FamilyLife New Zealand Podcast

"Fluent in the Gospel: Even If You’re Not a Preacher " interview with Tony Wee

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 18 Jul 2025 12:23:32 +1200

Ever felt unsure how to share your faith without sounding pushy or weird? This episode with Tony Wee is a must-listen. Learn how to build gospel fluency, start spiritual conversations naturally, and live with purpose in your home, workplace, and community. Packed with practical tools, real stories, and eternal encouragement.

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/pJq2vUBNDmQ

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The Relationship Lift - Help! How can I get my spouse to a Weekend To Remember?

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 21 Mar 2025 10:31:54 +1300

We know it takes two at the Weekend to Remember. We also know you’re looking for a stronger, more connected relationship.

Maybe you’re wondering, “How do I talk to my spouse about a Weekend to Remember?”

You don’t have to go it alone. Grab our free download, How To Suggest to Your Spouse the Weekend You Both Need.

We’ve seen it all. Maybe your spouse doesn’t think they’re the conference type. Maybe you’re not sure how you’ll pay for the weekend or find childcare. Or maybe you’re not sure your marriage will make it through the weekend. No matter your situation, we’ll prep you with practical tips, conversation starters, and encouragement to ask for what you hope for.

Find out more about building together here: https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

The Relationship Lift - The 4 Habits of Joy-Filled Marriages with Dr Marcus Warner

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 07 Mar 2025 11:39:16 +1300

What separates happy marriages from miserable ones? Surprisingly, it’s not healthy communication. It’s not conflict resolution skills. It’s actually the size of the marriage’s joy gap.

In today’s conversation, we discuss how joy—not just communication—can transform your marriage, practical habits to deepen your connection, and why emotional resilience is key to lasting love. Whether your marriage is thriving or struggling, this conversation offers powerful insights.

Watch this on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BsgPgcpKMS8

Find out more about building together here: https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

The Relationship Lift - Control to Surrender (Brick 8)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 04 Oct 2024 07:00:00 +1300

Letting go of our ability to control the outcome isn’t easy, it requires trust. When we surrender our control to Jesus and yield to His will for our lives and marriages it can feel like a scary place, but ultimately the fruit will be much better than anything we can produce in our own strength.

In today’s conversation, we talk about the journey of giving up control of our lives and each other in marriage as we choose surrender instead. This surrender is not to our spouse, but rather to the Lord - which will in response cause us to act more humbly towards each other in our marriage.

Find out more about building together here: https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/wwK8Z4fZKF0

The Relationship Lift - 50/50 to All-In (Brick 7)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 27 Sep 2024 08:00:00 +1200

Rather than approaching our marriage in the same way we shop for deals and money-back guarantees around boxing day, what if we approached it more like an Olympic athlete approaches their training routine?

Today’s conversation is part of our Bricks and Hammer series and we’re talking about how a 50/50 mindset will bring destruction to our marriage whilst taking an “all-in” approach will help us build a strong and lasting relationship.

Find out more about building together here: https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/M6orIHrCgpA

The Relationship Lift - "Strengthen Your Relationship" - Marriage Week NZ

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 20 Sep 2024 07:00:00 +1200

Marriage Week is an opportunity for people to be reminded about the importance of marriage, why it matters, and what you can do to strengthen your marriage relationship.

Today’s discussion is part of a 2 part discussion we had before and during marriage week this year - we talked about the importance of investing in your marriage and discussed some tools that we have available to help you on the journey.

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Ii716TRQbuk

Find out more about building together here: https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

The Relationship Lift - "Valuing and Investing in Your Marriage Every Day" - Marriage Week NZ

FamilyLife NZ — Wed, 18 Sep 2024 07:00:00 +1200

Marriage week is an opportunity for us to celebrate the institution of marriage as God designed it for our flourishing and as a space to raise healthy, happy and wholehearted children. It’s also an opportunity for us to look at ways we can be intentional about growing together as a couple and invest in our marriage.

Today’s discussion is part of a 2 part discussion we had before and during marriage week this year - We talked about the importance of investing in your marriage and discussed some tools that we have available to help you on the journey.

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/kRJDj0c6wJ0

Find out more about building together here: https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

The Relationship Lift - Understanding the Heart of a Dad - Fathers Day

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 30 Aug 2024 07:31:07 +1200

Most of us have a dad in our lives. Maybe it’s your biological or spiritual dad, maybe you’re married to a dad, or maybe you’re a friend of a dad.

In today’s discussion, we’re looking at understanding the heart of a dad. What are 3 things to understand and what are three ways we can honour the dads in our life? This conversation will strengthen and encourage you if you’re a dad, or it will give you some insights into honouring the dad in your life.

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/HNlpSJKeFvs

Find out more about building together here: https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

The Relationship Lift - Argumentative to Empathy (Brick 6)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 16 Aug 2024 04:27:45 +1200

Being correct doesn’t mean we connect. Sometimes we can win the fight, yet lose the battle for oneness in our marriage, but there’s a better way than arguing your way to victory.

In today’s conversation, we talk about how to break out of the argumentative cycle by developing empathy and choosing to prioritise understanding above being correct. This is part of the Bricks and Hammer series where we talk about building our relationships with the bricks that will lead to a strong and lasting relationship and putting down those hammers that cause destruction.

Find out more about building together here: https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/fB2uY646Nd0

The Relationship Lift - Entitlement and Discontentment to Gratitude (Brick 5)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 09 Aug 2024 04:34:36 +1200

We will get more of what we focus on in life. Are you focused on what you're discontent about in your marriage or are you focused on the things you are grateful for?

Today’s conversation is part of the Bricks and Hammer series where we talk about building our relationships with the bricks that will lead to a strong and lasting relationship and putting down those hammers that cause destruction. Today we focus on building with gratitude and learning how to be content.

Find out more about building together here: https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/O4iqq0fY5gg

The Relationship Lift - Blame to Responsibility (Brick 4)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 02 Aug 2024 06:19:57 +1200

What would our world look like if instead of making excuses, being defensive or shifting blame for our problems, we actually took full responsibility in every relationship?

In this interview, we talk about our tendencies to blame and be defensive and how we can consider taking 100% responsibility instead. It’s a life-changing principle and it will certainly strengthen your marriage.

Find out more about building together here: https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/aImDGXG3e1A

The Relationship Lift - Anger to Patience (Brick 3)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 26 Jul 2024 07:48:20 +1200

At times, we all experience emotions of anger towards each other in our marriage. Anger in and of itself is not the problem, but how we respond when we’re angry is. Is it possible to learn how to return to joy from anger and apply the virtue of patience instead? We think it is.

Find out more about building together here: https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/aImDGXG3e1A

The Relationship Lift - Let's talk about pride (Brick 2)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 19 Jul 2024 06:25:00 +1200

Let's talk about pride for a moment and how NOT to make your marriage fall apart. Our relationships, just like our homes, need maintenance and some tender loving care. Sometimes we need to repaint, and sometimes a complete renovation is required.

Find out more about building together here: https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/umzNCTYkxUI

The Relationship Lift - Service, the Antidote to Selfishness (Brick 1)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 12 Jul 2024 07:21:00 +1200

Our relationships, just like our homes, need maintenance and some tender loving care. Sometimes we need to repaint, and sometimes a complete renovation is required.

Marriage involves a little bit of compromise and a lot less selfishness, right? Today we discuss building your home through metaphorical bricks - using a brick of service and avoiding the hammer of selfishness.

Find out more about building together here: https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

Watch this on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ioS5za6B2cU

The Relationship Lift - Bricks and Hammers

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 05 Jul 2024 08:00:00 +1200

Our relationships, just like our homes, need maintenance and some tender loving care. Sometimes we need to repaint, and sometimes a complete renovation is required.

Today’s conversation is the start of a new series on bricks and hammers. That’s right we’re talking about the types of bricks that we want to build into our marriage and then the hammers that we sometimes employ to our own detriment. Join us now for part 1 of this new series.

Find out more about building together here: https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

Watch this on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BLjPN_wyoeE

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The Relationship Lift - First Things First

FamilyLife NZ — Tue, 30 Jan 2024 09:23:37 +1300

Today we discuss putting "First Things First" by using this amazing resource to bring your two worlds together and put some structure into your lives. Step back and take control of your marriage, your family, your life! Check out the resource here: https://www.familylife.nz/online-store/marriage/first-things-first/

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For more Digital Marriage Resources: familylife.nz/digital-resources
For Date Night ideas: familylife.nz/datenights
To partner with FamilyLife NZ go to: familylife.nz/donate

The Relationship Lift - Teaching Kids About The Joy Of Jesus - Christmas Series

FamilyLife NZ — Sun, 24 Dec 2023 07:00:00 +1300

Finding it hard to find Joy in this season? Want to know where to find it and how it actually starts? Here’s what we need to know about how to model joy to our kids authentically, learn from the ways in which Jesus was ‘present’ for people, and how by doing some simple things you can light up their world!

The Relationship Lift - Relationships Under Pressure - Christmas Series

FamilyLife NZ — Sat, 23 Dec 2023 07:00:00 +1300

When life gets busy, the pressure tends to build. When we’re stressed we might not be our best selves and this can lead to pressure in our relationships and for underlying issues to become prevailing issues that lead to isolation. If you’re overwhelmed or under pressure right now, there’s HOPE.

The Relationship Lift - Don't Carry The Donkey (Managing Expectations) - Christmas Series

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 22 Dec 2023 07:00:00 +1300

Christmas can be a busy time of year and the idea is for it to be a season of celebration and joy, but it can easily turn into chaos and perhaps even resentment as we manage competing priorities and differing expectations. How do we make sure this upcoming holiday we have peace in our home?

The Relationship Lift - Doing Christmas Together - Christmas Series

FamilyLife NZ — Thu, 21 Dec 2023 11:06:38 +1300

Let's talk passing the pepper pot, thinking less about yourself and rather about how you can be of service to others - especially your spouse and children this festive season. We learn about practising gratitude, extending grace, going slow, giving space, swapping roles and managing conflict.

The Relationship Lift - Holidays and Celebrations (Marriage Mentoring)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 08 Dec 2023 07:00:00 +1300

Celebrating life’s special moments are important. These memories build into the story of who we are as a couple or as a family. When we bring different backgrounds and family traditions with different expectations into our marriage, there’s bound to be competing priorities and we need to create our own traditions that incorporate the best of our backgrounds.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/

The Relationship Lift - Parenting (Marriage Mentoring)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 01 Dec 2023 08:00:00 +1300

Parenting is an opportunity to work together and strengthen our relationship. It’s the fruit of the “new thing” that we have become as a married couple. It’s an opportunity for us to leave a legacy and build the tribe that God has called us to be. We need to work together as a team.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/

The Relationship Lift - Emotional and Physical Intimacy (Marriage Mentoring)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 24 Nov 2023 10:53:30 +1300

The goal of marriage is oneness, and oneness is only achieved through intimacy. Emotional and physical intimacy go hand in hand and it requires trust, vulnerability, and a heart to serve one another’s needs

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/

The Relationship Lift - Fun and Recreation (Marriage Mentoring)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 17 Nov 2023 07:00:00 +1300

All human beings have a need for fun and recreation of some sort. If we are deprived of this or our joy tank is empty, we won’t function like our best selves. If we’re not intentional as a couple or family about what fun and recreation look like, we’ll default to becoming slaves to the easy, destructive “out” that technology offers.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/

The Relationship Lift - Spirituality and Faith in Marriage (Marriage Mentoring)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 10 Nov 2023 12:46:41 +1300

We were created as spirit, soul, and body, and the way we practise our faith in our marriage plays a big part in our union.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/

The Relationship Lift - Household Partnership (Marriage Mentoring)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 03 Nov 2023 10:26:57 +1300

Building a home together requires us to serve one another through the principles of sacrifice, partnership and servanthood.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/

The Relationship Lift - Pace and Priorities (Marriage Mentoring)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 20 Oct 2023 07:00:00 +1300

Our pace and priorities in life can either be healthy for our relationship as a couple and our common goals as a family, or it can be the source of tension and disconnect that causes us to drift apart.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/

The Relationship Lift - Money, marriage, and our journey towards financial intimacy (Marriage Mentoring)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 13 Oct 2023 11:46:23 +1300

Our relationship with money can be a major source of tension in our marriage. Working towards unity in this area of our relationship can lead to great joy, satisfaction and blessing.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/

The Relationship Lift - Rituals and Habits (Marriage Mentoring)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 29 Sep 2023 10:36:46 +1300

Rituals and Habits have the power to make or break a relationship. When was the last time you evaluated your daily, weekly, or monthly rituals as a couple?

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/

The Relationship Lift - Conflict and practising the art of forgiveness (Marriage Mentoring)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 15 Sep 2023 07:00:00 +1200

Conflict exists in all relationships. How you deal with it makes all the difference. Here are a few things that are needed for relationships to thrive when dealing with conflict.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/

The Relationship Lift - Overcoming communication breakdown in marriage (Marriage Mentoring)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 08 Sep 2023 09:01:32 +1200

Overcoming communication breakdown in marriage - one of the most common reasons communication breaks down in marriage and how to solve it...

Guest Episode - Be The Dad with Ferg Turnbull

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 01 Sep 2023 14:06:21 +1200

Wynand interviews Ferg Turnbul, New Zealand author and father of five on his new book Be The Dad. It is a book for men who would never normally read a parenting/relationship/dad life book, full of quick tips to be a great Dad and Husband and enjoy your life while doing it. A perfect gift for those important men and fathers in your life.

Inside are 20 short and easy-to-read chapters packed with helpful tips, drawings and stories to encourage and help you enjoy your Dad life.

The Relationship Lift - Showing Love in Relationships (Marriage Mentoring)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 25 Aug 2023 10:29:20 +1200

Wynand Jacobs from FamilyLife NZ talks with Kat about the complexities of demonstrating love in relationships especially when different personalities come into play.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/

The Relationship Lift - Cultivating Gratitude (Marriage Mentoring)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 18 Aug 2023 09:10:00 +1200

Some helpful advice on how we can cultivate gratitude in our relationships and not take each other for granted.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/

The Relationship Lift - Priority, Permanence, and Passion - The Master Plan (2 of 2)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 11 Aug 2023 07:00:00 +1200

Thriving marriages are built on the foundations of Priority, Permanence, and Passion. To look at the "HOW" of marriage, we need to look at God's design - His Master Plan - for marriage. We're exploring some of the foundational principles that we'll be wise to remember in terms of how to see our marriages thrive.

The Relationship Lift - There is a BIGGER PURPOSE behind marriage - The Master Plan (1 of 2)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 04 Aug 2023 07:00:00 +1200

Master Plan looks at God's design for marriage, highlights that marriage is more significant than we may think, and invites people to adopt God's design for our relationship. But first, why? Let's talk about struggle, focus and purpose.

The Relationship Lift - Marriage Drift - 3 - Learning To Dream Again

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 28 Jul 2023 11:39:32 +1200

Is there hope for those who may have experienced marriage drift? How can you get a new relationship?

The importance of prioritising the relationship (focus): swimming between the flags and dreaming together. Maybe plan a vacation, a weekend getaway for just the 2 of you, or simply have a regular date night.

Wynand chats with Tom and Kat about marriage drift - looking at what marriage drift is, what red flags help us become aware of it and remembering once again how and why the journey started in the first place.

The Relationship Lift - Marriage Drift - 2 - "Remembering how and why the journey started"

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 21 Jul 2023 07:00:00 +1200

What's your mission in marriage? Do you even have one?
How would you identify or perhaps somewhat measure relationship drift in your own marriage?

The Relationship Lift - Marriage Drift - 1 - "Why do couples drift?"

FamilyLife NZ — Thu, 13 Jul 2023 13:52:45 +1200

Is this one of the most common challenges that marriages face? Do all marriages experience drift, or does it mean we're incompatible if we do?

S1E9 (part 2) - FLNZ Podcast - Married with kids - The 3 R’s on the mission of raising the next generation

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 24 Sep 2021 15:52:35 +1200

Receiving, Raising, and Releasing your children

There are two roles in the world that are unique to you. Your role as a husband or wife and your role as a father or mother. In any other role you play, you’ll probably be replaced within months, weeks, or even days after you leave.

Needless to say, your success in these roles is probably the most significant assignment of your life. One of the purposes of marriage is to “be fruitful and multiply”. Kids often result as the fruit of marriage, and kids impact your marriage in a BIG way.

In this episode we discuss our 3-part assignment as parents as it relates to receiving our kids as a gift, raising them with wisdom and love, and releasing them out into the world as capable adults. Listen to Wynand, Nikki, and Steve discuss these ideas in this 2-part episode with a special clip featuring Andy Bray (former director of FamilyLife NZ and late husband of Nikki Bray).

We hope you enjoy the episode!

Resources:
No Perfect Parents - Dave and Anne Wilson

S1E9 (part 1) - FLNZ Podcast - Married with kids - The 3 R’s on the mission of raising the next generation

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 10 Sep 2021 10:47:50 +1200

Receiving, Raising, and Releasing your children

We hope you enjoy the episode!

S1 Bonus Episode - Marriage Mentoring - Neil and Sharol Josephson

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 09 Jul 2021 10:22:39 +1200

You may not have the perfect marriage, but the journey you've been on together as a couple could help someone else not make the same mistakes you've made.

Marriage Mentoring is an initiative by FamilyLife to equip couples who are a season ahead in marriage to come alongside a younger married couple and facilitate some of the conversations that lead to growth. These conversations can be scary to have for a couple because of their differing backgrounds, but when they know that they're not alone it gives them the courage to lean in and ultimately flourish in their relationship.

Neil and Sharol Josephson are the directors of FamilyLife Canada and the champions of our Marriage Mentoring initiative. In today's episode, we interview them to learn more about what marriage mentoring is and what it's not in an attempt to also answer some of the questions you may have if you're wondering: "Is Marriage Mentoring for me?"

Enjoy this episode and for more information go to familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/

S1E8 (part 2) - How to be effective in your role as a husband or wife

FamilyLife NZ — Thu, 01 Jul 2021 10:08:02 +1200

For a sports team to perform at the top of their game it is important that all the players take in their positions. No one player on the team is more important than the other, but everyone has a different role to play. Together they achieve much more than they each could on their own.

In marriage, each of us has a different role to play. Again, one role isn’t more important than the other, but for our marriage to thrive the way God intended it, we need to look at the roles we play as husband or wife. God created us with equal value, but assigned us different roles.

In this episode, we unpack the important value of the “help-meet” as critical support in the battle formation of our marriage as well as the privilege and responsibility of being the captain of the ship. What does supporting with grace look like? What does leading by laying down your life look like?

We believe exploring the roles God gave us to play in this marriage union will help us step into a space of true oneness in marriage and be a team for good.

Resources:
Tender Warrior - Stu Webber

S1E8 (part 1) - How to be effective in your role as a husband or wife

FamilyLife NZ — Wed, 09 Jun 2021 10:39:39 +1200

We believe exploring the roles God gave us to play in this marriage union will help us step into a space of true oneness in marriage and be a team for good.

Resources:
Tender Warrior - Stu Webber

S1 Bonus Episode: Yvonne Godfrey - Effective Parenting (part 2)

FamilyLife NZ — Thu, 22 Apr 2021 08:09:34 +1200

We all know that parenting adds a whole new level of complexity, challenge and demands on our marriage. This second part with Yvonne Godfrey wraps up the strategies and tools we can use to enhance our parenting and make it more effective for better relationships. Yvonne is the founder of the MIOMO programme and passionate about helping young people transition into adulthood. She also works with parents to help them raise responsible adults and in our conversation today she shares a few tips that will help breathe life and healthy family rhythms back into your home.

S1 Bonus Episode: Yvonne Godfrey - Effective Parenting (part 1)

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 02 Apr 2021 07:58:24 +1300

We all know that parenting adds a whole new level of complexity, challenge and demands on our marriage. That is why I’m excited about our guest in the studio today Yvonne Godfrey. Yvonne is the founder of the MIOMO programme and passionate about helping young people transition into adulthood. She also works with parents to help them raise responsible adults and in our conversation today she shares a few tips that will help breathe life and healthy family rhythms back into your home.

S1E7 (part 2) - Sex In Marriage

FamilyLife NZ — Mon, 22 Feb 2021 08:39:34 +1300

Part 2 of the much anticipated two-episode discussion: Sex In Marriage - is here to wrap up the month of romance! This topic can be a major challenge for couples simply because it's not something people feel comfortable talking about, yet the health of your sex life in marriage plays a vital role in the strength of your connection as a couple.

S1E7 (part 1) - Sex In Marriage

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 12 Feb 2021 12:26:02 +1300

The much anticipated episode is here just in time for Valentine's day - Sex In Marriage! This topic can be a major challenge for couples simply because it's not something people feel comfortable talking about, yet the health of your sex life in marriage plays a vital role in the strength of your connection as a couple.

S1E6 - Handling Conflict

FamilyLife NZ — Sun, 01 Nov 2020 20:00:00 +1300

Conflict is common to all marriages. Choosing to deal well with conflict will make all the difference in our relationship. Conflict is an opportunity for us to grow together. In today's show we unpack 2 models of dealing with conflict; GRIPE and GROW

S1E5 - Differences

FamilyLife NZ — Sun, 11 Oct 2020 09:00:00 +1300

Our differences aren't right or wrong, they're just different. In todays show we unpack a new way of looking at differences and how we can work together to thrive in our reltionship

S1E4 - The Master Plan

FamilyLife NZ — Sun, 26 Jul 2020 20:04:07 +1200

Someone once told me: “If a hammer is the only tool in your toolbox, you’ll treat everything like it is a nail.” Now although that saying relates to broadening your skillset and mastering your trade, I think the concept leads to some valuable reflection on invention and purpose.

The purpose of a hammer is to drive a nail into an object, but when I use that hammer on something it wasn’t designed to be used for, I may cause some serious damage. In carpentry, every tool has a purpose and unless we understand the design and purpose of each instrument, we won’t be effective in our craft.

“If purpose is unknown, abuse is inevitable.” Dr. Myles Munroe”

In the same way, each tool in a carpenter’s toolbox has a designed function, there is also a design idea behind marriage. In this podcast with our guest speaker Brad Carr, we explore the topic of God’s design for marriage; the Master Plan.

S1E3 - Let's Talk

FamilyLife NZ — Sun, 05 Jul 2020 11:30:00 +1200

Good communication is a team sport. It requires a communicator with a clear message and an active listener reflecting back on what they’ve heard.

How often do we miss each other in our relationships because we communicate differently? There is hope. In today’s episode, we unpack some practical ideas to sharpen your communication so the two of you can connect well, be heard and understood, and grow together by being better equipped to get on the same page.

Becoming a skilled listener is one of the biggest keys to communicating better in your relationship. We also unpack a few ideas on how to listen deeper. Listen to the words that are not being said, and not only the words that are being said. Learning how to ask clarifying questions can make the world of a difference in this area.

S1E2 - Marriage Myths

FamilyLife New Zealand — Sun, 14 Jun 2020 13:30:00 +1200

“And they both lived happily ever after”… Said no one ever! A more accurate phrase would be along the lines of: “If only I knew…”

Most of us have been exposed to a steady stream of ideas about marriage that doesn’t serve us well. We think: “If I could only find ‘the one’, then my life would be complete”. Instead, many people fall in love, tie the knot, and then over time realise the reality of where they find themselves can be very far removed from what they thought when they said: “I do”.

Don’t get me wrong, marriage is probably one of the best experiences in life worth cultivating. But that’s the key. Great marriages don’t just happen, they are cultivated.

In this episode, we look at some widely held beliefs about marriage that are just plain “wrong” and we suggest a few alternatives that may just turn your life and relationship around altogether.

S1E1 - How Relationships Flourish

FamilyLife NZ — Sun, 24 May 2020 12:00:00 +1200

Relationships are never stagnant, they are always going somewhere. You are either intentionally moving towards oneness or you might be unintentionally drifting towards isolation.

FamilyLife exists because we know when people develop effective relationship skills, their relationships flourish. Learning how to better deal with conflict, express your needs more clearly, or actively listen to your partner are all skills we can grow in order to develop oneness in our relationship.

In this episode, we talk about the idea that relationships can flourish when we develop the skills that help take us there. In the same way, we work out at the gym or consider our diet if we want to get in shape, we can get into the best relational shape of our lives by upskilling in this area.

We hope this conversation will encourage you to take on the challenge of lifelong growth in developing your relationship skills.

Special Edition - Questions and Answers with Steve and Wynand

FamilyLife NZ — Fri, 24 Apr 2020 07:00:00 +1200

This special edition of the FamilyLife New Zealand podcast was recorded as a question and answer session for you to get to know the team a bit better.