Tight Lipped

BONUS: Aguantando

Tight Lipped — Fri, 27 Oct 2023 11:00:00 +0000

Bonus episode: "Holding It In" in Spanish!

Cualquier noche de la semana no es nada raro encontrarse a Gabriela perreando al ritmo de Bad Bunny. Ella ama bailar, pero hay una razón por la que está en la pista de baile: tiene que "soltar la pelvis". Hoy Gabriela está viviendo su mejor momento. Aunque hace poco tiempo no era todo color de rosas. Estaba atada por dolorosos síntomas urinarios que no comprendía aparte de estar estancada en una relación con un hombre que no era el compañero que ella necesitaba. En este episodio, conoceremos como mediante su experiencia con el dolor pélvico crónico Gabriela transformó su relacion con las citas, el sexo y (aun más importante) con ella misma.

12: Beyond the Books

Tight Lipped — Fri, 16 Jun 2023 10:00:00 +0000

Over and over again we hear stories from patients with vulvovaginal and pelvic pain who have struggled for years to find care. These patients have been told things like “just drink a glass of wine” or “you must have repressed sexual trauma.” We wanted to find out, what are medical students and residents taught about these conditions? And why don’t most OB/GYNs know the steps to help?

In today’s episode, we’re getting a peek into another side of the conversation: what’s missing from medical education and training. We hear from medical providers and students who are working to close the gaps and we learn about Tight Lipped’s advocacy work, focused on ensuring that every OB/GYN residency program teaches about pain.

11: Loving Through This

Tight Lipped — Fri, 02 Jun 2023 03:00:00 +0000

Jazzmine and Jordan have been together for almost a decade. They’ve built a beautiful and fulfilling life in Iowa and you could say that they’re the “perfect” couple. But, there’s one thing that most people don’t know about their relationship: they’ve never had penetrative sex. While Jazzmine used to keep this secret, now she and Jordan are ready to share how they navigate chronic vulvovaginal and pelvic pain together.

Even as recently as the 1960s, American courts were declaring that a marriage without regular penetrative sex was an invalid marriage. In today’s episode, we hear how Jazzmine and Jordan have worked to redefine intimacy in their relationship and resist social and historical narratives about marriage and sex.

10: The DSM

Tight Lipped — Fri, 19 May 2023 10:00:00 +0000

In 1991, Marjorie Wantz made headlines when she died through physician-assisted suicide. She had suffered for years with chronic vulvovaginal and pelvic pain. Marjorie hoped that an autopsy would prove what she’d insisted all along: that her pain was real. But, in the aftermath of her death, the medical community painted Marjorie’s condition as psychological, and imaginary.

Why did doctors still not believe Marjorie Wantz even after she took her own life to stop the pain? In today’s episode, we’re exploring how and why vulvovaginal pain became understood as a psychological issue. We hear from Hannah Srajer, who researched the development and evolution of “vaginismus” as a diagnosis over the last 100 years.

9: Holding It In

Tight Lipped — Fri, 05 May 2023 11:00:00 +0000

On a typical weekday night, you can find Gabriela twerking to Bad Bunny. She loves to dance, but there’s another reason she’s out on the dance floor: to release her pelvic floor. Gabriela’s living her best life these days. Yet, not that long ago, things looked pretty bleak. She felt held back by painful urinary symptoms she didn’t understand, and stuck in a relationship with a man who wasn’t the partner she needed.

In today’s episode, we hear how Gabriela’s experience with chronic pelvic pain transformed her relationship to sex, dating, and (most importantly) herself.

Season 2 Trailer

Tight Lipped — Mon, 01 May 2023 06:00:00 +0000

We are thrilled to be back with the second season of Tight Lipped’s podcast. Our first episode drops on Friday, May 5th!

Tight Lipped Presents: How to Do the Pot

Tight Lipped — Mon, 08 Nov 2021 06:00:00 +0000

You can learn more at https://dothepot.com/.

8: Power in Numbers

Tight Lipped — Tue, 20 Apr 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Today, we’re bringing you a story of change. One that gives a glimpse of what’s possible when patients, researchers, and policy makers come together to fight for a healthier, more hopeful future.

In 1994, Phyllis Mate led a small, dedicated group of women to found the National Vulvodynia Association, the NVA. Their mission was to be the central destination for the most up to date resources and research on vulvodynia. The problem? There wasn’t any medical information on the condition. On today’s episode we learn how a small group of vulvodynia patients fought for research and solutions to a problem they were taught not to talk about.

Full Disclosure: The National Vulvodynia Association is a sponsor of The Tight Lipped Podcast.

A note on gendered language in this episode: we want to be clear that not all women have vaginas, and that not all people with vaginas are women. In this episode, you'll hear the term "women" used to be consistent with clinical research and data available on this topic. However, vulvar pain can affect people of all genders and across the spectrum of gender identities.

7: Why did y'all offer this to me?

Tight Lipped — Mon, 22 Feb 2021 05:00:00 +0000

After nearly a decade of ER visits and dismissal from doctors, Samantha Denae was finally diagnosed with endometriosis. But then, she needed to figure out how to treat it. Over and over again she was told to get a hysterectomy. Black patients like Samantha are much more likely to receive a hysterectomy than white patients. But, why is that? This is the second episode in our two-part series about how race and class influence endometriosis diagnosis and treatment. We learn about how centuries of sterilization abuse and medical racism ignited the fight for reproductive justice, which continues on today.

6: The Career Woman's Disease

Tight Lipped — Mon, 08 Feb 2021 03:00:00 +0000

The myth that Black women don't develop endometriosis is almost a century old and yet it still persists to this day. Where did this idea come from? How did endometriosis come to be labeled the "career woman's disease"? And, why is it harder for Black patients, and working class patients, to get diagnosed? Today's episode is the first in a two-part series exploring how race and class influence endometriosis diagnosis and treatment. We learn about the story of the doctors who established this myth -- and one doctor who dedicated his life to debunking it.

Tight Lipped Presents: The Secret Lives of Black Women

Tight Lipped — Mon, 26 Oct 2020 05:00:00 +0000

Today we're sharing an episode from another podcast we love, The Secret Lives of Black Women - a show about everything from sex and self-care to rage and anxiety. In this episode, Dr. Debra Hardy-Cartwright shares her own story navigating the medical world as a Black OBGYN and her perspective on how race and class influence the kind of care we receive.

Tight Lipped Presents: Call Your Girlfriend

Tight Lipped — Mon, 12 Oct 2020 05:00:00 +0000

Today we're sharing an episode from another podcast we love, Call Your Girlfriend. CYG is a podcast for long-distance besties about feminism, politics, health, pop culture, and friendship. This episode features an interview with author Maya Dusenbery and explores the research behind why medical institutions frequently dismiss and underestimate chronic pain and patients' accounts of their own symptoms.

Tight Lipped Presents: NATAL

Tight Lipped — Tue, 29 Sep 2020 04:00:00 +0000

Today we're sharing an episode from another podcast we love, NATAL - a docuseries about having a baby while Black. The show highlights the voices of Black parents, birthworkers, medical professionals, researchers, and advocates. This episode takes us on a deep dive into the roots of racism in obstetrics and gynecology.

Tight Lipped Presents: Bodies

Tight Lipped — Mon, 14 Sep 2020 05:00:00 +0000

Today we're sharing an episode from another podcast we love, Bodies. The show is about medical mysteries - and the questions that emerge when trying to understand what's happening inside your own body. This episode follows Allison's journey to find out why sex suddenly became painful.

5: Embodied Knowledge

Tight Lipped — Mon, 31 Aug 2020 04:31:54 +0000

In the late 1960s, it was difficult to access basic information about women's health. Jane, frustrated by her doctors' paternalistic attitude, decided to do more research about her own body so she could advocate for herself. With a group of activists in Boston, Jane and 11 others began taking matters into their own hands and went on to write the groundbreaking book “Our Bodies, Ourselves,” which redefined the women’s health movement. In today's episode, we explore how one group of women came together to build community, educate themselves, and change how we talk about and treat women's bodies.

4: Did I Dream?

Tight Lipped — Wed, 20 May 2020 00:00:00 +0000

What happens when a doctor's dismissal leads you to question your own sanity? This is what patient advocates call "medical gaslighting." Lara Parker knows all about the consequences of not being believed. She lives with pain all over her body. She's passed out from the pain multiple times. She's constantly nauseous, has horrible cramps, and has chronic vaginal and vulvar pain. But, after years of dismissal from doctors, Lara starts to wonder: Am I imagining it?

3: A Broken Optimism

Tight Lipped — Mon, 20 Jan 2020 00:35:00 +0000

Sex hurts the first time, but then it gets better. Right? This is the message so many of us grew up with. We saw it in movies and heard it from friends. But what if sex isn’t supposed to hurt? How much pain is too much pain? When is pain “normal” and when does it require medical attention? These are questions that Maura, a teacher and dancer, has spent almost her whole life thinking about. In today's episode, we hear from Maura, and many others, about how and why they've spent years putting up with pain.

2: The Trust Gap

Tight Lipped — Tue, 26 Nov 2019 06:07:00 +0000

By the time Shelby was 22 years old, she'd seen not one, not two, not three, but twelve different doctors in search of a diagnosis. And this is not an uncommon experience for people with vaginismus, vulvodynia, and other vulvar pain conditions. In today’s episode, we’re taking a look inside the exam room to try to understand why so many people with vaginas that hurt have to seek out dozens of doctors before getting a diagnosis, let alone a treatment plan. Learn more about Tight Lipped at tightlippedpod.squarespace.com

1: Secrets

Tight Lipped — Sun, 05 May 2019 20:31:00 +0000

For as long as Noa can remember, penetrative sex -- actually any kind of penetration (tampons, pelvic exams, etc.) -- has been so painful it’s physically impossible. And, until very recently, she kept it secret from almost everyone she knew. Where and how do women like Noa learn to keep their pain secret? Sign up for our newsletter at http://tightlippedpod.squarespace.com.

Trailer

Tight Lipped — Tue, 16 Apr 2019 04:54:00 +0000

Tight Lipped is a storytelling podcast that makes public what is often thought of as “private pain.” Pilot episode coming soon!