My wife Bek and I interview Jim Law, CEO and CoFounder of BioCharger, and Jim Girard, Lead Research & Development for BioCharger, to discuss not only the real world uses and benefits of their BioCharger, but also the science and research behind it.  Most importantly, they provide information on how you can get access to try out the BioCharger for yourself.

Lizzie is the Co-founder and executive director of B Inspired Philadelphia a non profit that empowers Philadelphia's most under-resourced middle school students to become champions of their own well-being. 

Liz is a loving wife, a mother of 4, and educator, coach, civically engaged philanthropist and trail runner/triathlete. 

I can't wait to share this episode with you. I hope you enjoy it! 

She is a producer and writer, known for Nurse Jackie (2009), That '70s Show (1998) and Cybill (1995). She has been married to Melissa Etheridge since May 31, 2014.

This extraordinary woman is one of my closest friends and someone that will touch you deeply and inspire you on your journey. She is a gorgeous soul and a brilliant creative. Our friendship with Linda and her wife Melissa is one of the most cherished gifts in our lives.  

Learn more about Jon here: https://jongordon.com/

Siri and Anne have a great discussion about taking life into your own hands, contribution, mission and purpose and self-love. 

Sign up for Hilary's challenge here: https://www.hilaryrusso.com/challenge

Learn more about Christine here: https://christinedercole.com/

This was an incredible conversation. I loved every minute of it and I know you will too. We talk about grit. What it is and why it matters. We talk about what it takes to be a great leader and how to face your fears. 

Shannon takes us through the how of finding your purpose and how important it is to stay connected to WHY what you are doing matters. 

Tune in today and enjoy this incredible conversation. Bring a notebook and pen. You will want to take notes!!

Learn more about Shannon here: https://shannonpolson.com/

@run.NRG on Instagram. Mike's endurance career has spanned 50 years. He only gets better with age!
Listen in for this inspiring conversation with Mike as he talks about resilience, overcoming fear, pushing yourself beyond what you think you are capable of, and his philosophies on training and racing.

Mike gives great advice on how to live life with purpose, with a plan and believing in all that is within you.
Saddle up, this conversation is a great one!!

Camille is the 1st and only athlete to win at all 3 of the International Association of Ultra Runners 50km, 100km and 24 hour World Championships.

In 2017 Camille Broke Ann Trason's 100 mile World Record by over an hour. Camille Ran the 100miles in 12:42:40. Camille is propelled by joy! Her passion fuels everything she does. She has a relentlessly positive attitude and takes challenges in stride. Camille knows that there is no such thing as perfection, to expect challenges along the way, and accept that fact. Learning from the challenges and 

having them bring out the best in her. 

I so enjoyed hearing about Camille's training philosophies as she shares my outlook entirely. All the things I share with my athletes on the best way to train, Camille affirmed through her own philosophies. I loved this!!

Camille has taken the sport to a whole new level! She is an example of the magic that is within us all.

I hope you enjoy this podcast as much as I did. Camille is a bright light of inspiration. Sharing her magic with all of us on the Bed Head Chronicles.

Learn more about Heather on her site: https://www.heathermoyse.com/

https://ericalippy.com/

Learn more about Anthony and his coaching program on his website: https://anthonytrucks.com/

Brian has been studying biomechanics and human anatomy using the Egoscue method for the last 25 years. Brian is on a mission to help millions learn how to live healthier, pain free lives and achieve complete fitness.

Brian has some amazing philosophies to share and an enthusiasm for life that will shift you.

Thank you Brian for blessing us with your time and energy today!

Lyndsay and Siri discuss how leading with compassion and putting your workers first, you can create a stronger team who is passionate about their jobs.

In this episode, we’re talking about how to overcome the toughest challenges in your life, communicate powerfully and perform at your best!

Business leaders all over the world rely on Richard to transform their communication and to speak on the biggest stages. One client won over $1 Billion in new business in one year, using Richard’s techniques. But Richard had to learn it all from scratch. Richard is highly introverted and has high functioning autism. Richard’s research on non-verbal communication was published in the Journal of Psychology. His study proved that you can increase your leadership ratings by 44% by making simple changes.

She came in 1st 3x, 2nd 3x, and 3rd 1x. She holds the course run record there still.

Rinny is married to Timothy O’Donnell one of the top male professional athletes in the worlds

Mom to Izzy and Finn. 

Mirinda speaks of the 3 things she believes has led to her amazing success in the sport

1. A deep why

2. Belief

3. An incredible team around her

Get some tips on living life at the highest levels from this extraordinary human being.

Tiffany quickly realized that her driving force and motivation weren’t about winning, it was about the communication and relationship building with these magnificent animals as well as learning the lessons that horses can teach us. This lifestyle with horses not only taught Tiffany a lot about communicating with horses but a lot about navigating life. After spending several years headed down a traditional path with an engineering degree and corporate job, Tiffany is now a full-time horse trainer and clinician who loves helping horses become confident in themselves and in their humans as well as helping other horse owners to enhance the relationship between them and their horse. 

Tiffany firmly believes that anything in life isn’t about the destination, but the journey it took to get there and is grateful for every step along the way. Tiffany and Siri talk about how rejection can sometimes fuel you to become something bigger. 

What You Will Learn:

• How to create your own path
• The value of breaking away from the “norm”
• Why you need to explore beyond your comfort zone

What You Will Learn:
- The importance of vulnerability
- Getting rid of your blockages
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A World Tennis Champion, Litwin is a #1 world-ranked senior player, 18-time US National Champion, and an inductee into the Tennis Eastern Hall of Fame. 

Bob is the author of "Live the Best Story of Your Life: A World Champions Guide to Lasting Change" offering advice on how to change our stories to support us in living the lives we dream of. 

Bob is an extraordinary Human Being. We had an amazing conversation on what it takes to change the stories we live by. How to rewrite the stories we tell ourselves in a way that will inspire us, and lead us to the success and fulfilment we desire in our lives. We talk about mindset tools and strategies that will help you take your performance to all new levels. We talk about how to manage your negative thoughts and train yourself to more effective thinking. 

Do not miss out on this tremendous episode that will take your athletic performance, corporate performance, and life performance to all new heights!!

Eric is a graduate of the US Naval Academy and served as an officer in the United States Marine Corps.

He was an infantry officer and Special Ops Officer for the 1st Force Reconnaissance Company and 1st Marine Division. Eric, the brother of Siri's best friend from college, Monique, was Siri's senior prom date at Brown University. 

He is an extraordinary human being. His strength, kindness, courage, bravery, generosity, and love will inspire you in every way. Eric is an incredible father, son, brother, friend, and leader. 

Today they talk about overcoming tragedy. The importance of hope. The importance of always having a plan and preparing for anything and everything that could happen. They talk about what success means to him...being BETTER!!

They talk about being AWESOME! awe-inspired. If you are alive, and your loved ones are alive and healthy how could you not be awesome regardless of what's going on? 

They talk about great leadership and the importance of your team! How to bring out the best in your team and all those around you!!

Carlos Navarro is an American actor who has been in “The Walking Dead”, “Bloodline”, and “Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt” to name a few. He got his big break in a commercial with Derek Jeter. 

What You Will Learn:

• Tapping into Yourself
• The benefits of having a kid’s mindset
• The importance of going first

Chuck Garcia is a speaker, a mountaineer, and teaches leadership development at Colombia University. He wrote the best-selling book "A Climb to the Top: Communication & Leadership Tactics to Take Your Career to New Heights".

What You Will Learn:

• The importance of learning
• Creating good habits
• How to adapt
• Creating realistic goals

Business leaders all over the world rely on Richard to transform their communication and to speak on the biggest stages. One client won over $1 Billion in new business in one year, using Richard’s techniques. But Richard had to learn it all from scratch. Richard is highly introverted and has high functioning autism. Richard’s research on non-verbal communication was published in the Journal of Psychology. His study proved that you can increase your leadership ratings by 44% by making simple changes.

What You Will Learn:

• How to build confidence
• The science of storytelling 
• What are the 3 minds? Logical mind, Survival mind, and Emotional mind
• What is LIFT?

Matt Del Negro is an actor known for Scandal, The Sopranos, The West Wing, and now, City On A Hill. His book “10,000 Nos” talks about his experience with being told no as an actor and teaches others how to handle rejection.

What You Will Learn:

• How to take a risk
• Reframing the “no”
• Maintaining confidence in yourself
• How to go first
• When to quit something that isn’t making you happy

Cristina Medonsa is an award-winning broadcaster and brand storyteller TV/Radio/Digital Creative problem-solver connecting vision and content to increase reputation and reach. With more than two decades of storytelling experience across multiple platforms, she has a passion for creating relevant, transparent stories that showcase the strength, resilience, and beauty in our communities and each other.

What You Will Learn:

• Recovering from intense emotions
• Owning your mistakes
• Managing other people's opinions
• Shifting your perspective
• Love every moment
• Dealing with the fear of what is next
• Making the right decisions

Alison Levine is a leadership expert, polar explorer and mountaineer who is no stranger to extreme environments. She has survived sub-zero temperatures, hurricane force winds, sudden avalanches….and a career on Wall Street. She is one of the most in-demand keynote speakers, delivering resounding leadership messages that transcend her extreme climbing expeditions and remain relevant in today’s fast-paced business environments. She is able to draw relevant, authentic parallels between mountaineering and business because she has experienced both first hand—on multiple mountains, in multiple organizations, and in multiple industries.

What You Will Learn:

• The summit of the mountain is only the halfway point
• Facing fears
• Dealing with the disappointment of failure
• What are the possibilities if things go right?
• Changing your mindset when dealing with people weaker than you
• Do not underestimate your contributions

Sabrina Lloyd is an entrepreneur, executive coach, and self-made millionaire. She empowers women and equips them with the right tools and knowledge so they can become the leaders they were meant to be. Sabrina started her career at American Income Life and quickly rose as a top 10 producer in her first year and went on to continuously break records. She is now the founder and CEO of L.L.O.Y.D. Agencies, which has been voted one of Chicago’s best places to work. L.L.O.Y.D. Agencies is one of the fastest growing AIL members and provides its members with executive training and leadership coaching.

What You Will Learn:

• Having faith in yourself 
• Growing from pain 
• Be your own biggest cheerleader 
• Always reach out for help 
• Constantly learning 
• Stop looking for outside motivation 
• Always be adding value to yourself 
• Go deeper than most 
• How will you stand out?

In this episode, we discuss how we met and how we maintain a loving and supportive relationship.

What You Will Learn:

• What are the love languages 
• Figure out your love language 
• How your perceptions of love stem from your childhood
• Loving yourself How to spot other people's love language
• The key to a loving and supporting relationship 
• You are most powerful when you're fully present 
• Anything amazing in life you have to work hard at

And you leave feeling drained, maybe you or someone. That when you meet up with another person, you talk about everything, that's gone wrong, everything that's missing, everything that you don't want to have happen. Are you that person that is focusing on everything that's wrong, not on everything that's right.

Are you that person that's focusing and dwelling on the problems rather than focusing and dwelling on all possible solutions? Let's assume that this is someone else in your life and you almost dread having to see this person because you know that you're going to come back from that meeting, feeling down and depressed.

Here's the thing be the eagle. There's this story. Eagles are the most beautiful, powerful birds, right? The only other bird that nips at an Eagle is the black Crow and the black Crow nips at the Eagle's wings and tries to get it to drop down. It hassles them. It is this, this energy. That's just trying to bring the Eagle down.

Now the Eagle doesn't drop down due to the harassment of the black Crow. Instead, the Eagle flies to higher and higher and higher altitudes until finally the crows can't breathe at that altitude and they drop off. Be the Eagle. If you have someone in your life that is constantly negative or angry or upset about what's missing what they don't have all their problems.

Negative energy is contagious, but so is positive energy, but you get to choose, you get to choose how you respond and how do you react to this person in your life? You can ask them more and more about their problems and then add how you can relate to their problems with your problems. Now that's dropping to that level.

Choose to be the eagle. Choose to in that moment from your side, focus on what you have focused on what you appreciate. Focus on what's good focus on solutions you've come up with to overcome a problem, focus on other people. Here's another thing, guys, people that are depressed or dissatisfied in their lives.

Most of the time they are obsessing over their own sadness, their own pain, everything that's missing, everything that's wrong. And it's a form of self obsession. I've been there. I've been that person. One of the most powerful ways to get out of that depression is to stop obsessing over yourself and everything that's wrong, all the problems you have and instead put your focus outside of yourself. Focus on other people give love, give support, give compassion, give encouragement. Because when you take yourself out of being obsessed with yourself and you focus on another, that depression will lift, you'll feel better about yourself and you will be having a positive impact on another human being's life.

Now, if you have someone in your life, that is that negative person that is always focusing on their problems. Number one don't drop down to their level. Number two, don't reward the behavior. If they constantly, if every time they call, they have something negative to talk about. Don't answer the call, send a text.

Hey, can't, can't talk to you right now, but then if they have good news, answer the phone, spend the time, talk to them for however long. So your rewarding that behavior. And you can also be an example. You could be an example in conversations with this person, you can say, yeah. You know, times are tough now with COVID and the Delta Variant and all of this, but wow it's been great to spend more time at home. It's been great that now that we all wear masks around, you know, we're not getting other types of bugs. The more you shift to focusing on the positive. The more, you redirect from a negative to a positive, they will witness that and they can learn from that. If you are consistent with that day after day after day, be consistent with your positivity, be consistent with your empowering focus, focusing on what you have, what you want, what you love, what you appreciate, what you can control.

And try to steer away when they want to take you down that deep dark negative path, pull yourself out from going there, elevate higher and invite them to come join you where you are, be the Eagle. You got this guys. We all know. And this has happened to me. Like I said, I've been there. I've been there in those times of depression and sadness, where I'm focusing on everything that's wrong and everything that's missing, but I know better now.

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And I expected that all of that was going to lead me to making the Olympic team. I made the Olympic team, but I was an alternate, which is still great, but it wasn't my goal being achieved. So in that moment, I was so devastated. About how I failed and I fell short and I didn't make it. I had this expectation that by this time I would be at the level where I could have qualified.

And then I thought about it six years ago, I was 23 years old and I didn't even know how to swim and I had these dreams of just becoming proficient in the sport. And I am here six years later. At the Olympic trials, having qualified to fight for a slot on the Olympic team. And it suddenly put me in the space of appreciation.

Oh my God, I can't believe what I've accomplished in these six years. I was, I was terrible at this sport when I started and here I am, my God, I've made it to the start line of the Olympic trials. I am so grateful. All the amazing work that I've done, all the amazing progress that I've made. The fact that I've got sponsors and I'm racing professionally and suddenly I was just overcome with all this gratitude for how far I'd come in that six years.

And I started appreciating, and after this race, what I started doing is I stepped up to every start line thinking, God, thank you. Thank you for having blessed me. Incredible mind that is so strong and powerful and resilient that I can fail and be disappointed, but I get back up, I dust myself off and I get back at it again.

The fact that I've had the, the relentlessness and the determination and the work ethic to go from six years ago, not being able to swim to now racing professionally. So on the start line of every race, I would say, I just want to get out there and show myself. For all these gifts that you've blessed me with God or the universe, whatever you believe in, but I want to get out there and show you how much I appreciate these gifts that you have blessed me with.

And I am, when that gun goes off, I'm going to leave nothing behind everything that I know I have inside of me. I'm gonna lay out on that race course and show you my gratitude and appreciation for what I have and what happened. I started winning. I won one world cup and then another world cup. And then I won the world championships, becoming the number one triathlete in the world in 2001, I traded my expectations for appreciation and my entire life changed.

You may have someone in your life, a relationship, someone that you wish would do things differently or treat you differently or change in some way. And you're disappointed because they're not meeting your expectations, get rid of those expectations. You can't control another person. You can't change them.

And just appreciate, appreciate who they are. Appreciate the wonderful things about them. Appreciate what you can learn from them. And that will remove so much pain, so much disappointment, and it will lead you to having a much better relationship with that person. A deeper relationship, a richer relationship and a more fulfilling relationship.

Trade your expectations for appreciation and see your entire world change. Thank you, Tony Robbins for that incredible gift of sharing that with me years ago, as so often in my life, it changes everything.

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If you get used to giving everything you do in your life, a hundred percent effort. That will lead you to the ultimate success in the things that matter most to you in your life. And here's something that you can do, think about during the day in every moment in every task you do in every interaction you have, are you giving a hundred percent effort?

Are you only giving 100% effort? If somebody is watching or somebody is going to grade your work? Or you're going to have a certain result if you give a hundred percent, are you only giving a hundred percent in those moments where you're being watched or you're being tested or are you giving a hundred percent in every single moment, even when people aren't watching you, because the more moments where you can give a hundred percent effort in your life, no matter what you're doing in that moment, meditating with a hundred percent effort, meaning being perfectly present and, and, and really, you know, being present with what you're doing in that moment, while you're meditating, making the bed with a hundred percent effort, doing a really great job, making your meal with love and really taking care, everything that you do.

If you do it and give a hundred percent effort, that is a secret to ultimate success in your life. Now, some days your a hundred percent effort, isn't going to lead to a great performance in whatever it is you're doing. But as long as you are doing the best that you can with what you have and giving a hundred percent effort in that way, that is going to lead you to the ultimate success.

No matter what you do in life, give it a hundred percent, do it with intention, do it with purpose, and you will find that those big, huge, ultimate goals that you've set for yourself, you will achieve because you'll be in the habit of always giving your best. And that means that that's not only going to benefit you, but it's going to benefit every single person around you! 

Have an amazing day.

Siri 

And it's that voice that's always telling you, you know, this isn't enough. Or, you know, you're not enough. You've got to do this. You got to do that then your critic and your judge. But the problem is that we are now we have way outgrown that gremlin that was there to protect us when we're kids, but we're not kids anymore.

We now have our own beliefs. We now have our own opinions on things. We now have our own ways of doing things, but that voice still creeps in. And it's a habitual way of thinking. It takes over our minds sometimes and reminds us of all the times that we've failed or reminding us of why we should doubt ourselves or reminding ourselves of why we're not enough.

And it's not a nice voice, but who doesn't have an inner gremlin.

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Have an amazing day, 

Siri 

Now, oftentimes we think that mental energy we don't need to take breaks from, that's simply not true.  In this day and age, there's a culture in a lot of businesses where you just work until you get it done. Even if that means working all night every night for a week to get a certain project done, it's kind of rewarded if somebody does that.

But the the fact of the matter is that you have to recover. You have to schedule in moments or minutes or hours of recovery so that you can replenish mentally restore, physically, perhaps going for a walk or going for a run. Emotionally disconnect from the project or the work at hand and spiritually take care of yourself, whether that's through meditation or breathing or whatever it is, but just like an athlete.

As a professional athlete. Yes, I trained six to eight hours a day and it was brutal. It was hard work because in order to strengthen physically or strengthen mentally or strengthen emotionally or strengthen spiritually, you have to do the work. You have to stress your body, your mind, your spirit and your emotions.

But that being said, you have to recover. Intermittently, so that you can continue to strengthen and make progress rather than burn yourself out, hit a plateau and eventually fall. So as a professional athlete, even though I was training six to eight hours a day in between sessions, I would completely disconnect.

I would take a bath. I would do some meditation. I would read a book. I would call someone I love, I would did some, I would do something that would fill me up with energy and help me recover and rejuvenate. So I'd be ready for the next session. So in order to achieve the results that I did, yes, I had to hammer myself every single day, but in between I was recovering, not just physically through, you know, whatever practices I used, Epsom salt bath or massage or whatever it was that I use to recover my body.

I also took time to relax my mind. I'd say, I'm not going to think about my training. I'm not going to think about my next session. I'm not going to think about my next race. I'm going to do something else that fills me up emotionally and spiritually and mentally so that I not only step up to that next physical session, physically recovered, but I'm also mentally strong, emotionally strong and spiritually ready.

So those of you that are workaholics that work from the moment you get up to the moment you go to bed, please. I promise you that if throughout the day, maybe every 60 to 90 minutes or every two hours you take 15 minutes for yourself. Leave your phone at the desk. Leave your computer. Leave your work behind.

Go outside, take some deep breaths. Take a short walk, rejuvenate disconnect for 10 to 15 minutes. And I guarantee you that your performance is going to be so much better than if you just hammer through the day. From the moment you wake up to the moment you go to bed. Intermittent recovery is so crucial.

Crucial to not only individual success, but a business or a company success, you have to take that time. It's also rewarding in some businesses, you know, people don't want to take care of their bodies because if they go to work out at lunch break, people are going to think they're lazy or they don't care.

That's a story. That's a story that you're telling yourself. That's a story that other people in the company may be telling you. But the truth is that if you take that time for you, if you take that time to go out for a walk, to go out for a run, to do a workout of some sort, that you are going to be better physically with more energy, better, emotionally, better, mentally, better spiritually.

Your performance will be that much better. When you get back to work, you're going to be healthier. You're going to be sick less. You're going to have fewer days away from work. And because you're going to be happier. You're going to last a lot longer at that job. So guys, you've got to take care of yourselves, intermittent recovery isn't just for athletes. It's for every single human being. Yes we need to stress our bodies, our minds, our emotions, and our spirit in order to strengthen in those areas. That is true. But you also must allow for recovery in all four of those areas.

Thanks for listening and have an amazing day.

Siri

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And now I want you to really think and analyze. How you have been participating in this relationship and what kind of a grade you would give yourself? Are you doing an, A plus in this relationship, you're always present, you're making time for this person. You're loving them in the way that they need to be loved.

You're caring for this person, person supporting this person. How do you grade yourself on your participation in this relationship? Because here's the thing guys, sometimes life gets in the way of the things that matter most to us, we're so busy on our careers. Sometimes that we're not giving the person that matters most to us, the energy, the time, the presence that not only they deserve, but that is needed for this relationship to continue to grow.

So if this relationship that means the most to you, you're not giving the kind of time necessary. You're not nourishing this relationship on a daily basis. It's time to recognize that and do something about it. So many of us, we work hard because we want to take care of that person. That means the most to us.

But if we're working all the time and we're not taking care of that person by being present and enjoying life together with that person, we're kind of failing in that relationship. So really think about how much time are you giving to this relationship? How would you grade your performance in this relationship?

And if you're not happy with that grade that you've given yourself, find ways, even if you're working so, so hard every single day, find a way to show this person how much you love them, how much they care. Be present when you are together and really work at nourishing this relationship so that it continues to grow and it continues to flourish. 

Have an amazing day, everyone.

Siri

The thing is guys. I truly believe that the universe or God will continue to give you the lesson until you actually learn it. We need to look at the things that seem like the things where you find yourself saying, Oh, that always happens to me. Well, think about it. Why does it always happen to you? Because what we don't change, we choose.

Right? So in less we learn the lesson we're going to continually get slapped in the face with that same lesson. Until we actually learn it. And we actually change the type of people that you're looking to date or the type of people that you want to hire. So I hope that helps everybody really pay attention to the patterns in your life.

The choices that you've made that never really seemed to work out, what do they have in common? Let's figure out the common denominator and get rid of that. So you can continue to make all the right decisions. That lead you to the success, the joy, the fulfillment that you're looking for.

Having an amazing day.

Siri

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What do you do? Tell you the first thing you don't do, is lose your own motivation. Okay. I need you to rise higher and you can invite them to come join you where you are, but if they don't want to, you keep plugging away and going after your dreams. We become the five people that we spend the most time with in our lives.

So look around you and make sure that the majority of your time you're spending with people that lift you higher. That are inspired and motivated themselves that want to achieve great things. If you're not surrounded by people with that, find people that want the same things you do that are inspired and motivated and want to work hard and want to achieve great things and the people in your life, if you live with them and they don't agree with your work ethic or, or your passion or the things that you're doing.

You can just continue to be an example and don't stop because of the things that they're saying, but dig even deeper. And when they witness you, your hard work, your commitment, your consistency, and they see you achieve your ultimate dreams. You will be the inspiration for them to finally get started as well.

There's this visual and it's of a bald eagle. And it's flying up high in the sky and a crow, a black crow comes and starts nipping at its wings. The only birds that try to attack other birds are black crows. So the bald eagles flying and the black crow is clipping at its wings. And what the eagle does is it just starts rising higher and higher and higher until it gets to an elevation where the crow can no longer breathe and the crow falls off.
That's what you need to do. Don't let people that are telling you that you can't do it, or it's not possible, or why you working so hard. Don't let them drop you down to where they are. Rise above, rise above and soon they're going to stop clipping at your wings and you're going to sail forward and achieve all the things that you dream of.

Rise higher. So if people around you or trying to de-motivate, you don't listen, that's not who you are. You can try and inspire them through your actions. You can invite them to join you where you are, but you keep plugging away. Because if you want to achieve great things, you want to be the champion of your own life.

You're going to have to work hard. You're going to have to dig deep. You're going to have to show commitment. You're going to have to show discipline. It's what's required.

Having an amazing day.

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And they say, yeah, you know, this client came in and they were unhappy with the services that I provided. I'm devastated. Just using that word that carries such weight, such power, is making this experience for this friend of mine. So awful when okay, a client was unhappy with the service you provided. Yeah.

That's a bummer. Now, if she looked upon it as a bummer, she'd probably get over it pretty quickly. Right. But when she uses the term, I'm devastated, it makes it so much more painful than it has to be. Okay. So another example could be, you know, you're doing a workout and you're thinking, my God, this is just, this is excruciating.

And you're still talking. So it's obviously not so excruciating that you can't talk, but in just saying that this is excruciating, it's going to make it so much more painful, not just physically, but emotionally than it has to be. So for me as an athlete, if I was doing a session that was really, really hard.

I would say instead, wow, this is really pushing me. This is really challenging me. And that had this pull energy to it rather than this, you know, burden of, Oh my God, this is excruciating, which makes you just want to stop. So think about the words that you use to describe things happening in your life, things that have happened or things that are happening or what you're experiencing in that moment.
And in the same note, you know, I could be out for a walk and say to my wife, this is absolute bliss. And guess what? It becomes an even more enjoyable experience because I'm calling it bliss, which is just the ultimate. And so that's what I experienced. We will experience the words that we use to describe.

The things that we're experiencing in our lives. So choose carefully. Think twice before you use words like devastating or excruciating or hard, whatever it is. Think twice, because it will affect you, not just physically, but emotionally and mentally, choose wisely. Have a great day.

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But it's numbing you also to the potential joy. When you numb yourself to pain, you're numbing yourself to everything. You're numbing yourself to the good things in life, to the happy moments, to the things that could bring you potential joy. So you never actually end up getting out of your suffering because you don't have the experience of joy to help lift you out.

I encourage all of you to feel your emotions, to work through your emotions. Understand that when we are struggling, there's a lesson in there. We can learn something about ourselves. We can learn something about other people. We can learn something about life because when we go through the pain, we develop a strength, a strength of character.

That gives us a greater ability to overcome similar pain in the future. But most importantly, in going through the emotions, we're not numb, we're still awake. We're still aware. And we can start experiencing the joy from the good things in our lives that remind us of what life can be. It's reminding us of that compelling future that we all have, that we can move through our pain.

Strengthened through it, learn from it and again, experienced joy in the future. So when you think about numbing, you think that you're escaping the pain, but you're really just prolonging it because you're numbing yourself to the good you're numbing yourself to the joy. So have the courage to step into the arena of your emotions and to face them head on.

And to know that there is something that you're going to learn through this struggle and that you will grow and you will become more and your experience of life can again be beautiful. Thank you everybody. Have an amazing day.

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Yet so many of us set these standards that in order to feel like I am worthy of love, I have to do all these things. And we end up getting disappointed. We end up feeling like we're not enough because we're trying to live up this standard that just doesn't exist. So I was thinking of the word perfection.

And in my mind, I was coming up with all these different things that each letter could mean that is not only sustainable and attainable, but can actually strengthen us and see us living happier lives, more fulfilled lives, feeling, knowing our worthiness, knowing the magic we have within us. And this is what I came up with.

So the new kind of perfection to strive for. That's not only possible, but will lead you to living your best life. Is this P for the power of Presence.  When we are present, whether it be with our partners, whether it be with the work that we're doing in any moment, whether it be when we're working out, we are our most powerful selves when we are fully present in the moment.

And also when you're fully present, you're not worrying about what happened in the future or fearing what's to come.

E stands for the power of Energy. When we have energy, we can give so much more. When we have energy, we're more resourceful. And where does that energy comes from? It comes from what we choose to focus on the meaning that we give things. The energy comes from taking care of our bodies, working out, eating healthy, drinking a lot of water. 

R the power of Resilience, never giving up. We all know that in order to succeed, you've got to be willing to fail. You've got to be willing to be disappointed because when we fail, that's when we learn the lessons of what went wrong, that's how we grow. That's how we make progress. And that's how we ultimately succeed. Resilience is never giving up. Resilience is taking the lesson, learning from it, getting stronger from it and bringing that into your future.

F the power of Faith or Focus. It could be either one. Faith for me is extremely important. Faith over fear always have faith. Not only that life is happening for you, not to you, but have faith in yourself, trust in yourself, believe in yourself. So I'm going to go with faith, but focus is another of the power of focus is extremely, powerful when it comes to setting and achieving your goals.

E the power of Enthusiasm. We talked about E for energy, but this is enthusiasm being passionate about your life. Being passionate about your mission, being passionate about loving your partner and your friends being passionate about life that's enthusiasm. 

C the power of Courage or the power of Confidence. Now, the more courageous we are in our lives. When we're afraid, but we do something anyway, that's courage. And the more we do that, the more confidence we built. So both of those super important.

T the power of being Thankful, gratitude, appreciating everything in your life, being grateful for this incredible body of yours. It gives you life, this heart, that beats for you every single day, being grateful for the people around you. That love you and care about you being grateful for the roof over your head or the clothes that are on your potty. Thankfulness is so incredibly powerful.

I the power of Intention. I am intentional about every single thing I do every single day. I wake up. And first of all, I think about three things that I'm grateful for. And then I think about how I'm going to, if I'm going to work out, I'm intentional about what I want to accomplish during that workout. I want to go outside. I want to get fresh air. I want to free my mind. I want to just breathe in this amazing crisp there, whatever it is you're going to have dinner with your husband or your wife or your best friend, be intentional about how you want this experience to be. I want to have a loving time where we talk about, you know, the things that are going on in our lives and we can connect deeply and I can show them how much I love them. The power of intention. So incredibly important.

O the power of Owning it, taking responsibility. It is so incredibly important when we make mistakes or we fall short or we do something. That affects us deeply. You have to own it. What was your partner say? It's a breakup. What was your part in the breakup? You can't blame the other person for, for everything that happened. What part did you play? What can you own or say you had a project and it didn't go as well as you hoped it would. Own that. When we own it, when we take responsibility, then we have self-respect and we're willing to learn from it because when we take ownership, we're opening ourselves up to all the learning and growing that needs to be done so that we can get a better result next time.

And then, N the power of being Natural. And to me, that means being fearlessly, authentic. So living in alignment with your values means being authentic. And be fearlessly authentic. The people that don't like you or appreciate you for who you are. They don't belong in your life. Okay. So they don't need to be there in any way. But when you live fearlessly authentically you. You are living in alignment with your values, you are going to be happy.

You are going to be powerful. You are going to be able to achieve all the dreams that you have. And most importantly, you will feel so fulfilled at the end. So you guys perfection. Perfection is unattainable. But if we look at perfection and each letter of this word as being a new kind of perfection to strive for. That's possible, and it really will lead you to living your best life.

That's the power of presence, the power of energy, the power of resilience, the power of faith, the power of enthusiasm, the power of courage, the power of thankfulness. The power of intention, the power of owning it and the power of being natural.

You got this guys have an amazing day.

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But I was having a really bad day. I didn't feel good. I wasn't, nothing was flowing and the predominant thought in my mind is what's everyone going to think about how I'm performing today? And I had this epiphany, nobody's thinking about me and what I'm doing. Everybody is thinking about themselves and what they're doing in that moment and what they're trying to achieve and how they're performing, who was I to think that every single person out there racing and on the sidelines was only focused on me and what I was doing.

I'm just not that important. None of us are. People naturally are focused on themselves and their own performance and what they're trying to achieve, what they're trying to create. They're not obsessing over what you're doing and watching your every single move and that, to me, it was so liberating because we so often are worried about, you know, trying to be perfect for everyone else around us.

Perfection is impossible anyway, but we try to be perfect for everyone else around us because we think everybody's watching us all the time. The fact of the matter is they're not. They're focusing on themselves and on their own business. So in those moments, when you're thinking about trying to be perfect for the world around you, yes, people may be watching and commenting and celebrating your victories and maybe being there, you know, when things aren't going great.

But you have to know that 100% of the time they're not focused on you. You keep the focus on you, be all that you are authentically and don't try and be something that you're not to please others. Be you and just do the best that you can with what you have in every moment for you, purely for you.

Because what that does in return is when you thrive, when you achieve, when you accomplish the things that you hope to, or grow to certain levels that you hope to have a greater impact on the world, you'll do that. You'll have a beautiful and powerful impact on the world whether it's by inspiring people or touching people's lives or teaching people things to improve their lives, you will have a beautiful impact on the world but you will remove from that. The pressure of having to be perfect in every single moment.

I hope that helps have an amazing day, everybody.

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As a young teenager, I used to dream of finding love that would fill up my heart and fill up my soul, finding someone that would love me as much as I love them. Finding someone that I knew would have my back and be my greatest supporter and vice versa. Finding someone that would make me laugh and bring out the best in me every single day. Someone that would love me for exactly who I am, and cherish me for exactly who I am.

And that's my wife, Rebekah. She fills my heart with so much joy, so much love, so much laughter every single day. When I was diagnosed, my greatest inspiration to live was wanting to spend more time with this amazing woman. That is everything that I ever dreamed of. She inspired me. She was by my side, she was my strength, she was my rock, she was my superhero. And she always is. Every single day.

To you, Rebekah, the love of my life.  The love of not just this lifetime, but every lifetime ahead of us. You are everything I could ever dream of having in my life. You inspire me every single day. You make me want to be the best me I can be in every single aspect of my life.

Your love for me is like the most beautiful and divine elixir, that sees me waking up every single morning with the biggest smile on my face and such deep gratitude in my heart. Praising God and the universe for delivering you to me, and me to you. You are my everything.

My goal every single day is to light up your soul, to bring out the best in you, and to be everything you ever dreamed of. Every single day.

​I love you all have an amazing day to you and your love or your future love. Hold them tight. Appreciate them. Love them for all that they are. Celebrate them every single day and give your heart and soul to them, knowing that when you love with no bounds when you love with all your heart and you don't hold back, you create magic.

You create a love that will sustain you not just in this lifetime but beyond. I love you, Rebekah. Happy Anniversary.

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And I manifested that with all my heart. And more recently, when I got diagnosed with AML, I wanted to manifest getting healthy, surviving and thriving on the other side. Whatever it is you want to manifest in your life. It could maybe be the perfect relationship or building a business or being a part of something amazing. Making money.

Here's the thing, when you want to manifest these desires, you have to come at it with amazing energy, good energy, powerful energy. If you're coming from a place of fear or scarcity or worry like I have to get this job because I need to make enough money to survive. That's coming from a place of fear and worry.

But if you look at it, I want this job because it's going to challenge me. I'm going to grow. I'm going to be able to use my talents and abilities. I'm going to touch lives. I'm going to make a difference in this world. That's coming from a much more positive place that has more of a whole energy.

In order to manifest your greatest desires, you've got to bring great energy to the manifestation process.

How do we get good energy? Well, we can connect to why this matters to us. Why do you want to find that perfect relationship or manifest that perfect relationship? Because you have so much love to give so much energy to share.

You want to share adventures. That's a positive high energy state that you're bringing to the manifestation process. So try to get out of the scarcity mindset. Try to get out of a fearful mindset and instead think about what you want to create in your life and bring to that, incredible good energy and the energy that empowers you and serves you because the universe will match your energy.

When I was trying to heal, I wasn't thinking about I have to survive. I have to survive. I was thinking I want to survive. I've got so much loving to do. I have so much to give to the people around me and to the world around me. I have so much to learn, so much to share, so much work to do in this world. And that was coming from this energy of I want to live life.

So, as you try to manifest, and remember, we don't just sit here and say, okay, I'm going to manifest. I'm going to manifest wealth in my life and sit and wait for it. You've got to go out and take action, but you've taken action with an energetic, positive mindset, with an energy of why this matters to you, how it's going to not only change your life but the people around you and the world around you. Bring that good energy into manifesting your greatest desires.

And I know that you will be able to create anything and everything that you dream of. When I was training for triathlon, and remember, I sucked when I started. But I wanted this so bad and the only time I fell off the tracks on my way to becoming a world champion, is when I lost touch with the real reason why I was doing this. In the beginning, I remembered I was just so passionate about wanting to become proficient.

In this sport that inspired me. In this sport that was so challenging and beautiful, and how people found themselves through the process. And I just love challenging myself every day and learning more and more about myself and learning how to overcome obstacles and I embraced that.

But somewhere along the line, I started thinking that making the Olympics was the be all end all and I had to get sponsors and I had to make money and I lost touch with what really mattered to me. I started having some real big obstacles when that happened. But when I reconnected to why this mattered to me that I loved this sport, I was passionate about finding myself and discovering what I was made of.

I started winning and I started achieving and I started making such incredible progress. So bring great energy to manifesting your desires. Believe in you. And most importantly, know that you deserve it. You deserve to manifest your greatest desires. You deserve to live the life that you dream of.

You deserve it.

So give yourself permission to receive what you so dream of creating so everybody manifests your greatest desires in 2021. I know you can. Anything and everything is possible. Bring great energy to it. Know that you're worthy, feel that and have the universe match your amazing energy and see everything that you dream of start coming into your life, but you have to work for it.

Remember. It takes energy. It takes effort and it takes always staying connected to what your deep emotional reason why you want to make this happen.
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What is it that you want to create in this lifetime?

What do you want to feel?

Who do you want to be surrounded by?

What impact do you want to have on the world?

This would be your purpose.

It may be a huge goal that you want to accomplish, that you would do anything in the world to achieve. This is your purpose. When we link our every thought to our purpose, we become so much more powerful, in every moment, every decision we make or every thought we have, we can ask, is this helping me get closer to accomplishing my purpose?

If it's not, don't do it or do less of it, but have your purpose be the centralizer of all your thoughts. And along the way, I mean, I know in my life I failed over and over and over again, before I achieved some of my ultimate dreams. But you don't look upon that as failure because when we fail, that's how we become strong.

That's how we overcome our weaknesses. That's how we learn and that's how we grow. So the ultimate indicator of success when that's happening, when you're on this path of trying to achieve your purpose, but you're failing over and over again. I want you to determine the amount of success you've had by the strength of character that you've developed within yourself.

Because along that journey, when you are failing, you're learning, you're growing and you're becoming even more inspired to make this happen. Ultimately, you are developing a strength of character, which is so incredibly important as far as everything else that you're going to come across in your lifetime.

So rather than waiting. To feel successful, to feel like you've succeed only when you've hit that ultimate target, or you have the exact life that you're dreaming of creating.  Embrace the journey. Be able to recognize the strength of character that you're building throughout every failure, throughout every disappointment and have that fuel you along the way.

When you stay connected to your purpose, to your why, nothing will stop you. Nothing will get in the way no matter how many times you fall down, you will get back up again. You will dust yourself off and you will find another way and you'll make it happen ultimately. But when we fail, that's us overcoming weakness, getting stronger and learning something new.

That's going to lead us to that ultimate victory and accomplishing our purpose. So stay connected. Every thought you have stay connected with your purpose. Every decision you make, stay connected to your purpose, and every step along the way, recognize how you are becoming stronger and better able to take that one step closer to achieving your ultimate dream.

Have an amazing day, everyone.

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It's such a beautiful time of year. But what I'm thinking is don't save all your love and all your presence for the holidays. They only come around once a year. How about every single day? You show your love. You give a hug. You give your presence.  You give your time and you give your energy and share that love every single day let's make every day, a beautiful holiday to celebrate ourselves, to celebrate one another.

Celebrate this beautiful gift of life and to give love in abundance, to give love with no boundaries, to be kind to the people you love and to perfect strangers, let's extend that kindness and that love every single day of the year, because we know we all need it. We all need that love. We all love it when people are kind to us and it feels so good to be kind to others.

Let's make every day a beautiful holiday of love, gratitude, giving, and grace. 

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You're assuming that unless they live life the way that you think they should live life, that they're living life wrong. And that's a big mistake. And what usually happens with us when we have someone in our lives like that is that we try to change them. We try to fix them. We try to do something to show them the way and it never works.

And we get frustrated and we get angry and we end up resenting that person. What if the solution was to love that person for exactly who they are? And to not try and change that person, but learn from that person. What is their presence in your life teaching you about you? I know for me, this person has shown me that I am someone that likes to fix things.

I like to fix things, but in that situation, it's not my place to fix. Because in their opinion, there's nothing to be fixed. They are living life in a way that feels right to them. They are living life in a way that feels authentic to them and I have no right to judge that and decide whether it's right or wrong because that's their path, that's their journey.

And so what I realized, going in to just learn from this person, Is that the reason why it upsets me so much is that I want to change it. I want to fix it. I want to make it different, but it's not my place to do so. So if you have someone in your life that you have a situation like this with don't go into change that person.

Learn from them, appreciate them for who they are and the way they want to live their lives. Because maybe for them, they're living the life of their dreams and it's good for them. We all should live the lives of our dreams. Don't go in to judge, go in to appreciate, go in to learn from them.

What are they teaching you about you? And the change comes from within us, removing that judgment, removing that belief that things need to be a certain way for everyone that's in our inner circle. That's just not the way it is. Everyone who comes into our lives is there for a purpose. I believe they are there to teach us things about ourselves, teach us things about life and the world around us.

Trade. As Tony Robbins says, and this applies to just so many things in life, trade your expectation for appreciation and watch your world change in beautiful ways. When I decided to approach this person in my life with love and appreciation and acceptance, and just thinking, what can I learn from the way they live their lives?

It's improved our relationship, monumentally. And has brought both of us so much joy. I hope this helps everyone or at least helps you to look at things a little bit differently. And I think that that will help you a lot. Note, not only in the peace inside of you but peace within that relationship with that other person.   Have an amazing day.

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And that is using the power of intention.

Before any meeting, I will take 30 seconds and think about how I want it to proceed.

How I want to present. The impact I want to have, the message I want to share. I'm very intentional about every single thing that I do in my life. It starts with literally opening my eyes and feeling grateful. For the gift of being able to see with these two eyes and thinking about the things that I'm grateful for in my life, which puts me in a really great state where my energy is such, that I know I'm going to have a great day.

And then I think about what I want to accomplish on this day, whether I have meetings or athletes that I'm coaching or a project that I'm working on. I decide I'm going to put my heart and soul in to it. I'm going to be fully present in every moment. And when I have time with my wife, I'm gonna be fully present in the moment with her so we can truly experience the richness, the depth of our relationship.

I'm intentional about every single thing that I do throughout the day. I'm not just leaving it up to chance if it's going to be a good day or a bad day. I go in intending to make it a great day, to make it a great week.

I'm gonna show up authentically with all my heart and soul. I'm going to be open. I'm going to be loving. I'm going to be kind. I'm going to give of myself, of my heart, of my soul, of my time, of my talents.

Be intentional about what you want to create in your life on a daily basis. Just using the power of intention is going to see you being so much more effective, so much more authentic and experiencing so much more of the richness of this beautiful life that we are so blessed to live.

So be intentional.

When I talk about presence, that is something that you do need to set up in advance. I am going to be fully present for my work, when I'm working, for my partner, when I'm together with them. For my friends, when I'm together with them. For my family. For my workout. If I'm working out, I'm going to be intentional about what I want to get out of this workout today.

I want it to help strengthen me and help me heal and help energize me and lead me to be even more efficient and effective in my work. Be intentional and be present in everything that you're doing. And I know that you're going to have an amazing day, an amazing week. And if you continue to do this on a daily basis, an amazing life.

Thank you everybody.

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That is not the case. In life, you have to go after what you need and what you want. As a professional athlete years ago, I used to ask if I had a question about why I was doing something or why wasn't I doing something? I would ask that question so that I would know, am I missing out on something, or am I not doing this for a reason?

Or what can I do? That's gonna make me that much better. And with my athletes, I demand that when they have a question about something that they come to me immediately and ask that question so that I can give them the answer and we can both be that much better and that much more successful. Imagine, if I had an athlete and I gave them a program and they had some kind of a niggly injury that they didn't want to tell me about and they kept training through it and eventually they get injured and they're out for three months.

What if, when they first had that niggle, they came to me and they said, Hey, coach, this is kind of bothering me a little bit. What should I do about it? My answer would be to take two to three days off. Let's do some self-massage. Let's do some kinds of treatments and they'll be back in a week training again, both of us ended up being successful because they can achieve their goals.

And I can achieve mine as a coach if we don't ask for what we need, and that can be in a relationship as well from your partner. If you need something that you're not getting, give them the opportunity to give you what you need by asking for it. Give him that opportunity. No one is a mind reader. We can't guess what any other person wants or needs.

But when you're going after something that matters to you, when you want to achieve something or you want to have a certain amount of love or happiness in your life, you've got to ask for what you want and what you need. Don't wait for things to fall into your lap because they're not going to, you've got to step out, believe that you deserve the answer you deserve to ask for what you need and what you want and go out and get it.

This will accelerate your rise to the top or your rise to achieving whatever goal or dream that you have. And it shows that you've got respect for yourself and respect for the people that you're working with, or that you're in a relationship with. When we ask for what we want and need, we not only give ourselves the opportunity to be the best that we can be, but we allow others.

We give them the gift of being able to share their expertise or be their best selves within that relationship. So guys, step up, step up for yourself, back yourself, believe in you and know that you are worthy of asking for anything and everything that you want and need in this lifetime.

 
Have a great day.

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But the fact of matter is that identity is so much more than just what we achieve or what we do in our lives. When I retired from triathlon in 2002, I was number one in the world and people couldn't understand why are you retiring? You're still winning races. You're you're number one. This is crazy. But the thing was that I had found what I was looking for.

I had found my true identity. That comes from within me. And that is the identity that I am someone who can have a dream and will throw my heart and soul and everything I have in to making that dream come true. I am resilient. I am, I am passionate. I could fall down and be disappointed and fail, but I would get back up every single time and do whatever it took to achieve my dream.

I am resilient. I am brave. I am courageous. I am strong. And I love with all my heart and soul. My identity doesn't come from what I do or what I have achieved. My identity is who I am on the inside. I love deeply. I care about others. I not only wanna bring out the best in myself, but I wanna bring out the best in everyone around me.

I want to inspire, I want to empower. I want to. I want to teach. I want to take everything that I've experienced in my life and share that with the world and, and teach through my own experiences and through what I've learned along this amazing path of life. I'm an animal lover. I love my wife. I love my family.

I love my friends deeply, and I love this life. That's my identity. So when you're struggling with your identity, when you're struggling to maybe let go of something that has defined you for most of your life. Remember that that's not who you are. You are so much more than what you do on a daily basis.

Your identity comes from within.  It's how deeply you love, how deeply you care, how much you give to the world around you. Find your identity in those things, because those are the things that really matter. And that is truly who you are. Have an amazing day everybody.

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Even if it's baby steps recognize the progress that you're making recognize the work that you're putting in to make your dream come true, but celebrate every single step forward, celebrate your progress, celebrate each day and where you're at now, because if we're only going to allow ourselves to be happy when we achieve that ultimate goal, we're missing out on so much joy in our lives.

So much richness. And so much celebration. So please celebrate every single step of the way celebrate you appreciate every step forward. Appreciate every lesson learned, even when we're disappointed or we fall short. Celebrate the lesson in that, what you realize, what you need to do better or how you need to change your approach, whatever it is, but appreciate that.

Embrace that as a part of this journey. And then when you do finally achieve that ultimate goal, you will have known that the whole entire process was so enjoyable, so enriching. So please celebrate you in every moment, every step forward, every lesson learned. And when you reach that magical space of achieving your ultimate goal, it will be the most extraordinary feeling in the world. Have an amazing day.

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Because I was desperate to prove to myself that even as a gay woman, I could achieve something spectacular that I could inspire people that I could make a difference. And I pushed to make a point. I pushed to prove something and that was coming from a place of force and yes, it worked and I had amazing results and I became a world champion.

And that kind of force has definitely led to amazing results in my life. But things don't necessarily have to be done from a place of force. You can achieve just as much, if not more from a place of flow from being pulled to do something, not pushed to do something. The difference is enormous. And what we don't realize is that we don't always have to suffer to create amazing things in our lives.

I have committed myself to the mission of doing everything in my life, from a place of flow, from a place of being pulled to do something from a place of passion and love and commitment and desire and mission, but not to prove something or because I should do something, but I want it to flow.

I want it to come from my heart. I want to be pulled to achieve these things. I wanna be pulled to make these things happen. The difference is enormous and I think one of the key points is to love yourself enough to know that achieving great things or finding greatness in you or greatness in your life doesn't have to come from a place of suffering or force or should.

It can come from a place of love, of commitment, of desire, of passion, wanting to make something happen in your life, to create something beautiful in your life, to express the greatness of the beauty, the strength, the power that is inside of you. I believe that when we're pulled to do things, not only can we achieve that much more.

But what we create is going to be more magnificent than it ever would be coming from a place of pushing or forcing it.

Believe in you.

Believe in the fact that you are more powerful than you could ever imagine.

Believe in your greatness and believe in your worthiness, that yes, you do deserve to achieve and create great things in your life. From a place of passion and love and flow. You don't have to prove anything. Just be you.

 Thank you everyone. And have an amazing day.

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From their fears, from their anxieties, from problems that they're having, because they finally know that they're not alone and that someone else has shared in that experience or shared in those feelings. I remember as a kid, I suffered from extreme anxiety and extreme fear all the time. I was just overcome with these horrible feelings of anxiety and fear, and I developed this extreme case of OCD.

That made me feel like a crazy person and I thought that I was the only person on the planet that felt this way. I thought I was the only person on the planet that had this OCD, these things that I did to try and free myself from these horrible thoughts I was having. In that day, nobody spoke about anxiety. Nobody spoke about fear. Nobody spoke about OCD.

So I felt very alone. I felt afraid and I felt crazy. What I focus on now is when I speak around the world, I talk about how I had that anxiety and fear as a child. I talk about how I had anxiety and fear on my path to becoming a world champion triathlete. I talk about how I still have moments of anxiety and fear.

But I talk about the tools and the strategies and the things I learned to overcome those states to overcome the fear. To get myself out of a cycle of anxiety. So in speaking about what truly made me struggle as a child. Yes, that's being vulnerable. But it's also empowering all those around me and empowering myself to find this great gift in what happened. It led me on a path to where I wanted to discover more about who am I. You know, what makes me tick? What are the things that are holding me back and what are the things that will see me soar in my life?

And in sharing this I'm freeing others. Others that may think they're the only ones that are overcome with anxiety or overcome with fear. Now they know they're not alone. I talked to my athletes often about my failures on my path to become a world champion triathlete. I failed miserably so many times over and over again, but it's through those failures that I learned so much, and that's where I grew the most.

And then sharing that they don't become so afraid of failure. If I didn't share these things, they may think that the first time they failed, they should just give up because that's it, there's no hope. But no, they understand that for someone like me, I failed over and over and over again, before I succeeded and achieved my impossible dream of becoming the best in the world.

They understand that that's a part of the process, but you have to be willing to fail in order to succeed. So when we're vulnerable and when we share our deepest secrets or insights into what has made us who we are. We are empowering so many others around us. We're liberating them. We're freeing them and letting them know that it's okay to be imperfect.

We are all totally imperfect. Life is not a straight line. You are going to be disappointed. You're going to be afraid. You're going to be anxious, but it's how you respond in those moments. And I'm here to share my story, to help them respond in a way that's gonna truly see them thrive and not be paralyzed by their fear or anxiety.

So everyone be vulnerable! and that doesn't just mean in instances like what I'm talking about, it means to be vulnerable in sharing your love. Don't be afraid to love with all your heart. Don't be afraid to be all of who you are. You are spectacular, just the way that you are. Feel confident in that and know that the people that love you are gonna love you for who you are. Be vulnerable. Express yourself. Share yourself with your world.

And you'll find that this absolutely makes your life the masterpiece that it's so meant to be. Thank you.

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Today. This moment is the time to be all that you dream of being. Don't wait, you may be afraid. You may feel like you're not ready, but don't wait. Take that first step. Start now. I was thinking about back when I was an amateur triathlete and I had set this goal that I needed to win the amateur world championships.

If I were to turn pro, like I couldn't turn pro unless I won the amateur world championship. And on that day I came in third. And I went to the beach that afternoon and Karen's Myers. She was like the best athlete in the world at that time was on the beach and I congratulated her. She just won the world championship on that day.

And she said, how do you go?  And I told her, I came in third and she said, Oh, that's amazing. Congratulations. And I said, no, you know, I really wanted to turn pro , but I told myself that I had to win that race in order to deserve turning professional. And she said, Siri, don't wait, my God, you you're doing such a great job.

If you turn professional, if you take that step, yes, you're gonna be stretched. You're gonna be pushed. You may be beaten a lot, but it will lift your level. It will make you better. It will push you to be your very best. And so I turned pro, soon after, and it was the best decision, one of the best decisions in my life.

But that the idea is this, that life is an absolute gift. For me, life is a miracle and every single day matters to me. I wanna be all that I can be every single day. Don't wait to love with all your heart. Don't wait to  believe in you and to go after your dreams, don't wait to be the person that you dream of being take that first step today, celebrate you because I'll tell you one thing.

And I realized this more than ever, not just through my career as a triathlete  but getting through this whole experience with leukemia. And  and my bone marrow transplant is that we are so much stronger than we think that we are. We are so much more powerful than we think that we are. Believe in you. Believe in you now.

Believe in the people around you. Don't wait to love with all your heart. Don't wait to give your heart to someone else. Don't wait to throw everything you have into your dream. Yes, you may falter. Yes. You may be disappointed once in a while. Yes. You may fail once in a while, but that is all a part of succeeding.

We must fail to succeed because that's how we learn and that's how we grow. So it may seem scary, but today this moment, take one step towards living that life you dream of and being that person that you know that you are and that you know, that you wanna be. And that person that you can share with this world. Start now, life is a gift.

Every moment should be cherished. Believe in you believe in what's possible. I love you all. Hey. Six months... I believed in this woman and I got vulnerable and I gave her my heart. I gave her my soul because I've never loved anyone on the planet as much as I love her. And it was the best risk I could have ever taken.

It was scary. But look what I have now, my soulmate and the love of my life. So six months post bone marrow transplant. Live life to the fullest start now. Believe in you. We love you. We love you. Thank you for giving my wife such great inspiration and encouragement. You guys are awesome. I wouldn't have done it without you.

Thank you for your beautiful support and, we love you guys. Love heals. We love you.

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Say, you're going to go run 10K. You've been working hard on this. You've been training hard and you've got these high expectations and you personally go out and you'd go as hard as you can and you plan it perfectly. You do everything right, but you fall short of what you hoped for.

Now. I can imagine that you get down on yourself.

You get upset with yourself. You get, you're disappointed and you tell yourself, darn, what did I do wrong? How could I fail like that? But now imagine that your beloved has done the same thing and they've gone out and they've given it everything they have, their heart and soul and they planned it perfectly.

They gave it everything they had and they fell short of their goal. How would you speak to them? What would you say to them? Would you talk to them the same way that you spoke to yourself about your disappointment? I doubt it. I bet you would say you did great, you gave it everything you had, you planned it perfectly. 

Next time we're going to get it.  Next time you're going to make it. We need to speak to ourselves as we would our most beloved. And that means our husband or wife, our parents, our kids, our best friends. Because it is so important that we are our own biggest supporter in life, that we believe in ourselves, that we love ourselves, that we celebrate ourselves, that we encourage ourselves.

I've learned this more than ever over the last six months. I needed to be my own biggest supporter to make it through this and in other situations, imagine, you know, you've got a bad habit and you can't seem to quit, whatever it is, whether it be drinking or smoking or drinking coffee or OCD, whatever it is, this bad habit.

Instead being hard on yourself and saying, Oh, I'm so how come I'm so weak? How come I can't fix this? What would you say to someone that you love with all your heart? You'd be encouraging. You'd try to find a solution. You'd be there to help them to let them know that they have everything they need inside of them to eliminate this habit. Treat yourself in the same way.

Love yourself, encourage yourself, believe in yourself in the same way. It is so incredibly important. I hope this helps everyone. Have an amazing day and I'll see you during the next Bed Head Chronicle.

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Cause it was really hard. And that got me thinking, and I'm just so grateful. I just start crying, you know, looking around me at, you know, any little flower or blade of grass or butterfly, and it's just such a miracle to be alive. But in the same note, it made me think how sometimes, you know, I remember how I in the past would. I'd have a big workday and I'd say to myself, oh my God, this is going to be so hard. Or, you know, I've got to do the laundry. This is going to be so hard. I've got to undo the dishwasher. This is going to be so hard. Is it really that hard? Think about the things that you say this same thing too during your day, whether it's you've got a work call or a meeting.

Oh, this is going to be so hard. You make it so hard just by saying. You make it so much more un-enjoyable because of how you're perceiving it and it made me think like doing the dishwasher. Is it really that hard? No, it's not. And God, I feel so grateful that I can unload a dishwasher right now.

Let's not make the things in our lives so difficult.

This is kind of an extension of my Bed Head Chronicle the other day, where, when we say we get to do things, instead of have to do things, it changes our entire experience of whatever it is we're doing. But when you're about to take on any task, whether it's a big task, like running a meeting at your business or having to pay your bills or having to get on the phone with Comcast because your TV is on the Fritz. When you find yourself saying, Oh, this is going to be so hard, ask yourself, is it really that hard? It's not. And your experience of it will be that much nicer because you're not perceiving it to be something so horrible and so daunting.

I hope this helps everyone have an amazing day. I am just so grateful to be alive, this beautiful miracle of life and being able to share my experience with all of you. So blessed to have you all in my life. Have an incredible day, make it amazing and be you.

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Today, I want to talk about the difference between "having" to do something and "getting" to do something.

If there's one incredible lesson that I've learned through cancer, it's that when you have been given this gift of life, and I have been given this miraculous gift of life, I am alive and I get to live and everything that I do, whether it's going to work or working out or everything that I get to do in my life, I get to do this.

It's no longer, I have to go to work or I have to work out, or I have to do this, and it's this chore. It's a gift. Everything I get to do because I'm alive is an absolute gift. I want to share this with you because so often I hear people say, "Oh, I have to go to work and oh I have to work out."

And it makes the experience something that becomes a chore. It becomes work. It becomes un-enjoyable. But if you just shift your focus to, I get to go to work, I get to work out. I get to take care of my body. I get to take care of the people around me. It changes the entire energy and changes the entire experience for you to something that is enjoyable.

It's a gift. It's something you appreciate. It's something you embrace. So please look at this in your own life. And when you find yourself saying that you have to do something, try and look upon it as, wow. I get to do this. See how that changes your entire experience of whatever it is that you're doing.

Life is a gift. It's an absolute miraculous gift. Embrace every moment and make it what you dream it to be. Have an amazing day.

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And I'm marveling at the beauty of this planet. And when someone goes by the other way, and I wave and we smile that beautiful feeling of connection. I just feel so blessed to be alive. And I want to thank all of you because your love, your support, your belief in me has helped me heal. So thank you everyone.

I just really wanted to share this moment with you because every single moment of this bike ride has been the ultimate gift of joy. I love you all so much. Have an amazing 4th of July weekend and thank you. We're all alive and life is so good. God is so good. Thank you.

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[00:00:27] But in the beginning, I've felt like I needed to do something absolutely extraordinary to be worthy of feeling good about myself or feeling accomplished or feeling successful. Does it take achieving something monumental before you even give yourself credit for a job well done? Or do you celebrate each step forward each small victory along the way?

[00:00:57] Think about it. And how easy do you make it for that feeling of accomplishment or success to be stripped away from you? For example, someone I know in my life does an amazing job in their job, like just does an incredible job and everybody loves her and the reviews are just awesome all the time. And one day she got a bad review.

[00:01:21] One day. Did she focus on the thousands of other people? That it said what a wonderful job she had done or did she focus on that one negative comment? She was really focusing on that one negative comment. And that made me think about this, that we really need to build upon our successes to build up our confidence, to build up our pride in what we're doing every day.

[00:01:49] Because every day you've been taking one step forward. Is a great victory and his progress and something to feel proud about. And that will give you added strength and added confidence moving forward and really build upon that. But also let's make it a little bit easier to feel proud of ourselves, to feel accomplished, to feel successful.

[00:02:12] Instead of, if you're an athlete saying when I win that big, huge race, that's when I'll feel successful. How about you say every time I take one step closer or I get a little bit faster, I finish, you know, a little bit higher up in the standings. Feel that success feel accomplished, feel proud of that because that's going to give you the confidence to build up to that ultimate win that ultimate success that you're looking for.

[00:02:43] Let's make it easier for ourselves to build confidence, to feel proud, to feel accomplished because when you do that, you are building up a strength inside. That's going to allow you to achieve that much more. Celebrate the small victories. Everybody have an amazing week. Thank you for tuning in, and I can't wait to see you next time.

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At this point, everything is en-grafting. My new immune system is taking place in my body and I am now well into my recovery from the transplant and I am so deeply grateful. I had two donors. I had my sister who facilitated the umbilical cord donor that came in and basically has taken over my entire system.

And now my immune system is that, this miraculous gift from that umbilical cord donor. So I am so deeply grateful to reach this point in my recovery. It truly means that I am on my way to full health. And as you all know, from a week ago, when I announced that I am cancer-free, it's the greatest, most miraculous gift in the world.

Life is such a miraculous gift. This has been the greatest challenge of my life. I mean, I have had some incredibly dark moments. Um, I have experienced things that I, you know, I look back and I actually started crying the other night because I thought when I looked back at some of the things that I've been through over the last six months, I don't even know how I had the courage and the bravery and the strength to get through it.

but I'm so proud of myself, uh, to know that I found a way to know that I found that strength. I found that courage. I found that bravery and I made it through, I think in life we underestimate how powerful we are as human beings. We underestimate our bravery. We underestimate our strength. We underestimate the power of our heart, our soul, the power of what we believe in the power of what we want.

And if there's one thing I've learned from this, I know that in the beginning and I made the decision when I was diagnosed with acute myeloid leukaemia, I knew what the statistics were. I made the decision that I am going to triumph over this. I am going to conquer this cancer. I have so much life to live.

I have so much more to give to this world. I have so much loving to do. And I knew that I wanted another 50 years, at least of living to be able to touch lives, make a difference, live this life and be grateful. And I made that decision. And when we make that decision, when we know that there is no alternative, that is what we want.

That is what we're going to create. Then no matter what comes your way, you find the resilience, you find the strength, you find the courage to get through it and to get through it bravely, no matter how far I felt, no matter how sick I felt, no matter how scary it got, no matter how much it hurt. I never wavered from knowing.

That I am going to triumph over this. I am going to be victorious and I'm going to live a very long life. It's making that decision and if you're not dealing with something like this, you can, this, this applies to anything in life. It's making a decision. So you have a dream of accomplishing something in your life and you make the decision that you will not stop until you achieve this goal.

That is making a decision that is commitment. And that means that no matter whether you fail or you get disappointed that you will change your approach or find it another way, you'll figure it out and you will keep moving forward until you make that dream come true. Or until you accomplish that, what you dream of accomplishing when you make that decision, it is so incredibly powerful.

You begin manifesting creating that. And nothing will get in your way. And it allows you to tap into all the strike, tap in all the power inside of you to do whatever it takes to achieve that ultimate goal. Making that decision is everything. That's what leads to building your strength, building up your resilience.

I've made my decision. I'm cancer-free now, and I'm the most grateful. Grateful human on the planet. I praise God every day for this miraculous gift of life. And I know that I have so much more to give this world and to give all of you and to give those around me, make a decision and it can be something as small as another decision that I've made in my life is I don't want to suffer.

I don't like suffering. I don't like being uncomfortable. So in every moment, if I find myself in a state of suffering, I find a way out, I look for solutions. I'm not focusing on the problem of suffering and whatever it is I'm going through. I'm focusing on, okay, what are my possible solutions here? I'm going to change my focus.

All the things I learned from Tony Robbins, I'm going to change my focus. I'm going to change what this means to me. I'm going to reframe this in a way that gives me strength and makes me feel good. This has been a really tough time for everyone in the world today. It's hard. It's scary. It creates anxiety, but if you want to feel better, choose to feel better.

Choose not to suffer, choose to find the gifts in every day. Choose to find meaning in this, that we will all come out of this better than ever before, with a greater understanding, with a different perspective, that's going to allow us to live even more fulfilling lives. Make the decision on a small scale from deciding that you're not going to suffer and you want to be happy or you want to be as comfortable as possible to a big decision of, I will try them.

But make that decision. And then in every moment, recognize and acknowledge the thoughts that you're having, the way that you're thinking and make sure that those thoughts are aligning with what you want. Discipline your mind, discipline your focus, discipline the way that you give meaning to things and make sure that what you're focusing on the meaning you're giving things is empowering you and making you feel good and helping you move forward on the path towards achieving your ultimate dreams and goals.

Thank you for being here with me on this journey, your love, your thoughts, your prayers, your support. it's meant everything to me. Love heals. It truly does. And knowing that you have all these people supporting you and believing in you and believing that you can make it through believing that you can achieve something, just believing in you in general.

It's the greatest gift in the world, so thank you all. I love you have an amazing Day and just thank you.

Thanks so much to Ironman for this interview and allowing us to share.

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I am here in the hospital with my amazing wife, Bek, whose been by my side every second. I'm so deeply grateful.

But I was thinking today about how, especially in tough times or if we're experiencing something we don't want to be experiencing, we learn what we do want in life or where we want to go oftentimes by experiencing that which we don't want, that which we don't enjoy.

So, part of those bad experiences is to remind you of the good that you want in your life. What you want to feel. The joy you want to feel.

And it's so important in every moment to know exactly where you want to go. Where are you know? But where do you ultimately want to be? And envision yourself there. See and feel yourself there.

I see myself vital, healthy, and strong and fit. I see myself back doing the things I love and helping people, touching lives, and making a difference in the world. And I think about that all the time. I feel the sensation of what it will feel like to be doing that again -- how strong and vital and healthy I feel. I sit in those feelings and recreate it so I know exactly what I'm working for every single day.

So, have a vision. We all know that in life, having a vision is so crucial. Know what you want in life, whether it's joy, health, happiness, peace or connection, success, prosperity, or abundance. But have a vision in your life. Not just what you want to achieve, but how you want to feel, who you want to be surrounded with, how you want to make the people you love feel, how you want to make the people around you feel. Have a vision.

I know my vision is what gives me so much strength every single day. Through the good days and the bad days, my vision and my knowing what I'm working towards, where I'm headed and where I'm going gives me so much strength and so much hope.

Thank you so much, everyone, and have an amazing day.

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I'm here today. I'm sorry. I've kind of lost my voice a little bit. Some of the things that happen when you have a bone marrow transplant or you're going through something like this, it's quite a long recovery process. I get a lot of sores inside my mouth. And I've been struggling quite a bit with lack of appetite, just not wanting to eat, having no taste. Yet knowing that we all need to care for our bodies like, they're a Rolls Royce, not a rental car, right?

Treat your body with love. Give it everything that it needs to be healthy and to be strong and to be vital has always been my attitude. So not having an appetite for the last four months has been really hard on me cause I'm losing quite a bit of weight and it's frustrating. And a lot of that has to do with nausea and vomiting, which I'll have to tell you, I had a phobia my entire life. Literally since as long as I can remember. And that phobia was of vomiting. It used to put me into a frenzy of anxiety. It would give me a panic attack if I saw someone that was doing it, if I heard that somebody had done it, if I thought about it happening, or if I saw it in a TV show or in a movie. Like it literally would bring me to a panic attack.

So going into this whole process was super scary for me because I knew that that was kind of going to be a reality in my life. Nausea and vomiting is something that when you go through chemotherapy and all the kinds of treatments that I'm going through, it's just kind of a given.

So one of the things I'm so proud of is that I have been able to overcome that phobia. I've had to, I had no choice. What did they say? Being strong when strong is, is all you have to be.

So anyways, I've had a few tough days. but we all know that, this is a long process and I'm so deeply grateful to be home with my horses and my dogs, and my cat and my incredible wife, with my mom right down the street who comes and walks with me every day. It's been an absolute, total blessing and miracle to be home at this time.

So what happened yesterday?

I want to share this with you because I think it's so important that we all -- and I ask all of you, you know, especially now in these really tough times, it's so much easier to hold on to our biggest fears and our anxieties and to sit there. And I talked about this the other day, but it also really hurts us and it makes things harder and it makes the whole situation worse. So we know better than to sit in those emotions of fear and anxiety, and to get out of that space by focusing on something we can be grateful for, doing something that makes us happy, doing something for another, loving another, thinking about another. So I've been focusing on all of these things as well. And I really have had a tough week this week, but yesterday I had a bunch of tests done and it was great news all around. I had a great blood test results even if I was feeling crappy. I had, my viral panel was completely negative. I have no viruses. They tested me for COVID. I don't have COVID. So it was an amazing day of incredible results. Right? Like just incredible results, which I was so grateful for and so happy.

But I also have this lingering, this greatest challenge that's going on with me, and that is this whole appetite and trying to eat -- forced myself to eat basically, which for me, I'm one of the biggest food lovers in the world. I love my food. It's like my favorite thing. So for me to not have an appetite and to not want to eat and to have to kind of force myself has been one of the biggest challenges of my life, really. I know that sounds kind of silly, but it has been.

But anyways, so I was thinking about it yesterday. I had all this great news, this amazing news, and it was a really snowy day. We got a foot and a half of snow. And I noticed that I wasn't fully feeling the joy and the gratitude of the great news that I got that was such a relief and such. To get great news like that is something that lifts your spirits and changes your whole day. Right?

But I realized that I was still holding on to this challenge of really stressing about my appetite and food. And wanting to put weight on so that I can be strong and healing. So I woke up this morning and I decided I'm going to have a great day today because I know everything's moving in the right direction.

My body knows exactly what it needs to do to restore itself to perfect health. It's a beautiful day. The sun is shining. I've got my wife beside me. I've got my health to the extent that I do, and I thought, my whole life, I've kind of, I've achieved a lot, which I'm very grateful for. But I've achieved a lot by pushing myself, pushing myself, forcing myself, doing whatever it takes to get it done and making sure I do it right and leaving no stone unturned. And that has served me so well.

But in this situation right now, I feel like I need more flow. I feel like I need to surrender a bit more. I need to, except a bit more where I'm at and the fact that I'm gonna take two steps forward and a step back, and I'm going to have good days and bad days. I'm going to have challenges that really pushed me to my highest potential. These challenges that when I overcome them are only going to give me more to share with the world, more to talk about, more to share with others that can make a big difference in the world.

So. I decided that what I wanted to talk about today, and I want you to think about in your life, the things that you have achieved to this point. Has it been through force or through flow? And by flow I mean just enjoying it and being present and being grateful and being at peace. And most of the time I live my life that way. But this has been the biggest challenge in my life, and there's been a lot of other challenges added to it that makes it a lot harder to discipline ourselves, to live in that beautiful state.

But ask yourself the things that you've accomplished to this point have been done by force or with flow. And imagine how much better it would feel to be more in a flow state. You can recognize and be the observer of those thoughts that get in the way of you being happy and get in the way of you being at your best. Observed them.

Like I said last week, love yourself through them. But just let them pass by and then come back to the present moment and think about what can I do for another right now? How can I show love to the person next to me? What can I be grateful for? What things can I be proud of about myself right now? What things make me happy? Even if it's something super simple.

I believe, especially during a time like this, we need to remove that force, that pressure that pressure to have to perform or to have to do something perfectly or it has to be this or to has to be that. Instead, just be. Just be you. Live from your heart. Give from your heart. Believe in you. Love yourself because loving yourself is everything. You must love yourself first before you can love others the way you dream of loving them. Let's get after our lives, and I'd love you to think about this throughout the week. Going through life and handling every situation that comes your way with more flow rather than force. And catch yourself if you are in that force mode, catch yourself. Be kind to yourself. Acknowledge it. Love yourself through it and say, ‘you know what? I'm going to flow through this. I'm going to enjoy this more. Life is short. Every moment counts. And I want to make the most out of every single moment, and I'm going to make this an amazing moment and an amazing day.’

So I was able...

As we know, we're all going through this really crazy time right now, and for a lot of you, and a lot of us, I'm sure you experienced quite a bit of anxiety and worry throughout the day, and maybe fear. I think the important thing to recognize is that that's very human. 

But the other thing to recognize is that we can catch ourselves when we're in these states, and find something else to think about or do that's going to actually make us feel better so that we can go from a suffering state to more of a beautiful state. 

I know when this happens to me, the most important thing is that you recognize and acknowledge. Okay, right now I am in a state of anxiety and worrying about this. I'm feeling fearful about that and don't judge it. Let's get rid of any 'I should be thinking this or I shouldn't be thinking that'. Instead, just be an observer of your emotions. As we observe our states and emotions, we actually lessen the power of those emotions over us just by acknowledging them and loving ourselves through it. And basically what I do at that moment is I recognize and acknowledge that I'm in a state of worry or I'm in a state of fear and I make a decision. I make a decision to focus on the present and focus on looking out the window at something beautiful and thinking a good thought and reframing perhaps whatever thought I was having in my head that was causing me to worry or stress. 

What are you doing to make yourself feel better when you're stuck in a moment or a period of feeling worried or fearful or anxious? What are you doing to pull yourself out of it? 

Because I strongly recommend and encourage you not to sit there. I encourage you to recognize when you're there. Acknowledge it then love yourself through it. Be an observer of your emotions and then make a conscious decision to feel better.

So, what I do is I'll go outside and I'll go for a walk or I'll go look at the horses or I'll write a note to someone that I love and tell them I love them or I'll say a prayer or there's this amazing practice called the Serene Mind Practice. You can look that up online. If you read this book, The Four Sacred Secrets, it's just the most incredible book. It gives you so many amazing tools on how to live in a beautiful state and how to get out of this suffering states and live our lives in a place of peace and presence and joy and love and compassion. So what happens with me if I get overly fearful or anxious in a moment and it's starting to really affect me physically is I will acknowledge it. I'll love myself through it. And then I will take three deep breaths and I will imagine this burning flame right in the center of my forehead between my eyes and think centering thoughts and beautiful thoughts and it calms me down and brings me into a place of presence and the feeling usually passes. 

Now, we're all going to be going through this month during the day. We're going to have moments of anxiety and worry and fear. It's totally human right now. But we don't have to sit there. It's a choice. How you feel like a choice. 

I know for me I don't like feeling bad. I want to feel good. I want to feel happy in as many moments as possible. I want my wellness and my health to be and it's optimum at every moment. And in order to do that, we need to really watch the thoughts that we're having in the states that were sitting in. So choose to do something that's going to make you feel better to turn on some amazing music. Do meditation. There are so many incredible meditations out there. Go out for a walk. Write to someone that you love. Change your mindset and focus on what you have, not on what you don't have. You have your health. You have your loved ones. You have your home. You have things to do every day. You have motivation. You have inspiration. Whatever it is, focus on what you have and be grateful. Feel grateful for all the beauty in your life. Look out the window and see all the beautiful grace. And feel thankful.

Feel thankful for this beautiful world and the birds that are chirping and the rabbits that are running through the grass or whatever you see. Find that place of gratitude. Find that place of love for yourself and love for others, and find a place of peace. Know that you sitting in your worry, anger, or anxiety is not going to help you. It's not gonna help anyone around you. It's human, so acknowledge it. Be an observer of your feelings. And when you do that -- when you love yourself through it, those emotions will have a lot less power over you. But make the decision to feel good. Make the decision to be happy. Make the decision to not sit in a suffering state and do whatever you can to bring yourself into a beautiful state, which not only serves you but also all those around you.

I love you all so much. Have an amazing day. I'm praying for all those on the front lines and all of you. Know how much I love you and how grateful I am. 

Today, I had the most amazing news. This is another example of finding the gift in the struggle. Obviously, this whole Coronavirus has been a really scary thing for all of us. Especially me, having just had my transplant five weeks ago, and being easily compromised -- it's been really scary.

I had been living in an apartment in Denver, Colorado -- a beautiful apartment. My mom and my wife have been taking the most amazing care of me. The other day I got a call saying that I would be much safer being at my ranch.

There's a rule that says I have to be very close to the hospital for 100 days after my transplant. But, now that all this Coronavirus stuff is happening, when I brought up that I thought it would be a lot safer at home on the ranch where we never see another person, the doctors all agreed.

Yesterday, I got to come home. So, I'm going to be doing my 100 days and beyond, here at home, with my animals. My wife has just been crazily been cleaning the house and cleaning the carpets and taking such great care of me as my mom has been. And the two of them -- I know for sure that even being away from the hospital, I know this is going to accelerate my healing and allow me to truly get stronger and healthier and closer to that ultimate and permanent cure to all of this.

So, maybe, you are also finding the gift within the struggle. What is that gift? Is the gift that you are spending more time with your loved ones or more time with your dog? Is the gift that you have time at home so you can take care of projects that you've been procrastinating on or waiting to do for a long, long time? 

Find the gift in all of this. Because when you focus on the gift, the joy or something to be grateful for, it really does relieve a lot of the fears and anxiety that is coming from this time.

So, for all of you, just know that I feel so deeply blessed. I feel so incredibly happy to be home with my wife, my dogs, my horses, my mom right down the street, and with the opportunity to heal to my fullest capabilities. This has been the hardest thing I've ever been through in my entire life. It truly has been. But I've learned so much. I've learned so much about myself. I've learned so much about others. As I build up more energy, I can't wait to start doing more Bed Head Chronicles to share my experiences.

But to all of you, I'm thinking of you. Stay safe. Do all the right things. Take care of yourself. Take care of your loved ones. Know that I love you all so much. I appreciate you all so much. I hope you have an amazing day.

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Now I'm here at UC Health with my amazing mom who has not left my side for weeks, and I'm getting a blood transfusion. So this is kind of our life right now. 

We moved into an apartment, which is beautiful. We love it. It's in Denver. We get to go for really nice walks every single day in this beautiful park that's right outside the apartment. And I've been coming into outpatient every single day to get blood work done -- transfusion if needed, platelet transfusion if needed. And all of this, right now, is just waiting for my beautiful new cord cells to create an amazing new immune system inside of me and make its beautiful home inside my body and strengthen and get healthier and healthier every single day. That's the goal. That's a plan.

And, in times like these where there are a lot of fears about obviously the virus and all of these things, it can get really, really scary. But what I know is that when I get scared, it doesn't help me. So it's important to just stay calm, keep tranquility inside your mind and think positive. Just know that you're doing everything in your power to be as healthy as you can be and that you're doing everything right. And as long as you control what you're doing and protect yourself you gotta just know and have faith that you're going to be okay. 

But I want to thank this woman right here. She's been my absolute rock. My amazing mom has not left my side and. a journey like this, that I'm on, you can't do alone. And my wife, Bek, of course, is absolutely amazing. She's had to stay home with her mom who had a bit of a, cold and so we had to stay separate, but I'm going to get to see her today.

But hold your family members tight. Let them know how much you love them. Let them know how much you cherish them. Let them know how much you celebrate them. Because, yeah, their best things in the world. So thank you and I love you with all my heart.

And to all of you, I am every single day doing my best to get stronger and healthier and better every single day. And I thank you for your prayers and your thoughts. They mean the world to me and I love you all so, so much. So thank you for thinking of me. Thank you for sending your love. Thank you for sending your prayers. Stay healthy, stay strong, stay positive. Stay full of faith and just do everything right to take care of yourselves and to take care of everyone around you.

I love you all. Thank you.

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I've got my beautiful wife and our home to remind me of what I get to come home to, soon, I hope. This reminds me of what's possible. That was a day where I achieved what seemed like an impossible dream and nothing is impossible. I'm possible. And one more. Another vision board.

So guys, if you're going through a tough time, find ways to motivate yourself. Find ways to inspire yourself. Find ways to change your mindset, change your attitude because a positive attitude and, thinking proactively about an amazing future and joy and peace and calm and just love and fulfillment will get you through anything.

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We're here, day two, and day one of Siri's chemo blast for her STEM cell transplant, and this is -- look at that portrait. That's her horsey. And then that's her family. That is to inspire her through her greatest triumph, yet to come. And we have up her vision board up here. Amazing people that's been a huge part of the Siri's life on here. Doggies there.

A happy life over there. Don't forget that. 

A happy life. And we have...

My love corner. 

Her love corner. There is her own stage and Tony's stages. And Gracie and Vinny, our little angel, and some of the gifts that these amazing people have sent. And here is, the one and only incredible bright princess warrior. My beautiful, beautiful wife.

Hi everyone. It's been a good day. An emotional day. For some reason, I can't stop crying. And it's not that I'm scared. I know I'm going to conquer this. It that there are so many people and animals that I love and care about and that I want to be with every single day. And so being in this room for the next however many days -- 28 days -- and then being further away from our home, it's just really hard and it is scary, you know? I've got two bags of different chemos going into me right now. It's new. I've never done this before, so yeah, it's a little scary. It's a lot of unknowns, but I stick by how I said that I am going to control my mindset and believe that there's another way of getting through this and believe that there is a way that I can get through this conditioning chemo in a way, knowing that this is what is going to make the perfect space for these new STEM cells to live in my body. This is what is necessary in order to have a successful transplant.

When I look at it that way, I am--my goal is just to live in a beautiful state in as many moments as possible. That's my goal. That's my intention. I will do everything in my power to get through this with this little discomfort as possible and stay tuned. I pray that I'll be able to continue on this path because I do think that mindset and love, and it's like I've always said to all of you, love heals, love heals, and part of that is loving yourself.

And one thing that I've come up with on this journey is like what would you do for yourself if you were faced with life or death? How deep would you dig for yourself? How much would you go to bat for yourself? And I'm realizing just how much I love myself because I will do everything in my power to conquer this cancer. And I know that I will. 

So thank you, everyone. I hope to post as much as I can. We'll see how things go. But you are with me in my thoughts.  My friends, my athletes, my family, my animals. Everything that makes me happy. I'm going to do a lot of reading, a lot of meditating, a lot of priming, a lot of praying, and a lot of journaling. And, that's gonna be my time here and a lot of love. My amazing family, my wife and my mom. My mom slept here last night. My wife is sleeping here with me tonight and it makes all the difference in the world. I love you all so much. Thank you. I love you. These are happy tears that I have. All of you. I'm so grateful. I love you.

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So I get admitted into hospital on Friday, and I know I'm going to be there for probably about a month. So what I've done is I've created some vision boards and also some memory boards so that I am constantly reminded of this incredible life that I live and what I hope for in the future because I am going to conquer this cancer.

I have made the decision inside myself that I want to live to be a hundred years old and live a healthy, vibrant, loving, passionate life where I can give so much to this world and truly make a difference. So I want to let you in on the little boards that I've made and thank you to my beautiful wife for taking you on this little tour.

So 'Captain Siri' is because I'm in charge of my destiny and I choose to live. I choose to conquer this cancer and I will live happily ever after with the people that I love and care about, and that makes me feel so alive and so full of joy and peace. And that includes all of you. 

And this next one is kind of an extension. I thought I could get my whole vision board on one board, but that certainly didn't happen. I stopped here at four... But these are all the things I love and care about, and that's family, my animals, my work, what I do, my athletes, things that I love. I love feeling good. I love living from my heart. I love feeling grateful.

And over here, to the things I dream of getting back to. My athletes, my best friends, living my best life. making a difference in this world, being back on my horse, being back running trails with my wife and going to Mexico with my mom and spending time with the people that I love and care about the most in my life. Just being able to make a beautiful difference in this world and to share this life with all of you. And to share my story with all of you, and hopefully, be able to have an impact that makes a beautiful difference in your lives.

And to finish it off, we all have this. And that's proof. This is me achieving what I believed was an impossible dream. But this is me in 2001 actually becoming the world champion and number one triathlete in the world. This was a dream come true. This is proof to me that I have everything I need inside of me to make what seems impossible now possible. And that is concrete in this cancer and living a long, healthy, amazing life to a hundred years old. Happy, healthy, and thriving in my life.

So thank you, everyone, for being a part of my journey. Love heals everyone. Your love, your support, your prayers are helping me heal. Thank you. I love you all so much.

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I'm here with my superhero wife, Rebecca, and we are driving to UC Health for my second cycle bone marrow biopsy and lumbar puncture, which we're praying are going to look really good so that I am clear to be admitted into the hospital on Friday for my bone marrow transplant on the 21st.

In the same moment, in another car, my mom, who was also my hero, and my amazing sister, Lisa, who is my donor. My sister has to go in today for seven to nine hours of having her STEM cells pulled from her blood, her blood returned into her body, and this continual process of pulling STEM cells out of her body to be put in mine. And what's going to happen on the 21st is that I will have two donors, my sister, and an umbilical cord --some beautiful lady who had a baby girl has donated her umbilical cord to me. I'm so deeply grateful. And so it's a big day today. It's a big day. It's a big week. it's a big, big road ahead. Beckie, what do you have to say?

I just want to say thank you to everybody that supported my beautiful wife. That's very close to my face, Bubba. I want to say thank you to my wife for just how strong and brave and unbelievable she's being. She just, I can't even express how proud I am of her. I wouldn't have been this bright. I thought I was pretty brave, but she is just shown such courage and such productivity, and she'd be at work every day and living, and I'm so proud of her and her sister Lisa, who not only hates hospitals, she hates needles. And she's giving her time and she's given her life to helping my wife's life. So it's pretty amazing. 

Thanks, Beckie. To my superhero wife. My incredible sister, my incredible mom, my horses, my dogs, and my cat. To my dear friends, you know who you are and all of you -- love heals, everybody. Love truly heals. You have all filled my heart. I feel your prayers. I feel your thoughts. I feel your love and it keeps me strong and keeps me brave and keeps me courageous. And most importantly. It makes me so incredibly determined and absolutely certain that I will conquer this cancer because I have so much more work to do in this world. I have so much more love to give and I have so much more joy to experience. So to all of you, thank you. I love you. I'm praying that today goes amazingly well and we can move forward and I can be back in the world with all of you sharing love and light. And living this incredible gift of life that we've all been blessed with.

We love you.

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Today, I want to offer up a thought for you because this is something I try and do in my life. I want you to love yourself so much that you only allow yourself to think thoughts that feel good. Basically choosing your own energy level every second of every day, no matter what's going on around you. Really pay attention to what you're feeling and your emotions and decide what you really want to feel in that moment.
 

I'll start by using an example of my athletes when they're training really hard or they're in the middle of a race. And what I always say to them is, you want it to hurt. Because when it hurts, it means that you're going fast. It means that you're having an amazing session. It means that you're having an amazing race. Going fast hurts. So you want to make it hurt. Okay. So I changed the emotion behind that pain or what they would initially find as a struggle when they're working that hard to keep up or to get to the front of a race. And saying appreciate that and acknowledge that as something that's great. Something that is strengthening you, something that means that you are doing great.

But in another sense, you know, I'm thinking about next week, I get admitted into the hospital and I'll be there for the first week doing a very intense, induction chemotherapy and radiation, which is going to be tough on my body, of course. And then I go into my transplant, but the way I'm seeing this is that the first week of induction chemo and radiation is going to make this perfect home for this new bone marrow transplant. It is creating a space so that I can have true, complete and permanent healing.

So this, what I'm going to be going through... who says that I have to suffer? Who says that I have to be in agony or exhausted or feel sick or feel terrible? Who says that that is what has to happen? I'm choosing, and we'll see how this pans out, but I am choosing to make this an experience where I will know that this medicine going into me is what's creating the perfect home for this transplant, which is going to save my life.

And I know that if I go in with my -- my goal every day is to want to live in a beautiful state in as many moments as possible. I learned that through Tony Robbins. It has absolutely changed my life because I choose the energy frequency I want to live. I choose the energy level I want to have no matter what I'm going through.

But if I choose to live in a beautiful state in as many moments as possible, then how will that change my experience of this thing that's meant to be so horrible? What if changing our mindset or changing our belief about something can actually make the experience something totally different? 

I played around with this. I had gone through two cycles of this amazing clinical trial. In the first cycle, the first week I was on a chemo drug and the second drug, Venetoclax, and I felt pretty sick that whole first week. And then you have three more weeks of, not the chemo drug, but the pills and that all worked out fine. My attitude was really good. 

In the second cycle, I had to go through the chemo drug again with this Venetoclax, and I thought, who says that I have to feel sick? Who says that I have to be nauseous? Who says that I have to feel, you know, exhausted all the time? Who says that? Whose truth is that?
 

What if in my mind, I say that I am going to feel as well as possible. If I start feeling nauseated, I'm going to go out for a walk or I'm going to go do something that takes my mind off of it. I'm going to fill my heart with something that I love. I'm going to fill myself in everything that brings me joy and happiness and vitality and energy. So that's exactly what I did on that first week.
  

Right, when I started to feel really bad, I would go do something that would fill me in another way, whether that was mentally, emotionally, or physically, and I had a great week. And this whole second cycle has been really pretty amazing. I felt pretty amazing for what I'm going through.

So my thought here is that what if, no matter what you're going through, what if every struggle or every challenge that you are faced with or that you were immersed in, that if you decided that you were going to live in a beautiful state, no matter what, and as many moments as possible that you were going to redefine what everybody thinks you should be feeling going through a certain experience? What if you could do that and change your entire experience of that situation or that challenge?

So again, I go back to what I said in the beginning. Love yourself so much that you only allow yourself to think thoughts that make you feel good. That you reframe things to make you feel good. I don't know about you, but I love feeling good. I don't like feeling bad. So I am gonna find every way possible when I'm not feeling good to turn that around into something that will allow me to feel some joy, some peace, some happiness, some comfort.

Now, sometimes that means going from feeling really horrible to not so bad, but other times you can go from feeling bad to actually feeling great. So open your mind to this possibility. Open your mind to the fact that we are so powerful. We are powerful beyond measure in our minds and our hearts and our souls. Create the reality that you want to live. Create your experience of life. Be in control of the energy levels that you choose. Be in control of the thoughts that you think. Being in control of creating the life that you dream of. 

Thank you, everyone, and have an amazing day.

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Today, I want to talk about death and dying. Yes, I know, it's a horrible thought. But think about it...whenever we are faced with the prospect of our own lives ending, or someone we love either dying or being faced with the possibility of death, what it does is that it inspires us.

It inspires us to work to live our lives to its fullest potential. It inspires us to want to surround ourselves with love. It inspires us to live every moment, not only doing the things we love but enjoying and appreciating everyone around us.

When we reflect upon death, I believe it helps us to set our priorities straight. We realize what really matters and what we should be giving our time, energy and attention to. We start thinking about presence. We start thinking about releasing fear, worries and the need to control things. We start focusing on wanting to live every moment our fullest potential -- with joy, love, and total presence. We start appreciating every single moment, person and interaction.

Ask yourself: how would you live your life, today, if you only had one week left to live? How would you live your life? What would you change? What would you get rid of?

I bet you wouldn't spend time worrying and obsessing over things that really don't matter. I bet you would want to love more and give more and be more present with those that you care about. I bet you would want to give more of yourself so people would remember you -- what you gave, what you taught them and how you inspired them. All these things -- that is the gift. That is the gift in reflecting on death and dying.

I'm not sitting here talking about this because I plan on this. Sure, one day, when I'm over 100, then this will be something I will deal with. But I am fully determined -- I have made my decision that I am conquering this cancer. I will be back because I have so much more that I want to do in this lifetime. But what I can tell you is that being faced with this disease, all I want is to be fully present in every single moment with my wife, mom, pets, animals, athletes, and friends. I want to be fully present. I want to give with all my heart. I want to be able to receive. I want to be surrounded by love, gratitude, and appreciation. I want to let go of all my fears, worries and trying to control things. I just want to live fully and beautifully.

So, contemplate on that today. Try to live your life in that way always. Imagine the joy and fulfillment that you'll experience.

Thank you and have an amazing day!

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Today, I want you to think about what are the rules that you set for yourself for things like being able to feel proud? Or being able to feel joy? What does it take for you -- or what do you have to accomplish in order to feel proud of yourself? Is it having to accomplish some long-held dream or goal that you've had? Or is it smiling at a stranger that makes you feel proud of yourself?

I want you to think about how easy, or how hard, you make it for yourself to feel certain good feelings that we all deserve to feel. Joy, for example. Do you allow yourself to feel joy by watching a butterfly fly by? Do you allow yourself to feel joy by finding a feather at your feet as you're out for a walk? Or does it take accomplishing a huge goal that you had? Or does it take having something magnificent happen to you or to someone that you love?

How easy or how hard do you make it feel these incredible feelings of joy, pride, happiness -- whatever it is -- these feelings that we all deserve to feel all the time.

I'm someone who just experienced such deep joy by having my horse see me on the other side of the pasture and walk towards me. Or being out on a run or walk and smiling and saying hello to someone I pass that might not seem happy. When they smile back at me, it brings me joy.

I feel proud when I think of something that is going to help me or help another. I feel proud when I'm able to turn a bad situation into a good situation. I feel proud when my dogs are well behaved when a neighbor comes over.

These are the things -- I make it really easy for myself to feel proud of myself. Or to feel happy and joyful. We all deserve to feel these amazing feelings -- and it's right there in front of us!

It's kind of like 'Grace'. Grace is something a lot of people think or wonder they will see or experience at some point. But all you have to do is look out the window. Grace is everywhere. Just the fact that we are here. We've got these beautiful beating hearts in our chest that keep us alive and allow us to live this beautiful gift of life. Grace is everywhere if you open your eyes to it.

Let's think about the rules that we have for ourselves and make it easier for ourselves to feel joy and pride in ourselves. To be able to acknowledge that we did a good job in something, even if that something is super small. Let's make it easier to enjoy and appreciate and truly happy, in good times or bad, because we have this incredible gift of life. Let's live it the way we dream of living it. It's totally up to you.

Thank you, everyone. Have an amazing day.

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What if that moment of loneliness is an invitation for you to connect with yourself? To connect with your soul, the things that you love, the things that you dream of or are proud of, or the things you wonder about in the world? What if that loneliness isn't necessarily a bad thing? What if it was a reminder or invitation to connect with yourself on a deeper level?

I know throughout this process, I've had so many opportunities to connect deeper with myself. And I have had some of the most powerful moments I could ever imagine with myself. Again, that means getting out of your head and getting into your heart. Thinking about why life matters to you -- the things that you love, that light up your soul, or dream and wonder about, the things that you want to create in your life. Connecting to your soul and getting a real sense for what life is or has been about -- what you want your legacy to be in the future and what matters to you.

These moments, connecting to my soul at a deeper level, have been so powerful for me.

A common feeling for a lot of us is that feeling of we're not enough or we're not loved. Or that we have to do things, give something or be something to be loved. But the fact of the matter is we ARE loved. We were put on this Earth because we were loved. And we are loved by all of those around us.

These feelings that we're not enough or not loved are all coming from the mind.

But when you connect deeper with your heart and soul, you come to realize just how loved you are. Not just by those around you, but also by the one you believe created you. I know I am loved by the God and Universe that I believe in. You come to recognize and feel the truth and certainty of how loved you are, and how special you are. But I truly believe that the love we all crave the most is our own. Our own affirmation. Our own self-belief. Our own love and devotion and unconditional love. That desire for ourselves to treat us the way we dream of being treated. With love and kindness and acknowledgment. Feeling seen, heard and appreciated by our selves is so incredibly important.

Often times, we think or know that we're good enough if someone else says that we are. Or if you get a certain grade on a test, a certain result on a race or even achieve a certain something. That is what will let us know if we're good enough or not. And we get stuck in this place even though the only affirmation that we need is from ourselves.

It's when YOU know. You can look at every action that you've taken and the good intention behind it. How hard you worked, the effort you put in, the attitude that you give, the intention that you have or the presence that you've given others -- feel grateful for that. Acknowledge, appreciate and love yourself for that. The affirmation that we all need the most is from ourselves. And I truly do believe that the love that we crave the most is our own.

So, take those moments where you might think that you're lonely. It's not necessarily loneliness. You are craving your own attention and love. You are craving to get to know yourself better and have a deep connection with you.

I hope this makes sense. I woke up thinking this and I wanted to share it. I really hope that there's something in this that matters to you. I felt really drawn to share this message because it has been changing my life on a daily basis. I'm taking that time to truly connect with my heart, soul, self-belief, and love for myself. So I hope that you'll all do the same.

Thank you, everyone, and have a wonderful day.

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Have you ever had a day where you started thinking, "Ugh, it's going to be such a hard day... Ugh, these things that I have to deal with...these people that are problems..." And inevitably, it's a hard day.

The energy that you put out there -- the experience is going to vibrate and match that vibration you're putting out and send you the same vibration.

In the journey I'm currently on, I recognize that the energy and vibration I put out every day are going to match the experience that I get back. Every day I wake up and think about how I'm going to live this day. I'm going to feel as good as possible and live in a beautiful state. And I felt amazingly well for what I'm going through...and it's all about our energy.

When you're thinking, try and recognize and acknowledge the thoughts that you're having. If those thoughts are making you feel down and heavy, change that thought and bring that vibration up. Instead of saying, "Ugh, I'm meeting with all these people today. It's going to be a hard day." Try, "I'm meeting with all these people that really challenge me. They are bringing out the best in me, and I'm going to learn a lot through dealing with them."

Or, if you have a hard task at hand that isn't enjoyable, you can say, "I'm looking forward to challenging myself to take this on because I know it's going to take me to a place of strength."

Whether it's in regards to a family member or friend that comes to you talking about the hard time they are feeling and brings you down, just consider it an opportunity to help this person change their own vibration and energy. Help them see results that match that new higher energy, greater results, and happier times.

One of the things that I'm doing, that a great friend of mine, Mary Ghertz, reminded me of something I did when I was an athlete. When I first started triathlon, I remember I got this cover of Triathlete Magazine and Karen Myers had just won the World Championship and she's running and the title was 'On Top of the World'.

I took this cover -- sorry Karen, but I took this cover and I put my face on her body and I created a vision board around it. Exactly eight years later, my cover came out and the title was 'On Top of the World.'  There was me and my body and I had just won the world championship.

This is a form of a vision board and my friend Mary reminded me of the power of these vision boards. So what I've done --  I've got about 15 magazines and I'm cutting out words that energetically resonate with me. Words like "beauty," "strength," "travel" and "beautiful sunsets." I also included pictures of the things that I love, like me riding my horse, my beautiful wife and I up on top of a mountain after running up to the top, my family, my mom and I on the beach in Mexico. And on this board, I'm putting all the things that I know I will be doing in the future. My favorite things that I know I'm going to be sharing with the people I love most in this lifetime. Pictures of me up on stage and doing what fills my heart with so much joy and that sharing my story and making a difference in people's lives.

So, this board has everything that I dream of. Everything that I want to create in my future.

So, I encourage all of you, whether you're going through something beautiful in your life right now or you have a challenge ahead. Create your own vision board. Be able to see what is ahead of you. Be able to see the beauty, the magic, the incredibleness of this beautiful gift of life that you personally are creating through your thoughts, your energy, and your vibration that you're putting out there. Create this vision board. It is so incredibly powerful. It helped me become a world champion after not even knowing how to swim eight years earlier. It is going to see me conquering cancer.

So, take this on. It's an incredible project. It's a creative project. It's going to connect you to your heart, your soul, your passions, and what you love. It's going to give you so much incredible energy that is going to see you reach that place and be able to enjoy this beautiful, incredible gift of life the way that you dream of.

Thank you, everyone. Have an amazing day.

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So, I now have a clear plan of what my next few months are going to look like. What I've discovered is, probably around February 14th, I will be going into the hospital to get prepared for my stemcell transplant and recover from it. Once I can leave the hospital, which will be about 2-4 weeks after the transplant, I have to live in Denver so that we're in close proximity to the hospital. We've rented an apartment there so we're all set to go, really.

But for those of you who know me, you know this is going to be hard. I'm a home-body. I love my home. I love my animals. I love our horses. I love living on the ranch. We run Believe Ranch n Rescue and take care of 23 horses. And nature is my favorite place in the world to be because it centers me and grounds me.

Obviously, the thought of being in the hospital for up to a month and not being able to go outside is a terrifying thought for me. I'm doing everything in my power to do what I did as an athlete -- leave no stone unturned. That meant I would do everything in my power that could make a difference for me, as an athlete, that I could do. That meant I would do rest and recovery, eat well and eat the right things, do all forms of recovery from massage to salt baths, and all those things.

So, what I'm trying to do now is leave no stone unturned to prepare for what is probably going to be the toughest part of this whole journey. I know it's going to be tough and I know that I'm going to be challenged. But I also know is that my hope is to arrive at the hospital on that day with everything I need inside of me -- mentally, physically and spiritually -- to handle it as beautiful as possible.

Let's relate this to an athlete going into their A-race. It's the world championships. What I always say to my athletes is that we need to build up your mental reservoir of strength. It's usually about 4-weeks out of the main race, and at this point, we want to keep as balanced as possible. We don't want to train so hard that we're having to dig deep into our mental reservoir of strength, toughness, and grit. We want to build up that reservoir so on race day, we can dig deeper than we've ever dug before. And there will be so much to get out of there, whether it's courage, bravery, toughness or strength. Whatever it is you need, you can dig deeper than you have ever dug before because you have built up that mental reservoir of strength.

And that's kind of what I'm doing here.

I have been chemo all week and I thought to myself that suffering is optional. I don't need to assume that this is going to be awful, I'm going to feel terrible and that I'm going to be lying around all day. If I feel good, I'm going to go out for a walk. If I feel great, I'm going to go out for a run.

This morning, I went out for a run after my chemo. Well, I'd probably call it a jog, but I don't care anymore. I just want to be out there in the fresh air and that cool wind on my face. I want to be out in nature, feel my strength and feel the health that I have. It was the ultimate gift to give myself.

So, what I try and do every moment is, when I have the energy, I'm going to go out with the horses and do all the things that are going to fill me up. I talk about this so much. Do all the things that fill you up. Make more time for those things. And in my mind, most importantly, I needed to consider that even being on chemo, I needed to feel well enough to do these things. That I can get on my peloton bike and do an easy ride. That I can be outside with the horses and feed them their hay.

Because, really, we determine how we feel. Yes, certain things are going to affect us. The chemo is going to affect my energy and how I feel. But mindset-wise, I can believe that I can feel well enough to do these things. And if I do feel well enough, I'm going to do all the things that I love. I am simultaneously filling up my reservoir of joy, happiness, fulfillment, strength, health, and energy. This way, when I do go to the hospital 4-weeks from now, I'm going to have everything I need to dig deeper than I have ever dug before.

So, why does this matter to you?

I think that in life, we know what we're going to be going through. When we're going to have a challenge ahead that we need to be at our best and strongest for. Sometimes in life, we sit and worry about that challenge and how hard it's going to be. It leaves us paralyzed to a point that we don't do anything to prepare ourselves for it. We just sit in the dread that this is going to be happening, I'm so sad and I am dreading this. But that's NOT what you want to do.

Instead, think about filling yourself up the best that you can with everything that you love. Give yourself everything that makes you feel alive, strong energized and joy. Fill yourself up with those things like you would fill up a car before a long trip. Fill yourself up with everything that you need so that when that challenge begins, or when that A-race comes, you have everything you need inside of you to dig deeper than you have ever done before to have that most incredible performance. Or to have that most incredible trip. Or solve that big problem or challenge in your way. Or, for me, achieve my greatest triumph which will be getting completely and permanently healed.

So, this is what was on my mind today. I hope it helps all of you. Thank you for tuning in. I love you all and thank you for your thoughts, love, support, and prayers. It brings me so much. It really is helping me heal, and I appreciate you more than words can ever express. So thank you. I love you. Have an amazing day.

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So, what are some beliefs that you're still holding on to that aren't even our own?

I remember early on in my triathlon career, I was doing a race in Paris, and one of the other athletes ran by me at the end of the race when I got to the finish line, and she said 'Oh, you run pretty good for a big girl.' What she was basically saying is 'that's as fast as you're going to get for a big girl.'

We have a choice in those moments. We have a choice to accept what they are saying about us and believe it. I could have said, 'Yeah, I'm a big girl. I'll probably never be fast enough so I'll just be happy coming in 28th place.'

Instead, I chose to create my own belief about who I am, what I have inside of me and what I'm capable of. But sometimes, we don't even know where these beliefs came from. What I encourage all of you to do is explore your different beliefs. There may be people out there that say there's no way you're going to make it through with this disease that you have. Well, that's their belief, not mine. I believe with all my heart that I'm going to get through this. That I'm going to be completely and permanently healed. And I will do everything in my power to make that happen.

People told me that I couldn't be a great triathlete. That I was too big. That I didn't know how to swim -- that was the biggest thing. But that was their belief, not mine.

I believe that everything is possible by leaving no stone unturned every single day, doing everything in my power to be the best that I can be to learn and to grow, to fail but to get back up and dust myself off and get back in the game again.

So, for you, what are those things that you've chosen NOT to do because somebody told you that it was impossible? Or somebody told you that you're not good enough? Or someone said that's not for you? What are those things that you put aside because somebody told you it wasn't for you?

Let's explore those beliefs. Let's free ourselves and give ourselves permission to do and be anything we dream of being and do anything that we dream of doing. Because you all have everything you need inside of you. I have everything I need inside of me. Take a chance on you. Choose your beliefs. Choose beliefs that serve you and bring out the best in you.

No matter what anyone else says, it's what YOU believe. Believe in things that will make your life absolutely extraordinary because THAT is what we all deserve.

I love you all. Thank you.

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Today, I want to talk about how often we ask ourselves the question, "What am I doing wrong? What have I done wrong? What am I missing?" The question of lack. When really, the question should be "What am I doing right? What do I have? What do I need to continue to do? What's wonderful?"

For some reason, we all tend to focus on the negative when it should all be focused on the positive.

For example, I got through the first cycle of this incredible clinical trial I've been on. I've made such great progress. But I need to do another cycle.

Now, in my high-achieving brain, I was really hoping to get into remission after just one cycle. It's really crazy. Well, not crazy... I mean it's great to have a dream and hope, but that would be a real long shot to be able to do that in one cycle.

This morning, I found myself thinking "what am I doing wrong?" But the real question should have been "what am I doing right?" Let me think about all the things that I do every single day that led me to make such incredible progress in this first cycle of treatment?

I started thinking, "My goodness, Siri! It's all about what have I done? What do I need to continue to do? What's been working? What's been going great?" Because everything has been going great. I've been making such great progress. I am going to keep doing the things that I have been doing, and that is trying to live in a beautiful state in as many moments as possible. It's staying possible and recognizing the thoughts that cause me pain. It's recognizing and acknowledging those, but then replacing it with the truth.

That truth: I am so blessed to have the health, energy, and strength that I have now.

So what can I need to do that's going to continuously allow me to feel this energy, strength and good health?

I'm going to continue -- if you look up an amazing guy, Dr. Gerry Tenant -- look up Healing through Voltage -- doing a lot of stuff through voltage and maintain the voltage of my body so that I'm getting everything that I need to every part of my system. Maintaining my positive thinking, praying, do the bio charger daily, walk every day with my mom, wife, and animals, spending time with the horses who are so healing. I am going to continue eating all the right things and taking some of the juices that help my immune system. It's doing all these things that have led to such tremendous progress in the past month.

So, in your life, instead of looking exactly where you want to be at this point and time, remember where you started. Remember when you had not even taken that first step. Then look at where you are now. Feel proud, grateful and celebrate you. Celebrate the effort, energy, time and intention that you've put into this journey. Then ask yourself, "What can I continue to do that I've been doing that has led me this far? What can I continue to do that has led me to feel as good as I feel? What can I add to make me feel even better?

Don't focus on what's missing. Focus on what you have. Don't focus on the problem. Focus on all the positive or potential solutions. Don't focus on what you feel you can't do. Focus on what you can do.

I'm going to focus on my health, energy, strength, vitality, belief in my doctors, nurses and the hospital, my belief in your love and support and how that's healing me. I'm going to believe in me. I'm going to celebrate how far I've come, the great progress that I've made and build upon that.

You can't always think about what's missing or where you haven't arrived yet or where you feel you should be. Focus on how far you've come and everything great inside of you -- your magic, your energy, and your intention.

'Intention' is a huge work, actually. I want to speak about this because the intention that we put into everything is very important.

You can say 'I love you' to the person that you love. They can be just words or you can say it with the intention of them truly feeling how deeply you love them.

What is your intention when you wake up in the morning and go to work? Are you just going through the motions and go to work? Or do you say 'I am going to be the best that I can be for every one of my clients or the people that I work for? Or I'm putting my heart and soul in this mission that I'm on.'

Lay out that intention and you will get so much more out of yourself. The impact will be that much richer, deeper and greater for those around you.

Everything should be done with great intent.

If you take on a goal, you will intend to do everything in your power to put everything you have into this goal and see you achieve it in the future. Recognizing that your intention includes wanting to grow, learn, be stretched and maintain the right mindset that will allow you to make that happen.

So, to all of us, live life with great intention, gratitude and celebrate you every single day. Celebrate how far you have come and the love and inspiration that you give. Celebrate the example that you are. And in that, realize your intention that you take into every single day. You are an example and inspiration for others. Most importantly, you're there for yourself to bring out the best in you.

Focus on all your greatness. Celebrate you. Be grateful.

Thank you. I love you all so much.

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Today, I'm going to give you a little bit of an update about my health. But I'm also hoping that the story that I share will help you with some of the things you're going through in your own life.

So, I have just finished the first cycle of my clinical trial. Now, my dream is that I would be in remission after the first cycle so that I can go into my bone marrow transplant. This would mean that I am moving forward and getting closer to being healed, which is the ultimate goal. I had my hopes set on that.

I found out yesterday that I had made such great progress, but I'm not quite there yet. So, I'm going to enter into another cycle of this amazing clinical trial that I'm on.

Now, my first reaction is disappointment. I started crying and I was so upset that I wasn't there yet...

Then, as I was thinking about it, I understood that the best way that this transplant was going to take, work and lead to my permanent healing is if I enter the transplant in the best condition possible. I needed to accept it. I was close, but not quite there yet.

I'm so deeply grateful that I'm going to go through another cycle. It's worked so amazingly well the first time, so I'm hoping that this is just what I need to get to remission and in a month I can go directly into the transplant.

Think about it this way -- if you are training for a race and have three races on your schedule, the first two are preparing you for the ultimate 'A' race. In the first race, you hope to have your best race ever. You're hoping to smash it and have it be amazing. You go, but it's not quite the race you hoped for. You're going to feel disappointed.

But the gift in this is -- what if you piqued in that race but you got overconfident and didn't do all the right things? Then when it came to the 'A' race, you weren't at your best.

Not being at your best for the first race of the season means you'll know exactly what you need to do. You'll need to work on this particular strategy or your mindset or your recovery. You'll find out all the things that are going to take you to the next level. By the time you get to that ultimate race, you are going to have the race of your life.

For me, I'm being given an opportunity to truly fine-tune my body and get it to the point where a month from now, even with the extra support and medicine I'm taking, I can put myself in an even better position to have a transplant that is really going to stick, and that will be what heals me.  I believe it with all my heart.

Yes, we can get really disappointed when things don't work out the way we hoped for, but someone very special in my life taught me that life is not a straight line. It never is. When we have what we believe are disappointments, let's look upon this as a gift or opportunity to gain something more that we need. That will lead us to be even better.

That's what I'm doing in this situation. That's what I'm hoping all of you do in any of the things where you fall even a little bit short of where you hoped to be. Recognize it as an opportunity for you to create something even more special than you could ever dream of in the future.

Have a great day, everybody.

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Today, I want to talk about being afraid and feeling fear. We all feel fear. When something matters to us we feel fear.

I used to feel fear going into every single race that I raced, every school session that I did in preparation for those races, and I feel afraid, now, going into or being in the midst of the biggest challenge of my life.

The reason why I want to talk about fear so openly is that we all get afraid. We all feel fear. But the key is to not have that fear paralyze us as it can. When I was younger it would paralyze me and it kept me from being able to do the things I wanted to do. But what I learned throughout my journey and triathlon is it you need to embrace that fear.

Let's reframe fear as something that's good.

What if fear was that thing that truly allowed us to concentrate to mobilize everything we have inside ourselves to bring it to whatever task is at hand? To whatever it is that we are afraid of are wanting to do well at or wanting to succeed? What fear is what gave us the ability to mobilize all our strengths, all our abilities, everything we have inside of us to be successful?

What if fear was a good thing?

Tony Robbins always says, and I used to say this as well, "Dance with your fear." Instead of fighting against it or pushing up against it or trying to pretend that you're not afraid, acknowledge the fact that 'yes I'm feeling this fear and it's because I care."

Right now I care about living. I want to live this incredible gift of life. So I get afraid, of course, I do, but one of the secrets is that when you replace that fear and reframe what fear means to you, that can be really helpful.

But also, another thing Tony Robbins always says is gratitude is an antidote to everything. Gratitude is an antidote to anger. Gratitude is an antidote to fear.

So in the moments where I get really afraid and I feel like it's almost about to paralyze me, what I do is I switch my brain to think about everything that I'm grateful for. I am so grateful that I have my beautiful wife and my incredible mom by my side every single step of this journey. I am so grateful for all of you and the love and support that you're showering upon me that's giving me so much strength. I'm so grateful that I'm in the most incredible hands with my doctors and nurses at UC Health. I am so grateful for the health, energy and vitality and the strength of mind that I have now. I'm so grateful for my mindset and my ability to be able to recognize negative thoughts but replace them with the positive one that I truly believe in.

So as we all get afraid, remember we get afraid because we care. We care about making a difference. We care about succeeding. We care about doing a good job. We care about the people we love. We care about our health. We care about our life.

So being afraid is natural. We're all human. But it's how we look and define that fear and what we do about it. Dance with your fears. Acknowledge it. Have it allow you to mobilize everything you need inside of you to approach the task at hand with all your best ensuring that you will do a great job or that you will succeed. Then be grateful instead of being afraid at the start line of this big race that you're going to do. Be grateful. 'Wow. I did what it took to arrive at this starting line. I'm arriving at the start line fit, strong, fast and ready to race. I'm grateful for that.'

Be grateful. It will dissipate the fear and it will allow you to tap into your strength and be all that you need to be.

Thank you, everyone, and have an amazing day.

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Today, I woke up thinking about this and I'm just going to use a couple of examples. My mom is absolutely incredible. She's 76 years old and she runs a dog grooming parlor in Boulder. And it is like the best dog grooming parlor I've ever seen in the world. She loves on the dog. She does such a beautiful job. Her groomers do such a beautiful job. The dogs are happy to come and sad to leave and it's absolutely amazing.

So, because it's so amazing, she gets amazing reviews all the time. But every once in awhile, she'll get a bad review or somebody will complain about something. My mom will then get absolutely so upset about this one negative comment. And she'll forget about the thousands of other amazing comments. All she'll do is dwell on that one negative comment and make that her reality.

Now, we all do this at some point in time. Think of it... you athletes out there. You're training amazingly well. You're doing a great job in all your sessions. But one day, you have a horrible session and you get so depressed about that session and suddenly you're telling yourself "I'm not fit. I'm doing something wrong. I'm never going to make it." And you dwell on that one session that wasn't your best.

Why do we do this? Why do we torture ourselves in this way?

I know yesterday the reason why I'm thinking about this at all is that yesterday was a big day for me. I had my third bone marrow biopsy. I'm praying for good news. Probably, won't know for a few days, but, all through the day, I'm being positive and I'm thinking about getting in remission so I can move forward into the next step. And I'm thinking about that I feel good and I feel strong and I've got energy and these things. And then in one moment, I had this horrible vision of things not working out. I started crying. And I started getting so afraid. And I started getting so scared. And I was dwelling on this one thought. And I work on my mind 24/7. My entire day is spent trying to keep my mind in a place that is going to help me heal. Help me release the things that I no longer need or that are getting in the way of my healing. And take on the thoughts and the focus and meanings that are going to help me heal and help me be my best self.

So, why do we do that? Why do these negative thoughts or negative emotions, or negative beliefs take over?

Well, they only do because we allow them to. This is all a mental practice. It's like building a muscle and I've talked about this before. When you have a negative thought or a bad thought, the muscle we need to build is replacing that thought, most likely, with the truth. Like with my mom, for example. She is loved and that shop is loved by everyone. And if there were a thousand people that had an incredible experience and one that didn't, she can pretty much -- she has the proof that she's doing an amazing job. And not one negative comment can motivate her to be even better if we want to use it in a positive way.

For the athlete, you've got all the proof. You've had great sessions every day. You're improving every day. One bad session; that's normal. It happens. You have to have those days so that you appreciate the great days. They're necessary. You've got to have the highs and the lows. It's all a part of being able to really appreciate and embrace life for what it is, which is such a beautiful gift.

And, for me, I need to practice forgiveness, which I talked about the other day for my mind bringing in a thought that's not serving me. A thought that caused me pain, and recognize that, and appreciate, and let it go, and understand the truth. And the truth is that I know with all my heart that I'm going to make it through this victorious. I know with all my heart, that if I take care of my thought processes, what I focus on, taking care of myself, doing everything I can, to help myself heal. That I will be healed.

So, what we have to do is build the muscle of learning how not to dwell on those negative thoughts, that we know, only bring us down, that is untrue. These beliefs that don't serve us. Release those. Be kind to yourself and accept the fact that it's quite human to have these thoughts.  But let it go and remind yourself of the truth. Remind yourself of who you are. Remind yourself of what you've been doing every single day. Remind yourself of how special you are and that you are capable of creating and doing anything you dream of if you set your mind to that. And release the thoughts that don't serve you. You can appreciate them. You can acknowledge them, but let them go and release them. And hold on to that, which brings out the best in you every single day.

For athletes, you have two things you can control; that's your effort and your attitude. Those are two things we can control; our effort, that we give certain things and our attitude. Not only about the job itself or the task itself, but the job we're doing and what our intention is. And what we believe in, and how much heart and soul we give to that.

So, to all of you, I hope this helps. I feel like it's a little bit all over the place, but it's so very important, that -- to go back to another Bed Head Chronicle from a week ago, I think. Perfection is impossible. You can't have an amazing training session every single day. You can't make everyone around you happy. Perfection is impossible. So, don't strive for perfection. Strive to be the best that you can, and doing the best that you can with what you have in every moment. Just do the best you can with what you have whatever that is and acknowledge that you're going to have weak moments, but don't stay there. Don't live there. Change the channel. Go to a better channel that serves you and brings out the best in you.

Have an amazing day everyone. Thank you.

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I was doing an interview the other night and this woman asked me when she looked at a picture of me winning the World Championships in 2001. She asked, "What is what is this make you feel when you look at this?"

It took me a few seconds because it hit me so profoundly and I felt this deep emotion of pride in this memory of what it took to achieve that impossible dream. Knowing that I even started not really believing that I could do it, but doing everything in my power to make it happen. So, a small part of me must have believed for me to make the effort to do everything in my power. To fall down millions of times over and over and get back up again and dust myself off and get after it again.

My reply to her was "Wow, this reminds me that I have everything I need inside of me to make this seemingly impossible dream come true -- and that's being completely healed, permanently healed. It reminded me that I have everything I need inside of me. It reminded me of how strong I am.  It reminded me how many times I got so afraid or failed over and over again. But in the end, I succeeded. In the end, I was victorious. In the end, I proved to myself that anything and everything is possible.

We all have those memories to draw upon -- the proof of those times when we were going through a difficult situation that we thought we'd never get through. But we did. Those times that we fell down and think we couldn't get up again. But we did. And we came back stronger than ever before.

We all have those memories and experiences -- that proof to draw upon.

I was so grateful for this woman for asking me that question because now, anytime I feel any sense of doubt, I will look at that photo and remember that I am going to make it through this. I've proven in the past in my experiences that there are many times where I've felt like this but I made it through. I succeeded in the end.

So, in those moments of doubts, fear or reluctance to take that first step, remember and go back to the proof of the many times that you didn't think you could, but you did. Or you made it through something that seemed impossible, and here you are today. Go back to your proof and remind yourself of who you are. Remind yourself of everything you have inside of you and go take that step forward knowing that you got this. You're going to make it, and so am I.

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Obviously. I'm not doing anything hard or performing in any way, but I'm exercising. Exercising lifts my spirits. It makes me feel positive. It makes me feel strong. It makes me feel like I must be healing because I'm able to do it.

My point here is that for anyone that's dealing with a sickness, disease or you're depressed and think 'I'm depressed so I should just lie around all day' -- we subscribe sometimes to whatever we're going through. We think that that should look a certain way. But it doesn't have to.

My philosophy is that if you feel good, go do something because it's only going to make you feel better. If you feel bad, take care of yourself. If I feel exhausted. I'm gonna lie down and have a nap or just read a book or just be quiet. But if I feel good, I'm going to go out and I'm going to live life. I'm going to go for a walk with the dogs. I'm going to go hang out with the horses. I'm going to go ride my bike easy, but It makes me feel good. It lifts my spirits.

Now I don't know about you but the things that lift my spirits are nature, animals, horses, family and being active. That's what lifts my spirits and makes me happy. So if I have the energy I'm going to go do those things that fill me up so that I have even more strength to step into this challenge that I'm dealing with right now.

For all of us, let's do less of the things that drain us. Less of the things that make us feel bad. That means worrying. That means being afraid. That means tasks that we do that just simply aren't serving us and aren't serving others. Stop doing the things that drain you. Instead, do more of the things that fill you up. Do more of the things that make you happy. Do more of the things that strengthen you. Do more of the things that serve you. And that also means the right ways of thinking.

I talked the other day about how there's a constant me standing at the gates of my mind allowing some thoughts to come in and some thoughts to just pass by. Because I know that thinking about my fears or how has scary this is or what I have coming up ahead of me and what I have to deal with -- that just drains me and makes me feel bad. It scares me. It does not serve me.

So I will acknowledge those thoughts. I'll recognize those thoughts and honor them. But then I let them go by and I started thinking about the health and energy I have now. I can go out for a walk. I can ride my bike when I feel up to it. Look at the love and support I have.  I focus on all the things that I have, not the things that I don't have. I focus on all the things that fill me up and make me feel strong, not the things that drain me and made me feel bad.

So for all of you do more of what makes you feel good. Do less of what makes you feel bad. That takes discipline and being present with yourself all day long. Do that for you. You deserve it.

Have an amazing day.

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I was asked yesterday if I always have this positive attitude that I'm going to make it through this and there's no doubt in all of that.

Let me tell you that in my whole life, I have learned from the great Tony Robbins, many years ago, that the focus and meaning that we give things and what we choose to do about it create our entire experience of life. Where focus goes, energy flows.

In my situation now, if I was focusing on the fact that I've got acute myeloid leukemia and that this could kill me, that I could die, and that I'm going to suffer, that's only going to make me suffer more. I believe that will make it more possible that I don't survive.

So, I don't entertain those thoughts. I don't negotiate with my mind when it tries to blow me down with negative thinking and fears.

But, throughout the entire day, I feel like I'm at the gym trying to build this muscle of replacing every negative thought with a positive one. Replacing every fear with a hope or a belief that everything is going to be fine.

If I do everything right... If I leave no stone unturned... If, every single day, I do everything in my power to release the things that no longer serve me -- that means forgiving, letting go of guilt, anger, anxiety, worry and fear, and asking better questions so that I am serving my body and mind to put me in a place that I can best step up to this challenge. I want to make sure that in the end, I am victorious and permanently healed.

But it's a battle.

None of us are perfect. All of us are going to have worries, fears, and negative thoughts. But the key is building a muscle that will immediately recognize and appreciate that thought but replace it with something that will bring out the best in you. A thought that will serve you, give you strength, positive feeling and positive energy that will then lead you to your best possible result.

So, if you think that in order to make great things happen in your life, you have to have a perfect train of thought or perfect thoughts all day long, that's just not true.

Even the most incredible people in the world that seem brilliant, happy and accomplished in their lives, also have to build this muscle of having the right thoughts.

Be present in every moment as possible. Live in a beautiful state in as many moments as possible. That's my goal and strategy here.

To all of you, have an amazing day.

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Obviously going through what I'm going through right now, I've been focusing a lot on how I can heal, not only my body, but my mind, my spirit, and my soul. One of the things I wanted to speak with you all about today is the healing power of forgiveness.

Think about the people in your life that have either hurt you or disappointed you. Or an experience you had that you feel as hurt you or disappointed you or negatively affected you in some way. It is so very important for us to practice the act of forgiveness. To forgive those people that have hurt us. To forgive ourselves and the things that, maybe, we've done that we aren't happy about or that we're not proud of.

But the power of forgiveness is incredible.

If you think of it this way, Tony Robbins has one of the most powerful statements I think I've ever heard. He said, "When you hold onto the pain or the disappointment or the anger you feel towards someone that is hurt you -- when you don't forgive or when you're holding onto that, it's like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."

Take that in. "It's like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."

It's hurting us. When we hold onto that anger, when we hold on to that disappointment, it eats away at us and eats away at our spirit. It eats away at our soul.

So, it's so very important to let go of those things.

I feel when people have hurt us, we just happened to catch them at a point in their lives where they're not at their best or we're not at our best. There's a lesson that comes from that. There's some kind of learning, some kind of a blessing that comes from that pain or hurt.

I know that may be hard for some of you to hear, but I really believe that there is a gift in every struggle and there's a lesson in every struggle as well. But when we choose to forgive, we are freeing up space inside ourselves. We're bringing positive energy instead of holding onto negative energy. We are allowing ourselves the capability to heal.

When we forgive, even if we don't forgive outwardly through words or in-person with that other person, energetically they will feel that forgiveness and they, in turn, will begin to forgive you. You'll see the things in your life open up because when we hold onto these pains or we don't forgive certain things, there are blockages.  And we need to remove these blockages. We need to free ourselves from any of those intense emotions that cause us pain or upset. Because when you have a lot of that, it could potentially lead to ailments or aches and pains in your body.

So, my suggestion to all of you -- and when you think about this as I said to my wife this morning, I was telling her about this and she said, "Oh, I don't have any pain or grudges over anyone." Because the thought allowed her to question within herself if this was really true, she came back to be about 10 minutes later. She realized "Yeah, I could forgive this person for saying this or I could forgive that person for saying that."

Just at that moment when you use that Grace to forgive someone, it's not only a gift that you're giving them, but it's a beautiful gift that you're giving yourself. Free up that space inside yourself. Replaced that negative energy with a positive, empowering energy that serves you and that will help you heal anything that needs to be healed inside of you. I hope this helps.

To all of you, have a wonderful day. I love you all so much.

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Today, I want to share with you one of my very dear friends who gave me this book "The Dynamic Laws of Healing" by Catherine Ponder. I started reading it last night and I couldn't stop. It was amazing.

It all has to do with the thought that dis-ease (or disease) can be caused by an imbalance in your thinking. Thinking negative thoughts or carrying tons of anxiety, worry, fear or guilt can lead to disease in your body because our cells carry these thoughts.

Now the interesting thing about this is that it just started thinking about what are the thoughts that I kind of dwell in a lot in my life. One of those that I came up with, which I just realized last night or had an enormous breakthrough, is guilt. And this guilt stems from -- I basically feel guilty anytime that I am not delivering, giving, serving perfectly. Whether that be to my wife, to my mom, to my friends, to my clients, to the world... If I feel like what I'm being or doing isn't perfect, I feel guilty.

I feel like I'm letting people down. I feel like I'm not living up to what's expected of me. But as we all know, there's no such thing as perfect. No one is capable of being perfect.

So, basically I'm living in a state of guilt in every moment of my life thinking that I'm not as good as I should be. And this leads to anxiety. This leads to worry. This leads to fear that I'm going to lose the people that I love and care about if I'm not giving, being or doing things perfectly.

So, if you think of this -- if I'm living with guilt in every moment of every day, and that's leading to anxiety or fear, even anger at myself for not being able to be perfect, which doesn't exist, that can take a toll on my body. This was the most freeing thought because what I realized -- and for anyone out there who is listening to this and can relate to what I'm saying, perfection is impossible.

So, if you're striving for perfection in everything you do in the only way you're going to love and accept yourself as if you're perfect, you're never going to win that battle. You're never ever going to appreciate and love yourself because you will always be disappointed because perfection doesn't exist. It's not possible.

So, when I realized this, I just wrote in my journal "I have nothing to feel guilty about. I gave with all my heart and soul all the time with good intention."

Now, that should be a goal for all of us. I would say just do the best you can with what you have in every moment. Give with good intention. Love with good intention. Do your best with good intention.

"Falling short of perfection has made me feel guilty. Perfection doesn't exist. No more feeling guilty instead, I want to feel proud. I want to feel proud of the person I am. Proud of the love that I give. Proud of the heart that I share with all those around me."

And, just so you all know, this is not all about me. I hope to share these messages and have it make a difference in your lives as well. Think about how you speak to yourself. How you appreciate yourself during the day or not.

Appreciate yourself. Appreciate your effort. Appreciate your heart. Appreciate your soul.

I know that I appreciate each and every one of you more than I could ever express through words. Your love, your support, your encouragement, I know, is going to be a major part of my healing, of my becoming whole. And part of all of us becoming whole is really caring for our mind, body, and spirit. That means caring for the thoughts that come to our mind. Caring for every thought, every belief that we have about ourselves, that we have about others, or we have about the world. Take care of those thoughts. Take care of those beliefs. Make sure that they're thoughts and beliefs that serve you. Thoughts and beliefs that lead you to recognize the magic inside of you for being able to see the love that you have for yourself, the appreciation, the pride that you have for you and those around you. Care for those thoughts. Love yourself. Love those around you. Live with good intention and you will be whole.

I love you all so much. Thank you.

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I feel so incredibly grateful to be home for Christmas. I'm feeling deeply blessed, especially from all the love and support from all of you.

I want to share a story with you. I got an email the other day where a person said, "Are you aware of the statistics of your disease and the odds of you surviving this? How are you dealing with that?"

I was taken aback by the email because my attitude has always been "I love life so much. I want to live to be a million years old. Dying is not an option." Then I thought back to when I was 23 years old and I fell in love with the sport of triathlon. I didn't know how to swim, but I knew that my ultimate dream was to become the #1 triathlete in the world.

Now, if I looked up the odds of my being able to achieve this dream, those odds might be 1 in 10 trillion. It would be impossible.

But I didn't think about what the odds were. I didn't think about how unlikely it was that I'd be able to do it. What I knew in my heart was I was going to give my heart, soul, and spirit -- everything that I had to make this dream come true because it meant that much to me. I was driven every single day by my heart, soul, and spirit.

In this case -- yes. I have acute myeloid leukemia. Yes, the statistics are not great. But you know what? I'm not a statistic. I am me. I know I don't just want to survive this, but I want to thrive in my life. I want to be living a life greater than I have before. I want to give more, touch more lives and have an impact. I want to create more in this lifetime.

I don't just want to survive. I want to thrive. I'm not just a statistic. I proved when I was 23 years old that eight years later I could be the number one triathlete in the world. I achieved that dream even though the odds of that happening were next to nothing. And I'm going to do the same here.

So, to all of you, thank you. Thank you for believing in me. Thank you for your messages of love and support. Thank you for all the healing that you're bringing me. I want each and every one of you to know that when you think of me, pray for me, support me in any way, I am taking that in. I am learning to receive that and have that help me heal.

So, thank you. I love you all so much. I wake up every morning feeling so deeply grateful for each and every one of you. I wish you all the most beautiful, magical Merry Christmas where you look into the eyes of everyone you love and really think about how much you love and appreciate them. Think about every single moment and recognize the absolutely precious gift of this incredible life that we've all been blessed with.

I love you all, Merry Christmas, and thank you for listening.

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Today, I want to talk about this amazing quote that a dear friend of mine sent to me the other day. It says "Everything you are going through is preparing you for what you asked for."

Let me begin by going back to when I was an athlete. I remember some of the hardest things that happened like getting injured when I was in my prime fitness and ready to go race. I'd get a running injury that would stop me from running. I would think it was the end of the world, but what it did mean is that what I could do is swim and bike. The swim was my absolute weakness. And my bike definitely needed help.

So, if you would look at this saying, "Everything you are going through is preparing you for what you asked for," I wanted to be the best in the world in triathlon. I wanted to be the best that I could be and I hoped that could lead me to be one of the best.

In order to do that, I needed to become a good swimmer and biker. The times I would get a running injury and be unable to run for two to three months, I would swim 1000 meters a week and bike however many thousand meters a week. That would improve my swim and bike where I was able to win a world championship. There is a gift in every struggle.

Granted, acute myeloid leukemia is a challenge that is beyond anything I could imagine. But when I think about this quote, I found my freedom in my twenties. What I mean by that is I found freedom from my fears, anxieties, and torture that I was living inside my own body and mind.

Through the process of triathlon, I found a love, appreciation, and acceptation for myself, which led to my mission of wanting to be fearlessly authentic in my life. Just being true to me, my beliefs and my values. And having found that freedom -- going from a place where I didn't want to live to wanting to live to be a million years old -- that freedom that comes from self-love and acceptance is the most glorious freedom you can dream of having, in my opinion.

Now that I have found my freedom, so much in part due to Tony Robbins and his influence in my life, everything I've learned from him through his books and CDs about focusing on what you want and how the meaning we give things can change our entire experience of life, it's a gift that I want to provide everyone on the planet with. If somehow I could inspire them through words or through storytelling, encouragement or inspiration -- whatever it is, I've said to God in my prayers that in this lifetime I can truly take this beautiful gift of life and do everything with it that God has hoped I would do. Be able to touch many lives, humans or animals, as I possibly can in the most beautiful and powerful ways. To be able to take everything that I've learned that has brought me to a place in my life where I can feel and experience true love and give my love freely. To share everything that I've learned and touched another person's life in a way that can bring them to their own personal freedom or new levels of joy and achievement or fulfillment, most importantly, that's a dream come true for me. That's a desire in my life.

I see life as such a beautiful gift. It's a privilege to be given this life and make it what we want it to be. I believe the greatest way to show thanks for this gift of life is by giving back. Maybe giving back is all about becoming more -- becoming more so that you can give more, inspire more and create more in this life that can make a positive difference.

If this challenge ahead of me, or this challenge that I am in right now, is going to allow me to give that much more -- to have more of an impact on other humans and on the animals in this world, then it will be the most beautiful gift. I believe that that is what this is all about. I have asked God, the universe, to help guide me to be able to make a beautiful impact in this world and in people's lives. To share the love, light, and fulfillment I feel in my heart with everyone; and perhaps this challenge is what's going to allow me to do that to a greater extent. That's my hope. That's my dream. That's what will inspire me. I am going to give this everything I have: heart, soul, and spirit.

The love and the support that it has been sent to me from all around the world means everything to me. It will be what I focus on, what I remember, what I soak in, in those toughest moments. So thank you. Love is healing. Love is strengthening. Love is everything that we all need to be the very best that we can be every day in our lives. Whether it's going through a tremendous challenge or just trying to be our best selves for others.

Thank you for listening to my Bed Head Chronicles. It means the world to me that somehow there's something in this that is touching your life and I hope to continue to be able to do this. To me, being home -- it's Christmas. I have you know everything I need with me here. Most importantly my wife, my mom, my animals, the horses -- I get to be home for Christmas. And that's the ultimate gift.

I will keep you all in the loop as I continue learning and growing on this journey, and I thank you for your love. I thank you for your support. To all of you have an amazing Christmas, a beautiful holiday. Know that I love you. I appreciate you. And all I want is blessings and light for all of you today and every day. Thank you.

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I've been home for a few days. I was in the hospital for about a week and have been able to be home. During my treatments from home, we drive to the hospital a couple of days a week. It's been amazing being home.

Obviously, with a lot of time on my hands, I've been doing a lot of thinking. You all know that my biggest thing is fearless authenticity. Being you. Just like I am right now -- bed head, not making myself made up or anything. I am just me.

When I think about fearless authenticity, it's about being true to you. Staying true to what you believe in. Staying true to what matters. Being able to be vulnerable to the people around you, which leads to deeper relationships and richer experiences.

But when I was thinking about fearless authenticity with what I'm going through now, I wondered how authentic have I been with myself in regards to how I'm feeling. Being authentic is being true to you. Being honest with you. Expressing your truth to yourself always.

I think, sometimes, when you're battling illness or disease, you can tell yourself 'I'm strong. I got this. I have everything I need inside me. I'm going to get through this." That's so incredibly important. That is what I'm saying to myself every single day. But I also think that we need to be able to sit peacefully in those moments where we feel really afraid. In those moments where it gets really scary. In those moments where you can't find the words to inspire, move or give yourself the strength you need at that moment.

We need to love ourselves in every moment. That could be in our strongest, bravest and most courageous moments. But we must also really love and appreciate ourselves in those moments where we need to ask for help. Or when we don't know what to do or feel hopeless and terrified. Love yourself in those moments, too. Accept the fact that those moments will come.

Life is life. They are always changing. There are going to be really tough times and hard moments, along with blissful moments as well. It's a matter of fearless authenticity. It's a matter of loving yourself no matter what. Being yourself no matter what. Not putting on a brave face if you're not feeling brave.

Yes, it's important to set yourself up for success and have a belief fully in that positive, optimistic attitude. But I also want to know that I can sit with myself in those tough moments, too. And be brave enough to know it's okay to feel weak. It's okay to feel afraid.

In those moments, whatever resonates with you, I pray for strength, guidance, love, and support. I tap into all that I receive from my family and yourselves -- all that love, support and encouraging words.

So, fearless authenticity -- be all that you are in every moment. Express who you are in every single moment without holding back. And that means with yourself, too.

I hope this all makes sense to everybody out there. Have an amazing day. Appreciate every single moment of this beautiful gift of life. And appreciate every single aspect of who you are as a beautiful, magical human that is you. Thank you.

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I got to go home on Friday. So, now we just drive into the hospital to get my treatments. It's early -- 7:30 in the morning.   I got my wife up at 5. 

And it's December 15th.  This is her last IV of chemo, for now, for another three weeks! We're so excited.

I have to say I was just talking to our amazing nurse here today. The staff at this hospital are amazing at UC Health and Children's hospital. The level of care is just beyond anything I could ever hope for as far as caring and supportive staff. They take the time to talk to you and answer any questions that are relatable. They're just beautiful and it's made such a big difference to feel so supported.

I know I feel so supported by all of you, so thank you. That means everything to me. I feel supported by my wife, my mom, and my chosen family. I mean, it's just beyond anything I could ever imagine. But to also have that kind of support in a hospital is pretty incredible. I know there are a lot of things that can't really do right now. But one of the things that I've found that's helped me is just focusing on "what can I do?" I can do what I need to do before taking all my medications. I can do that really well. With my mind and my thought processes, I can do that really well. 

Just like an athlete that has an injury, everything doesn't just stop and you just sulk and get sad and miserable. Focus on what you can do and you do those things to the best of your ability. That's what I'm doing now. I'm focusing on what I can do and doing that to the best of my ability. I'm appreciating everything that I can do and putting all my faith in God that I'm exactly where I need to be.

But to all of you struggling with anything, focus on what you can do and do that to the best of your ability. Because we create our experiences. I could make this an absolute misery or I can get as much joy and happiness at every moment as I possibly can. And that's my goal. So to all of you thank you so much. To my beautiful wife whose arm is getting tired. I love you all so much. Thank you for your love and support. It means everything to me and it means everything to my wife as well because she's going through this, too. 

Day 7, 21 to goto remission. The goal is21 days hoping to go into remission, at which point I could then go into my transplant, which is the big step. So that's the goal. I love you all so much. Thank you.

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Today, I've obviously been doing a lot of thinking about life and how interesting it can be. We often go through our lives feeling like we are controlling everything we need to in order to get the result that we are hoping for. For example, with me, I've got this great diet and I eat healthily, I exercise, I take care of my mind, body, and spirit -- everything I do with my athletes I do with myself. But there are no guarantees with anything.

I would say that what's even more important than trying to control everything is having faith. Having faith when unexpected things happen means knowing that they are happening for a reason.

I've been reading this amazing book, The Four Sacred Agreements, and there is such amazing stuff in there. There was one part where they were talking about how trees shed all their beautiful leaves in the winter -- I've looked at this and even spoken about this in the past in the Bed Head Chronicles about how beautiful it is to let go because it makes room for us to come back more beautiful than ever. In this respect, when it comes to what I'm dealing with my diagnosis, I feel that sometimes in life in order to reach that next place -- you get to a point where you have learned everything you need to learn. You feel like you've got it. Life is great. My life was absolutely everything I dreamed it to be. And it still is, aside from this, as far as having the love and the job I've always dreamed of, a love for myself that I worked so hard for my entire life, living in a place where not a day goes by and I look out the window thinking about how blessed and how grateful I am, a strong and beautiful group of core friends that bring me so much joy.

But, still, I believe that even if we've got it -- even if we've got our system figured out, there's more for us. My faith leads me to believe, with all my heart, that I need to shed all my leaves as the tree does in the winter. Even though that leaves me standing exposed and raw and scared, this is what will allow me to acquire everything else I need to truly go to the next place in my life that's waiting for me. When I look at it this way and have faith, everything that happens in our lives is part of the journey we were meant to have. When you focus on this being life happening for you, not to you, it gives us extra strength to take on anything that is ahead.

For me, I go to the hospital on Monday and the journey begins. It's going to be the biggest challenge of my life, by far. But, again, I always talk about focusing on what you have, not what you don't have. What you want, not on what you don't want. I am focusing on the beautiful love from my wife, my mom, my dear friends and from all of you. Your love, support, and prayers mean everything to me. I'm focusing on that. I'm focusing on my love for myself and the fact that I know that I've been through very hard and tough situations before and found a way to break through and make it to the other side. I know I have that strength in me. I know I was so stifled at the time by my fear. But I know that I made it through that.

I speak this, not just about me, but for any of you that are faced with something that is terrifying you or bringing you to your knees. This is for you, too. What will help get us through this, heal and be our very best for the task at hand is to focus and appreciate what you have.

I am appreciating the health that I have now -- the health that maybe for a little bit in my future. I wake up and I say I'm thankful for my health on this day and the water that I drink (may it heal me). I'm thankful for these two hands that have allowed me to do so much in my life. Focus on what you have, not what you don't have. I am going to focus on the fact that I'm facing this huge challenge that's going to take me away from my home that is my sacred space for a long time. But home is where the heart is. I get to bring my heart and my wife and my mom. I get to have access because of social media, which is a beautiful thing because it allows us all to be there for one another. I get to bring that with me. I'm going to focus on healing, strengthening and growing and expanding my understanding of life and everything that comes onto our path when we don't expect them. I'm going to focus on all the beautiful things that come from this. I'm also going to focus on sharing this with you no matter what I end up looking or feeling like as the weeks go by. I will be here for you because I will have you learn and grow on this journey through me. We're in this together.

I'm not being weak right now. I am going to share this with you the entire way. Because we're going to get through this together. I hope that in getting myself through this, I'm also going to help others get through their own challenges as well.

Be strong. Focus on what you want. Life is happening for us, not to us. When we look at it that way, we will see that there are so many gifts, there's so much magic, there's so much grace when we're going through something like this. But you have to know that it's there and open your eyes to it. That's what will give you strength and faith.

To all of you, thank you for being a part of this journey with me. Thank you for your love and support. To those of you facing challenges, I'm with you. We've got this. We're going to get through this. We're going to come out of this better, stronger, happier and with a more expanded spirituality and understanding that will allow us to be even greater beacons of light in this world -- for ourselves and everyone around us. And thanks to our creator.

Thank you, everyone, I love you. Have a wonderful day.

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Today, I want to talk about when somebody in your life -- or you, yourself -- somebody that you love or someone you just hear about is given some really bad news. 

Just last week, I was diagnosed with acute myeloid leukemia. I don't want you to feel sad for me or pity me because I truly believe that God only gives us what he knows we can handle. We are given things that will take us to a whole new level spiritually with the things that we learn and the things that go through us during these challenging times.

I am going to get through this. I am going to make this my most beautiful victory. I am going to find a way to use the word "leukemia" or "cancer" be something that people don't feel weakened but allows us to strengthen amidst the challenge. I truly believe that through this process at working at getting through this and getting it out of my system, there will be so many beautiful things that I experience along the way. One of them, already, is the incredible depth of love in my relationships -- with my wife, mom, dad, sister, my mother-in-law, my sister-in-law, my beautiful close friends who mean everything to me. The depth of love and caring is beyond magical.

I often said in my talks who a lot of us don't start living until we're faced with our own mortality or someone we love is facing their own mortality. That we don't truly live until we feel we may not have our life forever. We realize the fragility of it...

Sorry, I got cut off there...

I have always been someone that wants to live life to the fullest every minute.  I love my life now.

There was a time when I was terrified and in a really rotten place when I was about 18 years old.  I didn't think I can handle it anymore. You all know this story when I read the book, Unlimited Power, by the amazing Tony Robbins. It completely changed and saved my life at that time because it made me realize I was in charge of my own experience of life. If I wanted to be happy, it was up to me. It all depended on what I focused on, the meaning I gave things and what I chose to do about it. 

Since then, I've really lived my life in finding the gift in every moment, appreciating the beauty all around us, finding the gift in every struggle; that's been the way that I live my life. I am so grateful for that because being faced with this diagnosis, I know that if I focus on all the solutions and not the problem, that's going to help me. If I focus on all the beauty like the deep and rich relationships -- this incredible deep love and passion that I share with those closest to me -- it's such a beautiful gift. There are so many gifts that will rise from this struggle. Being able to understand that I've always been a great giver, but I've always really struggled to receive, to take in love and take in what really makes me feel so good to give -- this is the lesson in that. This will bring greater depth and beauty into my life by not only being able to give but to truly receive and believe that I deserve this love, care, and support.

There are so many beautiful gifts that will come from this struggle.  We all know that living in a beautiful state comes from being able to empower yourself in every moment with thoughts of gratitude, of love, of aliveness.  Focusing on abundance and the things that empower us to be able to do more, be more, create more and feel more joy, rather than focusing on the things that drain us and deplete us of our energy.

Yes, acute myeloid leukemia is not something anyone wants to hear. But I know that I have everything inside of me. The love and support around me, and the incredible doctors, I know I will get through this.

Am I scared? Yes, I am scared. I know there's going to be some really tough moments that will probably bring me to my knees.  That's scary.  But I also know that I have been scared before.  I've been scared and terrified before, and every single time  I made it through. Every single time I found my courage or developed even more courage. I found a way to get to the other side. And that's exactly what I'm going to do right here.

I love you all so much. I can't thank you enough for your love, support, prayers, and your thoughts. They mean absolutely everything to me.

For all of you, whether you are someone that's dealing with a bad prognosis or someone in your life is having to go through this, we all need to put our focus and thoughts to a place that will bring us healing, energy, love, and light. Do not sit in spaces that bring us down, weaken us and make us even more vulnerable.  We need to be strong. We need to be positive. We need to focus on solutions. We need to focus on the gift in every struggle. We need to be living in a beautiful a state as we can so that we can bring all our power, our life force, our love, our energy into creating the outcome we all want, and that is healing, living, thriving and being the very best that we can be in this beautiful gift of life that we have all been blessed with.

Thank you, everyone. I love you. I will keep posting Bed Head Chronicles. I actually have a separate thing going that I just keep recording and stashing away, which is my Cancer Chronicles. I think it's empowering to say the word cancer. It's okay. Many of us go through this, and I hope to be able to talk about it in a way that strengthens people. To give them the energy, inspiration and life force inside to truly breakthrough and get rid of any disease that they're faced with.

I love you all. Thank you and have an amazing day.

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What an amazing question, Karen Burkes! Basically, Fearless Authencity is a muscle that we need to work on to make that stronger. We need to keep building that muscle. That means you need to be true to you in every circumstance.

Here's the thing, guys...being fearlessly authentic means being vulnerable. It means being brave enough to say, "This is who I am. This is what I feel. This is what I believe. And I'm not going to compromise that." What I realized that the greatest gift about being fearlessly authentic is that you not only get much greater joy and internal peace, but it also leads to more deeper, trusting relationships. People know that what they see from me is what they are going to get. I am who I am. They'll know that I always say where I'm coming from. I'm going to be real and honest. People trust you when they know you are being real with them.

To me, I feel that it is so worth it to not have to struggle with the feeling that comes -- and I know this feeling well from when I was a youngster -- that feeling that you're trying to be something to "fit in" to get a certain job or have someone like you. You're having to be something that you're not. We think that we need to change to become something different to get what we want.

But no.

The easiest, simplest and most powerful, enjoyable way to achieve what we dream of is by being you. By being fearlessly, authentically YOU.

In every single moment, recognize yourself.

If you're with a group of people who have certain opinions, but your own opinion just doesn't match theirs, it's okay. It's okay to have a different opinion. If anything, know that we are all learning and growing from one another. We're seeing different perspectives from our conversations that add to our own perspective. When we have compassion, empathy, and lead with love, we can look at every single person, even if they have different beliefs to us, and love them. Love them for being human and for sharing their truths even if it differs from ours.

When we have compassion and empathy for others, that allows us to accept being different. It won't make us angry about the fact that they don't agree with our own beliefs. It will allow us to accept it and entertain that perspective and appreciate it, acknowledge it and hold on to what is true for you.

Nothing feels better than backing yourself in those moments. Nothing feels better than standing your ground for what you believe in.

Say you were standing your ground in a job interview, and you knew the answer to a question like "Do you have a husband?" -- for me, way back when, I could say "I'm gay." But what if this person asked me that question and I say "No, I'm gay." What if I don't get the job? Well, you know what? That's not the job I want anyway. That's not the job for me. Or maybe, they take a deep breath when I say, "No, I'm gay. I'm with a woman.," it gives them an opportunity to learn, grow and expand their belief system.

Whatever it is, trust in the fact that when you come home to the truth -- when you stand true with you and back yourself up and know that by presenting yourself as you are, everything about you -- fearlessly authentically you, you are giving the world the very best of you. Not a tweaked version of yourself where some of it is real and some of it is not. But you are giving the world all of who you are. All of your power, beauty and your perfection. That's what the world deserves. That's when we have the most impact. That's when we can be our best selves. Most importantly, we can achieve the most in our lives and get the most fulfillment. That fulfillment, peace, and joy inside.

So, please, aim to be fearlessly authentic.

First, you must know who you are. What do you care about? What do you believe in? What lights up your soul? What kind of impact do you want to have in the world around you?

Then don't compromise. Don't try to be something that you're not. Be you.

That is where you are your most powerful self. There will be moments where you will be challenged. But don't decide or act on fear. Act from a place of love -- and that means loving yourself first. Trust that your truth, your authenticity, is where you can be most powerful and impactful in this world, and your most loving and very best self.

Trust in you. Love yourself first. Lead with love. Accept others with love. Don't make decisions based on fear. Love yourself. Believe in you. Be fearlessly authentically you. Never compromise on that. The more you do it, the stronger you become. It's a muscle. Build it. And you will see that your capabilities become more powerful than you can imagine.

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Today, I want to talk about when we get sick, injured or not feeling our best. How do we support ourselves in those moments?

In the past, when I would get an injury as a professional athlete, I would get angry at that body part that got injured. "I can't believe this plantar fascitis is this bad!" I would get angry or upset.

Or if we get sick at an inopportune time -- rather than beating up on ourselves in those moments, I think it is so important to be kind to that body part, our body, and our selves. Love your self. Send healing energy to that body part or yourself. Allow yourself to recover and heal.

If someone you loved was injured or sick, we go and take care of them. We bring them chicken soup or massage their injury. We love on them, support them and send healing vibes to them.

We must do the same for ourselves.

Our bodies will break down, and when they do, they are asking for something we're not giving them. Are you giving your body enough recovery? Are you sleeping enough? Are you eating the right food? Are you drinking enough water? Whatever it is, your body is crying out for help in some shape or form.

If it's an injury, your body is telling you that you're doing too much. It needs to recover more.

Honor your body. Give it what it needs to recover, get healthy, stay strong and be able to give you what you're asking of it. We can't treat our bodies like rental cars (even if you do take care of rental cars). We have to treat them the way we would treat a car that we would just wash and shine every day. Treat your body like the precious vessel that it is.

So, in those moments when you're not feeling well, have a niggle or have an injury, be kind to yourself. Love on yourself and give yourself what you need to heal, get stronger, get healthy and feel better. Your body is communicating with you. Think about what it needs and give that to your body. But, most importantly, give yourself love. The same kind of love and attention that you would give a loved one if they were hurting in the same way.

Thank you everyone, and have an amazing day.

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Today, I want to talk about the standards that we set for ourselves. Our performance, whether it be in our job, in our sport, our relationships – whatever it is, it depends upon the standards that we set for ourselves. Sometimes we’ll set high standards for our work or sport, and we’ll always do our very best and do everything that we need to do to be the very best we need to be in those things. But then we drop our standards in our relationships or taking care of others, whatever that is. 

It is so important in life that we set high standards in every aspect of our life. That means your career, health, relationship, finances, time management, spirituality, and inner peace. All of these. 

When we set standards and live up to them in every aspect of our life, that is when life gets to be as brilliant and as beautiful as we dream of.  

So, what area in your life had you not held the same standard that you hold for the aspect of your life that you’re most focused on right now? For example, if your career is everything to you right now because you know that if you can do a great job at work, you can make a good living and support your family. You can do all the things you dream of doing in life. But does that mean that when you come home at night to your family, and you’re exhausted and tired for giving everything in your job, that you’re not really present for your family? If that is the case, what I ask you to do is raise your standards to the same level of your career for your family.

That doesn’t mean you have to spend many more hours together. But it means that in the time that you spend with your family, be present. Be fully present. Put your phone away or put it in the other room. Look into the eyes of your loved ones.  Be there.  Be interactive and share in their day. Set those same high standards in your relationship that you do in your career. 

If the relationship is where you set your standards are set so high and you’re not really bringing that to your job. If that’s leading to your performance not been so great, or you’re not enjoying your work, then try to set the same high standards in every aspect of your life. Career, health and body, relationships, finances, spirituality, inner peace – set those same standards.  You’ll see that life will feel more beautiful, richer and happier.  Be the best you every single day.  Thank you.  

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Today, I want to talk about how to be our very best in those most crucial moments. Whether you are racing in a World Championship and you have 200 meters to go to the finish line with just one person in front of you. If you pass them, you’re going to win that World Championship. Or, perhaps, how can hit that goal time coming under 5 hours in a half ironman and you’ve got 30-seconds to go to make it to the finish.  Or, perhaps, you’re the one that’s chosen to take the last shot in overtime that’s going to determine whether your team wins or loses that game. Or, maybe, you’re in the midst of your biggest pitch that will determine whether your company takes it to the next level or not. 

In those moments, how can we be our very best selves?

I’ll tell you one way that we won’t be our very best selves – that is if you’re focusing on “what if I fail? What if I don’t make it? What if I miss?  What if I…?  Any “what if” with a negative finish is not going to help you.  It’s going to disempower you and lead you to not be your best self.

What we want to focus on is “how can I be my best self at this moment?” Being fully present at the moment is everything.  That is where we are most powerful – when we are in the moment.  Focusing on what we can do at this moment now to be our very best selves. 

Whether that is the runner in the triathlon going for the world championship win.  Let’s focus on my form.  I’m going to pump the arms.  I’m going to keep my cadence up.  I’ve got my forward momentum.  And I am going to absolutely drive as hard as I can to catch that person in front of me and cross that line. Be in the moment.  Pull all the tools out of the toolbox.

Or, if you’re delivering that pitch for your company, come from the heart.  Come feel why this matters to you.  Be present with the emotion behind it.  Be present with your purpose and mission, then deliver it from that place.  Because if we’re in the past or future, that’s going to take away the power we can give when we are in the moment, fully present, with what we are doing that very moment. Being our best selves at the moment is when we can deliver our most powerful punch.

So, if you’re the one in overtime taking that last shot, don’t think about “what if I miss?” Don’t think about “what’s it going to be like when I make it?” Think about what you can do at this very moment to make this the best shot you’ve ever made. Then focus on your technique, form and the power that you put into it.  Focus with your heart, your soul, your spirit – that is where you will be your most powerful self. 

Even though this is kind of a different subject – at any moment, you don’t what to focus on the things that you don’t want. Focus on what you want. See it happening. See it working. Know that you have everything you need inside of you to have or create the result that you dream of. 

Everyone, have an amazing day.  Make it an amazing day. It’s in your control. 

Today, I want to talk about “changing our shoulds in life to musts.”

There's a big difference between saying, “I really should start working out and get on a healthy eating plan,” to “I must start eating healthier and start getting fit.”

It's a big difference in what that invokes in you. A “should” won't get you moving. It won't call you to action. A “must” makes it absolutely imperative that this gets done.

What things in your life have you been calling “shoulds” that really need to be “musts”? Is there something that your health depends upon you doing that if you don't do these things down the line, you're going to experience pain because of it. We need to get leverage to get us to do the things that happen “shoulds” and to turn them into “musts”.

What is that leverage? What if it has to do with the relationship? “I really need to put some time into my marriage.” “I need to be more present.” “I should be more present.” “I should probably create a date night every week.” “I should probably try and lift them more and take more interest in my partner's life.” “I should do these things.” You're probably not going to do them if they're really a “should.”

So think about to yourself “Why does this matter?”. And you would say because my wife is the most important person in my life. I loved her more than anything in the world and our future happiness and health of our relationship depends upon me being present and fully integrating our lives. And it becomes a must because if I don't do these things I could lose her. I could lose this relationship.

This is all theoretical, by the way. I love my wife and we're doing amazing. Thank God.

But moving from a “should” to a “must” makes it absolutely imperative that you get this done. So, find your leverage.

My leverage is, that, if this person means the world to me, then my every moment in life should be focused on lighting up her soul, bringing out the best in her, filling her needs, and being everything that I can be for her. Because I know if I do that, I'll get the same in return and our relationship will be everything that it's meant to be. It's a must because of that.

Your health. If you're saying, if you have some health issues, and in order to solve them, or to move forward, and to get healthy again, you need to change your diet. Start eating healthier. Start exercising start. Strengthening your heart.

Think about it this way. If I don't do these things, I can severely damage my health. I may not be around for my husband, or wife, or my kids, or my friends, or my family. I may not be able to go to work and support my family. I may not be able to do the things that I love. I may not be able to enjoy this gift of life for as long as I hope to. That's leverage and that will change your “should” to an absolute “must.” Tony Robbins taught me this and the power of these words is incredible.

What are things that have been “shoulds” in your life that need to be “musts?” When you say “must” it will push you into action. You won't look back. So, go do that. Make it a must. Your life depends upon it. Your relationships depend upon it. Your happiness and joy. Your fulfillment depends upon it.

Turn your “shoulds” into “musts” and go get it done. Change your life. Be in charge. Empower yourself. And when you do that, your impact on all those around you, all those that you care about will be enormous and beautiful. Be brave. Be you. Go get it. Be strong. Make it a must.

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Today, I want to talk about certain words that we all use a lot to describe tougher moments in our lives. And sometimes when we overuse these words, we start attributing them to tough days that aren't the end of the world. But because we use that word to describe it a word like “devastated.” “I'm just devastated that my package didn't arrive today,” or “I'm devastated that that meeting didn't go the way I wanted it to.

Now, the problem with using such strong words like “devastated,” is that it's such a powerful word that brings up these feelings of just complete disaster, and sadness, and pain. And what happens is that in using that word, it’s actually bringing even more pain, even more intensity or sadness to something that really isn't the end of the world.

So, what words are you using in your life?

Whether it be, “It was a tragic day.” or “Oh, it was just a horrible day.” And think about how much worse it actually makes your experience of the day just by using that word.

I know, with me, I hear a lot from people in my life where they'll write me and say, “Oh, I'm just devastated,” and I think “My God, what happened?” Did somebody die? Did you get into an accident? What happened? And, it's never anything of the sort.

To me, it brings up these horrible emotions that bring me pain and angst. But also for them, it's as if they are taking what should be a 5 (on a scale of 1 to 10) in pain or upset and making it a 10 just by the word that they're using to describe it.

Think about the words you use in your life and let's think about using them less or using them only for things that truly are 10 out of 10 pain for you, or disappointment, or angst, or sadness.

Because if we can use gentler words, or words that are more descriptive of truly what happened. Like, “Oh, I had an upsetting meeting today,” or “A bit disappointed that my package didn't arrive today.” It takes the sting out of it. It makes it less painful. And, in the world today, we are going to have moments that are really painful and really hard. But if we're using those big, huge words for small events that really should not be giving us that much pain, it's kind of forcing us to lower our threshold of what level things need to be too upset us, if that makes sense.

So, focus on the words that you use. Try not to use those huge, exaggerated words for things that really aren't deserving of that kind of a description.  You’ll notice that your pain becomes less. Your frustration becomes less.

I truly believe that our experience of life is up to us. It really is in every way. Yes, bad things are going to happen to us or people are going to be mean to us or will be disappointed. But we are in control of how we react. We are in control of how we respond. How we do that is we decide what to focus on.

Are we going to focus on the hurt, the pain, the disappointment? Or are we going to focus on “Okay, what can I learn from this?” “What good is going to come out of this?” Or “What am I learning from this? Are we focusing on all the things that went wrong? All the problems?

Or are we focusing on everything that's right in our lives? And all the solutions and the fact that we truly can control our experience of life by what we focus on, the meaning we give things, and what we choose to do about it?

You can wake up feeling sad. You can choose to lie in bed and feel sad all day. Or you can choose to take a moment; take a deep breath, put your hand on your heart, and think about all the wonderful things in your life. And the first one being “I woke up this morning and I have this beautiful beating heart in my chest. I have a roof over my head right now, and I have a place to go. I have things to do. I have people that care.”

Then get out of bed and create your experience of life. All of this -- being able to be in charge of our own experience of life -- it's empowering. When we decide to let circumstances or other people determine our moods, our feelings, and interactions, we become helpless. That helplessness makes us feel horrible.

Choose to empower yourself. Choose to focus on things that serve you: what you have, what you love, what you want to create, and what you have all the control over -- which is your experience of life: how you react, how you respond, how you decide to take on your day with positivity, with optimism, with hope, with love, with kindness, and with strength.

Everyone have an amazing day. I love you all.

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Today, I want to talk about certain beliefs that we developed at a very young age that, to this day, could be negatively influencing us. Even sabotaging our efforts to be happy, successful, or thriving in our lives.

I woke up thinking about money and the first 4 years of my life. My parents were still together, we lived in a small house listening to Cat Stevens on our old red velvet couch. There was so much love. We didn't have many material things. But there was so much love and connection.

Then, my parents got divorced and my mom married a really rich, famous guy. Suddenly we moved into this massive house and we had everything that we could ever dream of. But what I felt was there was less time for connection and love. They traveled a lot and were gone a lot.

So, for me, the meaning I gave money was that it steals love. Money takes away quality time. Money takes away connection. Basically, love and connection -- the things that mean the most to me -- will be taken away if money comes in.

Now, this is a crazy belief, but you can see how it developed.

When my wife and I developed Believe Ranch and Rescue, our non-profit horse rescue, we were struggling to raise any money at all. And it's still a big effort for us. We went off to Tony Robbins' Business Mastery course. It was just unbelievable because the first thing that I realized when I went to this course is that my relationship with money -- the meaning I gave money -- was completely preventing me from having the ability to become financially free.

I had to change what I saw money as doing in my life. For me, if I could achieve financial freedom, I would be able to save more horses. I would be able to give more to the people that I love and care about. I would be able to give to the causes that I care about. Basically, financial freedom would give me the ability to love more, give more, save more and create more in the world, which is what I'm all about.

It's about loving. I love these horses. I am trying to save these horses from the most dramatic, horrible, torturous fate. But in order to do that, we have to raise money. We need to ask for money and ask for help. If I was repelling the idea of money, then I was also preventing any chance of bringing it into our lives so that we could save more horses and give more.

So, think about your relationship with money. What do you think money brings you?

If you're like me, and you have a relationship that isn't a positive one, it's so important for you to change your meaning of money so that you open yourself up to be able to create and live the life that you dream of. To me, having money isn't about having the material things. It means that I have the ability to spend more time with my family, see them more often. Part of my family is on the other side of the world in Australia. So, if I achieve financial freedom, we can visit them more. That means more time together. More chance of connection.

Also, I can give more to the world around me. I can help others that need help. I can give a voice to those that don't have one. I can help create and develop things to give back to this beautiful world and this life that has given me so much.

These beliefs can also be about relationships or love or life itself. Think about what you think life is. If life is hard, you're always going to be finding that it's hard. You will find proof of that. Or if love is dangerous, you're always going to be afraid of creating a relationship.

First, you want to think back to where do these beliefs come from? Why have I had this directing my life? When you realize that we created these beliefs long ago and no longer serve us anymore -- if anything, they are holding us back. Find a more empowering meaning. Free yourself from the chains that are keeping you from living your best life.

Every day, examine your different beliefs and see if they are serving you or disempowering you. If you find that something is holding you back, change it. Form a more empowering meaning. Have a different way of looking at it. Get out there and live the life that you dream of because this life is truly such a beautiful gift. I know that all of us want to be able to experience the most love, joy, success, and fulfillment. In order to do that, we need to look at the things that may be holding us back as far as our beliefs go.

Thank you, everyone. Have an amazing day.

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Today, I want to talk about how motivated we as humans are by trying to avoid pain. How many times have you said "No" when you really wanted to say "Yes" because you are afraid that it could lead somewhere painful? It could lead to either failure or rejection or pain of some sort.  How many times have we backed away from a challenge or said "No" to an incredible opportunity because we were more motivated by avoiding pain than we were to receiving pleasure or joy?
 
So often -- we need to think about this -- we make decisions based on fear and that fear is of pain.  Some sort of pain.

I made a decision many years ago, that I was going to start living my life from a place of love and not fear. My life had been ruled by fear for so many years and it sucked all the joy out of my life. All the pleasure out of my life. And it created such anxiety and frustration, and overwhelm, and fear.

And when I made this decision to live my life from a place of love and not fear, it changed everything for me. Because what I realized is that when we avoid pain; when we say no because we're afraid, we actually are creating so much more pain for ourselves in the future. When we say yes and when we take a chance on us and when we believe that whatever pain we may experience to get to that ultimate goal or to that ultimate place that we're dreaming of, it will be so worth it. For the joy that we're going to experience at the end.

So think about this; the decisions you make in your life, if they're based on fear, please take a moment, breathe deep, come into your heart, and ask yourself, "Is this the right decision?"

Give yourself a second chance to say "yes", and to be courageous enough to know that you can withstand any discomfort or any pain knowing that what's on the other side -- that joy, that fulfillment, that happiness, whatever it is, will be so worth it.  Because when we don't act because we're afraid, I truly believe it can lead to so much more inevitable pain in the future.

I'll give you a small example. I completely trashed my body as an athlete. I probably did way more than I was actually capable of doing. I took on way more than my body could withstand. And now I feel young and energetic and amazing except I have a hip that just doesn't work anymore. It keeps me from wanting to run fast and run hard and climb mountains and ride bikes all over the place. And it's causing me a lot of pain and I've been avoiding having a hip replacement, which is what they tell me; and I think at my age I'm not going to have a hip replacement at my young age. There's no way.

But what I'm actually doing is because I'm afraid. I'm afraid of how that's going to make me feel. Is that hip replacement going to make me feel old? Well, only if I allow it to. Is that hip replacement going to prevent me from doing all the things that I love? Isn't that happening already? Already, I can't run hard, and run fast, and climb mountains, and ride bikes because I'm afraid of what it's going to take to fix it.

So I said, "yes" because I came back and that I need to practice what I preach. And I thought I'm saying no because I'm afraid. When really all this is going to lead to is more pain in the future when I can do less, and less, and less because the hip deteriorates even more.

So I decided yesterday to say yes. I'm going to have this hip replacement by the best doctor in Colorado. I'm going to get this done so that I can be back running hard, running fast, climbing mountains, riding my bike all over the place. Because I decided to have faith that going through a little bit of pain now is going to allow me to have great pleasure in great joy in the future.

Live your life from a place of love and not fear. That means saying yes to a relationship that brings you such joy, even though it scares you to have to commit. Or saying yes to entering that race that you've always wanted to do but you're afraid that you don't have enough to get from start to finish. Well, you do. Take a chance on you. When you say yes, you will step up to the challenge. I guarantee you.

My wife and I bought this ranch for Believe Ranch and Rescue, so we could have a place to save these horses and give them a wonderful home where they could live out their lives or be trained to have new homes. Forever homes in the future. We had no business buying this house. It was way over our heads, but we said yes because we knew in our hearts this was the right thing to do for us and for these horses. We found a way. We stepped up to the challenge. We made it so that we demanded more of ourselves so that we could follow through and make this happen, not only buy this place but keep it and be able to continue saving horses.

Don't let your fear stop you from living the life you are destined to live. Take a chance on you. Follow your heart, live your life from a place of love, and not fear. Have an amazing day.

Thank you, everyone.  Have an amazing day and thank you for listening to the Bed Head Chronicles.

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Today, I want to talk about those things in your life that you may think are constant thorns in your side.  Whether it be a situation or relationship or whatever it is.  But it's something that causes you constant suffering.

I know we all have those things at different points in our lives.  But what I want to talk about this morning is that these things that stick around, these thorns in our side -- we get what we tolerate.   For as long as we're willing to accept the situation or behavior, it's going to stick around.  It's not going to magically go away.

We all have to find the strength, find the reason why we must change the way things are.

Life is meant to live and meant to be something that gives us great joy.  And it can.  But it depends on what we're focusing on.  Are we focusing on what's missing, or what we have?  Are we focusing on what is good, or what is wrong?  Are we focusing on what we want, or what we don't want to happen?  Are we focusing on what we have control over, or what we don't have control over?

The direction of our focus is directly related to our experience of life. 

I know in my sad and really tough times, I was focusing on what was missing, what I didn't have, what I had no control over and what I feared and didn't want to happen.  It was no wonder why I was miserable.  But when I changed what I was focusing on all the right things -- abundance, love, what I wanted to create and what I did have control over -- my experience of life changed everything for me. 

I'm a true believer that we can be happy no matter what's going on in our lives.  We can be at peace and be happy if we choose to focus on what's good every moment.  But with that being said, even if you do that most of the time in your life -- if there's something that you can see causes you pain or suffering or seems to be a problem that you've had forever,  then look at the problem.  Why is it still there?  Why hasn't it changed?

Now, if it's another person that we're waiting for them to change, that's never going to happen.  And we can't change them.  But what you can do is change your reaction.  Change the way you see their behavior.  Change the way you have it affect you.  Because what we tolerate is what we get.

If there's a certain behavior at work or the way we're being treated by our bosses, and we stay and still work there without changing anything, that's going to stick around because you're not doing anything to change it. 

Now, a few things can happen.  You can change the way you're looking at the behavior of your boss, and somehow, find a way to have it positively influence you, rather than negatively.  Or, you can get a new job and find something that is better suited for you.  But we get what we tolerate in life. 

If you are unhappy in any area of your life, you are in control.  You have the power to change it.  Whether that be by acting or breaking a certain power and deciding to never go back.  Or reframing the situation or circumstance in a way that will serve you rather than disserve you.

But whatever it is, anything that we believe is a thorn in our side, we have the ability to pull it out.  Change is often really hard.  Sometimes we give in to certain behaviors because we feel powerless to change them.  But I'm telling you right now that we all have the power within us to change any situation.  Whether it be by what we choose to focus on or the meaning that we give it or what we choose to do about it.

So, take action today.  Decide not to suffer anymore.  Give yourself permission to find joy and peace in every aspect of your life.  You can.  It's in your control.  Just practice the discipline to find a way out of the suffering and into the joy.

Thank you, everyone.  Have an amazing day and thank you for listening to the Bed Head Chronicles.

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I didn't want to have to deal with that question. I wanted to prove to me -- I wanted to go out and put together one more year where I proved to myself that I'm the real deal.  That I am a winner and I am someone that can set a high goal and high standards and I can step up and be afraid but do it anyway.  That's courage.  I can go after these dreams and I can hold on to this number one in the world ranking and I can prove this to me, most importantly.

So that's what I did.  That's what kept me motivated the next year was wanting to back myself and believe enough in me that even after achieving the ultimate success -- this ultimate goal that I had set for myself -- that I wouldn't be afraid to hope for even more.  To believe that there was even more inside of me.  Because your potential is limitless. You may achieve your ultimate dream, your ultimate goal, but instead of having that make you think "Ooh, that's it. I did it. I got to stop now because that's it for me."  I want you to know, I want you to believe that that is just the beginning of what you're capable of.  That is just the beginning of you realizing the magic inside of you.

So, that's what's kept me motivated.  After that, I retired at number one in the world a year later. And because this has been such an incredible road of discovery. And it took me from a place of being If someone had no confidence.  Somebody that was riddled with self-doubt.  She's someone now and felt safe in my own skin, happy with who I was, and having achieved something that seemed impossible.  All I wanted now was to be able to help someone else that was like me when I started.  Help them find their magic, step into their power, and help them achieve their dreams and goals.

That's what motivated me.  Because when we discover something that changes our lives and makes us happier human, a better human, I believe that it becomes our responsibility -- becomes a privilege and a responsibility to help someone else do the same. Nothing feels better than giving back to this world that gives us so much.  Nothing feels better than giving back to those people that believed in us.  That without those people, we wouldn't be able to live the lives that we live.  Or achieved the goals that we achieved.  Giving thanks, being grateful and showing appreciation to the people that made it possible and have been on your team is so important.  And it's also important to pay it forward -- do that same kindness and give that same thing to someone else.

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Today, I want to talk about the beauty of fall -- of autumn -- and how the incredible leaves, no matter where you are, it's just so beautiful.  

But then, suddenly, the trees know it's time to let go.  They shed their leaves and become bare.  But, what they're doing is letting go to open up space and availability to have a rebirth in the spring -- to develop new and different leaves that are more beautiful than before.

We often forget to find the beauty in our own shedding of letting go of things that are no longer serving us to make room for the things that will serve us.  Or will allow us to find greater joy, peace or happiness.  

Let's learn to be able to let go a little easier.  Loosening our grip on the things that we're so unwilling to change.  Let's not be afraid to let go.  But let's celebrate the fact that in letting go, we're opening up space for even better things.  

I often wonder what blessings or opportunities I blocked by refusing to let go.  I've thought about it from so many different perspectives. How is my reluctance to change kept me from something spectacular?  

Think about that for yourself.  Were there times when you held on so tightly because you didn't want to change and let go?  Did you miss out on something that could have truly enhanced your life in some way?

As much as we find such great beauty in nature in the Fall, the trees shedding these beautiful leaves to make room for rebirth in the Spring, let's try and celebrate the same in ourselves.

Now, I want you to think back to times when you did allow yourself to let go, and how further on in the future you look back and say "Thank goodness I did that.  Because look where it led me."  Sometimes our inability to let go leaves us in a space where we don't grow.  We don't get to change and see how spectacular life can be.  

So, as life comes and offers us up all kinds of situations that either force us to change or encourage us to change, loosen your grip a little bit.  Recognize that there will be something truly beautiful in letting go.  Just like the trees in the fall.  

Don't be afraid.  Believe that this beautiful gift of life involves so much of having to hold on sometimes and letting go at other times.  Let's find the beauty in all of it.

Thank you very much and have an amazing day.

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Today, I want you to think about how many times -- during the day, during the week, during the month -- that we have the opportunity to be great through small acts of kindness.

I think we often underestimate the power of a kind touch, smile, honest compliment, or providing just a caring, listening ear to someone.  The power of these small gestures -- these small acts of kindness -- that can truly turn someone's life around.

We have an opportunity to be great in this way every single day.  What I hope for you is that in every moment you can just pause for a split second to think, 'How can I make this a moment where I can truly touch the life of this person in front of me?'

Don't rush through your day missing out on these opportunities because when we give to another, nothing feels so satisfying, so fulfilling, so deeply wonderful.  Because we know what it feels like to be listened to when we need someone to hear us.  To be smiled at when may feel sad.  To be given a compliment on a day when we don't feel so great about ourselves.  Or to be given a hug in a troubled time.

We all know how good that feels and we all have the opportunity to be great in these small acts of kindness every single day.

I was reading something this morning when I woke up, and this is what made me think about how important this is.  "How far you go in your life depends on you're being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant with the weak and strong.  Because someday in your life, you will have been all of these."

And that is so true.  We have all been young.  We will all be old at some point.  We will all be weak in times.  We will all be strong in times.   

During all those times, we hope to be loved, supported and acknowledged by others.  But most importantly by our selves.

So, today, go through the day.  Be free with offering an act of kindness and feel how that fills your heart and soul with so much beauty. 

Thank you everyone, and have an amazing day.

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Today, I want to talk about how we so often acknowledged, appreciate and celebrate the successes or achievements of others so much more than we give our own selves credit for.

For example, a friend of yours who hasn't been working out very much goes out has a week where she works out every single day and she's feeling great and she's loving it.  You would probably be celebrating them and saying "wow, that's so amazing" My God, that's so inspiring.  Great job!"  But if it were you, and you hadn't been working on for a long time, but you've been working out every single day for seven days and you feeling great.  You're doing well.  You're getting fitter and you're getting stronger.  Are you celebrating that?  Are you giving yourself the credit for having the discipline, the will the desire, the motivation to get out of bed and work out every single day when you haven't done this for a long time?

Celebrate yourself like you would celebrate that person that you love so much.

On the same note, say you have someone that you love so deeply and you can see that they're stuck in a pattern that is just not serving them.  They're stuck in a pattern that's making them unhappy.  Wouldn't you go to them and give them some words of advice to get out of that pattern or to do something differently or to believe in something more?

If that's what you would tell them and you, currently, are stuck in a pattern that's not serving you, that's making you sad, that's having you feel way less than your best, then don't you deserve to give yourself that great advice as well?

We take ourselves for granted all the time.

And as much as we celebrate and appreciate and acknowledge the achievements or the improvements of the people that we love so much in our lives, we need to offer ourselves that same love.  That same appreciation.  That same acknowledgment.  And to celebrate those things for ourselves as well.

And in the same note, when we're stuck or we know that we are doing something that is not helping us or not serving us -- think about if this was someone that you loved so deeply was stuck in the same pattern, what advice would you give them?  I'm sure it's not the advice that you're giving yourself at that moment.  Love yourself as you would love those people that you love so much in your life because when you take care of you, and I know I talk about this all the time -- take care of you.  Love you.  Appreciate you.  Inspire you.  Then you will be able to love, appreciate, inspire and move the people you love to the best of your ability and with all your heart and soul.

Take care of yourself, first.  Appreciate you.  Acknowledge you.  Don't take yourself for granted.  Look at what you accomplished every single day.

Appreciate you, and as you do every single day, you appreciate the things that you accomplish whether they're huge things or tiny things.  You build upon that.  And as you build that muscle of appreciating you and acknowledging you and celebrating you, you're also building your confidence, your self-love, and thus your ability to give to the people you love and care about, give to this world, contribute to this world and truly make a difference.

So, to all of you, as you go through your day today if somebody gives you a compliment and says, "Hey, great job!"  Instead of just smiling and saying, "Thank you" and having that comment go from one ear to the other and out the door, take it in.  "Wow. Yeah, I did do that. Thank you. That means so much to me."  And then move on. 

But have that build you up.  Build up your belief in yourself.  Build up your confidence. And you build up your self-love.  Take it in, acknowledge it, appreciate it.  Because when you give kind words to another or you want to share your pride in them or your appreciation for something that they've accomplished, you want to know that they're taking that in and really listening and really understanding what you're trying to tell them.  Do that same thing for yourself.

Okay, everybody. I hope you have an amazing day and thank you for checking in with the Bed Head Chronicles and I'll see you tomorrow.

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Today, I want to talk about owning your mistakes. Owning it when things don't turn out the way that you hope them to.

You all have heard my story of the Olympic trials and where I had prepared for 365 days. I had visualized the perfect race from start to the finish with me crossing the line, Siri Lindley going to the Olympics.

What happened was because I had only visualized everything going right, in the first 30 seconds of that race that gun had gone off, I dove in the water, I got dumped under, I got elbowed in the face and I lost the front pack.

I had not visualized that happening. I had not prepared for what I would do in that circumstance.

Basically, even though I was going as hard as I possibly could, swimming as fast as I could, I was going backward. I couldn't access my power. I couldn't access my speed. I couldn't access anything because I was choking. I was freezing.

Same thing on the bike. I got on the bike and going as hard as I could. I'm going backward. Everybody's passing me.

Same thing on the run. Until I finally quit.

Now, the thing is that everyone, or everyone that I knew, was expecting me to make the Olympic team that day because I was one of the top Americans. So, in their minds when they came up to me after the race, it was like, 'What happened? Are you sick? Are you injured? Did you have a mechanical on the bike?'

I knew that my answer to their questions would change everything for me. Had I come up with an excuse, I would have rendered myself powerless to change my life, but most importantly powerless in my ability to truly believe in me. I knew that owning it and being honest about what happened would increase my capacity to learn and to grow. I would have faith in myself. I would have respect for myself and I would be able to move on learning from what happened.

So when the first person came up to me and said 'Siri what happened?' I took a deep breath and I said I choked. I absolutely choked. I froze. I couldn't do anything and I quit.

I felt ashamed at that moment that at that level and after all the hard work I did put in that I could just quit. But in owning that, that was real for me. That had an impact on me. I had respect for myself for being honest about exactly what happened. And I knew that I would take this experience and I would learn from it. I would grow from it. I would have respect for myself and faith in myself to know that no matter what happens, I won't give up on me. But I will recognize exactly what went wrong so that I can figure out exactly how to get right.

Owning our mistakes is everything.

When we do own our mistakes, we're teaching those around us to own there's and to recognize that making it to the top or achieving your ultimate goal is going to include a lot of failures and disappointments along the way.

I always say that if you're not willing to fail you're actually not willing to succeed because it's part of the process. But owning it is everything. And it also made it very clear what had gone wrong. You know, I visualize the perfect race.

Visualization is such a powerful tool, but when you visualize whatever it is -- preparing for the race or preparing for a meeting or preparing for a date -- whatever it is, you have to -- you want to see things all going the way you need it to, to have your ultimate success, but you also need to see things going wrong and see yourself handling these obstacles or these challenges with grace and with confidence, overcoming the problem and ultimately coming out successful.

That's something that I learned -- for the rest of my races to come and something that helped me become a world champion and to then-coach athletes to become world champions.

When you visualize see yourself also overcoming difficulties and ended up successful. It's so very important.

The other thing that's experienced pointed out to me is that I have lost my way. I had started focusing on making the Olympic team be the 'be-all-end-all'. Having to get good results to get a paycheck to be able to keep doing what I was doing. And that focus was not inspiring me or bringing out the best in me. It was putting pressure on me, and it was causing me to tighten rather than be free.

So also out of that experience, the greatest thing is that I found my way back to a 'why,' to a focus that served me, that brought out the best in me, that allowed me to become what I so dreamed of becoming. I realized that instead of looking at how far I had to go and what I needed to accomplish and the money I needed to make to survive, I decided to focus on seeing how far I'd come.

I didn't know how to swim six years ago. You know, I just learned how to do a swim stroke six years ago. And now, I found myself in a position to make the Olympic team. I started feeling proud of how far I'd come. I started feeling proud of all the hard work I put in. And I started thinking about 'Wow! I feel so grateful. I feel so grateful for my tough mind and this body that has carried me through. And for my passion, desire, commitment, and relentlessness. I started celebrating that.

To me, whatever you believe in, I thought 'I am so grateful for the gifts that I've been so blessed with -- mind, body, and spirit.'

Now, all I want to do is show my gratitude to my creator and say 'Thank you.' And I decided that my way of showing thanks is going to be every single day in training or during a race, I would give every single thing I had inside of me -- heart and soul -- and leave nothing behind. I would lay everything I had on that racecourse. And that would be my way of showing thanks to my creator that I believe in.

This focus, this 'why', not only led me to win 13 World Cup races but becoming a World Champion in Triathlon and a World Champion in Aquathon.

So, guys, anytime along the path -- we are all going to fail. We are all going to be disappointed. Owning it. Don't come up with an excuse. When you come up with an excuse, you're not serving yourself. You're weakening yourself. You're weakening your trust, your faith, your belief and your respect for you.

Own your mistakes. It's a part of your journey. And you'll be an example for all those who look up to you. When you own it, you can truly learn, grow and strength from the experience. And that will allow you to take in all the learning around you and bring everything you have inside of you. You'll have a deep faith that you are there in your own best interest and bring out the best in you. You'll do whatever it takes to make your dreams come true.

Everyone have an amazing day and believe in you! Be your own biggest supporter and trust in this path. Thank you.

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Today, especially, I have some bed head that puts all my other big heads to shame.

Last week, as you know -- just a couple days ago -- was the Ironman World Championships in Kona, Hawaii -- the biggest race of the year. This beautiful island is a place where thousands of dreams have come true just by being on that start line and having the opportunity to race on the grandest stage in this sport of swim, bike and run.

My athlete, Mirinda Carfrae, has won the race three times, been on the podium, I believe, about six times. We've had the most incredible success here on this island. And this year, about six weeks before the race, Rinny fell running and broke her radius, the elbow, and we weren't really sure if she was going to be able to race or not.

But as her elbow began to heal and she was able to start swimming, bike and run going better than ever before, we decided to race. But sadly on the day because of the compensation, you know, when she would ride her bike, she'd have a little bit less weight on her left elbow. When she ran probably holding it a little bit different. And then when we swam the 3.8 K on race day, she breaths to the right every single stroke.

All of these little shifts in how she carried her body led to her getting on the bike and her back kind of going out early on in the bike and her not being able to put basically any power into the pedals and had to just ride the bike back to transition and end her race after the bike.

So pretty devastating for her, for us, collectively. This is a race that we work so hard for every single day of the year. But the greatest gift on the day is at her amazing husband, Tim O'Donnell, went out and had the most heroic race -- breaking the world record, coming in second place to Jan Frodeno, who was absolutely untouchable and amazing. But Tim O'Donnell, racing from the heart and coming off an injury as well -- but a lower leg injury -- just had the most phenomenal day.

So, a victory for their family is a victory for all of us. So that's the gift on the day.

But about this race -- so, if you guys don't know about the Hawaii Ironman -- the World Championships -- that island can be relentless in a beautiful way. It can be perfectly calm in the morning and then suddenly they'll be 30 to 40 mile an hour winds, gusts that can throw people off their bikes, heat, and humidity that is absolutely relentless. The pavement can get over a hundred and ten degrees and it really is a race where you have to dig deeper than you ever had before. You have to find everything inside of you to continue to move forward. And some people rise to the occasion and step into powers inside of them that they didn't even know existed to have these magical days like we've had many times and we are so grateful for.

And for others, it can be the most humbling and difficult challenge of their lives. Some don't make it to the finish line, but the way I see it is this island -- and this is the big island of Hawaii, Kona, is the most tremendous teacher. The most powerful teacher. And every single person that has qualified for this race -- I consider it as when the student is ready the teacher appears.

And on this big day, the teacher is the island of Kona. And I hear a lot on race week athletes saying the island will either allow you to succeed or it'll just knock you down and destroy you.

No. It's not like are you going to be lucky enough to have the island support you or the island go against you. It's not that. Kona, the island Madame Pele, whatever you want to call it, is there demanding you to stretch. Demanding you to strengthen. Demanding you to grow. Encouraging you to grow.

So yes, she will throw everything in the world at you. Everything unexpected. Everything that may seem overwhelming. But she's offering you the opportunity to step into a power you didn't even know you had. To find a strength that you didn't even know existed. To dig deeper than even seems possible.

And in this invitation to grow and to stretch and to believe in something that seems impossible, you're being invited to truly step into your magic. To claim your magic and to bring out of yourself something that we all kind of know is inside but it almost seems impossible.

So like the Jan Frodeno and Annie Haug and Mirinda Carfrae winning it years ago and Leanna Cave who I coach to a championship there. It's on those days that when they're being thrown these challenges, they reacted by saying "yes, I will find a way. I will find that something that I know is deep inside me. I will believe in it and I will pull that out and I will give everything I have and be open to the possibility that I am more powerful than I could ever imagine." And they claim their magic. They stepped into their power and they create the day that they have only dreamed of.

So, think about this in your own life, whether it's World Championship or business opportunity or deciding to say yes to the person that asks you to marry them. Whatever the opportunity is, or whatever the circumstance is, consider it your teacher. Consider that this is an opportunity for you to believe in something that you've never witnessed before. That you've never seen before. But you know that somewhere deep inside of you, it's there.

Believe in you. Take the leap. Understand that you are more powerful than you can ever imagine. And each and every day, step a little bit closer to that incredible greatness that you know is inside.

To everyone out there, take the challenge. Say "Yes!" Don't let it beat you down. Don't let it assume that life is happening to you and you don't have a choice. There are teachers everywhere around you. Be grateful for that.

Embrace the opportunity to stretch, to grow and to become more than you would ever imagine.

Have an amazing day, everybody!

For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/

As we all know, Abby Wamback is a legendary soccer player.  She led the US women's national team to two Olympic gold medals and scored something like 184 career goals.  She's incredible, and this book is an awesome read. 

One of the things I want to talk about today, which I love and is so important to me, is when she talks about pointing to the people that helped make your success possible.

For her, she described it as she would score a goal and point to the person that assisted her in scoring that goal.   Then she'd point to the coach.  Then she'd point to the bench and all her teammates.  Then she'd point to the crowd as if to say, "Thank you.  This couldn't have happened without you."

It is acknowledging your team.  It is acknowledging your supporters.

So many of us can achieve the highest levels of success and know that we didn't get there alone.  We all know that it took the power of the team or it took your village to get you there. 

And what I loved about Abby is that she always appreciated and acknowledged her team -- those that helped make that goal possible.  Those that helped make that win happen. 

Even if it's just acknowledging the people in the stands who willing you to win and sending you their love, belief in you and encouragement.  That's HUGE!  It is so powerful.

Pointing to the people that helped you get wherever you are, whether that's your first teachers, role models, parents, teachers or pets -- whoever has given you the strength, helped you be courageous, encouraged you along the way or taught you what you needed to know to get to where you are today -- these people deserve to be acknowledged. 

We must appreciate them.  We must acknowledge them. 

Acknowledge your team, your village, your community, and your supporters.  Because all of us would not be where we are today without the support of our team, our family or the community around us. 

So, here's to Abby Wambach -- an absolute legend.  It's an amazing book.  I recommend it to all of you, but for everyone that has taught me the things that I needed to know to land right here at this moment.  I am deeply grateful to my coaches, my mentors, my athletes, my friends, my mom, my dad, my sister, and my community.  Thank you for pushing me to be all that I am today, and for inspiring me to reach for more. 

All of us -- acknowledge your team.  Acknowledge your family.  Say 'Thank you.'  Be appreciative.  Be YOU.

Have an amazing day.

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Today, I want to talk about going first -- taking the initiative.

If you ever think to yourself, 'I wish people were more grateful.  I wish people were more appreciative.   I wish people would follow through with their promises,' let's start with ourselves.

It's up to us to go first.

If you want more love in your life, love first.  If you want more appreciation, be appreciative.  If you want more gratitude, show more gratitude.  If you want people to follow through their word, be the one that always follows through.  Be the one that only makes promises when they know that they will do whatever it takes to follow through and deliver.

We must go first.

Life is now.  Life is happening at this very moment, and we ourselves are responsible for our entire experience of life and how people respond to us and how we get treated in this world.

Give first.  Love first.

If you want more passion, be more passionate.  If you want more inspiration, be more inspiring.  If you want more kindness in the world, be kind.

It starts with you.  Don't let a minute go by in this lifetime being anything, but what you dream of being from the inside.

If you want this world to be a loving, kind, generous and beautiful space, then be all those things first.

I know you can and I know that the difference that you can make -- just you and in the orbit around you -- it's magnificent.

Go first.  Don't be afraid.  Life is meant to be lived right now, at this very moment.

Follow through with your word.  Be kind.  Be loving.  Be giving.  Be generous.  Embrace every aspect of this beautiful gift of life and share that with the world.

Have an amazing day everybody and thank you for listening.

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Have you ever thought that you're broken?

I know I have many times in my life, and what I realize now is that none of us have broken. We're all just human living the human experience.

I believe, at least, when I look back in my own life, that those times when I felt the most broken were the times just preceding a major breakthrough my life that led to something beautiful.

Maybe when we feel most broken, it's that we're waking up. That somehow the light is starting to break through the marble that has encased our true selves. And that ray of light is telling us that there's something inside of us that we're not seeing. Something inside us that we're not appreciating. Something inside of us that we're not using to live our best lives.

I always say this quote by Michelangelo, "I saw the angel in the marble and I carved until I set her free." That, to me, it just speaks to me because I feel like my whole life has been about trying to find my way home to my truth.

And my marble -- being my fears, my anxieties, my self-doubt, my disempowering stories and my focusing on the wrong things -- and as I chipped away at my marble with hopes of being able to reveal an angel inside of me.

Every time a little bit more light shone through the cracks, I started to realize that the way I was when God, our creator, or whatever you believe in, put me on this planet, was exactly what I was meant to be.

I've got lost along the way trying to be what I think I need to be for other people. To get their love or to get a certain job or to have a certain people think something about me when, really, all I needed to be all along was myself.

Brokenness, I believe, was the feeling of being broken -- which again, I don't believe any of us are broken. I believe instead that we're just lost and waiting for a light to shine on the path to lead us back home to our truth.

So, the next time you think to yourself that you're broken, remember that you absolutely are not. But you are, in that moment, receiving a memory of what's really true.

And that is that you in all your perfect glory, you and all your power, you and all your strength you and all your light are inside of you and you've just lost your way.

Find your way back home. Find your way back to your truth. And when you do you definitely won't feel broken anymore, but you will actually be able to celebrate all the beauty and the gift that is you. And you'll be able to share that with the world around you, with your loved ones -- whether it be your husband, your wife, your sons, your daughters, your parents, your friends, your co-workers.

When we live fearlessly authentically as who we are, the gifts that we share our beyond measure and so beautiful. 
So you're not broken. You're just being reminded that you need to find your way home to your truth.

Thank you, everybody, and have an amazing day.

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Today. I want you to think of that one decision that you made in your life that turn your entire life around, whether that means -- took you from a really bad place to a good place or a decision that truly took your life to a whole new level.

And when I think that the answer to this question for myself, it's the day I consciously decided I will always, always be my own biggest supporter and believe in myself.  That, if there's something that I want to achieve or if there's something I want to feel in my life, I truly believe that I can make that happen and that nothing will stop me.

Obviously, I need to be willing to do whatever it takes to achieve that goal or to discipline my mind and my focus to feel a certain way. 

Another big decision was deciding to live in what Tony Robbins calls a beautiful state every day.  And that is truly disciplining my mind and my thoughts to look towards feeling gratitude and being kind and feeling love instead of fear.  Basically living my life from a place of love and not fear.  Focusing on the abundance, not scarcity.  Focusing on what I dream of creating and what I love and what fills me rather than focusing on the things that drain me or scare me.

Also, focusing on what I have all the control over, which is -- we all have total control over the experience in our lives. We choose how we react to things happening to us or to what people say to us and we choose what state to be in and every moment.  It takes discipline for all you athletes out there or business people or whatever. We all have discipline.  It's a matter of channeling that discipline into managing your thoughts.

But the biggest decision truly had the greatest impact on my life was the day that I decided that I will always be my own biggest supporter.  I will always believe in me.  I will always take my side and trust that I have everything I need inside of me to achieve what I want to achieve, to feel what I want to feel, and to have the impact on this world that I hope to have.

So, think about your biggest decision -- a life-changing decision that you made.  And if you haven't, if you don't have one that you can look back at, think about creating one today. 

What's a decision you could make for yourself that will truly change not only the trajectory of your life but your entire experience of life?  What is the decision you can make to feel the absolute most joy, gratitude, passion, and commitment to living life in a way that will see you reaping all the incredible gifts of what life brings?  What is that decision?  Make that decision today.

Thank you, everyone.

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I woke up this morning thinking about the fact that in any relationship, whether it be your husband or wife, boyfriend girlfriend, your parents, your friends, your co-workers, that I feel happiest is when I feel seen.  When I feel heard.  When I feel appreciated.  And when I feel understood.

When I'm getting all these things, I truly feel like I can achieve anything.  I can be my very best self every minute because you feel full.  You feel full of these incredible feelings of just being seen, heard, appreciated and understood.

So, when you think about your relationships -- and we all go through struggles. Again, whether that be in our marriages or friendships or at work, whatever it is, we all go through struggles. And if you think in those moments of struggle, "Am I making this person feel heard? Am I seeing them? Am I appreciating them and showing them my appreciation? And, am I, at least, trying to understand where they're coming from?"

If you follow these principles -- if in every interaction your goal becomes to offer those four beautiful gifts to whoever you're interacting with, I guarantee you that your interactions will be so much more fulfilling, successful, and they'll just give you the most incredible feelings. For all of us. Think about this mostly for yourself, you know, when we feel heard, when we feel seen, when we feel appreciated and when we feel understood, there's no greater feeling in the world.

So, it's moments that, perhaps, you don't feel any of these things -- there are ways of communicating that with your partner, with your friends or with your co-workers, to help them understand. And the best way of communicating that is being that and doing that for them. And when they feel that appreciation, they feel seen, they feel heard and they feel understood, they're going to want to instinctively give that right back to you.

I hope this helps everyone have an amazing day and thank you for listening to the Bed Head Chronicles.

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Today, I want to talk about morning routines.  

I would say the most important morning routine that I do every single morning is my gratitude routine.  I've told all of you before that I do this practice called priming. I learned it from Tony Robbins. It's the most incredible process. It takes about 10 minutes long and it truly puts you in a beautiful state, which means that you're full of energy and vitality. You finish the process feeling gratitude -- being in a state of gratitude, having sent healing energy, asking for solutions, and asking for a strengthening of yourself and of others.

Then, focusing on three things that you want to achieve or accomplish -- three things that would cause you to thrive.

So, you finish this process, not only filled with energy and filled with vitality and joy but in a state of gratitude, in a state of strength and in a state of certainty, which is an incredible way to start the day.

If you want to do a shorter process, another thing that I do on days where, maybe, I am kind of rushed is the minute I opened my eyes, the first thing I do is I think about three things that I'm grateful for. They can be big things. They can be little things. They can be, you know, looking over and seeing my wife beside me and feeling so grateful for our love, for marriage.

Or it can be, you know, thinking about wow, you know, I woke up today. My heart's beating strong in my chest. But think about three things and truly be present when you think about how grateful you are for those things.

Then, what you want to do is you want to ask for healing. And as you breathe, imagine like a white light of healing coming through you and pouring into everything -- your blood, your bones, your thoughts, your feelings -- everything and anything that needs to be healed. Focus on that healing energy going through and healing whatever needs to be healed.

You can ask for solutions to help solve anything that needs to be solved, whether it's within yourself or between you and others in your business, whatever it may be.

And then asked to strengthen what is already so strong inside of you. Strengthen my love, my appreciation, my gratitude, my passion, my courage, my confidence -- whatever it is that you would like to strengthen.

Then, it's important to come outside of ourselves and send that healing energy. Ask for that healing to happen for those that you love and care about -- your family, your friends, your pets, your animals, your co-workers, your business partners, the community, the world. Ask that the healing happens for them, as well, and see it happening. Send out those same, you know, strengthening, hopes for strengthening, and solutions, and healing for them or for the world.

From there, you go to what Tony calls Three to Thrive, focusing on three things that you would like to achieve or accomplish. That could mean something big, you know, a physical feat that you want to accomplish or something you want to accomplish in your business. Or it could be wanting to be fully present with your loved ones, today and every day. Or wanting to be leading with kindness and every moment of your life. It can be big things or little things. But what I want you to do is be in it and see yourself succeeding. See it happening and feel what you're going to feel when you achieve or accomplish that. It's so super powerful.

So when you go through this -- and this can be as quick or as long as you want it to be. Tony's priming is the perfect opportunity to do this.

But as I said, you can do this just upon waking. When you open your eyes, keep your hand on your heart, and go through this process. And what it does is you will start your day in the most empowering state -- in a state of gratitude. In a state of peace. In a state of strength. In a state of promise. In a state of certainty. And with that state in mind, being in this beautiful state, you truly are setting yourself up for the most amazing day.

So, I hope this helps everyone have an amazing day and thank you for listening to the Bed Head Chronicles

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Today, I want you to think about something you have in your life, now, that you dreamed about having in the past. Something that was a goal that you had that meant everything to you that you've now achieved.

Sometimes, I think we said these goals were so excited about it. And that's what drives us for days, and weeks, and months, and years, even. and then we achieve it. And we don't stop to:

#1: appreciate and acknowledge the fact that we've achieved this huge goal that we had set for ourselves.
#2: we don't celebrate it.
#3: we don't reward ourselves.

I'm a true believer that in order to build up your confidence and build up that incredible feeling that comes from setting a goal and working so hard to achieve it, and then to take on something else, that it's so important to acknowledge and appreciate the progress that we're making along the way. And then to celebrate that. And to, in some small way, shape or form, reward ourselves for it.

Because if we're not appreciating or acknowledging our progress or our success if we're not celebrating it, and if we're not rewarding ourselves, we start actually taking it for granted. And I'm a believer that in life, we shouldn't take anything for granted.

I hope that each and every one of you wakes up and looks over at your partner or your dog or your home or, you know, the people around you and feel grateful that you have that love or that connection or that roof over your head or the job that you have or the abilities and opportunities that you have. I'm all about appreciation and gratitude,

but in order to keep setting goals and keep finding the fire in the juice, to achieve those goals, we need to celebrate the small victories along the way.

Sometimes, we have this ultimate goal, and we don't appreciate or acknowledge anything or celebrate anything until we reach the ultimate. But in order to stay on that path, and in order to overcome the difficulties or overcome failings, which we will do along the way, or overcome being disappointed, we need to celebrate the small victories along the way. We need to acknowledge how far we've come. We need to appreciate how far we've come. And we need to celebrate it within ourselves and reward ourselves in some way that allows us to acknowledge ourselves. We often will look to others to acknowledge us or to celebrate us or to reward us.

But I think it's so important that we do that for ourselves. You deserve it and you need it in order to keep going.

So, just remember everybody along the way as you set goals for yourselves, as you work hard towards achieving a certain something whether it be in a relationship or in your job or in your personal life or with your body, appreciate and acknowledge how far you've come. Celebrate the small victories or celebrate overcoming something that was truly tough and came out the other side.

I'd and reward yourself in some way, shape, or form and that will keep you super fired up and continuing on this path of becoming your best self.

Thank you, everyone, and have an amazing day.

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Today, I want to talk about -- I'm going to share a story when my mom, who loves her dogs as much as she loves her own children. They are beautiful little pugs. And she lost one of her pugs about 10 years ago. He went in for a routine MRI and he ended up dying because they gave him too much of medication.

Obviously, as it would any of us, it absolutely devastated her. And that's sadness she's held on to for the last 10 years.

One day I said to her, "What what did Buddha care about most as your dog?" She said "He just cared that I was happy. And that I was taken cared of. And that he was always there for me putting a smile on my face."

I said, "Okay. Well, obviously this is just tragic. Tragic what happened. Devastating. But what do you think he would want for you, in your life now? Don't you think he would want you to be happy and taken care of?

She said "Well, of course.

I said, "Well, holding on to this pain and the sadness is -- would make him so sad. Knowing that because of him you've been feeling pain and sadness for 10 years. Maybe the best way to honor his beautiful soul is to, you know, live in the joy of the memories that you have with him. And be joyful. And try to be joyful. And try to focus on the wonderful times you shared, the love that you shared, the joyous times that you had with him. And feeling joy would be the best way to honor him because that's what he cared about the most -- you being happy.

Now, I share this story because I know the same happened to me. I lost my beautiful boy, Calvin. That was my doggie soulmate, love of my life. And I was devastated over him dying of cancer. We can also relate this to losing our friends, or losing family members.

And I know this is a hard conversation to have but I think sometimes we feel that we are honoring the memory of our loved ones by being sad and being depressed over it and mourning their loss. But what if we just for a moment think about what would they want for us? Would they want us to be mourning their loss still? Would they want us to be feeling sad still? Obviously that pains never going to go away, but maybe they would prefer that we have more moments of feeling the joy of the times we shared with them, the love that we shared, the experiences that we had together. And what if honoring them in the most beautiful way was by feeling the joy of what we shared with them rather than sitting in the pain of their loss. It's just a thought, but I share that with you.

I know it helped my mom when we had that conversation. And I know that it helped me. let's honor our loved ones that we have loved and lost by feeling the joy and the gratitude of the time and the love that we shared with them. Try and sit more in those moments rather than in the moments that cause us to feel sad and cause us to feel pain because our loved ones, we know, only want us to be happy. Remember that.

I love you all. Thank you for listening to the bed head chronicles.

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Today, I want to talk about managing those moments when you are so overcome with an emotion like anxiety or anger or sadness and you can't get out of their own way and you literally feel like it's eating you from the inside out.

Maybe not all of you can relate to me on this, but I know I've certainly felt that way before. Now, we all exhibit discipline in our lives, whether it's waking up to go to school. Or waking up to work out and get to work. Or waking up to take care of our kids or take care of our animals. We all exhibit discipline on a daily basis.

Use that same discipline to discipline your thoughts. Okay? It's just channeling that discipline in a different direction.

Imagine watching TV. Imagine you turn the channel and on this channel, it's something really horrible -- whether it's super scary or disgusting or it's just traumatic. It upsets you. What do you do? You quickly change a channel. You change it to something that's funny, a comedy, or change into something a love story. Whatever it is, you change a channel to something that makes you feel good. Okay?

Imagine your brain and your thoughts being like a big TV. And if you are stuck in a negative emotion, whether it be anger, sadness or just extreme upset of any kind, change the channel. Change what you're focusing on. I talk about this all the time. Change what you're focusing or change what you're thinking about. Use that same discipline that you use every single day in your lives in every other area, and use it in the direction of disciplining your thoughts. change the channel in your mind. Okay?

If you're obsessing over whether or not you did a good job at work today or what your boss is going to think or did you fail or did you win? Stop thinking about it. Change the channel. Focus on I did my best job. Okay, now, I'm going to focus on what can I do now? What kind of time can I spend with my family right now? What can I do to fill myself with energy right now? change the channel in your mind. Everybody has the capability of doing this.  It takes practice. Okay?. It really does you've got to kind of build your muscle and being able to do that.

But once you acquire the ability and you become good at doing this, it's so much easier easier to snap yourself out of a really bad space. We all get super emotional. We all get stuck in moments of sadness or anger or anxiety, but let's start using what we already have, and that is the discipline and the will to behave inside of ourselves and start using that in directing our thoughts and being able to change the channel when we're not liking what we're thinking and how it's affecting us.

So, everybody, work on that today. You'll get better and better at it every day, and it truly is a very valuable skill to have and you'll experience so much more joy in your life and fewer times where you allow yourself to fall into that negative spiral of emotions.

Have a great day everyone. Thank you.

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Because these things are happening, these things that are challenging you, are going to be the things that help you grow, the things that you learn from, the things that you overcome.

And through overcoming these struggles, you're going to step into your strength. And that strength is going to lead you to the most beautiful places. So have faith. Trust in you. Trust in this journey, and don't be afraid.

That's what I would say. Everything's going to be okay. Everything's going to be great. And I would say, you know what? You're not alone. You're not alone in feeling anxiety. You're not alone in feeling afraid. You're not alone in not feeling enough. Everyone in the world shares this universal fear -- that we're not enough. Or that we're going to fail. Or that we're going to not be loved.

We all have that fear. You're not alone. Everyone shares those bears with you. So don't be afraid or be afraid, but do it anyway. Believe in you because what's coming, what's ahead in your life, is extraordinary.

Being afraid -- that's just the universe saying take me on. I will deliver you to your promise land and everything great in your life. So don't be afraid or be afraid, but dance with your fear because it's taking you somewhere amazing.

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So, a part of me felt like Everything I achieve means nothing because I'm gay. That was kind of belief I was carrying around with me. And then I met my wife. She's an Australian -- Rebecca Keat -- and I tell you what, realizing that I was capable of finding the love that I always thought was a thing of fairy tales, that I was worthy of that -- it was like the greatest gift in the whole wide world. And I decided, pretty much on the day we got married, that you know what? I am just going to be all of who I am because people need to know that whoever put us on this Earth, whatever you believe in -- God, the universe, whatever -- whoever put us here, put us here exactly as we are because this is what we are intended to be.

And if you are hiding parts of yourself and going out in life and try to be great in your career, great your family, great at this, but you're operating at half strength, which I was doing -- I was operating with half of me out there, you know, getting on with the other half sitting on the bench because I'm like, 'stay home. Stay home. You're not going to be accepted.' You know, you're operating at half strength.

So on that day when I married my wife, I said this is it. I'm just being me. I don't care anymore because I have your love, and that's all I need. And, I tell you what, once I just started coming out talking about not just be gay -- I mean really that comes up really late, but just talking about things that I used to be ashamed about like my anxiety and how fearful I was and the mistakes I've made in my life.

But when you come out we speak about these things, people understand that they're not alone. We're all human. When we can express all of who we are and be fearlessly authentic -- Holy smokes! My world, my life, opened up. and I can't even express to you what it feels like to be operating full force. What's happening is that when you're either talking to someone in business or trying to develop a relationship with someone or your friends -- if there are parts of you that you're hiding away whatever that is -- there's this sense of resistance there, you know, you can almost, like, you don't know what it is. This kind of like, I don't know, you know, we're not that close or I don't know them that well.

But once you rip off all the masks -- and again, that can refer to anything, you know, anything, you know, maybe being in a job where on your resume you said you had all this experience, but you really didn't. So you're kind of not as experienced as they think -- like ripping that off because hey I'm doing a great job, but I have to tell you I was really scared when I sent my resume and because I really wasn't as great as I sounded there, but I think I'm doing a great job now. But oh my God now the scary, you know, even that kind of honesty and ripping off the masks -- it just it makes your relationships deeper, your experiences richer, people trust you more right away because they know that you're just being you.

And I truly believe that we weren't put here on Earth with huge faults or limits, you know? We were put here exactly the way we were meant to be. So my belief is that everyone should just be out there operating at full force, being all of who they are. And if you can be courageous enough or brave enough to do that, you will see your life change and most extraordinary ways. It really is incredibly powerful. Scary in the beginning but so powerful.

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Today, I want to talk about that moment -- and I'm going to use this in an example of an athlete, okay? But this totally relates to life itself or any situation that you're faced with in life. The athletes in the middle of the race and they feel like oh my God, I just have nothing left.

It's at that moment when you feel like you want to give up. You want to give in. You want to back off because you feel like you have nothing left. It is so important at that moment to ask yourself the question, "Is this really true? Do I really have nothing left or is it that I'm just tired of being uncomfortable? What will this mean if I break through this discomfort and keep pushing on?"

Perhaps that will take me to a whole new level. I going to expand my pain threshold. I'm going to expand my ability to be relentless, to be resilient, and to find more even when I think there's nothing left.

In those moments when you feel like giving up, whatever story it is that you're telling yourself, whether it's I have nothing left -- that is the time to ask yourself a very quality important question: "Is this true?"

Because as if you investigate this thought, this belief you, will find that you can find a much better, more empowering solution; and that is: "No. I'm just tired of being uncomfortable."

But this is what it takes. This is what it takes to break through to the other side. And to have the performance I dream of. Or to have the relationship I dream of. Or to get the result that I'm looking for.

No matter what we're talking about in life, ask yourself better questions in those moments when you want to give up. Because if you can find a more empowering answer, it will fuel you and take you to all-new levels of performance. Whether you're in a race or doing something athletic or trying to take your relationship to the next level.

We can always find a way out, but the important lesson is always to find a way through. Not around it, not under it, not backing away. But find your way through, and you will break through to a whole new level of strength, confidence, resilience, and relentlessness. And that is what will take you to achieve your goals.

Empower yourself. The thoughts that you think, the beliefs that you have are what will determine your entire state. And your state determines everything. So choose to empower yourself. Find the empowering meaning. Find a way to break through to the other side. You got this.

Have an amazing day.

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Today, I want you to think about the ultimate goal that you hope to achieve or that dream that you have.

I want you to be able to visualize and see yourself down the road, whether it be six months or a year or five years down the road, having achieved that ultimate goal.  Having achieved that ultimate dream.

Who are you in that space?  What do you look like?  What's your energy? Like?  What's your attitude like?  What is your what are you focusing on most of the time?  What kind of an impact are you having on the world and on all those around you? How do you feel inside?  The joy, the love, the passion, whatever, it is. 

As you visualize that -- If you think about everything life, we have role models.  We have people we look up to and admire.  People that we model.  People that we hope to be like when we get older, further down the road.

I want you to see your future self having achieved everything you dream of.   Know what you're going to be feeling, what you're focusing on, what your life looks like, who you are, and start becoming that person today.

Start embodying all those qualities that you see in your future self and start working towards becoming that version of you.

It's all about being better than we were the day before and taking one step closer to creating the lives and experience of life that we all dream of.  So just like we may have someone that we model or someone that we look up to you or somebody that's a hero to us.

See your future self is as that hero --  that superhero that you're looking up to.   And every single day, take one step closer to becoming that version of you. 

You're perfect just the way that you are and you have everything you need inside of you, but we all want to continue to grow and to evolve and to achieve our goals and our dreams.  Who do we need to become to achieve those ultimate goals and dreams that we have?  Take one step closer to being that version of you today.

Have an amazing day everybody.

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Today, I want to talk about the power of vulnerability.

There is such great power in being real and speaking from your heart and letting all those around you know the truth of what your experience of life is like.

Starting with relationships -- imagine when you are developing a bond with someone. The more real you can be with them -- the more you can tell them about your dreams and what lights up your soul and your fears and your anxieties... that invites them to truly know you. And it makes it feel special that you're sharing a part of you that not everyone else in the world gets to see.

Vulnerability allows you to deepen your relationship, to deepen your understanding of one another and what it's going to take to love that other person with all your heart and in a way that lights up there soul.

Being vulnerable in your job, whether it be as a manager has a CEO or, for me, has as a coach. I think it's so important that my athletes know that I got to where I am not because I had this perfect road of successes and I had everything I needed to to make it to the top.

I let them know that I've been afraid I've been stifled by my anxiety. I have failed over and over and over again. I've been disappointed over and over again, but that's how I learned. That's how I grew. That's how I how I built up my confidence and my resilience and my relentlessness.

We all need to know that success is not a perfect road. That they should expect to be afraid because it means that they care. They should expect to be anxious. It means they're excited.

In being vulnerable, we're allowing all those around us to be the same. We're allowing all those around us to know the truth of what it is to be human, what it is to shoot for the stars, and to be afraid and to know that it's going to be a bumpy road where you fell often and you're disappointed often.

But that's how you learn. That's how you grow. That's how we make progress.

We're more vulnerable., we are opening up such room for a greater depth in every relationship that we have, and that is what makes life so incredible. Be vulnerable.

You don't want your kids to think that life is easy because the minute that it starts getting hard, they think they're the only one that is struggling. And that's just not true. Let them know the reality of what life is like. The reality of what it's like to be under pressure, to go through a hard time so that they feel safe and they know that what they're experiencing is normal and then they won't make it out the other side stronger than ever before.

So today, everybody, be vulnerable. Be real with all those around you and understand that you are truly helping others by giving them courage and faith in the strength knowing that they are on the right path and that they will get to where they dream of going. Because you have. And you're the example and you're being real with them and sharing everything about what it takes to be the best that you can be in your life.

Thank you, everyone, and have an amazing day.

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Today, I want to talk about habits and rituals the change your life for the better.

I woke up this morning from going out traveling.  I got the amazing Jess King from Peloton.

I start my day every morning by, first of all, I opened my eyes and I think about three things that I'm grateful for.   Starting your day in a state of gratitude is an incredible way to truly manifest a beautiful day where you look at everything that you have, not everything that you don't have.  I look at my beautiful wife and I feel so grateful.

Then we do our priming -- the Tony Robbins priming. You can find it on YouTube. It's absolutely incredible.

Then I work out. This is all after, of course, feeding the horses.

So, everybody, have habits and rituals.  The more you do that every single day -- you wake up and do the same things. It will give you consistency, strength and lay the foundation for setting yourself up to live in a beautiful state every single day.

Have a great day everybody.

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Today, I want to talk about truly living life to the fullest every single day.  Often times it takes being faced with the prospect of someone you love dying or you, maybe, not having the time that you thought you did before we truly start living.  Let's not wait for the last lap of our lives to truly live life the way we dream of. 
Live life the way you dream of now. This is a gift that is meant to be lived. 

And my thoughts on that is: be fearlessly authentically you.

Say what you want to say.  Be who you want to be.  That's where your magic lies. That's where your power lies.  Love others from this place of personal freedom and authentically you.

And when it comes to loving others, love them in every moment.

If you're looking at your husband or your wife or your daughter or your friend and thinking 'my God, I love them so much,' tell them.  Share those words with them. It will mean everything to them.

And instead of just going through your lives trying to get through the day no matter how busy you are or how hard you have to work, you can look through your eyes at the gift and the grace of this beautiful life that you're living.

Appreciate every moment that you have.  Appreciate everything you get to do instead of looking at the things that you have to do in your life every day. Think about the things you get to do every day.

Live life to the fullest.  Say what you want to say.  Be who you want to be.  Dream big and create the life that you dream of. 

Don't wait until it's too late.

This life is a beautiful and Incredible gift that we all have been blessed with.  And you were put on this Earth absolutely perfect just the way that you are.

Don't try to be something that you're not to try and fit in or get a certain job or to achieve something that you think you want to achieve if you try to be something else.

The gift is you.  Step into your magic.  Be who you are.  Love with all your heart.  And appreciate every single moment of this gift of life and you will be living the life of your dreams.

So much love to all of you. Thank you for being here with me with my bed head. And live life to the fullest every single day.  Be brave and be you. I love you all. Thank you.

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We're giving them control to a certain extent of our life experience. You're leaving yourself powerless as far as being able to change your own life.

So, when you forgive, you're basically saying 'I forgive you for having hurt me, but I'm in charge of my life and I'm going to use this in a way that empowers me and allows me to achieve everything that I dream of.

Blame makes you weak.  It makes you powerless.  You can't change your life because you're blaming someone else for it.

Release that.  Forgive them.  You free yourself.  And it's showing that I believe in me and I'm going to do everything I dream of doing it be everything I dream of being.

When I forgave my father, it completely freed me to be the woman that I dreamt of being.  And I would not be the woman I am today if it hadn't been for his rejection.

So, I didn't only forgive him, but I called him and I thanked him.  I thank him for being exactly the father I needed him to be.

Stay in charge of your own experience of life.  Remember it is all up to you. And when you're blaming you're holding yourself back. 

So, believe in yourself enough to forgive and set yourself free.

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Today, I want to talk about going into every relationship in your life thinking about what you can give, not what you can get.  If you want to sure-fire way to go through your day without being disappointed by anyone, the best way to do that is to truly keep your focus on what you are bringing into every single relationship -- whether it's your husband or your wife or your friendships or your family members or your co-workers or somebody that's working for you.

If you're expecting something from someone, say, for instance, you have someone that's doing work for you, think about what can you give them that's going to inspire them or make them even better or make the work that they do even more incredible. What can you give to every single person that you come in contact with today and every day?

If we're constantly thinking about what we can give to the world, you will find that you get so much more.  Not only what you hoped for, but more than you could ever imagine in return.

Tony Robbins told me years and years ago that you don't go into a relationship to get something.  That will never end up giving you what you hope for.  We go into relationships to give something -- to give our love, to give our support, to give our inspiration, to give of ourselves, to be a gift, to be a blessing.

If you think about every single person in your life, whether it's family or someone you've just met, and you think about what you can give this person to either Inspire them, to help them be better, or to make their day a little bit happier, you will find that what you receive in return is beyond anything you can imagine. 

In life, let's see how generous we can be all day every day with sharing our hearts, our souls and our spirits.

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Yes, I've got some pretty serious bedhead this morning and hopefully it's not offensive to anyone.  But, again, this isn't about what we look like.  It's about what we have to share and offer from the inside.

Part of how we feel in the world today, so often we let other people determine how we feel whether we're happy, sad, confident, or doubtful. When really, if you just come from inside and know yourself -- know your intention, know your love, know your heart -- and if you're going through a tough time thinking about all the times in your life that you have gone through a hard time before, and how every single time you found your way through it.

You came out the other side and most likely that led to something way better than you were even in before. We all have proven to ourselves that we have the ability to get through hard times.

Now that being said, when we think about going through something tough--okay, a lot of us, we all -- we all are going to have tough moments, tough times, tough months -- but only you, only you can get yourself out of feeling bad.  Only you.

Someone else can, maybe, come for you or listen or give you support.  But it's us --  you alone -- that can get yourself out of a spot where you are feeling horrible.

How do we do that? We talk about this all the time.  Instead of focusing on the problem and everything that's wrong, start thinking about all the possible solutions.  Instead of sitting there one place suffocated by your problem, start getting some momentum forward by engaging with all the different possibilities of solutions on how to fix your current situation.  Focus on, instead of that one horrible thing...

Another thing that we all do is we create this negative spiral where something goes wrong and it either breaks your heart or upsets you or worries you.  Then we start adding everything that we can possibly think of to make us worry even more or feel even sadder.
Don't do that.

Whatever that one thing is, that was a catalyst you feeling bad start thinking about what the possible solutions are to feeling better and getting out of this situation.  But then start focusing, discipline yourself to focus on all the good in your life.   Everything that you're grateful for.  Even if it's a simple as you're -- as beautiful as your heart, your beautiful heart, beating in your chest.  The fact that you woke up this morning.  The fact that you have somewhere to go and that you have people who love you.

Focus on the good.

What we focus on we're going to get more of.  If you want to focus on how bad you feel or how horrible things are, you're only going to find more evidence for more things that will you make you feel awful.  But if you want to focus on everything great in your life -- everything great about you  -- I mean, it's coming home to the truth and knowing who you are what your intentions are, the love you have in your heart, the love that you give.

Another thing when we are in a tough spot, or we're sad, or depressed, going through a struggle -- that is when, again, discipline yourself to get out there and give to someone else.  Be of service to someone else.  Even if it's to an animal or just a person -- help an older woman across the road.  Whatever it is, make someone smile.  Give to someone else and that will already propel you forward and give you momentum.  Get you closer to feeling good and be free of that which is causing you to suffer.

I love you all so much. Thank you for accepting me even looking like this. It's not about what we have what we look like. It's about who we are on the inside, and what we can share with the world.

Share your love.  Share your heart.  Share your spirit.   Be you.  Be authentically you.  Be brave. I love you all.

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Today, I want to talk about those incredibly tough days.  Those days when, perhaps, you're in the middle of a race, whatever that may mean to you.  Whether it's a sporting event like a triathlon.  Or a big project that you're involved in.  Or just a day at work or at home.  But a day when nothing seems to be going right and you're really struggling. 

Now, I know how hard it is to finish when you're having a horrible day.  But I also know how gratifying it can be to be resilient.  To do whatever you can with what you have on that day to finish.

Being a finisher, being a completer, never giving up is so incredibly important in life because we are going to have tough days.  We're going to have tough times.  But I can tell you from personal experience that pushing through those tough times, finding a way to do the best that you can with what you have on that day, can be the most gratifying, strength-building, confidence-building thing in your life.

Here at Team Sirius, we are all finishers.  We are all relentless and resilient and we complete the task no matter how bad we feel.  Because it is through those struggles that we truly do step into our greatest strengths. 

I'm asking you to always, no matter how bad the day is going, finish gracefully, not begrudgingly.  Finish with gratitude and passion for being able to do what you love.  Or for being able to find the mental toughness in the resilience to carry on regardless of how bad you feel. 

Prove to yourself and to the world that nothing is going to get in the way of you achieving your dreams.  Nothing. 
Prove yourself that nothing will beat you -- that you're up for the challenge.  That you are resilient.  You are relentless.  And that you're a finisher.  Because there's no greater power in that.

It's not going to be easy to achieve their goals and dreams, but I tell you what -- everytime you fall down, if you can stand back up and dust yourself off and put yourself back in the game having learned something, having grown, having strengthened -- when you do achieve that ultimate goal, that ultimate victory, it will be the most satisfying and fulfilling moment of your life.  Because you will know that through the process, you became you -- the best version of you.

Stay strong.  Be resilient.  And believe in you.  You have everything you need inside of you.

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Today, I want to start with this: comparison is the thief of joy. 

That means not just comparing yourself to other people and what other people have achieved or what they have -- even more importantly, comparing yourself to what you used to be -- if you're an athlete, how fast you used to be, how strong you used to be or how you used to look.

Or it could mean comparing yourself to the future self of- what you dream of being.  I'm going to be so much stronger.  I'm going to be so much smarter.  I'm going to be so much more successful. 

When you compare yourself to your past self or the person you dream of being, or the people around you, or your co-workers or your competitors (if you're an athlete), it truly does strip you of all your joy.

And it deflates you.  It takes your energy away.

Empower yourself.

Focus on you.  Focus on being the best you that you can be.  Every single day.  Focus on being better than you were the day before. 

If you keep your focus there, you will continually keep progressing.  You will continually be absolutely filled with the joy of going after your dreams, and being the best you can be, and knowing you're making progress on that path. 

Do not compare yourself to others.  Be you. 

Be the best you you can be every single day, and you will be on the road to achieving everything you dream of.   

Have an amazing day.

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Today I want to talk about embracing the simple moments in life.   The little moments.  Because I believe that in the end, those are the moments that you remember as filling your hearts with the most joy, the most loved, and the most happiness.

So, today, embrace every moment.  The little moments.  A smile on someone's face.  A moment with someone you love or with your pets or animals. 

Appreciate it.  Live it.  Embrace it.  Those are the most precious moments of our lives.

Have a great day!

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Today I want to talk about owning our mistakes.  When things go wrong or when we don't perform to our potential or when we don't act in a way that we're proud of, it is so important to own our mistakes.  No making excuses.  Because when we make excuses, we give up our power to change our lives, to truly learn and grow from whatever just happened. 

Excuses leave us powerless.

At the root of resilience is taking responsibility for every aspect of our lives.  From when we soar and we thrive in our lives, but also for when we're not at our best and don't perform well. 

We need to own every aspect of this experience of life.  We are in the driver's seat of our own lives. 

Especially, for me, when I failed at the Olympic trials -- I wanted nothing more than to make the Olympic team in the year 2000.  And I choked.  I could have come up with a myriad of excuses, but instead, I owned it.

When the first person came up to me and asked what happened, I said I choked.  I had prepared in my mind this absolutely perfect race from start to finish.  I visualized it 365 days in a row.  On the day of the race, within the first five minutes, I got dunked under the water.  I lost the front pack.  And I hadn't experienced that in my visualization.  I wasn't prepared for that so I froze and I choked, and I could not perform.

Had I made up an excuse like I was sick or I got punched in the face or whatever, that was not going to help me grow.   By owning my mistake -- by owning what happened -- I took charge of my life.  I was able to respect myself.  I was able to believe in my capacity to learn and grow and to fall down but get back up again and to ultimately achieve that ultimate dream that I had.

So, please, no excuses in life.  Own everything that happens.  Take charge of your life and your experience of it.  You will find your capacity to learn, grow and be your best self is immeasurable. 

Have an amazing day, everybody!

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Today I want to talk about when the student is ready, the teacher appears. 

When I think about that statement, and I think about so many times in my life where I was in a place, even without knowing it, I was so ready to learn something new -- something that I know was truly going to change my life. 

Back when I was 20 when I didn't even know if I could take another day, my teacher appeared.  Tony Robbins, in the form of his book "Unlimited Power".  What he taught me through that book literally saved my life and changed my life. 

It was on that night, after finishing that book, when I realized that I am the conductor of my own symphony of my life.  At that point in time, I was hating the music I was creating and even live inside my own body.  But I realized that I am the only one that has the power to change that.  That book completely empowered me and made me realize that what we focus on the meaning that we give things and what we choose to do about it changes entirely our experience of life. 

So, at that time, I was a student; my teach appeared, Tony Robbins, in the form of "Unlimited Power".

Another time, if you look up here above my left shoulder, Savannah, my rescue horse -- the first rescue horse we ever had -- and I had no intentions of having a horse -- but we were out in California, my wife and I, we're on a sabbatical, I'm writing my book, every morning I'm walking the dogs down the road about a mile and my turn around point was at a little farm where there was this gorgeous horse by the name of Giselle.

Every day, I would just pat her head and scratch her back.  Every day this bond developed.  It became deeper and deeper.  I fell in love with this horse and was struck by how she made me feel.  After I had visited her, I felt so clear.  I felt so calm.  I felt so confident. 

When we came home from that trip, I was riding my bike down a road that I had ridden nearly for years, and I looked and saw a sign that said Colorado Horse Rescue and thought 'what are you rescuing horses from?'  I went in and met Savannah, and ended up rescuing Savannah.  I ended up researching 'Why?  What are you rescuing them from?' and watching this video that was absolutely devastating to me.

It was so devastating to watch that I fell to the ground in tears, bawling, over the realization that these beautiful healers and teachers were being neglected, abused, beaten and slaughtered after a very long and painful road. 

That changed my whole life and my whole mission. 

Back to the story of when the student is ready, the teacher appears.  When Savannah came into my life, I didn't even realize that I was ready to learn and grow and reach a new level in my life.  But she made it very clear that she was there for a purpose.  What she did was she stretched me in every way.  Not just physically where I had to overcome my fear of heights, my fear of not being in control in riding this nearly 2,000-pound beast.   I had to learn to really trust.  I needed to really pay attention to my energy and how certain events or certain things would happen throughout the day -- how it would affect my energy and how that energy would repel the things that I wanted in my life. 

She became this incredible teacher that not only helped me overcome a lot of my fears, but made me super aware of my own energy, how I respond in certain situations, and how I can learn to pay attention to my own energy and use that information, that knowledge, that self-awareness to truly be the best that I can be in every situation.  She stretched me to become a better leader.  She stretched me to recognized the power we all have within ourselves. 

So, she came at a time where I could have very easily settled into this great life that I had.  But what I realized is I have so much more to give this world.  I had so much more to share.  So much more to teach.  So much more to offer that could make a difference in this world.    And I have her to thank.

My other teacher, up here, Calvin, he really taught me the power of unconditional love and truly accepting ourselves and one another and accepting the beauty in every aspect in who we are and who the people around us are, and loving them for exactly that.  He taught me a love that I have never experienced before. 

So, these teachers, they're around us everywhere.  Sometimes, you won't know that you're ready for the teacher to arrive.  But when you suddenly start feeling your life change, your awareness about yourself or about your life truly taking on a new level, you'll know that your teacher is nearby. 

We are all teachers, as well, so keep that in mind.  We can learn from everyone around us, whether it's our animals, our family, our friends, or a perfect stranger.  There are teachers everywhere, and it truly is such an incredible gift, such a blessing, to realize that every single day, every single moment, we have the ability to learn something that can truly enhance our lives and the lives of others. 

So, students, be ready.  Your teachers are everywhere.  See the gift.  Take on the lesson.  Truly be willing, be excited, and be grateful to know that we are continuously evolving, growing and becoming better versions of ourselves.

Shine on everybody.  Thank you!

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Today, I want to talk about the beauty of these magical souls.  This little guy, here, his name is Wonder.  He's got one blind eye.

Horses are so beautiful.  We let them out on our property yesterday.  We let them run free, but there is always that one horse that stayed back with Wonder to make sure he knew where to go, that he knew where the heard was, and to keep him from running into anything he couldn't see.

This one, Promise, here, with the white stripe down her nose -- she couldn't figure out how to get out the fence onto the main property.  All the horses came back to try and show her to move up to the gate and go through the gate.  They were trying to show her how to get through.  She still didn't get it.

So, they ran off and ate some grass for a few minutes.  Separately, two or three horses kept coming back to try and show her the way out.  She finally figured it out. 

Eventually, the whole entire herd here of eight -- these are the eight that I saved on my birthday from slaughter -- the whole group of eight were able to go enjoy running free on our land together.

But they were all there for each other.  Thinking about one another, first.  They would have never thought about leaving without protecting this guy.  They would have never thought about leaving this one without being able to join the herd.

Imagine if, as humans, we thought about one another in that way every single day.  Thinking about others before we think about ourselves.  Thinking about how we can help one another.  How we can bring out the best in one another.  How we can support one another.  And how we can truly embrace this beautiful gift of life together.

Because life shared with others is a beautiful life, and so fulfilling.  And when we think about others and act with others in mind, that's truly living a fulfilling life. 

So, how can you, today, and this week, and always, find a way to think about others first?  Share with others? Support others?

By bringing out the best in all those around you, you're bringing out the best in yourself and creating energy and a life that truly is magical.

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Today, I want to talk about how in the world today, if we could change all of us the way we think about our communications with others, and always have our primary intention being 'What can I do FOR this person?' -- whoever it is that's standing in front of you, whether it's your husband, your wife, your son, your daughter, your friend, your client, someone you're meeting for the first time -- How can I add value to this person's life right now?

Whether that's something as simple as putting a smile on their face or adding value by whatever services you can provide them with. 

But, I think, oftentimes it's important to just be aware.  Do you go into every relationship in your life thinking 'What can I get FROM this person?' or 'What can I get out of this interaction?' rather than 'What can I GIVE to this person?  How can I impact this connection or this communication in a positive, generous, loving, kind way?

So, what about, if we all begin this coming week saying that in every moment, whoever we come across, our main focus -- our main intention will be 'What can I do for this person?'  What can I do at this moment that's going to add value -- that's going to have a positive impact?  How can I be a gift to this person, to this moment, to this experience?  How can I be a gift?  What can I do for these people?  How can I add value, joy, happiness, good feeling -- whatever it is in every moment?

Let me know in the comments what you find.  Try that for a day.  More importantly, if we can do this all week in every interaction, we can change the world by individually managing how we live our lives; how we treat others with love, kindness, gratitude, appreciation.

And from there, that will spread.

So, have an amazing Sunday everybody.  I love you all.  Thank you for listening.

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Today, I want to talk about when we have an ultimate goal that we're working towards, training towards, working towards -- whatever it is. 

Usually, what happens is you start out and you have weaknesses that need to be overcome; and until those weaknesses have become actual strengths, we can expect to fail, to be disappointed, and fall short over and over again.

So, how do we measure success along the way to keep us motivated, to keep us confident, to keep us certain that one day we truly will achieve our ultimate goal?

My belief is that along the way -- through our failures, through our disappointments as we all know, we learn and we grow the most and we gain a very strong character.  Okay?

So, our strength of character is building along the way.   I believe that if you can truly be aware of how your character is changing -- how you are becoming more resilient, relentless, you're learning from every lesson, you are changing your approach when you need to, when you know something isn't working the way you wanted it to or you hoped it to.

So, my belief on this road to achieving your ultimate goal -- during those times when you feel like you're failing over and over again, or you're falling shorter -- You're not just getting there.  Have the strength of character gains that you're making be how you measure your success. And be proud of that because ultimately that strength of character is going to be that which takes you to the very top.  Which basically means achieving that ultimate goal.

So, have an amazing day everybody.

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Today, I'm going to take you out into the Team Sirius pain cave where you're going to see two of my top athletes: Captain Ellie Salthouse and Jodie Robertson.  They are the perfect example of doing whatever it takes to make your dream come true.

Do you have dreams that you want to make come true? 

Well, this is what's required.  You MUST get out of your comfort zone every single day.  Live there, even. 

You MUST be afraid.  But do it anyway.  Have that fear fuel you.  Have that fear tell you 'This matters to me'. 

You've got to, not only, get out of your comfort zone.  Not only be afraid and do it anyway.  You've got to be willing to fail because when we fail when we fall short of what we're trying to do, that's when we learn.  That's when we grow the most.  That's when we learn more about what we need. 

These girls and every single one of my athletes does this every single day.  If you have a dream that you want to come true, you MUST be willing to lay your soul down for that mission.

This is what these girls and every single one of my athletes does every single day.  So, I'm going to take you in so you can see them.  Here are some of my many athletes that have done the same.

They are in the recovery part. 

What time do they get up?  The crack of dawn.  You know why?  Because there's no time to waste.  You have dreams you want to accomplish?  You wake up early.  You have to make sacrifices.  You do what needs to be done to make your dream come true.

These athletes do that every single day, and you can, too. 

If it matters enough, you'll get it done.  Make a decision today that will help you get closer to achieving your dream.  Make a decision today and every single day after.  Think about the one thing you can do on that day that's going to bring you closer to achieving your dreams.  You got this!

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I want to look back to the year 2000.  I was a pro triathlete and I wanted to make the Olympic Games in Sydney.

Now, for some reason, I thought I needed to move out to Australia and live this solitary life where I could find this deep, incredible strength that I didn't think I already had.  I thought that the only way I could find that is if I go off on my own, and I train alone, and I eat alone, and I live alone, and all that I'm focusing on is becoming better, getting stronger, getting fitter, getting faster and getting tougher.

It was, I think, the hardest thing I've ever done in my life because I am -- my nature is love.  I love being surrounded by my family, by my animals, by my friends and having these people around me fill my soul with joy and energy, and being able to share in every experience of life -- the wonderful experiences, the tough experiences and just every moment of peace.  Just enjoying the solitude with one another.   

So, I went off and I did this. 

There are a few lessons here because another thing I did is every single night I visualized the perfect race.  From start to finish.  Everything going absolutely perfect with me crossing the line, arms in the air, winning the race and qualifying for the Olympics.

Now, the problem with that is on race day, I'm at the Olympic trials.  The gun goes off.  I dive into the water.  Within the first 20 seconds, I get dunked into the water, I get kicked in the race and I lose the front pack. 

I had not visualized this. 

I absolutely had not even thought to think about what happens when I lose the pack?  How am I going to respond? 

So, the biggest lesson is for all of you, just as a side note is visualization is a very powerful practice.  But when you visualize, you also have to see things going wrong and see yourself handling these problems, these issues or these bad moments with grace, with calm, with intelligence, overcoming whatever the problem is, and then succeeding in the end.

I didn't know that at this point in time.

Anyhow, I lost the front pack.  I felt like I was swimming harder than I've ever swam in my life.  I felt like I was biking harder than I ever had.  And I was going backward.  I was being passed by everyone. 

I choked.  I absolutely choked at the Olympic trials.

I'll never forget there were so many people after the race, because at the time, I think, I was the second-ranked American, they were all like, "What happened?  Are you sick?  Did you have a flat tire?  Like, what happened?"

At that moment I thought to myself, this will be a defining moment.  If I make up an excuse, that's going to cut off my entire capacity to grow from this.  To learn from this.  And most importantly, I'm going to lose a lot of respect for myself. 

But if I own it...if I can own what happened, I am not only going to learn from this and maintain respect for myself, but that truly does open up any ceilings that I have over my head.  It allows me to know now what I need to work on, what I need to avoid, and that's going to make me better.

So, I owned it. 

The first person that came up and asked me what happened, I said "I choked.  I absolutely choked."

What that led to ultimately is a lot of really deep realizations that changed the whole trajectory of my life.  One of those was my strength, my energy.  What makes me and helps me be my very best is being in an environment that fills my soul and nourishes my spirit -- and that is in an environment of love.  Having my pets show me unconditional love and think I'm the greatest thing on the planet.  At the time, I didn't have my wife, Bek.  But my mom -- having her encouragement and support and her creative ideas on how to help my experience be that much more successful.  Having my friends that gave me more laughs and make it more fun.

All these things were things that I needed to feel complete.  Thus, being able to tap into all my strength and bring that into this mission that I was on to become the best in the world in this sport. 

So, that was a huge realization.

Another realization about what I'd been focusing on.  I had been focusing on making the Olympics.  That was everything.  That was a life or death -- the Olympics was all I cared about.  Or making a paycheck.  Or making the team.  All these things that were such high-pressure goals weren't fueling me.  When I thought about it, it had been six years since I started this sport, when I was 23 years old.  Only six years.  And I was 23 years old when I started and I didn't know how to swim.

So, six years from that point, not only had I learned to swim, but I got myself to the level where I'm racing professionally.  And I've got the opportunity to make the Olympic team.  I ended up being an alternate.  But I started thinking "Wow!  I have come so far!  This isn't a failure.  This is a complete victory.  My God!"

I suddenly saw it as something to be so grateful for.  I started looking at what didn't happen -- that I didn't officially make the Olympic team that day.  I looked at it as, I, not only learned how to swim but now I'm racing against former Olympic swimmers.  I'm racing at the highest level of this sport. 

I started feeling so grateful.  I thought to myself, "how can I show God or the universe" -- whatever you believe in -- that doesn't matter.  You can put this into your story.  But, to me, I was like, "how do I show God how grateful I am for the gift of my strong mind and relentlessness and my determination and grit?  How grateful am I how every time I fail, I dust myself up and I get back up again?  How grateful am I for all the people that helped me get to this point, here -- my coaches, my massage therapists, my mom, my friends, my pets -- my dog was my running partner.  There was so much to be grateful for."

Suddenly my whole focus became -- I thought that the best way I can show my gratitude -- the best way I can show my thanks for all these incredible gifts is to get out there and use every single one of them to the utmost.

When I race, I'm going to lay everything I have inside of me out there on the race course.  That is my way of saying "Thank you, God.  I see and I appreciate.  I am so grateful, and I will use these gifts to the absolute fullest to show you my thanks. "

These incredible things came from that failure.  In my mind, it was a devastating failure at that time.  But I would not change a thing.  It led to some of the most powerful realizations in my life.  Embracing the power of your team and your support system, and allowing yourself to put yourself in proximity to the people that fill your soul with joy and love and energy.  And also make sure that whatever you're going after is fueled by something deeper than just a monetary goal or a goal of having a certain title.  Make sure that your purpose, your why, your inspiration, your fuel is something way deeper than that.  Something that not only serves you but something that serves all those around you.

You are an example.  You're an inspiration.  You are a gift.

Celebrate this life.  Be all that you are.  Embrace every moment -- the good, the bad -- every single moment is what makes you YOU.    And you are absolutely perfect just the way that you are.

Thank you.   

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Today, I want to talk about how each and every one of us -- whether we are moms and dads, or sisters, or teachers or coaches, or business leaders -- every single one of us is a leader in our own lives.  We're fearless leaders of our lives, first.  But all of us can be an example to others. 

As simple as being in the grocery store and being kind and appreciative to your account clerk, and smiling and wishing them a good day. 

You are being an example to the person behind you of how you can make someone else feel good.  Of how you can have an impact on someone's day.

We all are mentoring those around us.  And, so, it's important to think about our actions.  Think about the things that we do.  Think about things that we focus on in our own world.

Are we always talking to others about our problems or what's wrong in the world?  Or how awful something is?  Or are we always talking about possible solutions to different things going on, and all the good in the world and what we're grateful for?  Or what we appreciate?  Because in how we speak and how we act, we will truly impact those all around us.

It all starts as our parents were our greatest mentors as we were kids.  And being on sports teams or in music groups or art groups where you look up to the older kids and learning from them what it means to be part of a team, work ethic commitment, passion.

We are constantly learning from all those around us.  So, be aware of how you speak and how you act and how you treat others.  Understanding that you are a mentor to all those that are experiencing you. 

So, shine.  Bring everything good you have inside of you into this world.  Focus on the things that you know can not only make a positive difference in your life but when other people watch you, you can help them make a positive change on their own. 

There are so many amazing things in the world.  We are so blessed to lead these lives that we live. 

Yes, we could focus on what's happening in the news and all the things that may be wrong.  But that's not going to influence change for the future. 

Let's bring life into this world.  Let's bring love into this world.  Let's bring faith and whatever you believe in yourself and one another.  Let's be all those things that we hope all those around us to be as well.  Because even starting at that level, we can create tremendous, beautiful change in this world. 

All of us are mentors.  All of us are teachers.  Make sure that the example we set is one that is going to impact the world in beautiful and powerful ways.

Have an amazing day.

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Today, I want to talk about the power of vulnerability. 

I found that in this world, today, it seems as though -- and probably because of social media -- that kids can sometimes think that success comes from everything going perfectly or having everything that you need to succeed.

So, if they fail or feel that they aren't enough -- which, almost every person on the planet feels that at some point in time -- then they think that success just isn't for them.  That it will be someone else that will be succeeding because they have anxiety or are fearful, or they failed.   

So, when we are vulnerable -- when I go around and I talk about how I failed, how I've struggled, but how I overcame all those things and found more strength -- we truly do stumble across our greatest strengths through our deepest struggles. 

Now, when I share that story, it gives hope.  It gives hope knowing the truth, the reality, that in life, you fail multiple times before you succeed.  That's how we learn.  That's how we grow. 

Almost every human on this Earth is going to struggle in some way, shape or form.  So, if kids this day know that we all have struggled, we all have been afraid, we all have been anxious yet we have overcome that, we have worked through it, we have danced with our fears to become what we are today.

So, when we are vulnerable, we allow others to be vulnerable as well.  When we are vulnerable we give hope to others.  When we are vulnerable we deepen our relationships.  We deepen trust between ourselves and another. 

Don't be afraid to be vulnerable.  There is a power in vulnerability, and it is so beautiful.  It is so empowering.  Share your story.  Share everything about your story. 

Success isn't just "Oh!  Everything was amazing.  I was strong.  I had no fear.  I went and I achieved it, then boom  It's just perfect!" 

I don't know about you, but in my life, every great success was at the end of a mountain of struggles.  A mountain of struggles that I overcame, found greater strength along the way, and ultimately found the way to get to the finish line successfully. 

So, think about that.  Be vulnerable.  Allow yourself to be all of who you are.  Share your story.  It will inspire all those around you to do the same. 

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Here at the Bed Head Chronicles, we celebrate what we can give from inside ourselves -- our heart, our soul, our spirit.  It's not about what we look like on the outside.  It's about who we are and what we share in this world. 

Today, I want to talk about our greatest happiness.  Our greatest joys in life, I believe, are things that can't be taken away from us.  Ever. 

The joy of bringing a smile to someone's face, someone that you love.  Or bringing a smile to the face of a stranger.  Doing something nice.  Doing the right thing.  Doing your very best.  Putting in your best effort. 

That's something that can bring us peace and joy and happiness inside.  Something that can't be taking away from us.

I feel that giving to others freely from your heart with love, with kindness is the greatest joy that you can ever, not only, give yourself, but give others --  giving without any expectation of getting anything back in return -- there's no greater feeling.

And there's a reason why when people are depressed or sad or really going through tough times in their lives is one of the greatest pieces of advice is to go do something for others.

Give your time.  Work or volunteer somewhere.  Put your focus on something outside of yourself.  Because when we do that, when we give up our hearts freely, that is not only giving that other person a gift, but you're giving yourself the gift.  Of doing the right thing.  Of doing something that feels good.  Of giving your heart and giving your soul and being present for something outside of yourself.

So, remember that our greatest joins in life -- some of the happiest things will never be taken away from you as long as you acknowledge them and appreciate them.  Because these little things in your life -- they end up being those big things that you remember later on.  The big things.  The times.  The moments.  The things you did.  The things that you felt that leave that lasting impression on your heart and all those around you.  These little things may end up being the big things towards the end of our lives. 

So, focus on those.  This kind of joy, this kind of happiness can never be taken away from you. 

Be your best.  Put in your best effort every day.  Put a smile on other people's faces and give them without expecting anything in return. 

You will be amazed at the abundance of joy that you can feel in your heart every moment of every day.

Thank you!

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When we think in our lives of the things that are great -- and I ask that you take this opportunity to think about the things that are great in your life.  Then think about the things you would love to be better.  Or things in your relationship that you would love to be better.  Or things at work that you would love to be better. 

What is it with the things in your life that are great?  What makes those things great?  What makes those relationships work? What brings you joy in those moments or doing that specific thing?

Bring all those things into the areas of your life that may not feel so great right now and go first.

For example, if you want more inspiration at work, well, then be more inspiring. 

If you want more understanding and compassion with your friends or with your family, then be more understanding.  Be more compassionate. 

If you want more peacefulness around you, be more peaceful inside of yourself. 

I believe that everything in life -- if you want more love in your life, be more loving first.  If you want more passion, be more passionate first. 

We must go first, and we can invite all those around us to meet us where we are.  And if you're in a situation where you might be surrounded by people that you feel are bringing you down, or they're not as motivated and inspired as you are, don't drop to that level.  Invite them to meet you where you're at. 

And that requires you going first. 

If you want more authenticity from people, be more authentic.

I was thinking also this morning about freedom.  What does freedom mean to you? 

Freedom to me means being able to live fearlessly, authentically me.  Being able to be me in every circumstance.  To never have to think of what do I need to be today or who do I need to be today?  But be ME. 

That's freedom of me.  And knowing that my wife loves me for who I am.  People around me love me for who I am.

And I choose me.  I choose to be authentic.  That gives me freedom and a sense of peace inside myself that means everything to me.  It allows me to be my best for everyone else around me.

So, go first.  And that means, if we're talking about fearless authenticity, decide to be you.  Go first.  Encourage all those around you to do the same.  To be who they are. 

There's too much judgment in this world, and we are our own harshest judges.  And often times, when we do judge ourselves it keeps us from being all that we truly are.  It keeps us from going first.  It keeps us from being brave.

Take the judgment out.  Celebrate being you.  Be free.  Go first.  Create in your life everything that you dream of by being that first.  And watch all those around you begin to do the same.

Have a great day, everybody!

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Today, I want to talk about -- I was remembering back to when I just started triathlon and I was 23 years old and I had been in a place growing up where I was just nervous and anxious all the time.  I had a horrible case of OCD.  When I finally turned myself around, one of the things I said to myself was "I'm going to do something that scares me every single day."  Not things, you know, scaring myself with things I had no control over, but actually going out and doing things that scared me.  At least one thing, every single day.  Whether that was saying hello to someone that I wanted to meet, and having the courage to say hello.  Or going and riding up a hill that seemed so steep that I was terrified.  Or descending without holding on to my breaks the whole time.  Or whatever it was -- just doing something that scared me every single day. 

And what happens is, as you start building up your courage, those things become bigger and bigger that you take on.  Leading me to my final coach, Brett Sutton, who the training he gave me absolutely terrified me every single day.  I didn't know how I was going to survive it.  But I just went in and decided to be afraid and do it anyway.  That's what courage is.  Courage is being afraid and doing it anyway.  That's what I did every single day.   Building up my confidence and building up my threshold of how scary something would be for me to take it on. 

And, what I realized that is so, so important in all of our lives is:  How can we ever know what we are truly capable of if we're not trying to do what we don't think we can every single day?  You have to, at least, try.    You've got to step in.   You need to be courageous.  And go for it.  Give it a chance.  Because if you don't try, you'll never know.  And what I discovered is each time that I stepped in and was terrified, but I did it anyway, it brought me to all new levels in my life.  So, live life to the fullest.  Trust in yourself.  Be courageous.  And do something that you don't think you can every single day.

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Today I'm out here doing a two hour hard run with my athletes.  And it's sunny, it's hot, it's a very hilly route.  What determines the experience in our lives is what we choose to focus on, the meaning we give things, and what we choose to do about it. 

So, these athletes today can say "Oh my God!  It's a two-hour hard run.  This is a disaster.  It's going to be so hard.  It's going to be so miserable."  But, no.  They choose to focus on the fact that this is an incredible opportunity to get fitter, to get stronger, to get faster, to increase their pain threshold.  Yes, it's a hilly course.  It's gonna hurt.  But instead of saying "Oh my God, it's gonna hurt," they say "wow!  This is going to make me strong."  It's hot out and they say, this is going to help me respond well in hot races. 

Everything is an opportunity for these athletes.  An opportunity to grow.  An opportunity to get better.  An opportunity to increase their pain threshold, get stronger, get tougher.  So, how are you -- what are you focusing on today?  Are you focusing on what you have?  Or what you don't have?  Are you focusing on what you want or what you don't want?  Are you focusing on what you don't have control over?  Or are you focusing on all that you have control over?  Choose to focus on what you have, what you want, what you love, what you can control.  And make it an amazing day.

Hey!  You woke up this morning and I'd say that's an ultimate gift.  So make it an amazing day.  And thank you for listening to the bed head chronicles. 

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Today I want to talk about being able to draw upon past experiences and those moments when you feel overwhelmed, you feel helpless in a way, you feel scared to death about being able to handle something that you're going through, or being able to get through a certain struggle.  And you look at -- all of us have experiences to draw upon.  We all woke up this morning, okay?  We've all had pain.  We've all suffered.  We've all had struggled in our own way.  And all of us have made it out of those dark moments into the light. 

So, we all have proven success that we can get through those hard times.  That we can struggle and we can come out the other side stronger than we ever had before.  And, maybe, you even in -- I'm sure all of you do -- have experiences where you thought something horrible was going to happen, or you thought the result of something was going to be terrible.  But you battled through and you stayed strong, and your intention was just to be the best that you could be in the moment and make the most out of the situation.  And, perhaps, what happened was a brilliant success.  Or an awesome victory.  Or something beautiful that you stumbled upon in doing that.  In laying out that positive intent that you were going to be the best that you could be.  That you're going to make the best out of every situation.  That you're going to find the gift in every struggle.  Perhaps that led to something beautiful in your life. 

So, these are the things we need to draw upon when we're struggling.  These are the things we need to remember.  Remember your past successes no matter how small or how big they are.  I can look back, as I often do, to that world championship win that I had.  I came out of the water in near dead last.  I could have -- I could have decided that this is going to be the worst day of my life.  But instead, I decided to do the best I could with what I had.  To make it an opportunity to see how close I could get to the front.  And on that day, I became a world champion.  The least likely person to become a world champion. 

So, back yourself in those moments of struggle.  Go back to those moments where you were just resilient, and relentless, and you never gave up, and you did your best, and you created a meaning for whatever was happening.  Created a meaning and empowered you, rather than disempowered you -- draw on those moments because that's always inside of you.  You have everything you need inside of you, all the time.  Draw upon the good.  Draw upon those memories, those -- the facts inside of you that empower you, no matter what you're going through. 

Have an amazing day, everybody.

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Today I want to talk about listening.  Some of us may have people in our lives that are going through something that's really hurting them.  Or something they are struggling through.  And, sometimes we may think, "Why can't they get through this?  Why can't they see that they need to do this or they need to do that, and it will relieve them of their pain?"   We want to fix things. 

I think, one of the most healing and transformative things that you can do for someone is to just listen.  Hold them in that space.  Be present for them.  Listen to what is hurting them, what their struggling with, what their worries are, and let them just express what they are feeling.  Just by listening without trying to fix.  Listen without trying to be the hero and make the difference and solve the problem.  Just listening is going to allow them a space to heal and a space to transform.

We don't always have to fix the things that are wrong with our loved ones.  Often times we just need to give them the space to work through it in their own minds, in their own hearts, to just be able to talk about it.  Let's just sit there compassionately listening with love and with care.  And just by providing that support, just by providing that shoulder to lean on, you're providing them a space to heal. 

So, think about that today if someone comes to you with a problem they've had for a long, long time.  I know, for me, I want to get in.  I want to fix it.  I want to provide the perspective that's gonna change everything.  I want to be the hero.  I want the pain to go away.  But, sometimes, all that's needed -- all that they are asking for -- is for you to listen compassionately and with love.  To provide them space where they can heal and transform in their own time.

Have a great day everybody!

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Today, I'm following my amazing athlete on a hard run session.  Yes, it is a beautiful day, but these guys are quite fatigued by this point in time this week.    Some have raced last weekend.  Some just had a big week in training. 

So, what do you do when you've got a big task ahead, but you don't feel great?  You do the best that you can with what you have.  And that's what each and every one of these athletes is doing.  You appreciate.  You trade your expectation for appreciation, as what Tony Robbins says.  And appreciate the fact that you can be out pushing yourself and being the best that you can be.  You appreciate the beautiful view -- this gift of life.

Do the best that you can with what you have at any given moment.  And that's living life to the fullest.  So, everybody, have an amazing day.  It doesn't matter how you feel. 

We can control two things: your effort and your attitude. 

So have a great attitude, put in your best effort, and have an amazing day. 

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Last night on our chat with our Team Sirius Tri Club, someone asked about what to do when you're having a panic attack on the swim portion of a triathlon.    Now, when I talk about this, this can relate to anything.  This could be when you're having a panic attack at work.  Or whatever it is -- those moments when you get so deeply anxious -- what do you do to pull yourself out of it?

What you don't want to do is focus on the fact that you're feeling this anxiety.  Oh my God, I'm having a panic attack.  Oh my God, this is terrible.  Oh my God, I'm going to die or pass out -- whatever it is.  The more energy you give it, the worse you're going to feel.  It's going to intensify the anxiousness.  It's going to intensify the feeling of panic. 

What I like to think of if this ever happens to me, is if I were standing next to the kid version of myself (because I don't have kids), or if I were standing next to my mom or my wife or somebody that I love with all  my heart, and they were  having a panic attack -- what would I say to them?

Would I say "Oh my God, you're having a panic attack!" and make it worse?  No!  Of course not.  I would turn to them and say you're going to be okay and take a deep breath.  Everything is all right.  I'm right here.  Just take a moment to relax and breathe and think about feeling good again.  Think about things that make you happy.  Think about the fact that you have everything you need inside of you to get through this.  Just remember what the truth is. 

So, when you're getting through these moments, try to find a way to:

1) Breath. 
2) Think about what you would say to someone that you love more than anything in the world if they were going through the same thing that you're going through right now.  Speak to yourself as you would speak to that loved one.  With love.  With calm.  Reminding them of the truth.

So, for those of you with panic on the swim portion of the triathlon, just remember to slow down.  Float on your back.  Take a deep breath.  Remember how strong you are.  Remember how fit you are.  Tell yourself the truth that you're not going to die, you're not going to drown, you just need to relax.  Everything is going to be fine.  You can take a moment to just calm yourself down.  Remind yourself of the truth.  Then, when you feel ready, move forward. 

But, the last thing we want to do when we're having a problem is give that problem more and more energy.  Because as you give it more energy, it gets bigger and stronger and more terrifying.  So, make it smaller.  Breathe.  Remind yourself of the truth.  Focus on solutions, not the problem. 

And, that's a general thing in life.  If you're constantly focusing on whatever your problem is, like -- Oh my God, I can't run hills!  I'm a terrible hill runner.  The more you tell yourself that, you're never going to run well on the hills.  Instead, let's focus on solutions to that problem.  Well, I'll start adding some hill training to my training plan.  I will start focusing on uphill/downhill run form.  I will read about hill running.  I'll watch inspiring hill runners running hilly courses.  Focus on the solutions, not the problem.  And that's going to bring you out of that space and empower you rather than disempower you. 

That will make you feel totally in control of your experience of life and what you can create.  So, I hope that helps everybody know we all get anxious.  We all get nervous.  We all can get to a place where we literally feel like we're panicking.  Love yourself in those moments.  Don't give it energy.  Focus on what you have, not on what you don't have.  So, at that moment, you may not feel like -- you may feel like you don't have control.  Don't focus on that.  Focus on what you do have control over.  I have control over this experience.  I can calm down.  I can breathe.  I can think about how I'm going to get myself out of this and love on myself and remind myself the truth.  Have an amazing day everybody!  And thank you for listening to the bed head chronicles.

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So, this morning, I want to talk about how expectations can kill us.  In the year 2000, I was preparing for the Olympic trials in Sydney, Australia.  I had set a goal that every single day, I was going to visualize the entire race from start to finish.  Visualize the perfect race of me executing beautifully every moment and crossing the line, winning the race and making the US Olympic team.  Every night I went through this visualization process of the perfect race for 365 days.   

On the day of the Olympic trials, the gun went off, I dove into the water, and within 15 seconds I had been dunked into the water, kicked in the face and I lost the front pack.  This was not in my visualization.  I didn't know how to respond.  I didn't know what to do.  I hadn't prepared for this.  And I completely choked.  I was swimming harder than I ever had, but I'm going backward.  I got on the bike and I felt I was biking harder than I ever had before, and I'm going backward.  People are passing me.  It ended up being an absolute disaster.

The incredible lesson here was that when you visualize -- whether it's for a race, a meeting, a date, whatever it is -- yes, you need to visualize things going great, but you also want to visualize things going wrong and see yourself overcoming these challenges.  Overcoming these challenges with grace, with composure, with confidence, and seeing yourself on the other side.  It is important to understand that things will never be "perfect". 

My race, when I became the world champion, I came out of the water in near dead last.  Now, had I visualized the perfect race and thought that in order to be a world champion, I need to have a perfect race from start to finish.   I would have never continued fighting on that day.  But, instead, I decided "Okay.  I'm in a crap position right now.  I'm just going to put my head down and go as hard as I can and see how close I can get to the front."  And, on that day, I became a world champion. 

My choking in the Olympic trials in 2000 has helped me understand that in life, yes, we want to be able to visualize things going great and achieving our ultimate goal.  But we also need to anticipate things going wrong and build up the confidence also in our visualization of seeing something going wrong but seeing ourselves handling it with grace.  Handling it with composure.  And coming out the other side and succeeding.  It's so very important.  Expectations kill. 

If we think that everything needs to go perfectly to get the result we're looking for, we're never going to make it.  Because you're going to fail.  You're going to be disappointed.  You're going to make mistakes.  So, all you can do is prepare to manage those situations in the best way possible.  So, the only expectation I have for myself, which I encourage all of you to have the same, is to do the best that I can with what I have in every moment.  That's all we can expect.  That's all we can do.  And it will change your life because then you'll always know that you can achieve that ultimate result.  It may not be pretty, but you're going to learn from your mistakes.  You're going to handle them with composure and with grace.  You're going to overcome those challenges, come out stronger on the other side, and be committed to being the best that you can to create the result that you're looking for. 

I hope that helps everyone have an amazing day and embrace your bed head, too. 

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Yesterday I spoke about perspective.  Today, I want to elaborate on that as I was thinking about yesterday's session with my athletes and they were absolutely crushing it.  Basically, I was giving them goals that were way beyond what they thought they were capable of.  But, for me, my perspective as a coach -- I can see their potential.  And I can make a really educated guess as to how fast they are able to run given them being willing to suffer.  Them being willing to give it everything they have.  And them being willing to consider the possibility that they are much more capable than they think they are.  And they all, absolutely, crushed it. 

Now, it hurt, because they were going harder than they were before, faster than they were before -- so it hurt.  But, what if, the meaning of that pain was that this going fast, this pain means that I'm crushing it?  Does this pain mean that I'm having my best run ever?  What if, say, for instance, you're in a relationship or a marriage, even, and you're going through some trying times when you're having some pretty deep conversations.  You're having some arguments.  What if this wasn't the beginning of the end?  What if this was your relationship going to all new levels of depth and commitment?  What if those arguments, those deep conversations are what is going to deepen the bond between you and your partner, and take your relationship to all new levels of happiness, joy, depth of love, etc. 

The meaning we give things can totally, not only affect our experience of life, or our experience of a certain relationship, but it can also affect the decisions that we make in response to that.  So, back to the athlete example, say they're in a race and they're hurting so badly.  Now, if they take the meaning, "I'm hurting.  I must be having a horrible day," they will probably back off and have a horrible day.  Exactly what they're looking for.

But, if they're hurting and they say "Yes!  This is what I need to feel to know that I'm crushing it today.  That I'm having my best run, my best race."  That is going to lead them to probably having their best run and their best race.

Now, back to the relationship example, say you're having some deep, meaningful conversations with your partner, and you're having some arguments.  Well, if you thought, "Oh. It's the beginning of the end."  Then, you're probably  -- the relationship's just going to get worse and worse.  Then you're going to hit that moment, maybe, where you decide to call it off. 

But, if you look at that argument, that deep and meaningful conversation that you're having with your partner as being something that is going to lead you to a better understanding of one another.  To a deeper relationship, a stronger bond, a deeper love, you will see your relationship blossom into something more than you could ever imagine.  The meaning we give things can completely change our experience of life, and most importantly, the decisions that we make that can either empower us or disempower us.   

So, pay attention to that.  And as you go through your day, think about the things that you say to yourself and the meaning that you're giving it.  Is the meaning serving you or serving your relationship?  Or is it hurting you?  Choose the empowering meaning.  Choose to set yourself up for not only your best day but your best relationship as well.

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This morning, I want to talk about perspective and how we all have a certain way of looking at things, the meaning we give things -- and sometimes we can get really upset if someone else doesn't share our perspective.  But it's very important for us to always consider all the possibilities of what something could mean to anyone around you.

I guess, for example, realizing that I was gay.  It took me 23 years to come to terms with the fact that I was gay.  And for a lot of other people that have the same experience, it's the same thing.  It takes a long time to come to terms with that.  Yet, when we tell our families, our parents, our friends, it's like we expect them to be okay with it right away. 

What if we look at it from their perspective?  Like, it's taken us this long to come to terms with it.  We have to, at least, allow some time for them to be able to work their way through it.  To come to terms with it.  I know that's frustrating, especially when you finally have the courage to come out.  But we all need to understand that everybody has a process that in coming to terms with something.  And we need to allow that for our loved ones.  Not just in that situation, but in any situation. 

So, having perspective -- I often think to -- and this can apply to you whether you believe in God or the universe or whatever it is.  But when I look at a situation or a person that may have upset me, I try to look at it -- I try to say to myself, "How would God be seeing this?  Or how would the universe be seeing this?"  And see it in a way "OK.  This person is in pain.  This person has been hurt that's why they're reacting this way."  They could have taken what I said in this way rather than in the way that I meant it. 

And, when you think about all different perspectives, you then are able to deal with the situation or come into the situation from a different way of thinking.  And, often times, that can create peace in a situation where there wasn't any.  It can create love where there might not have been that flavor before. 

But perspective is very important because I truly do believe that as humans, we are all innocent.  We all have had experiences.  We're all going through life.  We are all going through our separate journeys.  And we have to love and respect everyone around us considering that.  So, try to look at the world through a lens of goodness.  Try to look at the world through a lens of love.  And try to look at the world through a lens of compassion.  And, I'm sure, that will forever, not only change the way you look at all those around you, but will increase the quality of your life to one that's loving, kind, compassionate, and at peace with what our hearts really want us to be. 

So, thank you, everybody!  Have an amazing day.

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Today, I'm going to include my amazing athletes, and we're going to talk about the single most important thing.    And they're used to my bed head.  I show up this way every single day.  The single most important thing that they tell themselves to get the most out of themselves every single day -- to be the best they can be every day.  Better than they were the day before. 

What does that take?  I'm going to start here, first, with Alissa. 

Alissa:  I think it's to take it one thing at a time.  One work at a time, then one minute at a time at a workout, or at an interval or session.  Just break it up so it doesn't feel big.

Siri:  Awesome.  So, stay in the moment, basically?

Alissa:  Yeah.  Every single moment in each thing -- it makes it, not easier, but more memorable.

Siri:  I love it.  Maricarmen!

Maricarmen:  To always stay focused on your goal.  It doesn't matter what you're feeling right now at this moment, knowing that it's going to pass.  Once you overcome what seems impossible or extremely painful, on the other side there's going to be greatness. 

Siri:  Awesome.  Salty, well done!  So, guys, this is what it means to freakin' go for it.  Awesome!  Troy!

Troy:  Being relentless and being in the moment.  It means to give your best effort and your best attitude in anything and everything that happens in your way.  So, just stay focused and be relentless all the way. 

Siri:  Awesome!  Does that mean, Troy, basically, no judgment?  You cannot judge yourself in every moment, okay?  Because then you're saying "Am I good enough?  Or am I not good enough?"  You're always good enough.  Okay?  You put in the effort, stay in the moment, stay connected to your goal and be true to you.  The ultimate goal is being the best that you can be every single day.  Captain Salty?  Anything you want to say?  What do you tell yourself every single day to ensure that you are the best YOU you can be?  What's your focus?

Ellie:  Today is my day. 

Siri:  Yeah!  I love it.  We're going to end on that you guys.  "Today is my day!"  Every day, right?

Ellie:  Yeah. 

Siri:  Boom.

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People often ask me, how do you have the courage to get on social media with your hair all over the place, no makeup, just getting out of bed? 

I am proud of the woman I am today, and I have someone I want to thank for that -- Tony Robbins has been my single, most powerful, beautiful mentor.  He's changed my life in every way.    And Tony Robbins has given his life to this world, going around and inspiring millions of people, empowering millions of people.  He's the ultimate force for good.  The ultimate force for God.  The ultimate force for -- a beacon of light.

Today, my heart broke because Buzzfeed News -- a guy named Gary King --  have put out this piece of false reporting.  It breaks my heart because they're trying to bring down one of the most beautiful gifts that God has given this world, this Earth, this planet.  Everyone who knows the impact that Tony Robbins has not only had on my life but millions of other lives by giving his heart unconditionally, selflessly -- he has been a beacon of light for the last 40 years for me.  Please, everyone, share the truth.  The video that holds the truth of the woman of this intervention that Buzzfeed talks about -- the woman is actually on sharing a video on how he has touched her life in the most beautiful way, and how he changed her life for the better.  Everybody, truth is power.  Tony Robbins -- the light will cast out the darkness. 

Stuff like this, guys, it happens.  People will say untrue things about people that are only bringing good into this world.  Why?  Why are they doing that?  I can't answer that but what I do know is that Tony Robbins, being the brightest light that I have ever known, is going to cast out this darkness and something beautiful and something amazing are going to come out of this because that's the kind of man that he is.  Tony, I stand by you.  Everyone, share the truth.  #IStandByTony #TruthIsPower #LightWillCastOutDarkness. 

I love you, Tony.  I thank you.  You're a beacon of light.  You are amazing and the truth will come out.  Everyone, have an amazing day and in doing that share the truth.  Thank you.

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Today, I want to talk about the parts of ourselves that we're not necessarily proud of.   I know I often talk about being our best selves, being better than we were the day before.  And, I think, often, what we want to try and do is just suppress or hide away those parts of ourselves that make us feel some kind of a shame, or we know that it's not our best self.

But, I'm encouraging you to be thankful for those parts of yourself because those aspects of who you are act as a teacher for you.  It acts as a guide for you so you can truly step into your magnificence, your greatness, your power, your strength.  If we don't know the things that can potentially get in our own way, as we try to be our best selves,  how can we know what we really want to be?

So, rather than pushing those parts of yourself -- I know now the things that I used to be most ashamed of have actually been my greatest strength because these things have taught me what I don't want to be.  It has guided me to what I am now.  Use those aspects of yourself to light the path to your most powerful light. 

I talked in another episode about worthy opponents.  People that may have hurt you, or frustrated you, or people at a time in your life that was very difficult -- and when you look back, you can see that they were actually your worthy opponent.  They stretched you to become something more.  They brought you to a new place in your life.  You found your strength through your struggle.   

So, when I look back at my anxiety, and how at a time I just let that overcome me with OCD nearly took my life away from me, I can recognize that part of me that gets so anxious -- that part of me that can feel overwhelmed.  And I embrace that part of me.  And I look upon that as a gift because I know that everything I do every day is to make sure that I don't let that influence me, hold me back, or slow me down.  Or get in my what of what I hope to be or hope to give or what I hope to accomplish.   

So, that part of me, I consider a teacher, a guide, a light; and it helps me be the best me by knowing that is there and inspiring me to be so much than that.  I hope this helped.  I hoped this made sense.  But embrace every aspect of who you are; you are absolutely perfect just the way that you are.  And, like in life, we put in tough times.  Times that challenge us.  But those times always make us stronger.  Those times always lead to something better.   They always stretch us to become something more, something we can be so proud of, something that we can share with the world as a gift. 

Have a great day.

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Today, I want to talk about relationships as that place where we go to give love.  Imagine thinking about your marriage, your relationship, your friendships as a place where you go to give love, to give joy, to give support, encouragement, joy, whatever it is rather than thinking about what we want to receive from this other person.  What we want to receive from our partner.  What we want to receive from our friend. 

My belief is that if you're thinking about what can I give to this person?  How can I love this person?  How can I appreciate this person?  How can I honor this person?  And celebrate this person?  That leads to an energy where all they want to do is return is find out how can they give to you?  How can they love you?  How can they honor you?  How can they cherish you?

Tony Robbins always says "Trade your expectation for appreciation and see your entire world change."  Imagine -- and those of you that aren't in a relationship -- if you think about that relationship as a place where you want to go when you fully have everything you need inside of you.  And all you want to do in a relationship is give.  That's going to lead you to, what I would imagine, is a very successful relationship.

If we are wanting to get into a relationship to receive something that we don't think we already have.  Then I think that can create problems because then we're going in with an expectation.  And little quibbles, little arguments, and we all have them.  Bek and I have them.  But couldn't they be avoided in huge ways by rather than thinking about what you haven't received, what you haven't gotten, what they haven't done, you focus simply on what are you giving them?  How are you loving them?  How are you filling up their lives with joy because inevitably what's going to happen is they are going to want to be doing the same for you.  Trade your expectation for appreciation and see your world change. 

Thank you, Tony Robbins, for putting it so beautifully because it's so very true.  Don't go into a relationship expecting.  Go into the relationship appreciating.  And truly it will lead to the magic that we all dream of in our lives. 

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Today, I'm going to call today kindness and thoughtfulness things which I try to live every day. 

I want you to experiment with every single person that you encounter today that you greet them with a smile, with appreciation, with gratitude, and with love.  Even if it's someone that has caused you trouble before or brings up really, you know, negative feelings for you.  I want you to find the one thing about them that you can appreciate; the one thing about them that you can celebrate, and I want you to treat that person or those people with love and kindness, appreciation, gratitude, energy.

So, your intent for today is to step out into the world with a heart that already is so full of love, but direct all your thoughts to what is good in the world.  What is good about a certain person.  Appreciating and celebrating every single soul that you come across.  I can't wait to hear tomorrow or at the end of the day today. 

If you can leave me a comment about how your day went, and the reaction you got.  I can't wait to hear from you because living your life in this way, finding the positive, seeing the positive, appreciation, gratitude, love and kindness can change everything. 

So have an amazing day.  I know that you will. 

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Today, I want to talk about how to best manage a situation of high stress, high stakes -- a situation that could cause you to be truly anxious, fearful, scared shitless. 

I'll use a sporting analogy -- imagine that you are in overtime and you have the last shot that's going to win or lose the game.  At that moment -- these are the ways that you can sabotage yourself:  thinking about "Oh my God.  The last time I was in this situation, I missed it.  Or thinking in the future, "What if I miss this?  What if I lose the game?" 

Being your most powerful place to be is in the moment and saying to yourself right now, what can I do to make this the best moment possible?  You do not allow yourself to think of anything that happened in the past.  You do not allow yourself to consider anything that may happen in the future.  You focus on what can I do at this moment now to make this the best moment possible.  This could be for a meeting that you're in or a deal that you're trying to make or a shot that you have to make to win the game.  Whatever it is -- being in the moment is where we are all most powerful.

I tell my athletes a story before the world championships one year in Kona, and I needed to relax because I was so amped up.  It was a day before the race.  So, I went to a yoga class; and I'm not somebody that is very good at yoga, is not flexible.  And I'm in the class, and I'm thinking about what happened in last year's race and what could potentially happen in this race, and every pose I was just falling all over the place.  And then I thought to myself, "look, Siri.  You came here to relax.  Be in the moment."  And I was just fully focused on doing whatever pose they were having us do.  Suddenly, I had a perfect balance.  I felt strong.  I felt present, and I found the yogi inside of me. 

I went and spoke to my athlete who ended up winning the race and I said, "Hey, there is no denying that when we are in the moment, we are our most powerful, our most capable of tapping into our utmost potential.  So, in every moment -- as in every moment possible, -- sorry, I just woke up;  Bed Head Chronicles -- in as many moments as possible be your fully present.  You can not think about a mistake in the past.  You can't think about what could possibly happen in the future.  Be present.  Do the best that you can at this moment now.  You will tap into your insights, your intelligence, your knowledge, your skills, your potential, your power.

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Today, you are not seeing my bed head.  But you are seeing the site where my wife and I, on mornings where it's warm enough, come out to do a process called 'Priming' that we learned from the amazing Tony Robbins. 

With this process, you start with some breathing exercises to get centered and to get relaxed. 

From there, you think about three things that you're grateful for, moments in your life, people in your life that you're grateful for. 

Then you ask for healing on anything that needs to be healed within yourself -- your mind, your body, your thoughts, your feelings, your relationships.  You ask for any solutions you may need or strengthening of what's already great inside of you.

You then send that healing out to those you love and care about, to the community, to the world.  And then you celebrate the feeling of things being made better at this moment now because thought is energy and sending that healing energy out can truly make a difference. 

From there you think about three things that you'd like to achieve or accomplish.  Three things that would cause you to thrive and you step into those three things one at a time.  See yourself succeeding.  See it happening.  And see yourself celebrating the sense of accomplishment, joy, and impact on the world around you. 

And when you're done -- my wife and I, what we always do is we celebrate; and that means celebrating not only what you know you will achieve and accomplish in the future, but most importantly, celebrating the gifts of this life.  Celebrating the things we're grateful for.  Celebrating yourself and one another. 

Have an amazing day, everybody!

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Today, I want to talk about how to get yourself out of a really dark space of suffering.

We all get there, sometimes, and it's crazy how sometimes, even though we want to feel better, we decide to throw on everything possible that can make us feel worse;  to almost torture ourselves to feel even worse than we already do.  It's crazy. 

So, on that same note, what if, in those times of real suffering, in those times where things like nothing's going right you use that same discipline that you use in every aspect of your life, whether it's going to work every day or going out and training every day or taking care of your kids or being there for your friends.  Whatever it is, we all show that we have discipline in our lives, especially those of you who a lot of you are watching me right now are high achievers.  You know that you have that discipline. 

In these cases, it's a matter of channeling that discipline to your thoughts and saying "I'm in a dark space right now.  I am going to choose right now.  I'm going to discipline my thoughts to focus on what is right in my world, what is good in my world, to focus on the things in my life that empower me, telling on solutions rather than our problems.  Because when we get in these dark phases that we feel we can't get out of it's because we are constantly focusing on what's wrong, focusing on our problems, focusing on what's missing.  Focusing on what feels bad, what hurts, what's wrong.  Really, it is up to you to get yourself out of that space. 

So, two things -- number one, discipline your focus.  Build this muscle where when you go really dark, really deep in your suffering, discipline yourself to say what can I focus on now that I can be grateful for?  What in my life is good?  What do I have that makes me happy?  And really discipline yourself to see the good.  To focus on the solutions; to focus on what you have.  Focus on the things that you have control over and build the muscle of thinking in that direction, in the direction it's going to empower you. 

And the second thing is that often times, depression and being in the dark space is exacerbated because we are obsessing over ourselves.  We are so focused on ourselves and what we're feeling and what's wrong that we aren't thinking about others.  That all we're obsessed with ourselves in those moments and the single most powerful way to get out of depression is to focus on someone else. 

Go give your time to help someone else with something that they're going through.  Focus on someone else's.  The focus on giving back and volunteering, going and offering your time or your expertise to someone that needs it.  That when we get out of ourselves in terms of taking our focus off of ourselves and put it into others-- there's real power in that.  A real beauty in that; and you start realizing the power of love, the power of giving, the power of being selfless.  And in helping others you end up helping yourself as well. 

I hope this helps you have an amazing day, everyone. 

If you're in a dark space right now, guess what?  You are the only one who can get yourself out of there, and it's possible!  We all have it in us.  It takes disciplining your thoughts, your focus and really empowering yourself with the right thoughts focusing on the right things.  You can find lots of things wrong with your day, with you then.  Same time, there are so many things that you can find that are right, that you have that you can be grateful for, that you can celebrate so do that.  Empower yourself.  Be the superhero of your own life, not the victim. 

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Today, I want to talk about how we speak to ourselves in turmoil.  When we made a mistake on something we're working on or we forgot to do something that was important or was struggling to get through something that's hard. 

The things that we say to ourselves, obviously, are going to affect how we feel and what we are able to accomplish.  When we are in a powerful state or a beautiful state, when we do most anything like gratitude, joy, love, peace, faith, courage -- when we're in a powerful state we can perform our very best.  But if we put ourselves in a disempowered state -- getting angry with ourselves or disappointed in ourselves, or beating up on ourselves, which I know we all do, we're not going to perform it better.

So, in those moments when you're struggling -- in those moments when you catch yourself beating up on yourself, think of it this way.  How would you, if your daughter or son, your mom or your dad or your best friends was going through the same exact thing that you're going through, right now, what would you say to them?  How would you speak to them?  Would you beat them up like you're beating up yourself right now?  No, I guarantee you, you wouldn't

I want you to try and think back how you would help someone you love so much through what you're going through, and speak to yourself in a way that you would speak to that person.  You will find that you are so much more compassionate with yourself, encouraging you to yourself, and you'll be able to bring out the best in yourself as you would do for others. 

So, pay attention to how you speak to yourself.  And let's start speaking to ourselves with the same kindness, the same compassion, and the same love and concern if you would someone that you love so much and see your world change.  Have an amazing day.

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Today I want to talk about getting out of your comfort zone. 

How many of you have truly gotten to the point where you were so uncomfortable, but you didn't know if you were going to survive the experience?  And you put yourself there, not something that is presented to you and you have to get through it.  But something, something that you decided to get so uncomfortable, so afraid, that you don't even know if you're gonna survive it. 

The greatest things that ever happened to me in my life have come from me, being in a moment like that, where I don't know if I'm going to make it to the other side.  Having the courage -- and we all have courage -- but what courage is being afraid but doing it anyway.  It's making the decision to take a chance on you.

Back in my last couple of years of racing as an athlete, my coach, Brent Sutton, would push me to levels that I didn't even know existed.   He would present me with tasks that seemed absolutely impossible, and all I could do was take a chance on me and decide that I would just do my best and see if I can achieve what he was asking me to do.  And it was terrifying.  Some days I couldn't even move my legs or lift my arms above my shoulders.  And he'd present me with this impossible task, or what seemed impossible to me. 

But the brilliance here was that every single day he presented me with the seemingly impossible task.  Every single day I decided I'm just going to do my best and try to find a way to get this done.  And every single day, somehow, I was able to find a way.  Every day I was proving to myself that what seemed impossible was actually possible, but it's up to us to take a chance on ourselves and decide that no matter how afraid we are, we are going to give everything we have to do our best to try and find a way.  You'll be amazed.  You are powerful beyond anything you could ever imagine once you decide to us that courage inside of you.  And the thing is that when you get out of your comfort zone, that's where everything amazing, everything extraordinary, is going to happen in your life.  Is going to happen when you're brave. 

It's a decision, guys.  Be brave.  Be courageous.  How can we ever know what we are truly capable of if we're not trying to do things that we don't think we can every single day?  We all have it in us.  It's a decision.  Decide today to be brave and to be you.

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Today is the best it gets.  This is jet lag bed head.  So, forgive me, but please love me anyway. 

Today, I want to talk about worthy opponents.  This doesn't just mean in sport or in business, but I'm talking about those people that come into your life that caused you pain in some way, shape or form.  And I truly believe as I've spoken of it before, that people come into our lives for a reason, and that there's a gift in every struggle. 

But I want you to think about someone that may have said something to you as a kid, as a teenager, or even as an adult.  Somebody that came in and did something that truly hurt you and left a deep wound. 

We can choose to own whatever story that we decide to tell about ourselves from that experience.  We can choose the story whatever they tell us whether you're not worthy, don't belong here, you're horrible -- whatever it is, you can choose that and go on in your life thinking "I'm not worthy.  I'm horrible.  I don't belong here."  Or you can choose an empowering story.  One like I'm so much better off without this person.  I will show them how strong I am, how great I am, how worthy I am by stepping into my power and creating the life I know I deserve.  I know I have the power to create it.  I'll -- there are so many stories I can share in this regard. 

But you hear the people can come in and be an example, or they can be a warning.  And I believe that regardless of whether they are an example and they are warning everyone who walks into our lives gives us an opportunity to grow and learn about ourselves, and those that come in and hurt us, I believe are meant to bring us to a new place of strength within ourselves.  Bring us to a place where we choose ourselves.  We back ourselves.  We decide that this person that tells us that we can't -- that gives us the fire, the leverage, the desire, that determination, the fuel to prove even more that we can.  And that's why I call them worthy opponents.  Because they're 'worthy' because regardless of what they bring, whether it's joy or pain into your lives, they are -- their existence invites you to step into your power, to step into your greatness, to take a chance on me, and I've done this many times in my life. 

I've had athletes leave me as a coach, and it breaks my heart because of what we've accomplished together and because I felt that I had such an important role in that athlete's progression.  And at that moment, as a coach, I'm using this as an example, you can choose to say all I must not be a good coach.  They're leaving me because I'm not good enough.  Or as I chose, I said I will prove the kind of role I played in this athlete's life. I will prove it by going out there and achieving just as much, even more, with another athlete. 

So, what I'm saying is that you can choose to have these people disempower you, or you can choose to have them empower you and to fuel your fire.  To step in your greatness.  To step into your truest strength.  That's what I truly believe is the reason behind these people coming into your lives.

So, take it as an opportunity.  Take it as a positive challenge.  To truly skeptic who you are and to prove to you what you already know, and that is that you are measured, powerful beyond belief.  Take a chance on you.  It's time, and when you do, when you back yourself, when you become your biggest fan, that's what when life becomes everything you dream of.

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My bed head is truly at its best this morning.  So, yes, I just woke up and I woke up thinking about the questions we ask ourselves over and over and over again throughout the day.  Tony Robbins calls these our primary questions. 

I know, years ago, my primary question was "What's wrong with me?  What am I missing?  What do I need more of?" It was always this question that disempowered me because where focus goes, energy flows.  If we're focusing on what we're missing all the time, that's what we're going to create.  We're always going to have 'lack' in our lives. 

So I changed my primary question.  I was at a date with destiny and I changed my primary question, and it really did change my entire life. 

My new primary question is "where's the gift in this?  Where is the gift in this?"  I feel as if that there's a gift in our great times.  There is a gift in our tough times.  There's always a gift in everything that we experience because we learn, we grow, we find our strength, we find more.

So when I changed my question from "what's wrong with me?" to "where is the gift in this?", it changed my entire experience of life.  Again, where focus goes, energy flows. 

Now, I'm always focusing on the 'abundance'.  The fact that no matter the situation, good or bad, happy or sad, there's a gift in it somewhere. 

And I encourage you all to find the gift in every experience you have throughout the day.  But, also come up with your own primary question.  Have it be a question that empowers you.  When you think about that question that you asked every single day, over and over again, does it disempower you?  Or does it empower you? If it's a disempowering question like mine was, try to change that.  When you ask yourself better questions, you get better answers.

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What if the sport was just the vehicle through which we found ourselves?  Through which we stepped into all that we now know about ourselves, our strength, our power, our confidence, our light? What if the sport was just meant to deliver us right here where you are now?  And although it's time to say goodbye to the sport, and say goodbye to everything that brought you that fame, that respect, that self-respect, that self-love?  How about saying that in you for delivering me to this space where I can now, truly, have an even more powerful and greater impact on this world and those around me.  Because I now have access to everything I need to truly create the extraordinary life I dream of. 

Thank the sport for delivering you to this new identity that is you as your most powerful self.  You as someone that can take on anything because you've proven through your sport that you can be afraid, you can do it anyway -- that's courage.  You can take on something that may seem impossible but devote your life to putting your heart, your soul, your body, your mind, your everything into making your dream come true.

You can be resilient.  You can be relentless.  You can be determined.  You can fail, but you can get back up again, and you can achieve.  You now have that knowledge.  You have that proof. 

Yes, sport becomes our identity to a certain extent, but when it's time to give up the sport for whatever reason, it's not that you have nothing left.  It's that you now have more than you could have ever dreamed of.  More to bring into this next chapter of your life.   The sport delivered you to your greatest place of power within yourself.  Now find out what is your real identity.  Sport was the vehicle, but what your identity is who you are.  Are your strength, your courage, your compassion, your love, your heart, your soul, your spirit. 

Those will always be inside you with the sport or without it.  Tap into your true identity, which is who you are on the inside.  Everything that got you to the levels you got to in the sport, and everything that is going to see you step into this next chapter of life, creating the extraordinary life that you dreamed up and touching all the lives around you.  How can you use all the power inside of you that you have earned through all your hard work, through all your experiences with your failures, your successes, your victories, your happiness, your joys, your sorrows?  How can you use all of that inside of you to touch the lives of everyone around you, and to make a difference in this world?  Go where your heart pulls you.  Believe in you.

Trust you are so much more than sport.  you are everything that is inside of you right now.  Share that with the world.  You are a gift.  Go make a difference because you can.

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I, further down the line, just a couple of years ago, called my father.  I said, 'Dad, I want to thank you.  I want to thank you because when you rejected me, it gave me a drive, a determination, a fire that I don't think I would have ever had if you've been the father I dreamed you to be. 

I wanted nothing more than to find out that I was capable and that I could achieve something special.  And that I could make a difference in this world and give back and be a light.  Thank you.  You were exactly the father I needed you to be to become the woman that I'm so proud to be today.’

For the first time in over 20 years, he said he loved me and he said he was proud of me, and that meant everything.

So, for all of you, recognize first off that we – yes, we – are all going to struggle.  There is a gift in every struggle. 

I know it's hard to see it at the time, but if you know that something great is going to come out of every struggle you go through.  That we will learn something about ourselves or learn what we really want in life.  Maybe you got rejected from the job of your dreams, but did that lead you to find out what your true passion is?  Did someone dumped you, and had they not dumped you, you wouldn't be with the person you're madly in love with today? 

Find the gift in the struggle because when you're able to do that – and that's practicing gratitude – when you're able to do that, you will get through the change.  You will get through disruption.  You will get through disappointment and sadness with so much more faith and grace and confidence.

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This morning, I woke up thinking about a mindset shift that changed everything for me as a professional triathlete.  It was in the year 2000 and I had just choked at the Olympic trials.  Choked in that I really was kind of a shoo-in for the Olympic team by the way that I had been racing, and I choked.  I had a horrible race and I ended up just being an alternate for that 2000 Olympic team.  I was absolutely devastated and when we have a disappointment like that, it leads us to reflect on what's working and what's not working. 

That's the gift in any disappointment.

I started thinking about what my mindset was going into these races.  I wanted to make the Olympic team. It was a be all, end all.  I needed to earn a paycheck so I can support this passion of mine.  These things were not driving me or inspiring me in the way that really resonated with me, and thus, it wasn't bringing out the best in me – wasn't serving me. 

I started thinking about how grateful I was for where I was on this journey.  I started the sport at 23.  I didn't know how to swim.  I wanted to be the best in the world.  How crazy is that?  But I had literally worked so hard, trained so hard, done everything in my power to make it to that level which was a high level.  I was an alternate on the Olympic team, but at the time, I'm coming in, you know, top five in the world in major World Cup races, and I thought I really need to appreciate how far I've come at this point in time. 

I started thinking about how grateful I was for my determination and my drive and my hunger, my relentlessness.  And I thought about the quote by Prefontaine, to give anything less than your best is to sacrifice the gift.  And I thought, "God, I'm so grateful for how far I've come.”  And I thought, "what if every single day in training and especially on race day, I am so desperate to want to show God – so, when I talk about this, you, whatever your belief is – God, the universe, infinite intelligence, you can really do a sweep up for me.  I thought I am so grateful to God for having blessed me with this hunger, this drive, this relentlessness, and the abilities and the opportunities to do what I love and to do what I'm passionate about.  And I thought I need to show -- I was so desperate to show my appreciation, show my gratitude for all these gifts and blessings that I had.  I thought what -- the way that I can show my thanks and appreciation is every day to get out there in and lay everything I have inside me out on the race course or out on the training course.  Whatever it is.  And, in doing that, that's my way of showing thanks. 

So race day would come and all I would ask for from myself is to be able to lay everything I had out there.  Heart, soul, mind, body, spirit – everything I have to show my thanks, to show my appreciation to God for all the wonderful blessings that I feel I've been given: my hunger, my drive, my determination, my relentlessness—all of that. 

That changed everything for me.  That inspired me.  That resonated so deeply inside of me and it brought out the very best in me.  So, that's simple shift in mindset, simple but powerful potent changed everything from you started winning races.  I became the number one athlete in the world and ultimately, I retired at number one in the world in 2003.  So, guys, sometimes think about what your mindset is.  Is it leading to your best performances?  Your best results?  Your happiest life?  Or is it not serving you?  Think about how you can shift your mindset.  Look at things differently.  Reframe something to bring out the best in you.  Just serve you and to serve everything that you're going after your life.  I hope that helps everybody have an amazing day. 

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Yes, I just rolled out of bed.  I've got bed head.  But it doesn't matter what we look like on the outside.  It's about what we have to offer from the inside that matters most. 

Today, I want to talk about relationships, and I want to talk about the love languages.  There's an incredible book by Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages.  We all have different ways that make us feel loved.  There are people that need quality time, words of affirmation, receiving gifts, physical touch, and acts of service. 

We're all different in what we need to feel truly loved and appreciated. 

So, for me, for example, words of affirmation and quality time.  My wife being fully present with me – no phones, no TV, nothing else going on, but just spending time with two of us together makes me feel so loved and so safe and so sure of our connection. 

Now for her, she's more about acts of service.  She loves having a tidy house, for example.  So, if I keep the house tidy and do little things to make it look clean and comfortable, she feels totally loved.  Now, if I mess up the house she doesn't feel loved at all. 

We all have different ways of feeling loved.  If you can find out what your partner's love language is -- does your wife love getting gifts?  When you give her a gift it means you were thinking about her and you thought of something she might like, and in giving that to her she felt so adored.

Now, that may not be what it takes for you to feel loved.  But if that's what it takes for her to feel loved, do those things.  We often get it wrong because we love people in a way that would make us feel loved.  But that's not necessarily what they need to feel loved.  Figure out your spouse's love language and love them in that way.  And let them know what it takes for you to feel loved and have them love you in that way and your relationship will go to whole new levels. 

We can all have the most incredible relationships, not just with a partner, husband or wife, but with our friends and with our family.  Find out what makes your loved ones feel so adored, so cherished, so celebrated.  Love them in that way and it will forever change your life and change your relationships.  Love is everything, guys.  Nothing feels better than lighting up someone's heart and soul.

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I woke up this morning thinking about a Maya Angelou quote and it is: 'There is no greater agony than burying an untold story inside of you.’

And I think back at my life and there was so much for so long, I didn't feel like I had a voice, and I would say things according to what I thought would make someone happy or please someone.  Or something that I thought I had to say, not necessarily what I wanted to say. 

When we speak from our heart, when we share our truth – that's in harmony with your soul.  That's in harmony with your spirit.  And when we speak our truth, and when we speak authentically -- when we are fearlessly authentic as I often talk about, you're in harmony with their soul.  And that allows you to experience inner peace, which is something that we're all wanting in every moment of our lives.  Being fearlessly authentic, I believe, is the ultimate goal.  It's speaking from your truth, acting truthfully, being who you are.  Because, again, my belief is we were all put on this Earth absolutely perfect just the way that we are. 

And where we get it wrong is when we try to be what we think we need to be to make a certain friend or fit in a certain group or to get a certain job or to be looked upon in a certain way.  No.  Come back to being you -- all of you.  Because when you come from that space, not only do you experience of inner peace, which then allows you to tap into your greatest power, your greatest strength, your greatest inspiration. 

So, be fearlessly authentic.  Tell your story.  Don't hold back inside.  Be in harmony with your soul and celebrate you every single day.  Have a great day everyone.

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That is not a very empowering question, is it, to ask yourself a thousand times over everyday?  By the way, I'm dragging the field of horse foods with my dogs.  So, I changed my primary question.  Because if you're going to ask yourself a question hundreds of times throughout the day, it should definitely be a question that empowers you; not one that disempowers you. 

So, my new question that I've asked myself over the last 10 years is "Where is the gift in this?"  Where is the gift in this?  In every situation, not matter what -- good things, bad things -- there is a gift.  Something happens that's unexpected or is difficult to get through.  Where is the gift in this?  Well, I'm going to learn from this.  I'm going to grow from this.  I know have a better understanding of this person or this situation.  That kind of a question.  When you ask that a hundred times over every day, it will not only ensure that you're empowered, but that you are truly finding the gift every single day in every moment.  Because in this world, sure you can look around and find things wrong with this world or wrong with the people around you.  But there are just as many wonderful things.  Everything that's right.  You find things that are wrong but you can just as easily find things that are right.

So, I go through my days asking where's the gift in this.   Most of the day, I mean -- the gift is life.  This incredible gift of life -- how beautiful?  How blessed are we that we could live this beautiful life?  We can make it what we want it to be.  So, to all of you, I love you.  Have an amazing day.  Think about that question you ask yourself every single day.  Does it empower you or does it disempower you?  If it's not serving you, then change it.  Change it to something that can surely enhance the experience of your life because life truly is a gift.  Make it wonderful.  Love to all!

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Some people ask me, “what if you don’t know what your ‘why’ is?”  And one of the things that I say to them is “what you do want your legacy to be in this lifetime?”  I don’t want to be morbid but think about it.  On your last day of life, what do you want people to remember about you?  What do you want people to be saying about you?  About what they learned from you or what you inspired them about you?  What do you want your legacy to be?  

I want my legacy to be about someone that had a rough start, that never gave up and never gave in, and believed that one day she would find her ultimate strength and a love for herself and then be able to share that message with the world -- empowering others, touching lives with love.  And with strength and compassion.  

So, think about what you want your legacy to be.  That probably will end up with you connecting to your ultimate reason ‘why’ what you’re working so hard to achieve every single day is.  So, discover your ‘why’.  Never give up on your dreams.  Believe in you, and really think about the impact that achieving these goals, achieving these dreams, will have on all those around you.  Good luck everybody.  Shine on and love always.

My greatest mentor, Tony Robbins, taught me 20 years ago: ‘Where focus goes, energy flows.’ We get what we focus on. If we focus on what we don’t want or what we feel is lacking within us, we’re going to experience more negativity, more sadness or anxiety. What is wrong is always easily accessible. But also what is right. We can choose what we decide to focus on. The meaning that we give things and experiences, and that can change our entire experience of life. Because what is real and what is possible is what I believe is real and what I believe is possible. Meaning, what you believe is real and what you believe is possible is what’s real and what’s possible in your own life.

So, focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. Focus on what you love, not on what you fear.

Focus on all the abundance in your life, not on the things that you feel are lacking.

Focus on what you have all the control over, which is your own experience of life, not on the things that you have no control over.

Because when decide to focus on things that will empower us, it will completely change the experience of our lives and our ability to truly live life at the highest levels. So, you’re in charge of your own experience of life. Empower yourself daily by focusing on the things that serve you, not on the things that bring you down. Shine on, everybody. But, most importantly, remember and appreciate and be grateful for the absolutely beautiful, powerful, incredibly inspiring soul that you are. Shine on and have an amazing day.

There’s a reason why on the aeroplanes that when the oxygen masks fall down, they say put it on yourself first before you put it on your children.  We cannot possibly take care of others, give to others, and love others any more than we give and love and take care of ourselves.

I know we often think that if we put ourselves first that’s being selfish, but it’s actually not.

When you put yourself first and take care of you, you’re going to be so much better able to give all of yourself to all those around.

When you take care of your happiness, your joy, your health, your spirit — you have so much more to give. So, in taking care of you, you’re able to better take care of others.

So, I encourage all of you to take time for yourself. The other day I talked about presence. It also means being present with you. Allowing yourself those moments or those blocks of time where you feed your soul or you feed your spirit.
  Whether it’s exercise or walk outside in the fresh air or loving on your animals or loving on yourself in any way – go get a massage, do some meditation, listen to your favorite music, have a bath. But take care of you.

We must take care of ourselves to truly be able to give and love and create in ways we dream of.  So, take that time. Every day, I wake up, I do my gratitude ritual. I have my coffee. I love on my pets. 

 I listen to my favorite music. And I’ll do some kind of a workout to feel alive and energetic. When I’m done with that, I’m able to give with all my heart and give it all my soul.  And I don’t feel like I’m wearing myself down. I feel like I’m feeding my soul, my heart, my happiness and give the energy to be able to get that much more. Put yourself first. Take care of you and have an amazing day.

Often times we wish for things and we don’t understand that if we step up first and give those things, we’re far more likely to attract it in everyone around us.

If you want more romance, be more romantic. If you want more love, be more loving. If you want more inspiration, be more inspiring. It starts with us. So, whatever you want more of in your life, be that first for others. What you give is what you’ll also receive back.

So, do you like my shirt? It says, “Choose Love.” I choose love every single day, and what I found is that the more I love, the more I give, the more love I receive. The more generosity I received from others. It all starts with us. If you want your husband or your wife to be more romantic, be romantic first. If you want to have more passion, be more passionate. If you want to have more fun in your life, go do things.

Make fun. And invite others to join you in having fun. Don’t sit back and wait for life to happen. We need to create the magic in our own lives. We create it with our thoughts, our focus, our emotions and our actions. So, get out and create the life that you dream of having. We are all in charge of our own experience of life. And what we experience depends on what we’re focusing on, the meaning we give things and choose to do without it. So, choose thoughts that empower you. Choose thoughts that inspire you. And choose thoughts that can truly create magic. No matter what you’re going through on any given day, life is such a beautiful gift. Embrace the gift of life and make it what you hope and dream it to be.

Because you certainly can. You’re in charge of your own experience of life, and it starts with you making it amazing.

Have a great day everybody.

My belief is that we were all put on this planet absolutely perfect just the way that we are.

I think where we get it wrong is that we need to be a certain type of person or do certain things or look a certain way in order to fit into a certain group or get a certain job or make a certain living.

But I honestly believe that is such a mistake because when we find our way back to our truth, to being exactly who we are and living our lives in that way, we certainly step into our truest power.

We are able to be all that we were put on this planet to be – and that’s extraordinary!  Because think about it, we live with ourselves every second of every minute of every hour of every day of every week of every month of every year of every decade.  We better be our own biggest supporters, we better love ourselves because if we don’t, if we lose track of who we are and what we love about ourselves and what we want and who we want to become and what we want to create – what kind of a life is that?

One of the most powerful lessons I’ve learned in my life is that I needed to love and appreciate myself first, before I could ever love, appreciate and inspire, take care of, teach, empower anyone else.

It starts with you.  Everything starts with you.

Be brave enough to recognize the beauty, the power, the perfection that is you exactly as you are and share that with the world.  Share the gift of you with this world.

Those are my words for today. It changed my life.

Be fearlessly authentic.

Believe in you.

Share the gift of you with this world.

And always be brave because you are beautiful.

Say, for example, you’re in the midst of a project, or in the midst of a workout, or in the midst of a race and you’re just not feeling good.

You don’t feel like you have to kind of energy that you wish you had.  You don’t feel like you got that kind of strength that you wish you had.

If we focus on what we don’t have, it’s going to feel worse and worse.

If you focus on what you do have and focus on doing the best that you can with what you have on that day, you’re going to find that you get out of yourself way more than you can ever imagine feeling the way that you’re feeling.

For example, my athletes – they may be racing and maybe they’re feeling absolutely awful.  But what if – what if they were feeling awful because they were going faster than they’ve ever gone before?  And the thing is that in those moments, no matter what, instead of focusing on what you wish you had and don’t have, focus on what you do have.

Focus on the fact that you have the heart and the soul and the determination, and I have, you know, the ability to give everything I have in this moment.

Focus on what you want to create and you want to achieve, not on what you don’t want to have happen.

Instead of saying “Oh, my God, I hope I don’t fail.” Or “Oh, my God, I hope I don’t do an awful job”, say “I’m going to focus on doing the best job that I can”

In every single moment, I’m going to focus on being the best me that I can in every moment.

Focus on the things that you have control over– your effort, your attitude, your heart, your soul – don’t focus on what you don’t have control of or what everyone else around you is doing.  What everyone else around you is achieving.  Focus on you, and only you, and doing the best that you can in every single moment.

And that will create not only a joyful experience but one where you truly can perform to your potential.

Now, I’ll never forget – I was in Kona, Hawaii for the world championships and I went to a yoga class.  Now, I’m not flexible, I don’t have great balance. But, I’m in this yoga class and they were having us do a tree pose while I’m thinking about when I’m going to talk to my athletes and what I’m going to say to them pre-race and give to them their pep talk.

I’m thinking about all of these things and I’m just losing my balance every second, and I can’t hold the pose. And I thought to myself what if I just laser focus right now on doing exactly what I need to do to hold this tree pose. And I started focusing on what I needed to do to hold that pose and be balanced and feel centred.  I held this perfect yoga pose and I felt like this true yogi

I realized in that moment that we are most powerful when we are fully present in each and every moment.  Fully focus on what we are doing in that moment. We can perform at much higher levels. We can give so much more of ourselves and our energy.  We can create so much more when we’re fully present. Don’t miss out on your own power by allowing yourself to be in 10 different places all at once.  

be present.

At night time, having 10 minutes being totally present with your loved one is so much more powerful, and so much more beneficial and joyful for everyone than giving an hour sitting on your phone and thinking about other things.

So, do yourself a favor and step up to your utmost potential by being fully present no matter where you are, what you are doing, who you are with. Be there one million percent, and see your world change truly. It’s awesome, guys.  

Give it a try. Try that yoga pose and see how that works for you. All right. Have a great day.

This word sparks anxiety, dread, fear and sadness. But what if failure was absolutely essential to any path to success?

Do you learn more from your perfect beautiful victories? or do you learn more from when you fall short of what you hoped to achieve?

I know for me I have learned more from my disappointments and my failures. Those failures showed me what I was missing, what I need to do more of and what got in my way.

Failure and disappointment are absolutely necessary in order to learn and to grow. That is what allows us to make the progress necessary to achieve our ultimate goals.

So embrace failure, be willing to fail and use it as an opportunity to learn. I’m either winning or I’m learning. Period.

How can we possibly know what we are capable of if we are not trying to do things that we don’t think we can do every single day. And if you are doing that then you are bound to be disappointed every once in a while. But there is no path to success that is perfectly paved. There are going to be potholes, there are going to be detours and cracks in the road. Embrace them, it’s an opportunity to grow and an opportunity to learn.

Believe in YOU, believe in your dreams, be willing to take risks and learn from every time you fall short of what you dreamed of doing.

It’s through our greatest struggles that we stumble upon our greatest strengths.

So be willing to fail, be brave and be you!