In this conversation:

Being is primary — the claim at the center of John's work, the difference between being and doing, and being as the highest point of leverage on your action.

All having is being — why you don't actually have anything, and how creating a state of being changes the quality of what you do.

The pitfall — getting so focused on being that it becomes navel-gazing, a warm cope that avoids the hard action you actually need to take.

The collective shadow of paragliding — what the community talks about, what it refuses to, and the weight of everything left unsaid.

Calling in versus calling out — admitting your own fear, meeting reckless pilots with an arm around the shoulder instead of a judgment, and why both depend on being okay with yourself.

The mentorship gap — why mentorship is a high-level skill to give and receive, and the case that it's the missing conversation in the sport.

Ari in the Air:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ariintheair
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ariintheair
PGMG (men's group): https://theparaglidingacademy.com/tours/mensgroup/

John Patrick Morgan:
Gatekeepers Podcast (Substack): https://jpmorganjr.substack.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jpmorganjr
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jpmorganjr/

In this conversation:

Why personal development requires addiction — how compulsive loops show up in everyone, not just the people in church basements.

Reciprocal narrowing — the way compulsion withers not just what you can do, but what you can enjoy and derive meaning from.

Obsession versus addiction — the role of negative consequences, and how subtle they can get before you notice them.

Addicted to thinking — how the same mechanism that drives substance use runs all the way down to rumination and catastrophic thought.

Point positive — where are you actually trying to go, and why a vision beats shame as a guide.

The trauma narrative — how therapy culture has gone off the rails, teleology versus cause, and men's work that asks what you're going to do about it.

Ari in the Air:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ariintheair
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ariintheair
PGMG (men's group): https://theparaglidingacademy.com/tours/mensgroup/

Alex Olshonsky:
Deep Fix (Substack): https://deepfix.substack.com
Substack profile: https://substack.com/@deepfix

In this conversation:

Adultification — the process of becoming ready to commit, why women arrive before men, and the older version of yourself who already knows what you should do.

Marriage as a business enterprise — choosing a partner you could build a life and a family with, and the test of whether you'd still respect her as the mother of your kids.

Romantic love versus being in love — why the sensation never lasts, and what real, durable love toward someone's humanity actually looks like.

Monday morning coffee is peak marriage — the everyday life that a lasting marriage is really made of.

Seduction versus manipulation — taking responsibility for a stalled sex life and leading toward a destination she didn't know she wanted.

The shit test — Bard's provocative read on how men and women communicate, and why feelings and thoughts must stay separate for a man.

Ari in the Air:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ariintheair
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ariintheair
PGMG (men's group): https://theparaglidingacademy.com/tours/mensgroup/

Alexander Bard:
X / Twitter: https://x.com/Bardissimo
Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alexander_Bard

In this conversation:

The salacious distractions — pornography, false adventure, perpetual healing, productivity worship, and the deeper pull underneath them all.

Serve yourself first — why a man has to master his own feelings and needs before he can truly serve others, and how bypassing yourself turns service into approval-seeking.

Taking custody of matter — the masculine work of bringing conscious awareness into the body, and making space for what you feel without fleeing into the mind.

Victimhood as distraction — the negative pleasure of the story that something was done to you, and the process of completing the past.

Balancing the equation — how many years you spent stacking one side of the scale with injustice, and what it takes to bring equal weight to your own healing.

Eric's death — the avalanche that rewrote everything, and the direct line from tragedy to fatherhood.

Ari in the Air:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ariintheair
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ariintheair
PGMG (men's group): https://theparaglidingacademy.com/tours/mensgroup/

Lubomir Arsov: 
Website: https://www.lubomirarsov.com
IN-SHADOW & KINGDOM films: https://www.lubomirarsov.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lubomirarsov

In this conversation:

The fear of going inward — why men who hurl themselves off mountains are terrified of therapy, and why that fear might actually be worth respecting.

Selfishness as a virtue — the case that radical self-expression isn't the opposite of being a good father, husband, and man. It might be the whole point.

Terry O'Connor — Gavin's best friend, an ER physician and backcountry skier, who died in an avalanche. What it means to grieve someone who was your north star, and how to find the seeds he left behind.

The domestication problem — what happens to a man who has lived perpetually at the edge when the days start to look the same. And how to bring that flow state home.

Should — the single word that generates more shame and paralysis in men than almost any other.

Flip the switch — the simplest and most profound piece of advice Gavin ever received about fatherhood, and why it applies to everything.

Ari in the Air:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ariintheair
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ariintheair
PGMG (men's group): https://theparaglidingacademy.com/tours/mensgroup/

Gavin McClurg:
Cloudbase Mayhem Podcast: https://www.cloudbasemayhem.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gavinmcclurg