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Fear and Trust in Birth: It doesn't have to be one or the other

Alise McAllister — Mon, 16 Dec 2019 08:00:00 -0800

You didn't try to make your baby to grow, you simply trusted that all of their organs would develop week by week. While there's much we can do to prepare, we discuss whether it's necessary to banish all fear in regard to birth.

What Your Friends or the Movies Didn't Tell You About Birth

Alise McAllister — Mon, 09 Dec 2019 08:00:00 -0800

Jen & Alise are back to being your friends again and giving you all the information you need to know to give birth. You can’t will your cervix into a juicy pear or into a dilated cervix and they will tell you why. This week they are giving you tons of information on how to navigate labor and how to remember how amazing you are no matter how you give birth. Figure out what birth options are the right options for you and how to own your badassary with birth.

Tips and Tricks for the Holidays

Alise McAllister — Mon, 02 Dec 2019 08:00:00 -0800

How to survive the holidays while pregnant

Find comfortable clothes for holiday parties. - can rewear in labor!
Fun mocktails (especially if you aren’t sharing your pregnancy yet)
- https://coleycooks.com/cran-clem/
- https://www.pinterest.com/pin/152066924904030011/feedback/?invite_code=93125df76bc445d0bfe9291eecfef857&sender_id=2880898448
Comfortable shoes
Call it an early night
Pick and choose your events
Skip soft cheeses and deli meats especially when eating out
Have some great excuses on hand for getting out of events you want to miss
- Rudolph ate my car keys
- Just waiting on UPS
- I have a date with my fuzzy blanket
- I’m currently dreaming of a white christmas

What to say if your water breaks at a holiday party?

-"No, I'm not having baby Jesus!"

-"Looks like Santa is bringing me something today. At least it’s not coming out the chimney"

-"I guess that sleigh ride really helped move things along!"

Holiday wish list

-pregnancy/nursing pajamas

-birth gown

-birth ball

- water bottle with straw

- crock pot/instant pot

-labor socks

- dry shampoo

- birth bag

-lavendar pillow

-scarves

-jewelry

Holiday play list

-Baby it’s cold outside

-Merry Christmas Baby- Christina Aguilera

Talking Breastfeeding with Goldilacts

Alise McAllister — Mon, 18 Nov 2019 10:00:00 -0800

In a world full of "Breast is Best" we are constantly surrounded by stories of breastfeeding struggles and challenges. Candice of Goldilacts joins Jen and Alise this week to bring balance and inspiration to those feeling defeated before even starting. She's full of great ideas on ways to prepare before baby arrives and on ways to navigate breastfeeding through the ups and downs. Be sure to listen in and to check out Goldilacts at www.goldilacts.com.

I'm at the Hospital, now what?

Alise McAllister — Mon, 11 Nov 2019 09:00:00 -0800

This week we're talking about:

That car ride could be pretty challenging. If it’s not, you’re probably going to soon
Drop and roll or park and waddle? We're discussing the benefits of walking together into the hospital or dropping the laboring person at the front door and parking the car.
If you brought a weekend worth of luggage, leave some of it in the car and come back later. You can strategically pack a bag with snacks, water bottle, clothes for birth, comfort items. Leave carseat and baby stuff in the car
Triage: most hospitals have one. What does it’ look like? You’ll find that unless you’re pushing, time may feel like it’s standing still. You’re probably in a bigger hurry than the staff and that’s ok.
Triage goals: vitals (BP, temp, pulse), listen to baby, vaginal exam. LOTS of questions from medical personnel.
Walk of shame or that’s ok, you can’t know everything!
Hooray, you’re admitted! The golden ticket.
Wardrobe change maybe. Wanna wear a hospital gown or just stay in what you have been wearing.
Listen to the baby longer.
IV port started. Fluids through the IV optional.
More questions.
Possible change in labor pattern. That’s totally normal.
Once the intake is complete, turn off lights and make the space comfy.
Finding a new rhythm, changing positions.
TIme for pain medication? Get that fluid in

Unapologetically unedited musings from the minivan. This week: expectations.

Alise McAllister — Thu, 07 Nov 2019 08:00:00 -0800

Unapologetically unedited musings from the minivan. This week: expectations.

Mini Van Mini #6

Alise McAllister — Thu, 07 Nov 2019 08:00:00 -0800

Make new friends but keep the old

Having ANOTHER Baby!

Alise McAllister — Mon, 04 Nov 2019 08:00:00 -0800

Wondering how you’ll ever survive adding a second? This week Jen and Alise are covering everything from common worries to life hacks to get you through. We’ve packed this episode full of confidence building and tried and true tips to help you not just survive, but thrive when your second (or third, or fourth...) arrives.

Mini Van Mini #5: Sex During Pregnancy

Alise McAllister — Thu, 31 Oct 2019 08:00:00 -0700

We are talking about sex in pregnancy in the minivan today. We promise to not get too graphic but enough to make us blush.

The Moment After Birth

Alise McAllister — Mon, 28 Oct 2019 08:00:00 -0700

On television, the baby comes up to mom, the soft sounds of the harp comes from the background and mom expresses how her life is now complete. This week Jen and Alise discuss what those moments after birth really look like. Sometimes they are filled with tears, sometimes with exhaustion, laughter or a mix of many emotions. Like all things birth, it rarely looks like television. They are normalizing the variety of feelings and experiences you might have after birth and explaining what to expect around you.

Mini Van Mini #4: The First Trimester

Alise McAllister — Thu, 24 Oct 2019 08:00:00 -0700

This week we are discussing the secret trimester. The first trimester might be a little secret that you are keeping to yourself or sharing with only a few people. It may be a time of exhaustion or nausea. We are covering all of the possibilities and some of our own experiences. Don't miss Jen's not-so-pregnant brain moment. Don't miss this week's minivan mini as we take a drive and give you all of our thoughts.

Baby Brains, Development, and Toys!

Alise McAllister — Mon, 21 Oct 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Jessica, of Lovevery is our guest this week and talking about baby development. We are covering everything from what toys are helpful in the early days and months, to the importance of playing with pots and pans. We love her judgment-free approach to parenting and choosing what works for you. You'll be sure to love the way she takes the pressure off of feeling like there's only one way to help your baby's brain develop.

Check out Jessica and Lovevery at lovevery.com or follow on Instagram.

Minivan Mini #3

Alise McAllister — Thu, 17 Oct 2019 08:00:00 -0700

No show notes, but great content!

How to Support Your Partner: The One Growing the Baby

Alise McAllister — Mon, 14 Oct 2019 08:00:00 -0700

It’s okay to listen too but this week we are talking to the sweetie in your life. Sometimes it’s hard to know what’s helpful and how to prepare. We’ve got a solid list of things that will make your honey feel more prepared to support you and support themselves physically and emotionally through this big processes. Want to take this to a whole new level, listen in separately and then discuss your plans for supporting each other at your favorite ice cream shop.

Minivan Mini: Episode 2

Alise McAllister — Thu, 10 Oct 2019 10:00:00 -0700

Jen’s got issues with “natural” birth.

Hilariously Infertile with Karen Jefferies

Alise McAllister — Mon, 07 Oct 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Karen is a teacher by day and finding the funny in infertility by night. This week she tells Jen and Alise how she finds humor where so many find heartbreak, as well as wisdom for getting through the journey. Everyone will certainly relate to awkward stories of doctor's visits but what happens when Karen finds out that her husband's sperm are about to get a spa day? Through humor and honesty, Karen tells us what it's like to be pregnant after infertility and even postpartum. You will not want to miss this fantastic guest this week!

Minivan Mini: episode 1

Alise McAllister — Wed, 02 Oct 2019 16:40:00 -0700

We're trying something out- musing about life.... from the minivan. Unscripted, unedited, just as we are!

Not JUST Another Pregnancy To-Do List

Alise McAllister — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Pick your birth team. Seriously, not the team your mother in law wants. The one you want! Do you want a doula? Get one. Finalize your provider (Midwife or OB). It’s not too late to switch if you feel like it's not the best fit (until the final weeks). You don’t owe it to your provider to see birth through with them.
Choose self-care. Practice napping. Go to bed early. Surrender to the sleepies. It's hard work growing a human.
Figure out how you are a badass! Glowing vagina not necessary. Are you birthing differently than friends or family, making important choices for the health of yourself or baby, deciding to rest after baby is born? Find you badass superpower and own it!
Rethink your maternity leave. Do you want to take some time before? Don't let mom guilt get the best of you now. It's okay to take leave early. Working until labor is really, really hard.
Find yourself! Okay, okay... learn about your communication style, self care needs, how you thrive in the world. You're not just a mom. You're a person who is growing.
Attachment- with your partner. Stop planning how to survive the terrible 2's and start working on communication, conflict resolution, understanding each other's needs. What's your love language?
Discuss expectations!!!!! Who's gonna do what? Who is doing the cooking, cleaning and all of the tasks that were split before you were healing and recovering with a baby attached to you 24/7?
Research the best birth class for you. Hint: they aren’t all at the hospital
Freeze meals. You'll still be eating but cooking gets a little trickier.
Put your people in place! You've got people who want to help so let them be helpful. Tell them ahead of time how you plan to reach out to them. They've got your back!

All The Feels

Alise McAllister — Mon, 23 Sep 2019 08:00:00 -0700

We know that you can always count on your girlfriends for a good cry. So here we are this week, ready to shed a few tears, complain a little, swear a lot and commiserate about how rough it is to create human life. We can also promise you a few good laughs and to change your grocery shopping experiences for life.

Whether it's the cramping and nausea of the first trimester or the waddle and maternity clothes that no longer fit of the third, we've been there. Maybe you're looking for tips to get through those challenging days or a place to complain, Jen and Alise are here. So, grab your tissues, double check your mascara is waterproof and let's get our complain on!

Things Your Friends Didn't Tell You About Pregnancy

Alise McAllister — Mon, 16 Sep 2019 08:00:00 -0700

When it comes to hearing the juicy details, we can rely on our friends for a lot of things, but the truth about pregnancy isn’t one of them. Sure, your friends told you about swollen ankles and morning sickness but they probably never told you about finding foods that really worked with morning sickness. You know, the foods that taste the same coming up as they do going down. Body changes, pregnancy clothes, pregnancy sex? Don't worry, Jen & Alise have your back. This week, find out the honest truth about all the things your closest friends should have told you about pregnancy.

Finding Your Power In Labor

Alise McAllister — Mon, 09 Sep 2019 08:00:00 -0700

You've got the power! In fact, it's been there all along my dear, and we will help you find it. Maybe you need a cape, some red lipstick or a really solid birth plan. No matter what calls to you or what type of birth you want, you can always find your power.

Jen and Alise offer useful tips for finding your power and helping you prepare for feeling powerful in labor, way before labor ever begins. It's never to earl to begin. From educating yourself to preparing yourself, you will find several ways that speak to your birthing style.

Don't miss out on more of Jen's sound effects and 90's flash back songs. Alise also talks about where she really wishes she could birth. Chances are, she's not alone.

Birth Porn... So good we brought it back!

Alise McAllister — Tue, 03 Sep 2019 08:00:00 -0700

The "birth" version of porn is only showing the world large breasts with large nipples and “perfect” bodies.

This is a realistic view but only a snapshot. This isn’t a big picture view. This is another form of mom guilt. How do you live in the moment and stay authentic to who you are and what you want?

This doesn’t only apply to birth. This also applies to pregnancy. In early pregnancy when you are feeling sluggish and it feels hard to get out of bed, t can be so hard to see #nurserygoals or elaborate babymoons.

Some women feel depressed during pregnancy or feel sick during their whole pregnancy. If you’re on bedrest through most of your pregnancy or even most of your final trimester, we see you. You aren’t likely to have an elaborate gender reveal.

Let’s also fast forward to postpartum. You may not look like the person in the newborn and family photos. We are actually hoping that you aren’t bouncing back. You might be struggling with mood and social media may be a lifeline or make you feel more isolated.

Decide what feels better. Use social where it feels right.

In the same way that a Playboy photo is a photo of a real woman but photoshopped, background changed, details rearranged… social media is a form of birth porn. We get a tiny glimpse of what someone wants to show of their pregnancy, birth or postpartum. Like pornography, this can lead to feelings of inadequacy, guilt, depression, feeling less than or a variety of other emotions, including anger. All of these stages around having a baby are often out of our control.

Whoa, Did That Just Come Out Of Me?

Alise McAllister — Mon, 26 Aug 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Alise and Jen are soaking up the final weeks of summer here in Seattle so we are revisiting their favorite past episodes. 10 things that will come out of your body during labor and birth that will make you say, "whoa, did that just come out of me". Birth, like parenthood, can be messy. Don't get caught by surprise. Everyone knows there's a little blood sweat and tears in birth but what about all the other things that come out of your body? And it's not all lists, Jen and Alise have a messy parenthood story contest between themselves. Alise's kids may have fleas. The doulas have the old debate, adult diaper vs thong underwear in labor.

Postpartum Rules To Live By

Alise McAllister — Mon, 19 Aug 2019 08:00:00 -0700

The words "bounce back" are like nails down a chalkboard to Jen and Alise. It took a lot of time, restless legs, pickles and ice cream and big changes to grow a baby. You can't expect to bounce back to where you started overnight. You're best shot at healing is front loading your rest and recovery with laying low with Alise's rule of 3. If taking it easy makes you panic, don't worry Jen has your hall pass.

Don't miss out on Jen giving Alise some rules as well. Alise isn't recovering from giving birth but she might be in the middle of a hair crisis.

Labor Pain: Caution, This Might Hurt

Alise McAllister — Mon, 12 Aug 2019 08:00:00 -0700

We all have that friend who has a cousin who had a pain-free birth and the baby just "fell out". But is that how it really works? Why does it have to hurt? Jen and Alise have the answers this week. They are discussing the variations in pain and your options for managing pain. They are talking about how labor pain is different from any other pain that you have ever experienced. This means that you get to learn new ways to get through it and what you thought you knew about your pain tolerance might not be true.

Alise invites you to story time to hear about Peaches and her pain-free birth in the supermarket. Find out why Peaches wishes she felt her contractions and how it made buying produce very challenging for all around.

Choosing what matters to YOU in birth.

Alise McAllister — Mon, 05 Aug 2019 08:00:00 -0700

What other people give a f*ck about doesn’t matter! Your birth doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s birth. Hear about Alise’s mind altering experience - She felt equal amounts of internal pressure to look a certain way. You may not feel connected to your body all through birth, you can rock your birth even if you’ve never done a squat in your life!

You don’t need to want or feel called to a “natural” birth, a medicated birth, you can feel afraid of birth and still have an amazing birth. In fact, in our experience most people feel some apprehension about birth or dare we say even fearful!

Identify what you do give a f*ck about! Write a birth plan. Know the limits of your birth place. If you are having a homebirth, you can’t have an epidural. If you don’t want students in the room, don’t have a baby in a teaching hospital. If you are high risk don’t have a baby at home. If you hate hospitals, have a baby at home. Decide what’s the most important on that birth plan- pick what you are going to dig your heels in about and let the other stuff go.

Don’t feel the need to explain the need to explain yourself to anyone. You do you!

Pick your influences carefully. Fear breeds fear. Surround yourself with good stories, people who trust birth and support your choices. If you have someone in your life pushing their agenda about birthing or parenting, take space from them.

This could be some soul work. There may come a time in pregnancy or even in labor when things arise when you need to make adjustments to your birth plan. You may need a medication that wasn’t planned or an induction. These types of moments may require some big soul searching and deciding what you really want to give a f*ck about.

Your birthing inspiration or (birthspiration) may not come from a birthing source.

Have a blast with Jen & Alise while all this swearing makes Jen blush. Hear about Jen's amazing tattoo close call. Stay connected and join the community on Facebook and on Instagram. Have a question you want answered on the show? email at podcast@pushingitpodcast.com or follow them on social media.

Special Guest: The Uterus

Alise McAllister — Mon, 29 Jul 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Alise sits down for a very important interview with a cranky uterus. If you think your job is hard, wait until you hear what she's expected to do- grow, share space with several neighbors, contract at appropriate times, behave, shrink... The expectations are high! This week, Jen is out and Alise spends some quality time with a very special guest so we can all learn how to better give our own uteruses some hard earned r-e-s-p-e-c-t! She's offering up real tips on how to give her rest and hydration, what her favorite food and drinks are and how to prevent her from working an overtime shift.

This week, you'll be sure to walk away with a whole new respect for this amazing muscle and all of her hard work. We'll all miss Jen this week and look forward to having her return next week, but do not miss out on this amazing interview!

What YOU need during pregnancy ('cause there's plenty of marketing for your baby)

Alise McAllister — Mon, 22 Jul 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Get a water bottle! Save the earth and save your uterus from non-progressing contractions in the 3rd trimester!
You need some thick skin otherwise known as resilience.- folks are gonna have opinions but actually they may just wanna engage.
Compassion.... Self-compassion. Your lifestyle is gonna be altered and rather than viewing it as "I should be able to do this", how do you give yourself compassion for this stage of life.
Snacks everywhere! Keep the energy up and nausea away
Naps! There's research to back it up..... Jen can't remember where she read this but it's out there.
Research Skills. You are gonna need a car seat etc but tap into the research others have done. Research the care options you have for birth.
Mom friends - be open to opportunities to find your people.
Reassurance. It's nice to be a little weird but when it comes to pregnancy, it's so nice to be normal. Look for the landmarks along the way to help you feel ok and not alone
A sense of humor- you gotta laugh at yourself. This is a crazy journey you're on.
Comfy clothes: boxer shorts anyone?

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Summer Survival Guide

Alise McAllister — Mon, 15 Jul 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Ahh, the sounds of summer. The clink of the ice in the endless glasses of water that you're drinking,

Our Parenting Confessions

Alise McAllister — Mon, 08 Jul 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Warning: No children were permanently harmed in the making of this episode.

No harm was done but Jen and Alise have been part of some poison control calls, fire pit vomit, bumps to the head, water to the face and a whole lot of tears for all. In spite of it all, they are here and mostly okay with sharing their parenting confessions. Find out how these moms managed to navigate the silly, scary and tricky moments of parenthood.

How To Birth Like A Badass

Alise McAllister — Mon, 01 Jul 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Alise got a not so mysterious text telling her how brilliant her idea was. For that moment, she felt amazing, heard, supported and down right badass. That's when she realized that every birthing person needs to have all of these things in birth to. So this week, Jen and Alise to the recipe for becoming a badass and are ready to tell you how to apply it to your birth. Being a badass isn't always about being tough and looking strong. It's often feeling like your people have your back and you you've got what you need. Don't miss this week's lesson on being a birthing badass!

Induction: Get.Out. Baby!

Alise McAllister — Mon, 17 Jun 2019 08:30:00 -0700

Jen and Alise have you covered if you're in need of a baby eviction, aka induction. If only babies would just do what we told them! We are covering everything from what to pack to what to ask your provider when the topic comes up. This week, pull out your pad of paper and take some notes. You may need these tips! Jen and Alise don't have the magic trick to make labor instantly start but they sure have loads of tips to help you have a better experience during an induction.

A Postpartum Journey with Aly Thayer

Alise McAllister — Tue, 11 Jun 2019 08:00:00 -0700

This week's powerful episode features our guest, Aly Thayer. Aly shares her powerful story of how she suffered from postpartum depression after her daughter was born. In her interview, Aly openly shares about the struggles she faced and ultimately overcame. Her experience was the root of her website, www.ppdjourney.com. The website features personal stories for women who are also experience similar challenges postpartum. With such a wide variety of stories, each person looking for support is sure to relate and identify with a story on the site. Aly is putting the spotlight on postpartum mood disorders and giving hope to women going through these challenges.

Self Care: It's Time To Show Yourself Some Love

Alise McAllister — Mon, 03 Jun 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Jen is feeling extra sleepy this week and it looks like she forgot to care for herself. Learn to no t put yourself last on the list of people to care for. We know that not everyday can be a spa day. Learn new ways to learn self care, from tea on porch or going to bed early, we've got ideas to fit every budget, every schedule and every need.

Get great ideas, like making a list of your go-to self care ideas so that you never forget yourself. You deserve this!
Check out these resources!
Head Space- https://www.headspace.com/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=917256436&utm_content=51529947492&utm_term=217943261433&headspace&gclid=CjwKCAjw583nBRBwEiwA7MKvoEDaVZLOkB2KmNhh2yVFph0p-KZqSPhhz-yLVKioi6JNqdpAqKaFgBoC1mYQAvD_BwE

Brene Brown special on Netflix- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gr-WvA7uFDQ

Weird and Amazing Babies

Alise McAllister — Mon, 27 May 2019 09:20:00 -0700

Sometimes the things that makes babies so amazing are also the things that makes babies so weird. Alise and Jen have a list of the top 10 weirdest baby features. Everything from, how they get their cone heads to how the figure out how to nurse, is on the list. You're sure to be amazed and a little weirded out too. Don't miss helpful tip too. You'll learn how to avoid fighting with the evil meconium and how to feel reassured as your baby's hands and feet begin to get oxygenated blood. Who knew babies could be so weird!

Getting Real with Jamie Otis.

Alise McAllister — Mon, 20 May 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Jamie Otis is more than a celebrity that lives a life we all want to live. She's a real life, kick-ass woman who we should all want to have as our BFF. She's on a mission to normalize the conversation around life after baby, searching for balance, fertility and even opening up about hemorrhoids. This week, find out how meeting her newborn was similar to meeting her husband on "Married At First Sight", how Jamie strives to juggle all of her roles, seeks balance, as well as some great postpartum tips.

Packing a Hospital Bag: Kitchen sink needed?

Alise McAllister — Tue, 14 May 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Jen is certain that it okay to be a minimalist and offers up her list of the bare essentials for your hospital bag. Alise prefers to always pack as though she's going to travel internationally for a few weeks. After all, you never know when you're going to need twinkle lights, an essential oil diffuser, a second set of pajamas, a board game and a cozy pillow and blanket from home. There are a few things the two can agree on this week. Get your pen and paper ready, or better yet, grab your bag. They have a great list and are ready to help you pack for the big event, no matter what your style is.

The list will cover:
food basics
clothing for everyone
comfort tools
basics from home
items to help time pass
essential toiletries
electronics
and more...

bonus...We've included insider hospital room hacks!

Modesty Revealed

Alise McAllister — Mon, 06 May 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Alise and Jen are breaking birth modesty down into three tiers, or rather, three clubs.

3 tiers of modesty

Staying dressed and with a lap cover
Staying dressed but not giving a damn once we start pushing
The naked stage of labor begins in early labor

Everyone has their own comfort zone when it comes to modesty but labor and parenthood is a time when your comfort with baring all to the world, or at least a room full of medical professionals becomes the norm. For some that feels fine and what’s to be expected, while for others it can feel scary and emberassing. There’s also a third group, those who could care less about being naked and are on a mission to get the job done.

It is okay to start in one group and move into another. It’s okay to stay strong to your feelings on being covered or uncoverd- you do you! There’s a brand of labor gowns that suggests that you need to look pretty while birthing. You can where whatever makes you feel good and strong- being pretty is not required. It’s okay to get down and dirty. There’s no pressure to be “lady like” its okay to grunt, squat, fart, burp, vomit...

Jen and Alise have tons of tips on how to stay in your preferred modesty club or to move easily between comfort zones.

Don't miss out on Alise oversharing about her trip to Thailand and her experience with two weeks without bathrooms that are familiar.

Questions You Were Too Afraid To Ask In Pregnancy

Alise McAllister — Mon, 29 Apr 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Have you wanted to know if you were really going to poop in labor and how that would all go down? We bet you did but you never wanted to ask. That certainly isn't at the top of the list in your short prenatal visit. But back, far back in your mind, you might be wondering. Wonder no more our listeners! We are going to answer that question! We've got the answer to your most embarrassing questions, including questions like "can I have sex in the third trimester" and "someone told me to prep my nipples before breastfeeding". Don't let your pregnancy ride on rumors and miss out third trimester sex or torturing your nipples with rough objects! Listen this week for the truth behind all of those embarrassing questions you were too afraid to ask yourself!

The "Right" episode ('Cause Jen is human): 10 things NOT to do in Labor

Alise McAllister — Mon, 22 Apr 2019 12:00:00 -0700

Jen and Alise are feeling rebellious. They've decided they are sick and tired of everyone handing out advice. This week, they stayed up past their bedtime, drank caffeine after 3 pm, gave the side eye to annoying people who drive with attitude and decided to bring that rebellious streak to podcasting. Watch out, listeners! Jen and Alise are hoping you’ll join them in some serious rule breaking by just saying NO to 10 common mistakes in labor. It's okay, you can be rebellious too.

10 Things NOT To Do In Labor

Alise McAllister — Mon, 22 Apr 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Jen and Alise are feeling rebellious. They've decided they are sick and tired of everyone handing out advice. This week, they stayed up past their bedtime, drank caffeine after 3pm, gave the side eye to annoying people who drive with attitude and decided to bring that rebellious streak to podcasting. Watch out listeners! Jen and Alise are hoping you’ll join them in some serious rule breaking by just saying NO to 10 common mistakes in labor. It's okay, you can e rebellious too.

Real Facts About Real Food With Lily Nichols

Alise McAllister — Mon, 15 Apr 2019 08:00:00 -0700

At the first signs of pregnancy, many parents are quickly gathering the newest research on car seats, finding the best pediatricians and perfecting their birth plans. Few pause to ask if what we've told year after year about pregnancy nutrition is really the best. This week we have author Real Food for Pregnancy, Lily Nichols talking about taking the science and applying it to your real life. We know that not everyone has access to organic avocados or that the first trimester can be so rough. Lily brings tips and tricks to start changing your eating habits or to just incorporate new habits with pregnancy. She offers compassionate tips that real people can get behind.
Look for her book on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Real-Food-Pregnancy-Prenatal-Nutrition/dp/0986295043/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1MKG58K5GBNL3&keywords=real+food+for+pregnancy&qid=1554760917&s=gateway&sprefix=real+food%2Caps%2C204&sr=8-1

And check out her website for more useful information as well https://lilynicholsrdn.com/

Your Amazing Cervix - Magic School Bus Style!

Alise McAllister — Mon, 08 Apr 2019 08:00:00 -0700

A quick anatomy lesson went haywire when Jen and Alise realized that most women don't have down their basic anatomy before they give birth. There are far too many women walking the streets believing that we pee out of the vagina. To stop that rumor here, the ladies do a simple and humorous anatomy lesson in the style of the Magic School Bus. What would it be like if Miss Frizzle took the kids up the vagina and bumped into a closed posterior cervix that was just waiting to prepare for labor? This week, we're not just talking basic anatomy, we learning about all of the awesome things your cervix can do. Move over dilation! Dilation is cool and all but anterior facing and effacement is about to move into the spotlight and get the attention it finally deserves.

If you're thinking of creative ways to bring on dilation or encourage labor to begin, Jen and Alise help separate the useful tips from the not so useful tips that only leave you with diarrhea and frustration. On top of all that, they are bringing tons of information on how to keep the momentum going through labor as well.

How To Be A Kick Ass Birth Partner After The Baby Arrives

Alise McAllister — Mon, 01 Apr 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Partners, this episode is for you. We see you and we know your job is big here. It can be hard t find balance between your own sleep, recovery from your experience with the birth and meeting your needs. We know the your new role also means taking care of the birth mom, the baby and the household. This week are going to help you figure out how to juggle all of these things. We have useful tips on asking for help and for preparing ahead.

How To Be A Kick Ass Birth Partner

Alise McAllister — Mon, 25 Mar 2019 08:00:00 -0700

The first rule of being a kick ass birth partner is, be yourself! Don’t try to be someone else. Show up as your yourself. No superhero capes! Just your best self. Compassion and empathy goes a long way. Just like she had no idea what this would feel like, you can’t imagine it either. Labor can feel a lot harder than it looks on the outside.

You’ll be working hard too. Lunging together, holding her in a squat and the double hip squeeze is hard work. It’s okay to go to the bathroom. Be sure that someone can step in and that it’s not in the middle of a contraction or a hard decision point. It's really important to meet some of your own needs though. Keep your worries (negative thoughts- your tired, annoyed at a nurse, your back hurt…) to the staff or speak to the staff. Remember that your energy can change her ability to cope, fears, adrenaline...Don’t live tweet the birth!

Let’s talk practical tips!

Notice when the mood shifts and its no longer time to be funny or talkative. You can learn a lot by watching her face
When you arrive in triage you need to be the rock in the room and keep her focused on her breath. There’s a lot going on
If you are having a homebirth, it can feel like a lot is suddenly going on
One you’re in the room and settled- get room set up- LED candles, scent, music, ask for a ball…
Hydrate her!
Top positions- slow dancing, hands and knees (on bed, floor, etc) this is a great time for lower back counter pressure. You’ll be surprised how hard you can push! Raise bed up and lean over, sit on a ball, hand and knees on a ball, Tub!
Massage!
EAT! Don’t faint
Cold compress
This is a big experience for you too! This is not an easy experience.

TV Birth: All Events Depicted In This Show Are Fictitious. Any Similarity Is Purely Coincidental

Alise McAllister — Wed, 20 Mar 2019 08:00:00 -0700

Fast, loud, out of control and always an emergency. If you’ve left your knowledge of birth up to television and film, these are the things you’ll believe are true about birth. Real birth just doesn’t work for a sitcom or a rom-com. It’s long, uneventful often and typically doesn’t involve a whole lot of drama. There’s so much about television birth that leaves us uniformed about the realities of birth. Jen and Alise pick apart TV birth and discuss the hazards of relying on the messages we receive through tv and film. Find out other ways to replace that information with facts and prepare for real birth.

Don’t miss hearing Alise and Jen bring there amazing acting skills to the show as they act out TV birth. Alise goes into fake labor into the grocery store! Jen races her to hospital just as the baby is crowning. Soon after, a 4 month old baby is born without an umbilical cord, just like on TV! You definitely don’t want to miss a minute of this.

Fear and Trust in Birth

Alise McAllister — Mon, 11 Mar 2019 08:00:00 -0700

That's Not What Friends Are For

Alise McAllister — Mon, 04 Mar 2019 08:00:00 -0800

We think your BFF is just the best too. Alise might even agree that your that your BFF is better than most cupcakes. We want your BFF to be your BFF and your partner to be your partner at your birth and not have the pressure having to tell you to sit on the toilet so that baby can move down. Chances are, you'll have some not so kind language if that's suggested by some who isn't a professional. Doulas bring the knowledge of birth so that your team can focus on being there for you in the way the know how best.

Also, don't miss out on other important hot topics like why Alise believes cupcakes are being made all wrong and find out what is going on with Jen and her poppy seeds.

WTF Just Happened To My Body: Postpartum

Alise McAllister — Mon, 25 Feb 2019 09:15:00 -0800

The "WTF just happened to my body" stage is your mom friends' best kept secret. It's the stuff nobody tells you about, celebrities don't seem to experience and everyone else has to go through after bringing a tiny person out o their body. This week's episode is the top 10 WTFs you can expect. From the itchy, swollen, falling (say what?!) vagina, to overnight boobs, Jen and Alise will tell you everything those pregnancy magazines and your girlfriends are too embarrassed to share. So, as you recover, healing from your tiny person, know that you are not alone and that women across the world are there with you. They are thanking their padsicles and holding their stool softners tightly while saying, "WTF" right along with you.

Identity: Becoming Mom and Losing yourself

Alise McAllister — Mon, 18 Feb 2019 09:00:00 -0800

Becoming a mom doesn't mean that you will live a lifetime of mom pants, unflattering nursing bras and only hang out in mommy and me groups. Today's episode is a remind that this is a time of shifting and change. Your body and identity is changing quickly and you maybe begin to wonder who you are. You may even begin to feel like the real you has gotten a bit lost in the shuffle. Jen and Alise offer some pro tips on how to sink into the change, even embrace it, knowing that you will find you again. The even have helpful tips on how to rediscover yourself. They see you! the old you, the new you, and the you in between who is growing, learning and changing.

Writing a Birth Plan: Planning for the Unplannable

Alise McAllister — Mon, 11 Feb 2019 08:00:00 -0800

This week we're talking all about BIrth Plans or as we like to affectionately call them... Birth Preferences or Birth Wish Lists.

We know these are all just words used to define the same basic idea. But we're also aware that as we put lots of energy into an idea, it becomes more challenging to process a plan that doesn't go exactly as we'd imagined.

So tune in to hear more about what to include, ideal length, important information to gather so you feel empowered in your decisions, The F word… Flexibility! as you’ve heard us say often there are 2 people involved in this process of birth- the birthing person and the baby,and last but not least BRAIN... (hint, it's an acronym not a body party).

And will Alise and Jen make it through snowpocalypse 2019?! Tune in to find out

Mommy Guilt

Alise McAllister — Tue, 05 Feb 2019 09:25:00 -0800

There's no avoiding mommy guilt! It starts when we see the double pink lines and never ends. This week we are normalizing mom guilt and how every mom feels it. From our choices around work, food and how we raise our kids, mom guilt is all around us. How do we stop the guilt train and feel confident in our parenting choices?

Jen and Alise have a good laugh at how far down the rabbit hole we can go with the feelings of guilt and even shame around parenting. They discuss their favorite, hilarious examples you may have seen in the movies. Alise tells how her funny story of comparing herself to Jen and feeling guilt for her parenting choices. Jen confesses to making expire and rotting food into an envy worthy breakfast. The two have a great laugh at how sometimes things look better from the outside but when we get a big picture look, we are all just trying our best.

No Pregnant Body Shame Here!

Alise McAllister — Mon, 28 Jan 2019 08:00:00 -0800

It’s the new year so of course there’s all kinds of attention put on New Year’s resolutions and a huge focus on dieting.. What does this look like for you in pregnancy? How does all this talk about diet and weight loss land when your pregnant and you’re using calories to grow a human being? This week we are discussing diet culture and how that plays a role in pregnancy, disordered eating, body image, expectations and loss of control.

Pregnancy is tough on us Type A folks who always want to know, control and plan for every scenario. Beyond not knowing what labor and raising a child will look like, you have a body that belong to a tiny person for roughly 40 weeks. From how you carry your baby on the inside, to hips that are done with their work day before you clock out, your body isn’t just for you anymore.

It’s easy to begin this journey with high hopes of only wanting to feast on organic salads for nine months and count on “bouncing back”. We know all too well of so many well meaning parents who could only stomach french fries and mid day naps for weeks on end.

At times, this all piles up and feels like too much. The diet culture and pressure to look like the cover of a pregnancy magazine weighs heavy and you begin to feel that shame, blame or guilt.

This week we are saying no to pregnancy body shaming that we do to ourselves. We’ve got encouragement on how to find balance and peace through the challenges of growing another human.

Pregnant AF

Alise McAllister — Mon, 21 Jan 2019 07:00:00 -0800

So what does this AF term actually mean?!? Jen researches and gives you insight. We’ve done the work for you! Hint… it’s not a polite word. In fact the acronym should not be used in a Professional situation. 😊

We’ll give you examples of what it’s like to be Pregnant AF. In fact it’s “discomfortable!”

You’re in the final countdown. These are the last days, How do you survive when its hard to move, you have to pee all the time, there’s no room for food and you cramp every night?

So Pregnant AF is middle earth - it’s the weird place between growing a baby and being in labor.

You got this! No one is pregnant forever. We see you and we get you!

Teaching point: sometimes labor doesn’t keep going. Normalize that sometimes contractions don’t get longer, stronger, and closer together. They go away. No one on earth can foresee if labor will progress…. Time will tell if labor progresses.

You might still be working.Even your maternity clothes don’t fit. If one more person at the store asks when you are due…%*%&!!!!!! “Enjoy the last days of being two before you become three”.

So how do we handle pregnant AF? Stay distracted! Pedicure, rest- nap practice, date nights, Don’t focus on the days that pass just like you won’t focus on the contractions that pass

Create your space. Start a tv series.What can you during this time that you can’t do as a new family of 3? Begin a project that isn’t baby related.Go antiquing.Write a book or journal.Write thank you notes- pre write thank yous for meals

Pulling Your Sh*t Together: The Labor Edition

Alise McAllister — Mon, 14 Jan 2019 08:00:00 -0800

Sometimes it looks like getting your head in the game, or back in the game if you feel like you're loosing it a little. It's like being a boxer before a fight, sweat dripping, bouncing up and down, gloves knocking together as they anticipate getting through just one round. You may not know how the hell you got to this place in labor or how you'll get to the next but you pull your sh*t together and dig deep.

Jen and Alise are talking all about those moments in labor when you need to find a strength you didn't know you had. Sometimes it's about labor pain and sometimes it's about making choices around your birth. They are giving wise words on how to cope through and navigate those moments and even leave you with their own words that you can play in your labor.

Amanda's Birth Story

Alise McAllister — Mon, 07 Jan 2019 08:00:00 -0800

Jen and Alise get to chat with Amanda in the cutest nursery in the world. Amanda shares her story of how she navigated her labor so that she could have the birth she had always wanted, despite things starting off different from the plan. When she woke to her water breaking, she was prepared to advocate and ask for what she wanted for her birth. She tells how she chose what mattered the most to her and what she was prepared to let go of if she needed to. Hear how she went within and found her rhythm, worked through challenging position changes and managed through back labor.

Hear how life has been since baby Wilder has joined her family. Don't miss when Amanda offers great advice for parents-to-be.

Talking Shi*t

Alise McAllister — Mon, 31 Dec 2018 08:00:00 -0800

Revisit one of our first but favorite episodes of season 1 where Jen and Alise discuss the taboo topic of pooping in labor. Everyone wants to know but nobody wants to ask. What's the deal with it? Does everyone really poop in labor? Jen and Alise share their own personal stories of their births. Jen gave birth before ever attending births professionally and ever knowing about poop in labor and Alise had been to 100 births before having her own. How did these experiences influence their own views? Get a detailed and humorous understanding of why pooping in labor is a great sign that your baby is coming and you're doing all the right things!

Birth Porn

Alise McAllister — Mon, 17 Dec 2018 08:00:00 -0800

This is birth porn. This is the birth version of only showing the world large breasts with large nipples and “perfect” bodies.

This is a realistic view but only a snapshot. This isn’t a big picture view. This is another form of mom guilt. You get 40 weeks to do “it all”. How do you live in the moment and stay authentic to who you are and what you want?

Decide what feels better. Use social where it feels right.

The Holiday Episode

Alise McAllister — Mon, 10 Dec 2018 08:00:00 -0800

How to survive the holidays while pregnant

Find comfortable clothes for holiday parties. - can rewear in labor!
Fun mocktails (especially if you aren’t sharing your pregnancy yet)
- https://coleycooks.com/cran-clem/
- https://www.pinterest.com/pin/152066924904030011/feedback/?invite_code=93125df76bc445d0bfe9291eecfef857&sender_id=2880898448
Comfortable shoes
Call it an early night
Pick and choose your events
Skip soft cheeses and deli meats especially when eating out
Have some great excuses on hand for getting out of events you want to miss
- Rudolph ate my car keys
- Just waiting on UPS
- I have a date with my fuzzy blanket
- I’m currently dreaming of a white christmas

What to say if your water breaks at a holiday party?

-"No, I'm not having baby Jesus!"

-"Looks like Santa is bringing me something today. At least it’s not coming out the chimney"

-"I guess that sleigh ride really helped move things along!"

Holiday wish list

-pregnancy/nursing pajamas

-birth gown

-birth ball

- water bottle with straw

- crock pot/instant pot

-labor socks

- dry shampoo

- birth bag

-lavendar pillow

-scarves

-jewelry

Holiday play list

-Baby it’s cold outside

-Merry Christmas Baby- Christina Aguilera

Let's Get This Baby Out! Part 2: Hormones, Comfort Measures and More

Alise McAllister — Mon, 03 Dec 2018 08:00:00 -0800

There's a lot to know when it comes to getting a baby out! This week we are discussing hormones and how to find your rhythm. Labor isn't the time to freak out and scream with adrenaline. How do you know what to do instead? Don't panic now or in labor. Jen and Alise have lots of tips to get you through.

Make your labor hormones work for you. There are three major players when it comes to labor hormones. First up is oxytocin. Oxytocin is the love hormone! It's primary role in labor is to bring on contractions so be sure to bring on the oxytocin. Ways to encourage oxytocin include feeling loved, safe and supported. Endorphins are another major player in labor because they take the laboring person out of their brain and bring them into their body. It also allows you to fall asleep in labor (WHAT??) and even provides some pain relief. Last up, we've got adrenaline who comes in right in time to push. Not only does it give you strength push (just when you thought when you wouldn't have the energy) but adrenaline also passes the placenta and goes to baby to help baby take that first breath!

Now to get the oxytocin and endorphins flowing nicely, layer all the support, labor coping techniques and flood the senses. It's time to confuse your brain and your pain receptors. Massage, dim lights, music, essential oils, words of encouragement.. the list could go on forever. The goal is to find a rhythm that feels safe and reliable when everything else unknown.

Gone are the days of the old school hee-hee-haw breathing, but focusing on your breath is still just as important. Slow and focused breathing is the way to go. In fact, your breath can even be your rhythm.

This week is all about how to take of these tip and put them together for a more positive experience during active labor. We don't promise comfort but you can find a way to cope and find your groove to get through labor.

Isabelle's Birth Story

Alise McAllister — Mon, 26 Nov 2018 08:00:00 -0800

This week Alise talks with Isabelle as she describes her birth experience. She explains, as a driven busy professional,how she prepared for birth, the challenges of back labor and how she found strength in being flexible with her birth plans. "I thought birth was just going to be this physical feat I was going to do..... but it was the most empowered experience of my life". She navigated position changes for hours trying to change baby's position and ultimately found that an epidural was what would bring her rest and help bring her baby out. In her experience, fear in childbirth is talked about often. By telling her story she wants to assure and inspire others that a birth can go well and be empowering even if it's not your plan. Tune in to hear her tips for birth and postpartum.

Let’s Get This Baby Out! Part 1: Let’s Get Physical

Alise McAllister — Mon, 19 Nov 2018 08:00:00 -0800

Part 1: Let’s Get Physical

What's the "411" on active labor? In fact, we can get the impression that having contractions every 4 minutes, that last for a minute long, and this pattern has been happening for an hour or more automatically means you're in active labor. There’s so much more to knowing you’re in active labor. Don’t worry! Most babies don’t fall out. If yours does, congrats, that was a super efficient birth! Pay attention to the timing but also the shift that has happen. Are you, or the laboring person, focusing inward, serious, making moaning sounds and suddenly resting between contractions? Sounds like things are getting real. Partners, your jokes often stop being funny right now and it might take you a moment to figure this out. That’s okay as long as comedy wasn’t your distraction plan for your whole labor.

Everyone talks about movement and position changes during labor but we get the feeling that it's all about comfort. Not true! You're baby is like a key trying to fit into a lock and needs space to turn and get a good fit. The more you move and open your pelvis, the easier it is for baby to do this.

Some great positions are exhausting like lunges and squats, while others can provide rest. What’s most important is that you are moving. Nobody should stay in one spot for too long at all. We promise, labor is not supposed to feel like a workout class but it's also not about laying in bed surrounded by glowing candles.

Consider getting an exercise ball to use during labor. We talk about ways to use it and you'll even find uses after baby arrives. We're not recommending lunges the whole time. We want you to rest, but be sure to get up and change positions, even if you don't want to!

Come back next week for part 2! We'll be talking all about comfort!

The 9 Month Countdown

Alise McAllister — Mon, 12 Nov 2018 08:00:00 -0800

First trimester- Rest, get through! You'll probably be really tired, possibly feeling sick, and just plain not feel well. You may need to make excuses for not showing up at events or sneaking out of happy hour early. You may or may not eat well (concentrate on eating protein rich foods when able as this can help regulate your blood sugar and keep nausea at by). Forgive yourself, you've got lots of time to eat fresh fruits and veggies. You may or may not feel excited. Practice self acceptance. Get some comfy clothes- beer belly more than pregnant belly. Decide who you want to tell.

Second Trimester- Get some books on birth. You don't have to buy 10 or read them all just yet. This is about taking a look at different birthing philosophies and seeing what resonates with you , Decide if you want a doula and begin interviewing a few and then hire the doula for your birth. Sign up for your birth class. Classes typically fill up fast. Don't wait too long on this one. Think about maternity leave and decide what you can take off after baby arrives . Plan a baby moon or a staycation. You are finally feeling better. Have fun and enjoy feeling better!

For a fun babymoon getaway, check out outdoorsy. Go to pushingitpodcast.com and follow the link on our site.

Third Trimester

In the first half of the thirst trimester, focus on checking off the rest of the to-do list. Meet with your doula, write birth plan, plan for your birth space. Start to think about what you need to prepare for postpartum. It's no time to attend those birth classes. Reach out and connect with the other people in those classes. They will be going through life with a baby, a kid and even a teenager at the same time as you. Finish up your baby space and enjoy that nesting urge if you have it. In just a few weeks you may be too tired to nest.

In the last part of the third trimester it's all about self care, nap practice and partner attachment. Go out on dates and enjoy time as two. Put away books. Know that you've done your homework and prepared. Trust this process, your birth team and especially your body!

Jen & Alise's Essential List of Baby Gear

Alise McAllister — Mon, 05 Nov 2018 08:00:00 -0800

Why do babies need all this stuff? Believe it or not, sooner or later you’ll need to pee, take a shower, eat or even do a load of laundry. In the first weeks babies do sleep a lot but eventually they start to wake up and you’ll need a place to put your baby. This week we are talking about gear that will make your life easier and get you a little more hands-free time, a little more sleep and maybe even a meal while it's still hot

Fourth trimester theory! Babies often need another three months in the womb. Ideally, you can recreate another trimester by shushing, moving, sucking… this can be done by you doing all of these things all of the time, or you can call in a little help from some devices.

Carriers
Bouncers/Swings
Pacifiers
Swaddle blankets (velcro) / or Swaddle sack, blankets

Your baby’s birthday suit is going to need a few bodysuits!

Pajamas/Sleepwear- 5
Onesies- so many! 5+ How much laundry do you want to do?
Socks
Hats
Pants

Carrying devices

We love soft sided or soft structure carriers and stretchy carriers like Ergo, Baby K’tan, Tula, or Moby wrap. You can use YouTube to figure them out. They may appear really overwhelming at first but they get easier over time.

A Stroller

What’s your lifestyle? Figure out what your needs are. Do you have a large or small car or will you be slinging this folded stroller over your shoulder while you get on public transportation? The reality is you may need to buy a couple strollers. Most people find that they need one for the baby car seat and then need another as their baby grows and they get out and about more often.

Diapers What are you going to use? Cloth or disposable. Something on each floor (a cute basket with a few diapers, wipes, a blanket, spit up cloth. Changing table- Use the top of a dresser if you’re minimal. Or use a receiving blanket / changing pad stored under a couch, etc. How much of a setup do you need for changing a diaper?

Bathtub- Is it really necessary? If you don't have space to store a tub, what are the alternatives in your household? We recommend using a sink or just the big tub. You can also go in the tub with baby.

Nursing stations- Creating a spot in your house that feels like a great place for feeding your baby if you are planning to breastfeed. This can be a nursing a chair or a spot on the couch. This spot should be stocked with appropriate pillows, a glass of water, one handed snacks, burp rags and entertainment in case you get trapped under a sleeping baby

I'm The Mama Now - Creating Boundaries As You Become Parents

Alise McAllister — Mon, 22 Oct 2018 09:15:00 -0700

You're the mama now! Jen and Alise give you some encouragement and tips on how to set boundaries with family that may have expectations on the way you might parent or birth. Don't feel forced to do things the way they've always been done. Setting clear boundaries and having hard conversations early on will often make moving forward as a parent easier on your relationships.

1. Get on the same page with your partner- parents on the same page are able to come together stronger and create stronger boundaries and hold up those boundaries. Clearly define what your rules, expectations and parenting style looks like. If you are anti “Daddy’s Princess” clothing and partner isn’t it will be hard to come together and communicate that to your family and friends.

2. Communicate your needs clearly with friends and family- This isn’t about coming off as the boss and demanding things from kind and willing help. This is about saying, if you want to visit, we would love to have you plan your stay after we’ve had a few days to bond or we won’t be able to take you sightseeing…We will need lots of help and any help you can provide is appreciated.

3. Stand strong and firm- Hold your head up high and know that you are meeting your needs. Healing, eating, rest, feeding your baby… Visitors need to go, you need to rest not show out-of-town family around the city, it’s okay for them to visit without coffee and you get to hold your own baby. It’s hard to set these boundaries. They are new for you and that’s ok. They get easier.

4. Trust your instincts – You get to let your instincts guide you in parenthood. It may look the same as how your parents parented or how your in-laws parented, or the exact opposite. There is a right way for your family and when you dial in to what feels right in your gut or your heart, you will know.

5. Your rules can change anytime you want- We were are better parents before having kids. It’s ok to lay down the law about TV or wooden toys and then change the rule when you want. It’s ok to say you don’t want visitors in baby’ first week and then suddenly realize that you need someone to make food and do your laundry. It’s a parenting style not a contract.

P.S. Put your clothes in the dryer. You're welcome.

Early Labor: Netflix, chill and Netflix and Chill.

Alise McAllister — Mon, 08 Oct 2018 09:00:00 -0700

Early labor- a time to do your do, Netflix and Chill, and tell that adrenaline to go away until it's time to push. We give practical tips for when to head to the hospital, remind you that your cervix is not connected to the contraction timer app, and remind you to invite "relaxing" people to be around your labor. Knowledge is power- we remind you that early labor can last a while! Stay out of your head and it's ok NOT to start deep breathing and doing all the things you learned in that awesome childbirth class. Could it be early labor is important? Alise explains what's really happening during this valuable time in labor.

Wait, There's More Coming Out Of Me?

Alise McAllister — Mon, 24 Sep 2018 01:00:00 -0700

Last week we discussed 10 things that might make you say "Whoa, did that just come out of me", this week we have another 10. This list is a little different as we touch on the emotion and perhaps more vocal side of birth. You might be surprised at some of the things that come out of you.

This week we are leaving the liquids behind and getting down to the tears and the swear words that might start coming out and all of the surprising emotions. Jen and Alise will discuss how to work through all the various emotions that come up at time through labor.

Jen also has a minor fashion issue and may just start a new mom trend of the messy, greasy bun. Find out how Jen rocks her new bun style and her salad dressing on her shirt.

Whoa, Did That Just Come Out Of Me?

Alise McAllister — Mon, 17 Sep 2018 01:00:00 -0700

10 things that will come out of your body during labor and birth that will make you say, "whoa, did that just come out of me". Birth, like parenthood, can be messy. Don't get caught by surprise. Everyone knows there's a little blood sweat and tears in birth but what about all the other things that come out of your body? And it's not all lists, Jen and Alise have a messy parenthood story contest between themselves. Alise's kids may have fleas. The doulas have the old debate, adult diaper vs thong underwear in labor.

Finding Your Power In Labor

Alise McAllister — Mon, 10 Sep 2018 03:00:00 -0700

Don't miss out on more of Jen's sound effects and 90's flash back songs. Alise also talks about where she really wishes she could birth. Chances are, she's not alone.

Babies Take A Village

Alise McAllister — Tue, 04 Sep 2018 01:00:00 -0700

You've heard the saying, "it takes a village to raise a baby". Now if only that village knew how to support new parents and new parents felt comfortable asking for help. Jen & Alise will help you make the most of your village and your help. Don't get caught hosting visitors after having a baby. Learn helpful tips to maximize support before and after baby arrives. This week is all about creating a village so you can heal your body and bond with baby, not worry about dishes and dinner.

What your friends don't tell you about POSTPARTUM (that time after your baby is born)

Alise McAllister — Tue, 28 Aug 2018 04:35:00 -0700

On this episode, we're getting real (NOT instilling fear though!) about what to expect POSTPARTUM. Nobody gets to skip this stage. Jen will explain exactly what the heck that word means and as usual we're normalizing something.... in this case what's happening to YOUR body. Find out why there may be some farting in your future. Fundal massage- don't let the word massage fool you! We take the "fun" out of fundal massage. Find out why its needed. We discuss intuition and all the information coming at you. Finally, nothing says love like a good stool softener. Join us to laugh and gleem valuable information to make your transition to parenthood a but easier.
https://www.pushingitpodcast.com/

What Your Friends Never Told You About Birth

Jen & Alise — Tue, 21 Aug 2018 06:50:00 -0700

Talking With Amy VanHaren of Pumpspotting

PUSHING IT — Tue, 14 Aug 2018 08:00:00 -0700

Jen & Alise had the amazing opportunity to sit down and chat with Amy, the owner, and founder of Pumpspotting and the traveling breastfeeding/pumping bus, Barb. This week we cover everything from what it’s like to try to do “all the things”, to ways folks can make a breastfeeding plan to prepare their family and friends to help support them on their breastfeeding journey. Find out why community and support are important for all stages of parenting. After the show, don't forget to download the Pumpspotting app to get connected with others in your area as well as around the globe. We had so much fun! We know you will too.

https://www.pumpspotting.com/

https://www.pumpspotting.com/the-app/

What Your Friends Never Told You About Pregnancy

pushingit — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 13:57:05 -0700

What Your Friends Never Told You About Pregnancy

Sure, your friends told you about swollen ankles and morning sickness but they probably never told you about finding foods that really worked with morning sickness. You know, the foods that taste the same coming up as they do going down. Body changes, pregnancy clothes, pregnancy sex? Don't worry, Jen & Alise have your back. This week, find out the honest truth about all the things your closest friends should have told you about pregnancy.

Heeeeeere's The Doulas

Jen & Alise — Fri, 27 Jul 2018 17:30:00 -0700

We are fed up of the same old message that there's one way to have a baby and raise a baby. We think our listeners deserve a little bit more credit and are smart enough to make their own decisions. Isn't time to hear more than just how big your baby is compared to the size of a fruit? How big is a papaya anyway? Get to know us this week and find out why we decided to break out of doula office and start podcasting.

Talking Sh*t

Pushing it — Thu, 26 Jul 2018 08:53:00 -0700

You've heard the rumors? Is it true? Is it really as bad as you've heard? Can you avoid it? Jen & Alise give the honest truth on pooping during labor. They discuss their own personal stories and stories of births they've attended with and without poop.

The Mom Shame Game

Pushing It — Tue, 24 Jul 2018 16:27:00 -0700

Is mom shaming the grownup version of mean girling? This generation having babies wants so much more. Often, they've waited longer to have babies so that they can have it all. They want the career, the emotional connection, the gourmet meal and the strong attachment to everyone they've intentionally chosen to have in their lives. The only thing that leaves room for is a whole lot of guilt when there isn't room to cram it all in or they just feel like frozen pizza for dinner. Jen and Alise share honest, first hand stories of their own personal mom guilt as they show up in yesterday's makeup or serve up meals from rotten food. What's really happening when you zoom out the lens on social media?