The Nice Guy Show

The Truth About Incels: It’s Not About Sex

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Thu, 06 Nov 2025 16:04:01 -0800

From Lonely to Angry: Understanding Incels (And How Good Men Lose Their Way)
Some men don't start off angry. They start off lonely. Rejected. Invisible. Neglected in childhood.
But when the pain festers long enough, it turns into something darker: the incel mindset.
In this raw and unflinching episode, Faisal, Chuck, and Ari dive into one of the internet's most controversial subcultures — involuntary celibates (incels). These are men who want relationships but can't get them, and the frustration has curdled into isolation, shame, and sometimes rage.
But here's what most people miss: Incels share many traits with Nice Guys. Both crave connection yet fear rejection. Both seek approval from women and feel powerless when they don't get it. The difference? Nice Guys hide their resentment. Incels express it — just not face-to-face.
In this episode, we explore:
What incels actually are (and why this phenomenon is growing)
The mental health crisis: depression, anxiety, and isolation
Why some men didn't procreate throughout history (evolutionary psychology perspective)
How the internet created echo chambers that trap lonely men
Faisal's powerful story of coaching an incel — and what he learned
The victim mindset: Why identifying as "involuntarily celibate" keeps you stuck
The "black pill" belief system and incel terminology (Chads, Staceys, and nihilism)
How Nice Guys and incels differ: Hope vs. giving up
The generational shift: Why young men aren't pursuing relationships like they used to
Economic reality: When you can't afford independence, relationships feel impossible
Chuck's controversial take: Is sex really the answer? (Spoiler: No)
Why comparison culture and social media poison your soul
The trap of expecting life to hand you perfection
How resentment and victimhood become a prison
The hard truth? Being an incel isn't involuntary. It's a choice to stay stuck in resentment, victimhood, and isolation. There IS a path forward — but it requires rejecting the black pill, doing the work, and choosing growth over bitterness.

This isn't about attacking incels. It's about understanding how good men lose their way — and showing them there's another path. One that leads to connection, purpose, and power.

If you're stuck, isolated, or angry at the world — this episode is for you.
Like. Comment. Subscribe. And share this with someone who needs to know: You're not powerless. You're not doomed. There's a way out.
P.S. — Yes, we had technical difficulties with Faisal's internet. Chuck and Ari carried on like champions. And no, Chuck did NOT ruin sex for everyone... or did he?
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How To Overcome Jealousy As A Nice-Guy

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 22 Oct 2025 13:35:08 -0700

Why Jealousy Destroys Nice Guys (And How to Finally Stop It)
You see her laugh at another guy's joke. Your stomach tightens. Your mind spirals. You start checking her phone, stalking her social media, asking the same questions over and over.

And then comes the shame.
Jealousy doesn't just ruin relationships — it hijacks your entire life. And for Nice Guys? It hits harder than most.

In this raw and revealing episode, Faisal, Chuck, and Ari break down the real psychology behind jealousy — why it exists, why Nice Guys struggle with it more intensely, and how to stop letting it sabotage your love life.

In this episode, we dive deep into:
Why jealousy feels like an emotional prison you can't escape
The three fractures jealousy exposes: ego, emotional, and sexual
Real stories of jealousy gone wrong (including Faisal's polyamory experiment)

The dangerous projection: "If I don't trust myself, how can I trust her?"
Why trying to control your partner always backfires
The concept of "compersion" — can you actually rewire jealousy?
How polyamory sounds great in theory but rarely works in practice
The critical mistake: Selecting women with your fractured ego instead of your wise self
Why Nice Guys pick incompatible partners and then try to change them
The difference between healthy jealousy and destructive obsession (retroactive jealousy OCD)

How to know yourself well enough to choose the right partner

Here's the truth: Feeling jealous is normal. Even extreme jealousy is a natural response. But what you DO with it determines whether it destroys you — or strengthens you.

You can't convince your heart with your mind. You can't logic your way out of jealousy. But you CAN heal the fractures that make you vulnerable to it in the first place.

This isn't about becoming emotionless. It's about building the self-security, boundaries, and wisdom to handle jealousy without letting it control you.
Whether you're obsessing over her past, spiraling over who she's texting, or trapped in a cycle of control and shame — this episode will help you break free.
Stop suffering in silence. It's time to handle this.
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Is It Bad To Be A Man? Criticizing Masculinity

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 22 Oct 2025 13:34:17 -0700

Is It Dangerous to Be a Man? Why Masculinity Gets Criticized Instead of Celebrated
A coal miner shows up to his son's basketball game still covered in soot. He rushed straight from work to keep his promise. The photo goes viral — but not for the reason you'd think.
Instead of celebrating his dedication, the internet tears him apart. "Performative masculinity." "Virtue signaling." "He could've washed his face."
And that's when it hit us: No matter what a man does, someone will find a way to criticize it.
In this powerful conversation, Chuck, Faisal, and Ari unpack one of the most uncomfortable truths of modern masculinity: being a man feels like walking through a minefield of judgment, shame, and cancel culture.
In this episode, we explore:
Why showing up as yourself can get you canceled
The difference between how masculine and feminine energy "destroys" — and why it matters
How growing up in the feminist era made men feel guilty for being men
Why "mansplaining" and similar terms are designed to disempower
The schoolyard mentality of men vs. women hatred — and how to rise above it
What happens when you own your flaws instead of apologizing for them
How to develop thick skin in a world that loves tearing people down
Why empowering men doesn't come at women's expense
The truth? When men feel disempowered, nobody wins. Not men. Not women. Not society.
This isn't about playing victim. It's about standing up, owning who you are (flaws included), and refusing to collapse under criticism. It's about building connection instead of division.
Whether you're tired of walking on eggshells, struggling with shame about your masculinity, or just trying to figure out how to be a good man in a world that constantly tells you you're doing it wrong — this episode is for you.
It's time to stop apologizing for being a man.
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Is AI Making Nice Guys Weaker?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 22 Oct 2025 13:33:08 -0700

You're on a date. She says something unexpected. You freeze. Your brain goes blank. So you excuse yourself to the bathroom… and ask ChatGPT what to say next.

Sound familiar?

In this raw and thought-provoking episode, Ari, Faisal, and Chuck dive into the complicated relationship between AI and masculinity. From flirty texts written by algorithms to essays no one remembers writing, we explore a dangerous new trend: cognitive debt.

In this episode, we tackle:
Why ChatGPT might be killing your creativity (and your dating life)
The hidden cost of letting AI do your thinking for you
How AI responses are trained on feminine narratives — and what that means for men
The difference between using AI as a tool vs. becoming dependent on it
Why your brain literally gets weaker when you outsource hard thinking
The future of relationships: Will men marry AI companions?
How to stay sharp, authentic, and "chocolate" (not lettuce) in a world of artificial intelligence

The uncomfortable truth? AI can make you look smarter in the short term — but it's eroding your self-worth, your memory, and your ability to handle real-life tension. And when you finally show up in person? She'll know something's off.

Whether you're a Nice Guy struggling with authenticity, an entrepreneur leaning too hard on AI, or just someone wondering if technology is helping or hurting — this conversation will challenge you.

It's time to reclaim your brain. Your creativity. Your edge.

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What Do Women Bring To The Table?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 22 Oct 2025 13:31:46 -0700

Ever caught yourself asking "What do women even bring to the table?" or heard women firing back with "What do men bring?" If you're asking either question, this episode is for you.

Faisal, Ari, and Chuck dive deep into the mindset behind these toxic questions — and more importantly, how to shift from scarcity thinking to abundance in relationships. They get brutally honest about their own dark periods: failed marriages, emotional hostage situations, trauma bonding, and the wounds that kept them stuck in victim mode.

Here's what we unpack:
The psychology behind "what do you bring to the table" thinking (spoiler: it's rooted in pain and immaturity) How unhealed wounds sabotage every relationship you enter Why most people enter relationships from deficit instead of wholeness

The difference between being needy vs. being whole and self-sufficient What healthy women actually do bring: beauty, nurturing, social connection, aesthetic sense What conscious men bring: leadership, protection, direction, emotional stability The "garden metaphor" — how to tend your relationship instead of just taking from it

This isn't about gender wars or pickup artist nonsense. It's about doing the inner work so you can actually appreciate what others offer instead of keeping score like a wounded child.

Whether you're bitter from divorce, struggling in your current relationship, or single and cynical — this conversation will challenge you to look in the mirror first. Because until you heal your own wounds and show up whole, you'll keep attracting the same dysfunction.

Time to stop asking what others bring to the table and start asking what kind of person you're becoming.

Are Nice Guys Chronic Defenders?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 22 Sep 2025 09:53:57 -0700

She gives you feedback. Your wife makes a simple request. Maybe she expresses disappointment. And before she even finishes her sentence, you're already building your defense case like a trial lawyer. Sound familiar?
In this raw and revealing episode, Chuck, Ari, and Faisal dive deep into one of the most relationship-damaging patterns Nice Guys fall into: chronic defensiveness.

We explore:
Why your nervous system goes into overdrive the moment you hear criticism
The difference between legitimate complaints and character attacks — and why we hear them wrong
How defensiveness kills connection, intimacy, and attraction faster than almost anything else
The childhood wounds that turn grown men into automatic defenders
Why your need to be "right" is sabotaging your relationships
Practical embodiment techniques to regulate your nervous system in the moment
The skill of curiosity over defensiveness — and how it changes everything
When defensiveness becomes maladaptive and starts destroying your love life
Chuck shares a real-time example of catching his own defensiveness in action. Faisal reveals how he transformed a potentially relationship-damaging text exchange using these principles. And Ari breaks down the mature masculine response that creates connection instead of conflict.

Whether you're constantly explaining yourself, find yourself in endless arguments, or feel like nothing you do is ever good enough — this episode will help you break the cycle. It's time to stop defending and start connecting.

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Should I Date Single Mothers?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 15 Sep 2025 07:00:00 -0700

Should you date single moms? It's the question that divides the manosphere — and maybe your dating life.
In this raw and honest episode, Faisal, Chuck, and Ari dive into one of modern dating's most controversial topics. No sugar-coating. No political correctness. Just three divorced dads sharing hard-earned wisdom about navigating the single parent dating world.
In this episode, we explore:
The brutal truth about why single moms might be "easier" to date (and why that's a trap)
How Nice Guys become unwilling ATMs and unpaid babysitters
When to introduce your kids — and the red flags that scream "run"
Why choosing the path of least resistance destroys your dating confidence
The difference between being a white knight rescuer vs. a conscious partner
How single parenthood can reveal character — or expose major red flags
Why some men should absolutely avoid dating single moms (and who they are)
This isn't about shaming single mothers. It's about helping men make conscious choices instead of falling into Nice Guy traps that leave everyone miserable.
Whether you're a single dad wondering about your own dating value, a man considering dating a single mom, or someone who's been burned by taking the "easy" path — this conversation will challenge everything you think you know about modern dating.
The bottom line: There are no shortcuts to building real confidence and relationship skills. And the choices you make in dating reveal everything about the man you're becoming.
Like. Comment. Subscribe. And share this with the man who needs to stop settling for scraps.

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Am I Raising A Nice Guy?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Fri, 12 Sep 2025 11:13:27 -0700

Every parent fears they're screwing up their kids. But as a Nice Guy coach with a 10-year-old son, Ari faces a chilling realization: What if he's accidentally raising the next generation of people-pleasers?

In this raw and honest conversation, Ari, Faisal, and Chuck dig into the hardest parenting questions:

How do you tell the difference between kindness and people-pleasing in kids?

What are the early warning signs of Nice Guy syndrome showing up in your child?

Are you accidentally modeling the very behaviors you're trying to prevent?
When does "being a good parent" cross the line into codependency?
How do you teach resilience without crushing their spirit?

The difference between pushing your kids and projecting your childhood wounds onto them
From jump rope tests and Taekwondo black belts to bedtime phone rules and dirty uniforms, this episode tackles the messy reality of conscious parenting. We explore the fine line between protecting our kids and preparing them for real life.

Whether you're a parent worried about raising resilient children, a recovering Nice Guy navigating fatherhood, or someone trying to understand how these patterns form — this conversation will challenge everything you think you know about "good parenting."

Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is let them struggle.
Like. Comment. Subscribe. And share this with the parent who's brave enough to ask the hard questions.

Should We Legalize & Regulate Prostitution?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 03 Sep 2025 11:06:18 -0700

Should We Legalize Prostitution? The Sexual Frustration Crisis Men Are Facing

This episode tackles one of the most controversial questions of our time: Should prostitution be legal? But it's not just about policy — it's about the sexual shame, frustration, and isolation that's destroying men in silence.

Faisal, Chuck, and Ari dive deep into the reality that most people won't discuss: Men are sexually starving in sexless marriages, endless single streaks, and a culture that celebrates women's emotional needs while shaming men's physical ones.

What we unpack:

Why men have 20x more testosterone but nowhere to express their sexual needs without being labeled "creepy" or "predatory"
The double standard: Women get therapy, safe spaces, and sex toys while men get shame and secrecy
How sexual repression creates the very dysfunction we're trying to avoid — porn addiction, affairs, and dark obsessions
Real stories from strip clubs and escort experiences that reveal what men are actually seeking (hint: it's not always what you think)
The difference between sexual gratification and true intimacy — and why men confuse the two
What happens when couples have mismatched sex drives and one partner holds the other "hostage"
Whether legalizing prostitution would help or hurt men's ability to form real relationships

The hard questions: Is denying men a healthy sexual outlet forcing them into dysfunction? Are we already "paying for sex" through expensive dates and gifts? If women can seek emotional support outside marriage, why can't men seek physical release?

This isn't about promoting or condemning — it's about having the honest conversation that society refuses to have. Whether you're married, single, or somewhere in between, this episode will challenge how you think about male sexuality, relationship dynamics, and what we actually need versus what we think we want.

Warning: This conversation goes places most won't. If you're uncomfortable discussing male sexual needs openly, this episode will push your boundaries. But that discomfort might be exactly what you need to examine.

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Nice Guys Don’t Trust Themselves

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 25 Aug 2025 10:45:41 -0700

You second-guess every decision. You overthink every conversation. You're constantly worried about doing the wrong thing, upsetting someone, or messing up. Sound familiar? That's what we're diving into in this episode: why nice guys don't trust themselves — and how that lack of self-trust is sabotaging every relationship in their lives.

Chuck, Ari, and Faisal get real about their own struggles with self-doubt, people-pleasing, and that paralyzing fear of being wrong. Because here's the brutal truth: if you don't trust yourself, nobody else will either. Not your partner, not your kids, not your team.

We break down:

Why nice guys outsource their decisions and avoid conflict at all costs

How childhood programming taught us that being "good" is more important than being honest

The shame spiral that keeps men stuck in analysis paralysis

Why women can sense when you don't trust yourself (and why it's such a turn-off)

Practical steps to rebuild self-trust through consistency and accountability
How to stop looking for validation and start validating your own decisions
The power of leaning into tension instead of always taking the easy way out
This isn't just about making better decisions — it's about reclaiming your masculine core and becoming the kind of man who knows what he thinks, what he wants, and where he's going.

If you've been living someone else's blueprint instead of your own, this conversation will wake you up. Time to stop asking for permission and start trusting yourself.

Nice-Guys Are Afraid To Decide. How Your Indecision Is Costing You Everything

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 18 Aug 2025 08:47:53 -0700

You think you're being careful and thoughtful. She thinks you're weak and can't lead.

In this episode of The Nice Guy Show, Ari, Chuck, and Faisal expose how indecisiveness is secretly destroying your relationships and keeping you trapped in mediocrity. From Ari's embarrassing wedding speech where he called himself "the Obama of the relationship" (the deliberator), to Chuck's printer research marathons, to Faisal walking his hangry date around for an hour looking for the "perfect" restaurant.
Here's what you'll discover:

Why nice guys mistake overthinking for wisdom (and how it backfires)
The brutal truth about being "Captain Indecisive" in your marriage
How fear of making the wrong choice guarantees you'll make no choice at all

Why asking "what do you think?" kills attraction faster than anything else
The restaurant power move that separates leaders from followers
How successful people make decisions with incomplete information (and why you need 100%)

Why your "committee of mediocrity" is keeping you stuck
The bedroom decisiveness test most nice guys fail miserably
The wake-up call you need: While you're researching and deliberating, other men are taking action and getting results. Your indecisiveness isn't protecting you from failure - it IS the failure.
Ari shares how he burned the boats on his therapy practice to go all-in on coaching. Chuck reveals how his wife became the family decision-maker (and why that's a problem). Faisal breaks down why differentiated men decide quickly while enmeshed nice guys stay paralyzed.
Stop asking everyone else what you should do. Start trusting yourself enough to choose.

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Who Should Initiate Sex? She Doesn’t Initiate It

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 11 Aug 2025 07:00:00 -0700

Ari, Chuck, and Faisal dive deep into one of the biggest complaints they hear from men: "My wife never initiates sex anymore." Whether you're in a dead bedroom situation, feeling like you're always chasing, or wondering if you stopped initiating whether sex would happen at all… this conversation is going to open your eyes.

We get into:

Why "it's always the masculine's job to initiate" might actually be true
The difference between initiation and seduction (and why women do it differently)

How you've probably been approaching sex all wrong — like a "sexual camel" waiting for water

Why your wife isn't initiating (hint: it's not about her libido)
The real reason men crave initiation from women (it's not what you think)
How to rebuild attraction and polarity when the spark has died
Why being a "nice guy" who does the honey-do list isn't foreplay
The connection between sex appeal, effort, and actually being desirable
This one's for every man who's ever thought "Why am I always the one?" or "She used to want me all the time." Listen. Learn. Start showing up differently. Because the problem isn't that she doesn't want sex — it's that she doesn't want sex with the man you've become.
Time to change that.

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Paying for Dates Nice Guy Trap or Masculine Move. High-Value Men Do this.

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 04 Aug 2025 07:00:00 -0700

Ari went on three dates with an attractive, successful woman. He paid for the first two dates (including a $200 dinner), then asked her to pay for the third. She immediately went cold and ghosted him completely. Sound familiar? In this episode, we break down exactly what happened — what Ari did right, what went wrong, and the deeper dynamics at play when it comes to who pays for dates in 2025.

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari get real about:
The primal vs. conscious expectations around dating and money
Why "I like to be spoiled" in her profile was a red flag he missed
How paying for expensive early dates creates the wrong frame
The difference between leading with money vs. leading authentically
Why asking her to pay felt like a "test" — and what her reaction revealed
How to call out the "elephant in the room" when things get awkward
The covert contracts we create when we try to impress women with resources

Why high-value men assess women instead of trying to impress them
Setting the right expectations from date one (without being cheap)
Whether you're wondering if you should split the bill, tired of always paying, or confused about modern dating dynamics, this episode will help you get clear on your approach. We've all been there — now we help men navigate dating from a place of authenticity instead of desperation.
Stop trying to buy her interest. Start assessing if she's actually worth yours.

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Can't Last? Can't Satisfy Her? Ex-Porn Star Breaks Down What You're Doing Wrong

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Tue, 29 Jul 2025 10:36:07 -0700

Most guys never learned how to lead in the bedroom — or last long enough to even enjoy it.

In this episode of The Nice Guy Show, we’re talking about what really satisfies her… and it’s probably not what you think.

Former top adult film star Erik Everhard joins Ari, Chuck, and Faisal to break down the hidden causes of sexual performance anxiety — and why confidence in the bedroom starts in your mind, not in your pants.
Whether you’re single, dating, or married… this conversation will blow up some myths and give you real, actionable tools to become a more powerful, grounded, and present lover.

We get into:
Why most men are overly focused on her pleasure (and totally disconnected from their own)

The difference between psychological and physical erections (yes, there’s a difference — and you need both)

How “staying in your lane” is the key to overcoming comparison, self-doubt, and shame

The 4 sexual archetypes and how to lead with intention, not perform for approval

Why porn kills your confidence — and how to rebuild real sexual intelligence

The truth about dominance vs. leadership in bed

This episode is NOT about cheap tricks, pickup lines, or ego flexes.
It’s about training your nervous system. Building belief. Getting grounded. And becoming the kind of man who owns the moment — with calm, focused presence.
If you’ve ever struggled with performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, porn use, or just not feeling like the man in the bedroom… this is a must-listen.
You don’t need to be a porn star to have legendary sex.
You just need the right mindset, tools, and training.
Let’s go.

The Upside of Divorce - Is it the end — or could it be the beginning of something far better?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Tue, 29 Jul 2025 10:34:21 -0700

In this episode of The Nice Guy Show, Faisal, Chuck, and Ari flip the script on one of the most dreaded life events a man can face: divorce.
Is it the end — or could it be the beginning of something far better?

All three of us have been through it. And in this honest, hilarious, and deeply reflective conversation, we explore:
Why divorce might be the best gift your ex ever gave you

How breakup pain can wake you up — and grow you up

The upside of being alone (and why it's not something to fear)

Why many men become better fathers because of divorce

How setting boundaries, reclaiming leadership, and redefining love starts after the marriage ends

What most men get wrong about “compatibility” — and how to choose the right woman next time

Whether you're in the middle of a divorce, still stuck years after one, or afraid to pull the plug on a dying marriage — this one’s for you. Divorce doesn’t have to be the end of your story. It can be the catalyst for your comeback.

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The Keys To A Resilient Divorce - Shame and stigma that makes divorce feel like failure

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Tue, 29 Jul 2025 10:31:39 -0700

In this raw and honest episode, Faisal, Chuck, and Ari dive deep into the messy reality of divorce for Nice Guys. If you're going through a divorce or recently divorced, this conversation will hit you right in the gut — and then lift you back up.

We explore:

What it means to "Nice Guy your divorce" (and why we all do it)
The brutal truth about caretaking your ex while your world falls apart
Why you oscillate between "let me help you" and "screw you" during divorce
How fear of conflict keeps you trapped in financial and emotional quicksand

The shame and stigma that makes divorce feel like failure (when it's actually a gift)

Why jumping into rebound relationships is emotional suicide
The three pillars of becoming a Resilient Man: Reframe, Reclaim, Rebuild
How to use your divorce as a catalyst for the biggest growth of your life
Why learning to be alone is the secret to never being a Nice Guy again
Whether you're in the thick of divorce proceedings, recently single, or supporting a friend through this journey — this episode offers hope, practical wisdom, and a roadmap to your most powerful chapter yet.
Divorce isn't the end of your story. It's the beginning of who you were meant to become.

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https://instagram.com/chuckchapman.ma/

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Is It Time for Men to Man Up?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Tue, 29 Jul 2025 10:30:03 -0700

In this episode, Faisal, Chuck, and Ari tackle one of the most triggering phrases for modern men: “Man up.”

You’ve heard it. Maybe you’ve been shamed by it.
But what if — just maybe — it’s a wake-up call we actually need?

In this deep and vulnerable conversation, we explore:

- Why “man up” can feel like a slap — or a step forward
- The difference between boy energy and masculine leadership
- Why indecisiveness is killing connection in relationships
- How to be more than just a provider — and step into integrated manhood
- How trauma, ADHD, and personal stories shape (but don’t define) your masculinity
- Why owning your flaws might be the manliest move you ever make

Whether you’re a recovering Nice Guy, a man seeking more meaning,
or a woman trying to understand the men in her life — this one’s for you.

It’s time to redefine masculinity. Not by shame, but by truth, courage, and growth.

Like. Comment. Subscribe. And share this with the man who needs to hear it.

Listen now — your future self will thank you.
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She Left Without Warning: Walkaway Wife Syndrome Explained

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 30 Jun 2025 10:00:00 -0700

Most guys don’t even see it coming. One day everything seems fine, and the next… she’s done. Moved out. Checked out. Gone.
That’s what we’re talking about in this episode: Walkaway Wife Syndrome — the slow emotional exit a lot of women make while their husbands are completely asleep at the wheel.

Ari, Chuck, and Faisal all share what happened in their own marriages — how the signs were there, but got missed or ignored, and what they’ve learned since. Whether you're still in a relationship, going through a separation, or already divorced… this conversation is going to hit hard in a good way.

We get into:

- What Walkaway Wife Syndrome actually looks like (the 5 stages)

- Why her stopping complaints might be the worst sign of all

- How men try to fix things way too late — with desperate “I'll go to therapy!” energy

- The real impact of avoiding conflict, missing cues, and being a "fixer"

- How to actually take ownership and rebuild trust (if it’s not too late)

- And yeah… the kind of man you need to become next, whether it’s for her or the next relationship

This one’s for every man who's ever said “I had no idea she was that unhappy.”

Listen. Reflect. Do better.
We’ve been there — now we coach men so they don’t repeat our mistakes.

Why Every Man Needs a Retreat

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Tue, 24 Jun 2025 10:50:34 -0700

What happens when men unplug, step away from their routines, and connect deeply—with themselves and each other?

In this episode of The Nice Guy Show, Chuck Chapman, Faisal Khokhar, and Ari Gronich dive into the transformative power of men’s retreats. From adventures in the Mojave Desert to solo days in state parks, we explore why retreats are more than just time away—they're essential pit stops for growth, connection, and refueling the soul.

🔹 Why men struggle to invest in themselves
🔹 The surprising benefits of solitude and brotherhood
🔹 Real stories of life-changing moments from retreats
🔹 How retreats can help you build confidence, courage, and connection
🔹 And yes—what to do when someone keeps giving you socks 😅

If you're a man who's been stuck, isolated, or too busy caring for others to care for yourself, this one's for you.

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How Charismatic Men Handle Women Who Make It Hard To Set A Date

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Tue, 24 Jun 2025 10:46:05 -0700

NGS 105 – How Charismatic Men Handle Women Who Make It Hard to Set a Date 🔥

Ever found yourself trying to set up a simple date… and suddenly it turns into a negotiation or a rejection minefield? In this episode of The Nice Guy Show, Faisal, Chuck, and Ari break down how charismatic, high-value men navigate situations where women make it difficult to lock in plans.

✅ Discover why some women resist setting a date
✅ Learn how to lead with confidence—without being controlling
✅ Hear real stories from our own lives and coaching sessions
✅ Understand the difference between being accommodating vs. being a doormat
✅ Get practical scripts and mindset tips to hold your frame like a true high-value man

Whether you're new to dating or tired of the “back-and-forth” game, this episode shows you how to handle flakey behavior with calm, clarity, and charisma.

📺 Watch now and start dating like a charismatic man, not an average one.

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Episode 021: 6 Reasons Why Nice Guys Suck at Dating

A Men's Coach Gets Friendzoned: How to Handle It & Avoid It Next Time

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 09 Jun 2025 07:00:00 -0700

It happened again! Ari got friend-zoned, and he's bringing his dating dilemma to the Nice Guy Show for a raw, real, and incredibly helpful discussion for all men. In this episode, we dive deep into the painful experience of being friend-zoned and, more importantly, how to avoid it and ignite genuine attraction.

What you'll learn in this episode:

💔 The Friend Zone Revealed: Understand why the friend zone happens, and why it's a common experience for many men.

📝 Post-Date Assessment: Faisal shares his exclusive post-date checklist to analyze what went wrong and how to improve for next time.

🚫 The "Average Man Response" Trap: Discover how common dating behaviors can unintentionally land you in the friend zone. Learn how to avoid predictable responses and create genuine intrigue.

🔥 The Power of Masculine Restraint: Learn why holding back sexually and creating tension can be incredibly attractive to women.

🗣️ The Importance of "Telling" (Masculine Language): Understand how decisive communication and leadership on a date can evoke erotic emotions subconsciously in a woman.

💪 Why Experience Matters: Faisal emphasizes the crucial role of consistent interaction and dating experience to build confidence and reduce sensitivity to rejection.

🔄 Breaking the "One-itis" Cycle: Chuck explains how fixating on one woman can lead to disappointment and why having multiple dating prospects is a healthier approach.
🚑 Resuscitating the Friend Zone: Explore strategies for turning a friend-zone situation around, including specific text message approaches.

🤔 Is Asking for Feedback a Good Idea?: We discuss the pros and cons of asking women for feedback after a rejection.

This episode is packed with actionable advice for men seeking to improve their dating skills, build attraction, and avoid the dreaded friend zone. Whether you're single or married, the principles of creating tension, showing leadership, and continually working on your "dating muscles" are essential for a fulfilling romantic life.

Don't forget to:

👍 Like this video if you found it helpful!
✅ Subscribe to our channel for more real talk on dating and relationships.
📺 Check out our episode on "When Women Flake" for a companion to this topic.

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The Secrets of Confident Husbands

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Thu, 05 Jun 2025 15:00:00 -0700

In this episode of The Nice Guy Show, hosts Chuck Chapman, Faisal Khokhar, and Ari Graff dive deep into what it means to be a confident husband and how to achieve an integrated marriage. Chuck Chapman, the focus of this episode, shares insights into his "Confident Husband Solution" program, designed to help men navigate the complexities of marriage and overcome the Nice Guy Syndrome.

Chuck discusses the evolution of his program, explaining how he identified a need to specifically support married men struggling with their relationships, often due to their "nice guy" tendencies. He introduces his unique concept of the "stages of marriage" and how understanding these stages can help prevent common pitfalls, including divorce.

Learn about:
🔷 The Stages of Marriage: Chuck outlines five critical stages of a marriage: the romantic stage (years 0-2), the differentiation stage (years 3-7), the partnership stage (years 7-20), the reinvention stage (years 20-30), and the legacy stage (year 30 onwards). Understanding these stages can help couples navigate challenges and grow together.
🔷 The Purpose of Marriage: Chuck emphasizes that the singular purpose of marriage, much like a business's purpose to make money, is to create connection.
🔷 Prioritizing the Marital Relationship: Discover why making the husband-wife relationship the priority, even over parenting, is crucial for the overall well-being of the family and how a lack of connection can lead to marital issues.
🔷 The PPPs of a Confident Husband: Chuck introduces the three core components of his training: Polarity, Presence, and Purpose. These elements are vital for building and sustaining a strong, connected marriage.
🔷 The Role of Leadership: Chuck stresses the importance of men leading in their marriages, initiating connection, and fostering trust with their wives.
🔷 Group Coaching vs. Individual Therapy: Understand why Chuck believes group coaching is particularly effective for men dealing with marital challenges, offering a supportive community and a space for growth and accountability.
🔷 Addressing the "Dead Bedroom": Chuck addresses the common issue of a "dead bedroom" and explains how restoring emotional connection and trust is key to reigniting sexual intimacy in a marriage.

Join Chuck, Faisal, and Ari as they uncover the secrets to a confident and fulfilling marriage.
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Nice Guys Unleashed: Real Talk from Cancun - What We Learned from Dr. Glover's NCON 25!

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 04 Jun 2025 15:27:46 -0700

Summary
In this episode of the Nice Guy Show, hosts Chuck Chapman, Faisal Coker, and Ari Graf reflect on their recent experiences at a men's conference in Cancun, Mexico. They discuss the importance of in-person connections, the courage displayed by participants, and the nuances of leadership. The conversation highlights the journey of personal growth, the significance of experiential learning, and the transformations that occur when men engage authentically with one another. They also touch on the importance of presentation and connection in relationships, and the value of being immersed in a supportive environment for growth.

Why Are Women Hard To Please? With Samantha Berke #101

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 19 May 2025 04:00:00 -0700

Our 100th Episode! #100

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 12 May 2025 03:44:00 -0700

We celebrate our 100th Episode!

Is Love Toxic? #99

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 05 May 2025 03:43:00 -0700

Is love toxic? For Nice Guys, understanding love can be a struggle.

Escaping the Nice Guy Trap: Ending Relationships in a Healthy Way #98

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 28 Apr 2025 03:00:00 -0700

You’ve done the work—you’ve read the books, gone to therapy, embraced your own growth, and finally stepped out of that old Nice Guy pattern. You’re more confident, more assertive, and you’ve started living with purpose and integrity. But here’s the thing: even though you’ve changed, she hasn’t. The relationship still feels like it’s stuck in the same cycle, the same dead end.

For Nice Guys, this is the hardest part

Never Date A Woman If She Does This: It’s A Major Red Flag EP #97

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 21 Apr 2025 03:00:00 -0700

There is one major red flag many of us ignore at the initial stages because it's the norm. Everyone does it, but those who do it all the time and do it with intensity are dangerous and you MUST in all circusmtances not take them. Never! Because if you do, they will eventually make your life a living hell and even ruin your professional world.

What's Wrong With Pickup Artists? #96

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 14 Apr 2025 03:00:00 -0700

If you've been around the Manosphere, there's no doubt you've heard of the term pickup artist. These are gurus who will tell you how to pick up women like you're picking up samples at Costco. But there's a few problems with this. And today I want to talk about the pickup artist industry and why nice guys tend to follow their advice and maybe a little bit of like, what's wrong with this?

Never Start A Sentence With This: Makes You Look Weak and Low-Value # 95

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 07 Apr 2025 03:00:00 -0700

Never ever, ever start a sentence with this word. It’s all too commonly used by nice guys and it makes you look weak, you lose respect and it’s very uncharismatic.

You’re Doing Sex Wrong #94

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 31 Mar 2025 03:00:00 -0700

We are given so many conflicting ideas about how to do sex or have sex. You’ve got to be dominant and lead. You’ve got to make sure you talk about and get consent for everything you do. You gotta make sure you please your partner. You gotta focus on pleasing yourself. You’ve gotta schedule sex. You’ve gotta be spontaneous. You should tap into your fantasies. You shouldn’t be so lost in fantasy. You should be focused solely on your partner and not think about other people. You should have sex a lot if you’re healthy. You shouldn’t be so focused on having sex all the time. You should only have sex in the context of a loving monogamous relationship. You should be free to have more than one partner. It goes on and on. How can we ever feel like we’re doing sex right?

Ari's Struggles #93

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 24 Mar 2025 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode of the Nice Guys Show, host Ari Graff opens up about his personal struggles as a life coach. He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and seeking support, highlighting that even coaches face difficulties and uncertainties. The conversation delves into the emotional toll of change, the burden of expectations, and the need for connection and understanding among men.

Faisal's Struggles #92

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 17 Mar 2025 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode of the Nice Guys Show, host Faisal Khokhar opens up about his personal struggles as a life coach, particularly focusing on the challenges of parenting and navigating a business transition. He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and seeking support, highlighting that even coaches face difficulties and uncertainties. The conversation delves into the emotional toll of change, the burden of expectations, and the need for connection and understanding among men.

Chuck's Struggles #91

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 10 Mar 2025 03:00:00 -0700

In this episode of the Nice Guys Show, host Chuck Chapman opens up about his personal struggles as a life coach, particularly focusing on the challenges of parenting and navigating a business transition. He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and seeking support, highlighting that even coaches face difficulties and uncertainties. The conversation delves into the emotional toll of change, the burden of expectations, and the need for connection and understanding among men.

Grow the F*ck Up! The Nice Guy Syndrome is a Sign of an Immature Man #90

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 03 Mar 2025 03:00:00 -0800

Nice Guys aren’t being nice—they're being manipulative, using approval-seeking and people-pleasing as a way to control how women see them, all because they’re too afraid to be rejected for who they really are.

When it comes to women and men, I’ve come to the realization that it’s insecurity that drives us to seek approval from women. It’s subtle, often invisible, but it’s there—this craving for validation, for someone to tell us we’re enough. But here’s the thing: no matter how much approval we chase, it’s never going to fill the gap. It’s a hollow pursuit.

Real maturity, real grounding, happens when we let go of that need, when we realize that our worth isn’t something that can be handed to us by someone else. It’s already inside, waiting to be claimed.

The moment a man stops seeking validation from women, he becomes a mature integrated man.

Caught Between Mother and Wife: How the Nice Guy Can Handle Family Conflict #89

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 24 Feb 2025 03:00:00 -0800

Got a guy with a situation involving his mother and wife.

He’s newly married, and they all live together—him, his wife, and his mother.

It all started well. Everyone got along, and they were one happy family.

But after a few months, fractures start to appear.

The mother starts interfering, picking faults with his wife, and that’s when the tension starts building.

Now, this guy’s caught in the middle.

He’s trying to please his mum and his wife, but no matter what he does, things just keep getting worse.

Now they can’t stand each other anymore and they’ve both turned on him to man up.

Both of them are using guilt and shame to manipulate him.

His mum says, ‘Your wife’s taking you for a ride,’ while his wife says, ‘You never stand up to your mum.’ So no matter what, he can’t win.

What Nice Guys Must Have In Their Morning Routine EP #88

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 17 Feb 2025 03:00:00 -0800

What is the first thing you do when you wake up? Do you hit the snooze bar? Do you hate the world, hate your life, hate your job? Do you feel like the day is another day to get through? Do you scroll through instagram? Do you rush to get ready? Do you struggle with what to prioritize that day? Well good news, today we are going to explain what you must have in your morning routine to change your life.

The Dark Side Of Masculine & Feminine Energy That Enables Toxic Relationship Patterns EP #87

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 10 Feb 2025 03:00:00 -0800

If you’ve been into relationship development, you would have heard about Masculine & Feminine Energies and how important they are to relationships.

Men are grounded, stable, like a lighthouse. The feminine is ever-changing emotions and she is the storm.

Men need to weather the storm.

Really?

Now, I don’t know about you, but this statement or something like this keeps men in harmful relationships

In this episode, let’s look

The Dark Side Of Masculine & Feminine Energy That Enables Toxic Relationship Patterns

How Much Can You Fix Your Woman? EP #86

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 03 Feb 2025 03:00:00 -0800

Have you ever wanted to get your partner to be nicer? To help out more around the house? To get in shape and lose weight? To like sex or even like sex with you? To like your parents? To earn some money? How much can you get your partner to change?

Lead, You Spineless Chicken. Lead! - EP #85

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 27 Jan 2025 03:00:00 -0800

If you want to create polarity, attraction, and connection in a relationship, it’s up to you to lead. I know, it’s not fair!

A lot of the men I work with ask, "What about her? When is it her turn to lead?" And women often say, "I want to lead too."

Why is this?

Nice Guys tend to avoid leading in their relationships because they fear rejection or upsetting their partners. So they hand over the reins.

But here’s the thing. When a man won’t lead, the woman feels she can’t trust him. She starts to resent him. At first, she might appreciate his attentiveness, but soon enough, she sees him as having no backbone, making no decisions, always leaving the pressure to her.

It’s not about control. It’s about presence. Strength. The courage to lead with love. And when you do, you’ll find that the connection, the attraction, the polarity you crave, it all falls into place.

What Happened When I Quit Women For 9 Months EP #84

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 20 Jan 2025 04:00:00 -0800

Have you ever felt so stuck on getting women to meet your needs that it occupied nearly every free moment? Well that was me a couple years ago. I was a few years out from my divorce. When I wasn’t working or parenting, I was thinking about dating or sex. I felt a chronic hunger for women that had been there since forever. So I decided it was time to get off that hamster wheel. I hit the ultimate reset button, the nuclear option, I quit women for 9 months!

The Time I Lied About Having My Car Stolen So I Could Hook Up With A Chick - EP #83

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 13 Jan 2025 04:00:00 -0800

Before I even knew what a Nice Guy was in terms of the Nice Guy syndrome, I thought of myself as just that—a Nice Guy. And I truly believed I was. When I first read *No More Mr. Nice Guy* about 15 years ago, it was like looking into a mirror. Every page felt like it was written about me. But there was one thing in that book that hit me hard, like a punch to the gut: as a Nice Guy, I was actually really manipulative.

I had these covert contracts, these unspoken deals where I’d give just to get. I’d pretend to be whatever someone wanted me to be, but in reality, I was just trying to get my needs met. My life was a lie. I was packaging nice as a way of manipulating others. My kind and accommodating nature was often a cover for a hidden agenda—to get what I wanted without feeling shameful or risking rejection or making someone mad at me.

The Cure For Your Small Thinking EP #82

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 06 Jan 2025 04:00:00 -0800

Do you think small? Do you poo poo any big idea you have as far fetched? Do you feel like big ideas and big things are for other people? Is it hopeless or is there a cure for thinking small?

What's The Female Equivalent Of The Nice-Guy Syndrome? EP #81

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 30 Dec 2024 04:00:00 -0800

So you’ve heard of the nice-guy syndrome and why nice-guys finish last.

So what’s the female equivalent nice-guy syndrome and is she as nasty and manipulating as nice-guys or is she a helpless damsel in distress?

Let’s find out…

Fear Keeps Nice Guys From Getting The Life They Want - EP #80

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 23 Dec 2024 04:00:00 -0800

Fear. If there is one thing that holds Nice Guys back from getting the life they want it’s fear. Fear is the filter every decision is made or not made because Nice Guys anticipate and imagine failure, rationalize being comfortable and avoid pressure and tension. They are scared fo being exposed as frauds, not meeting expectations and losing control. It is the number one thing that every Nice Guy needs to learn to manage or they will always come in last place.

Why Nice-Guys Are Not Respected By Women, Kids & Other Men - EP#79

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 16 Dec 2024 04:00:00 -0800

Do you find that women don’t respect you?

Or maybe if you have kids, they fail to speak in a respectful way?

Maybe your colleagues at work, your customers, or even your friends don’t treat you with the respect you deserve.

In this podcast, we will explore why women, children, and even men don’t respect nice guys.

Did Feminism Make Me A Nice Guy? EP #78

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 09 Dec 2024 04:00:00 -0800

In No More Mr. Nice Guy, Robert Glover talks about how some radical feminists claimed that men were the cause of all of the problems in the world. Or that men were merely an unnecessary nuisance. This contributed to a climate that convinced many men that it was not OK to be just who they were.

Body Count: Jealous over her past - EP #77

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 02 Dec 2024 04:00:00 -0800

Let’s say you’re dating someone or in a relationship, and the infamous topic of body count comes up. What’s the magic number that would make you question if you should stay with her? Does body count really matter when you're in a relationship? How do you get over your partner's past, especially if her count is higher than yours? Should you even bother talking about body count at all?

These are some of the juicy questions I want to dive into today. Let's be real, folks. We're not living in a Disney fairytale where everyone is a chaste prince or princess waiting for "the one." People have pasts, and sometimes those pasts can include some pretty steamy and provocative things.

Why Nice Guys Attract Borderline Women EP #76

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 25 Nov 2024 04:00:00 -0800

Have you ever fallen for a woman you knew was bad for you? You know something is off but the combination of hotness, excitement, and possibility of a love connection keep you hooked.

Commitment Crisis: Why Men Are Avoiding Relationships And Staying Single #75

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 18 Nov 2024 04:00:00 -0800

In this podcast, we’re going to look at the crisis behind why so many men are struggling to get into relationships?

Are men the problem? Or maybe women are the reason why men are single or is it society or maybe dating apps?

Who’s fault is it and can we rescue relationships? Should we rescue relationships and you are probably thinking, what’s wrong with being single?

Are Nice Guys Narcissists Too? #74

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 11 Nov 2024 04:00:00 -0800

Back in January, my son and I were testing for our next tae kwon do belt. I had just started tae kwon do 2 months earlier after quitting 30 years ago, so I was excited to do it with my son. Long story short, my ex, who had picked him up from school, texted me and said he didn’t want to go to my testing because he was tired and had a long day. I was incensed by this. I told her she wasn’t teaching him the right thing about how to support a family member, that we were making memories together. I insisted that he come with me. She said she was surprised how selfish and narcissistic I was being. She later said to me, do you know how much he is in engaged in tae kwon do to make you happy?

Attract More Hot Women: Set Boundaries- EP #73

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 04 Nov 2024 04:00:00 -0800

If you’re anything like I was early in my Nice Guy recovery, you have a hard time setting boundaries. Especially with women. We tend to let a pretty woman walk all over us, afraid if we set boundaries she will walk away.

Over the years, working with hundreds of Nice Guys, I’ve noticed they struggle with boundaries too. I used to think boundaries were negative, that they made you rigid, and that people with boundaries were just selfish.

Then one day, I heard Dr. Glover say, “Boundaries are an act of love.” This threw me because I couldn’t see how love could be rigid. But he explained that boundaries show others what you will accept and what you won’t. Without boundaries, there’s no love, especially for yourself. And if you can’t respect yourself enough to have limits, how can you truly love others?

TRUTH: Is Being Vulnerable Unattractive To Women? #72

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 28 Oct 2024 04:00:00 -0700

In this podcast, we’re going to explore Is Being Vulnerable Unattractive To Women?

Now, there are a lot of messages fed to men that being vulnerable is key in relationships, but this is also confusing as some men as they report that when they are vulnerable, she pull away, look disgusted or become upset.

So, should you be vulnerable in a relationship or not? If not, then why not? If yes, how can men be vulnerable without killing attraction?

Are Nice Guys on the Autism Spectrum? EP #71

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 21 Oct 2024 03:00:00 -0700

Why do so many men struggle with social skills? Why do so many men struggle to understand women? Why are so many men isolated and lonely? Why are so many men hypersensitive? These questions come up regularly with nice guys I work with. Some then ask me, does this mean I’m on the autism spectrum? Am I just wired this way?

Will A Woman Date Me Because I Have Kids? Dads Starting Over #70

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 14 Oct 2024 03:00:00 -0700

In this podcast, you will learn how you can still date successfully even if you have kids. I will share my experience, mid 40s I date women in their early 30s and how they treated me and my kids.

The Nice Guys Mythology That Keeps You Stuck EP #69

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 07 Oct 2024 03:00:00 -0700

In today's episode, we'll explore the self-limiting beliefs that Nice Guys carry, beliefs that keep them stuck in life. We'll uncover the origins of these beliefs, how they take hold, and most importantly, how we can break free from them. We'll delve into the steps to transform these beliefs, empowering you to live with integrity, confidence, and passion.

You’re a bitch; Just kidding EP #68

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 30 Sep 2024 04:00:00 -0700

Ever found yourself saying, 'Of course I'll take care of the dishes,' to your spouse, only to conveniently 'forget' later? Or maybe you’ve caught yourself saying, 'Sure babe, I’d be happy to weed the entire yard while you go take a bath! Whatever you want,' then ruminating and secretly planning their demise in a revenge fantasy straight out of the Show Dexter?

Welcome to the realm of passive aggression, where 'Nice Guys' have turned being incredibly agreeable into an art form—while seething like a pressure cooker on the inside. It's like being the world's most polite volcano—on the surface, we’re all “sure, you bet, anytime” smiling and being calm, but beneath, there's a molten core of frustration just waiting to blow."

Beware the Zombie Relationship EP #67

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 23 Sep 2024 04:00:00 -0700

Have you ever seen two people in a relationship that you know is dead but somehow they didn’t get the memo? You probably know on a gut level what I’m talking about - you see two people who do nothing but argue, complain about each other, or completely ignore each other.

I believe that a relationship is a living thing with its own life force that can die. The two partners may still be officially a couple and they may still be attached to each other but the love and care and energy have evaporated. Yet the thing just keeps going, staggering around from day to day, draining those who come in contact with it. This is what I call the nightmare scenario: a zombie relationship. How do you know if you’re in a zombie relationship and how do you prevent it?

How To Be More Social & Create A Social Circle: Guide For Nice-Guys EP #66

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 16 Sep 2024 04:00:00 -0700

In this podcast, you will discover How To Be More Social & Create a Social Circle even if you are shy, an introvert or an nerd… and

If you find yourself spending too much time isolated
working from home and
don’t have many guy friends to hang out with
nothing to do over the weekend and feel LONELY a lot
this podcast is for you.

And for the guys who get into a relationship and start neglecting their guy mates and their hobbies and know you want know how to make friends and where to go to make friends.

Playing with Fire: Should Your Partner Really Have Friends of the Opposite Sex?" EP #65

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 09 Sep 2024 04:00:00 -0700

Today we’re going to delve into a polarizing topic. No, not which direction should the toilet paper hang. Not does pineapple belong on pizza. I’m talking about friends of the opposite sex if you’re in a committed relationship. Gasp! What do you do if you’re in a relationship and she has a lot of male friends? Are you okay with that? Or are you just insecure if you don’t want her to have these types of relationships? Is it okay that you have friendships with members of the opposite sex if you’re in a committed relationship?

Is The Nice Guy Syndrome Curable? EP #64

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 02 Sep 2024 04:00:00 -0700

A lot of men want to know, will I be a nice guy forever? The conventional wisdom in nice guy coaching is that you will always be recovering from vestiges of the syndrome, that you are always susceptible to falling back into nice guy patterns. But can some or all nice guy patterns be fully resolved or eliminated? Just how much can someone change?

Men Don't Listen & Women Don't Hear EP #63

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 26 Aug 2024 02:00:00 -0700

Have you ever had a woman say to you:

You are not listening to me.
You are not empathic.
You don’t get it or understand me.

Wait a minute, what about you guys?

Let’s hear it for the men.

Do you find women listen to you?

Do you feel understood and respected?

Well, let’s find out if only men are bad listeners. In my book, that may not always be the case.

Why You Won’t Be Successful Without A Men’s Group EP #62

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 19 Aug 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Why are men’s groups so critical for a man? When I started my journey of becoming a conscious man, I did it through books and 1 on 1 coaching. And I made a lot of progress. I learned more about how to lead in my relationships, set boundaries, and get out of my comfort zone. But I didn’t realize that I had actually hit a wall in my growth. If you want to understand what this wall is, then keep listening.

Why Women Nag & How To Stop It EP #61

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 12 Aug 2024 04:00:00 -0700

Have you ever had a woman who’s constantly nagged, complained about you all the time and criticized everything you did, and no matter what you did, it never resolved the complains.

Then this podcast is for you and I we will share why women complain and what you can do to stop the complaining.

No More Mr. Nice Guy: Guide To Dealing With Cheating With Dr. Glover EP #60

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 05 Aug 2024 04:00:00 -0700

Welcome to the Nice Guy Show. With Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff and Chuck Chapman.

The three of us are coaches dedicated to helping nice guys because we are recovering nice guys ourselves. Together, we have decades of experience helping men level up. Our mission is to help men develop the confidence and the skills to get the love, sex, and success they desire. Today's guest is Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, who discusses cheating.

What It’s Like When She Leaves EP #59

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 29 Jul 2024 01:00:00 -0700

An anxiety I’ve often had in the past when it came to my relationships was that my partner might leave me. This only contributed to my Nice Guy Behavior in, well just about every area of the relationship. This fear that “she may leave you” is fuel to the Nice Guy Syndrome.

I’ve seen this pattern over and over again with the men that I work with in my coaching Nice Guys who are trying to recover and become integrated men. It seems that this fear is so deeply entrenched that it’s almost written into the Nice Guys DNA. That’s because it is.

Why Women Love Bad Boys & Hate Nice-Guys EP #58

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 22 Jul 2024 02:00:00 -0700

What is it about bad boys women can’t get enough of?

Why do women keep going back to bad boys they know they are trouble?

What type of men are they?

What type of women bad boys?

Why do nice-guys finish last?

Do nice-guys need to become bad boys?

Are Nice Guys Commitment Phobes? EP #57

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 15 Jul 2024 01:00:00 -0700

There is one stereotype about the nice guy that he is needy and clingy and stays in a bad relationship no matter what. And yes, I’ve been guilty of that. But what about the nice guy that can’t commit? Can’t commit to a woman or a job or a hobby or even meeting your friend for dinner?

The Time I Was Slapped In The Face With A Sacred Dick EP #56

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 08 Jul 2024 02:00:00 -0700

Recently I was complaining to my personal men’s group about being tired, about being disappointed in the ambivalence in some of the men I work with and men in general aren’t interested in self-development, and just uninterested in anything other than sex, sports and video games. I’ve been doing men’s work for almost 20 years both as a participant and a leader. Quite frankly, I was tired, burnt out, and not seeing the fruits of my labor, at least in my expectations. I was contemplating giving it all up and retiring to become an artist.

One of my brothers brought out what we refer to in our group as the sacred dick and slapped me in the face with it.

How To Be More Optimistic and Less Pessimistic Nice Guy EP #55

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 01 Jul 2024 02:00:00 -0700

Are you hard on yourself and others?

Do you tend to criticize and judge harshly?

Do you always see life as half empty instead of half full?

Is ADHD Part of My Nice Guy Syndrome? EP #54

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 24 Jun 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Are you a nice guy who has been diagnosed with ADHD? Or do you suspect you have ADHD? Why does it seem like every man with nice guy syndrome has ADHD too? In this episode we are going to break down just what is happening here and what are the differences between ADHD and nice guy syndrome.

Where To Meet Attractive Women If You Are Shy And Without Coming Across Creepy EP #53

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 17 Jun 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Want to know the best and easiest places to meet attractive great women without dating apps or loitering around nights club? And especially if you are shy.

Stick around for this episode Where To Meet Attractive Women If You Are Shy And Without Coming Across Creepy EP and I will reveal where you’ll find abundance of single women and hardly any competition, and you can do all of this wihtout breaking your bank or coming across creepy.

The Feminine Freakout! How To Bring Calm To Your Partner EP #52

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 10 Jun 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Can you relate to this; you’re going along in your relationship, everything is fine and then you say something, something pretty innocent and maybe even a little funny. To you at least. And then suddenly like a dormant volcano erupting she explodes. Expletives are flying, accusations are being hurled and you find yourself like a deer caught in headlights doing D.E.E.R

Episode 51 -How To Be Dumped Without Falling Apart

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 03 Jun 2024 04:00:00 -0700

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari share their insights on handling breakups like a man. They discuss practical tips and strategies for navigating the end of a relationship with resilience and self-respect, helping Nice Guys keep their cool even when faced with heartbreak.

Episode 50 - Why Raising Your Standards Makes Nice Guys Attractive To Women and Money

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 27 May 2024 04:00:00 -0700

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari explore the concept of raising your standards and how it can make Nice Guys more appealing to women and boost their financial success. They discuss the transformative power of self-respect and setting higher expectations in various aspects of life

Episode 49 - She's Pissed! Defending Against Her Ambush

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 20 May 2024 04:00:00 -0700

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari dish out advice on how the Nice Guy can navigate those moments when his woman is feeling ticked off. They share tips and insights for handling conflict in relationships.

Episode 48 - How To Deal With Her Flakiness

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 13 May 2024 03:43:00 -0700

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari tackle the issue of dealing with a woman's flakiness, offering insights and strategies for Nice Guys navigating unpredictable behavior in their relationships.

Episode 47 - How To Attract Women Like A Gentleman

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 06 May 2024 07:00:00 -0700

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari discuss why the Nice Guy often finds it challenging to attract women

Episode 46 - WTF Is Your Why?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 29 Apr 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari get real about the importance of discovering and owning your 'why'. They explore how understanding your purpose can fuel personal growth and lead to a more fulfilling life.

Episode 45 - Does Penis Size Matter?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 22 Apr 2024 01:00:00 -0700

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari break it down: they discuss how penis size truly isn't that big of a deal when it comes to women.

Episode 44 - 3 Things Men Get Horribly Wrong When Seducing Women

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 15 Apr 2024 03:00:00 -0700

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari discuss how Nice Guys often struggle when it comes to the art of seduction, exploring the reasons behind their lame performance in this area.

Episode 43 - It's True. You Are Lazy.

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 08 Apr 2024 06:00:00 -0700

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari discuss how Nice Guys often fall short due to their tendency to slack off and play it easy, holding themselves back from reaching their full potential.

Episode 42 - Men Who Send Dick Pics Don't Understand Women

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 01 Apr 2024 11:00:00 -0700

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari talk about dudes who fire off dick pics, why it doesn't turn women on (and how they truly DON'T understand women!)

Episode 41 - Nice Guys Lack Integrity

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 25 Mar 2024 14:00:00 -0700

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari discuss why the Nice Guy often lacks integrity, defining what integrity truly means. They also provide insights from Chuck's latest book, "Find Your Way Without Losing Yourself: The Path To Integrity

Episode 40 - Why You Must Get Rid of Porn

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 18 Mar 2024 18:00:00 -0700

Porn addiction is a reflection of Nice Guy shame. Chuck, Faisal, and Ari show how porn is doing more damage than you might think.

Episode 39 - Why Your Woman Is Not Your Best Friend

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 11 Mar 2024 18:00:00 -0700

The Nice Guy's world revolves around his woman. Chuck, Faisal and Ari show why it is essential to have good male friends and how making your partner your best friend kills attraction.

Episode 38 - Stop Playing The Victim

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 04 Mar 2024 03:00:00 -0800

In this conversation, Ari, Faisal, and Chuck discuss the concept of victim mode and its impact on personal growth and relationships. They share personal experiences and explore the reasons why people fall into victim mode. The conversation highlights the role of self-awareness and language in recognizing and overcoming victim mode. The speakers also emphasize the importance of balancing challenge and self-compassion in the process. They conclude by differentiating between addressing trauma and engaging in victim mode.

Episode 37 - The Opposite of The Nice Guy

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 26 Feb 2024 02:00:00 -0800

The conversation explores the concept of the integrated man as the opposite of a nice guy. It delves into the tendency of nice guys to overcorrect and swing from passivity to anger and aggression. The importance of tempering rage and finding balance is discussed, along with the role of shame and the need to integrate the shadow side. The conversation also highlights the significance of resetting the nervous system and developing emotional skills. The attributes of an integrated man are outlined as a guide for personal growth and self-acceptance.

Episode 36 - Why A Relationship Won’t Make You Happy

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 19 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0800

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari dissect why the Nice Guy needs more than just a relationship for fulfillment in life.

Episode 35 - It’s Your Fault That Your Relationship Sucks

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 12 Feb 2024 01:00:00 -0800

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari lay it out plain and simple: when it comes to the Nice Guy's relationships, if it's bad, it's on him. They drive home the message that it's time to stop blaming others and start taking responsibility for the kind of relationship you want.

Learn more at niceguyshow.com

Episode 34 - Dress Like A Man, Not Like A Child

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 05 Feb 2024 02:00:00 -0800

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari discuss the significance of dressing well for the Nice Guy. They discuss how personal appearance can be pivotal in garnering attention and commanding attraction.

Episode 33 - Self Help Junkies

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 29 Jan 2024 13:00:00 -0800

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari discuss the Nice Guy's inclination towards self-help consumption, emphasizing the crucial step of translating knowledge into action.

Episode 32 - The Spoiled-Brat Reflex (SBR) in Relationships: Are You Guilty?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 22 Jan 2024 02:00:00 -0800

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari delve into the Nice Guy's tendency to get easily hurt and introduce the concept of the Spoiled Brat Reflex (SBR). They explore how this reflex affects relationships and offer insights on managing emotional reactions more effectively.

Episode 31 - Get Your Balls Back: Cultivating Courage

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 15 Jan 2024 04:00:00 -0800

Have you ever had a woman tell you to grow some balls?

Maybe your boss takes advantage of you.

Maybe you let your kids run the house.

Maybe you still go to your mommy for approval of your decisions.

Maybe you let your woman step all over you.

These are some of the most cutting, painful things you can say to a man. You’re weak. You’re a coward. You need to man up.

Episode 30 - Are Nice Guys Cheap A/F?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 08 Jan 2024 04:00:00 -0800

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari address the common trait of frugality or being 'cheap AF' in Nice Guys, and they explore the underlying reasons behind this behavior.

Episode 29 - Evolving Beyond The Nice-Guy: The High-Value Man

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 01 Jan 2024 04:00:00 -0800

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari delve into the transformation of the Nice Guy into a high-value man. They discuss the essential steps and mindset shifts required to evolve beyond Nice-Guy tendencies and cultivate a more confident and fulfilling life.

Episode 28 - She's Mad At Me Again: How to Get Yourself Out of the Doghouse

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 18 Dec 2023 04:00:00 -0800

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari tackle the Nice Guy's tendency to walk on eggshells in relationships. They share practical strategies and advice on how to break free from this pattern

Episode 27 - Too Bad To Stay, Too Good To Go

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Fri, 15 Dec 2023 13:00:00 -0800

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari engage in a thought-provoking conversation about the Nice Guy's predicament, often caught in the 'too good to leave, too bad to stay' dilemma in their relationships.

Episode 26 - Taking Women Off The Pedestal - The Real Truth Abut Female Worship

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 04 Dec 2023 04:00:00 -0800

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari explore the concept of Nice Guys and the transformative process of taking women off the pedestal, shedding light on how this shift in perspective can lead to more balanced and authentic relationships.

Episode 25 - Does Therapy Fail Nice Guys?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 29 Nov 2023 04:00:00 -0800

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari engage in a candid conversation about their own journey with therapy, delving into both the advantages and potential challenges that arise along the path to personal growth and self-discovery

Learn more at NiceGuyShow.com

Episode 24 - The Unattractive Truth About Men With Mommy Issues

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 22 Nov 2023 04:00:00 -0800

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari explore the intricate connection between the Nice Guy, their relationships with their mothers, and how this pops up in dating and relationships in some unattractive ways .

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Episode 23 - The Truth About Nice Guys And Their Daddy Issues

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 15 Nov 2023 04:00:00 -0800

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari engage in a deep discussion about the Nice Guy's relationship with their fathers; exploring how early experiences can impact their approach to relationships and personal development.

Learn more at NiceGuyShow.com

Episode 22 - 6 Reasons Nice Guys Suck At Dating - Part Two

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 08 Nov 2023 04:00:00 -0800

Join Chuck, Faisal, and Ari as they dive into part two of their discussion on why Nice Guys often struggle in the dating world, uncovering the root causes and offering valuable insights for personal growth.

Learn more at NiceGuyShow.com

Episode 21 - 6 Reasons Nice Guys Suck At Dating - Part One

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 01 Nov 2023 13:00:00 -0700

Join Chuck, Faisal, and Ari as they kick off part one of their discussion on why Nice Guys often struggle in the dating world, uncovering the root causes and offering valuable insights for personal growth.

Learn more at NiceGuyShow.com

Episode 20 - Why Nice Guys Are Addicted To Comfort

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 25 Oct 2023 04:00:00 -0700

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari dissect the Nice Guy's yearning for comfort and a trouble-free life, shedding light on how this desire can hinder men's personal growth and fulfillment in relationships.

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Episode 19 - Kill The Nice Guy Neediness

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 18 Oct 2023 04:00:00 -0700

Chuck and Ari delve into the topic of Nice Guy neediness and share effective strategies to overcome it, helping men break free from this common relationship challenge.

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Episode 18 -The Three Wise Nice Guys

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Tue, 03 Oct 2023 13:10:42 -0700

Join us as Chuck and Faisal extend a warm Recovering Nice Guy welcome to official Co-Host and Psychologist Ari Graff to the Nice Guy Show. In this episode, they dive into their backgrounds and much more, setting the stage for insightful discussions to come.

Learn more at NiceGuyShow.com

Episode 17- No More Mr. Nice Dad - Part 2

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Thu, 28 Sep 2023 10:02:10 -0700

Join Chuck and Faisal as they rejoin guest Ari Graff for part two of their podcast on Nice Dads, where they provide valuable insights and advice to help nice guys who are fathers navigate the complexities of parenthood and relationships.

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Episode 16 - No More Mr. Nice Dad - Part One

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Tue, 19 Sep 2023 13:00:42 -0700

Join Chuck and Faisal as they welcome guest Ari Graff to their podcast, where they provide valuable insights and advice to help nice guys who are fathers navigate the complexities of parenthood and relationships.

Learn more at NiceGuyShow.com

Episode 15 - How To Deal With A Difficult Ex When You Have Kids Together

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 06 Sep 2023 10:35:27 -0700

Chuck and Faisal explore the challenging terrain of managing relationships with your ex-partner when you share children.

Learn more at TheNiceGuyShow.com

Episode 14 - She's Put On Weight. I'm No Longer Attracted To Her. What Do I Do?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 30 Aug 2023 13:04:53 -0700

Chuck and Faisal fearlessly tackle the complex issue of shifting attraction when a partner gains weight and how to handle it.

Learn more about the Nice Guy Show at NiceGuyShow.com

Episode 13 - Two Words To Make You Love Fitness

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Thu, 03 Aug 2023 11:53:26 -0700

Join Chuck and Faisal as they reveal the two powerful words that can ignite a nice guy's love (need!) for fitness. Through insightful discussions and personal experiences, they'll delve into the core of motivation and inspiration, guiding listeners toward a newfound passion for embracing a healthy lifestyle.

Learn more at TheNiceGuyShow.com

Episode 12 - Boost Your Libido Now: 4 Proven Strategies Every Nice Guy Needs

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 24 Jul 2023 03:00:00 -0700

Join hosts Chuck and Faisal as they delve deep into the topic of libido and uncover the four proven strategies every nice guy needs to bring their best and enhance their intimate relationships.

Learn more at TheNiceGuyShow.com

Episode 11 - 10 Ways To Fix The Dead Bedroom

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 17 Jul 2023 05:00:00 -0700

Join hosts Chuck Chapman and Faisal Khokhar on the latest episode of the Nice Guy Show as they each share their top fie ways to avoid the dreaded DEAD BEDROOM.

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Episode 10 - 5 Things Nice Guys Can Do To Get More Money And Sex

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Tue, 11 Jul 2023 08:01:18 -0700

Unravel the mysteries of money, sex, and personal energy in the enlightening journey with Faisal and Chuck.

Through their raw and riveting exploration, they reveal surprising connections between money and women, viewing both as energy forms.

This podcast shares lessons from their upbringing and personal experiences, with unique perspectives on money and sex, culminating in five transformative ways to enhance your attractiveness to both.

The duo's candid chat is a mix of intriguing insights, humor, and relatable narratives - one that will leave you enlightened, inspired, and entertained.

Don't miss this thought-provoking discussion that masterfully combines personal growth with societal taboos.

Learn more at TheNiceGuyShow.com

Episode 9 - Woman Are Not Always Innocent. Why They Cheat On Good Men.

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 21 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0700

Join hosts Chuck Chapman and Faisal Khokhar on the latest episode of the Nice Guy Show as they tackle the often overlooked topic of women who cheat and discuss the telltale signs to watch for in relationships.

Learn more at TheNiceGuyShow.com

Episode 8 - Why Nice Guys Can't Help Cheating

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Wed, 14 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0700

Chuck and Faisal explore the underlying psychological and emotional factors of the Nice Guy Syndrome, discussing the patterns of behavior and mindset that can lead to dissatisfaction and frustration in relationships and result in men cheating.

Learn more at TheNiceGuyShow.com

Episode 7 - Monogamous Or Open Relationships?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 05 Jun 2023 13:08:34 -0700

Chuck Chapman and Faisal Khokhar dive deep into the age-old debate of open relationships versus monogamous relationships. In this captivating episode, Chuck and Faisal bring their unique perspectives and expertise to the forefront as they explore the pros and cons of both relationship styles.

Episode 6 - Avoid The Death Penalty - 4 Signs To Look For Before Entering A Relationship

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Tue, 23 May 2023 09:02:51 -0700

Faisal and Chuck discuss the "4 Signs When To Enter A Relationship & Avoid The Death Penalty," they delve into the factors the nice-guys make when entering a relationship.

Faisal kicks off the discussion by sharing his personal experiences, highlighting the pitfalls of impulsive relationships and hasty decision-making. He reflects on the journey of meeting a girl, having a great time together, moving in, and ultimately becoming parents, emphasizing the importance of taking a more measured approach.

Chuck chimes in, pointing out a common issue many people face in relationships—seeking external validation. He emphasizes the significance of finding internal validation and self-assurance before entering a partnership.

The episode centers around four essential signs that indicate a healthy foundation for a relationship while avoiding potential pitfalls. Faisal and Chuck elaborate on each sign:

1) TIME: They emphasize the importance of allowing enough time to pass before committing to a serious relationship. By ensuring that the initial infatuation stage has subsided, both individuals can make more rational decisions based on genuine compatibility.

2) DUE DILIGENCE: Faisal and Chuck stress the need to vet potential partners thoroughly. They discuss the significance of progressing through relationship stages, such as establishing clear boundaries and understanding each other's intentions.

3) CONFLICT RESOLUTION: The hosts highlight the importance of being unafraid to address conflicts and take responsibility for their part. They emphasize the value of actively working to resolve issues rather than letting them fester, promoting open communication and growth within the relationship.

4) GROWTH: Faisal and Chuck emphasize that both individuals in a relationship should have the desire to work on themselves and see personal growth as an ongoing process. They encourage being open to feedback from each other and being willing to consider professional help when necessary.

Faisal urges listeners to take their time and seek expert help before investing their time and emotions in a relationship. By considering these four signs, individuals can navigate the complexities of relationships with a more informed and thoughtful approach, ultimately avoiding the "death penalty" of unhealthy partnerships.

Resources are also provided, encouraging listeners to explore additional guidance and support in their journey toward fulfilling relationships.

Learn more at TheNiceGuyShow.com

Episode 5 - Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Mon, 15 May 2023 17:39:01 -0700

In this episode of the Nice Guy Show, hosts Chuck Chapman and Faisal Khokhar tackle one of the toughest decisions individuals face: whether to stay or go in a difficult relationship.

Episode 4 - Why Do Nice-Guys Rescue Broken Women? And How To Stop

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Tue, 09 May 2023 08:30:38 -0700

Welcome to Episode 4 of our series on the Nice-Guy Syndrome! In this video, Faisal and Chuck delve into the question of why nice-guys tend to be attracted to broken women and what can be done to overcome this pattern.

They discuss the five reasons why this might be the case, including a sense of familiarity with emotional support, replicating the dynamic with their own mother, seeking validation, struggling with low self-esteem, and a savior complex.

Furthermore, they highlight the role of control in this dynamic, and how it can give nice-guys a sense of security and power.

Join us in this insightful discussion, and learn how to break free from the Nice-Guy Syndrome by avoiding the trap of rescuing broken women.

Learn more at NiceGuyShow.com

Episode 3 - Things Nice Guys Hide To Get Sex and Love

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Tue, 02 May 2023 08:32:40 -0700

On this episode of the Nice Guy Show, hosts Chuck Chapman and Faisal Khokhar delve into covert contracts and the things that nice guys hide to get sex and love.

Episode 2 - Five Reasons Nice Guys Settle for Bad Sex - or NO SEX!

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Tue, 25 Apr 2023 09:42:59 -0700

On the latest episode of the Nice Guy Show, hosts Chuck Chapman and Faisal Khokhar delve into a topic that many men can relate to: why nice guys settle for bad sex or even no sex.

Episode 1 - Welcome To The Nice Guy Show: What is a Nice Guy?

Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff & Chuck Chapman — Thu, 20 Apr 2023 06:43:52 -0700

Welcome to the Nice Guy Show, where hosts Chuck Chapman and Faisal Khokhar tackle the tough issues that face men today in relationships, sex, and life. With a focus on empowerment and self-improvement, the Nice Guy Show explores the challenges and rewards of being a man who knows what he wants and goes after it, and why being a Nice Guy is keeping that from happening.

Join Chuck and Faisal as they share their personal experiences and insights, drawing on their combined expertise in psychology, counseling, coaching, and relationship advice. From navigating the complexities of modern relationships to building a fulfilling career and personal life, the Nice Guy Show provides practical advice and inspiring stories that will help men take control of their lives and relationships.

Whether you're a single guy looking to improve your dating game, a married man seeking to strengthen your connection with your partner, or simply someone who wants to live life to the fullest, the Nice Guy Show is the podcast for you. Tune in for candid conversations, expert guests, and valuable insights to help you become your best.