Maybe yours is the day of the loss, maybe a birthday, maybe the day you got the call. The week before it arrives is often heavier than the day itself, and most of us handle it one of two ways: skip it and stay busy, or turn it into a monument and then grade ourselves on how we did. Both are the same move.

This episode is about a third option, and about the two moves that make the day survivable. First, say the date out loud before it arrives and finish the sentence with "I don't know how it will go." Second, give the day one job, one thing your person would have loved. Their song, their food, their spot. Then you are off the hook for the rest of the day.

Joy and sorrow can be in the same room. The date never stops mattering, and you are not behind schedule.

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Peace within. Purpose in what comes next.

For more than 20 years Neal Tricarico worked alongside visionary leaders like Tony Robbins; after his only son, Anthony, died by suicide, he is rebuilding a life of meaning and now guides others toward purpose, connection, and a way forward.

Susan Howard, founder of the Core Mastermind, has spent more than a decade building the kind of rooms people come back to. Her answer to that quiet is smaller and far more available than you would expect.

What is in this hour:

- Why you cannot ask for help in a crisis, and what it takes for someone else to go first

- Susan's method: connection comes from curiosity, not from agreeing about anything

- Why trying to pull someone out of their suffering can be the wrong move

Susan did not arrive at this through loss. She arrived through a lifetime of building community on purpose, which is what makes her answer usable by anyone.

One step this week: tell one person one true sentence about how tired you are.

Peace within. Purpose in what comes next.

If you are struggling: call or text 988 (US). Worldwide: findahelpline.com

You don't have to carry it alone.

Neal Tricarico spent more than 20 years working alongside visionary leaders like Tony Robbins. After the loss of his only son, he is rebuilding a life of meaning, and now guides others from suffering toward purpose, connection, and a way forward.

Neal sits down with his friend of twenty-one years, meditation teacher Davidji, who was beside him through the worst weeks of his life and who later gave him the words for what was happening. This is the hour about what to do with love that has nowhere left to go.

• Why growth after loss is not a switch, and has to be tended breath by breath
• What to say instead of "if you need me, call me"
• A breathing practice Davidji teaches live, in under two minutes

The wound is the way, and the way runs through someone else.

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Peace within. Purpose in what comes next.

If you are struggling: call or text 988 (US). Worldwide: findahelpline.com

You don't have to carry it alone.

About Neal: After more than 20 years helping people create transformation alongside leaders like Tony Robbins, and after the loss of his only son, Anthony, Neal is rebuilding a life of meaning and guiding others from suffering toward purpose and a way forward.

In the first episode of The Way Forward Live, Neal Tricarico takes apart the word survivor and offers something more useful in its place. Then he lays out the both/and: two truths can be true at the same time, you can hold real pain and real joy at once, and that is not a contradiction and not brokenness.

• Why grief is not a process you finish, and how waiting for it to end can keep you stuck
• What to do with the regret that you could have done something
• One practice to take with you, from Dr. Ken Druck: take your foot off your throat, put your hand on your heart, and say, this happened and I am still here

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Peace within. Purpose in what comes next.

If you are struggling: call or text 988 (US). Worldwide: findahelpline.com. You don't have to carry it alone.

Neal Tricarico spent more than 20 years working alongside visionary leaders like Tony Robbins. After the loss of his only son, Anthony, he is rebuilding a life of meaning and guiding others toward purpose, connection, and a way forward.