Unscripted Journey Transistor (https://transistor.fm) https://feeds.transistor.fm/unscripted-journey Unscripted Journey is a raw, real, and unfiltered podcast created for those navigating the unexpected turns of life. Through unscripted, unconventional conversations, we dive deep into the moments that don’t make the highlight reel — the crossroads, the questions, the quiet in-betweens. Here, there are no perfect scripts, just authentic stories, hard truths, and honest reflections that meet you right where you are. Whether you’re wrestling with identity, purpose, pain, growth, or change, this space is for you. Because sometimes the most powerful breakthroughs happen in the most unplanned places. Welcome to Unscripted Journey — where nothing is off-limits, and every story matters. © 2026 J & Tae b1ebd7f4-dd57-5b78-939e-23a24e8f9b39 no 086adeb0-4751-11f0-871d-cdcedcac17ce Trailer en Thu, 07 May 2026 23:50:02 -0700 Thu, 07 May 2026 23:51:12 -0700 https://img.transistorcdn.com/mLge-31qWKNJElEyBiLMhpLNWByHpttEDjvZnG7DwQA/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:1400/h:1400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS82YWQ3/MDlhYTY0ZmU0YzAy/ZjI0NTYxNmQxYjE1/Y2ZhMC5QTkc.jpg Unscripted Journey episodic J & Tae Unscripted Journey is a raw, real, and unfiltered podcast created for those navigating the unexpected turns of life. Through unscripted, unconventional conversations, we dive deep into the moments that don’t make the highlight reel — the crossroads, the questions, the quiet in-betweens. Here, there are no perfect scripts, just authentic stories, hard truths, and honest reflections that meet you right where you are. Whether you’re wrestling with identity, purpose, pain, growth, or change, this space is for you. Because sometimes the most powerful breakthroughs happen in the most unplanned places. Welcome to Unscripted Journey — where nothing is off-limits, and every story matters. Unscripted Journey is a raw, real, and unfiltered podcast created for those navigating the unexpected turns of life. Drew Henry No No The Silent Scorecard 17 17 The Silent Scorecard full f34a6e01-e116-4f86-bfd9-0d29ce3fa5d1 https://share.transistor.fm/s/4af025ac In this episode, we dive into something that quietly shows up in a lot of relationships: the internal scorecard. The unspoken tally of who did what, who tried harder, who forgot, who gave more, and who fell short. Most of the time, we never even say it out loud, but it still affects the way we love, communicate, and respond to each other.

We talk about how relationships were never meant to be built on keeping score. When we approach love God’s way, the goal isn’t winning against each other, it’s building connection with each other. Sometimes conflict isn’t an attack; it’s an opportunity to understand one another more deeply.

We also discuss how easy it is to jump into defense mode or create silent expectations that our partner never even knew existed. People can’t meet expectations that were never communicated, and when we leave things unspoken, we can unintentionally set each other up for failure.

At the root of scorekeeping is often offense, hurt, or unmet needs. Instead of living in tit-for-tat cycles, we encourage couples to dig deeper, communicate honestly, and stop seeing each other as opposition. Because in marriage, nobody truly wins when connection is lost.

]]> In this episode, we dive into something that quietly shows up in a lot of relationships: the internal scorecard. The unspoken tally of who did what, who tried harder, who forgot, who gave more, and who fell short. Most of the time, we never even say it out loud, but it still affects the way we love, communicate, and respond to each other.

We talk about how relationships were never meant to be built on keeping score. When we approach love God’s way, the goal isn’t winning against each other, it’s building connection with each other. Sometimes conflict isn’t an attack; it’s an opportunity to understand one another more deeply.

We also discuss how easy it is to jump into defense mode or create silent expectations that our partner never even knew existed. People can’t meet expectations that were never communicated, and when we leave things unspoken, we can unintentionally set each other up for failure.

At the root of scorekeeping is often offense, hurt, or unmet needs. Instead of living in tit-for-tat cycles, we encourage couples to dig deeper, communicate honestly, and stop seeing each other as opposition. Because in marriage, nobody truly wins when connection is lost.

]]> Thu, 07 May 2026 23:50:00 -0700 J & Tae J & Tae 2129 In this episode, we dive into something that quietly shows up in a lot of relationships: the internal scorecard. The unspoken tally of who did what, who tried harder, who forgot, who gave more, and who fell short. Most of the time, we never even say it out loud, but it still affects the way we love, communicate, and respond to each other.

We talk about how relationships were never meant to be built on keeping score. When we approach love God’s way, the goal isn’t winning against each other, it’s building connection with each other. Sometimes conflict isn’t an attack; it’s an opportunity to understand one another more deeply.

We also discuss how easy it is to jump into defense mode or create silent expectations that our partner never even knew existed. People can’t meet expectations that were never communicated, and when we leave things unspoken, we can unintentionally set each other up for failure.

At the root of scorekeeping is often offense, hurt, or unmet needs. Instead of living in tit-for-tat cycles, we encourage couples to dig deeper, communicate honestly, and stop seeing each other as opposition. Because in marriage, nobody truly wins when connection is lost.

]]> No Champagne Taste and Tap Water Budget 16 16 Champagne Taste and Tap Water Budget full f3b9f397-7909-489f-b4b2-9a6d892f2b62 https://share.transistor.fm/s/3fa9c5bd In this episode, we dive into the pressure social media can put on relationships, making it easy to chase an image instead of building something real. When appearances take priority, important conversations about expectations, goals, and vision can get overlooked, and that can create challenges down the road.

We share how, in our own relationship, we chose not to get caught up in how things looked, but focused on how things would last. There’s no shame in being on a “tap water budget” when you’re committed to building something sustainable. What matters most is having honest conversations about where you are, where you’re going, and how you’re going to get there, together.

We talk about the importance of shared vision, long-term goals, and understanding that relationships aren’t just meant to exist; they’re meant to build. There’s purpose in partnership, and we believe God brings couples together with intention and assignment.

We also touch on the importance of discipline over desire, and being willing to seek help when needed, whether that’s budgeting, saving, or learning how to steward what you have well.


This episode is a reminder: don’t fake the lifestyle, build the life.


]]> In this episode, we dive into the pressure social media can put on relationships, making it easy to chase an image instead of building something real. When appearances take priority, important conversations about expectations, goals, and vision can get overlooked, and that can create challenges down the road.

We share how, in our own relationship, we chose not to get caught up in how things looked, but focused on how things would last. There’s no shame in being on a “tap water budget” when you’re committed to building something sustainable. What matters most is having honest conversations about where you are, where you’re going, and how you’re going to get there, together.

We talk about the importance of shared vision, long-term goals, and understanding that relationships aren’t just meant to exist; they’re meant to build. There’s purpose in partnership, and we believe God brings couples together with intention and assignment.

We also touch on the importance of discipline over desire, and being willing to seek help when needed, whether that’s budgeting, saving, or learning how to steward what you have well.


This episode is a reminder: don’t fake the lifestyle, build the life.


]]> Thu, 23 Apr 2026 23:50:00 -0700 J & Tae J & Tae 2074 In this episode, we dive into the pressure social media can put on relationships, making it easy to chase an image instead of building something real. When appearances take priority, important conversations about expectations, goals, and vision can get overlooked, and that can create challenges down the road.

We share how, in our own relationship, we chose not to get caught up in how things looked, but focused on how things would last. There’s no shame in being on a “tap water budget” when you’re committed to building something sustainable. What matters most is having honest conversations about where you are, where you’re going, and how you’re going to get there, together.

We talk about the importance of shared vision, long-term goals, and understanding that relationships aren’t just meant to exist; they’re meant to build. There’s purpose in partnership, and we believe God brings couples together with intention and assignment.

We also touch on the importance of discipline over desire, and being willing to seek help when needed, whether that’s budgeting, saving, or learning how to steward what you have well.


This episode is a reminder: don’t fake the lifestyle, build the life.


]]> No Love in the Trenches 15 15 Love in the Trenches full c1458b5f-b1a6-482d-bd98-f743a6b6bae3 https://share.transistor.fm/s/692f8dd7 Marriage isn’t always lived on the mountaintop; sometimes it’s lived in the trenches. In this episode, we’re discussing the truth about the everyday battles couples face and how love is strengthened when you learn to fight through them together.


We discuss how communication itself can feel like a trench. Understanding the way your partner communicates and learning how to compromise can make the difference between constant conflict and a real connection. After all, communication breakdown is one of the biggest reasons marriages struggle, so being intentional about how you talk—and what you talk about—matters.


We explore how the busyness of life can take over conversations, leaving little room for the simple “how are you?” moments that relationships need. We emphasize the importance of intentional pauses, making space to reconnect in the middle of everyday responsibilities.


The conversation also moves into the identity trench: how easy it is to lose sight of yourself in the demands of marriage, work, and life. We share why maintaining your personal growth, faith, and time outside of your partner actually strengthens the relationship. A better you helps create a better “us.”


We also touch on faith journeys in marriage, when one partner may feel spiritually ahead of the other—and how patience, grace, and understanding help couples stay aligned.


Through it all, the reminder is simple: you’re not fighting against each other, you’re fighting together. Meet each other where you are, compromise when needed, and remember that you’re in the trenches side by side.


]]> Marriage isn’t always lived on the mountaintop; sometimes it’s lived in the trenches. In this episode, we’re discussing the truth about the everyday battles couples face and how love is strengthened when you learn to fight through them together.


We discuss how communication itself can feel like a trench. Understanding the way your partner communicates and learning how to compromise can make the difference between constant conflict and a real connection. After all, communication breakdown is one of the biggest reasons marriages struggle, so being intentional about how you talk—and what you talk about—matters.


We explore how the busyness of life can take over conversations, leaving little room for the simple “how are you?” moments that relationships need. We emphasize the importance of intentional pauses, making space to reconnect in the middle of everyday responsibilities.


The conversation also moves into the identity trench: how easy it is to lose sight of yourself in the demands of marriage, work, and life. We share why maintaining your personal growth, faith, and time outside of your partner actually strengthens the relationship. A better you helps create a better “us.”


We also touch on faith journeys in marriage, when one partner may feel spiritually ahead of the other—and how patience, grace, and understanding help couples stay aligned.


Through it all, the reminder is simple: you’re not fighting against each other, you’re fighting together. Meet each other where you are, compromise when needed, and remember that you’re in the trenches side by side.


]]> Thu, 09 Apr 2026 23:50:00 -0700 J & Tae J & Tae 1654 Marriage isn’t always lived on the mountaintop; sometimes it’s lived in the trenches. In this episode, we’re discussing the truth about the everyday battles couples face and how love is strengthened when you learn to fight through them together.


We discuss how communication itself can feel like a trench. Understanding the way your partner communicates and learning how to compromise can make the difference between constant conflict and a real connection. After all, communication breakdown is one of the biggest reasons marriages struggle, so being intentional about how you talk—and what you talk about—matters.


We explore how the busyness of life can take over conversations, leaving little room for the simple “how are you?” moments that relationships need. We emphasize the importance of intentional pauses, making space to reconnect in the middle of everyday responsibilities.


The conversation also moves into the identity trench: how easy it is to lose sight of yourself in the demands of marriage, work, and life. We share why maintaining your personal growth, faith, and time outside of your partner actually strengthens the relationship. A better you helps create a better “us.”


We also touch on faith journeys in marriage, when one partner may feel spiritually ahead of the other—and how patience, grace, and understanding help couples stay aligned.


Through it all, the reminder is simple: you’re not fighting against each other, you’re fighting together. Meet each other where you are, compromise when needed, and remember that you’re in the trenches side by side.


]]> No Petty vs. Peaceful 14 14 Petty vs. Peaceful full 646ef961-ab8f-4535-9745-accd038a1e98 https://share.transistor.fm/s/bd54898d In this episode, we’re diving into a real and relatable topic: petty vs. peaceful in marriage. When conflict shows up, it can be easy to respond out of frustration, pride, or the desire to “win.” But choosing peace requires intention.


We’re talking about the importance of communication and expectation management, making sure your partner understands what you need instead of assuming they should already know. 


We also discuss learning how your partner communicates best and why being petty never actually solves the issue you’re facing.


A major part of navigating conflict is remembering that the problem is the problem, not the person. You can spend time arguing, being upset, and going back and forth, but if the issue never gets addressed, nothing really changes.


Join us as we unpack the role pride can play in marriage and how laying it down creates space for teamwork. When couples understand each other’s strengths and weaknesses, they can serve one another better and work together instead of against each other.


At the end of the day, love will always push you toward peace—not pettiness—and remembering the true goal of marriage helps keep everything in perspective.

]]> In this episode, we’re diving into a real and relatable topic: petty vs. peaceful in marriage. When conflict shows up, it can be easy to respond out of frustration, pride, or the desire to “win.” But choosing peace requires intention.


We’re talking about the importance of communication and expectation management, making sure your partner understands what you need instead of assuming they should already know. 


We also discuss learning how your partner communicates best and why being petty never actually solves the issue you’re facing.


A major part of navigating conflict is remembering that the problem is the problem, not the person. You can spend time arguing, being upset, and going back and forth, but if the issue never gets addressed, nothing really changes.


Join us as we unpack the role pride can play in marriage and how laying it down creates space for teamwork. When couples understand each other’s strengths and weaknesses, they can serve one another better and work together instead of against each other.


At the end of the day, love will always push you toward peace—not pettiness—and remembering the true goal of marriage helps keep everything in perspective.

]]> Thu, 26 Mar 2026 23:45:00 -0700 J & Tae J & Tae 1998 In this episode, we’re diving into a real and relatable topic: petty vs. peaceful in marriage. When conflict shows up, it can be easy to respond out of frustration, pride, or the desire to “win.” But choosing peace requires intention.


We’re talking about the importance of communication and expectation management, making sure your partner understands what you need instead of assuming they should already know. 


We also discuss learning how your partner communicates best and why being petty never actually solves the issue you’re facing.


A major part of navigating conflict is remembering that the problem is the problem, not the person. You can spend time arguing, being upset, and going back and forth, but if the issue never gets addressed, nothing really changes.


Join us as we unpack the role pride can play in marriage and how laying it down creates space for teamwork. When couples understand each other’s strengths and weaknesses, they can serve one another better and work together instead of against each other.


At the end of the day, love will always push you toward peace—not pettiness—and remembering the true goal of marriage helps keep everything in perspective.

]]> No Marriage in the Spotlight 13 13 Marriage in the Spotlight full 2f52fb0e-8b4e-44da-95bd-8be213eef069 https://share.transistor.fm/s/6c409deb Welcome to Season 2. In this episode, we’re getting real about what it’s like to have a marriage that lives in the spotlight.

We talk honestly about what that transition looked like for us, from bringing Tae into a public role to learning how to navigate expectations that people place on you when your life is visible. We discuss the balance between what is meant to be private and what can be shared publicly, and how important it is for us to protect our children while still living out the calling God has placed on our lives. We also talk about the pressure that can come with the spotlight, being expected to always be the most mature person in the room, when sometimes you just want the freedom to be yourself without judgment. Tae shares what it has been like learning to navigate being seen as “the pastor’s wife,” while also reminding people that she is her own person with her own identity and calling. And together we talk about the rhythm we’re still learning to find, showing up for people who need us while also making sure our own cups stay full. This conversation is honest, reflective, and a reminder that behind every public role are two real people still learning, growing, and leaning on God together.

]]> Welcome to Season 2. In this episode, we’re getting real about what it’s like to have a marriage that lives in the spotlight.

We talk honestly about what that transition looked like for us, from bringing Tae into a public role to learning how to navigate expectations that people place on you when your life is visible. We discuss the balance between what is meant to be private and what can be shared publicly, and how important it is for us to protect our children while still living out the calling God has placed on our lives. We also talk about the pressure that can come with the spotlight, being expected to always be the most mature person in the room, when sometimes you just want the freedom to be yourself without judgment. Tae shares what it has been like learning to navigate being seen as “the pastor’s wife,” while also reminding people that she is her own person with her own identity and calling. And together we talk about the rhythm we’re still learning to find, showing up for people who need us while also making sure our own cups stay full. This conversation is honest, reflective, and a reminder that behind every public role are two real people still learning, growing, and leaning on God together.

]]> Thu, 12 Mar 2026 23:55:00 -0700 J & Tae J & Tae 2073 Welcome to Season 2. In this episode, we’re getting real about what it’s like to have a marriage that lives in the spotlight.

We talk honestly about what that transition looked like for us, from bringing Tae into a public role to learning how to navigate expectations that people place on you when your life is visible. We discuss the balance between what is meant to be private and what can be shared publicly, and how important it is for us to protect our children while still living out the calling God has placed on our lives. We also talk about the pressure that can come with the spotlight, being expected to always be the most mature person in the room, when sometimes you just want the freedom to be yourself without judgment. Tae shares what it has been like learning to navigate being seen as “the pastor’s wife,” while also reminding people that she is her own person with her own identity and calling. And together we talk about the rhythm we’re still learning to find, showing up for people who need us while also making sure our own cups stay full. This conversation is honest, reflective, and a reminder that behind every public role are two real people still learning, growing, and leaning on God together.

]]> No Why We Do This 12 12 Why We Do This full 5ad8da9b-cb8d-4907-ac16-d7a6e061b452 https://share.transistor.fm/s/6127e9f7 For the final episode of Season 1, we slow things down and get to the heart of it all, the why. Why we started this podcast, why we felt led to this space, and why we continue to show up week after week.


Tae opens up about the desire behind starting Unscripted Journey: craving intentional time with her husband in the middle of a busy life, loving deep conversation and healthy debate, and knowing their testimonies could help people walking through their own valleys. She also shares how stepping into this podcast has pushed her out of her comfort zone, allowing people to see her in a completely new light.


J shares his honest hesitation, feeling overwhelmed by the idea of adding something new onto an already full plate. Starting felt hard, but the thought of keeping it going felt even harder. Through prayer and reflection, he realized this wasn’t just another project; it was a God thing. He wrestles with comparison and the pressure of a crowded podcast world, but ultimately found peace in shifting his focus from reaching thousands to impacting even one.


Together, we are looking ahead to Season 2 with expectation. Tae wants to dive deeper into conversations about stepping out of comfort zones and the intentional growth that happens there. J is excited to tackle topics that are often taboo, especially in the church and in African American communities, because silence only gives more room for the enemy. This finale is honest, reflective, and filled with gratitude. It’s a celebration of where we’ve been and a declaration of where God is leading us next.

]]> For the final episode of Season 1, we slow things down and get to the heart of it all, the why. Why we started this podcast, why we felt led to this space, and why we continue to show up week after week.


Tae opens up about the desire behind starting Unscripted Journey: craving intentional time with her husband in the middle of a busy life, loving deep conversation and healthy debate, and knowing their testimonies could help people walking through their own valleys. She also shares how stepping into this podcast has pushed her out of her comfort zone, allowing people to see her in a completely new light.


J shares his honest hesitation, feeling overwhelmed by the idea of adding something new onto an already full plate. Starting felt hard, but the thought of keeping it going felt even harder. Through prayer and reflection, he realized this wasn’t just another project; it was a God thing. He wrestles with comparison and the pressure of a crowded podcast world, but ultimately found peace in shifting his focus from reaching thousands to impacting even one.


Together, we are looking ahead to Season 2 with expectation. Tae wants to dive deeper into conversations about stepping out of comfort zones and the intentional growth that happens there. J is excited to tackle topics that are often taboo, especially in the church and in African American communities, because silence only gives more room for the enemy. This finale is honest, reflective, and filled with gratitude. It’s a celebration of where we’ve been and a declaration of where God is leading us next.

]]> Thu, 11 Dec 2025 23:53:00 -0800 J & Tae J & Tae 2012 For the final episode of Season 1, we slow things down and get to the heart of it all, the why. Why we started this podcast, why we felt led to this space, and why we continue to show up week after week.


Tae opens up about the desire behind starting Unscripted Journey: craving intentional time with her husband in the middle of a busy life, loving deep conversation and healthy debate, and knowing their testimonies could help people walking through their own valleys. She also shares how stepping into this podcast has pushed her out of her comfort zone, allowing people to see her in a completely new light.


J shares his honest hesitation, feeling overwhelmed by the idea of adding something new onto an already full plate. Starting felt hard, but the thought of keeping it going felt even harder. Through prayer and reflection, he realized this wasn’t just another project; it was a God thing. He wrestles with comparison and the pressure of a crowded podcast world, but ultimately found peace in shifting his focus from reaching thousands to impacting even one.


Together, we are looking ahead to Season 2 with expectation. Tae wants to dive deeper into conversations about stepping out of comfort zones and the intentional growth that happens there. J is excited to tackle topics that are often taboo, especially in the church and in African American communities, because silence only gives more room for the enemy. This finale is honest, reflective, and filled with gratitude. It’s a celebration of where we’ve been and a declaration of where God is leading us next.

]]> No Everyday Thanksgiving 11 11 Everyday Thanksgiving full 3bf7932a-10a7-4c5b-800a-0defe7f4b0d7 https://share.transistor.fm/s/8e943487 How do you keep a heart of gratitude, not just on Thanksgiving, but every single day? In this grounded and reflective episode, we talk about what it really means to live with consistent, intentional thankfulness.


We’re diving into the importance of slowing down in a world that’s always rushing toward the next thing. When we move too fast, we miss the scenery, the in-between moments where God speaks, teaches, and reminds us of His presence. Gratitude becomes harder when life becomes hurried.


We’re sharing how gratitude is a choice, a shift in perspective, and a posture of the heart. Through intentional  reflection,both at the start and end of the day, we begin to see clearly, entitlement falls away, and we’re reminded of what’s true.


We also talk about the power of tracking your journey: journaling prayers, marking what God has answered, and keeping a record of His faithfulness. Because when you look back, you realize just how far God has brought you.


This episode is a gentle reminder that gratitude isn’t seasonal, it’s spiritual discipline, a steady rhythm, and a daily decision.

]]> How do you keep a heart of gratitude, not just on Thanksgiving, but every single day? In this grounded and reflective episode, we talk about what it really means to live with consistent, intentional thankfulness.


We’re diving into the importance of slowing down in a world that’s always rushing toward the next thing. When we move too fast, we miss the scenery, the in-between moments where God speaks, teaches, and reminds us of His presence. Gratitude becomes harder when life becomes hurried.


We’re sharing how gratitude is a choice, a shift in perspective, and a posture of the heart. Through intentional  reflection,both at the start and end of the day, we begin to see clearly, entitlement falls away, and we’re reminded of what’s true.


We also talk about the power of tracking your journey: journaling prayers, marking what God has answered, and keeping a record of His faithfulness. Because when you look back, you realize just how far God has brought you.


This episode is a gentle reminder that gratitude isn’t seasonal, it’s spiritual discipline, a steady rhythm, and a daily decision.

]]> Thu, 27 Nov 2025 23:53:00 -0800 J & Tae J & Tae 1775 How do you keep a heart of gratitude, not just on Thanksgiving, but every single day? In this grounded and reflective episode, we talk about what it really means to live with consistent, intentional thankfulness.


We’re diving into the importance of slowing down in a world that’s always rushing toward the next thing. When we move too fast, we miss the scenery, the in-between moments where God speaks, teaches, and reminds us of His presence. Gratitude becomes harder when life becomes hurried.


We’re sharing how gratitude is a choice, a shift in perspective, and a posture of the heart. Through intentional  reflection,both at the start and end of the day, we begin to see clearly, entitlement falls away, and we’re reminded of what’s true.


We also talk about the power of tracking your journey: journaling prayers, marking what God has answered, and keeping a record of His faithfulness. Because when you look back, you realize just how far God has brought you.


This episode is a gentle reminder that gratitude isn’t seasonal, it’s spiritual discipline, a steady rhythm, and a daily decision.

]]> No Your Turn, My Turn 10 10 Your Turn, My Turn full a1f943a3-3da9-4518-b626-e0be481ff434 https://share.transistor.fm/s/7a507aa3 Marriage isn’t always 50/50, and that’s okay. In this transparent and balanced conversation, we dive into the realities of partnership, purpose, and shifting roles in marriage. We open up about our mindset when entering marriage and how traditional gender roles worked… until they didn’t. Life changes, goals evolve, and sometimes one person has to carry more for a season. J shares how he intentionally created space for Tae to chase her goals, reminding himself that her win was their win. And Tae reflects on the times when J’s deployments required her to step up and hold things down at home. Through our journey, we’ve learned that marriage is less about keeping score and more about teamwork, sacrifice, and understanding that seasons change. When both people are rooted in love and purpose, everyone shines in their own time.

]]> Marriage isn’t always 50/50, and that’s okay. In this transparent and balanced conversation, we dive into the realities of partnership, purpose, and shifting roles in marriage. We open up about our mindset when entering marriage and how traditional gender roles worked… until they didn’t. Life changes, goals evolve, and sometimes one person has to carry more for a season. J shares how he intentionally created space for Tae to chase her goals, reminding himself that her win was their win. And Tae reflects on the times when J’s deployments required her to step up and hold things down at home. Through our journey, we’ve learned that marriage is less about keeping score and more about teamwork, sacrifice, and understanding that seasons change. When both people are rooted in love and purpose, everyone shines in their own time.

]]> Thu, 30 Oct 2025 23:53:00 -0700 J & Tae J & Tae 1796 Marriage isn’t always 50/50, and that’s okay. In this transparent and balanced conversation, we dive into the realities of partnership, purpose, and shifting roles in marriage. We open up about our mindset when entering marriage and how traditional gender roles worked… until they didn’t. Life changes, goals evolve, and sometimes one person has to carry more for a season. J shares how he intentionally created space for Tae to chase her goals, reminding himself that her win was their win. And Tae reflects on the times when J’s deployments required her to step up and hold things down at home. Through our journey, we’ve learned that marriage is less about keeping score and more about teamwork, sacrifice, and understanding that seasons change. When both people are rooted in love and purpose, everyone shines in their own time.

]]> No Things We Wish We Knew Before Marriage 9 9 Things We Wish We Knew Before Marriage full 42c3b153-40d9-45c6-80d7-8b83cb50e267 https://share.transistor.fm/s/4ee3a87f Marriage is beautiful, but it’s also a journey that requires work, grace, and intentional growth. In this honest and wisdom-filled episode, we share the lessons we've learned along the way and the things we wish we had known before saying “I do.”


We open up about the importance of keeping God at the center, and how pre-marital counseling could’ve better prepared us to love and serve each other by God’s standards, not the world’s. 


From understanding sacrificial love to learning the difference between moving on and truly forgiving, we reveal how unresolved hurts can quietly shape the future if left unhealed.


We talk about the importance of staying connected to yourself, continuing to grow, dream, and nurture your individuality even while loving your spouse deeply. And above all, we remind you that intentionality is key: love your partner the way they need to be loved, not just the way you think they should be.


This episode is raw, real, and full of wisdom for anyone who’s married, engaged, or preparing for the journey ahead.

]]> Marriage is beautiful, but it’s also a journey that requires work, grace, and intentional growth. In this honest and wisdom-filled episode, we share the lessons we've learned along the way and the things we wish we had known before saying “I do.”


We open up about the importance of keeping God at the center, and how pre-marital counseling could’ve better prepared us to love and serve each other by God’s standards, not the world’s. 


From understanding sacrificial love to learning the difference between moving on and truly forgiving, we reveal how unresolved hurts can quietly shape the future if left unhealed.


We talk about the importance of staying connected to yourself, continuing to grow, dream, and nurture your individuality even while loving your spouse deeply. And above all, we remind you that intentionality is key: love your partner the way they need to be loved, not just the way you think they should be.


This episode is raw, real, and full of wisdom for anyone who’s married, engaged, or preparing for the journey ahead.

]]> Thu, 16 Oct 2025 23:50:00 -0700 J & Tae J & Tae 2323 Marriage is beautiful, but it’s also a journey that requires work, grace, and intentional growth. In this honest and wisdom-filled episode, we share the lessons we've learned along the way and the things we wish we had known before saying “I do.”


We open up about the importance of keeping God at the center, and how pre-marital counseling could’ve better prepared us to love and serve each other by God’s standards, not the world’s. 


From understanding sacrificial love to learning the difference between moving on and truly forgiving, we reveal how unresolved hurts can quietly shape the future if left unhealed.


We talk about the importance of staying connected to yourself, continuing to grow, dream, and nurture your individuality even while loving your spouse deeply. And above all, we remind you that intentionality is key: love your partner the way they need to be loved, not just the way you think they should be.


This episode is raw, real, and full of wisdom for anyone who’s married, engaged, or preparing for the journey ahead.

]]> No Self-Forgiveness 8 8 Self-Forgiveness full 34daf782-028e-40ce-ac06-9bbc85f693c5 https://share.transistor.fm/s/b3b65f1d Forgiving others is hard, but sometimes forgiving ourselves is even harder. In this vulnerable episode, we are opening up about what it looks like to extend compassion inward and embrace the grace God freely gives.

Tae shares a moment with her oldest daughter that left her feeling ashamed and broken, and how she had to learn to step back, self-reflect, and lean into grace instead of guilt. J reflects on the pressure of decision-making in his many roles—husband, father, pastor—and how his drive to “get it right” often left him replaying mistakes and forgetting his own humanity.

Together, we unpack the weight of self-condemnation, the danger of staying paralyzed in fear, and the freedom that comes when we see mistakes as lessons instead of life sentences. We also discuss the should’ve, could’ve, would’ve moments that keep us stuck in the past, forgetting that nothing ever catches God by surprise.

This episode is an honest reminder that living and learning is part of the journey, and that God’s grace truly covers it all.

]]> Forgiving others is hard, but sometimes forgiving ourselves is even harder. In this vulnerable episode, we are opening up about what it looks like to extend compassion inward and embrace the grace God freely gives.

Tae shares a moment with her oldest daughter that left her feeling ashamed and broken, and how she had to learn to step back, self-reflect, and lean into grace instead of guilt. J reflects on the pressure of decision-making in his many roles—husband, father, pastor—and how his drive to “get it right” often left him replaying mistakes and forgetting his own humanity.

Together, we unpack the weight of self-condemnation, the danger of staying paralyzed in fear, and the freedom that comes when we see mistakes as lessons instead of life sentences. We also discuss the should’ve, could’ve, would’ve moments that keep us stuck in the past, forgetting that nothing ever catches God by surprise.

This episode is an honest reminder that living and learning is part of the journey, and that God’s grace truly covers it all.

]]> Thu, 02 Oct 2025 23:50:00 -0700 J & Tae J & Tae 2049 Forgiving others is hard, but sometimes forgiving ourselves is even harder. In this vulnerable episode, we are opening up about what it looks like to extend compassion inward and embrace the grace God freely gives.

Tae shares a moment with her oldest daughter that left her feeling ashamed and broken, and how she had to learn to step back, self-reflect, and lean into grace instead of guilt. J reflects on the pressure of decision-making in his many roles—husband, father, pastor—and how his drive to “get it right” often left him replaying mistakes and forgetting his own humanity.

Together, we unpack the weight of self-condemnation, the danger of staying paralyzed in fear, and the freedom that comes when we see mistakes as lessons instead of life sentences. We also discuss the should’ve, could’ve, would’ve moments that keep us stuck in the past, forgetting that nothing ever catches God by surprise.

This episode is an honest reminder that living and learning is part of the journey, and that God’s grace truly covers it all.

]]> No The Itch 7 7 The Itch full 8a13b07c-8a56-4c72-8d94-401703c6230c https://share.transistor.fm/s/4723aa30 In this candid conversation, we are opening up about the itch that often shows up in marriage around the 5–7 year mark. For us, it wasn’t about falling out of love; it was about realizing the importance of continuing to discover each other as we grew and changed.

We discuss how comparison can tempt you to wonder if the grass is greener somewhere else, and why it’s crucial to remember that God joined you and your spouse together with intention. From choosing daily to fill each other’s cup, to holding tight to the vows that keep you rooted, this episode is an honest reminder that marriage takes work, but when you put in the effort, it can be truly beautiful.

]]> In this candid conversation, we are opening up about the itch that often shows up in marriage around the 5–7 year mark. For us, it wasn’t about falling out of love; it was about realizing the importance of continuing to discover each other as we grew and changed.

We discuss how comparison can tempt you to wonder if the grass is greener somewhere else, and why it’s crucial to remember that God joined you and your spouse together with intention. From choosing daily to fill each other’s cup, to holding tight to the vows that keep you rooted, this episode is an honest reminder that marriage takes work, but when you put in the effort, it can be truly beautiful.

]]> Thu, 11 Sep 2025 23:50:00 -0700 J & Tae J & Tae 2276 In this candid conversation, we are opening up about the itch that often shows up in marriage around the 5–7 year mark. For us, it wasn’t about falling out of love; it was about realizing the importance of continuing to discover each other as we grew and changed.

We discuss how comparison can tempt you to wonder if the grass is greener somewhere else, and why it’s crucial to remember that God joined you and your spouse together with intention. From choosing daily to fill each other’s cup, to holding tight to the vows that keep you rooted, this episode is an honest reminder that marriage takes work, but when you put in the effort, it can be truly beautiful.

]]> No Secret Agent 6 6 Secret Agent full e6a3cec8-3b09-4558-936b-bd0d6a4aca8e https://share.transistor.fm/s/fdd4a7d2 At 20 years old, J moved away from home and entered a new season where no one knew him as a minister or preacher. For the first time, he felt like a “secret agent" able to be whoever he wanted, while still knowing he carried the weight of being a child of God.


In this honest conversation, J and Tae dive into the tension of wanting to be accepted, feeling the pressure of expectation, and learning how to walk in authenticity. They discuss what it means to be comfortable with the uncomfortable, lean into your uniqueness, and release the pressure to blend in.


God doesn’t call us to hide; He calls us to shine. The people who are meant for you will be drawn to you. Sometimes, simply being who God created you to be is enough to inspire others, give them courage, and even help them find themselves.


This episode is a reminder: come out of hiding, trust God with who you are, and watch how He uses your authenticity to reach others.

]]> At 20 years old, J moved away from home and entered a new season where no one knew him as a minister or preacher. For the first time, he felt like a “secret agent" able to be whoever he wanted, while still knowing he carried the weight of being a child of God.


In this honest conversation, J and Tae dive into the tension of wanting to be accepted, feeling the pressure of expectation, and learning how to walk in authenticity. They discuss what it means to be comfortable with the uncomfortable, lean into your uniqueness, and release the pressure to blend in.


God doesn’t call us to hide; He calls us to shine. The people who are meant for you will be drawn to you. Sometimes, simply being who God created you to be is enough to inspire others, give them courage, and even help them find themselves.


This episode is a reminder: come out of hiding, trust God with who you are, and watch how He uses your authenticity to reach others.

]]> Thu, 21 Aug 2025 23:50:00 -0700 J & Tae J & Tae 2005 At 20 years old, J moved away from home and entered a new season where no one knew him as a minister or preacher. For the first time, he felt like a “secret agent" able to be whoever he wanted, while still knowing he carried the weight of being a child of God.


In this honest conversation, J and Tae dive into the tension of wanting to be accepted, feeling the pressure of expectation, and learning how to walk in authenticity. They discuss what it means to be comfortable with the uncomfortable, lean into your uniqueness, and release the pressure to blend in.


God doesn’t call us to hide; He calls us to shine. The people who are meant for you will be drawn to you. Sometimes, simply being who God created you to be is enough to inspire others, give them courage, and even help them find themselves.


This episode is a reminder: come out of hiding, trust God with who you are, and watch how He uses your authenticity to reach others.

]]> No Watch Your Mouth 5 5 Watch Your Mouth full 3ebf32c9-fe7d-4fc0-b435-a7a4cd925949 https://share.transistor.fm/s/b9101214 Words carry weight, and as Christians, we’re called to use them wisely. In this episode, we dive into the power of the tongue, unpacking what it truly means to watch your mouth in a world where careless speech is normalized. We explore how the same words can land differently depending on who’s hearing them, and why our goal should always be to edify, not just express. It’s not just what you say, but how you say it—and the heart behind it. From the sacrifice it takes to communicate with maturity, to the discipline of self-control, this episode is a reminder that we represent Christ in every conversation. And sometimes, the goal isn’t to be right, it’s to be unified. Whether you’re speaking to friends, family, or strangers, this one will challenge you to pause, think, and speak with purpose.

]]> Words carry weight, and as Christians, we’re called to use them wisely. In this episode, we dive into the power of the tongue, unpacking what it truly means to watch your mouth in a world where careless speech is normalized. We explore how the same words can land differently depending on who’s hearing them, and why our goal should always be to edify, not just express. It’s not just what you say, but how you say it—and the heart behind it. From the sacrifice it takes to communicate with maturity, to the discipline of self-control, this episode is a reminder that we represent Christ in every conversation. And sometimes, the goal isn’t to be right, it’s to be unified. Whether you’re speaking to friends, family, or strangers, this one will challenge you to pause, think, and speak with purpose.

]]> Thu, 07 Aug 2025 23:50:00 -0700 J & Tae J & Tae 1978 Words carry weight, and as Christians, we’re called to use them wisely. In this episode, we dive into the power of the tongue, unpacking what it truly means to watch your mouth in a world where careless speech is normalized. We explore how the same words can land differently depending on who’s hearing them, and why our goal should always be to edify, not just express. It’s not just what you say, but how you say it—and the heart behind it. From the sacrifice it takes to communicate with maturity, to the discipline of self-control, this episode is a reminder that we represent Christ in every conversation. And sometimes, the goal isn’t to be right, it’s to be unified. Whether you’re speaking to friends, family, or strangers, this one will challenge you to pause, think, and speak with purpose.

]]> No Being Stuck Or Being Still 4 4 Being Stuck Or Being Still full d312d48e-cb33-4574-9d9a-eb592e82c239 https://share.transistor.fm/s/3a7ce046 In this powerful and heartfelt episode, we dive deep into the difference between being stuck and being still, two states that can look the same from the outside, yet feel entirely different on the inside. Tae opens up about her journey through grief after losing both her father and childhood best friend, and how God met her in the stillness. In what felt like a motionless season, she discovered that stillness was sacred, that it was where God kept her, comforted her, and began to heal her. J shares his personal experience of being unemployed for months, a time that at first felt like being stuck, but ultimately became a season of stillness and spiritual awakening. In that quiet space, God revealed a new path of provision, and not once did lack enter our home. Together, we're unpacking the tension between waiting and worrying, how to lean into the stillness, and how to recognize when God is simply asking you to be still and know. Through laughter, vulnerability, and raw truth, we are here to remind listeners that what feels like a standstill might just be divine preparation.

]]> In this powerful and heartfelt episode, we dive deep into the difference between being stuck and being still, two states that can look the same from the outside, yet feel entirely different on the inside. Tae opens up about her journey through grief after losing both her father and childhood best friend, and how God met her in the stillness. In what felt like a motionless season, she discovered that stillness was sacred, that it was where God kept her, comforted her, and began to heal her. J shares his personal experience of being unemployed for months, a time that at first felt like being stuck, but ultimately became a season of stillness and spiritual awakening. In that quiet space, God revealed a new path of provision, and not once did lack enter our home. Together, we're unpacking the tension between waiting and worrying, how to lean into the stillness, and how to recognize when God is simply asking you to be still and know. Through laughter, vulnerability, and raw truth, we are here to remind listeners that what feels like a standstill might just be divine preparation.

]]> Thu, 24 Jul 2025 23:50:00 -0700 J & Tae J & Tae 2013 In this powerful and heartfelt episode, we dive deep into the difference between being stuck and being still, two states that can look the same from the outside, yet feel entirely different on the inside. Tae opens up about her journey through grief after losing both her father and childhood best friend, and how God met her in the stillness. In what felt like a motionless season, she discovered that stillness was sacred, that it was where God kept her, comforted her, and began to heal her. J shares his personal experience of being unemployed for months, a time that at first felt like being stuck, but ultimately became a season of stillness and spiritual awakening. In that quiet space, God revealed a new path of provision, and not once did lack enter our home. Together, we're unpacking the tension between waiting and worrying, how to lean into the stillness, and how to recognize when God is simply asking you to be still and know. Through laughter, vulnerability, and raw truth, we are here to remind listeners that what feels like a standstill might just be divine preparation.

]]> No You Are Not In Control 3 3 You Are Not In Control full 5d2cebfa-21a1-43ef-90f4-b95ecce540ac https://share.transistor.fm/s/7151edd3 In this powerful episode, we dive into the hard truth that we are not in control, and why that’s actually a good thing. Our host shares real moments of walking through tight, uncertain situations where the only option was to surrender. But in that surrender, they discovered something greater: a deeper understanding of who God truly is. From provider to protector, guide to advocate, this conversation explores the multifaceted nature of God's character and how relinquishing control opens the door to peace, provision, and purpose. If you've ever struggled with letting go or felt stuck trying to figure things out on your own, this episode is for you.

]]> In this powerful episode, we dive into the hard truth that we are not in control, and why that’s actually a good thing. Our host shares real moments of walking through tight, uncertain situations where the only option was to surrender. But in that surrender, they discovered something greater: a deeper understanding of who God truly is. From provider to protector, guide to advocate, this conversation explores the multifaceted nature of God's character and how relinquishing control opens the door to peace, provision, and purpose. If you've ever struggled with letting go or felt stuck trying to figure things out on your own, this episode is for you.

]]> Thu, 10 Jul 2025 23:50:00 -0700 J & Tae J & Tae 1816 In this powerful episode, we dive into the hard truth that we are not in control, and why that’s actually a good thing. Our host shares real moments of walking through tight, uncertain situations where the only option was to surrender. But in that surrender, they discovered something greater: a deeper understanding of who God truly is. From provider to protector, guide to advocate, this conversation explores the multifaceted nature of God's character and how relinquishing control opens the door to peace, provision, and purpose. If you've ever struggled with letting go or felt stuck trying to figure things out on your own, this episode is for you.

]]> No How I Met Your Father (Part 2) 2 2 How I Met Your Father (Part 2) full 1f96a0e5-9504-4845-8035-041073247abc https://share.transistor.fm/s/5bf3f839 In this heartfelt episode, Tae opens up about her journey with J. From their unexpected beginning to the unfolding of a love story shaped by honesty, growth, and God's timing. She shares her perspective on their differences, from age gaps to church backgrounds, and how J’s calling as a minister added layers she had to process. Tae gets real about the weight of it all, but also the beauty that came with being fully seen and never judged. Through every high and low, J reminded her: "If you’re my girl, then I got you." This episode is a testimony to loyalty, faith, and what happens when two people choose to be authentic with each other, and let God lead the way.

]]> In this heartfelt episode, Tae opens up about her journey with J. From their unexpected beginning to the unfolding of a love story shaped by honesty, growth, and God's timing. She shares her perspective on their differences, from age gaps to church backgrounds, and how J’s calling as a minister added layers she had to process. Tae gets real about the weight of it all, but also the beauty that came with being fully seen and never judged. Through every high and low, J reminded her: "If you’re my girl, then I got you." This episode is a testimony to loyalty, faith, and what happens when two people choose to be authentic with each other, and let God lead the way.

]]> Thu, 26 Jun 2025 23:45:00 -0700 J & Tae J & Tae 1813 In this heartfelt episode, Tae opens up about her journey with J. From their unexpected beginning to the unfolding of a love story shaped by honesty, growth, and God's timing. She shares her perspective on their differences, from age gaps to church backgrounds, and how J’s calling as a minister added layers she had to process. Tae gets real about the weight of it all, but also the beauty that came with being fully seen and never judged. Through every high and low, J reminded her: "If you’re my girl, then I got you." This episode is a testimony to loyalty, faith, and what happens when two people choose to be authentic with each other, and let God lead the way.

]]> No How I Met Your Mother (Part 1) 1 1 How I Met Your Mother (Part 1) full 2d57fe89-754c-476c-a41f-ecc80cbdc8f4 https://share.transistor.fm/s/54d6c763 Welcome to the first episode of Unscripted Journey with J & Tae! In this episode, we dive into our story. J shares his side, how he met his beautiful wife, Octavia. This one is dedicated to their three amazing children. Their love story began with an unexpected friendship, something different from what J was used to. After going through a tough breakup, he had no plans of getting into another relationship, he just wanted to enjoy life. But everything shifted one night at a 90s-themed house party. The moment he saw her, it felt like something out of a movie. Introduced by a mutual friend, J couldn’t ignore the feeling. By the end of the night, he knew she would be his. He opens up about that powerful moment, the bond they began to build, and the journey of heartbreak, healing, and divine redirection that ultimately led him to the woman God had set apart just for him.

]]> Welcome to the first episode of Unscripted Journey with J & Tae! In this episode, we dive into our story. J shares his side, how he met his beautiful wife, Octavia. This one is dedicated to their three amazing children. Their love story began with an unexpected friendship, something different from what J was used to. After going through a tough breakup, he had no plans of getting into another relationship, he just wanted to enjoy life. But everything shifted one night at a 90s-themed house party. The moment he saw her, it felt like something out of a movie. Introduced by a mutual friend, J couldn’t ignore the feeling. By the end of the night, he knew she would be his. He opens up about that powerful moment, the bond they began to build, and the journey of heartbreak, healing, and divine redirection that ultimately led him to the woman God had set apart just for him.

]]> Fri, 13 Jun 2025 00:00:00 -0700 J & Tae J & Tae 2041 Welcome to the first episode of Unscripted Journey with J & Tae! In this episode, we dive into our story. J shares his side, how he met his beautiful wife, Octavia. This one is dedicated to their three amazing children. Their love story began with an unexpected friendship, something different from what J was used to. After going through a tough breakup, he had no plans of getting into another relationship, he just wanted to enjoy life. But everything shifted one night at a 90s-themed house party. The moment he saw her, it felt like something out of a movie. Introduced by a mutual friend, J couldn’t ignore the feeling. By the end of the night, he knew she would be his. He opens up about that powerful moment, the bond they began to build, and the journey of heartbreak, healing, and divine redirection that ultimately led him to the woman God had set apart just for him.

]]> No Trailer Trailer trailer bdd54f7f-fd43-4c45-a276-7af0c4bf533b https://share.transistor.fm/s/5e697720 Welcome to Unscripted Journey with J & Tae!
This is the place for unscripted and unconventional conversations that meet you at every crossroad of life. In this trailer, we’re giving you a quick glimpse into who we are, what this podcast is about, and what you can expect on the journey ahead. Whether it’s love, faith, healing, or growth, we’re talking about it all. No script, just real talk.

]]> Welcome to Unscripted Journey with J & Tae!
This is the place for unscripted and unconventional conversations that meet you at every crossroad of life. In this trailer, we’re giving you a quick glimpse into who we are, what this podcast is about, and what you can expect on the journey ahead. Whether it’s love, faith, healing, or growth, we’re talking about it all. No script, just real talk.

]]> Wed, 11 Jun 2025 22:37:24 -0700 J & Tae J & Tae 37 Welcome to Unscripted Journey with J & Tae!
This is the place for unscripted and unconventional conversations that meet you at every crossroad of life. In this trailer, we’re giving you a quick glimpse into who we are, what this podcast is about, and what you can expect on the journey ahead. Whether it’s love, faith, healing, or growth, we’re talking about it all. No script, just real talk.

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