In this episode we’ll look back at the last two and a half years of NKCR - all the way from Nicole’s pitch to Kate to start to podcast in mid-2021, to how some of our first episodes were a bit rocky, and finally, why we’ve decided to take a hiatus - at least for now…

Points Discussed in this Episode

• NKCR has been going strong since July 2021!
• Nicole’s “pitch” to Kate to start the podcast back in June 2021
• The time commitment we’ve given to NKCR 
• Looking back to our first few episodes and how much we’ve grown together
• Why we’ve decided to take a hiatus - at least for now
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Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we talk about What’s next for Nicole and Kate?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for all of our episodes - including future updates! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own “year in review” as a fun way to close out 2023 on a high note! 

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Recapping as a way to appreciate and recognize everything you’ve accomplished 
• BIG news for NKCR and what’s next 
• Nicole shares her year in review
• Kate shares her year in review

Mentioned in this episode: 

NKCR Ep 120: How do you do an annual review?

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What does your year in review look like?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with saying no and why we think it’s one of the most empowering - and respectful - things you can do.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• When do you find it most difficult to say no? 
• Don’t put pressure on yourself to answer right away; give yourself space to think about it
• The regret and resentment you feel when you say ‘yes’ - you’re doing that to yourself 
• Saying no to a request, but providing an alternative in order to still be supportive
• Anytime you say yes to something, you’re saying no to everything else
• Saying no as a sign of respect - for yourself and for the person asking
• 3 ways to say no, without actually saying no

Mentioned in this episode: 

How to Say No by Judd Antin

NKCR Ep 99: What are the different ways you can give back?

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Wish you could say ‘no’ more often?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share exactly how you can make this happen! It’s called the “Preloaded Year”, and we break down the format, how to get started, and why this exercise is so incredibly powerful.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• What is The Preloaded Year? 
• Creating a strong foundation to help you attain your ideal lifestyle
• The format of The Preloaded Year
  1. Starting with the bigger, mission critical commitments you don’t want to miss
  2. Then, revenue milestones (or could be budgeting goals)
  3. Next, combine with your partner / other family members
  4. Finally, stick to it!
• Allow for breathing room
• This exercise allows you to take a step back and say “What’s really important to me?”

Mentioned in this episode: 

NKCR Ep 112: Have you ever done a time audit?
Dale Beaumont: Business Blueprint
Dan Martell: How To Strategically Plan Your Year To Fit Everything In

Will Wang: Growth Labz

Google Spreadsheet: Make a copy and start filling in your year!

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How do you strategically plan your entire year?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

When this episode goes live we know the holidays will already be in full swing, but we couldn’t help recording a chat to share our own holiday preparations and traditions!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Spring is in the air for Nicole! 
• The holiday “work” season
• Our favorite holiday preparations
• Holiday traditions, including the delicious food, treats, decorations, and time with family!
• Our plans this holiday season

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What are your favorite holiday traditions?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with choosing a word of the year and just how powerful it has been for us when it comes to accomplishing our goals and keeping our focus.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Where we first learned about the ‘word of the year’ exercise 
• The impact of choosing a word of the year 
• The words we’ve chosen in past years 
• The words we’re choosing for 2024 

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What’s your ‘word of the year’ for 2024?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share why we feel so strongly about declaring your rules of life, plus share our original rules of life, which ones we’ve eliminated, and ones we’ve added!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• “Rules” can be interchangeable with whatever resonates with you (goals, values, etc)
• We revisit our existing Rules of Life 
• We share some new rules we’ve both added! 
• How fun and fulfilling this exercise can be - and how helpful it is!

Mentioned in this episode: 

NKCR Ep 75: What are your rules of life?

NKCR Ep 97: Are we living up to our rules of life?

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Outlive by Peter Attia MD

Live to 100: Secrets of the Blue Zones: Netflix documentary series

Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Have you declared your rules of life yet?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with doing an annual review, including the questions we ask ourselves and how the answers help us prepare for the year ahead.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• The importance of regular check-in’s throughout the year 
• KPI’s and Nicole’s belief that what gets measured gets managed 
• Questions to ask yourself during an annual review 
• The time commitment and a sample flow for doing an annual review
• The many different ways you can conduct an annual review (everyone is different!)

Here are some questions/prompts for doing your own annual review!

Personal Review:

• What do I want to accomplish?
• How do I want this year to be different than last year?
• What did I love doing?
• What were some of my biggest wins this past year?
• What didn't I like doing?
• What did not work well for me?
• What did I waste time on?
• Why did I follow through with one goal I set but not another?
• What's important to me?
• What was my word of the year for last year, or for the current year?
• What do I want my word to be moving forward?
• What did I not do this year that I wanted to do? Why didn't I do it?
• What's going to lead my year next year?
• Did I read enough books?
• Did I dedicate the time to personal development?
• Did I dedicate sufficient time to self-care?
• How did I show up for myself?
• How did I show up for my friends?

Business Review:

• What worked? (can be against KPIs or metrics)
• What didn't work?
• What do I want to do differently next year?
• What am I doing that is impacting the bottom line or pushing business goals forward?

Reflecting on your role in the business:

• What did I enjoy doing? 
• What's fun for me? 
• What do I absolutely not like doing and do I have to keep doing it? Or can I find another way to get that thing done? 
• What's not essential that I can stop doing?

Mentioned in this episode: 

NKCR Ep 112: Have you ever done a time audit?

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How do you do an annual review?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with motivation - specifically how we use our values and build momentum as ways to keep our motivation strong.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation
• What do you do when you’re feeling unmotivated?
• The importance of being clear about your values
• Important questions to ask yourself when faced with something you don’t want to do
• How our circumstances affect motivation
• The importance of momentum
• Is procrastination laziness, or is it a sign that you care?

Mentioned in this episode: 

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How do you stay motivated?

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In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with getting outside of our comfort zone and what it has taught us about confidence, mindset, and more!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• The idea that trying new things sometimes has to be “learned” or practiced
• The ease of trying new things when you’re younger versus older 
• What is the value of getting outside of your comfort zone and trying new things? 
• New things we’ve tried - and loved! 
• How important your mindset is when going into trying new things
• Making a decision about something based on an experience, not just an assumption
• What do you have to lose?
• The power of consistent learning

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How often do you get outside of your comfort zone to try new things?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with having multiple friend circles - their purpose, why some friend circles are stronger (or last longer) than others, and whether it's critical to keep multiple friend circles intact.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• How friend circles are oftentimes created out of circumstance
• How travel and your activities or hobbies influence your friend circles 
• Lifelong friend circles versus purely circumstantial friend circles 
• How shared experiences can create stronger, deeper friendships
• Is having multiple friendship circles necessary?
• Surrounding yourself with friends who are on the same or similar path as you - or who have been where you are going

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What is the importance of having multiple friend circles?

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In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with the Barbie movie, including our thoughts on the many themes, references, and the ending monologue on being a woman.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Our rating of the movie overall on a scale of 1 - 10 
• The opening scene: How this sets the movie up
• The drastic cuts throughout the movie between Barbie Land and the real world 
• Being looked at, “the stare”, being on display… What’s the significance of this?
• The role reversal that Barbie and Ken experience
• How motherhood and the female role is portrayed in Barbie Land versus the real world
• Barbie’s struggle with who she is / who she’s “supposed to be”
• Is it “impossible” to be a woman?

Mentioned in this episode: 

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

Barbie Movie

The 10 Best 'Barbie' Movie Quotes, Ranked

Barbie: the patriarchy, the existentialism, the capitalism – discuss with spoilers

An Exhaustive List of (Almost) Every Single Reference in the Barbie Movie

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What did we learn from the Barbie movie?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with preparing ahead for the many different scenarios you might encounter with traveling or hosting visitors to make sure you actually enjoy your time!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Nicole shares a travel experience that made her look at preparation and planning for a trip - especially with other people - in a whole new light
• The importance of clear communication and setting expectations when traveling or hosting visitors
• Difference between vacations as an employee and an entrepreneur 
• How we’ve tweaked our preparation over the years
• Some of the questions we discussed before traveling to Japan together
• Using ‘vacation mode’ for emails and communicating with your team in advance of any travel

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How do you prepare ahead for travel or visitors?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with being fully present, and how we continue to practice awareness and holding ourselves accountable to this.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Nicole shares a recap of her and Omar’s mastermind retreat, OzCon
• Nicole’s biggest lesson from this year’s event (and what they won’t be doing next year)
• How difficult it can be to stay fully present at events - especially when you’re the host
• Being aware when you’re not fully present
• We each share a tip for how to practice being present in every moment

Mentioned in this episode: 

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

OzCon: Nicole and Omar’s mastermind retreat!

Diary of a CEO: Podcast ep w/ Julian Treasure

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Are you good at being fully present?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences around having fun - specifically how we’ve started to recognize more and more the importance of being intentional about having fun each and every day.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• What activities do you currently do that you consider 'fun'? 
• Creativity and hobbies being a way to discover fun
• Activities you enjoyed as a kid
• Making ordinary to-do’s more fun
• Being intentional about bringing more fun into your life
• What exactly does “work hard, play hard” mean?
• The importance of trying to new things to help discover what you truly enjoy doing

Mentioned in this episode: 

The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How often are you actually having fun?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree

In this episode we’re going to hear from Nicole about her and Omar’s preparations for their annual retreat, OzCon, and Kate is going to share how she’s preparing to become a mom later this year!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• We hear from Nicole about her and Omar’s upcoming retreat, OzCon 
• Kate shares some ways she is preparing for Baby Dumas (arriving Nov 2023!) 
• How to do a proper time audit 
• The many benefits of a time audit and when you should do one

Mentioned in this episode:

NKCR Ep 69: Have you considered planning and hosting your own event?

Shaun White: The Last Run on HBO Max

Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman 

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Have you ever done a time audit?

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In this episode we’ll share our own personal thoughts on a hybrid work model. We’ll also hear from Nicole on how their switch to an in-office model - after working from home for nearly 9 years! - is going so far.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• An update from Nicole on their switch from remote to in office work! 
• The many benefits of your office being set up in a co-working space 
• The energy shift that Nicole & Omar have experienced working around other people 
• Is a hybrid work model the sweet spot?
• The added decision-making and potential guilt that comes with a hybrid setup 
• Managing your team on a hybrid schedule

Mentioned in this episode: 

NKCR Ep 98: Which is better: Remote work or in person?

FishBurners Coworking space

Is Hybrid really all it’s cracked up to be?

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Is a hybrid work model the sweet spot?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with AI and discuss the questions and concerns it has brought up for us thus far. 

Points Discussed in this Episode

• What exactly is Artificial Intelligence (AI)? 
• How we’re already using AI in our everyday lives 
• Generative AI versus AI 
• What are the unintended consequences of AI?
• How big of a disruptor is AI?

Mentioned in this episode:

Open AI

ChatGPT

Capsho

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What are the implications of Artificial Intelligence (AI)? 

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll dive deep into the many considerables when it comes to answering this question. How big a role does regret play? And what about our perspectives, experiences, and mindset at different times in our lives?

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Our thoughts on failure (as discussed in Ep 20 of NKCR) 
• How does regret play a role in answering this question? 
• What does it mean to fail exactly?
• Perspective and experience playing a role
• Is it a personality thing? 
• What do you currently believe you could do, but you’re not doing it because you’re afraid of failing? 

Mentioned in this episode: 

NKCR Ep 20: Failure: Is it the way to success?

Sylvester Stallone’s new documentary (trailer) 

The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Are you better off believing you can do something, or trying and failing? 

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own thoughts and feelings about letting go of control, being okay with things not going the way we planned, and how resisting the inevitable could be holding us back.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• The comfort that comes with believing that everything happens for a reason
• Are we in control of everything that happens in our life - or nothing? 
• Is there a higher power at work in addition to your own actions?
• Giving away control and allowing “the world” to take over
• Being okay with things not going the way you planned
• What happens when you stop resisting?

Mentioned in this episode: 

The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Does everything happen for a reason?

In this episode we’ll share our own thoughts on the different generations - what characterizes each and the ways in which we do (or don’t) identify with our own generation.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• The different generations, starting with the “Silent Generation”
• Our parents’ experiences and whether we think they “belong” in their generation 
• Gender roles and gender movements throughout the generations
• Our own generations and the characteristics of each 
• Technological advances through the generations
• Being grateful that we know a world without social media!

Mentioned in this episode: 

Business Insider article: Gen Z is the Hustle Generation

Parents.com: A Year-by-Year Guide to the Different Generations

Generations (definitions from Wikipedia)

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Do you identify with your generation?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’re having one of those discussions! We’re diving into The Untethered Soul and sharing a couple of the BIG ideas that stood out for us.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• The voice in your head and separating your Self from those thoughts 
• The “subject” / “object” relationship
• Who are you? 
• Awareness and being present 
• Letting go of control 

Mentioned in this episode: 

The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we discussed The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer.

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with giving and receiving feedback. We’ll dive into how you know when it’s appropriate to give feedback, and also some things you should consider when it comes to receiving feedback. 

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Understanding the context of the situation overall when giving and receiving feedback
• What happens when you rely too heavily on others’ feedback
• Having a system or checklist to help you determine when you should listen, take on, or shut down feedback
• How maturity impacts your ability to give and receive feedback 
• The “Yes, and…” approach
• Asking for feedback 

Mentioned in this episode: 

Michael and Amy Port

Chris Brogan

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What’s the best way to give and receive unsolicited feedback?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our all-time favorites with you! Tune in for our 5 favorite books of all time.

Points Discussed in this Episode

Nicole’s favorite books

• My Brilliant Friend - by Elena Ferrante; Ann Goldstein (Translator) - AKA The Neapolitan Novels
• The Untethered Soul by Michael A Singer
• The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod
• Shoe Dog by Phil Knight
• Kitchen Confidential by Anthony Bourdain

Kate’s favorite books 

• Essentialism by Greg McKeown
• The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
• The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald 
• Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker
• The Sun Also Rises by Ernest Hemingway

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What are some of your all-time favorite books?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with keeping a calendar and how critical it has been in helping us keep our commitments, make time for the things that are most important to us, and hold ourselves accountable.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• When we started using planners / calendars
• What we used pre-digital and what we use now 
• How we manage multiple calendars 
• Who should have access to your calendar?
• Using reminders and notifications for events
• Top tips for getting started with keeping a calendar 

Mentioned in this episode:

How To Effectively Organize Your Calendar

12 tips for managing your calendar like a pro

How to Keep a Calendar

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How could you NOT keep a calendar?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences wrestling with fate and destiny, specifically when it comes to our relationships, our businesses, and where we are in life.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• The definitions of fate and destiny
• Whether we have control and freewill, or whether our life is almost ‘pre-determined’
• Is there a third option… Fate, destiny, and… opportunity? 
• Can fate and destiny co-exist?
• Spirituality and the role it may play in all of this

Mentioned in this episode:

• The Untethered Soul

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Do things happen because of fate or because of destiny?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with setting boundaries and the massive impact boundaries have had on our time, schedules, relationships, and our work.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• What exactly are boundaries? 
• Boundaries help create balance and prevent you from reaching that “edge”
• Boundaries help us set expectations with others and hold ourselves accountable
• Boundaries can help take the emotion out of decisions that may otherwise be tough to make 
• Boundaries we’ve set in our personal lives with ourselves, family, and friends
• Boundaries we’ve set in our professional lives - especially since we both work with our significant others
• The importance of communicating boundaries with others

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What boundaries do you have set?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we look back at four of our favorite episodes and share an update on whether we’ve changed our minds about certain thoughts and ideas we’ve previously discussed!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Episode 1: Do I want to start a family?
  • This seemed like a very appropriate episode to revisit because it’s as if we’ve come full circle: Kate is expecting!
  • Kate recaps what the past couple of years have been like, how her and John found out they’re expecting, and how she feels about the journey ahead.
  • Other episodes referenced: Ep 47: From Suitcase Entrepreneur to Mama w/ Natalie Sisson; Ep 80: Kara Lamerato on having kids - and starting a business

• Episode 49: When it comes to friendship, is it quality over quantity?
  • We’re still fully on board with our original thoughts: quality over quantity!
  • The intention and time, energy, and effort that goes into building and maintaining meaningful relationships
  • Other episodes referenced: Ep 93: Are we experiencing a friendship crisis?

• Episode 60: Want to do, have to do, get to do: which is it?
  • How you look at the daily to-do’s and bigger events in your life makes ALL the difference!
  • Nicole talks about The Untethered Soul and the impact of being present
  • Other episodes referenced: Ep 39: Why did I say yes to that?

• Episode 81: What’s one thing you’ve changed your mind about recently?
  • We each share something we’ve changed our mind about recently!

Mentioned in this episode: 

Episode 1: Do I want to start a family?

Episode 49: When it comes to friendship, is it quality over quantity?

Episode 60: Want to do, have to do, get to do: which is it?

Episode 81: What’s one thing you’ve changed your mind about recently?

The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode to help celebrate 100 episodes on NKCR! 

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with giving back - in all different ways - including a 500km bike ride for a charity called Hands Across the Water that Nicole has just signed up for!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Nicole signs up for a 500km bike ride in Thailand! 
• Reasons why you might sign up to support a particular charity
• Reasons why Nicole chose this particular charity and event to support
• More about Hands Across the Water 
• Different ideas to help you fundraise for an event (without feeling awkward when asking for money!)
• The many different ways you can become involved in giving back

Mentioned in this episode: 

Hands Across the Water 

Nicole’s fundraiser page

Pencils of Promise

Habitat for Humanity

KIVA.org (we didn’t mention this one in our convo, it was part of our research and prep for this conversation and we think it's a great organization to check out).

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What are the different ways you can give back?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with remote work versus in-person work, and we’ll talk about whether we believe there’s a solution that’s best for all types of business and employees.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Nicole’s recent experience switching from remote work to in person
• The perspective is very different depending on who you’re talking to (employee versus business owner)
• What’s different now that Nicole is working from a co-working space instead of from home? 
• Instagram Reel from Patrick Campbell
• A vast majority of people do not have time management skills and are very easily distracted
• How big of a factor is connection when it comes to people wanting to go into an office?
• There are plenty of jobs that can’t be done remotely
• What role does empathy play in this all?

Mentioned in this episode: 

Fortune article: Flexible work is feminist–and women won’t return to a system that hasn’t served them well to spare the feelings of powerful men)

Instagram Reel from Patrick Campbell

Entrepreneur article: Malcolm Gladwell's Fears About Remote Work Are Real. It's Your Brain That's Telling You Lies — Here's Why.

Short clip from Elon Musk’s interview on CNBC “Working from home is ‘morally wrong’”

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Which is better: remote work or in person?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’re recapping our rules of life and scoring ourselves on how well we’ve been doing. Because we believe checking in with yourself and recapping is critical when it comes to staying on track!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Why we thought it was important to check in with ourselves (we’re almost half-way through the year!) 
• Kate revisits her rules of life and scores herself
• Kate’s big news!
• Nicole revisits her rules of life and scores herself
• Nicole’s big news!
• Should you add or subtract from your rules of life?... Absolutely!

Mentioned in this episode: 

Ep 75: What are your rules of life?

Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport

Kate’s gender reveal!

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Are we living up to our rules of life?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences - individually! Kate is on a 23-day river cruise in Europe and totally out of her normal routine. And Nicole & Omar just made a big business decision that has them adjusting to a new normal. Tune in for a very unique episode of NKCR!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Why we’re not recording “together” for this episode 
• Nicole updates us on her and Omar’s new work setup! 
• Things she didn’t expect to encounter 
• How she’s adjusting to this new normal
• Kate updates us on her travels!
• How her daily routine (especially her morning routine) has shifted
• Some unexpected positives from being out of her normal routine

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How do you handle a break from the norm?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with minimalism, including how we were first introduced to the concept and what role it plays in our lives today.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• The definition of “minimalism” 
• How we were introduced to the concept of minimalism
• Are there extreme cases when it comes to minimalism? 
• Clutter, too many possessions, and unorganized spaces
• The environmental side of things 
• Fast fashion, wardrobes, and our buying habits
• Starting to question your feelings around material things: are you buying that for the right reasons?

Mentioned in this episode: 

Essentialism

The Minimalists

Extreme minimalist spaces (Google images)

When Less Becomes More

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up

Tidying Up with Marie Kondo on Netflix

Special Feature: Cass Sethi helps us with style and wardrobe!

Special Feature: Cass Sethi on our personal stylist experience in Tokyo!

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Do you consider yourself a minimalist?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll explore these questions by diving into an article a friend shared with Kate earlier this year titled, Is burnout finally 'high-profile' enough for leaders to act?

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Applauding Jacinda Ardern for her confidence in speaking out about “...no longer [having] enough ‘in the tank’ to do her job justice.”
• Will having someone this high profile speak up on the topic help remove the stigma around burnout? 
• Whether this instance - along with others - is decreasing the public’s confidence in women's ability to be great leaders 
• How should the topic of burnout be handled in the workplace?
• Our own personal experiences with burnout 
• Our go-to resources when we’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed

Mentioned in this episode: 

Is burnout finally 'high-profile' enough for leaders to act?

WomensMeditationNetwork.com: This month Katie Krimitsos celebrates 100 Million Downloads for her podcast network!

Past NKCR episodes on related topics:

Special Feature: Katie Krimitsos on meditation and mindfulness

Special Feature: Katie VanBuskirk on mental health

Special Feature: Michele Hansen on toxic positivity

How do you get out of a negative state of mind?

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How do we make burnout a topic we can openly discuss? 

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with friendships, plus, we’ll discuss a post that was shared by a friend that poses the question, “Are women experiencing a friendship crisis?”

Points Discussed in this Episode

• What role the pandemic has played in creating and maintaining friendships
• How important is proximity?
• Growing up in the 90’s versus now - how has social media impacted the way we create and maintain friendships?
• It’s not easy to maintain friendships…
• There are a plethora of ways to make new friends
• The importance and impact of maintaining friendships 

Mentioned in this episode: 

Ep 49: When it comes to friendship, is it quality over quantity?

Past guest Steph Clarke: Special Feature: Steph Clarke shares how to plan a reading week

Post on Instagram “Are women experiencing a friendship crisis?” from phenomenal

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Are we experiencing a friendship crisis?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share some of our favorite TV shows we’re watching right now with the hopes you’ll discover one or two you can enjoy, too!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Our TV habits growing up versus now
• When we typically watch TV
• Nicole’s introduction to Korean dramas 
• The show Kate is watching right now (plus her favorite dramas)
• Our favorite Docu Series’
• Nicole’s recent favorites from the Italian show category  
• Some of our all-time favorites 

Mentioned in this episode: 

Ep 77: What books are you reading right now?

Extraordinary Attorney Woo

The Glory

Il Processo

An Astrological Guide for Broken Hearts

Ted Lasso

Severance

The White Lotus

The Crown

Poker Face

This is Us

The Morning Show

We Crashed

Super Pumped

Inventing Anna

FRIENDS

Seinfeld

The Office

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What TV shows are you watching right now?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with deciding whether to commit to an event or other opportunity. Because honestly, it’s not always a super easy decision to make.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• The boxes that need to be checked right off the bat in order for an opportunity to even be a possibility 
• Considering what chapter of life and/or business you’re in 
• What is the value of attending a particular event, retreat, or mastermind to you? 
• Intimate retreat versus a huge conference… How is the experience different?
• How the pandemic and virtual events have changed conference-goers expectations
• How big a consideration is the monetary investment? The time investment?
• How family plays a role in your decision-making process
• What exactly are you committing to if you say yes? And remember, it’s OK to say no!

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Should you say yes to that event?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Overall recap: How did the retreat go?! 
• Diving into the things that “could have gone wrong”, like travel and delays, last-minute emergencies, jet lag… 
• How the location and resort was, including food, amenities, etc.
• Main highlights of the retreat: what went really great?
• The schedule and itinerary: mixing team-building and excursions 
• What didn’t go so well?
• The #1 reason everything went so smoothly 
• Nicole’s biggest takeaway from the retreat

Mentioned in this episode: 

Storyteller Tactics by Pip Decks

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where Nicole shared how her team retreat turned out!

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences hosting retreats - and specifically how Nicole has been planning for the team retreat her and Omar are hosting and that they leave for the same week we’re recording this episode!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Why Nicole & Omar decided to host a team retreat (this is their 2nd one!) 
• Let’s talk logistics! Travel, itinerary, location… How do you decide? 
• How game-changing hiring an EA (Executive Assistant) has been for Nicole & Omar, especially when it came to planning their team retreat! 
• The impact of getting your team in a room together, in person
• A big lesson learned from their first retreat - and how that impacted the itinerary this time
• Your responsibilities and considerations when hosting a retreat of any type
• Doing a retrospective is a must!

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How do you plan a team retreat?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode you’ll hear the three of us chat in Tokyo together about our AirBNB Experience with a personal stylist!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Choosing a personal stylist AirBNB Experience
• Expectations versus what we got 
• What we noticed about the differences in style between american and japanese brands
• Cass experiencing the other side of the relationship: getting style advice versus giving
• Cass’ tips for shopping and being intentional when you go shopping
• How Cass decides whether or not to buy a certain piece
• Nicole’s great find!
• Cass’ POV on “fashion forward”

Mentioned in this episode: 

Cass’ first appearance on NKCR

Cass’ business, Next Level Wardrobe

AirBNB Experience w our Stylist
Our stylist Keisuke Hayashi on Instagram

The three of us shopping (insta reel)

Harajuku: the area we went shopping in

Sacai brand

Chaos brand

Thank you so much for joining us for our special guest episode with Cass Sethi on our personal style experience in Tokyo!

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share a trip recap! We break down what went well, what we’d do differently next time, and how our trip went overall. 

Points Discussed in this Episode

• We score ourselves 1 - 10 on the location, the hotel, and the activities we planned 
• An overview of our time together, including our itinerary
• Our favorite stops
• Hosting our mastermind in person for the first time together!
• What we would do differently next time
• Our impressions of Japan

Mentioned in this episode: 

Mimaru Suites Nihombashi

Harajuku

teamLab Planets Tokyo

Yoyogi Park

Shibuya

Sin Den Salon

Stylist experience through AirBNB

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences from our girls trip to Tokyo, Japan!

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with how we identify when we’re in a negative state of mind, and the steps we take to get out of it.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• The power of our minds and how we can choose our response - and the space we give ourselves before responding
• Covid, running a business, and managing a team 
• Derek Sivers 5 steps to get out of a negative state of mind
• You don’t have to always have an answer
• Having too many “inputs” and how notifications and overwhelm can subconsciously be putting you in a negative state of mind
• Taking a conscious pause
• Shifting your focus to something you’re really excited about right now

Mentioned in this episode: 

Hell Yeah or No by Derek Sivers

Episode on NKCR w/ Katie Krimitsos

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How do you get out of a negative state of mind?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• What we believe about “quitting”
• Should you quit things you love? 
• Why quitting / letting go of things you feel like you “need” is a good idea
• Letting go of things you might be doing simply because you think you’re “supposed to”
• Not letting the sunk cost bias keep you attached to things you should quit or let go of
• The power of “thought experiments”!

Mentioned in this episode:

• Hell Yeah or No by Derek Sivers

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How do you know what to let go of?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’re removing all barriers to discuss how social pressures are preventing us from validating our own - and others - emotions, along with the toll it’s taking on our overall well being.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• What is toxic positivity exactly? 
• All emotions are valid; to deny yourself certain emotions just makes things worse
• Intentional vulnerability and how empathy plays a huge role 
• Michele shares some examples of toxic positivity
• How social media plays a role
• How much of your personal life belongs in your online brand?
• The importance of self-empathy and being able to move through an emotion versus pushing it away
• Recognizing activities in your life or business that drain you

Mentioned in this episode: 

Deploy Empathy: A practical guide to interviewing customers

Geocod.io: Michele’s business

Software Social Podcast

Toxic Positivity: The Dark Side of Positive Vibes (article)

MJWHasen.com

Michele's Twitter

Thank you so much for joining us for this special feature episode with Michele Hansen on toxic positivity!

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with planning this trip: the intention behind it, how we sorted out all the details, and so much more!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Setting the intention and having a vision for your trip 
• Being clear about what you want to get out of your trip
• Planning sessions and keeping track of ideas, places, and things you want to see (we love Google Sheets!) 
• Sharing your budget and getting on the same page about boundaries and what your routines are
• Delegating certain research points and holding one another accountable
• Determining milestone decisions to keep the planning moving 

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Nicole & Kate plan their trip to Tokyo, Japan

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share a discussion on the book Who Moved My Cheese?, a fable that follows the moves of 2 mice and 2 “littlepeople” as they make big life decisions in response to change.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• How do we instinctively react to change? 
• How our experiences impact our reaction to change as we get older or more mature
• Which character we relate to the most in the book
• Being able to help someone to the extent that they want to be helped
• What would you do if you weren’t afraid?
• When you change your beliefs, you change your actions, and therefore you change the way you behave

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Who Moved My Cheese? By Spencer Johnson

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share a book discussion on Who Moved My Cheese? by Spencer Johnson.

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share a few things we’ve changed our minds about, and what these shifts in our beliefs have taught us.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• You’re wrong about everything; you’ll change your mind about everything
• How change leads to growth
• Beliefs and rewriting new truths
• Fitness tracking, the tooth fairy, regret, and vitamins!
• Contempt and learning how to disagree better

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck by Mark Manson
• The Power of Regret by Daniel H. Pink 
• Festival of Dangerous Ideas: Contempt is Corroding Democracy 
• Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What’s one thing you’ve changed your mind about recently?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode Kara pulls back the curtain and shares very candidly what it was like to be the first of her friends to start a family, the defining moment when she knew she had to quit her 9-5 job, and how she managed to start her own business from scratch in the midst of it all.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Did Kara and John always know they wanted kids? 
• Kara’s timeline: meeting her husband, moving in together, getting married, starting a family, building multiple businesses
• Kara’s job situation and their plans as a family once their little girl, Stella, was born 
• How EVERYTHING changed once Stella was born, plus a defining moment that changed everything for Kara and her family
• Kara’s journey to discovering other ways to generate revenue outside of her 9-5 job
• Returning to work while side-hustling, leaving her job, finding out she was pregnant again, AND feeling like she had a million responsibilities all at once 
• Where Kara found support during a very difficult time
• How the heck Kara built a business (and then another) in the midst of her life completely changing
• How to have it all - anytime you want
• “We will be truly successful when we have all of the things that we need, and a lot of the things that we want.”

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Wedding Planning Podcast on Apple Podcasts
• WeddingPlanningPodcast.co
• Kara’s Vineyard Wedding on Etsy

If this convo brings up anything for you and you need further help, support, or guidance, check out these resources:

• Lifeline on 13 11 14 (Australia)
• Beyond Blue on 1300 22 46 36 (Australia)
• Headspace on 1 800 650 890 (USA)
• BetterHelp (USA)

Asking for help shows strength.

Thank you so much for joining us for this special feature episode with Kara Lamerato on having kids - and starting a business.

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with goal setting and talk about recent experiences we’ve each had with setting and accomplishing goals!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• 100 Day Goal Challenge on Kate's Take 
• Win the Year Mini-Course w/ Nicole & Omar!
• Biggest struggle when it comes to setting goals
• Why is goal setting so easy for some people but not for others?
• How big a role accountability plays in setting and accomplishing goals
• An exercise inspired by Warren Buffet: “The 25 Things” 
• A fun announcement about some upcoming travel we have planned together!

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: When’s the last time you took goal setting seriously?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with decision fatigue and some of the ways we’ve learned to combat it.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• What is decision fatigue? 
• How decision fatigue might show up in our everyday lives 
• Some helpful tips to combat decision fatigue, starting with awareness
• Setting expectations for ourselves - and others
• Setting up daily streaks to build momentum
• Asking yourself, “What’s my job today?”

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Atomic Habits by James Clear
• Free Time: Lose the Busy Work, Love Your Business by Jenny Blake
• Episode 72 with Angela Henderson on NKCR

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How is decision fatigue affecting your everyday life?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we share the books we’re reading right now - and what we think of them! Get ready to add one or two to your own reading list!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Nicole shares the books she’s reading right now 
  • Free Time: Lose the Busy Work, Love Your Business (Jenny Blake)
  • 1Q84 (Haruki Murakami)
  • The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward (Daniel Pink)
  • The Alter Ego Effect: The Power of Secret Identities to Transform your Life (Todd Herman)

• Kate shares the books she’s reading right now
  • The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters (Priya Parker)
  • Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing (Matthew Perry Memoir)
  • The Joy of Missing Out: Live More by Doing Less (Tanya Dalton)
  • The Midnight Library (Matt Haig)

Mentioned in this episode: 

• The Science of Regret: Daniel Pink interview on A Slight Change of Plans Podcast
• Diane Sawyer interview with Matthew Perry

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What books are you reading right now?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Tune in to today’s special feature with Katie Krimitsos, Founder and Host of the Women’s Meditation Network, and open your mind to a whole new world of what meditation and mindfulness can be!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• The many forms of meditation and how it doesn’t have to “look” any certain way
• How we see meditation and how we currently “practice” this in our daily lives
• The Monkey Mind - is it OK to have thoughts during meditation?
• Common misconceptions about meditation
• Real-life examples of meditation and how they can help you bring peace and patience into your home and into your relationships
• Meditation can be stepping outside and putting your feet in the grass, or it can be laying on your bed and closing your eyes and listening to your breath
• Katie walks us through what “mini moments of mindfulness” are
• Gratitude as meditation
• Not being reactive; your ability to control your time and your day
• You might already be meditating in your day-to-day already
• The difference between meditation and mindfulness

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Women’s Meditation Network
• Katie’s Instagram
• Katie’s Facebook

How to enter Katie’s giveaway for a swag bag filled with her favorite health & wellness products, worth over $300!

1. Subscribe to any one of Katie’s podcasts in the Women’s Meditation Network
2. Go to Apple Podcasts and leave an honest Rating & Review
3. Go to Instagram or Facebook, tag Women’s Meditation Network, and share your review!

Thank you so much for joining us for this special feature episode with Katie Krimitsos on meditation and mindfulness!

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with setting aside time to consider our own rules of life, what they are, and why we highly recommend you do it, too!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• The inspiration for this episode
• We share a healthy handful of our rules of life, including personal cleanliness, spending money on experiences over things, daily movement being a must - and wine and cheese being a perfect meal substitute!

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What are your rules of life?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share a discussion on a podcast episode in which a woman shares her story - a story that allowed us to do just that: ponder questions about our existence, about suffering, about mindset, and more.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Brief overview of Maya Shankar’s story
• We share a few things that stood out to us, like considering our attitude towards existence, our sensitivity to others’ sufferings, our mindset when it comes to bringing children into this world…
• We chat about compatibility and being willing to see things from a different perspective
• The idea of “connected detachment”
• The power of gratitude

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Episode on the Meditative Story podcast: The Joy of being an unwilling traveler through life
• Maya’s Podcast: A Slight Change of Plans

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we discuss and reflect on our existence.

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our biggest takeaways and standout moments from the book, How to Live: 27 conflicting answers and one weird conclusion. Don’t worry - no spoilers here!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Brief overview of the book and how it’s quite different from your traditional read
• Our favorite chapters and ideas from the book
• Some interesting connections we found with our top values
• Our overall feelings on the book

Mentioned in this episode: 

• How to Live by Derek Sivers

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we discuss the book How to Live by Derek Sivers!

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Well, that’s exactly what happened when Angela Henderson published an article on a popular website in Australia called MamaMia, and today she’s joining us to share exactly how she handled that criticism and negative feedback without losing sleep - or her confidence.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• What went down - straight from Angela
• What she was most surprised about
• How she handled the criticism and negative comments 
• Mindset and our beliefs, and how big a role those play in how we see the world
• Supporting women to speak up and take ownership of their decisions - everyone has a choice
• How every situation in our life gets presented to us for a reason
• Being responsible for how you receive others’ feedback and opinions and what you do with that - how you react (or don’t react)
• Whatever you’re not changing, you’re choosing
• Trusting that what’s in front of you is working for you and not against you

Mentioned in this episode: 

• AngelaHenderson.com.au
• Angela’s Article on MamaMia: 'I outsource all my home life admin. Here's exactly how I do it, and how much it costs.'
• Angela’s Podcast Episode: The Toughest 36 Hours in Business

If this convo brings up anything for you and you need further help, support, or guidance, check out these resources:

• Lifeline on 13 11 14 (Australia)
• Beyond Blue on 1300 22 46 36 (Australia)
• Headspace on 1 800 650 890 (USA)
• BetterHelp (USA)

Asking for help shows strength.

Thank you so much for joining us for this special feature episode with Angela Henderson on handling criticism and negative feedback.

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In today’s episode we’ll continue the convo as our discovery unfolds! Turns out a deep dive into your core values goes a lot farther than we thought - in the best way possible!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Quick recap of our previous episode, Part I on Values (Ep 70)
• We revisit our 2nd value (neither of us were convinced we had it nailed!)
• We discuss some questions from Brené’s worksheet on when we are - and are NOT - living our values
• An example of when we’re living our values
• Are “systems” and “freedom” contradictory?

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Episode 70 on Values (Part I)
• Brene Brown podcast episode on values
• Via personality test

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Do you know what your core values are?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with values, and how a podcast episode and PDF worksheet from Brené Brown has helped us immensely on our journey to declaring our core values!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Our serendipitous desire to dig deep into our own values  
• The anxiety we felt around choosing just 2 core values (we have at least 10-15!... or so we thought)
• Our experience going through Brené’s PDF worksheet
• We each share our top 2 values (ok… admission: neither of us are really quite sure about the 2nd - yet!)
• We decide by the end of this episode that there must be a part II! So, to be continued :)

Mentioned in today’s episode: 

Brene Brown’s podcast episode on values

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Do you know what your core values are? (Part I)

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with planning and hosting our own events, masterminds, and retreats!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Defining masterminds, events / conferences, and retreats 
• Our own experience planning and hosting our own events
• Nicole talks about WebinarNinja Live in San Diego (2015), the WebinarNinja Team Retreat they hosted in Bali (2019), and OzCon in AUS (2022)
• The importance of setting a goal, an intention, and expectations when planning any type of event
• Kate talks about Puerto Palooza (2017, 2018), and the Bonus Events they’ve hosted (2019, 2020)
• Nicole breaks down a behind-the-scenes of OzCon, including how they came up with the idea and details on the execution
• Kate breaks down the behind-the-scenes of Puerto Palooza and why hosting this mastermind at their home in Puerto Rico was so important to them
• The importance of asking for feedback post-event to learn what went well and what could be improved next time
• Our favorite parts about planning and hosting our own events, masterminds, and retreats

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Have you considered planning and hosting your own event?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with the different stages of consuming and producing, and how each benefits us in different ways.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Does consuming sap your creative energy, making it more difficult to produce? 
• Different types of consuming - not all content is created equally!
• Our own experiences with producing versus consuming
• Are energy levels expended at different rates based on the type of producing you’re doing?
• The many different phases and stages of consuming and producing 

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Kate Toon’s Reel on Instagram

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Consuming vs. Producing: Should there be a balance?

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Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

For this episode we’ve invited our good friend Allison Melody on the mic to help us chat about relationships from a different perspective: that of a single woman who knows what she wants, and is not afraid to ask for it.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• What Alli has learned from her life experiences, like going through a divorce, and what she has learned by allowing herself to be single
• The fear of being alone, loneliness, and the fear of judgment when it comes to relationships (or being single)
• Finding support through being open and vulnerable about what you’re going through 
• What you put up with is what you end up with
• Establish your boundaries and values and don’t be afraid to state those and stand by them - in every area of your life
• How do we know when it’s time to move on?
• Alli describes two terms used a lot in the dating world: gaslighting and love-bombing
• The 5 Love Languages - which one is your love language?

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Ingrid Bergman in the movie Gaslight (1944)
• Dirty John series on Netflix
• The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman
• Food Heals Podcast and website 
• Follow Alli on Instagram 

If this convo brings up anything for you and you need further help, support, or guidance, check out these resources:

• Lifeline on 13 11 14 (Australia)
• Beyond Blue on 1300 22 46 36 (Australia)
• Headspace on 1 800 650 890 (USA)
• BetterHelp (USA)

Asking for help shows strength.

Thank you so much for joining us for this special feature episode with Allison Melody on what being single has taught her.

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with - at times - being on track to become specialists in certain areas, but also seeing the value in being good at a lot of different things.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• The idea that being a specialist is somehow superior or makes you better versus being a generalist 
• Situations where being a specialist would be of benefit 
• Does it have to be one or the other, or can it be both?
• Things we “could have been” GREAT at

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Is being a specialist better than being a generalist?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with conferences and networking events, including our hacks and the things we’ve learned from attending dozens of them over the past 10 years!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• How do you choose the right conferences and networking events to attend? 
• Attending an event for content versus networking 
• FOMO when it comes to conferences and events
• Attending events as an introvert and protecting your energy
• Being an attendee versus being a speaker at an event (and the different energy levels required)
• Virtual events versus in person events

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How do you know which conferences and networking events are worth attending?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

So for this episode we invite Steph Clarke of Steph’s Business Bookshelf Podcast on to talk about it!

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Types of books to read during different times of the day
• Having go-to sources you trust for book recommendations
• How a “reading week” might be a “thinking” weekend, a “4-day meditation getaway”… it’s really about getting out of your routine
• Steph’s 3 tips for planning your reading week
• The biggest benefits of a week away typically follow in the weeks after 
• The preparation leading up to your time away and how that helps set you up for success
• Setting expectations for others - and yourself - for what this time will look like
• Start small! You can start with a ‘house swap’ with a friend for a few hours one day
• Delete social media and email apps off your phone so you can truly disconnect

Mentioned in this Episode: 

How to Plan Your Own Reading Week: Steph’s Business Bookshelf Podcast

Adam Grant’s reading list

Steph’s LinkedIn 

Steph’s Instagram 

Thank you so much for joining us for this Special Feature episode with Steph Clarke on how to plan a reading week!

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with responsibility, why we don’t take it lightly, and how our responsibilities affect so much more than just our own daily lives.

Points Discussed in this Episode

• Is it true… That how you do anything is how you do everything?
• What level of responsibility do we owe ourselves - and others? 
• Our view of responsibility growing up
• How we view responsibility now, and how that influences our decisions

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Ryan Holiday article: How You Do Anything Is How You Do Everything

Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What level of responsibility is ‘enough’?

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! 

Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.