Three Decades Dastaan Transistor (https://transistor.fm) https://feeds.transistor.fm/three-decades-dastaan Two women. Two countries. Three decades of stories. Raised in India and Pakistan and now living in the UK, Three Decades Dastaan is a podcast where friendship meets reflection. As they turn 30, they look back on the first three decades of life across cultures, borders, and identities, while also navigating what the future might hold. Through honest conversations, they explore growing up desi, migration, belonging, growth, and becoming. Email us with questions on threedecadesdastaan@outlook.com © 2026 Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal 92afc9a3-af99-532b-bbf9-3b265b26875f yes Intro to the Three Decades Dastaan Podcast en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 07:00:08 +0100 Tue, 14 Apr 2026 07:02:08 +0100 https://img.transistorcdn.com/skjFBM0K4RIl29VhB13n2BpuA14KcfFFbOeWPP77OlQ/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:1400/h:1400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9mMTA3/N2I2NGFlMjY1YWIy/ODc1ZTY1YzJkNWM4/NjhjZC5wbmc.jpg Three Decades Dastaan episodic Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal Two women. Two countries. Three decades of stories. Raised in India and Pakistan and now living in the UK, Three Decades Dastaan is a podcast where friendship meets reflection. As they turn 30, they look back on the first three decades of life across cultures, borders, and identities, while also navigating what the future might hold. Through honest conversations, they explore growing up desi, migration, belonging, growth, and becoming. Email us with questions on threedecadesdastaan@outlook.com Two women. Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal threedecadesdastaan@outlook.com No No Episode 12 - How we ended up in Brighton 12 12 Episode 12 - How we ended up in Brighton full 4c7f26c2-1997-4490-bb60-70ba0d8e892c https://share.transistor.fm/s/efc81bd2 Two friends reflect on the places that shaped them, and why Brighton became the city they chose to call home.

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]]> Tue, 14 Apr 2026 07:00:00 +0100 Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal 3566 Two friends reflect on the places that shaped them, and why Brighton became the city they chose to call home.

]]> No Ep11 - Learning through unlearning 11 11 Ep11 - Learning through unlearning full d68af6d9-9560-4d21-9414-730bbca0633b https://share.transistor.fm/s/7f463673 In this episode, the hosts reflect on the process of unlearning beliefs and behaviours picked up in childhood - from shame around mistakes to the fear of judgment and the habit of people pleasing. Through personal stories and honest conversations, they explore how these patterns show up in adulthood and what it looks like to slowly let them go. The hosts also end up learning a little more about each other along the way.

]]> In this episode, the hosts reflect on the process of unlearning beliefs and behaviours picked up in childhood - from shame around mistakes to the fear of judgment and the habit of people pleasing. Through personal stories and honest conversations, they explore how these patterns show up in adulthood and what it looks like to slowly let them go. The hosts also end up learning a little more about each other along the way.

]]> Tue, 31 Mar 2026 07:00:00 +0100 Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal 4023 In this episode, the hosts reflect on the process of unlearning beliefs and behaviours picked up in childhood - from shame around mistakes to the fear of judgment and the habit of people pleasing. Through personal stories and honest conversations, they explore how these patterns show up in adulthood and what it looks like to slowly let them go. The hosts also end up learning a little more about each other along the way.

]]> Relationships, childhood, school, parenting, therapy No Ep10- To baby, or not to baby.. 10 10 Ep10- To baby, or not to baby.. full dd7ad899-474a-49e6-899a-d426b5c6ede1 https://share.transistor.fm/s/0c1a9563 In this episode, the hosts talk openly about their different perspectives on having children — one who wants a baby, and one who doesn’t. Drawing from personal experiences, they unpack how these views formed, the questions they’ve had to answer, and the assumptions people often make. A thoughtful, respectful conversation about autonomy, womanhood, and making space for different paths.

]]> In this episode, the hosts talk openly about their different perspectives on having children — one who wants a baby, and one who doesn’t. Drawing from personal experiences, they unpack how these views formed, the questions they’ve had to answer, and the assumptions people often make. A thoughtful, respectful conversation about autonomy, womanhood, and making space for different paths.

]]> Tue, 17 Mar 2026 07:00:00 +0000 Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal 3295 In this episode, the hosts talk openly about their different perspectives on having children — one who wants a baby, and one who doesn’t. Drawing from personal experiences, they unpack how these views formed, the questions they’ve had to answer, and the assumptions people often make. A thoughtful, respectful conversation about autonomy, womanhood, and making space for different paths.

]]> No Ep09 - More than just a hobby.. with Shanzey 8 8 Ep09 - More than just a hobby.. with Shanzey full 4c31ba4d-9967-4c4d-ba1f-c6b6ed8b42b0 https://share.transistor.fm/s/51f66bf4 This episode dives into Shanzey’s love for makeup and how it became something deeper than a hobby. From where it started to what it gives her today, the hosts talk about creativity, confidence, and the way makeup is often misunderstood. An honest, relaxed chat about passion, perception, and self-expression.

]]> This episode dives into Shanzey’s love for makeup and how it became something deeper than a hobby. From where it started to what it gives her today, the hosts talk about creativity, confidence, and the way makeup is often misunderstood. An honest, relaxed chat about passion, perception, and self-expression.

]]> Tue, 03 Mar 2026 07:00:00 +0000 Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal 2402 This episode dives into Shanzey’s love for makeup and how it became something deeper than a hobby. From where it started to what it gives her today, the hosts talk about creativity, confidence, and the way makeup is often misunderstood. An honest, relaxed chat about passion, perception, and self-expression.

]]> No Ep08 - The breakups we don't talk about.. 9 9 Ep08 - The breakups we don't talk about.. full 6119905c-3ccf-401b-b6bb-a4fcc7bca084 https://share.transistor.fm/s/84ee17c4 In this episode, the hosts talk openly about friendship breakups and why they’re often not taken as seriously as romantic ones. Drawing from their own experiences, they explore how friendship endings can hurt, linger, and reshape you in ways people don’t always acknowledge.

]]> In this episode, the hosts talk openly about friendship breakups and why they’re often not taken as seriously as romantic ones. Drawing from their own experiences, they explore how friendship endings can hurt, linger, and reshape you in ways people don’t always acknowledge.

]]> Tue, 17 Feb 2026 07:00:00 +0000 Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal 3242 In this episode, the hosts talk openly about friendship breakups and why they’re often not taken as seriously as romantic ones. Drawing from their own experiences, they explore how friendship endings can hurt, linger, and reshape you in ways people don’t always acknowledge.

]]> No Ep07 - More than just a hobby.. with Vaishnavi 7 7 Ep07 - More than just a hobby.. with Vaishnavi full 61a01972-65d3-4158-b549-879236602f19 https://share.transistor.fm/s/2ab1708e This episode is all about Vaishnavi’s love for dance and why it means so much more than a hobby. From how it started to what keeps her coming back, the hosts unpack her journey with movement, expression, and self-connection. An honest chat about passion, identity, and doing something just because it feels right.

]]> This episode is all about Vaishnavi’s love for dance and why it means so much more than a hobby. From how it started to what keeps her coming back, the hosts unpack her journey with movement, expression, and self-connection. An honest chat about passion, identity, and doing something just because it feels right.

]]> Tue, 03 Feb 2026 07:00:00 +0000 Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal 2381 This episode is all about Vaishnavi’s love for dance and why it means so much more than a hobby. From how it started to what keeps her coming back, the hosts unpack her journey with movement, expression, and self-connection. An honest chat about passion, identity, and doing something just because it feels right.

]]> No Ep06 - Loving the body we were taught to judge.. 6 6 Ep06 - Loving the body we were taught to judge.. full 83f489f9-8719-47f3-9b51-37ebc13337a1 https://share.transistor.fm/s/8fd41cf8 Today's episode is on where the hosts have a sit down to talk about bodies - the ones they learned to judge, control, and apologise for, and the ones they’re still learning to care for.

They reflect on the comments they heard growing up, how culture and expectations shaped their self-image, and how their relationship with their bodies has shifted over time. A gentle and honest conversation about unlearning, acceptance, and being kinder to themselves.

]]> Today's episode is on where the hosts have a sit down to talk about bodies - the ones they learned to judge, control, and apologise for, and the ones they’re still learning to care for.

They reflect on the comments they heard growing up, how culture and expectations shaped their self-image, and how their relationship with their bodies has shifted over time. A gentle and honest conversation about unlearning, acceptance, and being kinder to themselves.

]]> Tue, 20 Jan 2026 07:00:00 +0000 Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal 3750 Today's episode is on where the hosts have a sit down to talk about bodies - the ones they learned to judge, control, and apologise for, and the ones they’re still learning to care for.

They reflect on the comments they heard growing up, how culture and expectations shaped their self-image, and how their relationship with their bodies has shifted over time. A gentle and honest conversation about unlearning, acceptance, and being kinder to themselves.

]]> body image, self acceptance, body acceptance, unlearning body shame, body judgment, self love, body positivity, healing relationship with body, societal expectations, cultural standards, growing up female, self compassion, body neutrality, confidence, mental health, personal growth No Ep05 - So… why are we so into true crime? 5 5 Ep05 - So… why are we so into true crime? full 65041cfb-2bc2-4fc0-abf0-566e2d2af1bc https://share.transistor.fm/s/f00bb35e Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of murder, suicide, and death.

Why do so many women love true crime and is it weird that we do?

In this episode, the hosts get into their true crime obsession, from the cases that completely pulled them in to the ones they still think about long after the episode ends. They talk about what draws women to this genre in the first place, whether it’s curiosity, empathy, fear, or a need to understand how things go wrong and where the line between awareness and overconsumption starts to blur.

A thoughtful but relaxed conversation for anyone who loves true crime or has questions about why it’s so hard to stop listening.

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Why do so many women love true crime and is it weird that we do?

In this episode, the hosts get into their true crime obsession, from the cases that completely pulled them in to the ones they still think about long after the episode ends. They talk about what draws women to this genre in the first place, whether it’s curiosity, empathy, fear, or a need to understand how things go wrong and where the line between awareness and overconsumption starts to blur.

A thoughtful but relaxed conversation for anyone who loves true crime or has questions about why it’s so hard to stop listening.

]]> Tue, 13 Jan 2026 07:00:00 +0000 Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal 4099 Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of murder, suicide, and death.

Why do so many women love true crime and is it weird that we do?

In this episode, the hosts get into their true crime obsession, from the cases that completely pulled them in to the ones they still think about long after the episode ends. They talk about what draws women to this genre in the first place, whether it’s curiosity, empathy, fear, or a need to understand how things go wrong and where the line between awareness and overconsumption starts to blur.

A thoughtful but relaxed conversation for anyone who loves true crime or has questions about why it’s so hard to stop listening.

]]> true crime, women and true crime, true crime obsession, morbid curiosity, psychology of true crime, empathy, fear, murder, suicide, death, crime podcasts, crime stories, trauma awareness, emotional impact, overconsumption, media consumption, victim empathy, personal safety, curiosity vs obsession No Ep04 - 2026 New Year, new resolutions?.. 4 4 Ep04 - 2026 New Year, new resolutions?.. full bea58838-4749-433e-90f6-c77481ed0afb https://share.transistor.fm/s/43192d3c In this episode, the hosts talk about how their feelings around New Year’s resolutions have changed over the years. They unpack the pressure resolutions can create, why they often feel overwhelming, and how expectations can quietly turn into self-judgment. The conversation focuses on self-compassion, realistic goal-setting, and finding a softer way to approach the new year.

]]> In this episode, the hosts talk about how their feelings around New Year’s resolutions have changed over the years. They unpack the pressure resolutions can create, why they often feel overwhelming, and how expectations can quietly turn into self-judgment. The conversation focuses on self-compassion, realistic goal-setting, and finding a softer way to approach the new year.

]]> Tue, 06 Jan 2026 07:00:00 +0000 Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal 2163 In this episode, the hosts talk about how their feelings around New Year’s resolutions have changed over the years. They unpack the pressure resolutions can create, why they often feel overwhelming, and how expectations can quietly turn into self-judgment. The conversation focuses on self-compassion, realistic goal-setting, and finding a softer way to approach the new year.

]]> No Intro to the Three Decades Dastaan Podcast Intro to the Three Decades Dastaan Podcast trailer 92f6af29-4cf7-45f4-964c-0b5ada5c40aa https://share.transistor.fm/s/603cd708 An introduction to Three Decades Dastaan and the hosts behind the podcast. Get to know who they are, why they started this podcast and what to expect as you join them for a conversation - don't forget to bring your cup of chai!

]]> An introduction to Three Decades Dastaan and the hosts behind the podcast. Get to know who they are, why they started this podcast and what to expect as you join them for a conversation - don't forget to bring your cup of chai!

]]> Sun, 04 Jan 2026 18:55:07 +0000 Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal 119 An introduction to Three Decades Dastaan and the hosts behind the podcast. Get to know who they are, why they started this podcast and what to expect as you join them for a conversation - don't forget to bring your cup of chai!

]]> Podcast, Introduction, Friendships, South Asia, Diaspora, Immigrants, Self Love No Ep03 - Friendships & Community 3 3 Ep03 - Friendships & Community full 03b9b1b3-8fb0-44b4-bfe4-a1433084d3ee https://share.transistor.fm/s/86fef890 A reflection on building community in the UK and making friends as adults, how friendships shift after your twenties, and how growing into yourself changes who you connect with. This episode explores belonging, effort, and finding your people in a new place.  

]]> A reflection on building community in the UK and making friends as adults, how friendships shift after your twenties, and how growing into yourself changes who you connect with. This episode explores belonging, effort, and finding your people in a new place.  

]]> Fri, 02 Jan 2026 21:15:11 +0000 Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal 3372 A reflection on building community in the UK and making friends as adults, how friendships shift after your twenties, and how growing into yourself changes who you connect with. This episode explores belonging, effort, and finding your people in a new place.  

]]> community, relationships in your 30s, personal growth, honest conversations, modern dating, emotional healing, navigating adulthood, self-discovery, friendship & love No Ep02 - Talking health and hormones 2 2 Ep02 - Talking health and hormones full 1660c464-ab6b-40ef-95da-7fa65d41162d https://share.transistor.fm/s/3da2bdc5 An honest conversation about women’s health, from PCOS and fertility to egg freezing and reproductive choices. In this episode, the hosts reflect on what they’ve learned, what they’re still navigating, and why these conversations matter, especially as they step into their thirties.  

]]> An honest conversation about women’s health, from PCOS and fertility to egg freezing and reproductive choices. In this episode, the hosts reflect on what they’ve learned, what they’re still navigating, and why these conversations matter, especially as they step into their thirties.  

]]> Fri, 02 Jan 2026 20:57:50 +0000 Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal 4511 An honest conversation about women’s health, from PCOS and fertility to egg freezing and reproductive choices. In this episode, the hosts reflect on what they’ve learned, what they’re still navigating, and why these conversations matter, especially as they step into their thirties.  

]]> best friends podcast, relationships in your 30s, personal growth, honest conversations, modern dating, emotional healing, navigating adulthood, self-discovery, friendship & love, PCOS, PCOD, Egg Freezing, Hormones No Ep01 - Looking back at our 20s 1 1 Ep01 - Looking back at our 20s full dde8333d-0419-4428-a5f2-be59fee36b3e https://share.transistor.fm/s/34642b37  Before stepping into the future, we take a moment to look back. In our first episode, we reflect on our twenties - the decade that shaped our identities, friendships, and sense of self. Through an honest conversation about growth, mistakes, and lessons learned, we share what we’re carrying forward into our thirties.  


]]>  Before stepping into the future, we take a moment to look back. In our first episode, we reflect on our twenties - the decade that shaped our identities, friendships, and sense of self. Through an honest conversation about growth, mistakes, and lessons learned, we share what we’re carrying forward into our thirties.  


]]> Fri, 02 Jan 2026 20:32:44 +0000 Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal Shanzey Bucha & Vaishnavi Sayal 2840  Before stepping into the future, we take a moment to look back. In our first episode, we reflect on our twenties - the decade that shaped our identities, friendships, and sense of self. Through an honest conversation about growth, mistakes, and lessons learned, we share what we’re carrying forward into our thirties.  


]]> best friends podcast, relationships in your 30s, personal growth, honest conversations, modern dating, emotional healing, navigating adulthood, self-discovery, friendship & love No