Hairy Butthole Transistor (https://transistor.fm) https://feeds.transistor.fm/hairy-butthole Hairy Butthole is a podcast based on the Korean saying "If you laugh while crying, hair will grow out of your butthole!" Each week Youngmi Mayer is joined by a guest with a sad story and counters it with a funny one in hopes of causing hair to grow out of their butthole. © 2025 Youngmi Mayer 5aab8be1-f7dd-53c8-91d4-cfaf8113ebb8 no en Thu, 07 Nov 2024 14:13:22 -0800 Tue, 02 Dec 2025 16:30:26 -0800 https://img.transistor.fm/0_vJT350pWX7Oqld4HwRO62lkg85sk1zjdoJcGn-M1U/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:1400/h:1400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzMyNzYxLzE2NTg5/NDMxNjUtYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.jpg Hairy Butthole episodic Youngmi Mayer Hairy Butthole is a podcast based on the Korean saying "If you laugh while crying, hair will grow out of your butthole!" Each week Youngmi Mayer is joined by a guest with a sad story and counters it with a funny one in hopes of causing hair to grow out of their butthole. Hairy Butthole is a podcast based on the Korean saying "If you laugh while crying, hair will grow out of your butthole!" Each week Youngmi Mayer is joined by a guest with a sad story and counters it with a funny one in hopes of causing hair to grow out of their butthole.. Chelsea Lin No No "Mino, What Do You Know About Trump?" 89 89 "Mino, What Do You Know About Trump?" full 3b23ba78-330a-4878-9972-6457e272169d https://share.transistor.fm/s/f8aa67e1 This week, Youngmi asks Mino Bowien (her son) what he knows about Trump and American politics. She also reflects on the first time Trump was elected president in 2016 and realizes for the first time the positive changes that came in her life as a direct result.

]]> This week, Youngmi asks Mino Bowien (her son) what he knows about Trump and American politics. She also reflects on the first time Trump was elected president in 2016 and realizes for the first time the positive changes that came in her life as a direct result.

]]> Thu, 07 Nov 2024 14:13:19 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2847 This week, Youngmi asks Mino Bowien (her son) what he knows about Trump and American politics. She also reflects on the first time Trump was elected president in 2016 and realizes for the first time the positive changes that came in her life as a direct result.

]]> No Now What? 88 88 Now What? full 0a58519e-ed7e-449d-bf83-9f4358b18ec1 https://share.transistor.fm/s/b8fc7727 This week, Youngmi processes her emotions about her book coming out next week in real time. She comes to the realization

that her fear of her parents being angry at her for sharing her account of her childhood is actually misplaced sadness, anger

and the feeling of utter unfairness at the realization that she is, in fact, the person who deserves to be angry. She realizes 

she is the person owed an apology, not the other way around. She also once again touches on how ridiculous it is to feel bad

when something good happens.

]]> This week, Youngmi processes her emotions about her book coming out next week in real time. She comes to the realization

that her fear of her parents being angry at her for sharing her account of her childhood is actually misplaced sadness, anger

and the feeling of utter unfairness at the realization that she is, in fact, the person who deserves to be angry. She realizes 

she is the person owed an apology, not the other way around. She also once again touches on how ridiculous it is to feel bad

when something good happens.

]]> Fri, 25 Oct 2024 07:57:05 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2466 This week, Youngmi processes her emotions about her book coming out next week in real time. She comes to the realization

that her fear of her parents being angry at her for sharing her account of her childhood is actually misplaced sadness, anger

and the feeling of utter unfairness at the realization that she is, in fact, the person who deserves to be angry. She realizes 

she is the person owed an apology, not the other way around. She also once again touches on how ridiculous it is to feel bad

when something good happens.

]]> No The Season(ing)s of Life 87 87 The Season(ing)s of Life full 765c8273-edc6-4181-bf16-40e1996b3e1e https://share.transistor.fm/s/02bf330a This week, Youngmi talks to Sohla El-Waylly (James Beard Award Winning cookbook author of Start Here) about the running internet joke about white people not seasoning their chicken. Sohla explains the definition of properly seasoning food, and how white people are not necessarily in the wrong here. She also discusses all the nuances surrounding her emotions about weight gain during pregnancy and the stress of not losing 'the baby weight' fast enough, leading to a deeper conversation about where unhappy feelings originate from and how they might not necessarily be about the weight.

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to Sohla El-Waylly (James Beard Award Winning cookbook author of Start Here) about the running internet joke about white people not seasoning their chicken. Sohla explains the definition of properly seasoning food, and how white people are not necessarily in the wrong here. She also discusses all the nuances surrounding her emotions about weight gain during pregnancy and the stress of not losing 'the baby weight' fast enough, leading to a deeper conversation about where unhappy feelings originate from and how they might not necessarily be about the weight.

]]> Thu, 10 Oct 2024 16:12:20 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3898 This week, Youngmi talks to Sohla El-Waylly (James Beard Award Winning cookbook author of Start Here) about the running internet joke about white people not seasoning their chicken. Sohla explains the definition of properly seasoning food, and how white people are not necessarily in the wrong here. She also discusses all the nuances surrounding her emotions about weight gain during pregnancy and the stress of not losing 'the baby weight' fast enough, leading to a deeper conversation about where unhappy feelings originate from and how they might not necessarily be about the weight.

]]> No 잘난척하지마! Don't be a show-off! 86 86 잘난척하지마! Don't be a show-off! full 3f81fc2a-a2c3-4a24-8c06-eaf775377bf9 https://share.transistor.fm/s/e26fa8c2 This week, Youngmi speaks with Jon Kung (content creator, cookbook author) about his practice of hiding his career accomplishments from his parents. Jon traces his aversion to boasting about his success to his childhood, where he felt pitted against his peers in a competition against his will. Jon and Youngmi discuss the confusing rules surrounding boasting in Asian cultures, where one is never allowed to be proud of their own accomplishments, which unfortunately seems to create a lot of passive aggressive "fake humble" behavior. Youngmi explains how the phrase "잘난척하지마!" or "Don't be a show-off!" (direct translation: Don't pretend you're a high born!) is one of the most common insults in Korea whenever anyone is seen doing anything even minimally boastful, due to cultural disdain of show-offs.

]]> This week, Youngmi speaks with Jon Kung (content creator, cookbook author) about his practice of hiding his career accomplishments from his parents. Jon traces his aversion to boasting about his success to his childhood, where he felt pitted against his peers in a competition against his will. Jon and Youngmi discuss the confusing rules surrounding boasting in Asian cultures, where one is never allowed to be proud of their own accomplishments, which unfortunately seems to create a lot of passive aggressive "fake humble" behavior. Youngmi explains how the phrase "잘난척하지마!" or "Don't be a show-off!" (direct translation: Don't pretend you're a high born!) is one of the most common insults in Korea whenever anyone is seen doing anything even minimally boastful, due to cultural disdain of show-offs.

]]> Wed, 18 Sep 2024 18:25:59 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3107 This week, Youngmi speaks with Jon Kung (content creator, cookbook author) about his practice of hiding his career accomplishments from his parents. Jon traces his aversion to boasting about his success to his childhood, where he felt pitted against his peers in a competition against his will. Jon and Youngmi discuss the confusing rules surrounding boasting in Asian cultures, where one is never allowed to be proud of their own accomplishments, which unfortunately seems to create a lot of passive aggressive "fake humble" behavior. Youngmi explains how the phrase "잘난척하지마!" or "Don't be a show-off!" (direct translation: Don't pretend you're a high born!) is one of the most common insults in Korea whenever anyone is seen doing anything even minimally boastful, due to cultural disdain of show-offs.

]]> No The most hairiest butthole story of all time 85 85 The most hairiest butthole story of all time full 06646eb5-0dd9-4af8-9766-f75c3fe4c4ec https://share.transistor.fm/s/32f08f35 Youngmi talks to Nancy Whang (LCD Soundsystem) about her continual journey with taking psychedelics to cure depression. Nancy also shares the story of the passing of her father, which turns out to be the most Korean most-laugh-while-crying story of all Hairy Butthole history.

]]> Youngmi talks to Nancy Whang (LCD Soundsystem) about her continual journey with taking psychedelics to cure depression. Nancy also shares the story of the passing of her father, which turns out to be the most Korean most-laugh-while-crying story of all Hairy Butthole history.

]]> Tue, 27 Aug 2024 10:29:26 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4305 Youngmi talks to Nancy Whang (LCD Soundsystem) about her continual journey with taking psychedelics to cure depression. Nancy also shares the story of the passing of her father, which turns out to be the most Korean most-laugh-while-crying story of all Hairy Butthole history.

]]> No Mino wants to talk 84 84 Mino wants to talk full 24e45796-9b09-45b9-a5a8-83cc8643a4ab https://share.transistor.fm/s/bd7e3076 This week, Youngmi's son Mino Bowien (child) asks to discuss the death of their cat, Donggo. Mino requested to discuss his feelings about the passing of their cat, and includes advice to other children and even adults dealing with the grief of losing a pet.

]]> This week, Youngmi's son Mino Bowien (child) asks to discuss the death of their cat, Donggo. Mino requested to discuss his feelings about the passing of their cat, and includes advice to other children and even adults dealing with the grief of losing a pet.

]]> Thu, 15 Aug 2024 10:14:26 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2169 This week, Youngmi's son Mino Bowien (child) asks to discuss the death of their cat, Donggo. Mino requested to discuss his feelings about the passing of their cat, and includes advice to other children and even adults dealing with the grief of losing a pet.

]]> No My Story 83 83 My Story full a13e698f-9fef-4411-b245-45a9474342b3 https://share.transistor.fm/s/e03e8e3b This week, Youngmi chats with Anthony Hull (filmmaker, founder of Side Projects). Anthony discusses what led him down the path to becoming a storyteller, and largely credits his Korean mom. When questioned about what his sad life experiences are, Anthony deflects the focus to his mother's hardships, and Youngmi questions the impulse to not want to center himself. Anthony also discusses what life is like as a filmmaker/creative who has a successful career in New York City, and how living it is extremely different than how it appears to be to others.

]]> This week, Youngmi chats with Anthony Hull (filmmaker, founder of Side Projects). Anthony discusses what led him down the path to becoming a storyteller, and largely credits his Korean mom. When questioned about what his sad life experiences are, Anthony deflects the focus to his mother's hardships, and Youngmi questions the impulse to not want to center himself. Anthony also discusses what life is like as a filmmaker/creative who has a successful career in New York City, and how living it is extremely different than how it appears to be to others.

]]> Wed, 31 Jul 2024 14:29:10 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3833 This week, Youngmi chats with Anthony Hull (filmmaker, founder of Side Projects). Anthony discusses what led him down the path to becoming a storyteller, and largely credits his Korean mom. When questioned about what his sad life experiences are, Anthony deflects the focus to his mother's hardships, and Youngmi questions the impulse to not want to center himself. Anthony also discusses what life is like as a filmmaker/creative who has a successful career in New York City, and how living it is extremely different than how it appears to be to others.

]]> No F*ck Korea! 82 82 F*ck Korea! full 0d340c64-dac8-46fb-bd89-d16669a6cdb4 https://share.transistor.fm/s/f49231d1 This week, Youngmi talks to Mary H.K. Choi (author) about her essay in The Cut about her recent autism diagnosis at the age of 43. Mary throws a curveball by focusing the conversation on Youngmi's upcoming memoir and the theme of loving and hating Korea. Mary reflects on the strongly negative view Youngmi has about Korea, and discusses how before this, Asian American literature has been almost void of such strong criticisms of our "homelands." Youngmi and Mary have a deep conversation about how a big part of Korean culture is to recognize that love and hate are the same thing and that saying "Fuck Korea!" is the most Korean thing a Korean person can do.

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to Mary H.K. Choi (author) about her essay in The Cut about her recent autism diagnosis at the age of 43. Mary throws a curveball by focusing the conversation on Youngmi's upcoming memoir and the theme of loving and hating Korea. Mary reflects on the strongly negative view Youngmi has about Korea, and discusses how before this, Asian American literature has been almost void of such strong criticisms of our "homelands." Youngmi and Mary have a deep conversation about how a big part of Korean culture is to recognize that love and hate are the same thing and that saying "Fuck Korea!" is the most Korean thing a Korean person can do.

]]> Wed, 17 Jul 2024 10:01:40 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3680 This week, Youngmi talks to Mary H.K. Choi (author) about her essay in The Cut about her recent autism diagnosis at the age of 43. Mary throws a curveball by focusing the conversation on Youngmi's upcoming memoir and the theme of loving and hating Korea. Mary reflects on the strongly negative view Youngmi has about Korea, and discusses how before this, Asian American literature has been almost void of such strong criticisms of our "homelands." Youngmi and Mary have a deep conversation about how a big part of Korean culture is to recognize that love and hate are the same thing and that saying "Fuck Korea!" is the most Korean thing a Korean person can do.

]]> No The Never Dumped 81 81 The Never Dumped full c1ec8a34-3335-4472-a2b5-1cac7d99112a https://share.transistor.fm/s/4c3dafa5 This week, Youngmi reads an essay she wrote about a recent relationship and breakup she experienced with a people pleaser.

]]> This week, Youngmi reads an essay she wrote about a recent relationship and breakup she experienced with a people pleaser.

]]> Wed, 03 Jul 2024 16:01:07 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2120 This week, Youngmi reads an essay she wrote about a recent relationship and breakup she experienced with a people pleaser.

]]> No The dead cat doesn't come back the same 80 80 The dead cat doesn't come back the same full a208b006-e2ee-410d-9dcb-668bcf43b9c2 https://share.transistor.fm/s/8d5b4db9 This week, Youngmi talks to her anonymous neighbor "Barbara," who coincidentally is also going through a terrible breakup. Barbara and Youngmi discuss the nuances of their relationships, and ultimately find the bond they were searching for in romantic relationships with men, between themselves.

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to her anonymous neighbor "Barbara," who coincidentally is also going through a terrible breakup. Barbara and Youngmi discuss the nuances of their relationships, and ultimately find the bond they were searching for in romantic relationships with men, between themselves.

]]> Fri, 21 Jun 2024 09:27:10 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3336 This week, Youngmi talks to her anonymous neighbor "Barbara," who coincidentally is also going through a terrible breakup. Barbara and Youngmi discuss the nuances of their relationships, and ultimately find the bond they were searching for in romantic relationships with men, between themselves.

]]> No Hairy Butthole Died 79 79 Hairy Butthole Died full 946fd72e-6387-449a-84bd-3150e7eea6fa https://share.transistor.fm/s/1e1a5fbd This week, Youngmi discusses the death of her cat Donggo, whose name means butthole in Korean and who was extra hairy. She also touches on the larger topic of grief and how to strike a balance between making room for grief and getting back to living life, and parenting a child experiencing grief.

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses the death of her cat Donggo, whose name means butthole in Korean and who was extra hairy. She also touches on the larger topic of grief and how to strike a balance between making room for grief and getting back to living life, and parenting a child experiencing grief.

]]> Thu, 06 Jun 2024 12:02:17 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2672 This week, Youngmi discusses the death of her cat Donggo, whose name means butthole in Korean and who was extra hairy. She also touches on the larger topic of grief and how to strike a balance between making room for grief and getting back to living life, and parenting a child experiencing grief.

]]> No Total Recall (Autistic Edition) 78 78 Total Recall (Autistic Edition) full 8f823140-5c5d-44b9-b07c-e9e9eed0cbb5 https://share.transistor.fm/s/59175e84 This week, Youngmi speaks with her close friend, renowned mixologist and cocktail book author, John deBary. John discusses being diagnosed with autism less than a month ago at the age of 41. He dives into a unique experience among people who receive diagnoses as adults: combing through huge events throughout their childhood and early lives and realizing how monumental the impact of their neurodivergence was in the formation of their identities. John discusses two of the most memorable events in his childhood and how they were the direct result of him having autism and his parents failing to realize that.

]]> This week, Youngmi speaks with her close friend, renowned mixologist and cocktail book author, John deBary. John discusses being diagnosed with autism less than a month ago at the age of 41. He dives into a unique experience among people who receive diagnoses as adults: combing through huge events throughout their childhood and early lives and realizing how monumental the impact of their neurodivergence was in the formation of their identities. John discusses two of the most memorable events in his childhood and how they were the direct result of him having autism and his parents failing to realize that.

]]> Wed, 22 May 2024 16:00:24 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3850 This week, Youngmi speaks with her close friend, renowned mixologist and cocktail book author, John deBary. John discusses being diagnosed with autism less than a month ago at the age of 41. He dives into a unique experience among people who receive diagnoses as adults: combing through huge events throughout their childhood and early lives and realizing how monumental the impact of their neurodivergence was in the formation of their identities. John discusses two of the most memorable events in his childhood and how they were the direct result of him having autism and his parents failing to realize that.

]]> No Margaret Cho is mother 77 77 Margaret Cho is mother full 82a98261-aa55-4a0f-918b-e799bd8fa116 https://share.transistor.fm/s/1ff6afd3 This week, Youngmi talks to Kate Moran (producer of Asian Comedy Fest, comedian, host of The Witchcast podcast) about her story as a Korean adoptee who succeeded in finding her birth mother. She notes how rare her experience was and discusses the strange feeling of grieving the loss of an imaginary "fairy mother" when meeting her biological mother who was, in fact, a human being with flaws. Kate reflects on how strange it was for her to search for a perfect mother all her life, only to realize no one really has one. But we all have Margaret Cho to look up to.

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to Kate Moran (producer of Asian Comedy Fest, comedian, host of The Witchcast podcast) about her story as a Korean adoptee who succeeded in finding her birth mother. She notes how rare her experience was and discusses the strange feeling of grieving the loss of an imaginary "fairy mother" when meeting her biological mother who was, in fact, a human being with flaws. Kate reflects on how strange it was for her to search for a perfect mother all her life, only to realize no one really has one. But we all have Margaret Cho to look up to.

]]> Tue, 07 May 2024 13:10:12 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4408 This week, Youngmi talks to Kate Moran (producer of Asian Comedy Fest, comedian, host of The Witchcast podcast) about her story as a Korean adoptee who succeeded in finding her birth mother. She notes how rare her experience was and discusses the strange feeling of grieving the loss of an imaginary "fairy mother" when meeting her biological mother who was, in fact, a human being with flaws. Kate reflects on how strange it was for her to search for a perfect mother all her life, only to realize no one really has one. But we all have Margaret Cho to look up to.

]]> No Just Google 'Brittany Carney and horse' 76 76 Just Google 'Brittany Carney and horse' full 2a5cf1b5-e497-46c3-b628-7953fc929c9b https://share.transistor.fm/s/93296da7 This week, Youngmi talks to Brittany Carney (writer, comedian, star of That is My Horse) about being part of a race that you do not appear to be. Brittany shares a story about bonding with a Japanese child at a science camp she was teaching at. As a mixed-race person of Japanese and African American heritage, she talks about the rejection she feels when Japanese people have a hard time reading her as "one of them." This is especially difficult for her as someone who was born and raised for a significant portion of her childhood in Japan and speaks Japanese as her native language. Brittany and Youngmi also discuss what the world of standup is like for women in today's world, where standup fans are more extreme and polarized than ever.

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to Brittany Carney (writer, comedian, star of That is My Horse) about being part of a race that you do not appear to be. Brittany shares a story about bonding with a Japanese child at a science camp she was teaching at. As a mixed-race person of Japanese and African American heritage, she talks about the rejection she feels when Japanese people have a hard time reading her as "one of them." This is especially difficult for her as someone who was born and raised for a significant portion of her childhood in Japan and speaks Japanese as her native language. Brittany and Youngmi also discuss what the world of standup is like for women in today's world, where standup fans are more extreme and polarized than ever.

]]> Tue, 23 Apr 2024 09:50:03 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4046 This week, Youngmi talks to Brittany Carney (writer, comedian, star of That is My Horse) about being part of a race that you do not appear to be. Brittany shares a story about bonding with a Japanese child at a science camp she was teaching at. As a mixed-race person of Japanese and African American heritage, she talks about the rejection she feels when Japanese people have a hard time reading her as "one of them." This is especially difficult for her as someone who was born and raised for a significant portion of her childhood in Japan and speaks Japanese as her native language. Brittany and Youngmi also discuss what the world of standup is like for women in today's world, where standup fans are more extreme and polarized than ever.

]]> No Diary of a Gay Kid 75 75 Diary of a Gay Kid full 22784111-3640-46f1-948c-d15698f5332c https://share.transistor.fm/s/95d83f8a This week, Youngmi talks with Jared Goldstein (actor, comedian) about struggling to be one of the "cool kids" in high school. Jared points out that contrary to the popular trope of bullies ending up working in gas stations while the kids they bullied become successful, real-life mean kids are usually rich and subsequently do very well as adults. Jared also talks about how 99 percent of his profession is dealing with rejection and how he's learned to deal with that.

]]> This week, Youngmi talks with Jared Goldstein (actor, comedian) about struggling to be one of the "cool kids" in high school. Jared points out that contrary to the popular trope of bullies ending up working in gas stations while the kids they bullied become successful, real-life mean kids are usually rich and subsequently do very well as adults. Jared also talks about how 99 percent of his profession is dealing with rejection and how he's learned to deal with that.

]]> Wed, 10 Apr 2024 12:51:27 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3207 This week, Youngmi talks with Jared Goldstein (actor, comedian) about struggling to be one of the "cool kids" in high school. Jared points out that contrary to the popular trope of bullies ending up working in gas stations while the kids they bullied become successful, real-life mean kids are usually rich and subsequently do very well as adults. Jared also talks about how 99 percent of his profession is dealing with rejection and how he's learned to deal with that.

]]> No Wangtta (King Reject) 74 74 Wangtta (King Reject) full 9bbc3e83-5a63-4442-a2ad-6d1193ccee7a https://share.transistor.fm/s/cefe9b6f This week, Youngmi talks to Ed Pokropski (creator of Case 84: Adopted in the USA, producer of Asian Comedy Festival) about the one-person show he wrote about his adoption and subsequent return visit to Korea. Ed talks about growing up not wanting to visit Korea because of the resentment he felt about the forced narratives surrounding adoption and the idea of it being his "homeland." He also talks about having an emotional breakdown while visiting an orphanage in Korea and seeing a poster of a Korean baby being adopted by Korean parents. Youngmi relates to the feelings of being abandoned and/or rejected by a collective society because of her biracial identity.

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to Ed Pokropski (creator of Case 84: Adopted in the USA, producer of Asian Comedy Festival) about the one-person show he wrote about his adoption and subsequent return visit to Korea. Ed talks about growing up not wanting to visit Korea because of the resentment he felt about the forced narratives surrounding adoption and the idea of it being his "homeland." He also talks about having an emotional breakdown while visiting an orphanage in Korea and seeing a poster of a Korean baby being adopted by Korean parents. Youngmi relates to the feelings of being abandoned and/or rejected by a collective society because of her biracial identity.

]]> Fri, 29 Mar 2024 10:38:10 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4138 This week, Youngmi talks to Ed Pokropski (creator of Case 84: Adopted in the USA, producer of Asian Comedy Festival) about the one-person show he wrote about his adoption and subsequent return visit to Korea. Ed talks about growing up not wanting to visit Korea because of the resentment he felt about the forced narratives surrounding adoption and the idea of it being his "homeland." He also talks about having an emotional breakdown while visiting an orphanage in Korea and seeing a poster of a Korean baby being adopted by Korean parents. Youngmi relates to the feelings of being abandoned and/or rejected by a collective society because of her biracial identity.

]]> No Photoshopping Mom Into My Success ft. Charlene Kaye 73 73 Photoshopping Mom Into My Success ft. Charlene Kaye full db051586-f0e5-4856-b097-e8c6dc665b4e https://share.transistor.fm/s/415aad52 This week, Youngmi talks to Charlene Kaye (musician/actor/creator of Tiger Daughter) about the extremely taboo topic of mother-daughter competition. Charlene talks about how her pursuit of her music/acting career was difficult for her mother to experience as someone who had to give up on her own dreams of becoming a singer as a young girl struggling with poverty in Singapore. Youngmi and Charlene discuss how both Asian cultural practices and misogyny set women and young girls up to feel competitive with each other because of the scarcity of validation. 

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to Charlene Kaye (musician/actor/creator of Tiger Daughter) about the extremely taboo topic of mother-daughter competition. Charlene talks about how her pursuit of her music/acting career was difficult for her mother to experience as someone who had to give up on her own dreams of becoming a singer as a young girl struggling with poverty in Singapore. Youngmi and Charlene discuss how both Asian cultural practices and misogyny set women and young girls up to feel competitive with each other because of the scarcity of validation. 

]]> Wed, 13 Mar 2024 11:42:04 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3603 This week, Youngmi talks to Charlene Kaye (musician/actor/creator of Tiger Daughter) about the extremely taboo topic of mother-daughter competition. Charlene talks about how her pursuit of her music/acting career was difficult for her mother to experience as someone who had to give up on her own dreams of becoming a singer as a young girl struggling with poverty in Singapore. Youngmi and Charlene discuss how both Asian cultural practices and misogyny set women and young girls up to feel competitive with each other because of the scarcity of validation. 

]]> No Parenting Your Parents 72 72 Parenting Your Parents full 4bc73cef-3a04-46e8-a5af-e15dfd29a695 https://share.transistor.fm/s/995ed439 This week Youngmi speaks with Umeko Motoyoshi (they/them), the founder of the online home goods store Umeshiso. Motoyoshi speaks about growing up in a cult founded by their father—an environment where the adults in their community had poor boundaries and where Motoyoshi had to take on a parental role as a child. This was coupled with the exhausting masking of their autism, which led them to a suicide attempt at the age of 13. They were court ordered to attend their small town's branch of AA, which was unfortunately a branch rife with abuse, exacerbating their mental health issues further. Motoyoshi also discusses how they started an e-commerce home goods brand fueled by their passion for coffee with the experience they gained working at a tech startup.

]]> This week Youngmi speaks with Umeko Motoyoshi (they/them), the founder of the online home goods store Umeshiso. Motoyoshi speaks about growing up in a cult founded by their father—an environment where the adults in their community had poor boundaries and where Motoyoshi had to take on a parental role as a child. This was coupled with the exhausting masking of their autism, which led them to a suicide attempt at the age of 13. They were court ordered to attend their small town's branch of AA, which was unfortunately a branch rife with abuse, exacerbating their mental health issues further. Motoyoshi also discusses how they started an e-commerce home goods brand fueled by their passion for coffee with the experience they gained working at a tech startup.

]]> Thu, 29 Feb 2024 12:12:25 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 6401 This week Youngmi speaks with Umeko Motoyoshi (they/them), the founder of the online home goods store Umeshiso. Motoyoshi speaks about growing up in a cult founded by their father—an environment where the adults in their community had poor boundaries and where Motoyoshi had to take on a parental role as a child. This was coupled with the exhausting masking of their autism, which led them to a suicide attempt at the age of 13. They were court ordered to attend their small town's branch of AA, which was unfortunately a branch rife with abuse, exacerbating their mental health issues further. Motoyoshi also discusses how they started an e-commerce home goods brand fueled by their passion for coffee with the experience they gained working at a tech startup.

]]> No Journalism versus TikTok ft. Tulika Bose 71 71 Journalism versus TikTok ft. Tulika Bose full fcca51d2-1e93-4bf1-958e-f12f952d49b5 https://share.transistor.fm/s/d41e9a97 This week, Tulika Bose (journalist) joins the pod again to discuss the tense and somewhat terrifying climate of newsrooms following Oct. 7. She talks about how the "punishment" for speaking up has fallen disproportionately on the shoulders of women of color and how journalists are being silenced due to the interests of sponsors. She touches on the ways in which the industry runs now being almost counterintuitive to sharing the truth, while discussing the positives of social media information sharing as well as the downfalls, including the spread of misinformation. Bose also shares her vision for the future of journalism: a blend of old-school investigative research and modern social media savvy. 

]]> This week, Tulika Bose (journalist) joins the pod again to discuss the tense and somewhat terrifying climate of newsrooms following Oct. 7. She talks about how the "punishment" for speaking up has fallen disproportionately on the shoulders of women of color and how journalists are being silenced due to the interests of sponsors. She touches on the ways in which the industry runs now being almost counterintuitive to sharing the truth, while discussing the positives of social media information sharing as well as the downfalls, including the spread of misinformation. Bose also shares her vision for the future of journalism: a blend of old-school investigative research and modern social media savvy. 

]]> Wed, 14 Feb 2024 13:58:49 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4063 This week, Tulika Bose (journalist) joins the pod again to discuss the tense and somewhat terrifying climate of newsrooms following Oct. 7. She talks about how the "punishment" for speaking up has fallen disproportionately on the shoulders of women of color and how journalists are being silenced due to the interests of sponsors. She touches on the ways in which the industry runs now being almost counterintuitive to sharing the truth, while discussing the positives of social media information sharing as well as the downfalls, including the spread of misinformation. Bose also shares her vision for the future of journalism: a blend of old-school investigative research and modern social media savvy. 

]]> No Thailand One Year Later ft. Oak Laokwansathitaya 70 70 Thailand One Year Later ft. Oak Laokwansathitaya full 55cdc0f2-d196-46eb-a075-bb97aebe8159 https://share.transistor.fm/s/c4e706f9 This week, Youngmi talks to Oak Laokwansathitaya (@notanothertree). Oak and Youngmi discuss the one year anniversary of their trip to Thailand. Oak discusses what it feels like as a Thai person going to a country known for its foreign tourist industry and how he feels protective of the people of Thailand when witnessing poor treatment at the hands of tourists.

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to Oak Laokwansathitaya (@notanothertree). Oak and Youngmi discuss the one year anniversary of their trip to Thailand. Oak discusses what it feels like as a Thai person going to a country known for its foreign tourist industry and how he feels protective of the people of Thailand when witnessing poor treatment at the hands of tourists.

]]> Fri, 02 Feb 2024 15:05:34 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3731 This week, Youngmi talks to Oak Laokwansathitaya (@notanothertree). Oak and Youngmi discuss the one year anniversary of their trip to Thailand. Oak discusses what it feels like as a Thai person going to a country known for its foreign tourist industry and how he feels protective of the people of Thailand when witnessing poor treatment at the hands of tourists.

]]> No Niche Asian Content Creators 69 69 Niche Asian Content Creators full 14247bc9-acb5-4480-acea-dd2c6eaf03fc https://share.transistor.fm/s/43d34eac This week, Youngmi chats with Royce Akifumi Wilmot (TikTok content creator, @shoshinboy) about their weird theories on content creation, authenticity, why people just watch other people talk while sitting in their cars, and music. Royce creates content on "classic rock" (music that was popular when Youngmi was in high school) and they discuss how he fell into this niche. He also discusses a sad story centered on his family's personal experience with Japanese internment, and touches on how strange it feels to live in California, among forgotten historical landmarks of that era.

]]> This week, Youngmi chats with Royce Akifumi Wilmot (TikTok content creator, @shoshinboy) about their weird theories on content creation, authenticity, why people just watch other people talk while sitting in their cars, and music. Royce creates content on "classic rock" (music that was popular when Youngmi was in high school) and they discuss how he fell into this niche. He also discusses a sad story centered on his family's personal experience with Japanese internment, and touches on how strange it feels to live in California, among forgotten historical landmarks of that era.

]]> Thu, 18 Jan 2024 15:46:03 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4159 This week, Youngmi chats with Royce Akifumi Wilmot (TikTok content creator, @shoshinboy) about their weird theories on content creation, authenticity, why people just watch other people talk while sitting in their cars, and music. Royce creates content on "classic rock" (music that was popular when Youngmi was in high school) and they discuss how he fell into this niche. He also discusses a sad story centered on his family's personal experience with Japanese internment, and touches on how strange it feels to live in California, among forgotten historical landmarks of that era.

]]> No World Peace And Running Away ft. Lana Siebel 68 68 World Peace And Running Away ft. Lana Siebel full 8aceb534-3196-4c6f-9224-250553be0fb3 https://share.transistor.fm/s/6c53c83f This week, Youngmi talks to Lana Siebel (standup comedian). Lana discusses her childhood as a Ukrainian Jewish refugee. She talks about how her past shaped her into someone who has an immense desire for peace but at the same time someone who is riddled with unrelenting fear. Lana and Youngmi also discuss how strange it is for large groups of people to be grouped together in abstract "teams" based on their religion or race, when other factors of relating to each other seem way more important. 

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to Lana Siebel (standup comedian). Lana discusses her childhood as a Ukrainian Jewish refugee. She talks about how her past shaped her into someone who has an immense desire for peace but at the same time someone who is riddled with unrelenting fear. Lana and Youngmi also discuss how strange it is for large groups of people to be grouped together in abstract "teams" based on their religion or race, when other factors of relating to each other seem way more important. 

]]> Tue, 02 Jan 2024 09:39:11 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4783 This week, Youngmi talks to Lana Siebel (standup comedian). Lana discusses her childhood as a Ukrainian Jewish refugee. She talks about how her past shaped her into someone who has an immense desire for peace but at the same time someone who is riddled with unrelenting fear. Lana and Youngmi also discuss how strange it is for large groups of people to be grouped together in abstract "teams" based on their religion or race, when other factors of relating to each other seem way more important. 

]]> No Post Me On Main 67 67 Post Me On Main full 232a0c18-4731-4159-9c50-c960d5b474fe https://share.transistor.fm/s/9d088fd0 This week, Youngmi talks to Jes Tom (comedian, writer for Our Flag Means Death on Max) about a seemingly small issue he had in his last relationship, not being posted on main. Jes and Youngmi talk about how small problems in romantic relationships result in us feeling large emotions and how maybe our emotional reactions are indicative of larger important issues. Jes also discusses how it feels as a fifth-generation Japanese American and third-generation Chinese American in reference to his identity as an American and an Asian person. 

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to Jes Tom (comedian, writer for Our Flag Means Death on Max) about a seemingly small issue he had in his last relationship, not being posted on main. Jes and Youngmi talk about how small problems in romantic relationships result in us feeling large emotions and how maybe our emotional reactions are indicative of larger important issues. Jes also discusses how it feels as a fifth-generation Japanese American and third-generation Chinese American in reference to his identity as an American and an Asian person. 

]]> Wed, 06 Dec 2023 14:52:05 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4777 This week, Youngmi talks to Jes Tom (comedian, writer for Our Flag Means Death on Max) about a seemingly small issue he had in his last relationship, not being posted on main. Jes and Youngmi talk about how small problems in romantic relationships result in us feeling large emotions and how maybe our emotional reactions are indicative of larger important issues. Jes also discusses how it feels as a fifth-generation Japanese American and third-generation Chinese American in reference to his identity as an American and an Asian person. 

]]> No Jesus Was Korean 66 66 Jesus Was Korean full 29f05810-03af-44ea-a7de-7123ce7433ee https://share.transistor.fm/s/373527e9 This week, Youngmi talks to Mic Nguyen (comedian, host of Asian, Not Asian podcast) about navigating recent events as standup comedians. Youngmi talks about her theory on why Koreans took to Christianity so well and compares Jesus's behavior to all the Korean guys she knows. Mic talks about being a new dad and the fascinating, much neglected topic of Asian son-dad relationships. Youngmi and Mic also touch on the fact that they both come from cultures deeply damaged by war, genocide and trauma and how those wounds that happened before they were even born show up in their behavior to this day.

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to Mic Nguyen (comedian, host of Asian, Not Asian podcast) about navigating recent events as standup comedians. Youngmi talks about her theory on why Koreans took to Christianity so well and compares Jesus's behavior to all the Korean guys she knows. Mic talks about being a new dad and the fascinating, much neglected topic of Asian son-dad relationships. Youngmi and Mic also touch on the fact that they both come from cultures deeply damaged by war, genocide and trauma and how those wounds that happened before they were even born show up in their behavior to this day.

]]> Mon, 20 Nov 2023 12:32:05 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4072 This week, Youngmi talks to Mic Nguyen (comedian, host of Asian, Not Asian podcast) about navigating recent events as standup comedians. Youngmi talks about her theory on why Koreans took to Christianity so well and compares Jesus's behavior to all the Korean guys she knows. Mic talks about being a new dad and the fascinating, much neglected topic of Asian son-dad relationships. Youngmi and Mic also touch on the fact that they both come from cultures deeply damaged by war, genocide and trauma and how those wounds that happened before they were even born show up in their behavior to this day.

]]> No Us. Vs. Them 65 65 Us. Vs. Them full 1742e5e0-a6ea-44e4-9342-16562454ea1c https://share.transistor.fm/s/55fcf776 This week, Youngmi discusses her political beliefs and worldview. She talks about the dangerous idea that public-facing people's opinions matter more than other people. She also touches on why her identity as a biracial person has affected how she views "Us. Vs. Them" narratives that are used by governments worldwide to divide and alienate different groups of people.

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses her political beliefs and worldview. She talks about the dangerous idea that public-facing people's opinions matter more than other people. She also touches on why her identity as a biracial person has affected how she views "Us. Vs. Them" narratives that are used by governments worldwide to divide and alienate different groups of people.

]]> Thu, 09 Nov 2023 09:31:17 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 1916 This week, Youngmi discusses her political beliefs and worldview. She talks about the dangerous idea that public-facing people's opinions matter more than other people. She also touches on why her identity as a biracial person has affected how she views "Us. Vs. Them" narratives that are used by governments worldwide to divide and alienate different groups of people.

]]> No Beef Pho 64 64 Beef Pho full c5d2ab93-268c-4b2f-ab7b-38be1dd1541e https://share.transistor.fm/s/cbc13fbf This week, Youngmi talks about the momentous occasion of her manuscript being turned in, and as a surprise to no one, it made her depressed. She also discusses the negative impact her busy schedule this past year had on her relationship with her son and the process of mending a hard phase between parent and child. 

]]> This week, Youngmi talks about the momentous occasion of her manuscript being turned in, and as a surprise to no one, it made her depressed. She also discusses the negative impact her busy schedule this past year had on her relationship with her son and the process of mending a hard phase between parent and child. 

]]> Thu, 26 Oct 2023 09:22:03 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2134 This week, Youngmi talks about the momentous occasion of her manuscript being turned in, and as a surprise to no one, it made her depressed. She also discusses the negative impact her busy schedule this past year had on her relationship with her son and the process of mending a hard phase between parent and child. 

]]> No Amplifying Palestinian voices...from Alabama 63 63 Amplifying Palestinian voices...from Alabama full 47fafd2e-0632-40ee-bef8-38eda914d4fa https://share.transistor.fm/s/e8ee7d89 This week, Youngmi speaks with Atheer Yacoub (comedian/writer of Denied Entry). Atheer discusses her perspective as a Palestinian on the recent events in Israel and Palestine. She also touches on how her childhood growing up in the West Bank and Alabama shaped her work as a comedian.

]]> This week, Youngmi speaks with Atheer Yacoub (comedian/writer of Denied Entry). Atheer discusses her perspective as a Palestinian on the recent events in Israel and Palestine. She also touches on how her childhood growing up in the West Bank and Alabama shaped her work as a comedian.

]]> Thu, 12 Oct 2023 09:30:05 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3956 This week, Youngmi speaks with Atheer Yacoub (comedian/writer of Denied Entry). Atheer discusses her perspective as a Palestinian on the recent events in Israel and Palestine. She also touches on how her childhood growing up in the West Bank and Alabama shaped her work as a comedian.

]]> No The Korean Vegan 62 62 The Korean Vegan full d75eb97e-f097-444d-86f6-35c22ab63b34 https://share.transistor.fm/s/c76a19ab This week, Youngmi talks to Joanne Molinaro (cookbook author of The Korean Vegan, TikTok star). Joanne discusses how she got into veganism, the history of veganism in Korea and all the psychology involved with having a restricted diet. She discusses why she believes a lot of people have a negative knee-jerk reaction when hearing about vegans, and reveals she used to feel the same way before becoming one at the age of 35. She also shares a sad story of a time in childhood when she stood up to her parents, which ultimately led to her having a healthier relationship with them as an adult.

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to Joanne Molinaro (cookbook author of The Korean Vegan, TikTok star). Joanne discusses how she got into veganism, the history of veganism in Korea and all the psychology involved with having a restricted diet. She discusses why she believes a lot of people have a negative knee-jerk reaction when hearing about vegans, and reveals she used to feel the same way before becoming one at the age of 35. She also shares a sad story of a time in childhood when she stood up to her parents, which ultimately led to her having a healthier relationship with them as an adult.

]]> Wed, 27 Sep 2023 09:23:26 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4657 This week, Youngmi talks to Joanne Molinaro (cookbook author of The Korean Vegan, TikTok star). Joanne discusses how she got into veganism, the history of veganism in Korea and all the psychology involved with having a restricted diet. She discusses why she believes a lot of people have a negative knee-jerk reaction when hearing about vegans, and reveals she used to feel the same way before becoming one at the age of 35. She also shares a sad story of a time in childhood when she stood up to her parents, which ultimately led to her having a healthier relationship with them as an adult.

]]> No Is It Because We're Asian? 61 61 Is It Because We're Asian? full 7d3db16a-c7f4-4b8d-9ee7-bc319fa0ed3f https://share.transistor.fm/s/9a1038ce This week, Youngmi talks to Kimmy Yam (journalist at NBC News). Kimmy shares a relatable story about a time when she was a child that her parents forgot to pick her up from school. Although this is a common experience among children, she discusses the added stress of being the only Asian family in a small town, and how that dynamic played into every event in her childhood. She also discusses her how her parents coped with trauma in two extreme ways: her mother by developing severe depression and her dad adapting a veneer of unbreakable positivity. Also she gives us her professional journalistic take on the Maui wildfires, with nuance difficult to hear elsewhere.

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to Kimmy Yam (journalist at NBC News). Kimmy shares a relatable story about a time when she was a child that her parents forgot to pick her up from school. Although this is a common experience among children, she discusses the added stress of being the only Asian family in a small town, and how that dynamic played into every event in her childhood. She also discusses her how her parents coped with trauma in two extreme ways: her mother by developing severe depression and her dad adapting a veneer of unbreakable positivity. Also she gives us her professional journalistic take on the Maui wildfires, with nuance difficult to hear elsewhere.

]]> Wed, 13 Sep 2023 15:53:39 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3794 This week, Youngmi talks to Kimmy Yam (journalist at NBC News). Kimmy shares a relatable story about a time when she was a child that her parents forgot to pick her up from school. Although this is a common experience among children, she discusses the added stress of being the only Asian family in a small town, and how that dynamic played into every event in her childhood. She also discusses her how her parents coped with trauma in two extreme ways: her mother by developing severe depression and her dad adapting a veneer of unbreakable positivity. Also she gives us her professional journalistic take on the Maui wildfires, with nuance difficult to hear elsewhere.

]]> No The Group Chat 60 60 The Group Chat full 5840f98b-ed2c-4a1a-b6d2-fc9f2c20568f https://share.transistor.fm/s/b3b5f8c4 This week, Youngmi brings on her chaotic daily group chat members: Alex Pemoulie and John deBary. They discuss the modern phenomenon of the group chat and why they think it plays such a huge role in the daily lives of everyone today. They talk about the origins of the rise of the popularity of the medium stemming from older forms of communication from Y2K chat interfaces like AIM, to ancient rituals of tribal gossip. John also talks about the sadness of turning 40 and Alex talks about talking shit!

]]> This week, Youngmi brings on her chaotic daily group chat members: Alex Pemoulie and John deBary. They discuss the modern phenomenon of the group chat and why they think it plays such a huge role in the daily lives of everyone today. They talk about the origins of the rise of the popularity of the medium stemming from older forms of communication from Y2K chat interfaces like AIM, to ancient rituals of tribal gossip. John also talks about the sadness of turning 40 and Alex talks about talking shit!

]]> Wed, 30 Aug 2023 11:03:01 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3292 This week, Youngmi brings on her chaotic daily group chat members: Alex Pemoulie and John deBary. They discuss the modern phenomenon of the group chat and why they think it plays such a huge role in the daily lives of everyone today. They talk about the origins of the rise of the popularity of the medium stemming from older forms of communication from Y2K chat interfaces like AIM, to ancient rituals of tribal gossip. John also talks about the sadness of turning 40 and Alex talks about talking shit!

]]> No Be The Crazy Korean Soju Lady You Want To See In The World 59 59 Be The Crazy Korean Soju Lady You Want To See In The World full e7a9dbdd-4220-4c66-b2ca-3d50ccc0bff7 https://share.transistor.fm/s/7164e85a This week, Youngmi talks with Doyeon You (fashion content creator @yoni0323, founder of C'Est D) about the rigid beauty standards in South Korea. Doyeon is a fashion designer and creator of content based on body positivity. She discusses what her life was like growing up in Korea as someone considered "overweight" by Korean standards. They touch on their shared experiences of being constantly body shamed and scrutinized by the Korean public, and the reasons why they believe this is such a large part of Korean culture.

]]> This week, Youngmi talks with Doyeon You (fashion content creator @yoni0323, founder of C'Est D) about the rigid beauty standards in South Korea. Doyeon is a fashion designer and creator of content based on body positivity. She discusses what her life was like growing up in Korea as someone considered "overweight" by Korean standards. They touch on their shared experiences of being constantly body shamed and scrutinized by the Korean public, and the reasons why they believe this is such a large part of Korean culture.

]]> Thu, 17 Aug 2023 09:24:11 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3074 This week, Youngmi talks with Doyeon You (fashion content creator @yoni0323, founder of C'Est D) about the rigid beauty standards in South Korea. Doyeon is a fashion designer and creator of content based on body positivity. She discusses what her life was like growing up in Korea as someone considered "overweight" by Korean standards. They touch on their shared experiences of being constantly body shamed and scrutinized by the Korean public, and the reasons why they believe this is such a large part of Korean culture.

]]> No In Competence 58 58 In Competence full b5b99e99-69f5-4596-9a3d-43aea7f6b7c7 https://share.transistor.fm/s/68006ce2 This week, Youngmi chats with Laura Danger (@thatdarnchat, educator, content creator, author of the upcoming book No More Mediocre). Laura talks about her extremely viral Internet content on the subject matter of weaponized incompetence among men in cishet relationships/marriages and breaks down some of the mind blowing statistics surrounding the distribution of domestic labor. Laura and Youngmi also touch on the celebrity gossip surrounding Ariana Grande and why it's so harmful to reduce the story down to her being a homewrecker.

]]> This week, Youngmi chats with Laura Danger (@thatdarnchat, educator, content creator, author of the upcoming book No More Mediocre). Laura talks about her extremely viral Internet content on the subject matter of weaponized incompetence among men in cishet relationships/marriages and breaks down some of the mind blowing statistics surrounding the distribution of domestic labor. Laura and Youngmi also touch on the celebrity gossip surrounding Ariana Grande and why it's so harmful to reduce the story down to her being a homewrecker.

]]> Thu, 03 Aug 2023 12:08:38 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3629 This week, Youngmi chats with Laura Danger (@thatdarnchat, educator, content creator, author of the upcoming book No More Mediocre). Laura talks about her extremely viral Internet content on the subject matter of weaponized incompetence among men in cishet relationships/marriages and breaks down some of the mind blowing statistics surrounding the distribution of domestic labor. Laura and Youngmi also touch on the celebrity gossip surrounding Ariana Grande and why it's so harmful to reduce the story down to her being a homewrecker.

]]> No Laughing About Losing Mom 57 57 Laughing About Losing Mom full 90a5ecb8-00e3-4671-9921-d5aba8cf80c9 https://share.transistor.fm/s/516a0c0a This week, Youngmi is joined by Laurie Woolever (author of Bourdain: The Definitive Oral Biography), who discusses the loss of her mother to multiple sclerosis. She talks about what it was like growing up while knowing her mother had an illness which was most likely going to take her life. She also discusses how certain sad events caused her to laugh uncontrollably and examines what that reaction meant.

]]> This week, Youngmi is joined by Laurie Woolever (author of Bourdain: The Definitive Oral Biography), who discusses the loss of her mother to multiple sclerosis. She talks about what it was like growing up while knowing her mother had an illness which was most likely going to take her life. She also discusses how certain sad events caused her to laugh uncontrollably and examines what that reaction meant.

]]> Thu, 27 Jul 2023 08:03:11 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4085 This week, Youngmi is joined by Laurie Woolever (author of Bourdain: The Definitive Oral Biography), who discusses the loss of her mother to multiple sclerosis. She talks about what it was like growing up while knowing her mother had an illness which was most likely going to take her life. She also discusses how certain sad events caused her to laugh uncontrollably and examines what that reaction meant.

]]> No I Can't Throw Out The Dead Flowers 56 56 I Can't Throw Out The Dead Flowers full f1a89088-a795-4d66-9878-e0a7fd806936 https://share.transistor.fm/s/a4143584 This week, Youngmi talks with Charlie Bardey (comedian, host of Exploration Live Comedy podcast) about the pain of breakups. Charlie and Youngmi touch on their recent breakups and how they deal with the same pain in opposite ways. Charlie explains his impulse to try to keep his exes in his life at all costs and Youngmi explains why she feels the need to block them on everything and never think about them again. Charlie also touches on the unusual experience of "losing a future" and having to move through an unimagined timeline and how the presence of your ex often feels like a ghost.

]]> This week, Youngmi talks with Charlie Bardey (comedian, host of Exploration Live Comedy podcast) about the pain of breakups. Charlie and Youngmi touch on their recent breakups and how they deal with the same pain in opposite ways. Charlie explains his impulse to try to keep his exes in his life at all costs and Youngmi explains why she feels the need to block them on everything and never think about them again. Charlie also touches on the unusual experience of "losing a future" and having to move through an unimagined timeline and how the presence of your ex often feels like a ghost.

]]> Wed, 19 Jul 2023 12:43:40 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3385 This week, Youngmi talks with Charlie Bardey (comedian, host of Exploration Live Comedy podcast) about the pain of breakups. Charlie and Youngmi touch on their recent breakups and how they deal with the same pain in opposite ways. Charlie explains his impulse to try to keep his exes in his life at all costs and Youngmi explains why she feels the need to block them on everything and never think about them again. Charlie also touches on the unusual experience of "losing a future" and having to move through an unimagined timeline and how the presence of your ex often feels like a ghost.

]]> No Go To The Public Library And Read Statistics 55 55 Go To The Public Library And Read Statistics full 44d71a7d-90a7-42f8-af10-1c6468c6ea06 https://share.transistor.fm/s/3b2cdf13 This week Youngmi sits with KimChi (founder of KimChi Chic Beauty) about the recent surge in homophobia online. She touches on how pride feels different this year than previous years as corporations have pulled away due to online hysteria. She also discusses her upcoming two books: a YA novel about the importance of public libraries to children and a lifestyle book about her travels and food. 

]]> This week Youngmi sits with KimChi (founder of KimChi Chic Beauty) about the recent surge in homophobia online. She touches on how pride feels different this year than previous years as corporations have pulled away due to online hysteria. She also discusses her upcoming two books: a YA novel about the importance of public libraries to children and a lifestyle book about her travels and food. 

]]> Thu, 13 Jul 2023 14:59:45 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2640 This week Youngmi sits with KimChi (founder of KimChi Chic Beauty) about the recent surge in homophobia online. She touches on how pride feels different this year than previous years as corporations have pulled away due to online hysteria. She also discusses her upcoming two books: a YA novel about the importance of public libraries to children and a lifestyle book about her travels and food. 

]]> No Activating The Queer Nintendo 54 54 Activating The Queer Nintendo full 98f3e51e-1e5f-439e-a108-a9fa437639a4 https://share.transistor.fm/s/30a46a84 This week, Youngmi discusses a topic suggested by a listener about her relationship with her queer identity. She talks about why it's difficult for her to discuss, as well as the relationships she's had later in her adult life.

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses a topic suggested by a listener about her relationship with her queer identity. She talks about why it's difficult for her to discuss, as well as the relationships she's had later in her adult life.

]]> Wed, 05 Jul 2023 10:03:01 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2024 This week, Youngmi discusses a topic suggested by a listener about her relationship with her queer identity. She talks about why it's difficult for her to discuss, as well as the relationships she's had later in her adult life.

]]> No People Pleasing Is Manipulation 53 53 People Pleasing Is Manipulation full 9b8bbeac-290b-4f5e-8e48-5ebb5dcde1a4 https://share.transistor.fm/s/2c966e21 This week, Youngmi discusses "people pleasing trauma response." She talks about the realization she had around this trauma response and the work she's done to move away from it as well as experiencing it in someone else and the harm it caused her. Leading her to ultimately realize how manipulative and harmful this response is. She also touches on a bizarre coincidence about the billionaire submersible implosion no one seems to be discussing.

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses "people pleasing trauma response." She talks about the realization she had around this trauma response and the work she's done to move away from it as well as experiencing it in someone else and the harm it caused her. Leading her to ultimately realize how manipulative and harmful this response is. She also touches on a bizarre coincidence about the billionaire submersible implosion no one seems to be discussing.

]]> Wed, 28 Jun 2023 14:27:34 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2820 This week, Youngmi discusses "people pleasing trauma response." She talks about the realization she had around this trauma response and the work she's done to move away from it as well as experiencing it in someone else and the harm it caused her. Leading her to ultimately realize how manipulative and harmful this response is. She also touches on a bizarre coincidence about the billionaire submersible implosion no one seems to be discussing.

]]> No ADHD Work Life Balance 52 52 ADHD Work Life Balance full 16285107-3f41-4af5-ad01-d68d1b45de63 https://share.transistor.fm/s/fb0b47ff This week, Youngmi discusses how she plots out her work week while living with ADHD, which makes it nearly impossible to set a schedule and adhere to it every day. She also touches on the feelings of inadequacy stemming from a childhood of undiagnosed ADHD, which caused her to internalize the message that there is something "wrong" with her.

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses how she plots out her work week while living with ADHD, which makes it nearly impossible to set a schedule and adhere to it every day. She also touches on the feelings of inadequacy stemming from a childhood of undiagnosed ADHD, which caused her to internalize the message that there is something "wrong" with her.

]]> Thu, 22 Jun 2023 10:49:59 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2251 This week, Youngmi discusses how she plots out her work week while living with ADHD, which makes it nearly impossible to set a schedule and adhere to it every day. She also touches on the feelings of inadequacy stemming from a childhood of undiagnosed ADHD, which caused her to internalize the message that there is something "wrong" with her.

]]> No New York vs. Los Angeles 51 51 New York vs. Los Angeles full 091c9bab-90c6-46b6-abcb-b3191241ddde https://share.transistor.fm/s/e8275667 This week, Youngmi jokes about the differences between New York and Los Angeles from Los Angeles. Joking aside, she discusses why it's funny but also sort of sad when people make broad generalizations about differences in people who live in different cities. She also discusses the relentless feeling of not doing enough work and not making enough money.

]]> This week, Youngmi jokes about the differences between New York and Los Angeles from Los Angeles. Joking aside, she discusses why it's funny but also sort of sad when people make broad generalizations about differences in people who live in different cities. She also discusses the relentless feeling of not doing enough work and not making enough money.

]]> Thu, 15 Jun 2023 15:31:00 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2006 This week, Youngmi jokes about the differences between New York and Los Angeles from Los Angeles. Joking aside, she discusses why it's funny but also sort of sad when people make broad generalizations about differences in people who live in different cities. She also discusses the relentless feeling of not doing enough work and not making enough money.

]]> No I’m Always OK 50 50 I’m Always OK full 2e8cb4a8-5a1a-4d4e-8dcd-3ae9bbc32e0b https://share.transistor.fm/s/217d6679 This week, Youngmi discusses an emotional symptom of experiencing negligent abuse as a child. She talks about why she feels the need to always be “ok” and how that has profoundly harmed her. She discusses the importance of pointing out negligent abuse because for most people experiencing trauma around it, it is invisible. She also points out that many of the behaviors of our parents and the boomer generation mirror hers, and are most likely caused by the same sort of neglect.

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses an emotional symptom of experiencing negligent abuse as a child. She talks about why she feels the need to always be “ok” and how that has profoundly harmed her. She discusses the importance of pointing out negligent abuse because for most people experiencing trauma around it, it is invisible. She also points out that many of the behaviors of our parents and the boomer generation mirror hers, and are most likely caused by the same sort of neglect.

]]> Fri, 09 Jun 2023 09:25:46 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 1996 This week, Youngmi discusses an emotional symptom of experiencing negligent abuse as a child. She talks about why she feels the need to always be “ok” and how that has profoundly harmed her. She discusses the importance of pointing out negligent abuse because for most people experiencing trauma around it, it is invisible. She also points out that many of the behaviors of our parents and the boomer generation mirror hers, and are most likely caused by the same sort of neglect.

]]> No Just Stop Being Depressed 49 49 Just Stop Being Depressed full 48c03f10-a4c6-494f-a781-ad27699d70f8 https://share.transistor.fm/s/a6f6dd7c This week, Youngmi discusses her history with depression. She talks about the events in her childhood that led her to develop this mental illness and the process of ongoing recovery as an adult. She also touches on the reasons why it is so hard to get out of depressive episodes and why it is so hard to reach out for help while experiencing them.

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses her history with depression. She talks about the events in her childhood that led her to develop this mental illness and the process of ongoing recovery as an adult. She also touches on the reasons why it is so hard to get out of depressive episodes and why it is so hard to reach out for help while experiencing them.

]]> Wed, 31 May 2023 13:20:51 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2349 This week, Youngmi discusses her history with depression. She talks about the events in her childhood that led her to develop this mental illness and the process of ongoing recovery as an adult. She also touches on the reasons why it is so hard to get out of depressive episodes and why it is so hard to reach out for help while experiencing them.

]]> No What Do You Think About AANHPI Month REALLY? 48 48 What Do You Think About AANHPI Month REALLY? full 80e2168b-da0a-4e65-87d3-a7bcec78c01b https://share.transistor.fm/s/60cad9ed This week, Youngmi shares her real thoughts about the month of May being celebrated as Asian American Native Hawaiian Pacific Islander month. She talks about the good the bad and the corporate.

]]> This week, Youngmi shares her real thoughts about the month of May being celebrated as Asian American Native Hawaiian Pacific Islander month. She talks about the good the bad and the corporate.

]]> Thu, 25 May 2023 16:19:24 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2133 This week, Youngmi shares her real thoughts about the month of May being celebrated as Asian American Native Hawaiian Pacific Islander month. She talks about the good the bad and the corporate.

]]> No With Or Without Kids 47 47 With Or Without Kids full e7c683a5-9f67-4cec-bb8f-e31dc191edfd https://share.transistor.fm/s/5cdc8faf This week, Youngmi discusses the topic of “having it all” and why women are constantly asked about their work/life balance but men aren’t. She also touches on women who decide to be child-free by choice and why she considers it a revolutionary act.

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses the topic of “having it all” and why women are constantly asked about their work/life balance but men aren’t. She also touches on women who decide to be child-free by choice and why she considers it a revolutionary act.

]]> Fri, 19 May 2023 09:37:47 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 1814 This week, Youngmi discusses the topic of “having it all” and why women are constantly asked about their work/life balance but men aren’t. She also touches on women who decide to be child-free by choice and why she considers it a revolutionary act.

]]> No Jealous And Angry 46 46 Jealous And Angry full dc3e3fee-c245-443c-ae1f-7871c030e28d https://share.transistor.fm/s/43782379 This week, Youngmi discusses her relationship to jealousy and anger. She talks about how her childhood relationship to her family impacted her emotions as adults. She discusses how people who are socialized female are often made to suppress emotions usually associated with men, such as anger, and how that experience led her to not be able to see her own emotions until well into her 30s. Also she defends nepo babies!

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses her relationship to jealousy and anger. She talks about how her childhood relationship to her family impacted her emotions as adults. She discusses how people who are socialized female are often made to suppress emotions usually associated with men, such as anger, and how that experience led her to not be able to see her own emotions until well into her 30s. Also she defends nepo babies!

]]> Thu, 11 May 2023 12:54:04 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2411 This week, Youngmi discusses her relationship to jealousy and anger. She talks about how her childhood relationship to her family impacted her emotions as adults. She discusses how people who are socialized female are often made to suppress emotions usually associated with men, such as anger, and how that experience led her to not be able to see her own emotions until well into her 30s. Also she defends nepo babies!

]]> No Growing Up Poor 45 45 Growing Up Poor full d93564c7-770b-4cf0-b793-082f5d323128 https://share.transistor.fm/s/4d6e18d1 This week, Youngmi discusses the psychological impact she carried into adulthood from growing up poor. She talks about interacting with other adults who shared her past and the harmful messages they seemed to have internalized. She also discusses how Korean and American cultures view poverty differently.

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses the psychological impact she carried into adulthood from growing up poor. She talks about interacting with other adults who shared her past and the harmful messages they seemed to have internalized. She also discusses how Korean and American cultures view poverty differently.

]]> Thu, 04 May 2023 16:18:52 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2258 This week, Youngmi discusses the psychological impact she carried into adulthood from growing up poor. She talks about interacting with other adults who shared her past and the harmful messages they seemed to have internalized. She also discusses how Korean and American cultures view poverty differently.

]]> No Horny Single Asian Mom In Your Area 44 44 Horny Single Asian Mom In Your Area full 67e99090-5dcf-4f66-91f9-ee5b740db583 https://share.transistor.fm/s/02be85ac This week, Youngmi discusses what it’s like to date as a single Asian mom. She talks about the negative stereotypes surrounding single moms and how they proved untrue in her experience. She also discusses why she thinks these harmful tropes were created. Also, she touches on how her Asian identity plays into it all.

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses what it’s like to date as a single Asian mom. She talks about the negative stereotypes surrounding single moms and how they proved untrue in her experience. She also discusses why she thinks these harmful tropes were created. Also, she touches on how her Asian identity plays into it all.

]]> Thu, 27 Apr 2023 15:44:23 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2102 This week, Youngmi discusses what it’s like to date as a single Asian mom. She talks about the negative stereotypes surrounding single moms and how they proved untrue in her experience. She also discusses why she thinks these harmful tropes were created. Also, she touches on how her Asian identity plays into it all.

]]> No Is It Because I'm Fat? 43 43 Is It Because I'm Fat? full 50b4ecc6-430f-4f0d-b082-6c47fbc51298 https://share.transistor.fm/s/ac6a3a14 (TW: ED, child abuse) This week Youngmi Mayer discusses being an overweight child and how the abuse she received from her family led her to internalize the idea that everything bad that happened was because of her inability to manage her weight. Also, she discusses developing eating disorders in her teens and how she manages her eating disorders today with the help of therapy.

]]> (TW: ED, child abuse) This week Youngmi Mayer discusses being an overweight child and how the abuse she received from her family led her to internalize the idea that everything bad that happened was because of her inability to manage her weight. Also, she discusses developing eating disorders in her teens and how she manages her eating disorders today with the help of therapy.

]]> Fri, 21 Apr 2023 08:29:30 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3174 (TW: ED, child abuse) This week Youngmi Mayer discusses being an overweight child and how the abuse she received from her family led her to internalize the idea that everything bad that happened was because of her inability to manage her weight. Also, she discusses developing eating disorders in her teens and how she manages her eating disorders today with the help of therapy.

]]> No The Adults Are Not Alright 42 42 The Adults Are Not Alright full 0e9fbabc-eec0-4817-b44a-1216ff6e558c https://share.transistor.fm/s/a6ae8bf4 This week, Youngmi discusses how sexual/romantic relationships she had in her teens with adult men profoundly shaped her as a person. She touches on how common this type of relationship is, and why she thinks so many people have the problematic view that it is “normal,” when it is far from it.

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses how sexual/romantic relationships she had in her teens with adult men profoundly shaped her as a person. She touches on how common this type of relationship is, and why she thinks so many people have the problematic view that it is “normal,” when it is far from it.

]]> Fri, 14 Apr 2023 09:20:35 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2818 This week, Youngmi discusses how sexual/romantic relationships she had in her teens with adult men profoundly shaped her as a person. She touches on how common this type of relationship is, and why she thinks so many people have the problematic view that it is “normal,” when it is far from it.

]]> No Having A Baby Was Like, Hard? 41 41 Having A Baby Was Like, Hard? full cfe5ea84-8c88-40d9-9f4e-ce7f8f443a9f https://share.transistor.fm/s/2aeb4b6c This week, Youngmi discusses the trauma of pregnancy, birth and breastfeeding. She touches on topics that rarely seem to be discussed because of the stigma of shame of “not being a good mother.” Also, she reads an informative message from someone who lives with ADHD in Korea, who goes in depth about what it’s like to be diagnosed and seek treatment for ADHD while living in Asia, as well as the problematic belief people in the West have that Asia falls behind in the field of psychological medicine. 

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses the trauma of pregnancy, birth and breastfeeding. She touches on topics that rarely seem to be discussed because of the stigma of shame of “not being a good mother.” Also, she reads an informative message from someone who lives with ADHD in Korea, who goes in depth about what it’s like to be diagnosed and seek treatment for ADHD while living in Asia, as well as the problematic belief people in the West have that Asia falls behind in the field of psychological medicine. 

]]> Fri, 07 Apr 2023 09:29:08 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3092 This week, Youngmi discusses the trauma of pregnancy, birth and breastfeeding. She touches on topics that rarely seem to be discussed because of the stigma of shame of “not being a good mother.” Also, she reads an informative message from someone who lives with ADHD in Korea, who goes in depth about what it’s like to be diagnosed and seek treatment for ADHD while living in Asia, as well as the problematic belief people in the West have that Asia falls behind in the field of psychological medicine. 

]]> No I Have ADHD Or As My Korean Mom Calls It ‘No You Don’t’ 40 40 I Have ADHD Or As My Korean Mom Calls It ‘No You Don’t’ full 940c3dfc-4348-4972-b763-8337dba2d4ca https://share.transistor.fm/s/b4cffb69 This week, Youngmi discusses two topics suggested by listeners: ADHD and friendship breakups. She talks about being diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and how it felt to look back on her life and reassess her childhood. She also discusses how she views friendships and why they seem so different to her than romantic relationships. 

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses two topics suggested by listeners: ADHD and friendship breakups. She talks about being diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and how it felt to look back on her life and reassess her childhood. She also discusses how she views friendships and why they seem so different to her than romantic relationships. 

]]> Wed, 29 Mar 2023 11:51:42 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2269 This week, Youngmi discusses two topics suggested by listeners: ADHD and friendship breakups. She talks about being diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and how it felt to look back on her life and reassess her childhood. She also discusses how she views friendships and why they seem so different to her than romantic relationships. 

]]> No Comedy and Tragedy (Divorce) 39 39 Comedy and Tragedy (Divorce) full 8e305e02-9e3b-48d2-90e2-043b9167735c https://share.transistor.fm/s/7b62f524 This week, Youngmi touches on two topics suggested by listeners: comedy power dynamics and divorce. After a viral TikTok about the unspoken rule of comedy “Always Punch Up,” Youngmi discusses the nuances of power dynamics in comedy in relation to who she feels comfortable joking about. She also discusses how comedy helped her keep a level head in day-to-day life. In the second half of the episode, she brings up a common occurrence for people on the brink of divorce or the end of a relationship: limerence. 

]]> This week, Youngmi touches on two topics suggested by listeners: comedy power dynamics and divorce. After a viral TikTok about the unspoken rule of comedy “Always Punch Up,” Youngmi discusses the nuances of power dynamics in comedy in relation to who she feels comfortable joking about. She also discusses how comedy helped her keep a level head in day-to-day life. In the second half of the episode, she brings up a common occurrence for people on the brink of divorce or the end of a relationship: limerence. 

]]> Fri, 24 Mar 2023 09:34:24 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2537 This week, Youngmi touches on two topics suggested by listeners: comedy power dynamics and divorce. After a viral TikTok about the unspoken rule of comedy “Always Punch Up,” Youngmi discusses the nuances of power dynamics in comedy in relation to who she feels comfortable joking about. She also discusses how comedy helped her keep a level head in day-to-day life. In the second half of the episode, she brings up a common occurrence for people on the brink of divorce or the end of a relationship: limerence. 

]]> No Live Your Life...Or Not, Who Cares? 38 38 Live Your Life...Or Not, Who Cares? full 831fdc94-454e-4112-a34d-4b466588861b https://share.transistor.fm/s/68b17612 This week, Youngmi discusses in depth the huge shift that occurred when she was 33, when she went from living life the way others wanted her to living life on her own terms. She talks about the depression, resentment and uncontrollable anger that used to be part of her daily life as someone who believed she wasn’t good enough and how she just realized those feelings are no longer part of her life.

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses in depth the huge shift that occurred when she was 33, when she went from living life the way others wanted her to living life on her own terms. She talks about the depression, resentment and uncontrollable anger that used to be part of her daily life as someone who believed she wasn’t good enough and how she just realized those feelings are no longer part of her life.

]]> Thu, 16 Mar 2023 15:35:34 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2971 This week, Youngmi discusses in depth the huge shift that occurred when she was 33, when she went from living life the way others wanted her to living life on her own terms. She talks about the depression, resentment and uncontrollable anger that used to be part of her daily life as someone who believed she wasn’t good enough and how she just realized those feelings are no longer part of her life.

]]> No Asian Women With White Guys 37 37 Asian Women With White Guys full 447a7b6e-f20c-40e6-a4fe-f7540280d13a https://share.transistor.fm/s/0b60ba30 This week, Youngmi introduces a new format. They’re addressing a new format focused on identity politics surrounding Asian American, biracial, single mom, and ex-drug addict topics. Things the listeners seem to identify with! Donate to Hairy Butthole Patreon or comment on socials to hear your topics of choice being discussed!

]]> This week, Youngmi introduces a new format. They’re addressing a new format focused on identity politics surrounding Asian American, biracial, single mom, and ex-drug addict topics. Things the listeners seem to identify with! Donate to Hairy Butthole Patreon or comment on socials to hear your topics of choice being discussed!

]]> Wed, 08 Mar 2023 16:15:45 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 1450 This week, Youngmi introduces a new format. They’re addressing a new format focused on identity politics surrounding Asian American, biracial, single mom, and ex-drug addict topics. Things the listeners seem to identify with! Donate to Hairy Butthole Patreon or comment on socials to hear your topics of choice being discussed!

]]> No I Achieved My Dream And It Made Me Very Sad 36 36 I Achieved My Dream And It Made Me Very Sad full cb2af08b-e455-423c-ac06-e148b4b50b99 https://share.transistor.fm/s/03ac893a This week, Youngmi discusses getting a book deal and the unexpected sad feelings that came with achieving her most unattainable feeling dream.

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses getting a book deal and the unexpected sad feelings that came with achieving her most unattainable feeling dream.

]]> Thu, 23 Feb 2023 09:26:06 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 1448 This week, Youngmi discusses getting a book deal and the unexpected sad feelings that came with achieving her most unattainable feeling dream.

]]> No Wearing Pants While Being Orthodox 35 35 Wearing Pants While Being Orthodox full 2131904a-fbcd-4daf-a00e-ed3463efdc8e https://share.transistor.fm/s/1380c911 This week Youngmi Mayer talks to Chani Lisbon (standup comedian) about growing up Orthodox Jewish. Chani talks about the first time she wore pants and rode in a car on the Sabbath and how far she's come since then. She discusses her history of alcoholism and recovery and leaving and returning to her faith. As a queer person who found acceptance from her mother and her community, she touches on how important it is for her to have a voice and give a new perspective on her community. She also discusses the psychologically damaging effects of alopecia.

]]> This week Youngmi Mayer talks to Chani Lisbon (standup comedian) about growing up Orthodox Jewish. Chani talks about the first time she wore pants and rode in a car on the Sabbath and how far she's come since then. She discusses her history of alcoholism and recovery and leaving and returning to her faith. As a queer person who found acceptance from her mother and her community, she touches on how important it is for her to have a voice and give a new perspective on her community. She also discusses the psychologically damaging effects of alopecia.

]]> Thu, 16 Feb 2023 10:52:16 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3865 This week Youngmi Mayer talks to Chani Lisbon (standup comedian) about growing up Orthodox Jewish. Chani talks about the first time she wore pants and rode in a car on the Sabbath and how far she's come since then. She discusses her history of alcoholism and recovery and leaving and returning to her faith. As a queer person who found acceptance from her mother and her community, she touches on how important it is for her to have a voice and give a new perspective on her community. She also discusses the psychologically damaging effects of alopecia.

]]> No You Better Work 34 34 You Better Work full dba6652e-d204-45e9-a50b-7dced887ec34 https://share.transistor.fm/s/4b2deccf This week, Youngmi discusses her relationship to work. After returning from vacation where she was riddled with guilt and shame about not doing enough, she reflects on the origins of that anxiety. She talks about being called lazy as a child, the belief that domestic labor isn’t valuable by society and the effects that late-stage capitalism has on all of us. She talks about how her own work is invisible to her, leading her to not realize that she is burning herself out. Also she discusses how she overcame her crippling fear of confrontation, with lots of...work.

]]> This week, Youngmi discusses her relationship to work. After returning from vacation where she was riddled with guilt and shame about not doing enough, she reflects on the origins of that anxiety. She talks about being called lazy as a child, the belief that domestic labor isn’t valuable by society and the effects that late-stage capitalism has on all of us. She talks about how her own work is invisible to her, leading her to not realize that she is burning herself out. Also she discusses how she overcame her crippling fear of confrontation, with lots of...work.

]]> Thu, 09 Feb 2023 16:06:27 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2247 This week, Youngmi discusses her relationship to work. After returning from vacation where she was riddled with guilt and shame about not doing enough, she reflects on the origins of that anxiety. She talks about being called lazy as a child, the belief that domestic labor isn’t valuable by society and the effects that late-stage capitalism has on all of us. She talks about how her own work is invisible to her, leading her to not realize that she is burning herself out. Also she discusses how she overcame her crippling fear of confrontation, with lots of...work.

]]> No A Korean In Thailand 33 33 A Korean In Thailand full 4f4f0e6c-6b89-4da0-9c65-72e303934b33 https://share.transistor.fm/s/bf86d83e This week Youngmi discusses her recent time in Thailand through the perspective of an Asian woman who is obsessed with race and gender politics. She talks about things that the typical white guy travel host would not be able to see and talks about why it’s harmful that travel content has been seen through one POV for the most of humanity. She talks about the influence of Korean culture in Southeast Asia, the politics of food safety, sex work and sex tourism and of course white people with dreads who live in Thailand.

]]> This week Youngmi discusses her recent time in Thailand through the perspective of an Asian woman who is obsessed with race and gender politics. She talks about things that the typical white guy travel host would not be able to see and talks about why it’s harmful that travel content has been seen through one POV for the most of humanity. She talks about the influence of Korean culture in Southeast Asia, the politics of food safety, sex work and sex tourism and of course white people with dreads who live in Thailand.

]]> Fri, 03 Feb 2023 09:26:36 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3531 This week Youngmi discusses her recent time in Thailand through the perspective of an Asian woman who is obsessed with race and gender politics. This week Youngmi discusses her recent time in Thailand through the perspective of an Asian woman who is obsessed with race and gender politics. No Leaving Mino For One Month with Mino Bowien 32 32 Leaving Mino For One Month with Mino Bowien full 7c0dc199-a992-4659-b0ce-c624ad1ed0e9 https://share.transistor.fm/s/024e9fd2 This week, Youngmi talks to her son Mino Bowien (8-year-old, future YouTuber) about being separated for one month. This is the longest time Mino will be away from his mom since his birth eight years ago. He talks about being sad but also looking forward to spending a lot of time with his dad and his girlfriend and their new kitten, Screech. Also, Mino talks about how it’s embarrassing that Youngmi refers to herself as “mommy” and not “mom” (he asked to edit that out, but changed his mind afterwards and said it was ok to include it).

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to her son Mino Bowien (8-year-old, future YouTuber) about being separated for one month. This is the longest time Mino will be away from his mom since his birth eight years ago. He talks about being sad but also looking forward to spending a lot of time with his dad and his girlfriend and their new kitten, Screech. Also, Mino talks about how it’s embarrassing that Youngmi refers to herself as “mommy” and not “mom” (he asked to edit that out, but changed his mind afterwards and said it was ok to include it).

]]> Thu, 05 Jan 2023 14:18:37 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 1048 This week, Youngmi talks to her son Mino Bowien about being separated for one month, the longest time Mino will be away from his mom since his birth eight years ago. This week, Youngmi talks to her son Mino Bowien about being separated for one month, the longest time Mino will be away from his mom since his birth eight years ago. No My Dad Wasn't There for Me Until He was There for Me with Sameer Naseem 31 31 My Dad Wasn't There for Me Until He was There for Me with Sameer Naseem full 355b2016-4886-4865-b9d2-3f20c91775e1 https://share.transistor.fm/s/fa87583e This week, Youngmi talks to Sameer Naseem (comedian, host of Halal Cartels podcast) about standup comedy. Sameer and Youngmi chat about their nontraditional processes as comedians and judging themselves for being different. Sameer also discusses the nuances of growing up with an immigrant father whose expression of love differed from the other dads in his community. Ultimately, both of them realize that different expressions of love cannot be quantified or judged as “better” or “worse.”

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to Sameer Naseem (comedian, host of Halal Cartels podcast) about standup comedy. Sameer and Youngmi chat about their nontraditional processes as comedians and judging themselves for being different. Sameer also discusses the nuances of growing up with an immigrant father whose expression of love differed from the other dads in his community. Ultimately, both of them realize that different expressions of love cannot be quantified or judged as “better” or “worse.”

]]> Thu, 05 Jan 2023 14:16:36 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4302 This week, Youngmi talks to Sameer Naseem about standup comedy and the nuances of growing up with an immigrant father whose expression of love differed from the other dads in his community. This week, Youngmi talks to Sameer Naseem about standup comedy and the nuances of growing up with an immigrant father whose expression of love differed from the other dads in his community. No White Guys Who Went to Harvard Steal Jobs from Immigrants with Tulika Bose 30 30 White Guys Who Went to Harvard Steal Jobs from Immigrants with Tulika Bose full de00a936-affd-4298-88fb-945e13d6ca39 https://share.transistor.fm/s/2d0d31a3 This week, Youngmi talks to Tulika Bose (journalist, documentarian) about her extremely talented father who was a respected Bollywood cinematographer before moving to the states. Tulika talks about his struggle to find work in his field, despite his immense talent and the correlation between legacy white people who get all the top jobs in her industry. She shares the emotional discovery of his cancer diagnosis, and the way that it has changed her family. Youngmi and Tulika also do a deep dive on recent movies and TV shows and discuss their faves and their not-so-faves.

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to Tulika Bose (journalist, documentarian) about her extremely talented father who was a respected Bollywood cinematographer before moving to the states. Tulika talks about his struggle to find work in his field, despite his immense talent and the correlation between legacy white people who get all the top jobs in her industry. She shares the emotional discovery of his cancer diagnosis, and the way that it has changed her family. Youngmi and Tulika also do a deep dive on recent movies and TV shows and discuss their faves and their not-so-faves.

]]> Thu, 05 Jan 2023 14:11:54 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4217 This week, Youngmi talks to journalist and documentarian Tulika Bose about her father’s struggle to find work in his field (cinematography), despite his immense talent, and the correlation between legacy white people who get all the top jobs in her industry. This week, Youngmi talks to journalist and documentarian Tulika Bose about her father’s struggle to find work in his field (cinematography), despite his immense talent, and the correlation between legacy white people who get all the top jobs in her indust No Stay Sexy And Don’t Get Murdered w/ Maria DeCotis 29 29 Stay Sexy And Don’t Get Murdered w/ Maria DeCotis full c63505fa-f14f-4023-b458-6008808f4282 https://share.transistor.fm/s/d62d017a This week Youngmi is joined by Maria DeCotis (comedian, Rolling Stone), who discusses her experience with a psychologically abusive relationship. Maria discusses how after leaving the relationship, she struggled with the long process of healing. She talks about the difficulties of enduring lingering emotional wounds that most people think disappear immediately after abusive relationships end. She also touches on how psychological abuse is viewed as “not that bad” in comparison to physical domestic violence, and the exhausting denial from her friends and family of its seriousness. Youngmi talks about how sometimes people who she sleeps with lie about having significant others, and questions the selfish motivations that cause people to cheat.

]]> This week Youngmi is joined by Maria DeCotis (comedian, Rolling Stone), who discusses her experience with a psychologically abusive relationship. Maria discusses how after leaving the relationship, she struggled with the long process of healing. She talks about the difficulties of enduring lingering emotional wounds that most people think disappear immediately after abusive relationships end. She also touches on how psychological abuse is viewed as “not that bad” in comparison to physical domestic violence, and the exhausting denial from her friends and family of its seriousness. Youngmi talks about how sometimes people who she sleeps with lie about having significant others, and questions the selfish motivations that cause people to cheat.

]]> Fri, 30 Dec 2022 09:24:53 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3372 This week Youngmi is joined by Maria DeCotis, who discusses her experience with a psychologically abusive relationship. This week Youngmi is joined by Maria DeCotis, who discusses her experience with a psychologically abusive relationship. No Keep the Meter Running After Your Dad Dies w/ Kareem Rahma 28 28 Keep the Meter Running After Your Dad Dies w/ Kareem Rahma full c0af9448-3083-4764-b8f2-ac2b3717794f https://share.transistor.fm/s/99d48046 This week Youngmi talks to Kareem Rahma (Keep the Meter Running, FIRST! with Kareem Rahma podcast) about the art of comedic hosting. Kareem’s new show has recently blown up and he discusses the art of hosting as a comedian, and why the art form isn’t considered as a role. He talks about the importance of centering the stories of people in society who are generally ignored. He also discusses the death of his father and the emotional destabilization that led to him doing things he deeply regrets to this day. The discussion deep-dives into the sadness of regret, which is a topic not yet discussed on the podcast. Youngmi talks about feeling never-ending guilt and shame, and taking steps to alleviate that.

]]> This week Youngmi talks to Kareem Rahma (Keep the Meter Running, FIRST! with Kareem Rahma podcast) about the art of comedic hosting. Kareem’s new show has recently blown up and he discusses the art of hosting as a comedian, and why the art form isn’t considered as a role. He talks about the importance of centering the stories of people in society who are generally ignored. He also discusses the death of his father and the emotional destabilization that led to him doing things he deeply regrets to this day. The discussion deep-dives into the sadness of regret, which is a topic not yet discussed on the podcast. Youngmi talks about feeling never-ending guilt and shame, and taking steps to alleviate that.

]]> Thu, 29 Dec 2022 09:21:19 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4084 This week Youngmi talks to Kareem Rahma about the art of comedic hosting. They also deep dive into the sadness of regret, which is a topic not yet discussed on the podcast. This week Youngmi talks to Kareem Rahma about the art of comedic hosting. They also deep dive into the sadness of regret, which is a topic not yet discussed on the podcast. No If Being a Shaman is Wrong, I Don't Want to be Right with Mudang Jenn 27 27 If Being a Shaman is Wrong, I Don't Want to be Right with Mudang Jenn full d1ac1a11-a348-4a8d-9ec4-c4beab8df8a0 https://share.transistor.fm/s/bc42b673 This week, Youngmi talks to Mudang Jenn (shaman, @shaman.mudang) about her work as a Korean shaman. Jenn talks about why it’s important to her to continue these ancient Korean traditions for Koreans of the diaspora. She discusses how her immigrant parents hated these traditions as born-again Christians and Catholics. Jenn discusses the various types of abuse she endured as a child, including religious abuse, when her grandmother was convinced she was Satan reincarnate. Youngmi talks about seeing ghosts again and asks for Jenn’s advice on an evil-seeming spirit who lives in her mirror. 

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to Mudang Jenn (shaman, @shaman.mudang) about her work as a Korean shaman. Jenn talks about why it’s important to her to continue these ancient Korean traditions for Koreans of the diaspora. She discusses how her immigrant parents hated these traditions as born-again Christians and Catholics. Jenn discusses the various types of abuse she endured as a child, including religious abuse, when her grandmother was convinced she was Satan reincarnate. Youngmi talks about seeing ghosts again and asks for Jenn’s advice on an evil-seeming spirit who lives in her mirror. 

]]> Tue, 20 Dec 2022 10:13:34 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3881 This week, Youngmi talks to Mudang Jenn (Shaman, @shaman.mudang) about her work as a Korean shaman. Jenn talks about why it’s important to her to continue these ancient Korean traditions for Koreans of the diaspora. This week, Youngmi talks to Mudang Jenn (Shaman, @shaman.mudang) about her work as a Korean shaman. Jenn talks about why it’s important to her to continue these ancient Korean traditions for Koreans of the diaspora. No One Foot In The Grave, One Foot On A Banana Peel w/ Kevin Hayes 26 26 One Foot In The Grave, One Foot On A Banana Peel w/ Kevin Hayes full 1145d6f8-8654-4ffb-ba98-038a66b3158c https://share.transistor.fm/s/b260aa11 This week Youngmi talks to Kevin Hayes (artist, director, son of Lili Hayes) about LA, dive bars in the LES, open mics in the basement of a Holiday Inn, his mom and the death of his dad. Kevin talks about being placed in special ed as a teen for having dyslexia and how that tainted his view of himself versus the world. He also discusses his eccentric parents and their unusual marriage. Kevin talks about the events leading up to his dad's death and why he has chosen not to find out the cause of it. Youngmi talks about how his mom Lili Hayes is an inspiration for women who don't fit into conventional gender norms.

]]> This week Youngmi talks to Kevin Hayes (artist, director, son of Lili Hayes) about LA, dive bars in the LES, open mics in the basement of a Holiday Inn, his mom and the death of his dad. Kevin talks about being placed in special ed as a teen for having dyslexia and how that tainted his view of himself versus the world. He also discusses his eccentric parents and their unusual marriage. Kevin talks about the events leading up to his dad's death and why he has chosen not to find out the cause of it. Youngmi talks about how his mom Lili Hayes is an inspiration for women who don't fit into conventional gender norms.

]]> Thu, 15 Dec 2022 09:22:49 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3899 This week Youngmi talks to Kevin Hayes (artist, director, son of Lili Hayes) about LA, dive bars in the LES, open mics in the basement of a Holiday Inn, his mom and the death of his dad. This week Youngmi talks to Kevin Hayes (artist, director, son of Lili Hayes) about LA, dive bars in the LES, open mics in the basement of a Holiday Inn, his mom and the death of his dad. No Crying at My Dad’s Pain, Laughing at My Mom’s with Susie 25 25 Crying at My Dad’s Pain, Laughing at My Mom’s with Susie full 0815f392-12df-4a04-abd4-47a21a62ac5b https://share.transistor.fm/s/c7c75704 This week Youngmi talks to Susie (TikTok star @soogia1) about the feeling of being “too much” as an Asian woman and how she was told all her life to quiet her voice, only to become a viral TikTok sensation known for her unique voice. She discusses her transition from making videos about politics to food while maintaining the core subject of racial identity politics. She talks about not being able to handle the sad past of her father, and Youngmi discusses how she has the opposite reaction to hearing about the sad past of her mother.

]]> This week Youngmi talks to Susie (TikTok star @soogia1) about the feeling of being “too much” as an Asian woman and how she was told all her life to quiet her voice, only to become a viral TikTok sensation known for her unique voice. She discusses her transition from making videos about politics to food while maintaining the core subject of racial identity politics. She talks about not being able to handle the sad past of her father, and Youngmi discusses how she has the opposite reaction to hearing about the sad past of her mother.

]]> Thu, 08 Dec 2022 09:47:49 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 5151 Youngmi talks to Susie (TikTok star @soogia1) about the feeling of being “too much” as an Asian woman and how she was told all her life to quiet her voice, only to become a viral TikTok sensation known for her unique voice. Youngmi talks to Susie (TikTok star @soogia1) about the feeling of being “too much” as an Asian woman and how she was told all her life to quiet her voice, only to become a viral TikTok sensation known for her unique voice. No My Dad Abandoned My Family And All I Got Was A Burberry Trenchcoat w/ Samuel Hyun 24 24 My Dad Abandoned My Family And All I Got Was A Burberry Trenchcoat w/ Samuel Hyun full 0a257cdf-354d-469f-9e61-5d58ab4483ac https://share.transistor.fm/s/72128f04 This week Youngmi talks to Samuel Hyun (director of federal relations for the city Of Boston and Mayor Michelle Wu) about balancing a social media presence while having a “real” day job. Sam talks about the reasons he decided to start creating content and the difficulties of having a large Internet presence. He discusses his dad leaving his family when he was a teenager, the present state of toxic Asian men online, and the concept of holding them accountable for causing harm while also holding space for their victimhood as well. Youngmi brings up the correlation between Sam's compassion for his father and how he feels about Asian male online culture. 

]]> This week Youngmi talks to Samuel Hyun (director of federal relations for the city Of Boston and Mayor Michelle Wu) about balancing a social media presence while having a “real” day job. Sam talks about the reasons he decided to start creating content and the difficulties of having a large Internet presence. He discusses his dad leaving his family when he was a teenager, the present state of toxic Asian men online, and the concept of holding them accountable for causing harm while also holding space for their victimhood as well. Youngmi brings up the correlation between Sam's compassion for his father and how he feels about Asian male online culture. 

]]> Thu, 01 Dec 2022 13:49:14 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3609 This week Youngmi talks to Samuel Hyun about balancing a social media presence while having a “real” day job, his dad leaving his family when he was a teenager, and the state of toxic Asian men online. This week Youngmi talks to Samuel Hyun about balancing a social media presence while having a “real” day job, his dad leaving his family when he was a teenager, and the state of toxic Asian men online. No Korean Fuckboys with Milly Tamarez 23 23 Korean Fuckboys with Milly Tamarez full a0b1f0c9-b5bd-457d-9d11-714ea2d14814 https://share.transistor.fm/s/13b3dd89 This week, Youngmi is joined by Milly Tamarez (comedian, host of The Betches Sup podcast). Milly discusses a sad story that happened in her early 20s when she lacked the confidence to stand up to bad behavior from men she was dating. She also touches on a phase in her life when she only dated Asian men because she was influenced by stereotypes about Asian men. Youngmi discusses how those unfair stereotypes and exclusion from sexual viability has led to some Asian men developing “fuckboy” behaviors in order to prove them “wrong.”

]]> This week, Youngmi is joined by Milly Tamarez (comedian, host of The Betches Sup podcast). Milly discusses a sad story that happened in her early 20s when she lacked the confidence to stand up to bad behavior from men she was dating. She also touches on a phase in her life when she only dated Asian men because she was influenced by stereotypes about Asian men. Youngmi discusses how those unfair stereotypes and exclusion from sexual viability has led to some Asian men developing “fuckboy” behaviors in order to prove them “wrong.”

]]> Wed, 23 Nov 2022 09:31:27 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4597 This week, Youngmi is joined by Milly Tamarez, who discusses when she was in her early 20s and lacked the confidence to stand up to bad behavior from men she was dating. This week, Youngmi is joined by Milly Tamarez, who discusses when she was in her early 20s and lacked the confidence to stand up to bad behavior from men she was dating. No My High School Crush Was Racist w/ Whitley Watson 22 22 My High School Crush Was Racist w/ Whitley Watson full 28c2c477-b7bf-4dd1-9b9a-cb77e48f0501 https://share.transistor.fm/s/7f2aded1 This week, Youngmi speaks with Whitley Watson (comedian, host of Club Video). They discuss their shared experiences as biracial people and the similarities and differences as biracial people who are half Asian and half Black. They also touch on the idea that race is a social construct and therefore not “real” yet respecting the fact that racial identity is deeply important to a lot of people in their respective communities. Whitley discusses a traumatizing incident in high school where her high school crush who happened to be white attacked her for her “Black” features after a confusing pseudo-sexual encounter. Youngmi brings up the difficulties for young people of color who have to navigate not only their teenage raging hormones but also bear the weight of pathological societal ideologies such as racism and misogyny.

]]> This week, Youngmi speaks with Whitley Watson (comedian, host of Club Video). They discuss their shared experiences as biracial people and the similarities and differences as biracial people who are half Asian and half Black. They also touch on the idea that race is a social construct and therefore not “real” yet respecting the fact that racial identity is deeply important to a lot of people in their respective communities. Whitley discusses a traumatizing incident in high school where her high school crush who happened to be white attacked her for her “Black” features after a confusing pseudo-sexual encounter. Youngmi brings up the difficulties for young people of color who have to navigate not only their teenage raging hormones but also bear the weight of pathological societal ideologies such as racism and misogyny.

]]> Thu, 17 Nov 2022 09:21:16 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4268 This week, Youngmi speaks with Whitley Watson and they discuss their shared experiences as biracial people and the similarities and differences as biracial people who are half Asian and half Black. This week, Youngmi speaks with Whitley Watson and they discuss their shared experiences as biracial people and the similarities and differences as biracial people who are half Asian and half Black. No Healing Your Inner Child Who Loves Heroin with Geoff Rickly 21 21 Healing Your Inner Child Who Loves Heroin with Geoff Rickly full 74231163-a1f8-4877-afa6-3f1a70e0d69e https://share.transistor.fm/s/62022063 This week Youngmi speaks with Geoff Rickly (lead singer of Thursday) about his heroin recovery. After struggling with addiction for years, Geoff decided to take a powerful psychedelic treatment known as Ibogaine. Because of the risk of death during the treatment process he had to travel to Mexico. He discusses what he learned about himself and his ultimate journey out of heroin addiction. He also discusses self-hatred, hating your inner child, and the compartmentalization of different aspects of his person.

]]> This week Youngmi speaks with Geoff Rickly (lead singer of Thursday) about his heroin recovery. After struggling with addiction for years, Geoff decided to take a powerful psychedelic treatment known as Ibogaine. Because of the risk of death during the treatment process he had to travel to Mexico. He discusses what he learned about himself and his ultimate journey out of heroin addiction. He also discusses self-hatred, hating your inner child, and the compartmentalization of different aspects of his person.

]]> Tue, 08 Nov 2022 09:29:08 -0800 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3942 This week Youngmi speaks with Geoff Rickly (lead singer of Thursday) about his heroin recovery and self-hatred, hating your inner child, and the compartmentalization of different aspects of his person. This week Youngmi speaks with Geoff Rickly (lead singer of Thursday) about his heroin recovery and self-hatred, hating your inner child, and the compartmentalization of different aspects of his person. No America's Next Top Abortion Activist w/ Sarah Hartshorne 20 20 America's Next Top Abortion Activist w/ Sarah Hartshorne full 860bfc04-f389-4471-a648-ff54e9275446 https://share.transistor.fm/s/0e91e988 This week, Youngmi chats with Sarah Hartshorne (comedian, writer, abortion activist, former ANTM contestant). Sarah discusses how so many things in life exist on both sides of the moral boundary. She touches on how in the fashion industry, a lot of the harm is perpetuated by former victims. She also discusses how abortion transcends people's individual ideas of "good" and "bad". She talks about her work as an abortion advocate while breastfeeding her newborn (metaphor alert).

]]> This week, Youngmi chats with Sarah Hartshorne (comedian, writer, abortion activist, former ANTM contestant). Sarah discusses how so many things in life exist on both sides of the moral boundary. She touches on how in the fashion industry, a lot of the harm is perpetuated by former victims. She also discusses how abortion transcends people's individual ideas of "good" and "bad". She talks about her work as an abortion advocate while breastfeeding her newborn (metaphor alert).

]]> Thu, 03 Nov 2022 12:01:44 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3491 This week, Youngmi chats with Sarah Hartshorne who discusses harm in the fashion industry, and her work as an abortion advocate while breastfeeding her newborn (metaphor alert). This week, Youngmi chats with Sarah Hartshorne who discusses harm in the fashion industry, and her work as an abortion advocate while breastfeeding her newborn (metaphor alert). No I See Dead People 19 19 I See Dead People full 5c8aed32-8f5b-4474-90bd-d3e07653b85f https://share.transistor.fm/s/feb2650a With Halloween right around the corner this week, Youngmi discusses how she sees ghosts! She shares the most vivid encounters she's had to date (and scares herself in the process). She talks about intellectually refusing to believe ghosts are real and the journey she had in trying to diagnose her visions as mental illness, before ultimately accepting that there are things out of her understanding. She touches on viewing this aspect of her life through a white lens as well as a Korean cultural lens.

]]> With Halloween right around the corner this week, Youngmi discusses how she sees ghosts! She shares the most vivid encounters she's had to date (and scares herself in the process). She talks about intellectually refusing to believe ghosts are real and the journey she had in trying to diagnose her visions as mental illness, before ultimately accepting that there are things out of her understanding. She touches on viewing this aspect of her life through a white lens as well as a Korean cultural lens.

]]> Thu, 27 Oct 2022 11:54:26 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 1794 With Halloween right around the corner this week, Youngmi discusses how she sees ghosts and touches on viewing this aspect of her life through a white lens as well as a Korean cultural lens. With Halloween right around the corner this week, Youngmi discusses how she sees ghosts and touches on viewing this aspect of her life through a white lens as well as a Korean cultural lens. No Victims of victims (with Jeremy Holt) 18 18 Victims of victims (with Jeremy Holt) full 46539056-de1b-4552-bd5a-0d8420fec75e https://share.transistor.fm/s/1e0ed24f (CW: SA) This week, Youngmi talks to Jeremy Holt (graphic novel writer) about their identity as a transracial adoptee and nonbinary person. Jeremy talks about how growing up in an all-white community, they couldn't recognize their reflection as their own. They also discuss the reason they set out to explore their Asian identity. Jeremy also shares a sad story about a reaction their friend had to hearing about their sexual assault, and how that person's reaction stemmed from his inability to process his own sexual assault and victimhood. 

]]> (CW: SA) This week, Youngmi talks to Jeremy Holt (graphic novel writer) about their identity as a transracial adoptee and nonbinary person. Jeremy talks about how growing up in an all-white community, they couldn't recognize their reflection as their own. They also discuss the reason they set out to explore their Asian identity. Jeremy also shares a sad story about a reaction their friend had to hearing about their sexual assault, and how that person's reaction stemmed from his inability to process his own sexual assault and victimhood. 

]]> Thu, 20 Oct 2022 15:25:42 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2940 (CW: SA) Youngmi talks to Jeremy Holt about their identity as a transracial adoptee and nonbinary person. Jeremy also shares a story about their sexual assault, and how a friend’s reaction stemmed from his inability to process his own sexual assault and victimhood. (CW: SA) Youngmi talks to Jeremy Holt about their identity as a transracial adoptee and nonbinary person. Jeremy also shares a story about their sexual assault, and how a friend’s reaction stemmed from his inability to process his own sexual assault and v No In and Out of the Closet (with James Tison) 17 17 In and Out of the Closet (with James Tison) full 36c4a5c9-08a5-4a0f-bf29-9387dfd1b714 https://share.transistor.fm/s/d81b67bc This week, Youngmi talks to James Tison (standup comedian) about the impact living in the closet for the first 15 years of their life had on them. Being taught to hide and lie about their personality has had a lasting impact on them, in ways that are visible to this day. They discuss learning how their parents' emotions were deemed more important than their own, leading them to believe that there is no room for their own emotions to this day. Youngmi and James also joke about their times doing open mics and standup shows in the days before the pandemic.

]]> This week, Youngmi talks to James Tison (standup comedian) about the impact living in the closet for the first 15 years of their life had on them. Being taught to hide and lie about their personality has had a lasting impact on them, in ways that are visible to this day. They discuss learning how their parents' emotions were deemed more important than their own, leading them to believe that there is no room for their own emotions to this day. Youngmi and James also joke about their times doing open mics and standup shows in the days before the pandemic.

]]> Thu, 13 Oct 2022 15:49:35 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4130 Youngmi Mayer talks to James Tison (standup comedian) about the impact living in the closet for the first 15 years of their life had on them. Youngmi Mayer talks to James Tison (standup comedian) about the impact living in the closet for the first 15 years of their life had on them. No Sex and Soft Suicide (with Ai Vy Luu) 16 16 Sex and Soft Suicide (with Ai Vy Luu) full dfbf15a6-0137-4d7c-9911-bc56c11fa6cc https://share.transistor.fm/s/e69020a4 (CW: Suicide) This week, Youngmi speaks to Ai Vy Luu (comedian, Comedy Central, Reductress). Ai Vy and Youngmi talk about sex. A lot. Then Ai Vy opens up about a very difficult period of her life and the factors that led to her attempted suicide. She discusses personal hardships but also touches on the large-scale traumas we are all facing as a society, causing us all to be “soft suicidal.”

]]> (CW: Suicide) This week, Youngmi speaks to Ai Vy Luu (comedian, Comedy Central, Reductress). Ai Vy and Youngmi talk about sex. A lot. Then Ai Vy opens up about a very difficult period of her life and the factors that led to her attempted suicide. She discusses personal hardships but also touches on the large-scale traumas we are all facing as a society, causing us all to be “soft suicidal.”

]]> Thu, 06 Oct 2022 11:50:32 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3808 (CW: Suicide) This week, Youngmi speaks to Ai Vy Luu and they talk about sex. A lot. Ai Vy also opens up about a very difficult period of her life and the factors that led to her attempted suicide. (CW: Suicide) This week, Youngmi speaks to Ai Vy Luu and they talk about sex. A lot. Ai Vy also opens up about a very difficult period of her life and the factors that led to her attempted suicide. No The Hairy Butthole Queen (with Audrey Taylor) 15 15 The Hairy Butthole Queen (with Audrey Taylor) full b25e0658-6ed0-433c-a281-31160da139a6 https://share.transistor.fm/s/6c4d8f2e This week Youngmi talks to Audrey Taylor (@audreytaylorvisuals) about a huge fight they had a year into the pandemic. Audrey and Youngmi are personal friends who went through a tumultuous time after being reunited. They discuss how the pandemic deteriorated their mental health, as well as the explosion of anti-Asian hate crimes, led them to behave in two distinct incompatible ways and “break up” for a year. They also discuss how they mended their friendship, which involves Youngmi apologizing to Audrey for calling her a dumb bitch.

]]> This week Youngmi talks to Audrey Taylor (@audreytaylorvisuals) about a huge fight they had a year into the pandemic. Audrey and Youngmi are personal friends who went through a tumultuous time after being reunited. They discuss how the pandemic deteriorated their mental health, as well as the explosion of anti-Asian hate crimes, led them to behave in two distinct incompatible ways and “break up” for a year. They also discuss how they mended their friendship, which involves Youngmi apologizing to Audrey for calling her a dumb bitch.

]]> Thu, 29 Sep 2022 13:15:03 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2443 This week, Youngmi talks to her friend Audrey Taylor about a fight they had a year into the pandemic, their yearlong “break up,” and how they managed to repair their friendship. This week, Youngmi talks to her friend Audrey Taylor about a fight they had a year into the pandemic, their yearlong “break up,” and how they managed to repair their friendship. No Not Sex Work, Not Not Sex Work But A Secret Third Thing (featuring Yurie Collins) 14 14 Not Sex Work, Not Not Sex Work But A Secret Third Thing (featuring Yurie Collins) full 4447e650-f8a2-4f52-b103-4dc598c4ce86 https://share.transistor.fm/s/3e309b0e (CW: SA) This week, Youngmi speaks with Yurie Collins (actor, filmmaker, TikTok personality) about her life as a hostess in a Japanese hostess club. Yurie discusses a sad story about how a male patron assaulted her during a drunken bout and how the transactional nature of sex work-adjacent work is directly tied to deep self-hatred of men who believe they cannot be loved. They also touch on the ubiquitous nature of hostess bars in East Asia and why shame is placed on the women who work there and not the men who patronize it, when in fact they are the losers for having to pay people to hang out with them. Youngmi touches on her personal experience in this line of work. They also dissect how both of their biracial identities play into the world of dating, and ask the question, "Who are biracials supposed to date?"

]]> (CW: SA) This week, Youngmi speaks with Yurie Collins (actor, filmmaker, TikTok personality) about her life as a hostess in a Japanese hostess club. Yurie discusses a sad story about how a male patron assaulted her during a drunken bout and how the transactional nature of sex work-adjacent work is directly tied to deep self-hatred of men who believe they cannot be loved. They also touch on the ubiquitous nature of hostess bars in East Asia and why shame is placed on the women who work there and not the men who patronize it, when in fact they are the losers for having to pay people to hang out with them. Youngmi touches on her personal experience in this line of work. They also dissect how both of their biracial identities play into the world of dating, and ask the question, "Who are biracials supposed to date?"

]]> Thu, 22 Sep 2022 16:14:55 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3995 (CW: SA) This week, Youngmi speaks with Yurie Collins about her life as a hostess in a Japanese hostess club. They discuss why shame is placed on the women who work there and not the men who patronize it, when in fact they are the losers for having to pay people to hang out with them. (CW: SA) This week, Youngmi speaks with Yurie Collins about her life as a hostess in a Japanese hostess club. They discuss why shame is placed on the women who work there and not the men who patronize it, when in fact they are the losers for having to pay No You Can Never Go Back Home 13 13 You Can Never Go Back Home full 17f2fbd4-f03a-4010-8e38-6930aafaddf0 https://share.transistor.fm/s/a2c86f80 This week Youngmi Mayer discusses returning home for the first time since the Covid-19 pandemic. She talks about the ways in which therapy has completely changed her brain and her outlook on life. She talks about noticing how her mind has moved away from a heightened trauma state and how that transformation took her by surprise. She talks about continuing her relationship with her family despite childhood trauma, as opposed to completely cutting them off, and the difficulties of maintaining those relationships. 

]]> This week Youngmi Mayer discusses returning home for the first time since the Covid-19 pandemic. She talks about the ways in which therapy has completely changed her brain and her outlook on life. She talks about noticing how her mind has moved away from a heightened trauma state and how that transformation took her by surprise. She talks about continuing her relationship with her family despite childhood trauma, as opposed to completely cutting them off, and the difficulties of maintaining those relationships. 

]]> Wed, 14 Sep 2022 14:31:11 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2294 Youngmi Mayer returns home for the first time since the pandemic started, and deals with the complicated emotions of recovering from childhood trauma. Youngmi Mayer returns home for the first time since the pandemic started, and deals with the complicated emotions of recovering from childhood trauma. travel, homecoming, identity, childhood trauma No Taking My Bussy Back To Saipan w/ Roberto Santos 12 12 Taking My Bussy Back To Saipan w/ Roberto Santos full 575a61b0-8495-499c-8dff-45fc72d73e74 https://share.transistor.fm/s/3d183cf3 This week Youngmi Mayer talks to Roberto Santos (Chair of Pride Marianas). Roberto is Chamorro, Carolinian and white and recently moved back to the island of Saipan in the Marianas. He discusses what it feels like to be from a remote part of the world that people typically do not know anything about. He talks about the reasons he moved back on island and how “pride” for him encompasses the intense pride he has for his ethnic background as well as LGBTQIA+ advocacy. He also touches on how queer identity is viewed in the Marianas Islands. Youngmi discusses how she remembers meeting him for the first time in grade school.

]]> This week Youngmi Mayer talks to Roberto Santos (Chair of Pride Marianas). Roberto is Chamorro, Carolinian and white and recently moved back to the island of Saipan in the Marianas. He discusses what it feels like to be from a remote part of the world that people typically do not know anything about. He talks about the reasons he moved back on island and how “pride” for him encompasses the intense pride he has for his ethnic background as well as LGBTQIA+ advocacy. He also touches on how queer identity is viewed in the Marianas Islands. Youngmi discusses how she remembers meeting him for the first time in grade school.

]]> Tue, 06 Sep 2022 10:10:00 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4013 This week Youngmi talks to Roberto Santos (Chair of Pride Marianas), who discusses what it feels like to be from a remote part of the world that people, and how “pride” for him encompasses the intense pride he has for his ethnic background as well as LGBTQIA+ advocacy. This week Youngmi talks to Roberto Santos (Chair of Pride Marianas), who discusses what it feels like to be from a remote part of the world that people, and how “pride” for him encompasses the intense pride he has for his ethnic background as well as LGBT No I Bet You Did NAZI That Coming! with Roger Mayer 11 11 I Bet You Did NAZI That Coming! with Roger Mayer full 474d9f3b-d30b-446d-8758-39e76bd5394f https://share.transistor.fm/s/e445d02f Thu, 01 Sep 2022 11:44:58 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2976 This week, Youngmi talks to her father, Roger Mayer, whose parents were both first-generation Americans from European immigrant families. Roger discusses how the world wars affected his family directly, causing his German-born family members to move back to Germany in support of the Nazi party. This week, Youngmi talks to her father, Roger Mayer, whose parents were both first-generation Americans from European immigrant families. Roger discusses how the world wars affected his family directly, causing his German-born family members to move back No Bossam (The Act Of Kidnapping A Woman For Marriage) with Ippun Mayer 10 10 Bossam (The Act Of Kidnapping A Woman For Marriage) with Ippun Mayer full fe7ef0b1-f69d-4097-a2a7-0ef82a5ce56d https://share.transistor.fm/s/c7021396 This week I talked to my mom, Ippun Mayer (AKA the person who said "If you laugh while crying hair grows out of your butthole). She talked about my great-grandmother getting kidnapped, my grandmother being forced to marry a poor guy, my uncle being murdered by Japanese soldiers, and the suicides of my other uncle and grandfather. She also talked about why it's important to her that Koreans do not continue to hate Japanese people. Also she laughs a lot while talking about these horrors beyond our imaginations, Hairy Butthole style.

]]> This week I talked to my mom, Ippun Mayer (AKA the person who said "If you laugh while crying hair grows out of your butthole). She talked about my great-grandmother getting kidnapped, my grandmother being forced to marry a poor guy, my uncle being murdered by Japanese soldiers, and the suicides of my other uncle and grandfather. She also talked about why it's important to her that Koreans do not continue to hate Japanese people. Also she laughs a lot while talking about these horrors beyond our imaginations, Hairy Butthole style.

]]> Mon, 22 Aug 2022 11:16:05 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3321 This week I talked to my mom, Ippun Mayer about our family history, including my great-grandmother getting kidnapped, my grandmother being forced to marry a poor guy, and one of my uncles being murdered by Japanese soldiers. She also talked about why it's important to her that Koreans do not continue to hate Japanese people. This week I talked to my mom, Ippun Mayer about our family history, including my great-grandmother getting kidnapped, my grandmother being forced to marry a poor guy, and one of my uncles being murdered by Japanese soldiers. She also talked about why it's No I Need Friends That Are Smart Enough To Kill Me (featuring Jenny Arimoto) 8 8 I Need Friends That Are Smart Enough To Kill Me (featuring Jenny Arimoto) full ebf2af18-c86b-4ecc-8192-4d5c4f82c468 https://share.transistor.fm/s/e9431bf1 This week I talked to the amazing comedian Jenny Arimoto about the death of her grandmother a decade after being diagnosed with dementia. Jenny talks about the cruelty of prolonging life in someone who no longer has the capacity to consent and talks about the infinite layers of emotions that surround death and illness. We talked about how death is perceived differently in Asian vs. American families and the problem with the idea that life events are either all good or all bad. Also I read the most deranged email I’ve ever received from an ex-boyfriend.

]]> This week I talked to the amazing comedian Jenny Arimoto about the death of her grandmother a decade after being diagnosed with dementia. Jenny talks about the cruelty of prolonging life in someone who no longer has the capacity to consent and talks about the infinite layers of emotions that surround death and illness. We talked about how death is perceived differently in Asian vs. American families and the problem with the idea that life events are either all good or all bad. Also I read the most deranged email I’ve ever received from an ex-boyfriend.

]]> Wed, 17 Aug 2022 09:43:57 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4569 This week I talk to comedian Jenny Arimoto about the death of her grandmother a decade after being diagnosed with dementia. Jenny talks about the cruelty of prolonging life in someone who no longer has the capacity to consent and we talk about how death is perceived differently in Asian vs. American families. This week I talk to comedian Jenny Arimoto about the death of her grandmother a decade after being diagnosed with dementia. Jenny talks about the cruelty of prolonging life in someone who no longer has the capacity to consent and we talk about how death i No Fatti Cazzi Tuoi! (Mind Your Dick!) (with Vanessa Lavorato) 6 6 Fatti Cazzi Tuoi! (Mind Your Dick!) (with Vanessa Lavorato) full ee559fcc-832e-4275-9c23-7c2de970364d https://share.transistor.fm/s/e70ea89c This week I talk to Vanessa Lavorato (Bong Appétit, Owner of Marigold Sweets) about the restaurant industry. Vanessa and I met while living in San Francisco in the late aughts. We talk about how we were both drawn to this work because of our traumatic childhoods and how so many people with similar backgrounds find comfort in the abusive familiarity of restaurant service. We also discuss the cult-like following that surrounds famous chefs and the hypocrisy of the wealthy white elite in the Bay Area co-opting organic food. Vanessa also touches on the long-lasting emotional effects of being in a relationship with a serial cheater.

]]> This week I talk to Vanessa Lavorato (Bong Appétit, Owner of Marigold Sweets) about the restaurant industry. Vanessa and I met while living in San Francisco in the late aughts. We talk about how we were both drawn to this work because of our traumatic childhoods and how so many people with similar backgrounds find comfort in the abusive familiarity of restaurant service. We also discuss the cult-like following that surrounds famous chefs and the hypocrisy of the wealthy white elite in the Bay Area co-opting organic food. Vanessa also touches on the long-lasting emotional effects of being in a relationship with a serial cheater.

]]> Mon, 08 Aug 2022 14:42:15 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3709 This week I talk to Vanessa Lavorato (Bong Appétit, Owner of Marigold Sweets) about the restaurant industry, our traumatic childhoods and how so many people with similar backgrounds find comfort in the abusive familiarity of restaurant service. This week I talk to Vanessa Lavorato (Bong Appétit, Owner of Marigold Sweets) about the restaurant industry, our traumatic childhoods and how so many people with similar backgrounds find comfort in the abusive familiarity of restaurant service. No Harvey Weinstein Didn't Laugh At My Rape Jokes For Some Reason 4 4 Harvey Weinstein Didn't Laugh At My Rape Jokes For Some Reason full 15399238-a143-4ea6-aed1-5805977958cd https://share.transistor.fm/s/8b966501 This week I talk to comedian Kelly Bachman (Hysterical on FX, Rape Victims Are Horny Too). Kelly blew up on the internet after confronting Harvey Weinstein at a comedy show back in 2019. She joins Hairy Butthole to talk about how she started doing stand-up specifically to joke about rape after an assault left her searching for material from the survivor's perspective. She discusses how the MeToo movement pushed her into this pursuit and the spectacular coincidence that she was the one who ended up confronting the person at the core of the movement. 

]]> This week I talk to comedian Kelly Bachman (Hysterical on FX, Rape Victims Are Horny Too). Kelly blew up on the internet after confronting Harvey Weinstein at a comedy show back in 2019. She joins Hairy Butthole to talk about how she started doing stand-up specifically to joke about rape after an assault left her searching for material from the survivor's perspective. She discusses how the MeToo movement pushed her into this pursuit and the spectacular coincidence that she was the one who ended up confronting the person at the core of the movement. 

]]> Thu, 04 Aug 2022 16:32:08 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 3137 Youngmi talks with Kelly Bachman (Hysterical on FX, Rape Victims Are Horny Too) Youngmi talks with Kelly Bachman (Hysterical on FX, Rape Victims Are Horny Too) No Yes He Tried To R-Word Me But Also He Does A Great Kermit The Frog Impression (Featuring Lucie Pohl) 9 9 Yes He Tried To R-Word Me But Also He Does A Great Kermit The Frog Impression (Featuring Lucie Pohl) full 67c5275b-3e7f-44cd-9451-cfc5732e0a0c https://share.transistor.fm/s/bc2a5c7c I chat with Lucie Pohl (standup comedian) about the two times of her life when she was sexually assaulted, once as an 11-year-old child and then recently by a fellow standup comedian. She talks about the recent assault and how it triggered a rush of memories she had repressed from the childhood attack. She discusses talking to her parents about it for the first time, and how she felt as a child after her parents pretended it basically didn't happen.

]]> I chat with Lucie Pohl (standup comedian) about the two times of her life when she was sexually assaulted, once as an 11-year-old child and then recently by a fellow standup comedian. She talks about the recent assault and how it triggered a rush of memories she had repressed from the childhood attack. She discusses talking to her parents about it for the first time, and how she felt as a child after her parents pretended it basically didn't happen.

]]> Tue, 02 Aug 2022 15:09:20 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4913 I chat with Lucie Pohl (standup comedian) about the two times of her life when she was sexually assaulted, once as an 11-year-old child and then recently by a fellow standup comedian. I chat with Lucie Pohl (standup comedian) about the two times of her life when she was sexually assaulted, once as an 11-year-old child and then recently by a fellow standup comedian. No My Abortion IS Funny IT'S FUNNY 7 7 My Abortion IS Funny IT'S FUNNY full 4fa34759-39a3-49a4-b165-1bf3c7865d51 https://share.transistor.fm/s/35b71eb0 In this episode, I am solo and I discuss my abortion and the events leading up to it. I also talk about how I don't think my abortion is sad and how we should normalize all reactions to abortion because the singular narrative about women being sad about abortion is damaging to the core message because abortion is not a death of a child, it's a medical procedure that for a lot of people is void of emotion or grief. I also talk about the misogynistic culture I grew up in and how it led me to ultimately need an abortion.

]]> In this episode, I am solo and I discuss my abortion and the events leading up to it. I also talk about how I don't think my abortion is sad and how we should normalize all reactions to abortion because the singular narrative about women being sad about abortion is damaging to the core message because abortion is not a death of a child, it's a medical procedure that for a lot of people is void of emotion or grief. I also talk about the misogynistic culture I grew up in and how it led me to ultimately need an abortion.

]]> Tue, 02 Aug 2022 15:01:27 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2440 In this episode, I discuss my abortion and the events leading up to it. I also talk about how I don't think my abortion is sad and how we should normalize all reactions to abortion. In this episode, I discuss my abortion and the events leading up to it. I also talk about how I don't think my abortion is sad and how we should normalize all reactions to abortion. women, abortion, health No I Can't Stop Thinking About My Baby Dying (Featuring Alex Pemoulie) 5 5 I Can't Stop Thinking About My Baby Dying (Featuring Alex Pemoulie) full cabb21f3-ee8b-4340-99f4-a8f040cc5fb7 https://share.transistor.fm/s/d5a8cdf2 In this episode, I talk to my friend Alex Pemoulie (Restaurant Worker's Community Foundation) about her infant son going through open heart surgery after finding out he was at high risk of losing his life to a heart defect. She discusses postpartum depression and how it manifested in her being obsessed with the death of her children and the irony of her child being found out later to have a possibly fatal heart defect. We also talk about how her grief showed up in a form of a psychotic break months before the procedure, so that by the time she was experiencing the surgery, she was calm and collected. We talk about how she felt the hospital staff were confused by her calmness and how that could appear as coldness to strangers who did not know about how she grieved the surgery months before.

]]> In this episode, I talk to my friend Alex Pemoulie (Restaurant Worker's Community Foundation) about her infant son going through open heart surgery after finding out he was at high risk of losing his life to a heart defect. She discusses postpartum depression and how it manifested in her being obsessed with the death of her children and the irony of her child being found out later to have a possibly fatal heart defect. We also talk about how her grief showed up in a form of a psychotic break months before the procedure, so that by the time she was experiencing the surgery, she was calm and collected. We talk about how she felt the hospital staff were confused by her calmness and how that could appear as coldness to strangers who did not know about how she grieved the surgery months before.

]]> Tue, 02 Aug 2022 14:51:28 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 4768 In this episode, I talk to my friend Alex Pemoulie (Restaurant Worker's Community Foundation) about her infant son going through open heart surgery. We talk about postpartum depression and her obsession with the death of her children. In this episode, I talk to my friend Alex Pemoulie (Restaurant Worker's Community Foundation) about her infant son going through open heart surgery. We talk about postpartum depression and her obsession with the death of her children. No Stupid Ass Bitch Who Doesn't Know Where TF She's Going (Featuring Dylan Adler) 3 3 Stupid Ass Bitch Who Doesn't Know Where TF She's Going (Featuring Dylan Adler) full c419577a-debb-4630-85c1-3ed6e9171d0f https://share.transistor.fm/s/3d031566 In this episode, I talk to Dylan Adler (comedian, TikTok star) about his grandmother's death and how he couldn't cry about it. We discuss the “social requirements” for grief and how not fulfilling them (i.e. crying at the funeral) adds pressure and the guilt of not showing grief in the way society finds acceptable. Dylan does end up crying at the end because he remembers something funny that his grandma did, and somehow that's what stirs up sadness in him.

]]> In this episode, I talk to Dylan Adler (comedian, TikTok star) about his grandmother's death and how he couldn't cry about it. We discuss the “social requirements” for grief and how not fulfilling them (i.e. crying at the funeral) adds pressure and the guilt of not showing grief in the way society finds acceptable. Dylan does end up crying at the end because he remembers something funny that his grandma did, and somehow that's what stirs up sadness in him.

]]> Mon, 01 Aug 2022 14:07:01 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2762 In this episode, I talk to Dylan Adler (comedian, TikTok star) about his grandmother's death and we discuss the “social requirements” for grief and how not fulfilling them adds pressure and the guilt of not showing grief in the way society finds acceptable. In this episode, I talk to Dylan Adler (comedian, TikTok star) about his grandmother's death and we discuss the “social requirements” for grief and how not fulfilling them adds pressure and the guilt of not showing grief in the way society finds acceptabl grief, family, humor No Love Yourself! But I'm Not. I'm Going To Get Plastic Surgery 2 2 Love Yourself! But I'm Not. I'm Going To Get Plastic Surgery full 76a934ad-5ed0-4e97-9021-17773b9d59d0 https://share.transistor.fm/s/e8bcfca1 This week I talk about my personal history with plastic surgery in full detail. I talk about why it took me so long to openly discuss this in public, because I have never struggled to share any aspect of my life publicly, no matter how humiliating. I talk about the narrative surrounding plastic surgery in South Korea, and how it's an extremely nuanced and complicated subject that's been reduced to a racist talking point. I talk about the things that happened in my life that lead to me wanting to alter my body and how it's a confusing relationship between self-hatred and self-acceptance that I've yet to figure out. I also talk about getting really cheap botox on Groupon.

]]> This week I talk about my personal history with plastic surgery in full detail. I talk about why it took me so long to openly discuss this in public, because I have never struggled to share any aspect of my life publicly, no matter how humiliating. I talk about the narrative surrounding plastic surgery in South Korea, and how it's an extremely nuanced and complicated subject that's been reduced to a racist talking point. I talk about the things that happened in my life that lead to me wanting to alter my body and how it's a confusing relationship between self-hatred and self-acceptance that I've yet to figure out. I also talk about getting really cheap botox on Groupon.

]]> Wed, 27 Jul 2022 12:16:38 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2054 This episode, I talk about my personal history with plastic surgery in full detail. I talk about why it took me so long to openly discuss this in public, because I have never struggled to share any aspect of my life publicly, no matter how humiliating. This episode, I talk about my personal history with plastic surgery in full detail. I talk about why it took me so long to openly discuss this in public, because I have never struggled to share any aspect of my life publicly, no matter how humiliating. beauty, plastic surgery No I'm Going To Kill Myself (Featuring Helen Cho) 1 1 I'm Going To Kill Myself (Featuring Helen Cho) full ba1592e9-cd1f-456f-ae11-2a94356ed13c https://share.transistor.fm/s/42e3798f On this episode I sit with Helen Cho, a well known Producer/Director most recently of My Next Guest Needs No Introduction With David Letterman and Takeout With Lisa Ling. She is most well known for producing No Reservations with the late Anthony Bourdain and in this episode of the podcast she discusses his death for the first time ever in public. She was his "only friend" as described by his acquaintances and herself identifies as his "bulldog" meaning it was her job to advocate for him and act as a semi secret service person. She talks about the hidden nature of their friendship and going through grief quietly while watching the entire world grieve his death as well.

]]> On this episode I sit with Helen Cho, a well known Producer/Director most recently of My Next Guest Needs No Introduction With David Letterman and Takeout With Lisa Ling. She is most well known for producing No Reservations with the late Anthony Bourdain and in this episode of the podcast she discusses his death for the first time ever in public. She was his "only friend" as described by his acquaintances and herself identifies as his "bulldog" meaning it was her job to advocate for him and act as a semi secret service person. She talks about the hidden nature of their friendship and going through grief quietly while watching the entire world grieve his death as well.

]]> Wed, 27 Jul 2022 10:55:28 -0700 Youngmi Mayer Youngmi Mayer 2927 Youngmi sits down with Helen Cho, most well known for producing “No Reservations” with the late Anthony Bourdain. For the first time in public, Cho discusses her friend’s death, their friendship and going through grief quietly while watching the entire world grieve his death as well. Youngmi sits down with Helen Cho, most well known for producing “No Reservations” with the late Anthony Bourdain. For the first time in public, Cho discusses her friend’s death, their friendship and going through grief quietly while watching the entire wo celebrity, friendships, death, grief No