The Intimacy Series Transistor (https://transistor.fm) https://feeds.transistor.fm/the-intimacy-series The Intimacy Series is a warm, plain-spoken guide to real closeness, hosted by Schuyler. Short, self-contained 12–15 minute episodes on the actual skills of connection — communication, trust, desire, presence, and more — written for listeners of every orientation and relationship. Educational, sex-positive, and non-explicit. New episodes weekly. Start with Episode 1. Want to go further? The free Foundations episodes drop here every week — and our adults-only members series (18+) lives at theintimacyseries.com, free to join. About the host — Schuyler was born in the 1960s, a child of the flower-child generation, raised by liberal parents who taught him that openness beats judgment. He went to art school, found his way into finance, came out as gay in the 1980s, and in 1990 settled into a quiet suburban life in Florida. Then September 11th shook everything loose — life's too short — and he started actually living it: bolder, more curious, more himself. The gatherings he hosted grew into something bigger — sex-positive parties built on consent, warmth, and zero shame. A friendship with a longtime patron of Bob's Adult Books in Salem, Oregon deepened into a business partnership, and when his friend passed, Schuyler stepped into ownership of the shop. He's always been the type to ask — over the years he's built a deep bench of trusted advisors and experts, and he leans on them heavily to make this show, because he's the first to admit he doesn't know it all. As his father, a librarian, taught him: you don't need to know everything, you just need to know the people who do. The Intimacy Series is the sum of that whole journey — generous, grounded, and unafraid to talk about what most people won't. (c) Schuyler Emerick 7faf6593-3a69-5e92-b4fe-e397c0dc25fc yes en Thu, 08 Oct 2026 09:00:08 -0700 Thu, 08 Oct 2026 09:01:49 -0700 https://theintimacyseries.com https://img.transistorcdn.com/DRWApVGz0qIrMtXPmkFYCQHiGhFlojpPVfKILTlQcRc/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:1400/h:1400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS82MzQy/YTA2YWU1NDdjOWU4/YThlNDk1ZTJiNTgw/MWZjYi5qcGVn.jpg The Intimacy Series https://theintimacyseries.com episodic Schuyler Emerick The Intimacy Series is a warm, plain-spoken guide to real closeness, hosted by Schuyler. Short, self-contained 12–15 minute episodes on the actual skills of connection — communication, trust, desire, presence, and more — written for listeners of every orientation and relationship. Educational, sex-positive, and non-explicit. New episodes weekly. Start with Episode 1. Want to go further? The free Foundations episodes drop here every week — and our adults-only members series (18+) lives at theintimacyseries.com, free to join. About the host — Schuyler was born in the 1960s, a child of the flower-child generation, raised by liberal parents who taught him that openness beats judgment. He went to art school, found his way into finance, came out as gay in the 1980s, and in 1990 settled into a quiet suburban life in Florida. Then September 11th shook everything loose — life's too short — and he started actually living it: bolder, more curious, more himself. The gatherings he hosted grew into something bigger — sex-positive parties built on consent, warmth, and zero shame. A friendship with a longtime patron of Bob's Adult Books in Salem, Oregon deepened into a business partnership, and when his friend passed, Schuyler stepped into ownership of the shop. He's always been the type to ask — over the years he's built a deep bench of trusted advisors and experts, and he leans on them heavily to make this show, because he's the first to admit he doesn't know it all. As his father, a librarian, taught him: you don't need to know everything, you just need to know the people who do. The Intimacy Series is the sum of that whole journey — generous, grounded, and unafraid to talk about what most people won't. The Intimacy Series is a warm, plain-spoken guide to real closeness, hosted by Schuyler. intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love Schuyler Emerick info@theintimacyseries.com No No COM-11 — Bringing Up a Fantasy for the First Time 29 29 COM-11 — Bringing Up a Fantasy for the First Time full 9e101bd6-7d66-4d15-9796-cf3033e6e433 https://share.transistor.fm/s/501ed04c Sharing a desire safely, without fear of judgment.

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]]> Thu, 08 Oct 2026 09:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 640 Sharing a desire safely, without fear of judgment.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No COM-10 — Love Languages, Reconsidered 28 28 COM-10 — Love Languages, Reconsidered full f4e504fa-7787-47f7-afcd-8dc0d9e87e7d https://share.transistor.fm/s/df733c76 A fresh, practical take on how partners give and receive love.

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]]> Mon, 05 Oct 2026 09:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 677 A fresh, practical take on how partners give and receive love.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No COM-09 — Talking About What Isn't Working 27 27 COM-09 — Talking About What Isn't Working full 90409774-fd19-4fbb-a087-8ca6bc696585 https://share.transistor.fm/s/8032660a Raising bedroom problems without blame or defensiveness.

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]]> Fri, 02 Oct 2026 09:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 679 Raising bedroom problems without blame or defensiveness.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No COM-08 — The Art of the Repair Conversation 26 26 COM-08 — The Art of the Repair Conversation full 27c3fd66-a095-42b7-b210-0e5d224360d9 https://share.transistor.fm/s/01674fe9 Coming back together after a fight to actually resolve it.

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]]> Tue, 29 Sep 2026 09:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 697 Coming back together after a fight to actually resolve it.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No COM-07 — Saying "No" Without Guilt 25 25 COM-07 — Saying "No" Without Guilt full 718855d9-2750-4c01-864d-0d1dbc4c0431 https://share.transistor.fm/s/01054f19 Declining honestly while staying kind and clear.

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]]> Sat, 26 Sep 2026 09:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 684 Declining honestly while staying kind and clear.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No COM-06 — Handling a "No" With Grace 24 24 COM-06 — Handling a "No" With Grace full bcf08c53-47e4-44c0-bd72-c726828521a4 https://share.transistor.fm/s/7a5a614a Receiving rejection without pressure, sulking, or punishment.

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]]> Wed, 23 Sep 2026 09:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 677 Receiving rejection without pressure, sulking, or punishment.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No Bonus: Meet the Author — Schuyler in conversation with Vivian Whitman Bonus: Meet the Author — Schuyler in conversation with Vivian Whitman bonus 2b59117a-d33c-42b9-a191-f918e3ecb006 https://share.transistor.fm/s/1fc30eb0 More at theintimacyseries.com — where you can play this episode in your browser and sign up to be emailed when new episodes are released.

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]]> Tue, 22 Sep 2026 14:59:43 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 979 More at theintimacyseries.com — where you can play this episode in your browser and sign up to be emailed when new episodes are released.

]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No COM-05 — Checking In Mid-Moment 23 23 COM-05 — Checking In Mid-Moment full ea79ae13-ad80-481a-bfe2-5fe5c6fcd63b https://share.transistor.fm/s/2ba11ece How to read the moment and check in during intimacy.

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]]> Sun, 20 Sep 2026 09:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 737 How to read the moment and check in during intimacy.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No COM-04 — Enthusiastic Consent, Explained 22 22 COM-04 — Enthusiastic Consent, Explained full c5dcd60b-30c9-4120-b1c7-f2a29dc35e45 https://share.transistor.fm/s/887ee57b What a genuine, eager yes looks and sounds like.

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]]> Thu, 17 Sep 2026 09:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 654 What a genuine, eager yes looks and sounds like.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No COM-03 — Boundaries: Naming Your Yes, No, and Maybe 21 21 COM-03 — Boundaries: Naming Your Yes, No, and Maybe full 26414611-beec-4870-8ec3-743fe8c03eb1 https://share.transistor.fm/s/10dac07c Mapping your limits so partners know where you stand.

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]]> Mon, 14 Sep 2026 09:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 646 Mapping your limits so partners know where you stand.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No COM-02 — Talking About Sex Without the Cringe 20 20 COM-02 — Talking About Sex Without the Cringe full 33ddbacd-eec3-45d0-a044-98b5abd159d2 https://share.transistor.fm/s/b70817d0 Making sexual conversations feel natural instead of awkward.

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]]> Fri, 11 Sep 2026 09:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 641 Making sexual conversations feel natural instead of awkward.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No COM-01 — How to Ask for What You Want 19 19 COM-01 — How to Ask for What You Want full f782e25e-3e80-4d90-91c0-d859cd1abe53 https://share.transistor.fm/s/0f08e3a9 Turning vague wishes into clear, confident requests.

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]]> Tue, 08 Sep 2026 09:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 606 Turning vague wishes into clear, confident requests.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-18 — Putting It Together: Your Intimacy Foundation 18 18 FND-18 — Putting It Together: Your Intimacy Foundation full 03c02d96-f3d9-485c-bd19-46ba7866aa42 https://share.transistor.fm/s/1c82b727 We gather the whole track into one simple, ongoing practice you can actually keep.

In this episode: recap of the foundation; a repeatable weekly practice; where to go next in the series.

Your practice: Choose the single practice from this track you'll keep — and start.

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]]> We gather the whole track into one simple, ongoing practice you can actually keep.

In this episode: recap of the foundation; a repeatable weekly practice; where to go next in the series.

Your practice: Choose the single practice from this track you'll keep — and start.

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]]> Fri, 04 Sep 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 738 We gather the whole track into one simple, ongoing practice you can actually keep.

In this episode: recap of the foundation; a repeatable weekly practice; where to go next in the series.

Your practice: Choose the single practice from this track you'll keep — and start.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-17 — Everyday Intimacy: The Small Moments That Matter 17 17 FND-17 — Everyday Intimacy: The Small Moments That Matter full 491a2f5b-8a58-4b98-a4a6-6a2db06ce72a https://share.transistor.fm/s/6e83f791 Connection lives in the ordinary — the greeting, the goodbye, the six-second hug — not just the big moments.

In this episode: rituals of connection; bids for attention; turning toward vs. away.

Your practice: Add one small daily ritual of connection.

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]]> Connection lives in the ordinary — the greeting, the goodbye, the six-second hug — not just the big moments.

In this episode: rituals of connection; bids for attention; turning toward vs. away.

Your practice: Add one small daily ritual of connection.

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]]> Tue, 01 Sep 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 727 Connection lives in the ordinary — the greeting, the goodbye, the six-second hug — not just the big moments.

In this episode: rituals of connection; bids for attention; turning toward vs. away.

Your practice: Add one small daily ritual of connection.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-16 — Slowing Down: The Underrated Superpower 16 16 FND-16 — Slowing Down: The Underrated Superpower full 636fbfa7-4ca6-40fd-947c-bc2289a81efe https://share.transistor.fm/s/036197cd Speed is the enemy of connection. Slowing down changes the entire quality of an interaction.

In this episode: why we rush; the power of pause; slowness as attention.

Your practice: Do one ordinary thing 20% slower today and notice what shifts.

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]]> Speed is the enemy of connection. Slowing down changes the entire quality of an interaction.

In this episode: why we rush; the power of pause; slowness as attention.

Your practice: Do one ordinary thing 20% slower today and notice what shifts.

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]]> Fri, 28 Aug 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 720 Speed is the enemy of connection. Slowing down changes the entire quality of an interaction.

In this episode: why we rush; the power of pause; slowness as attention.

Your practice: Do one ordinary thing 20% slower today and notice what shifts.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-15 — Intimacy With Yourself First 15 15 FND-15 — Intimacy With Yourself First full 1883f0c0-e0bc-4b09-ba9d-a0e218e45052 https://share.transistor.fm/s/12819845 You can only let someone as close as you've let yourself. Self-knowledge is the ground everything stands on.

In this episode: self-compassion; knowing your own wants; why self-abandonment blocks connection.

Your practice: Ask yourself the question you'd want a partner to ask you.

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]]> You can only let someone as close as you've let yourself. Self-knowledge is the ground everything stands on.

In this episode: self-compassion; knowing your own wants; why self-abandonment blocks connection.

Your practice: Ask yourself the question you'd want a partner to ask you.

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]]> Tue, 25 Aug 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 758 You can only let someone as close as you've let yourself. Self-knowledge is the ground everything stands on.

In this episode: self-compassion; knowing your own wants; why self-abandonment blocks connection.

Your practice: Ask yourself the question you'd want a partner to ask you.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-14 — Repair: Coming Back After a Rupture 14 14 FND-14 — Repair: Coming Back After a Rupture full 01d130de-835a-4391-926f-5117f308dbf9 https://share.transistor.fm/s/20c5afc0 Every close relationship has ruptures. The skill that separates strong bonds from broken ones is repair.

In this episode: the rupture-repair cycle; how to reconnect after conflict; the repair attempt.

Your practice: Make one repair attempt for something small still lingering.

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]]> Every close relationship has ruptures. The skill that separates strong bonds from broken ones is repair.

In this episode: the rupture-repair cycle; how to reconnect after conflict; the repair attempt.

Your practice: Make one repair attempt for something small still lingering.

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]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 755 Every close relationship has ruptures. The skill that separates strong bonds from broken ones is repair.

In this episode: the rupture-repair cycle; how to reconnect after conflict; the repair attempt.

Your practice: Make one repair attempt for something small still lingering.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-13 — Boundaries as an Act of Closeness 13 13 FND-13 — Boundaries as an Act of Closeness full ff2711e3-db05-4182-b5e3-b1cffac6b39d https://share.transistor.fm/s/b7c8fd7f A boundary isn't a wall that pushes people away — it's the edge that makes real closeness safe.

In this episode: boundaries vs. walls; your yes/no/maybe; why clear limits build trust.

Your practice: State one small boundary you've been avoiding, kindly and clearly.

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]]> A boundary isn't a wall that pushes people away — it's the edge that makes real closeness safe.

In this episode: boundaries vs. walls; your yes/no/maybe; why clear limits build trust.

Your practice: State one small boundary you've been avoiding, kindly and clearly.

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]]> Tue, 18 Aug 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 702 A boundary isn't a wall that pushes people away — it's the edge that makes real closeness safe.

In this episode: boundaries vs. walls; your yes/no/maybe; why clear limits build trust.

Your practice: State one small boundary you've been avoiding, kindly and clearly.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-12 — The Language of Needs 12 12 FND-12 — The Language of Needs full 46b6723c-edc3-4749-8212-26f5e0c4d23f https://share.transistor.fm/s/54b56563 You can ask for what you need without apology and without blame. Here's the phrasing that works.

In this episode: needs vs. demands; "I" language; asking without making the other person wrong.

Your practice: Turn one complaint you have into a clear, kind request.

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]]> You can ask for what you need without apology and without blame. Here's the phrasing that works.

In this episode: needs vs. demands; "I" language; asking without making the other person wrong.

Your practice: Turn one complaint you have into a clear, kind request.

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]]> Fri, 14 Aug 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 710 You can ask for what you need without apology and without blame. Here's the phrasing that works.

In this episode: needs vs. demands; "I" language; asking without making the other person wrong.

Your practice: Turn one complaint you have into a clear, kind request.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-11 — Emotional Attunement: Reading and Responding 11 11 FND-11 — Emotional Attunement: Reading and Responding full 1bed96f7-fe01-4ab9-9317-c34615b2e4ce https://share.transistor.fm/s/618c0799 Attunement is noticing what someone feels — and letting it change what you do next.

In this episode: reading cues; the difference between hearing and attuning; responsive vs. reactive.

Your practice: Reflect back one feeling you notice in someone before offering a fix.

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]]> Attunement is noticing what someone feels — and letting it change what you do next.

In this episode: reading cues; the difference between hearing and attuning; responsive vs. reactive.

Your practice: Reflect back one feeling you notice in someone before offering a fix.

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]]> Tue, 11 Aug 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 737 Attunement is noticing what someone feels — and letting it change what you do next.

In this episode: reading cues; the difference between hearing and attuning; responsive vs. reactive.

Your practice: Reflect back one feeling you notice in someone before offering a fix.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-10 — Curiosity: The Antidote to Judgment 10 10 FND-10 — Curiosity: The Antidote to Judgment full d4be4653-25ed-4417-ac1e-ab41765ce521 https://share.transistor.fm/s/4dbaec0e You can't be curious and judgmental at the same time. Curiosity is the posture that makes closeness possible.

In this episode: judgment as a connection-killer; asking instead of assuming; curiosity toward yourself.

Your practice: Replace one judgment this week with a genuine question.

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]]> You can't be curious and judgmental at the same time. Curiosity is the posture that makes closeness possible.

In this episode: judgment as a connection-killer; asking instead of assuming; curiosity toward yourself.

Your practice: Replace one judgment this week with a genuine question.

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]]> Fri, 07 Aug 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 726 You can't be curious and judgmental at the same time. Curiosity is the posture that makes closeness possible.

In this episode: judgment as a connection-killer; asking instead of assuming; curiosity toward yourself.

Your practice: Replace one judgment this week with a genuine question.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-09 — Shame, Silence, and Where They Come From 9 9 FND-09 — Shame, Silence, and Where They Come From full 1d738560-04f7-4d55-b6c7-cabd37f7c565 https://share.transistor.fm/s/9e503ccb Most of us inherited quiet rules about what's "okay." Naming them is the first step to setting them down.

In this episode: sources of sexual shame; how silence gets passed down; separating your values from inherited fear.

Your practice: Name one message about intimacy you absorbed that you no longer agree with.

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]]> Most of us inherited quiet rules about what's "okay." Naming them is the first step to setting them down.

In this episode: sources of sexual shame; how silence gets passed down; separating your values from inherited fear.

Your practice: Name one message about intimacy you absorbed that you no longer agree with.

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]]> Tue, 04 Aug 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 719 Most of us inherited quiet rules about what's "okay." Naming them is the first step to setting them down.

In this episode: sources of sexual shame; how silence gets passed down; separating your values from inherited fear.

Your practice: Name one message about intimacy you absorbed that you no longer agree with.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-08 — The Role of Safety in Desire 8 8 FND-08 — The Role of Safety in Desire full 8f4e06a2-7bd7-471c-b1cd-335ceafc70c3 https://share.transistor.fm/s/acc35bc1 Wanting grows in safe soil. When the nervous system feels safe, everything else opens up.

In this episode: safety as the base of desire; how stress and criticism shut it down; creating a safe container.

Your practice: Do one thing that makes your partner (or yourself) feel a little safer today.

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]]> Wanting grows in safe soil. When the nervous system feels safe, everything else opens up.

In this episode: safety as the base of desire; how stress and criticism shut it down; creating a safe container.

Your practice: Do one thing that makes your partner (or yourself) feel a little safer today.

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]]> Fri, 31 Jul 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 740 Wanting grows in safe soil. When the nervous system feels safe, everything else opens up.

In this episode: safety as the base of desire; how stress and criticism shut it down; creating a safe container.

Your practice: Do one thing that makes your partner (or yourself) feel a little safer today.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-07 — Presence: Being Here Instead of Performing 7 7 FND-07 — Presence: Being Here Instead of Performing full 09213cc8-5a3c-4586-bf21-ede544eea918 https://share.transistor.fm/s/e4f4c776 You can't connect while narrating yourself in your own head. Presence is the exit from the performance trap.

In this episode: self-monitoring vs. presence; getting out of your head; the body as an anchor.

Your practice: For 60 seconds of your next conversation, drop the script and just listen.

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]]> You can't connect while narrating yourself in your own head. Presence is the exit from the performance trap.

In this episode: self-monitoring vs. presence; getting out of your head; the body as an anchor.

Your practice: For 60 seconds of your next conversation, drop the script and just listen.

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]]> Tue, 28 Jul 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 678 You can't connect while narrating yourself in your own head. Presence is the exit from the performance trap.

In this episode: self-monitoring vs. presence; getting out of your head; the body as an anchor.

Your practice: For 60 seconds of your next conversation, drop the script and just listen.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-06 — Rebuilding Trust After It's Broken 6 6 FND-06 — Rebuilding Trust After It's Broken full e7bb3d4f-bb6a-4f14-b847-533b0bb0a60e https://share.transistor.fm/s/62d70041 Trust can be repaired — but on a realistic timeline, and only with the right ingredients.

In this episode: what genuine repair requires; why "just move on" fails; patience vs. pressure.

Your practice: If trust is frayed, name the one action that would rebuild it fastest.

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]]> Trust can be repaired — but on a realistic timeline, and only with the right ingredients.

In this episode: what genuine repair requires; why "just move on" fails; patience vs. pressure.

Your practice: If trust is frayed, name the one action that would rebuild it fastest.

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]]> Fri, 24 Jul 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 737 Trust can be repaired — but on a realistic timeline, and only with the right ingredients.

In this episode: what genuine repair requires; why "just move on" fails; patience vs. pressure.

Your practice: If trust is frayed, name the one action that would rebuild it fastest.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-05 — Building Trust From the Ground Up 5 5 FND-05 — Building Trust From the Ground Up full 5f4940ed-350d-41a4-ada1-6722907628e5 https://share.transistor.fm/s/128acb6c Trust isn't a grand gesture; it's a thousand small moments of showing up as you said you would.

In this episode: reliability, consistency, follow-through; how micro-promises compound.

Your practice: Keep one small promise this week you'd normally let slide.

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]]> Trust isn't a grand gesture; it's a thousand small moments of showing up as you said you would.

In this episode: reliability, consistency, follow-through; how micro-promises compound.

Your practice: Keep one small promise this week you'd normally let slide.

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]]> Tue, 21 Jul 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 740 Trust isn't a grand gesture; it's a thousand small moments of showing up as you said you would.

In this episode: reliability, consistency, follow-through; how micro-promises compound.

Your practice: Keep one small promise this week you'd normally let slide.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-04 — Vulnerability as a Skill, Not a Weakness 4 4 FND-04 — Vulnerability as a Skill, Not a Weakness full 2b057a4b-1ca2-4955-a178-475b3bd94c9b https://share.transistor.fm/s/d3e48846 Opening up is the doorway to closeness — and it's a muscle you build in small, safe reps.

In this episode: why vulnerability feels risky; the difference between oversharing and true openness; starting small.

Your practice: Share one slightly-braver-than-usual truth with someone you trust.

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]]> Opening up is the doorway to closeness — and it's a muscle you build in small, safe reps.

In this episode: why vulnerability feels risky; the difference between oversharing and true openness; starting small.

Your practice: Share one slightly-braver-than-usual truth with someone you trust.

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]]> Fri, 17 Jul 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 716 Opening up is the doorway to closeness — and it's a muscle you build in small, safe reps.

In this episode: why vulnerability feels risky; the difference between oversharing and true openness; starting small.

Your practice: Share one slightly-braver-than-usual truth with someone you trust.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-03 — The Myth of "Just Knowing" 3 3 FND-03 — The Myth of "Just Knowing" full d6a2b5d9-17d5-4327-ab1c-5e1007ca8a9c https://share.transistor.fm/s/0fa0ede3 Nobody is born good at intimacy. The people who seem effortless just practiced — and you can too.

In this episode: where the "secret handbook" myth comes from; skill vs. talent; permission to be a beginner.

Your practice: Retire one thing you "should already know" and let yourself learn it fresh.

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]]> Nobody is born good at intimacy. The people who seem effortless just practiced — and you can too.

In this episode: where the "secret handbook" myth comes from; skill vs. talent; permission to be a beginner.

Your practice: Retire one thing you "should already know" and let yourself learn it fresh.

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]]> Tue, 14 Jul 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 697 Nobody is born good at intimacy. The people who seem effortless just practiced — and you can too.

In this episode: where the "secret handbook" myth comes from; skill vs. talent; permission to be a beginner.

Your practice: Retire one thing you "should already know" and let yourself learn it fresh.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-02 — The Four Kinds of Intimacy 2 2 FND-02 — The Four Kinds of Intimacy full e44c9548-d562-449f-be90-1f3d06cfd9be https://share.transistor.fm/s/6ef2351e Emotional, physical, intellectual, and experiential closeness — most struggles come from leaning on one and starving the others.

In this episode: the four types; how couples over-index on one; spotting your own gaps.

Your practice: Rate yourself 1–10 on each of the four this week.

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]]> Emotional, physical, intellectual, and experiential closeness — most struggles come from leaning on one and starving the others.

In this episode: the four types; how couples over-index on one; spotting your own gaps.

Your practice: Rate yourself 1–10 on each of the four this week.

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]]> Fri, 10 Jul 2026 06:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 580 Emotional, physical, intellectual, and experiential closeness — most struggles come from leaning on one and starving the others.

In this episode: the four types; how couples over-index on one; spotting your own gaps.

Your practice: Rate yourself 1–10 on each of the four this week.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No FND-01 — What Intimacy Actually Is (and Isn't) 1 1 FND-01 — What Intimacy Actually Is (and Isn't) full dbd83ea4-542f-4bea-ab72-60851633d548 https://share.transistor.fm/s/fa740832 Intimacy isn't sex, and it isn't romance — it's the experience of being known. We draw the line clearly so the rest of the series has a foundation.

In this episode: intimacy vs. sex vs. romance; "into-me-see"; why people confuse closeness with performance.

Your practice: Name one relationship where you feel truly known — and one where you'd like to.

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]]> Intimacy isn't sex, and it isn't romance — it's the experience of being known. We draw the line clearly so the rest of the series has a foundation.

In this episode: intimacy vs. sex vs. romance; "into-me-see"; why people confuse closeness with performance.

Your practice: Name one relationship where you feel truly known — and one where you'd like to.

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]]> Tue, 07 Jul 2026 03:00:00 -0700 Schuyler Emerick Schuyler Emerick 611 Intimacy isn't sex, and it isn't romance — it's the experience of being known. We draw the line clearly so the rest of the series has a foundation.

In this episode: intimacy vs. sex vs. romance; "into-me-see"; why people confuse closeness with performance.

Your practice: Name one relationship where you feel truly known — and one where you'd like to.

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]]> intimacy, relationships, connection, communication, sexual wellness, desire, couples, dating, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy, boundaries, self-improvement, love No