Tea With Socrates Transistor (https://transistor.fm) https://feeds.transistor.fm/tea-with-socrates A philosophy podcast where every question has a cost. One concept per episode: what it means, where it changed, why it might be wrong, and what it does to how you see your own life. 2026 Tea With Socrates eddb7c86-9fd9-59be-9920-ef128e8fff20 yes The person you used to want to be. en Tue, 13 Oct 2026 09:46:44 -0500 Tue, 13 Oct 2026 09:47:21 -0500 https://teawithsocrates.com https://img.transistorcdn.com/0VcPUmU_39qXilgc_hn7KJy27fxa3aA_99Dxk-dqiYA/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:1400/h:1400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS80ZTgw/MzdhYzJmMmM0NWMz/YjIwNTEzMWQzYjBh/MTI5My5qcGc.jpg Tea With Socrates https://teawithsocrates.com episodic Tea With Socrates A philosophy podcast where every question has a cost. One concept per episode: what it means, where it changed, why it might be wrong, and what it does to how you see your own life. A philosophy podcast where every question has a cost. philosophy, Socrates, self-deception, adaptive preference, bad faith, Sartre, Frankfurt, examined life, ethics, tea Cody Gabehart No No I'm Just Not That Kind of Person 1 1 2 2 I'm Just Not That Kind of Person full 99450694-658e-4b8c-b1d3-e8f12bb41028 https://share.transistor.fm/s/5a0b0cea "I'm just not a confrontational person." It sounds like a fact about you. But you said it, just now, at exactly the moment the alternative was hard.

Someone at work is taking credit for what you did. You've drafted the sentence on the drive home. You don't say it, and you explain it to yourself with: I'm just not a confrontational person.

That sentence turns a choice into a thing you are, and the moment it does, there's nothing left to argue with. Sartre called the move bad faith, and it isn't hypocrisy. It's something you do to yourself, with yourself as the only audience.

The history matters here: when Sartre took God out of Kierkegaard's account of self-deception, there was no true self left to be false to. Which makes the concept far more aggressive and, in its cheap version, cruel. That's the objection, and it's a fair one.

Second of five episodes in Arc One, The Unreliable Narrator.

Reading: Sartre, Being and Nothingness, Part One, Chapter Two, "Bad Faith." Sartre, Existentialism Is a Humanism. Kierkegaard, The Sickness Unto Death, Part One. Ronald Santoni, Bad Faith, Good Faith, and Authenticity in Sartre's Early Philosophy (1995).

Tea With Socrates is free and stays free. New episodes Tuesdays. teawithsocrates.com

]]> "I'm just not a confrontational person." It sounds like a fact about you. But you said it, just now, at exactly the moment the alternative was hard.

Someone at work is taking credit for what you did. You've drafted the sentence on the drive home. You don't say it, and you explain it to yourself with: I'm just not a confrontational person.

That sentence turns a choice into a thing you are, and the moment it does, there's nothing left to argue with. Sartre called the move bad faith, and it isn't hypocrisy. It's something you do to yourself, with yourself as the only audience.

The history matters here: when Sartre took God out of Kierkegaard's account of self-deception, there was no true self left to be false to. Which makes the concept far more aggressive and, in its cheap version, cruel. That's the objection, and it's a fair one.

Second of five episodes in Arc One, The Unreliable Narrator.

Reading: Sartre, Being and Nothingness, Part One, Chapter Two, "Bad Faith." Sartre, Existentialism Is a Humanism. Kierkegaard, The Sickness Unto Death, Part One. Ronald Santoni, Bad Faith, Good Faith, and Authenticity in Sartre's Early Philosophy (1995).

Tea With Socrates is free and stays free. New episodes Tuesdays. teawithsocrates.com

]]> Tue, 13 Oct 2026 09:00:00 -0500 Tea With Socrates Tea With Socrates 1057 "I'm just not a confrontational person." It sounds like a fact about you. But you said it, just now, at exactly the moment the alternative was hard.

Someone at work is taking credit for what you did. You've drafted the sentence on the drive home. You don't say it, and you explain it to yourself with: I'm just not a confrontational person.

That sentence turns a choice into a thing you are, and the moment it does, there's nothing left to argue with. Sartre called the move bad faith, and it isn't hypocrisy. It's something you do to yourself, with yourself as the only audience.

The history matters here: when Sartre took God out of Kierkegaard's account of self-deception, there was no true self left to be false to. Which makes the concept far more aggressive and, in its cheap version, cruel. That's the objection, and it's a fair one.

Second of five episodes in Arc One, The Unreliable Narrator.

Reading: Sartre, Being and Nothingness, Part One, Chapter Two, "Bad Faith." Sartre, Existentialism Is a Humanism. Kierkegaard, The Sickness Unto Death, Part One. Ronald Santoni, Bad Faith, Good Faith, and Authenticity in Sartre's Early Philosophy (1995).

Tea With Socrates is free and stays free. New episodes Tuesdays. teawithsocrates.com

]]> philosophy, Socrates, self-deception, adaptive preference, bad faith, Sartre, Frankfurt, examined life, ethics, tea No Sour Grapes 1 1 1 1 Sour Grapes full 607687a6-fd4a-4479-89a0-518d5b97e210 https://share.transistor.fm/s/1b535630 How to tell growth from surrender.
There's a person you used to want to be. At some point you stopped wanting it, and it felt like maturity. How would you know if that were false?

You stopped wanting something you couldn't have, and it felt like growing up. From the inside, growing out of a want and giving up on one feel identical. This episode is about whether you could ever tell the difference.

The concept is adaptive preference: a desire that adjusts itself to what's available and then covers its tracks. It starts as a fable about a fox and ends as a problem for anyone who thinks asking people whether they're happy is the way to find out.

Then the objection: if your contentment doesn't count as evidence, who gets to decide? That question doesn't get answered. It gets worse.

First of five episodes in Arc One, The Unreliable Narrator.

Reading: Jon Elster, Sour Grapes (1983), chapter III. Martha Nussbaum, Women and Human Development (2000). Serene Khader, Adaptive Preferences and Women's Empowerment (2011). Aesop, "The Fox and the Grapes."

Tea With Socrates is free and stays free. New episodes Tuesdays. teawithsocrates.com

]]> How to tell growth from surrender.
There's a person you used to want to be. At some point you stopped wanting it, and it felt like maturity. How would you know if that were false?

You stopped wanting something you couldn't have, and it felt like growing up. From the inside, growing out of a want and giving up on one feel identical. This episode is about whether you could ever tell the difference.

The concept is adaptive preference: a desire that adjusts itself to what's available and then covers its tracks. It starts as a fable about a fox and ends as a problem for anyone who thinks asking people whether they're happy is the way to find out.

Then the objection: if your contentment doesn't count as evidence, who gets to decide? That question doesn't get answered. It gets worse.

First of five episodes in Arc One, The Unreliable Narrator.

Reading: Jon Elster, Sour Grapes (1983), chapter III. Martha Nussbaum, Women and Human Development (2000). Serene Khader, Adaptive Preferences and Women's Empowerment (2011). Aesop, "The Fox and the Grapes."

Tea With Socrates is free and stays free. New episodes Tuesdays. teawithsocrates.com

]]> Tue, 13 Oct 2026 09:00:00 -0500 Tea With Socrates Tea With Socrates 1073 How to tell growth from surrender.
There's a person you used to want to be. At some point you stopped wanting it, and it felt like maturity. How would you know if that were false?

You stopped wanting something you couldn't have, and it felt like growing up. From the inside, growing out of a want and giving up on one feel identical. This episode is about whether you could ever tell the difference.

The concept is adaptive preference: a desire that adjusts itself to what's available and then covers its tracks. It starts as a fable about a fox and ends as a problem for anyone who thinks asking people whether they're happy is the way to find out.

Then the objection: if your contentment doesn't count as evidence, who gets to decide? That question doesn't get answered. It gets worse.

First of five episodes in Arc One, The Unreliable Narrator.

Reading: Jon Elster, Sour Grapes (1983), chapter III. Martha Nussbaum, Women and Human Development (2000). Serene Khader, Adaptive Preferences and Women's Empowerment (2011). Aesop, "The Fox and the Grapes."

Tea With Socrates is free and stays free. New episodes Tuesdays. teawithsocrates.com

]]> philosophy, Socrates, self-deception, adaptive preference, bad faith, Sartre, Frankfurt, examined life, ethics, tea No The person you used to want to be. 1 1 The person you used to want to be. trailer 8c308520-79ed-42d4-842e-4c8f06b8647a https://share.transistor.fm/s/d6025ddd  An excerpt from Episode 1, Sour Grapes. 
There's a person you used to want to be. At some point you stopped wanting it, and it felt like maturity. Tea With Socrates takes one philosophical idea per episode and works it through: what it means, the moment in history where it changed, the strongest objection against it, and what it does to how you see your own life. Arc One is five episodes on why you're not a reliable witness to your own life. The first two arrive Tuesday, November 3. teawithsocrates.com 

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There's a person you used to want to be. At some point you stopped wanting it, and it felt like maturity. Tea With Socrates takes one philosophical idea per episode and works it through: what it means, the moment in history where it changed, the strongest objection against it, and what it does to how you see your own life. Arc One is five episodes on why you're not a reliable witness to your own life. The first two arrive Tuesday, November 3. teawithsocrates.com 

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There's a person you used to want to be. At some point you stopped wanting it, and it felt like maturity. Tea With Socrates takes one philosophical idea per episode and works it through: what it means, the moment in history where it changed, the strongest objection against it, and what it does to how you see your own life. Arc One is five episodes on why you're not a reliable witness to your own life. The first two arrive Tuesday, November 3. teawithsocrates.com 

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