As parents, drug and alcohol abuse is something that keeps us up at night. And while we can talk with them until we're blue in the face about the dangers, we're never really sure about how effective our conversations are.

Well what if addiction prevention is something all parents can help with - but it has nothing to do with talking about drugs themselves?

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But what are the best ways to co-regulate?

Today we welcome Allison Morgan, who shares her tips. And it's not all about regulating the students - educators must regulate themselves first.

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Today on the podcast, Polina Shkadron emphasizes that children with ARFID should eat for themselves rather than to please others. Her approach prioritizes family dynamics, fostering trust and self-efficacy by supporting parental instincts and encouraging children to engage mindfully with their food, ultimately promoting healthier eating habits and enhanced family mealtime experiences. 

Listen in for how we can do that.

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Learn more at SchoolUp Wake.

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But is that strategy counterproductive and actually harmful to our children?

Today, Dr. Emily Edlynn calls for a cultural shift towards balanced, autonomy-supportive parenting that prioritizes both child and parental well-being over societal pressures and external achievements. 

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Dr. Emily Edlynn is a child psychologist, mother of 3, and the author of In Your Feels: A Journal to Explore Your Emotions. Check out her substack Parent Smarter, Not Harder.

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Today, Mr. Chazz, a former Montessori teacher turned multi-faceted educator, shares his insights on recognizing and embracing emotions as a pathway to better emotional regulation for both parents and children. 

If you're looking to manage emotional triggers, promote self-regulation, and foster a more harmonious parent-child relationship, be sure to tune in!

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In this episode, Kelley Coleman shares her insights on how inclusive education, self-advocacy, agency, choice, communication, and relationships can transform lives.

Tune in for practical real-world strategies to support children with disabilities and promote acceptance and inclusion in society.

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Listen in as Dr. Matt and I discuss flexing the structure, timing, and modality of therapy based on a kid’s skill development, what to expect as parents when your child or teen is in therapy, and how we can empower our kids to take ownership of their mental health journey.  

Tune in to find out why it's not one size fits all!

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• What's the latest info on how much time kids are spending on devices?
• When are kids ready for devices? Specifically for phones?
• When are they ready for social media?
• How do you set boundaries around technology?
• How do you bring up the potential for sexting, nudes, or pornography?
• Is there value in having a family device?
• Are there any apps or hardware that helps with parental controls?
• Is there no hope once your child is down a YouTube rabbit hole?
• What happens when your child breaks the rules on technology?

Wherever you are in your parenting technology journey, this episode is for you!

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So what did she do about it?

Today, Melissa and Dr. Emily King discuss the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in traditional educational settings, advocating for a strengths-based approach and emphasizing the importance of collaboration between educators and parents. They also touch on topics like early intervention for children with learning differences, emotional regulation for individuals with ADHD, and task management strategies.

Tune in to gain insights on navigating the complexities of neurodivergent identities with acceptance and self-compassion.

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We explore:

• Reframing ADHD as a superpower
• Uncovering strategies like visual cues
• Using timers
• Setting boundaries 
• Emotional aspects of ADHD
• Gender differences in expressing emotions
• Personalized teaching methods for neurodivergent students (including Penn's vision for a school specifically for ADHD students)

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She and Dr. Emily also discuss the alarming issue of burnout in children, and the transformative power of play therapy in regulating emotions.

If you're looking to create a safe, inclusive, and supportive environment for neurodivergent children, this episode is a must listen.

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Today, Casey Davidson and Dr. Emily share their personal journeys of transitioning to sobriety, shedding light on the challenges of moderation and the addictive nature of alcohol. There are both physical and emotional benefits of reducing alcohol intake, but societal pressures around alcohol, particularly for women and mothers, can make even being sober-curious a challenge.

So what can we do about it?

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This episode is for teachers wanting to better understand the emotional experience of their neurodivergent students as well as for parents wanting to know what to advocate for when collaborating with their child’s team.

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Today, North Carolina Business Committee for Education Executive Director Caroline Sullivan joins Dr. Emily to discuss the groundbreaking LiNC-IT program. Launched in 2018, LiNC-IT provides invaluable support for neurodivergent individuals in the workforce, offering job coaches, tailored training, and personalized assistance.

Plus, Caroline and Dr. Emily discuss the challenges neurodivergent young adults face in higher education, and they highlight North Carolina's innovative programs that bridge the gap between education and employment for autistic individuals.

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Today, Emily Daniels discusses the Regulated Classroom framework, which emphasizes practices like co-regulation, connectors, activators, settlers, and affirmations. By understanding behaviors through past experiences and utilizing Polyvagal theory, educators can create a regulated space that supports student well-being and engagement.

Emily discusses how leveraging nostalgia, music, movement, and affirmations can create joyful and regulating experiences for all learners, including neurodivergent students.
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Today, Edla Prevette has some advice for navigating the complexities of this family dynamic.

As a mental health counselor for over thirty years, Edla Prevette (instagram) has worked with neurodivergent children and their families as a therapist, consultant, and trainer. But currently, she is focusing her attention on the adults who are sandwiched between their kids' needs and the needs of their aging parents.
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Today host Danielle Sullivan discusses their experience parenting PDA children. Danielle has a child with pathological demand avoidance/ pervasive demand for autonomy and has unique experience as an adult autistic PDA-er themselves. Danielle describes what PDA is, why these behaviors show up in certain autistic folks, and gives some examples of parenting PDA for her child in everyday life.

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When your child is achieving milestones on their own timeframe, you quickly learn to surrender to the unknown and embrace the path in front of you. Your child is teaching you many lessons you would have never learned if they had not been your child. You are stronger for it and there is gratitude to be found here. 

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This week, we're diving into a topic that keeps popping up in our community, and it's a two-part issue.

Firstly, some parents are puzzled about how to help their kids at school as they come home on Fridays exhausted and frustrated, or they flat out refuse to go to school, claiming it's just too stressful. Even when they do go, they return home stressed and unwilling to do homework.

Teachers are noticing these struggles, too. Kids aren't turning in their work, not keeping up, with or without IEPs. It feels like we can't quite meet our kids' needs at school.

But there's another side to this coin. Some parents are pushing for their children to catch up, achieve, and be successful in school. That’s something schools want, too - kids to be in class every day so they fit in with their peers.

However, what often gets overlooked is whether the kids feel safe at school.

I feel like this is such an important conversation, so in this episode, I've brought on an expert who does this all day, every day.

Meet Dr. Emily King, a Child Psychologist and former School Psychologist who has two decades of experience working closely with neurodivergent kids and teens.

She received her Ph.D. in School Psychology from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and is well-versed in Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, DIR/Floortime, Conscious Discipline, and Social Thinking methodologies.

Dr. Emily is also the founder of Learn with Dr. Emily™ where she shares online resources related to raising and educating neurodivergent youth. She specializes in providing therapy and consultation services for children diagnosed with autism, anxiety, ADHD, depression, and learning difficulties.

She is passionate about empowering parents and teachers to take care of themselves so they can become the supportive adults that every neurodivergent child needs in their life.

Join us for this interview, where we'll be discussing the hurdles neurodivergent kids face in school, the gap between expectations and support, the impact of anxiety on learning, and the importance of collaboration between parents and teachers.

It's a conversation you really don't want to miss out on!

Tune in now!

Key Takeaways:

• Intro (00:00)
• Who is Dr. Emily King (02:34)
• Misconceptions about meeting the needs of neurodivergent children (05:37)
• The importance of communication between teachers and parents (11:39)
• The mismatch between child's abilities and school expectations (17:29)
• Dr. Emily’s takeaway for educators and parents (23:58)
• The first step towards teamwork in helping kids (26:22)
• Sources for Dr. Emily's kid and teacher support strategies (28:52)

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You’re too sensitive. You’re overreacting. Grow a thicker skin. You take everything so personally.

We hear these comments all too often. There’s no denying sensitivity is surrounded by stigma. We discourage it in our children, judge it in our peers, and ultimately weaponize it in our relationships with colleagues and family members. While it’s not widely understood by the public, sensitivity is an essential human trait. In fact, nearly 1 in 3 people arehighly sensitive individuals, and without them, we would not have the theory of evolution, the Declaration of Independence, or Netflix. 

Jenn Granneman and Andre Sólo are the force behind the world’s largest online communities for sensitive people and introverts, Sensitive Refuge and Introvert, Dear. And they’re on a mission to break the negative stigma surrounding sensitivity in their forthcoming book, SENSITIVE (on sale 2/28), unveiling the hidden power of highly sensitivepeople (HSPs) in our loud, fast, and too-much world.

Weaving together actionable advice, relatable anecdotes, and the latest scientific research, SENSITIVE shows readers how leaning into their sensitivity can unlock a powerful “boost effect” to launch them ahead in life. Presenting the empowering idea that sensitivity gives you access to five distinct gifts, Granneman and Sólo offers the tools and insights you need to embrace this undervalued strength and leverage it across the most important areas of your life.

In this episode Jenn is revealing:

- A clear picture of what it really means to be sensitive and what strengths sensitive people bring to the world

- What makes the sensitive brain different — and how it’s wired to go deep

- How the needs of sensitive people differ from those of less sensitive people and people with autism 

- How to transform one of the misunderstood gifts of sensitive people—empathy into a source of world-changing strength

- The common misconceptions about sensitive children—and their secret advantage

- The powerful traits of sensitive leaders, who are often the most effective leaders of all

Are you highly sensitive? Take Dr. Elaine N. Erickson's Test: https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ 

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So please join me in wishing Mona well today as we lift up her work through the magic of podcast sharing while she continues to rest and recover.

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Educators, it's time to shift our mindset by understanding what polyvagal theory, the importance of brain-body connection, and how we can better support our children.

We all know that the fields of psychology and education still haven’t fully integrated the wisdom we’re learning from research and neuroscience, and often rely on methods that seek to alter kids behavior through rewards and consequences. Once we acknowledge that behaviors, though, are meaningful and protective adaptations to a child’s internal experience, we can create a whole new range of compassionate and individually tailored options that surpass just managing behaviors.

So today, Dr. Mona Delahooke explains polyvagal theory and the paradigm shift that could be so helpful for parents and educators to make.

About Our Guest

Dr. Mona Delahooke is a best-selling author and child psychologist who aims to reduce suffering and increase resilience for children and families. Her paradigm-shifting model offers a new way of understanding emotional and behavioral challenges, incorporating the latest neuroscience and resilience research to support relationships. Dr. Delahooke is challenging the education system to update its practices from focusing on behavior to promoting relational safety.
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Full disclosure, I can't answer complex or detailed questions about dynamics between kids, or teachers and kids, or parents and kids, when I don't know the full story. But what I can answer is general topics that keep coming up with parents, teachers, and kids, whether it's a clinical topic, an educational topic, a child psychology question, or just a general parenting question.

Today we have two questions I get all the time:

1. When should you pursue a diagnosis for your child, even if they're not having trouble at school?
2. I'm concerned that my ADHD child doesn't show empathy. What can I do?

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So on today's episode, I'm releasing the full recording from that webinar. At the end of the webinar, I talk a little more in depth about some of the teacher training that I offer. Today this is just a snippet of that information.

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But what happens when your child is growing up with skill weaknesses and mood dysregulation that make them struggle with independence and present at times with some very unkind behaviors? I have lived this parenting experience and counseled many families along this anxiety-provoking path.

Parents raising neurodivergent teens ask themselves: Is my child ever going to drive? Will they be able to go to college? Will they be able to have a job? Will they be able to keep a job? Will my child be able to live on their own? Will they have friends?

Let's see if we can answer these questions.

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Full disclosure, I can't answer complex or detailed questions about dynamics between kids, or teachers and kids, or parents and kids, when I don't know the full story. But what I can answer is general topics that keep coming up with parents, teachers, and kids, whether it's a clinical topic, an educational topic, a child psychology question, or just a general parenting question.

Today we have three questions:

1. How would I advise middle school parents who are having a hard time getting their child started with homework?
2. How can I tell if my child is actually not able to sit at the dinner table or if they're able to control it?
3. How can I get my neurodivergent child to do chores?

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Today we welcome Dayna Abraham, a National Board Certified educator, parent of three neurodivergent children, and an ADHD adult herself. Dayna introduces her Calm the Chaos framework, which consists of four key principles: Connection, Understanding, Empowerment, and You (the parent as a calm presence). These principles form the foundation for effective parenting and helping children thrive, especially during difficult moments.

Dayna Abraham is the bestselling author of The Superkids Activity Guide to Conquering Every Day, and her new book Calm the Chaos: A Fail-Proof Road Map for Parenting Even the Most Challenging Kids is available now!
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You wake up in the morning ready to implement your well-crafted morning routine that includes the most efficient way to get your child clothed, fed, packed up, and in the car with the fewest moments of frustration, tears, and conflict with siblings. Because school is hard for your child, making it through the morning routine and into the school building is your child’s first triumph of the day.

During that school day, your child is faced with challenging tasks. There will be spoken language to process, pencils to grip, bodies to keep still, transitions to initiate, social interactions to understand, and non-preferred academic work to complete. Your child will be exhausted when they get to you at pick-up. This is understandable. They have just “left it all on the field” of the classroom. They need time to recover, to engage in preferred play, and to rest and reconnect with you. But before they can rest, some days your child will have a therapy appointment to work on emotional regulation, language skills, motor skills, or sensory needs.

But, what happens when they get home? There is homework. Your child does not yet work independently so you are now their teacher, except you don’t have a degree in special education. Not only do you not know how to teach your exhausted child, you are also trying to cook dinner, pick up a sibling from dance, and return a work call because you left work early to be home with your child after school. You are exhausted, too.

So, why are we giving homework to our most worn-out students? There are many costs, but are there any benefits?

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Today, we sit down with Amy Langston, an autistic self-advocate, to explore her remarkable homeschooling journey. Discover how she and her family tackled the decision to homeschool, overcame obstacles, and reaped the benefits of this unconventional approach to education.

Amy shares insights into the world of homeschooling, addressing the very concerns you might have. From tailoring the curriculum to your child's interests to ensuring a smooth transition to college, you'll gain a deeper understanding of how homeschooling can be a viable (and likely rewarding) option. 

Amy Langston is an autistic self advocate, diagnosed at the age of 10. Her special interest is in world religions and she holds a bachelor's and a master's degree in religious studies. She delivers training sessions to religious organizations and others on autism inclusion.

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But at some point, many children begin to settle in, look around and think: “What exactly is going on here? You mean, I come here every day, away from my parents, and learn new, hard things?” It’s at this point that many children begin showing their anxiety because they have just starting feeling their anxiety. It’s also at these moments when parents and teachers begin seeing some resistance to getting out of the car at drop-off, getting into the car to go, getting dressed in the morning, or even getting into bed the night before.

So what can we do about it?

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Teachers, parents, and caregivers - tune in for a better understanding of how neurodivergent children navigate their internal sensations and how to create a nurturing environment where every child's unique experience is celebrated and supported.

Kelly Mahler is an Interoception Groupie and Occupational Therapist, and creator of The Interoception Curriculum.
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Full disclosure, I can't answer complex or detailed questions about dynamics between kids, or teachers and kids, or parents and kids, when I don't know the full story. But what I can answer is general topics that keep coming up with parents, teachers, and kids, whether it's a clinical topic, an educational topic, a child psychology question, or just a general parenting question.

Today we have three questions:

1. How do I choose a provider to test my child?
2. How can elementary administrators work best with anxious parents whose children seem to be pretty well adjusted at school, but the parents' anxiety and angst are affecting the children?
3. How do we support a teen that doesn't want our help?

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As you might know, I can get on my soapbox about all of us trying to come together to help all of our kids, but especially our neurodivergent kids who have more conflict, more ideas, and more brainstorming that needs to happen when we are trying to teach and parent a child who is not always aligning with the expectations that are right in front of us. They are on their own path. They're on their own timeframe, and we have to be the ones that adapt to that.

So today I'm walking you through how a trusting parent-teacher partnership helps your child. Let's find out what to do to build that relationship.

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Does your family’s school routine need an upgrade?

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Dr. Emily and Penny discuss the importance of understanding the biology-behavior connection when parenting neurodivergent teens, emphasizing the need to prioritize mental and emotional health over academic achievements, providing support and flexibility in a way that best suits each individual's needs. They challenge traditional expectations surrounding high school, college, and social interactions for teens, encouraging parents to embrace the uniqueness of their neurodivergent children and focus on building strong, supportive relationships. 

In the ever-changing world of parenting your neurodiverse child, this episode offers very real, practical advice from two people who are living that world on a daily basis.

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A parenting coach for neurodiverse families, Penny Williams is the award-winning author of four books on ADHD, including Boy Without Instructions, host of the Beautifully Complex Podcast, host of the annual Neurodiversity Summits, and co-creator of The Behavior Revolution Program, a parent training program designed to change the narrative on behavior and help parents celebrate and support their kids with ADHD or autism through neuroscience-backed insights, hard-won strategies, compassion, and guidance.  Penny empowers parents to help their neurodivergent kids — and families — thrive.

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For some children, they already know they are a visual learner or that they are great at reading. For others, we have to rely on educators and psychologists to help us figure out how our kids learn best. Either way, we need to teach all kids about their brain so they can understand that there is no one best way for everyone to learn. The best way to learn is the way that works best for YOU. Once children understand themselves, they begin to realize that everyone has their own constellation of abilities, and when we work together as a group, classroom, or community, we can accomplish things we cannot do alone. 

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Most parents already know that children need an evaluation to receive support services at school or a clinical diagnosis for insurance to cover therapeutic services. But some parents who pay “out-of-pocket” for therapy services or enroll their child in private school wonder: Is a diagnostic evaluation really necessary? 

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I don’t know about you, but this summer is already feeling more hectic than any in recent memory. Is this the first full-out summer since the pandemic? Am I just running low on parent stamina? Or is it just that driving my kids to activities feels like an additional part-time job? Whatever the reason, I’m here to commiserate with you. I’m also here to encourage you to do less. Yep, less. Do less and teach your kid what to do with that free time.

If you are raising a child with ADHD and have to plan every second of their summer for them, you’re already getting tired of hearing, “but I’m so bored!” And, if you are raising a child who hates playing outside and is happy as a clam inside the house, you might be worried about their vitamin D levels. Summer is about balance. 

Let’s build some social and independence skills but not wear ourselves out so much that we don’t reap the rewards of rest.

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Here’s the thing: I’ve never met a kid without interests. As the trusted adults raising and teaching neurodivergent kids, we may have to listen a little harder and look a bit closer, especially if a child’s interest doesn’t fit into society’s norm of “expected.” 

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We are never our best selves when stressed. Yet, the way we respond in the moment a child doesn’t do what we have asked them to do can do one of two things: either it creates a safe connection for the child to trust us as we align with them to solve the problem or we trigger a defense response in the child if we inadvertently disregard their need for more support.

So, what does this look like in a classroom? 

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This week, I’m here to remind you that you CAN find time for yourself, even during a busy school year. The most important thing to know is that a little bit of time will go a long way. As you reflect on this past school year, I’m here to share some new ideas for setting yourself up for resiliency in the fall.

A few months ago, I created a FREE video series for elementary educators to learn how to beat burnout during the school year. You’ll only need to set aside about 15 minutes a day to watch the four videos full of actionable ways to radically take care of yourself. Today’s episode is a sneak peek. Let’s get started!

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So, I want you to know you don't have to have a special education degree, but there are three things that I do believe are key to your mindset as an educator of neurodiverse learners.

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This topic is always on my mind this time of year as we go into testing season, which as we all know, if you're listening to this podcast, you have a child in your life that testing probably does not work for.

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We all know that the fields of psychology and education still haven’t fully integrated the wisdom we’re learning from research and neuroscience, and often rely on methods that seek to alter kids behavior through rewards and consequences. Once we acknowledge that behaviors, though, are meaningful and protective adaptations to a child’s internal experience, we can create a whole new range of compassionate and individually tailored options that surpass just managing behaviors.

So today, Dr. Mona Delahooke explains polyvagal theory and the paradigm shift that could be so helpful for parents and educators to make.

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Dr. Mona Delahooke is a best-selling author and child psychologist who aims to reduce suffering and increase resilience for children and families. Her paradigm-shifting model offers a new way of understanding emotional and behavioral challenges, incorporating the latest neuroscience and resilience research to support relationships. Dr. Delahooke is challenging the education system to update its practices from focusing on behavior to promoting relational safety.
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I was talking to a good friend the other day. We were exchanging stories about how our kids are starting to ask questions about puberty and I was pretty sure that I had grossed out mine by talking about body hair. My friend admitted that our conversation was causing her to break out into a sweat. She’s not alone. Most parents I talk to shutter at the mention of their child being ready for the “sex talk." Here’s the thing: This talk is not just one conversation and it’s not just about sex. Kids deserve to accurately understand their sexual and reproductive health.

No more putting this off; our kids need us. 

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Elizabeth Sautter is the author of Make Social and Emotional Learning Stick! Practical Strategies to Manage Emotions, Navigate Social Situations, and Reduce Anxiety. She is a collaborator and trainer with the Zones of Regulation Team and a Co-Author of The Zones Storybook Set Tools to Try Card Decks and Navigating the Zones Game.
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All parents know that sleep is important. No one knows sleep deprivation like a new parent with an infant who wakes every two to three hours to be fed or changed. I recall five hours of sleep being my personal threshold for feeling human in those early days of parenthood. Less than five hours of sleep and I was nearly non-functional. That’s because sleep is the great regulator. Without it, we struggle to maintain our attention, regulate our emotions, and manage our energy.

This is why the first thing I ask parents before we dive into figuring why a child might be struggling with something new is this: “How are they sleeping?”

Everyone has their own threshold for sleep, kids included. In case you’re wondering, here are the daily sleep amounts for kids and teens recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics. Many autistic children and teens are even more sensitive to the emotional and sensory impacts of not getting enough sleep. Children and teens with ADHD can struggle to wind down and fall asleep which often impacts family dynamics at bedtime. And, of course, children who are anxious may experience their most intense worries when the lights go out.

We've all read about the negative impact of not enough sleep for kids and teens. And, we all know that when children are well-rested, they are better able to remain emotionally regulated when things don't go their way, they are able to access learning by remaining engaged in the classroom, and they are generally happier. 

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Dr. Tina Bryson is a psychotherapist and the Founder/Executive Director of THE CENTER FOR CONNECTION in Pasadena, California. She's a NY Times Bestselling author and has written several books including The Bottom Line for Baby.
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[Note: These ideas are for informational purposes only. If you have concerns about your child’s safety due to physical self-harm or verbal self-criticism, please talk with their medical or mental health provider.]

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So how can we better understand and support our gifted kids?  Today, Dr. Matt joins us to talk about brain differences, emotional roller coasters, social anxiety, and the "Twice Exceptional" profile.

Dr. Matt Zakreski is the Founder and Lead Psychologist at The Neurodiversity Collective.

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Many families I work with create vacation routines that differ from home and school routines, but are consistent enough to keep children regulated while experiencing new things during their travels. For more traveling strategies, be sure to check out my blog post: How to Teach Your Neurodivergent Child to Travel. Many families have found success with the strategies I mention in that post, but today’s episode is all about supporting your child when they come home.
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If he was growing up in the 2020's, he'd be treated for ADHD pretty quickly. But back in the 80's, ADHD information wasn't widespread, and it wasn't until college that he was officially diagnosed.

On today's episode, Penn talks about growing up with ADHD, finding his passion for music and performing arts, learning how to accept his limitations and lean into his superpowers, and how he would design a school for ADHD minds.

You don't want to miss this vulnerable and hilarious episode.
 
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The reason I ask parents what school was like for them is this:

1) What worked (or didn’t work) for us in school informs how we feel about parent-teacher collaboration now, and

2) I want parents (and teachers) to realize that the child in front of them is living their school story right now. How we respond to their needs and encourage their strengths become a part of their story.

So, what was school like for you? I’ll go first.

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Debbie Reber is a parenting activist, New York Times bestselling author (Differently Wired), podcast host (Tilt Parenting), and speaker who has been inspiring and sparking conversations for parents, women, and teens for twenty years.

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Today, I’ll be sharing common worries I hear from parents raising neurodivergent kids and teens. I want you all to know that you are not alone.

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Here's how to break through.

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One gift of parenting a child developing on their own path and timetable is that you learn quickly to let go of any plans beyond about a school year’s span of time. You learn to remain present in solving the problems and celebrating the wins of today. You appreciate even a small milestone because you have watched your child struggle to do things and you notice the relief and pride on their face when they are finally able to do it. The flip side of this experience, of course, is not knowing if and when your child will become independent with various skills.

Honestly, no parent knows for sure what the future holds for their child, but when your child struggles developmentally, making predictions for tomorrow based on your child’s skills today is very hard to do. What we can do is financially plan for the future and focus on nurturing skills today. In today’s episode, I’m sharing tips on how to motivate neurodivergent kids who might have a short attention span, narrow (but deep) interests, and are not motivated by what other people think of them.

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Because our neurodivergent children present with skill weaknesses that occur internally, like those related to emotional dysregulation and executive functioning, when they are asked to do something they don’t have the capacity for at the moment, the first sign of distress is often avoidance or an emotional meltdown. But consider this: We would never discipline a child with a broken leg for not running a race. So, once we understand that our child’s behavior is not a choice, but rather a stress response related to the overwhelm of the situation, we support them rather than discipline them. But, there are still times when children need limits to learn how to stay safe and become independent. So, how can we tell the difference? 

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But what if your hard work does not yield a better outcome? 

Let’s view this through the lens of a neurodivergent child with skill weaknesses due to a diagnosis of autism, ADHD, anxiety, and/or a learning disability. 

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While “different” might mean that something is harder for your child, “different” never means “less than.” So I prefer to not even use the word “diagnosis” and instead focus on abilities and needs for support. We all have abilities and we all have needs, so let’s understand them and support one another.

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The Neurodiverse Classroom is a professional development online course created for passionate elementary teachers in need of up-to-date training to better understand the neurodiverse and mental health needs of their students.

I have always wanted to create an easy way for teachers to get all the information they need so they can create classrooms where everyone feels safe, nurtured, and celebrated.  

Parents: If you know a teacher who would want to hear more about this, just tag them or share!

Teachers: Join me as we merge my knowledge of child psychology, neurodivergence, and mental health with your knowledge of elementary education so we can help spark learning for every student.

This week only, you can enroll in the professional development self-study course. Inside The Neurodiverse Classroom, you will have access to pre-recorded video lessons beginning November 4th and delivered to your email inbox each Friday before Thanksgiving. 

Each lesson will help you reframe your thinking about teaching a neurodiverse group of learners, arm you with strategies to support them, and help you strengthen your self-care tool-kit as you learn to take care of yourself along this teaching journey. 

When you enroll in The Neurodiverse Classroom, you will get:

+Life-time access to the online course (including any future revisions)

+Life-time access to the STUDENTS ONLY Facebook group where you can learn from like-minded colleagues

+Certificate of completion of 6 hours of professional development 

To learn more here: https://www.learnwithdremily.com/teachers

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Teachers, if you’re ready to learn more about managing your energy and beating burnout this school year, I have created a free video series for teachers available the week of October 17th. You can sign up for this free resource here: https://www.learnwithdremily.com/beatburnout 

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Parenting On Your Own Path Course
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Parenting On Your Own Path Course
Online Course for Elementary Teachers
Bring Dr. Emily to Your School
Summer Workshops

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Parenting On Your Own Path Course
Online Course for Elementary Teachers
Bring Dr. Emily to Your School
Summer Workshops

All children care, but they might let go of their effort because the learning doesn’t feel attainable to them. In other words, it’s easier to “not care” than to continue trying and failing.

We must make learning feel attainable to every student by incorporating their interests and building their trust so learning feels relevant to them. 

Welcome to Learn with Dr. Emily, the podcast. Where parents and teachers come together for neurodivergent youth. I’m your host, Dr. Emily King, child psychologist and former school psychologist specializing in raising and teaching children and teens diagnosed with autism, ADHD, anxiety, learning disabilities, and/or giftedness. Each week, I share my thoughts on a topic related to psychology, parenting, education, or parent-teacher collaboration, which you can read on my blog or listen here. 

If you want to learn more about me and my online resources for parents and teachers, visit www.learnwithdremily.com. Let’s get started. 

Parents, you will notice that for the next four weeks I’m going to be talking directly to teachers. I invite you to stay on to read and listen. The reason I change my focus at times is so that parents can hear things from a teacher’s perspective and teachers can hear things from a parent’s perspective. Sharing our stories and perspectives is the foundation of effective collaboration. I hope you stay for it all. 

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