I Set Up My Children for Independence?

Karen Stubbs — Thu, 30 Nov 2017 17:15:08 -0500

WT 87: Should I Pretend Like I Have It All Together?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 27 Nov 2017 10:50:03 -0500

WireTalk with Karen Stubbs is a podcast designed to encourage and equip moms by answering your questions about motherhood, hopefully helping you maintain your faithfulness to God while experiencing a peaceful life on your journey.

WT 86: Practicing Gratitude and Preparing Your Heart for the Holidays

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 20 Nov 2017 08:01:19 -0500

WT 85: How Do I Start Dating My Husband Again?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 13 Nov 2017 09:28:29 -0500

WT 84: Are My Kids Supposed to Turn Out Like Me?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 06 Nov 2017 11:22:40 -0500

WT 083: My Kids Are Acting Out: What Should I Do?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 31 Oct 2017 07:30:07 -0400

WT 082: I Didn't Know I Had To Prepare For That: Anticipating The Unexpected

Karen Stubbs — Fri, 20 Oct 2017 12:00:39 -0400

WT 081: What If I’m Not Ready For My Child to Grow Up?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 17 Oct 2017 09:41:02 -0400

Wire Talk Unplugged: What's Happening at Birds On A Wire

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 10 Oct 2017 09:32:02 -0400

WT 079: How Do I Manage a Growing Family?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 02 Oct 2017 10:29:49 -0400

WT 078: How To I Manage Life's Schedule?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 26 Sep 2017 07:46:15 -0400

WT 077: How Do I Cultivate My Child's Character?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 19 Sep 2017 09:29:31 -0400

WT 076: How Do I Help My Child Deal With Peer Pressure?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 12 Sep 2017 09:40:09 -0400

WT 075: When Do I Let Them Fail And When Do I Step In?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 05 Sep 2017 08:19:47 -0400

WT 074: Greg and Karen Stubbs on Parenting, Marriage and Other Lessons From 31 Years Together

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 29 Aug 2017 08:53:38 -0400

WT 073: What Can I Do to Help My Kid's Faith?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 22 Aug 2017 08:54:31 -0400

WT 72: How Can I Get My Teen's Respect?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 15 Aug 2017 08:42:51 -0400

We love our sweet teens (even in their not-always-so-sweet moments), but it doesn't mean that parenting them isn't tough. They're growing and changing and facing enormous amounts of pressure, and sometimes... the moms are the ones who can feel the wrath of it all. The good news is: every teen goes through this. You'll both make it to the other side of this season.

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WT 071: How Do I Handle My Aging Parents?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 08 Aug 2017 00:01:00 -0400

WT 070: How Do I Prepare to Be a New Mom?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 01 Aug 2017 07:30:35 -0400

WT 069: How Do I Calm Back-to-School Nerves?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 25 Jul 2017 08:50:56 -0400

WT 68: What If I Don't Feel Like a Good Mom?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 18 Jul 2017 08:07:43 -0400

WT 067: How Do I Get My Child to Stop Crying?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 11 Jul 2017 09:09:16 -0400

WT 66: How Do I Start to Focus on Me Again?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 03 Jul 2017 20:22:35 -0400

WT 065: How Do I Deal With Social Media Comparisons?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 27 Jun 2017 00:00:00 -0400

WT 064: How Do I Find My Passion Again?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 20 Jun 2017 10:27:15 -0400

WT 63: How Do I Get Through Losing a Pregnancy or Child?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 13 Jun 2017 08:31:52 -0400

WT 062: How Do I Survive and Thrive in the Summer?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 06 Jun 2017 08:32:07 -0400

WT 061: Sandra Stanley's 5 Things You Need to Know About Fostering

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 29 May 2017 23:12:06 -0400

WT 060: What Are The Different Personality Colors?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 23 May 2017 00:00:00 -0400

WT 059: How Do I Apologize to My Kids?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 16 May 2017 08:15:26 -0400

WT 058: Why Is Everything a Fight?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 09 May 2017 00:17:12 -0400

WT 057: School's Out for Summer: How Do I Care for My Kids?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 02 May 2017 11:28:40 -0400

WT 056: How Do I Make Each Child Feel Like a Priority?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 24 Apr 2017 23:34:50 -0400

WT 055: Will the Attachment Phase Ever Stop?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 18 Apr 2017 07:24:40 -0400

WT 054: How Do I Manage the Busyness of Spring?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 11 Apr 2017 07:59:19 -0400

WT 053: How Do I Create and Maintain Family Values?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 03 Apr 2017 22:32:06 -0400

WT 052: How Do I Parent My Growing Teenager?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 28 Mar 2017 07:23:41 -0400

WT 051: I'm a New Parent: What Do I Need to Know?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 21 Mar 2017 07:50:08 -0400

WT 050: 5 Things You Asked About Karen

Karen Stubbs — Thu, 09 Mar 2017 22:15:03 -0500

WT 049: How Do I Build Friends as an Adult?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 06 Mar 2017 12:55:53 -0500

WT 048: What Do I Do About Mommy Guilt?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 28 Feb 2017 01:00:00 -0500

WT 046: How Do I Raise Self-Disciplined Kids?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 13 Feb 2017 16:44:54 -0500

WT 47: How Should You Parent Your Grown Children?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 13 Feb 2017 16:18:22 -0500

WT 045: How Can I Inspire My Family to Help Me More?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 06 Feb 2017 22:37:33 -0500

WT 044: How Do I Create a Peaceful Home?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 30 Jan 2017 21:53:20 -0500

WT 043: Dealing with Divorce

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 24 Jan 2017 01:00:00 -0500

WT 042: How Do I Manage Being a Working Mom?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 16 Jan 2017 16:13:52 -0500

WT 41: How Can I Manage Being a Stay at Home Mom?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 10 Jan 2017 01:00:00 -0500

WT 40: How Do I Start 2017 Off Right?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 03 Jan 2017 01:00:00 -0500

WT 039: How Do I Make Next Year Different?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 27 Dec 2016 01:00:00 -0500

WT 38: Holiday Special: Encouragement for Moms

Karen Stubbs — Wed, 21 Dec 2016 01:00:00 -0500

WT 037: How Do I Teach My Kids the Importance of Christmas?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 13 Dec 2016 01:00:00 -0500

WT 036: How Do I Reconnect With My Husband?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 06 Dec 2016 05:41:49 -0500

WT 036: How Do I Reconnect With My Husband?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 05 Dec 2016 23:51:12 -0500

WT 035: Can You Help Me Understand My Toddler?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 29 Nov 2016 00:57:14 -0500

WT 034: How Do I Make the Holidays Run Smoothly?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 22 Nov 2016 07:01:50 -0500

WT 033: How Do I Stay Motivated?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 15 Nov 2016 00:49:54 -0500

WT 032: What If I Don't Like My Child's Friends?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 08 Nov 2016 07:01:51 -0500

WT 030: How Do I Teach My Kids About Money?

Karen Stubbs — Thu, 27 Oct 2016 20:17:27 -0400

WT 030: The Top 10 Questions Moms Ask Karen

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 25 Oct 2016 06:48:05 -0400

WT 029: How Do I Talk to My Kids About Sex?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 18 Oct 2016 07:32:26 -0400

WT 028: How Do I Create a Balanced Life?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 11 Oct 2016 06:05:48 -0400

WT 027: Should I Be My Child's Parent or Friend?

Karen Stubbs — Fri, 07 Oct 2016 09:09:14 -0400

WT Anniversary Special: The Story of Birds on a Wire

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 04 Oct 2016 01:40:55 -0400

This month Birds on a Wire is celebrating our 5th birthday! Listen in as Karen and Sunny talk about how Birds on a Wire started and what their hopes are for the future of this ministry.

Like what you heard? Head over to www.birdsonawiremoms.com for more encouragement on your daily journey of motherhood. And don't forget to subscribe in iTunes or your favorite podcast app and give us a 5 star review!

WT 026: How Do I Overcome Fear?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 27 Sep 2016 06:55:28 -0400

WT 025: How Do I Parent a Kid in College?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 20 Sep 2016 02:55:42 -0400

If you were one of the many parents—like Karen—who dropped their child off at college last month, the sad emotions might be fading and you might be left wondering: wait, how do I parent a kid in college?

WT 024: How Do I Handle Kids and Bullying?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 13 Sep 2016 00:46:28 -0400

WT 023: How Do I Set Limits on Technology

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 06 Sep 2016 06:50:30 -0400

WT 022: How Can I Stop Comparing Myself to Other Moms?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 30 Aug 2016 06:58:58 -0400

WT 021: How Do I Get Ready for a Busy Year?

Karen Stubbs — Fri, 19 Aug 2016 12:17:09 -0400

Wire Talk 020: How Do I Stop Resenting My Husband?

Karen Stubbs — Wed, 10 Aug 2016 22:36:31 -0400

Wire Talk 019: How Do I Prevent Sibling Rivalry?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 09 Aug 2016 07:29:04 -0400

Wire Talk 018: How Do I Prepare for Back-to-School?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 02 Aug 2016 00:13:42 -0400

WT 017: What Should I Know About the Elementary School Years?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 26 Jul 2016 00:54:02 -0400

It's almost back-to-school time for your elementary schoolers! The elementary years can be tricky—all of a sudden your babies seem to turn into little adults! So how do you handle busy schedules, sleepovers with friends, allowance, and the new responsibility of homework? Karen covers all of that and more on today's episode of Wire Talk!

Wire Talk 016: How Do I Handle My In-Laws?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 19 Jul 2016 06:49:34 -0400

Wire Talk 015: How Do I Parent Different Personality Types?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 12 Jul 2016 07:32:47 -0400

Wire Talk 014: What Are Your Tips for Summer Vacation?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 05 Jul 2016 06:30:08 -0400

Wire Talk 013: How Do I Parent All My Kids Equally?

Karen Stubbs — Tue, 28 Jun 2016 04:27:46 -0400

Wire Talk 012: How Do I Raise My Son?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 20 Jun 2016 17:41:49 -0400

WT 011: How Do I Raise My Daughter

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 13 Jun 2016 22:59:40 -0400

Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs is a podcast designed to encourage and equip moms by answering your questions about motherhood, hopefully helping you maintain your faithfulness to God while experiencing a peaceful life on your journey.

WT 010: Single Parenting: How Do I Do This On My Own?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 06 Jun 2016 22:12:33 -0400

WT 009: How Do I Help My Kids Handle Our Divorce?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 30 May 2016 19:00:04 -0400

WT 008: What Do I Need to Know About Raising My Teenager?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 23 May 2016 23:55:54 -0400

Wire Talk 007: How Do I Keep My Marriage a Priority?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 16 May 2016 21:30:56 -0400

Wire Talk 006: Am I Making the Right Decisions For My Newborn?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 09 May 2016 17:56:37 -0400

WT 5: Is 'Me Time' Really That Important?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 02 May 2016 18:28:52 -0400

Being a mom is a very servant-oriented job and it’s very easy to get lost in the shuffle. On today's episode, Karen and Sunny talk about the importance of prioritizing self-care and answer your questions about how to make sure your needs don't get buried while caring for your family.

Like what you heard? Make sure you subscribe to Wire Talk and leave us a 5 star review!

Wire Talk 004: What's the Best Way to Discipline My Kids?

Karen Stubbs — Wed, 27 Apr 2016 22:50:38 -0400

Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs is a podcast designed to encourage and equip moms by answering your questions about motherhood, hopefully helping you maintain your faithfulness to God while experiencing a peaceful life on your journey.

WT 003: Will We Ever Survive the Toddler Years?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 25 Apr 2016 22:39:41 -0400

WT Bonus: Meet Sunny

Karen Stubbs — Wed, 20 Apr 2016 21:56:55 -0400

Meet Wire Talk's host, Sunny Williams! Sunny shares her story of how she met Karen and got connected with the Birds on a Wire Ministry. Find out why she thinks the saying "It takes a village" is true and why she's so excited to be part of Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs!

WireTalk 002: How Do I Help My Child Grow Their Faith?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 18 Apr 2016 22:19:10 -0400

On this episode of Wire Talk, Karen and Sunny talk about a topic of eternal matters: How Do I Help Grow My Child's Faith?

This is something all Christian moms hope and pray for their children, but sometimes we don't know how to begin going about it. Karen and Sunny bring warmth, wisdom as they answer your questions about this topic.

WT Bonus Episode: Meet Karen Stubbs

Karen Stubbs — Wed, 13 Apr 2016 23:22:39 -0400

Meet Wire Talk's own Karen Stubbs! Learn about why she started the Birds on a Wire Ministry, how many kids she has, and how excited she is to talk with you each week during Wire Talk.

WT 001: How Do I Overcome Mommy Guilt?

Karen Stubbs — Mon, 11 Apr 2016 23:21:46 -0400

On this episode of Wire Talk, Karen and Sunny talk about one of the most common issues that moms face: Mommy guilt.

Karen talks about how she's experienced mommy guilt in the past, and how she manages it in the present. Karen also offers her opinions on if moms should feel guilty asking for help, dropping kids off at child care, or telling your kids to stop talking for a few moments when you're in the car.