Talk Your Poly Off

Competitiveness in Relationships

I Love Poly — Tue, 15 Jun 2021 01:00:00 -0700

In the past we've talked about feeling competitive with a meta especially when playing the "compare" game. But in this weeks episode we take it from a different angle! Have you ever felt in competition with your PARTNER? Maybe it's who earns more money or who has more partners but sometimes it happens.

We discuss some ways to recognize it and tips to process it and move through. Oh and you don't want to miss this explanation of what an actual "competitive relationship" is according to lgbtawiki.org in Monsuta's intro!

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Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!

For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!
Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.
Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.
Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.
For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife Group
Also, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.
You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.com
or
Text us or leave us a voicemail!
TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

TYPO Phone Questions part 4, Monsuta Solo Episode

I Love Poly — Tue, 08 Jun 2021 04:21:50 -0700

Monsuta takes the reigns and flies solo for this week's discussion. This week is answering questions from the TYPO phone, from first dates to breakups.

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Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!

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Holiday Observance

I Love Poly — Tue, 01 Jun 2021 08:00:00 -0700

We will be off this week. Taking a vacation this week. Sorry and thank you! Love you!

Speedbumps Coming Into Polyamory

I Love Poly — Tue, 25 May 2021 01:00:00 -0700

Being at a place today where our relationship is stable and healthy and we feel pretty confident in our relationship skills its easy to forget some of the struggles and difficult feelings that came up in the early days.

The anxiety around dating a new person when you already have a partner. Or the fear around sex with someone new. So many speed bumps to maneuver when you are first moving from monogamy to polyamory and today we talk about and share some of our experiences getting over those speed bumps.

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How Do I Open Up To Swinging

I Love Poly — Tue, 18 May 2021 01:00:00 -0700

Today we have a question from an anonymous TYPO Phone caller which we felt could be a whole episode on its own.

What's the first thing that comes to mind when someone mentions they're a swinger? It's often times some 60s or 70s house key party. And while we love a good house party... this doesn't quite capture the full essence of swinging.

We want to help discuss swinging in a way to bring some enlightenment around today's question, which is a perfect example of someone trying to break out of the comfort zone society created.

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Relationship Equity

I Love Poly — Tue, 11 May 2021 01:00:00 -0700

Many of us grew up being told and believing that in order for things to be "fair" they needed to be equal. For those who are perhaps a little younger this reminds me of those participation trophies. However, as we've grown up, we've realized that not everyone needs the same things in life. While one person might need the validation of a participation trophy another person may need to be challenged and earn their 1st place ribbon. It's all based on individual circumstances. That's how equity in relationships works! One partner wont have the same needs, wants, or desires so dishing it out the same and treating all partners equally may not get you the desired result you thought you were working for and it may not make each partner happy. Tune in on your favorite podcast platform to listen in as Bella and Monsuta talk relationship equity this week!

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Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!

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Intimacy and Vulnerability

I Love Poly — Tue, 04 May 2021 01:00:00 -0700

Building an intimate relationship often needs all parties involved to show some level of intimacy. To open up and let others in is being vulnerable but in order to do that there needs to be things like trust and acceptance which happen to be key factors in building intimacy. So in this episode we visit how vulnerability and intimacy go hand in hand and how they impacted our weekend trip away to Bend, Oregon.

For more information on intimacy here are a few places to start:

8 Books on Sex and Intimacy, recommended by sex educator Dawn Serra. This list includes inclusive, empowering titles such as “Ecstasy Is Necessary” by Barbara Carrellas.

5 Relationship Books That Will Profoundly Change the Way You Love, a list compiled by relationship coach Kyle Benson. This list includes books that aren’t only focused on sex and romance, like the self-development book “SuperBetter” by Jane McGonigal.

Consider individual and relationship therapy. By working with a therapist one-on-one, a family therapist, or a couples counselor, you can get some personalized insight on intimacy. Here’s information on finding a therapist and some affordable therapy options for every budget.
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Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!

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TYPO Phone Questions, part 3

I Love Poly — Tue, 27 Apr 2021 01:00:00 -0700

Back to the TYPO Phone! This week we have some questions ranging from why so many people struggle with kitchen table poly, a question around a partner breaking their "rules", one about pet names for partners and we have a great discussion on all things in between. No matter where you are starting on your polyamory journey we all have questions, big or small someone has probably been there before and struggled with the same thing. We want to make sure you know you aren't alone.

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Talking About Polyamory

I Love Poly — Tue, 20 Apr 2021 01:00:00 -0700

Have you ever been hanging out for a game night with a group of friends and the question comes up..."so you have a girlfriend AND a boyfriend, how does that work?" Or maybe it's the holiday season and you want to discuss bringing multiple partners over to meet the family. Or maybe it's even a stranger in the park watching an ethical triad raise and parent a child together and they come over to ask some questions. How do you handle the questions? How do you talk about polyamory with outsiders? Join us for that exact conversation in todays episode!

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Intimidated By Metamours

I Love Poly — Tue, 13 Apr 2021 01:00:00 -0700

Thinking back over the years there have been many times where a new meta is entering the picture and all those insecurities pop up which then creates this "perfect" image in our head of who our meta is. "Oh they have a better job than I do so they must be better." "They are skinnier than I am therefore a better partner.". These thoughts of ours cause us to often times be intimidated by a new meta. Sometimes we are the intimidating one and don't even realize it. In todays episode we will talk about all of that and more!

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Misconceptions of Polyamory

I Love Poly — Tue, 06 Apr 2021 01:00:00 -0700

Have you ever told a friend or family member that you're polyamorous and they spit back some misconception or myth they heard about what that means? Maybe you're newly interested in this lifestyle and have come across some of these myths in your online reading. However you stumbled across these we thought we would give our take on them. And if you've got a story to share with us about a polyam myth, please shoot us a text or email because we want to hear it!

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Self Sabotage

I Love Poly — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 01:00:00 -0700

Self sabotage is the topic this week and it's something we've probably all experienced at some point, even if we weren't aware of it in the moment. Why do we do it? How can we stop doing it? We cover all that and more! If you're enjoying the show please share it with a friend!

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Life Changes & Support in Polyamory

I Love Poly — Tue, 23 Mar 2021 01:00:00 -0700

Well it's been quite the week over here in TYPO land. Monsuta lost his job and Bella is wrapping up her first week on her preop liquid diet! There's a lot going on and this week we discuss how to support your partner(s) during the big and small changes that happen in life. How to show support and how to ask for support all while plans could change in an instant.

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TYPO Phone Questions Part 2

I Love Poly — Tue, 16 Mar 2021 01:00:00 -0700

We tackle a little Q & A from the listeners today all centered around your partner spending time with their other partners. How do you spend your alone time? How do you handle intimacy or a meta's privacy? Do you have questions you want our help with? Leave us a voicemail or text us at (209) 536-8976!

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Bella's Ear Ducks and Dating

I Love Poly — Tue, 09 Mar 2021 01:00:00 -0800

Ear ducks, dating, gaming and miniatures and a little light hearted chat this week with Monsuta and Bella! You never know where you'll end up with this episode. Join us for some much needed laughs and awkward dating questions as we step back from the heavy personal development theme for a moment.

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Personal Development Part 6: Thoughts, Emotions, & Processing Them All

I Love Poly — Tue, 02 Mar 2021 01:00:00 -0800

Have you ever sat back and were really mindful about how your body physically feels your emotions? Thought work has become a huge part of our daily lives over the last year or so and we wanted to take this opportunity to talk a little bit about how your thoughts create your feelings which cause an action which give you a result leading to your beliefs. It's an endless circle and we go into all of it! Let's say you understand this cycle and now it's time to actually process through some of those feelings you're having. It's a difficult thing to do, pause and take time to really understand what you're feeling and why. Hopefully what we are talking about hits home for some of you!

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Personal Development Part 5: The Mirror: Communication and Comprehension

I Love Poly — Tue, 23 Feb 2021 01:00:00 -0800

If you've been around the polyam community for any length of time you've heard people say "communication is key" or "you wont be successful without communication". Well there's more to it than just communicating and that includes actually understanding and processing what your partner is telling you. They can tell you all day long what they want or need but you need to be able to comprehend the message being sent to you. In this weeks episode we cover just that!

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Personal Development Part 4: Baggage and Boundaries

I Love Poly — Tue, 16 Feb 2021 01:00:00 -0800

Welcome to our B&B episode! No, not bed and breakfast....baggage and boundaries! If you're a human adult, you've got baggage! Join the club, it's nothing to hide or be ashamed of and actually the more open and honest you can be about your history and baggage the more likely your partner is to understand you and where you come from. In this episode we give our advice on how to use that past baggage to help you create healthy boundaries.

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Personal Development Part 3: Wants & Needs in Relationships

I Love Poly — Tue, 09 Feb 2021 01:00:00 -0800

Have you ever sat down and reflected internally to really examine what your wants and needs are when it comes to relationships? Sure we understand a need as necessary for survival and a want is just an enhancement but how does that relate to relationships? Bella and Monsuta talk about just that for this special episode that just so happens to release on our 4 year anniversary! (Please ignore the sound of the washer in the audio, we didn't realize that would come through in the audio but, well vibrations...)

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Personal Development Part 2: Ego, Esteem, and Instinct

I Love Poly — Tue, 02 Feb 2021 01:00:00 -0800

Continuing this season of personal development we jump into a conversation around ego, the good and bad! Do you have some experience with your ego getting in the way? Tell us about it, give us some feedback, or reach out and say hi!

For additional episodes and content, come join us on social media!
Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.
Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.
Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.
You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.com

Text us or leave us a voicemail!
TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Personal Development Part 1: Learning Your Gold Talk

I Love Poly — Tue, 26 Jan 2021 01:00:00 -0800

Our season of personal development begins with a discussion around figuring out who you are! What is your self identity? Where do you even start to have that internal conversation? Hopefully whats worked for us can help you too, give us some feedback or reach out and say hi!

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at talkyourpolyoff@gmail.com

Text us or leave us a voicemail!
TYPO Phone (209) 536-TYPO (8976)

Planning For Success

I Love Poly — Tue, 19 Jan 2021 01:00:00 -0800

Coming up on the end of January 2021 Monsuta and Bella took some time to really plan out some goals.

After the year we just survived its tough to imagine planning out anything for this unknown future. But they aren't about to let that fear of the unknown cause life to pause. They don't want to lose another year of life ... so with that said instead of planning out events and bucket list travel vacations, they turned inward and wrote out some more personal goals that will help each of them come out of 2021 a better and stronger and healthier person.

Tune into this episode to hear a great conversation around planning 2021 goals!

TYPO Phone Questions Part 1

I Love Poly — Tue, 12 Jan 2021 01:00:00 -0800

Bella and Monsuta race to the TYPO Phone to answer distress calls! Listen in as these caped crusaders rush to aid others!

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

Goodbye 2020 Hello 2021

I Love Poly — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 01:00:00 -0800

What a strange and crazy year 2020 has been but we survived. Along the way we made some changes in our lives, we helped out some people in need, built stronger closer bonds with family, and found ourselves binge watching some interesting tv shows.

In our first podcast episode of 2021 we get into a bit of catch up and discuss how life has been going for us over this past year. Looking forward into the next few episodes while we shake off the dust and get back into the swing of things we will discuss what we’ve been up to, what our future goals are for this next year and we even setup the….wait for it….TYPO PHONE! (Hears batman music in my head now!)

2021 is going to bring a new way of podcasting for us, we are going to break down our episodes into seasons beginning with our personal development season because we believe that in order to be successful in any relationship you’ve first got to have a better understanding of yourself. So cheers and happy new year and we look forward to hearing from you!

Call us and leave a voicemail or shoot us a text! Happy stories, questions, or even just sharing how you met your partners. Whatever you want to share and let us know if you want it shared on the show! Reach us on the TYPO Phone at (209) 536-TYPO (8976).

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

Leading into 2021

I Love Poly — Sat, 02 Jan 2021 13:24:28 -0800

Monsuta and Bella are sitting outside of TYPO HQ on the tail end of 2020, thinking and talking about the year we are leaving behind and looking to what the new year hopes are.

You also get to meet Dozer, the neighbor dog.

Back on track teaser

I Love Poly — Sat, 10 Oct 2020 23:14:34 -0700

Bella and Monsuta are slated to return with new topics and new energy!
Keep us on your mind because you're on ours!

The One About Change

I Love Poly — Tue, 09 Jun 2020 00:30:00 -0700

You've heard that old cliche, the only constant in the universe is change. Today, we discuss change and how it affects us and our relationships. We tackle that concept of how change is bad and how, even in the toughest change, the idea of bad change is mostly a myth. We go over aspects of change, how we perceive it, and how to work through it in those times where it seems like a life ending situation.

For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!
We also started a YouTube channel.
Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.
Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.
Our Instagram is @TalkYourPolyOff.
For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife Group
Also, check out our Twitter, @TalkYourPolyOff.
We even have a Tumblr.
You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

Am I Good Enough?

I Love Poly — Tue, 02 Jun 2020 00:30:00 -0700

Today and always, we stand with the people of America and across the globe against racism and look forward to the change created as a result of these protests in hopes for a better, more equitable tomorrow for all of humanity. #blacklivesmatter

We had a chance recently to sit down and watch Louis Theroux's: Altered States - Season 1 and happen to know some people in the #lovewithoutlimits episode and realized there was a theme where he often asked something along the lines of, why isn't one partner good enough for you? And this got us thinking about this concept of "being good enough".

Do you feel replaceable? Do you strive to be perfect? Or maybe you struggle with the weight of trying to be someones EVERYTHING. We talk about all of this on today's episode.

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

Anxiety Trip

I Love Poly — Tue, 26 May 2020 00:30:00 -0700

We took a trip north to visit the Semiahmoo Resort, next to Canada and had a great trip we want to share with you. While there, we encountered a few instances which caused anxiety which we had to process so we decided to discuss this topic with you this week.
Come talk with us this week about how to identify, get a handle on, and support someone through anxiety.
Enjoy the virtual road trip we take you on and don't forget the #clamsquirt

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

Deep Dive Discussion (3D)

I Love Poly — Tue, 19 May 2020 00:30:00 -0700

#ilovepoly3D
Last week, we covered a weekly polycule check-in with our KTT. This week, we take our partner check-in to a deeper level for some serious relationship mindfulness. We talk you through our worksheet for a regular deep dive discussion on each of your relationships. This 3D worksheet is intended for partner to partner discussion but works well for anyone with whom you have a relationship. Learn more about yourself, your relationship, and what your future has in store. You get the chance to really check in with your teammate and make sure you have proper alignment and are working toward similar goals and, if not, how to realign.

You can grab your free copy of the 3D worksheet at our Patreon for FREE so you and each of your partners can build on your current relationships with mindfulness and care.

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

KTT: Our relationship check in tool

I Love Poly — Tue, 12 May 2020 00:00:00 -0700

#ilovepolyKTT
Our relationships do best when we are checking in regularly with our partners, and that doesn't mean just asking "hey are things good with us?" because that can be blind siding and unnerving for the unsuspecting partner.

We are talking about doing the sort of weekly check-in that takes a little more effort and forethought. We want to be able to not only discuss our relationship and what's working or not but also let's go over this weeks schedule and meal plan and budget or whatever else works for you and yours.

We have been doing this for a while now and we wanted to make sure we did an episode on how it works for us. We created a pdf document for you to download and use to help you get started with this practice as well. Take what works for you and toss what doesn't and please add in anything you think you could benefit from.

We would also LOVE if you shared pictures of your polycule using the KTT or pictures of a form you like to use or your notes etc. We want to see how you make relationship and polycule check ins work and hopefully our community can learn from each other and get some great ideas! Use #ilovepolyktt to show off your ideas!

If you love our show and appreciate what we do, we would love for you to hit that "follow" or "subscribe" button and even leave us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

Poly And The Pour Method

I Love Poly — Tue, 05 May 2020 00:05:00 -0700

The world is still in a tumultuous state and there's a lot of tough in our lives. It can become super easy to let the bad take over and for us to fall into that pit of negativity, it's easy to become the negativity we are being subjected to on a daily basis. It's this negative influence which sometimes drives us to become stressed or frustrated, to feel like our life is out of control, which is bad news. The good news is we don't have to let it take control of us.

Bella and Monsuta take the time to help show how we can regain our control even in bad situations and how to improve the quality of life we all share experience with. We pour from our cups into yours with a fun life skill which not only provides an opportunity to feel more positive in the moment but also to let that good feeling spread into our relationships, our circles, and our futures

Check out this discussion where we talk about how to feel more fulfilled, how to adjust our filters, and how to help fill those around us using the Pour Method.

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

Amelia Talks Your Poly Off

I Love Poly — Tue, 28 Apr 2020 00:05:00 -0700

Self isolation and quarantining are happening everywhere and many relationships are finding new challenges or changes in dynamics. This is a strange time for the world. Polyamory in particular, is experiencing quite the shift in how relationships are maintained and how we can creatively work through unexpected problems. Starting with this episode, Talk Your Poly Off is kicking off a multi-episode series highlighting ethical non-monogamists and how they are surviving through the Coronavirus pandemic.

We invited Amelia to today's discussion. In addition to Amelia's nesting partner, she's also in another long term relationship, and she is also dating a couple. Today we talk about a number of things including parenting, traumatic experiences and how they shape your life, as well as polyamory beginnings and how messing up does happen but it's okay to learn from life lessons. Come and Talk Your Poly Off with Amelia, the pragmatic and bashful exhibitionist polyamorist in your community.

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

Kiki Talks Your Poly Off

I Love Poly — Tue, 21 Apr 2020 00:05:00 -0700

We invited Kiki to today's discussion. Kiki is the hinge of a V type relationship who lives with both her partners. She has practiced polyamory her entire adult life and brings some insight on long term relationships in the multiple love world and also brings to light what it is to be polyamorous while dating a monogamous partner. Come talk your poly off with Kiki, the nurturing artist polyamorist in your community.

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

Laurel Talks Your Poly Off

I Love Poly — Tue, 14 Apr 2020 00:05:00 -0700

We invited Laurel to today's discussion. She is a solo polyamorist who has spent the last few years really finding who she is and learning how to accept herself, her sexuality, and her community in ways she previously didn't feel she could. Laurel speaks openly about overcoming shame, exploring a swinger lifestyle, and most importantly, her life as a mom who is trying to learn herself. Come talk your poly off with Laurel, the quirky, whimsical polyamorist in your community.

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

Dating During COVID-19

I Love Poly — Tue, 07 Apr 2020 00:05:00 -0700

Basic human connection. We all want it, we all need it, how do we get it...in this day of the coronavirus and social distancing? Bella and Monsuta talk about how to get creative to be with friends, see some familiar faces, and hear some friendly voices. Even more than that, the discussion goes into how to date without breaking self quarantine.

Talk with us and maybe find a way to explore love and dating from a distance to keep your body safe while making your heart happy.

This discussion's resources:
36 Questions In Love
Multiamory
Costco
Big Hero Six
The Trolls Movie

DATING AND CONNECTION APPS
OKCupid
Bicupid
Bumble
Tinder
Grindr
Feeld
Adult Friend Finder
Ashley Madison
Down Dating
#Open
Polyam Date
Replika
Zoom
Skype
Facebook Watch Party
Netflix Party

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

Opening Your Relationship

I Love Poly — Tue, 31 Mar 2020 00:05:00 -0700

In this discussion, we approach ethical non-monogamy from the viewpoint of a couple wanting to open their relationship.

We mentioned we would provide links to resources for those new to and coming into polyamory so here's a list for you:
The books:
More Than Two
Opening Up
The Ethical Slut
The Smart Girl's Guide To Polyamory
The Jealousy Workbook

Articles:
17 Dos and Don'ts Of Open Relationships
Opening Up The Relationship: Moving From Monogamy To Ethical Non-monogamy
10 Tips For Successfully Opening Up
5 Mistakes Couples Make When Trying Polyamory

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

Generational Polyamory

I Love Poly — Tue, 24 Mar 2020 00:05:00 -0700

This episode is not only about polyamory through generations but features a special guest, DJ. DJ is Monsuta's eldest daughter and also a mother of two. She shares her experiences as a child of a practicing nonmonogamist and how it has affected both her view on relationships as well as how it has helped shape her own life. She even allows us the opportunity to learn a little bit of her polyamorous exploration.

Sit and talk with us and listen to how this father and daughter work together to build on their family values, discuss how Bella has joined the picture, and even share some cute stories.

If you love our show and appreciate what we do, we would love for you to hit that "follow" or "subscribe" button and even leave us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to their Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

Coronavirus and Relationship Management

I Love Poly — Fri, 20 Mar 2020 00:00:00 -0700

These are scary and strange times between a fear of catching or passing along a virus to stress and anxiety about being quarantined in your home on lock down without work to pay bills. We wanted to reach out to our polyam fam and tell you that you aren't alone. We are here. Bella is scared, Monsuta is prepared and always her rock and we will get through this together.

How are your relationships in the middle of all of this? What are you doing to nurture each other from a distance? Or how are you staying sane when feeling smothered and stuck together in a small apartment? Let's all remember to reach out and show love. There are so many ways with technology that we can help each other feel connected in isolating times.

Center For Disease Control
World Health Organization
Talk Space
Better Help
The Guardian Article - Self Isolation Survival Guide
Psychology Today - Time Together And Time Apart

Big shoutout to @DropkickMurphys for the St. Paddy concert!

If you love our show and appreciate what we do, we would love for you to hit that "follow" or "subscribe" button and even leave us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to their Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

The Long Division of Emotional Intelligence

I Love Poly — Tue, 10 Mar 2020 00:30:00 -0700

Emotional Intelligence is the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically. This week Bella and Monsuta have a conversation about how we can improve our emotional intelligence skills to be better in our relationships at managing our own emotions and recognizing what others are feeling. Bella decides to take a bath during recording so come join us in the bubbles for a conversation with some take away info that will hopefully be helpful for you just like it was for us.

Social Skills You Weren't Taught In School
13 Things Emotionally Intelligent People Do
5 Skills to Develop Your Emotional Intelligence
Improving Your EI Help Guide
Making Love Last: The Importance of Emotional Intelligence
Emotional Intelligence in Love and Relationships

If you love our show and appreciate what we do, we would love for you to hit that "follow" or "subscribe" button and even leave us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to their Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

Metrics For A Successful Relationship

I Love Poly — Thu, 05 Mar 2020 00:10:00 -0800

What makes a relationship "successful"? How do you measure the success of any of your relationships? Most of us never sit down to consider these things and then when a relationship ends we feel like it "failed", but did it really? I mean do you have great memories? Did you learn a lot from each other? Did you walk away with a great friend? Was the sex fantastic while it lasted? These are all ways to reflect on a relationship and see its success without needing to use the traditional view of time as how to measure success. Monsuta and Bella chat about all this and more.

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The Proof Is In The Poly

I Love Poly — Tue, 03 Mar 2020 01:00:00 -0800

Have you ever felt like you didn't seem to be polyamorous enough? Do you feel like you have to "prove your poly" in order to be accepted? Do you come across as monogamous or have you been out of the poly scene for a while and are feeling like you have a hard time stepping back in? Maybe your family and friends just talk about your lifestyle as a phase. Whatever may be making you feel like your "poly cred" is lacking, come talk your poly off with us and perhaps we can help with that struggle of needing to prove your poly in your life.

If you love our show and appreciate what we do, we would love for you to hit that "follow" or "subscribe" button and even leave us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to their Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!

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Let's Talk About Sex, Poly Style

I Love Poly — Tue, 25 Feb 2020 00:00:00 -0800

Sex and polyamory... they aren't always connected yet often times when someone finds out you're polyam their first thought is "oh so you have tons of orgies?!" and while that might be something you're into it isn't the default just because you're polyamorous.

A healthy sex life, for people choosing to have sex as part of their dynamic, is a great way to connect on a intimate level with your partner. On this weeks episode we talk about all the important things leading up to sex including consent, boundaries, sexual health and sti prevention. All of that leading up to some discussion on fantasies and foreplay and a few giggles from Bella.

* Please remember we are not medical professionals so please see your physician for medical advice. We hope we can help you open that discussion with partners and take the next steps but by no means are we giving you medical advice.*

CDC STI Prevention Recommendations
WebMD STI Prevention Strategies
Kamala Devi's Relationship Agreement contract

Private Web Browsing with DuckDuckGo
Porn Hub

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PSA - Schedule Change

I Love Poly — Sat, 22 Feb 2020 16:00:00 -0800

We know you love our show and appreciate what we do and would appreciate feeling that love, so we are asking if you would show that love by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and even leave us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us which helps us share the love. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and also join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!

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Using C Words- Competition, Comparison, Compersion, Compassion

I Love Poly — Mon, 17 Feb 2020 00:00:00 -0800

There are so many "C" words we love and talk about...communication, community, cooperation, etc. but what we wanted to focus on the most in this episode are competition, comparison, compersion, and compassion. What do each of these mean and how do they affect our relationships? Bella and Monsuta cover some tips and tricks and what's worked and not worked for them and their relationships. Listen in for some Bella giggles, some heartfelt Monsutisms, and some overall education.

Special Shout-out to
The Last Boy Scout, the 1991 Bruce Willis and Damon Wayans action movie
Rachel Hollis and The Hollis Co. For always being Bella's inspiration
Kevin Hart for being such a romantic
Renegades Bar and Grill in Vancouver Washington for being wonderful supporters of our community!

10 Ways We Hurt Our Romantic Relationships
Relationship Or Rivalry, Are You In A Competitive Relationship
The Psychology Of Competition
The Right Way To Channel Your Competitive Streak
7 Signs You're In A Competitive Relationship
Competition In Multiple Loving Relationships
Stop Comparing Your Relationships
Why Comparing Your Relationships Is The Easiest Way To Make Them Fail
7 Ways Comparing Your Relationship To Someone Else's Is Toxic
How To Cure The New And Shiny Syndrome
Jealousy And Compersion With Multiple Partners
A Polyamorous Principle That Can Strengthen Any Relationship
Compassion

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Valentine's Day & Polyamory

I Love Poly — Mon, 10 Feb 2020 00:00:00 -0800

Valentine's Day, a day of love. Isn't every day a day full of love when you're polyamorous? Some of us don't like being told by a holiday when we should love someone. Others take the day as an extra special reminder to appreciate those we love. However you look at it we all have to manage our relationships a bit differently when it comes to this time of year.

Do you plan in advance to avoid Feb 14th or do you discuss your expectations at all making sure nobody is let down? We talk about all of this and then some in this weeks episode so tune in!

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Parenting In Polyamory, part 2

I Love Poly — Mon, 03 Feb 2020 01:00:00 -0800

Monsuta has raised three children to adulthood and has three grandchildren. He has been open about polyamory to his children early on.
Lili is a mom of younger children and is navigating through poly parenting post divorce.
Bella has never had children of her own but has come into relationships where her partners have children.
We use our combined experiences to discuss the broad discussion of poly parenting from three unique perspectives as we work through this discussion.

Find Poly writes about Polyamorous Parenting
Polyamorous Parenting from Polyamorous Living
The Surprise Benefits Of Polyamorous Parenting from Today's Parent
Stepping Through is a website loaded with nonbiological parent resources
Child Custody Issues For Polyamorous Families from Psychology Today

Though we didn't discuss the article in our episodes, Kamala Devi writes a great piece about polyamorous parenting

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Parenting in Polyamory, part 1

I Love Poly — Mon, 27 Jan 2020 01:00:00 -0800

Though we didn't discuss the article in our episodes, Kamala Devi writes a great piece about polyamorous parenting

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Happy Anniversary!

I Love Poly — Mon, 20 Jan 2020 01:00:00 -0800

We've had such a roller coaster ride in our first year of bringing Talk Your Poly off to our listeners and we are so glad to have taken the time to do this show! In this episode, we do a year-in-review to reflect on where we've been and take the time to discuss how we've grown because of this poly-podcast journey. We don't just point out favorite episodes, we also show how we've grown as polyamory practitioners thanks to our discussions here so you can see how we are practicing what we're preaching.

Thank you all for spending this year with us and we look forward to many more with you and with new friends joining our discussion circle in 2020 and beyond!

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Surprising Your Partner

I Love Poly — Mon, 13 Jan 2020 01:00:00 -0800

Monsuta shares some saucy details of his birthday party, including some sexy nude oil wrestling. He shares his experience with an intimate gift created by loved ones. Bella explains how she came up with the ideas for this event and how she brought it all together.
All of these scandalous and sordid stories lead directly into the topic of discussion this week on how to plan surprise parties for partners in polyamorous relationships, along with some of the obstacles poly folks encounter while making special time for lovers.

(No polyamorists were harmed in the making of this birthday party) :)

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Getting To Know The Person In The Mirror

I Love Poly — Mon, 06 Jan 2020 01:00:00 -0800

The key component to your polyamorous life, even more than honesty and communication, the one thing you can't practice polyamory without...is YOU!
Learning who you are, how you work, and what motivates you is a truly fundamental aspect of how you will maneuver through a life of relationships and love. Many tests exist out in the world of the internet to help you figure yourself out a little bit and we at Talk Your Poly Off have started the path of self exploration with you by taking some of the more prominent tests available (which we have linked just below).
In this discussion, we share our results and feelings around some of these quizzes. We also try to help you understand what these tests even means and how they might apply to you in your search for personal awareness. Everything from how you love to how you get your kink on!

Please visit our social media posts or inboxes and share any of your results you'd like to share, let's talk!

The tests we took are as follows:
The Five Love Languages
The 16 Personalities - (Myers Briggs)
Relationship Attachment Style
Apology Style
Anger Style
BDSM Test (this is a sexual test, take with care)
Sex Personality Type
Enneagram Test

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Resolutions For 2020

I Love Poly — Mon, 30 Dec 2019 01:00:00 -0800

Bella, Monsuta, and Lili come together to discuss that magical thing which happens at the beginning of each new year....the resolution! Whether you enjoy them or turn a nose up at them, resolutions play a big part in our society. Sure, not everyone sticks to them and many fall to the wayside but there's so many which do take hold and so many people make changes for the better!
We are open to change and committing to a fun way of change, like resolutions can be a good time! We talk about how to increase success in resolutions, how to manage these changes, who personal resolutions may affect and how to handle that, we even work to find ways of changing or exploring life without the use of resolutions!

CNN's Resolutions Wisdom
10 Ways To Keep Your Resolutions
10 Unusual New Year Resolutions
Alternatives to the Resolutions
Rachel Hollis Hopes You Fail

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Poly Holidays

I Love Poly — Mon, 23 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800

The holiday season is tough for everyone in different ways and even in a monogamous life there are challenges, how do those challenges differ for those of us in the polyamorous life?

The holidays are such a special and magical time for Bella so this episode was extra fun to make for all of you, our polyam fam <3. While our holidays may differ from yours or you might have beliefs that your partners don't, we can all still come together and celebrate love.

If you can find a way to overcome the craziness of family, travel, and finances etc. and make the holiday season something that works for you and yours, it'll be a special no matter what.

Monsuta even ends the episode with a Shia LaBeouf style tangent about just living!

We wish you the best and happiest of seasons as we wrap up the 2019 holiday season. Merry Christmas from all of us here at Talk Your Poly Off <3

Things we also mentioned in this episode...
The Village People
Star Wars
AMC A-List Movie Club
Pittock Mansion
The Grotto
Sock Dreams

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Year End Performance Reviews

I Love Poly — Mon, 16 Dec 2019 01:00:00 -0800

Reviews are an aspect of measuring team members in the workplace. When done properly, they provide insight on areas where team members have improved, where the business relationship needs work, and provide marker points for conscious development. Goals and benchmarks help enhance the success of the company.

When it comes to romantic relationships, just like the workplace, people want to see and measure the success of the relationship which is a lot of the reason why relationship escalators are common, but how many people actively evaluate aspects of their relationship beyond the escalator? What happens when you have a relationship which doesn't follow the escalator model?

Regular check-ins are great for day to day but is that enough? In this episode, Monsuta, Bella, and Lili enhance check-ins by discussing how an annual review of all your relationships might be just the thing you need to build and maintain stronger bonds; with yourself, your partners or polycule, and even your community.

Additional Resources:
More Than Two by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert
Relationship strategist, Denise Onofrey

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Fresh Eyes on Polyamory

I Love Poly — Mon, 09 Dec 2019 01:00:00 -0800

One aspect of the polyamory world, especially in our technology age, is how much more ethical nonmonogamy has become and how much it has grown to be more accepted thanks to a more open minded society and tools like the internet. Because of this, people new to the nonmonogamy culture join our communities on a daily basis. Today, Monsuta interviews Lili, a mom recently out of a fifteen year marriage who has found polyamory. In our discussion, we take a look at how this subculture of sexual and romantic openness looks from someone just walking in.

Our shout-outs today are to:
The Multiamory podcast who provide excellent education on nonmonogamy
The book More Than Two, written by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert
The Ethical Slut, written by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
and The Smart Girl's Guide To Polyamory, written by Dedeker Winston

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Let's Spend The Night Together

I Love Poly — Mon, 02 Dec 2019 00:55:00 -0800

One of the daily practices of managing polyamory is where we sleep in a world of multiple partners. Who gets to sleep together and when is alone time essential? We discuss the benefits and pitfalls of sleeping alone versus sleeping with a partner. We also try to piece together how to successfully sleep in a bed with multiple partners and basic overall logistics behind multiple bedroom arrangements.
As with many of our episodes, this week gives food for thought, not just for a polyamorous home but also for monogamous couples.

We are also providing some additional resources to help you make your own opinions on the discussion of sleeping with or without people:
www.thelittlethings.com on The Benefits of Sleeping Alone
www.lifehealth.com on The Benefits of Sleeping With a Loved One
www.theatlantic.com on Why We Sleep Together
bettersleep.org on Why Couples Sleep Apart

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Thankfulness

I Love Poly — Wed, 27 Nov 2019 02:00:00 -0800

Surprise! Happy thankfulness day! Bella and Monsuta are both so thankful for the community which has grown from this podcast that they had to get out a surprise episode on the subject of gratefulness.

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Just A Small Town Poly

I Love Poly — Mon, 25 Nov 2019 00:30:00 -0800

Small towns and cities are vastly different environments, both physically and culturally. These differences are especially prevalent when it comes to polyamory. We take a moment to examine some of these differences and how a polyamorist might navigate through each environment.

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On Loss And Grief

I Love Poly — Mon, 18 Nov 2019 02:00:00 -0800

This show is dedicated with love to Tatianna Gwynne, a wonderful girl with a shiny soul who has left this world too soon. You are missed every day.

We are never prepared for loss and, despite what schedule we prefer to keep, the unexpected does happen and when it does, you find your life turning upside down. We take this episode to help figure out how to process the loss of a close friend and discuss how grief affects a polyamory life.

Our resources for you this week:
The Five Stages Of Grief: An Examination Of The Kubler-Ross Model
How To Cope With Loss And Pain
Coping With Grief And Loss
7 Tips For Supporting A Partner After A Devastating Loss

Apps and Websites For Therapy:
Better Help
Online-Therapy.com
TalkSpace
7Cups
Online Therapist Directory

Substance Abuse Prevention Assistance and Awareness:
Addiction Recovery Now
Substance Abuse And Mental Health Service Administration
Government Directed Substance Abuse and Mental Health Treatment Resources
How To Help A Drug Addict

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Tips for Direct Intentional Communication

I Love Poly — Mon, 11 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0800

Let's talk DIC, Direct Intentional Communication and how it affects our relationships. Monsuta and Bella role play some scenarios you might find yourself in when it comes to relationships, especially polyamorous relationships, and how we mess them up with vague communication and how to better them with DIRECT communication. We talk about a few take away tips to improve your communication and talk about some common pitfalls we've all done. Join in the conversation about how we can all improve our DIC.

Don't forget to check out our new Patreon page if you're interested in those bonus episodes! https://www.patreon.com/ilovepoly

And check out PDX Scene Magazine's shop for the November issue with the Dad-Bod Dudoir photo shoot!
https://pdxscene-magazine.square.site/

Here are a few of the people and sites we mentioned in the episode as well as additional resources we came across:
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/10-communication-problems-and-mistakes-we-all-make-0919157
https://bthechange.com/5-tips-to-communicate-more-effectively-ed3a11405bda
https://www.forbes.com/sites/nickmorgan/2015/04/21/how-to-communicate-intentionally/#7ec50972715c
https://www.tonyrobbins.com/ultimate-relationship-guide/key-communication-relationships/
https://www.goodtherapy.org/therapists/profile/susan-heitler-20071114
http://clubprivata.com/
https://www.skunkbrothersspirits.com/
An essay on Intentional and Unintentional Features of Communication

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Ego in Relationships

I Love Poly — Mon, 04 Nov 2019 02:00:00 -0800

Check out these awesome resources!
Ego and Pride: How Does It Really Affect Our Lives
25 Ways To Kill The Toxic Ego That Will Ruin Your Life
How To Kill Your Ego

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Polyween!

I Love Poly — Mon, 28 Oct 2019 02:00:00 -0700

Direct links to the podcasts we enjoy:
LORE
My Favorite Murder
And That's Why We Drink
Monstrosity
The Creeping Hour
Two Girls One Ghost
Sword And Scale

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Compassion Is Action with Heart

I Love Poly — Mon, 21 Oct 2019 01:00:00 -0700

Coming from a place of compassion when it comes to relationships and the world around us, is a powerful tool. Learn how to improve your communication by adding more compassion.

In this weeks episode we approach communication from a compassionate place. Where would our relationships be if we could remember to put ourselves in their shoes and listen to understand? We cover the differences between sympathy, empathy, and compassion and give you 8 tips for improving your compassionate communication.

Here are our resources or sites we found useful during our research:
Tips To Master Compassionate Communication
8 Ways To Practice Compassion For A Healthier And Stronger Relationship
Ways To Be Compassionate In A Relationship
How Cultivate More Self Compassion
Dr. Kristin Neff Self Compassion

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Accountability

I Love Poly — Mon, 14 Oct 2019 03:00:00 -0700

Bella and Monsuta take accountability on this episode. They discuss how taking accountability improves not just your relationships with partners but also how it helps you grow as a person.

Resources for our polyam fam.
How To Improve Accountability by Insperity
Responsibility Vs Accountability from Partners In Leadership
The Importance of Accountability In Your Relationships by Flourish Counseling
Is Your Partner Holding You Accountable or Just Taking Inventory by Vicki Tidwell Palmer

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Personal Boundaries

I Love Poly — Mon, 07 Oct 2019 03:00:00 -0700

Discussion revolving around boundaries and some aspects, including preferences, compromise, soft limits, hard limits, rules, and codependency.

Walk The Walk With Your Self Talk

I Love Poly — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 03:00:00 -0700

They say we are our own worst critic, they say we are our own worst judge, they're right. But what if we could actually flip the script on our inner dialogue and change the way we treat ourselves? How could our life change if we talked to ourselves like we talked to a loved one, a friend, or someone else in need of support? In this episode, Bella and Monsuta dig into the aspects of internal monologue and the effects of how we speak to ourselves in an attempt to understand how the spectrum from negative to positive self talk can affect not just ourselves but also our partners and how we can use self talk to improve various aspects of our life.

We referenced Wikipedia when describing Internal Monologue. You can find that page here.

This week, we recommend exploring the works of life coaches Brendon Burchard and Bella's "favorite people" Rachel and Dave Hollis.
We would like to give honorable mention to Mr. Brad Pitt for being a great influence with his words and actions.

Additional materials for your internal dialogue journey, here are some mindful 'road maps':
Cognitive Behavior Therapy
Dialectical Behavior Therapy
Neuro-linguistic Programming (link provided from Medical News Today as it discusses from a non-biased point of view and offers a logical and analytical view of NLP, we wanted to provide education with this link rather than a link from a NLP course advertiser).

You can read more about some of the fun stuff we brought up this week here:
The Pygmalion Effect
The Golem Effect
Self Fulfilling Prophecies
Even the horse- Clever Hans

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Emergency Check In

I Love Poly — Mon, 23 Sep 2019 03:00:00 -0700

Hey there Polyam fam, our regularly scheduled episode has been pushed out due to a medical emergency. We didn't want to leave you hanging so we had a discussion on one method to help partners in a struggle, processing emotions through a move, and even gave a little homework for all of you.
Please forgive the raw, unedited episode and thank you for understanding. Love you all and we promise, next week we will get back to our regularly scheduled programming!

Polyamory Camping Break

I Love Poly — Mon, 16 Sep 2019 03:00:00 -0700

This time around, we take a break from discussing big topics and instead, share some great experiences we made over the weekend on a camping trip with folks in our polyamory community, including some fun and cheeky shenanigans.
This episode is dedicated to George the Salamander, our unofficial mascot of the Raab campgrounds and to his friend, the Blue Jay and the Chipmunk.

Check out the Bagby Hot Springs

Also, here's a couple games for you if they aren't in your collection yet:
Fluxx
Red Flags

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Self Care In Your Underwear

I Love Poly — Mon, 09 Sep 2019 03:00:00 -0700

Episode 23 falls on a special day for Monsuta as this is the 30th birthday from his shooting (sure, call it an anniversary if you feel so inclined). For his 30th birthday, we will celebrate with a full and in-depth conversation about self-care and making sure you're writing the best story for the main character of your life (spoiler warning....it's YOU).
*Happy birthday Monsuta!*

Taking care of yourself is a crucial aspect of polyamory. This is the first step for taking care of partners, metas, or anyone close to you. With a positive self care program, you will be confident and strong enough to take on the world and come out on top.

Here's some fun links for you:
Thank you Psych Central for providing our definition this week.
Also, thanks to Forbes for making sure readers knew taking care of yourself is important.

HERE'S SOME MORE INFORMATION FOR SELF CARE
From The Laws Of Attraction website.
From the University Of Buffalo, school of social work.
Andre Shakti discusses self care on the Find Poly Blog.
You can read about 5 Self-Care Practices For Every Area Of Your Life at Very Well Mind.
And please, check out Helpful Affirmations for Polyamorous People Struggling with Self Judgement at Every Day Feminism

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Processing Emotions and Feelings

I Love Poly — Mon, 02 Sep 2019 03:00:00 -0700

Bella and Monsuta ride some great feels and intimate lows (but not a new motorcycle, there is no new motorcycle) to playfully discuss the serious business of processing emotions and feelings.

Processing can be extremely difficult and doing it alone may not always be the best option. If you would like to find a therapist to help you work through some of the difficulties of your life, you can search your local phone directory, get a referral from a loved one, do a web search, or even try finding one here.

As promised in the episode, here are some links to help each of our polyam fam build on processing skills. As always, we sincerely hope our discussion and our vulnerability provides you the space to open up and to grow in beautiful ways. If this is how our episodes affect you, please share your growth with us if you'd like to shout to the world on how you've evolved into a more capable loving human being, we can keep you as anonymous as you'd like. You can send an email to podcast@ilovepoly.org

FIRST - Our Shoutouts:
Joseph Gordon-Levitt, movie star and mastermind behind the show HitRecord, has jumped into the podcasting world with his new show, Creative Processing which can be found on multiple podcast platforms. In his first episode, director Rian Johnson says something which blows Monsuta's mind.

We discussed The Feeling Good Handbook by David D. Burns, M.D. and you can purchase this book HERE.

We also momentarily discussed the 9 Step Process to Processing Your Emotions from the book The Wisdom Of The Enneagram, written by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Emotional Intelligence Toolkit
How To Process Your Emotions
How To Use Your Emotions To Build Relationships That Work
Helpful Versus Harmful: Ways To Manage Emotions
Processing Emotions And Learning To Tolerate Painful Feelings
Move From Rumination To Healthy Emotional Processing
A 3 Step Model To Help Your Client Process Through Difficult Feelings And Emotions
How Practicing Mindfulness Changes Your Life, In Non-Vague Terms
We also discussed the 5 Stages Of Grief.

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My Guilt And My Shame

I Love Poly — Mon, 26 Aug 2019 03:00:00 -0700

Monsuta and Bella dive deeper into their personal experiences with guilt and shame as well as how each emotion affects their ability to operate within relationships and with life, in general. Guilt is one of the difficult emotions to feel and to process in any relationship so we really dissect this emotion in ways to understand how it works and how it is a guiding factor in life.
As promised in the episode, here are some links to help each of our polyam fam understand and accept guilt in order to help each of us learn this tricky feeling so we can guide it rather than have it guide us. As always, we sincerely hope our discussion and our vulnerability provides you the space to open up and to grow in beautiful ways. If this is how our episodes affect you, please share your growth with us if you'd like to shout to the world on how you've evolved into a more capable loving human being, we can keep you as anonymous as you'd like. You can send an email to podcast@ilovepoly.org

FIRST - Our Shoutouts:
Slipknot and their song, SULFUR
Kara Lowentheil and her podcast, UNF*CK YOUR BRAIN
Learn more about F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W.
Bella mentioned the 18 Synonyms For Guilt, which you can find here

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Feeling Guilty at #PsychCentral
5 Tips For Dealing With Guilt
Good Therapy's Take On Guilt
WebMD On Guilt
Psychology Today's Take On Guilt
As Well As Jeffry S. Nevid's Views
Yoga Journal's Views
Even catch F. Diane Barth's article on Psychology Today here

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An Episode Of Lists

I Love Poly — Mon, 19 Aug 2019 03:00:00 -0700

Bella and Monsuta each take time to discuss five skills they've developed to better their relationships, from direct communication to guilt management. They both also share three skills they are seeking to improve. Is there anything on heir lists which struck home for you? Let your hosts know by email (address is below).

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Chatting Over Cheese

I Love Poly — Mon, 12 Aug 2019 03:00:00 -0700

This week is a special, 'cozy up to your hosts' kind of week where you get to learn a little about us. We talk about the things we like, share some feelings about polyamory, and even walk down memory lane a time or two.
Take the opportunity to connect back through our Facebook page, specifically the post where you get to share a song with meaning to you.

Speaking of songs, we talk about the time we met with the band HAIL SAGAN and how cool they are. You can hit up their Facebook Page here.

Bella would like to give a shout-out to "And That's Why We Drink", a couple of awesome podcasters who entertain her through the week with their true crime show. #ATWWD

Finally, for those of you listening, Monsuta chose to use Fennel Phil as this episode's picture so you can see what Bella saw in the kitchen.

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Solo Polyamory With Katie

I Love Poly — Mon, 05 Aug 2019 03:00:00 -0700

An aspect of Polyamory is solo practice, polyamory which doesn't necessarily ride the relationship escalator. Another polyamory practice is relationship anarchy in which a person doesn't subscribe to traditional labels and standards of what a relationship "should" be. Today, Katie, a practicing soloist and anarchist, discusses polyamory with us from a different perspective.

Today's definition of a relationship anarchist came in part from THE CUT's article on the topic, written by Katie Heaney.

Our definition of solo polyamory was quoted from a portion of the Psychology Today article written by Elizabeth A. Sheff Ph.D., CSE

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Unpacking Emotional Baggage

I Love Poly — Mon, 29 Jul 2019 03:00:00 -0700

Emotional baggage, we've all got it, we don't always want it, so what do we do with it? This week, Bella and Monsuta take some time to give your life luggage the Marie Kondo treatment. We share how to be aware of the excess and what to do with it, as well as what to get rid of.

Some of the resources we utilized while packing this episode:
Dr. Seth Myers and the 3 basic signs of emotional baggage
Chris Hart and the Five Steps
The Emotional Baggage Check website

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Riding The Relationship Escalator

I Love Poly — Mon, 22 Jul 2019 03:00:00 -0700

This week is a rollercoaster of relationship discussion as Bella and Monsuta talk our poly off about the infamous relationship escalator and what it means. We bring up milestones of a partnership, mindfulness in navigating this deepness of connection, what it all means for your future and even take the time to look back on it all.

www.polysingleish.com
“Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life” by Amy Gahran

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The New Relationship Energy Factor

I Love Poly — Mon, 15 Jul 2019 07:00:00 -0700

You know those feelings you get when you first start dating someone and everything about them is perfect and you just can't get enough time with them? That's new relationship energy and it is not only a big factor in your non-monogamous journey but also a widely common phenomenon. So we take some time to try understanding this addictive experience in an attempt to build healthily from it.

Check out these bonus links to get a feel for these feels.
Thoughts on NRE from Zhahai Stewart
and
7 Tips to Making NRE Last

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We Crush Your Head

I Love Poly — Mon, 08 Jul 2019 07:00:00 -0700

A common phenomenon which happens in the polyamory circles is developing and feeling crushes. The harmless little feels you catch when someone new comes into your world. We dig deep into them to help get an understanding of why we have them and what impact even these little feels can have on our world.

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The Good, The Bad, And The Ugly- A Dinner Discussion

I Love Poly — Mon, 01 Jul 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Bella and Monsuta take advantage of a lightning storm to discuss the best....and worst...personality traits they bring to a relationship while Monsuta makes dinner in the dark.
In this episode, we look into the abyss of what a person brings to the relationship table, both good and bad, and how to handle these traits in one's self and with one's partner.

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Self Care and Polyamory

ilovepoly.org — Mon, 24 Jun 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Monsuta is knee deep in comic books while he and Bella delve into the subject of self care. Each host shares different methods of self care.
We even get a surprise guest appearance from the son of Monsuta who engages fully into this episode.

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Long Distance Relationships

I Love Poly — Mon, 29 Apr 2019 07:00:00 -0700

We welcome our guest host Peaches so we can all talk our poly off about long distance relationships. Peaches and Monsuta are long distance partners who bring real world experience to this episode and Bella provides insights from the outside, looking in.
We realized toward the end of this recording, we could not capture enough of the LDR relationship dynamic in one episode so we will be airing periodic updates to this episode as the three of us are together.

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Deeper Relationship Connections

I Love Poly — Mon, 22 Apr 2019 07:00:00 -0700

#NormalizeLove
This episode, we decide to get into bed to record this episode. The bed is a more intimate environment which helps us discuss the vulnerable topics of deepening our connections with people we care about for stronger emotional bonds. We share our love languages and discuss how to use the five languages to know your loved ones better.
We also highlight how sexuality or sensuality can bring more profound aspects of relationship to light and even get a little mushy while doing it, because emotional intimacy is a beautiful thing.

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Poly Kinkery

I Love Poly — Mon, 15 Apr 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Today's (slightly longer) episode is about kink, what kink is, safety practices for getting your kink on, and how kink and polyamory co-exist. We will talk about sexy stuff like power exchange dynamics and fetishes and will discuss responsible things like safety and negotiation. So, pull up a seat and let's get sexy.

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3 Tips For Deeper Connections

I Love Poly — Sun, 07 Apr 2019 18:00:00 -0700

Bella's struggles in flirting helps us discuss how to improve our communication skills for stronger connections and more security within ourselves so we can provide ourselves and each other a healthier, more confident life.
We talk through three steps of personal growth:
1. Live like birds
2. Active thought awareness
3. Tearing down (and keeping down) the walls.

This episode is dedicated in loving memory to Monsuta's dear friend and brother, Garth Brinson, a true practitioner of these three steps and a loving friend.

08/09/1966 to 04/06/2019
I love you brother and you will be missed.

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Choosing Whether Or Not To Be Out With Polyamory

I Love Poly — Tue, 02 Apr 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Levels of being out

Total secret (100% closed doors)
Partial out (maybe in friend circles but generally not family or work)
Totally out (shouting from the rooftops)

How open are you?

Social media - relationship status, tagging, sharing pictures
Public outings - Running into friends, family, co-workers, and the like
Family events

Deciding when, how and whom to come out to is quite the challenge and there are a lot of resources for you out there. Here are our 4 basic tips to help get you started...

Bring your partners around your family/friends early. Introduce them however you are comfortable at the time but let your family/friends get to know them as a person BEFORE they make snap judgements of them as a partner.
Talk about Polyamory and explain WHAT it means to you. (When I first mentioned it to my mom she assumed it was always swinger parties with keys in a bowl.)
Explain WHY you are choosing to be polyamorous. Explain your abundance in love and how you aren’t using it as an excuse to cheat etc.
Be OPEN to questions and feedback. Understand that everyone may not support you right away. Be patient and answer their questions and give them time.

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Jealousy, The Green Eyed Monster

I Love Poly — Mon, 25 Mar 2019 07:00:00 -0700

Jealousy & envy are both feelings most of us have at some point or another. J is the fear of losing something you already have while envy is wanting something you don't have. Both of these feelings are similar to to other universal feelings.

Throughout our research, studies suggest there are 5 universal feelings across cultures (fear, happiness, anger, shame, sadness) and all the extra feelings we have can typically be put into one of these categories.
There are 3 levels to jealousy which explains why we go so frantic
- We believe we need something external to be happy
- We can't guarantee keeping what we have
- If someone else gets it, they’re better than us
Thought work on how to change the negative thought that are creating the feeling of jealousy or envy.

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The Meta Game Of Dating

I Love Poly — Mon, 18 Mar 2019 07:00:00 -0700

We have made it to the date, let's talk about how to move through the first date.

Are you going to date alone? Are you looking to date with a partner as a couple?

What do each of these look like?

How soon do you discuss poly, how much do you discuss poly or your other partners?

If the date goes into building some kind of relationship, how much do you date before potentially introducing the new person to your polycule?

Providing you do poly from an involved standpoint, when to introduce? How does that look?

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Tips On Getting Out There

I Love Poly — Sat, 09 Mar 2019 15:15:00 -0800

You've decided to open yourself up for relationships but, where to start? Bella and Monsuta take some time to discuss options and provide tips on how to get out there, whether you're trying to meet in person or have a chance to meet online. From bar hopping to meetups, social events to dating apps- we help wingman for connection.

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Just What The Doctor Ordered

I Love Poly — Sat, 02 Mar 2019 00:10:00 -0800

Our dear friend JJ joins Bella and Monsuta as we discuss physical and mental health and how it affects how we poly. WE go in depth on obstacles we face with health issues, how we get support from partners and friends, and what these issues do to our schedules and time.

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I Have Questions

I Love Poly — Sat, 02 Feb 2019 19:00:00 -0800

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Welcome To Polyamory

I Love Poly — Sat, 19 Jan 2019 18:39:00 -0800

Welcome all of our polyam fam to the premiere episode of our discussion podcast, Talk Your Poly off.

Meet your hostess with the mostest, Bella, along with her partner who has a face made for radio, Monsuta! In this first discussion, we will jump into what polyamory is and how we got into it. Pull up a chair, take a load off, and talk your poly off with us.

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