Working With Love

If one works from the heart and aligns that with the mind, it enables them to be positive and create real change. It may sound like a dream to be heart-oriented, but Kaivalya developed a strategy to make it a reality. The idea was to create a company in a way like how the universe or nature would – a company aligned to universal laws. Kaivalya and his co-founder then planted the seed of the company, and there is only one answer to their prompt: with love. Naturally, that is challenging, but they did it anyway. So now, how is it connected to the corporate world? Kaivalya quotes Maitreya Dadashreeji saying that a leader is a visionary who sets heart-centric, empowering policies that encourage team spirit, radiate happiness, and channel inner power to success. Applying that to the current corporate setting is, in fact, challenging, but if there is a desire for change, it is achievable. 

Acceptance to Change

When changes happen within an organization, there are only two scenarios: people would either accept or reject it. Therefore, a leader is essential because it is their job to walk the people through the transformation. It is their purpose to guide people from point A to point B. Kaivalya has worked with people to teach this leadership through sessions, seminars, and workshops. Yet, he clarifies that it is not about full control because anyone does not have that. What they teach in their organization is based on the old educational systems of training the logical mind. In other words, have the intuition, train it, and tap into it; go deeper within the self. By showing people what changes are put in place, they are more likely to accept it. 

About Kaivalya Kashyap:

Kaivalya was inspired by his mentor, the social reformer Dadashreeji 2013, and has been passing on his experiences through lectures since then. He will turn your image of how business and work function upside down. After a session with him, your mind will be widened, and your heart will be nourished. You will suddenly think things are possible that seemed incredible before. This will encourage you to take innovative paths with courage and joy that are at the core of your own gifts and those of the company. It will essentially help you to recognize and use your potential and that of your working environment. In this way, you will become excellent and a blessing for many.

Outline of the Episode:

[01:39] What the aim of the International Academy of Transformative Leadership is

[03:06] Application of heart-oriented working to the corporate world

[08:13] How to bring people to accept such level of change

[13:02] Reduced stress and workload

[17:52] Acceptance is the starting point for transformation

[24:45] Freedom from expectations and assumptions

Resources:

Website: https://iatl.co/en/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kaivalya-kashyap/

Connect with Ulrike!

Website: https://ulrikeseminati.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/empowering-female-leaders/

Email: contact@ulrikeseminati.com

The cognitive bias

Even when we think we are recalling facts about an experience our recollection of events is biased by the feelings we were having during the experience. And the reason for this is simple. Our brain cannot remember every single detail of an experience. And therefore filters what data it wants to process. Anything that created a strong emotion, wins the race. And particularly the emotion we were left with at the end of an experience. 

Making yourself memorable

People don't remember you for what you were saying, but for how you made them feel. This is also directly related to becoming more charismatic as one important characteristic of charismatic people is that they are able to trigger emotions. What people ultimately remember is how they were feeling at the end of an event or a presentation. It is definitely worth making the effort of working on having a strong ending. Instead of focusing mostly on the details of your core content, which seems to be important intuitively, do something that seems to be counter-intuitive and focus on the small bits at the beginning to grab their attention right from the start and - even more importantly -  at the end. 

Outline of the Episode:

[01:10] The cognitive bias that influences our memory

[04:53] The one question to ask yourself when you prepare your presentation

[06:10] 3 ways for having a strong start

[09:43] 3 ways for having an even stronger ending 

[14:52] All 6 tools in a nutshell

About Ulrike Seminati:

Ulrike Seminati is a communication coach, author and long-time executive who empowers her clients to lead authentically and with charisma.

Prior to founding her company in 2019, she worked in corporate communications for over 20 years in a variety of industries, steadily climbing the corporate ladder until she became a member of the executive committee of an international pharmaceutical company based in Zurich in 2015. During her career in the corporate world, she has designed award-winning global engagement programs and successfully implemented numerous leadership, change and corporate culture programs.

Today, she combines some of the most effective self-development techniques with her own experience at all levels of hierarchy to give leaders tools to lead with authenticity and arrive in a zone of lasting high performance and happiness. 

Connect with Ulrike!

Website: https://ulrikeseminati.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/empowering-female-leaders/

Email: contact@ulrikeseminati.com

The Inner Narrator

In the thinking process, there is always that voice in the head that criticizes every thought and situation. Some people call it their conscience, but for Valerie, she calls it the “inner narrator.” Valerie calls it a narrator because it is like a voiceover processing everything she does throughout the day. It criticizes every mistake made in the past and worries about the future. The inner narrator creates one’s narrative point of view – how one sees the world. Another factor why Valerie calls it a narrator is because of her work that is all based on storytelling. The inner narrator sets the tone of the story. In a broader sense, the voice in the head can be one’s friend or foe, which sets the mood as to how they feel about themselves. It makes an inner story that impacts external results. Thus it is necessary to work with the inner narrator to better the chances of a successful career.

Narrative Types

Valerie has spoken to many clients and audiences regarding her work about the inner narrator. As a communications strategist, working with these clients has led her to categorize the narrative types. There are ten types in her list, but three of the most common are the inner critic, the ruminating narrator, and the people-pleaser. The inner critic is when a person tends to be critical and harsh on themselves. Valerie says it is present particularly in high-achieving women. Meanwhile, the ruminating narrator is the voice in the head that could not let go of past mistakes or opportunities. This type creates repetitive thoughts which inhibit the person from making a greater future chapter. Finally, the third most common narrative type, the people-pleaser, is when the voice tells the person it is selfish to put themselves over others first. The needs of others must be the priority, and it guilts the person out for taking the time for themselves. Valerie says that a person can have multiple narrative types, and the way to manage and work with them is through identification. Knowing what to deal with means giving a long-term solution.

About Valerie Gordon:

As a career and communications strategist, Valerie works with high-achievers, using stories to build their brand, manage their message, perfect that presentation and advocate for themselves as they ascend the leadership ladder. 

Valerie helps bridge the talent gap by partnering with corporations, encouraging executives to lead with authenticity, and empowering women to take a seat at the table and impact the agenda. Her innovative keynotes and workshops offer audiences the story strategies to speak up and stand out and create a successful next chapter in their career story.

As adjunct faculty at the University of Connecticut School of Business, Valerie teaches career development and job search strategies, helping undergraduates prepare a career “toolkit” and create a professional social media presence. She has also lectured at Columbia University and the University of Hartford.

Outline of the Episode:

[00:44] How Valerie came up with storytelling for career success

[02:33] The inner narrator

[09:22] Tips on how to not let the inner narrator go against the current

[15:55] Valerie’s process of identifying the type of inner narrator talking to her

[17:59] What it means to “recast the role” of the inner narrator

[24:04] Can an inner narrator get fired?

[25:57] Advice on how to identify the narrative type

Resources:

Website: https://commander-in-she.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CommanderInShe

Twitter: https://twitter.com/@CommanderInShe

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/commanderinshe/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/valeriejgordon/

Connect with Ulrike!

Website: https://ulrikeseminati.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/empowering-female-leaders/

Email: contact@ulrikeseminati.com

Good, Difficult, Different

We will be using a simple yet powerful feedback tool that navigates along with three areas: Good, Difficult, and Different. First, you look back at the past year and identify all situations that went well. The situations where you felt charismatic, connected to your audience, and fully confident in what you were doing. Then you identify some of the most difficult situations where you felt weak, disconnected, and not radiating great energy. Once these situations - the good and the difficult ones - have been identified you can further analyze what were the reasons it went well or not so well. Especially looking at the difficult situations is insightful as you will get a pretty complete picture of your limiting beliefs in exactly these kinds of situations. Once you have done the Good and Difficult you can make an informed decision about an action plan on what you want to do Differently in the future.

Designing an action plan for the upcoming year

What will you do differently next year? To shape an action plan build on the findings in Good and Difficult. This is how you can make a conscious decision on the next steps. The findings with the greatest transformational power are related to your limiting beliefs. Learn to let them go when a situation comes up where they will start shouting out loud in your head. The now created deeper understanding of your inner mechanisms will enable you to measure their influence and to make

About Ulrike Seminati:

Ulrike Seminati is a communication coach, author, and long-time executive who empowers her clients to lead authentically and with charisma.

Prior to founding her company in 2019, she worked in corporate communications for over 20 years in a variety of industries, steadily climbing the corporate ladder until she became a member of the executive committee of an international pharmaceutical company based in Zurich in 2015.

During her career in the corporate world, she has designed award-winning global engagement programs and successfully implemented numerous leadership, change and corporate culture programs. In all these years, one thing has struck her time and again, especially from the perspective of her role as communications leader: Companies invest in strategies, infrastructure and also in the training of their employees. 

However, the sustainable benefit of the latter all too often comes to nothing because the individual is unable to implement what they have learned. Mostly for the simple reason that they do not sufficiently reflect on themselves and do not know how to position themselves with confidence. The foundation is missing, so to speak, the fertile soil on which the potential of leaders, employees and thus the company goals can grow and flourish.

Today, she combines some of the most effective self-development techniques with her own experience at all levels of hierarchy to give leaders tools to communicate with charisma, lead with authenticity and arrive in a zone of lasting high performance and happiness. 

Outline of the Episode

[01:38] Good, Difficult, Different: The method

[06:05] Looking back: What went well?

[08:18] Identifying the internal drivers of difficult situations

[11:11] What will you do differently in the upcoming year?

Connect with Ulrike!

Website: https://ulrikeseminati.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/empowering-female-leaders/

Email: contact@ulrikeseminati.com

To be charismatic on the spot - even if you do not feel very charismatic in general - is possible when you apply a specific way of charisma called Focus Charisma. Focus charisma means that you are present in the very moment when you are speaking to a person. And that you put all your energy and focus on this one person.

Being present

One layer of Focus Charisma is being fully present. We perceive other people as charismatic when this person makes us feel really great. This creates a positive emotion as we feel heard and seen. Even though we do not even remember exactly what the other person said, we will remember how they made us feel. To create this positive emotion the charismatic person is fully focusing on us and is living in the presence.

However, most people’s thoughts are mentally wandering around either in their past or in the future. To connect in a charismatic way with others, we need to learn to fully be the present moment. In this episode, you learn to become present via three different exercises one of which you can use to re-focus in discussions with other people within seconds. 

Developing genuine interest

Genuine interest in the person or group you are speaking to is another layer of Focus Charisma.  It's all about how you connect with the other person. This is an energy exchange that is happening mostly on a subconscious level. When we are connecting with someone, our body language plays a crucial role. Our tone of voice and every single micro mimic will be perceived by the other person in 17 milliseconds. Authentic body language is therefore key to showing Focus Charisma and it only happens when what we feel and what we say is congruent.

About Ulrike Seminati:

Ulrike Seminati is a communication coach, author and long-time executive who empowers her clients to lead authentically and with charisma.

Prior to founding her company in 2019, she worked in corporate communications for over 20 years in a variety of industries, steadily climbing the corporate ladder until she became a member of the executive committee of an international pharmaceutical company based in Zurich in 2015.

During her career in the corporate world, she has designed award-winning global engagement programs and successfully implemented numerous leadership, change and corporate culture programs. In all these years, one thing has struck her time and again, especially from the perspective of her role as communications leader: Companies invest in strategies, infrastructure and also in the training of their employees. 

However, the sustainable benefit of the latter all too often comes to nothing because the individual is unable to implement what they have learned. Mostly for the simple reason that they do not sufficiently reflect on themselves and do not know how to position themselves with confidence. The foundation is missing, so to speak, the fertile soil on which the potential of leaders, employees and thus the company goals can grow and flourish.

Today, she combines some of the most effective self-development techniques with her own experience at all levels of hierarchy to give leaders tools to communicate with charisma, lead with authenticity and arrive in a zone of lasting high performance and happiness. 

Outline of the Episode

[01:16] Focus Charisma to have an impact in specific situations

[04:46] 3 tips to connect to be present

[08:18] Body language and mindset to develop connect intensively

[12:16] A little trick to radiate benevolence even if you do not like the other person

Connect with Ulrike!

Website: https://ulrikeseminati.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/empowering-female-leaders/

Email: contact@ulrikeseminati.com

Expectation Management

There are many definitions of the term “expectation,” but Bianca-Maria has a definition of her own. Expectations are nothing else than one’s imagination of a situation or how a person should be, followed by the assumption of what happens. In expectation management, Bianca-Maria says that the first step is to understand what expectations are. She calls this the “killer of happiness” because it ends up in disappointment, sadness, anger, or frustration when expectations are not met. The next step is to understand the direction of the expectation, and it is the most tricky part. There are three directions: expectations towards the self, others, and others’ expectations of oneself. It becomes a burden, so there is a need to verify and question it to clarify the expectation. In theory, it is easy, but in reality, it is not. 

Communicate for Clarity

Expectations are built on fears and the other way around. Because of this, it often results in misunderstandings and conflict when these expectations are not met. It happens in both a typical work environment and in private life. Bianca-Maria stresses the importance of communication. There is no harm in asking a question, yet how to throw one is another critical aspect. The tone would determine the person’s response: will they be defensive or attentive? Bianca-Maria reminds to be careful of how to ask questions and to do it in a non-judgmental tone to guarantee an authentic answer. The goal of communication is to clarify the expectation, not to add more misunderstanding.

About Bianca-Maria Klein:

Bianca-Maria Klein is a coach, speaker, trainer, and a cheerful half-Italian woman from northern Germany who traveled far, looked deep inside and arrived home. Her passion is to accompany people on their change process and experience how they find answers to inner questions that only come to light through conversations.

Bianca-Maria has 20 years of professional experience in the management of international companies. She has DVCT training as a systemic coach, change manager, trainer, and business moderator, and ICF training in solution-oriented short-term coaching.

Outline of the Episode:

[02:14] Clear communication and expectation management for clarity in business

[03:27] Expectations and charisma

[05:02] Where to start with expectation management

[11:08] How expectation management is related to setting goals

[16:55] Expectations build fear, fears build expectation

[18:08] Communicate to dissolve misunderstandings and conflict

[20:28] Ask questions in a non-judgmental tone to get a true and authentic answer

[21:44] How to start learning and understanding oneself to manage expectations

Resources:

Website: https://www.biancamariaklein.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bianca-maria-klein/

Connect with Ulrike!

Website: https://ulrikeseminati.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/empowering-female-leaders/

Email: contact@ulrikeseminati.com

PowerPoint - Your Best Friend?

What do you do when you prepare a presentation? Most people think about what content they want to present and what visual and verbal means they need to use to get it across. 

Most of the time, the focus is on creating a perfect PowerPoint presentation. But have you ever thought about shifting the focus from the content to the Why and even more importantly - the How? How much time are you usually investing in preparing HOW you deliver your presentations? There are hidden treasures buried here that can help you stand out from the crowd and become an inspiring communicator. 

5 Concrete Ways To Do It Differently 

Leveraging the How is first of all about shifting your attitude. Shift the purpose of your presentation from delivering information to connection, engagement and inspiration. As you might realize all three relate to the interaction with your audience rather than the quality of your content. Ulrike shares with you 5 concrete techniques that you can apply straight away to bring your presentations to life. 

About Ulrike Seminati:

Ulrike Seminati is a communication coach, author and long-time executive who empowers her clients to lead authentically and with charisma.

Prior to founding her company in 2019, she worked in corporate communications for over 20 years in a variety of industries, steadily climbing the corporate ladder until she became a member of the executive committee of an international pharmaceutical company based in Zurich in 2015.

During her career in the corporate world, she has designed award-winning global engagement programs and successfully implemented numerous leadership, change and corporate culture programs. In all these years, one thing has struck her time and again, especially from the perspective of her role as communications leader: Companies invest in strategies, infrastructure and also in the training of their employees. 

However, the sustainable benefit of the latter all too often comes to nothing because the individual is unable to implement what they have learned. Mostly for the simple reason that they do not sufficiently reflect on themselves and do not know how to position themselves with confidence. The foundation is missing, so to speak, the fertile soil on which the potential of leaders, employees and thus the company goals can grow and flourish.

Today, she combines some of the most effective self-development techniques with her own experience at all levels of hierarchy to give leaders tools to communicate with charisma, lead with authenticity and arrive in a zone of lasting high performance and happiness. 

Outline of the Episode

[01:20] 3 misconceptions on PowerPoint

[05:57] What to do instead: Leveraging What, Why and How

[09:51] Connecting before you speak

[11:31] The power of sharing a vision

[12:32] Speaking from the heart to engage with your audience

[14:30] Breathing new life into presentations

[15:58] Engaging with your audience by interaction 

Connect with Ulrike!

Website: https://ulrikeseminati.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/empowering-female-leaders/

Email: contact@ulrikeseminati.com

The Hybrid Model

As a way to adapt to the pandemic, the hybrid model was forced upon many organizations. The hybrid model is a setup where teams are operating at multiple locations. The hybrid model often includes members working at the office and home. Since this setup was obligatory out of urgency to not compromise operations, it raised new challenges for organization leaders as they were not given ample time to adjust. Angela says there are several challenges with the hybrid model, but most of it, if not all, are centered around building trust. While the challenges are not far from those being face-to-face, Angela proclaims it is amplified and made important. For example, in the personal setup, striking a balance between autonomy and goal-setting is the challenge. When applied to the hybrid model, it is even more important in an environment where not everyone is in the same location. The best way to adapt to this setup in the long run, according to Angela, is how a leader communicates. This way, they can collaborate with their team efficiently and effectively.

Personal Vs. Virtual

Conducting meetings in the office is far different than video calls. In a face-to-face setup, people are programmed to take in nonverbal cues. That is not present in virtual meetings since people are only looking at their respective screens. It is confusing for one person to know from their screen whether a team member is angry, bored, or maybe checking their emails while the meeting is in progress. The confusion can eventually lead to communication mistakes. When she talks to leaders, Angela’s advice is to reset their minds with how they will proceed with the meeting if it is face-to-face. She stresses out that having confidence that their message is clear and precise leads to better interactions. 

About Angela Scott:

Most of Angela Scott’s career has been spent in leadership roles guiding teams to inspire customers and prospects towards the right applications software solution to fit their business needs. Angela is currently the regional leader of Customer Experience Solution Advisors at Oracle Corporation within the Applications division in EMEA.

Although Angela had held a number of diverse leadership roles, they’ve always had one thing in common; leading teams that are dispersed. She is passionate about culture being the foundation for any high-performing organization and deeply understand the unique challenges facing leaders in highly dispersed and matrixed organizations, particularly for women in male-dominated industries.

Angela is also the founder of The Culture Principle and a thought leader on culture-building and leadership potential. She aims to help other leaders avoid frustrating failures to build effective and sustainable working environments, coaching on how to place employees and peers in the best possible position to succeed, wherever they are located.

Outline of the Episode:

[01:27] The biggest overall challenges for leaders in a hybrid environment

[03:53] Common mistakes leaders commit in their communication style

[07:07] The meeting room versus little faces on a screen

[10:22] The eye contact problem with video meetings

[13:15] Should the way slides are being used be changed?

[16:18] How leaders can maintain team spirit and create an atmosphere of trust

[19:37] Influences of the hybrid environment to an organization’s politics schemes

[21:16] Risk for companies who do not care about helping leaders communicate in the new normal

[23:55] Must leaders have two communication styles in the hybrid environment?

[25:42] How to improve communication style in the relatively complex context of the hybrid model

Resources:

Avoid common pitfalls and download your guide here:  https://thecultureprinciple.com/charisma

Website: https://thecultureprinciple.com/   

LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/angelajscottuk

Twitter: https://twitter.com/thecultureprinc

Connect with Ulrike!

Website: https://ulrikeseminati.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/empowering-female-leaders/ 

Email: contact@ulrikeseminati.com

Nonverbal cues have far more impact than the spoken word. And yet most of the time we prepare and focus exclusively on the spoken words. Tune in to this episode to learn how to switch to a more powerful yet authentic body language

Why Authenticity Is Key

Have you already worked on your body language, have you read books about this topic? Are you already trying to use your hands or your voice in a specific way when you're presenting in front of people? And yet somehow it doesn't have the desired effect!

This is because our brains are trained to distinguish authentic body language from trained body language in milliseconds. If your body language does not emerge from within, you will remain untrustworthy no matter how hard you try. 

The Power Of Non-verbal Cues

If you want to make the best use of non-verbal cues you have to work from the inside out. Instead of artificially disguising your voice, work on your mindset and support this shift with breathing techniques. Instead of training yourself to do certain gestures and postures, learn to instantly generate a strong positive feeling and your body language will change all by itself in your favor. 

Outline of the Episode:

[01:29] The mechanisms of authentic body language

[06:31] Using your voice in an authentic way

[10:02] Body language from within

[12:54] Finding your unique power pose

Resources

Finding your power pose: 
2 options depending on which emotion you want to use as the basis for your power:

Self-Confidence Booster: https://youtu.be/e1l7Ryq10UU

Courage Booster: https://youtu.be/X6NWslkqGAg

Connect with Ulrike!

Website: https://ulrikeseminati.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/empowering-female-leaders/ 

Email: contact@ulrikeseminati.com

Join Ulrike Seminati with her guest, Oscar Santolalla, as they talk about unusual tactics to be an influential leader in tech. Whether you are working in a technology company or not - tune in to this episode if you want to learn more about how to present better inspire others.

Metaphors And Storytelling Are The Method Of Choice

Oscar believes in the power of using metaphors and storytelling instead of building your presentation on facts and data. Many people, especially in the tech world, want to be perceived as experts by using jargon and technical vocabulary. However, this technique has rather the opposite effect as it creates a distance with the audience. Using more tangible elements instead are a way of simplifying the message on the one hand and of landing it with the audience on the other hand. 

Passion & Confidence

Less tangible but all the more crucial ingredients of a convincing presentation are the confidence the speakers have in themselves and the passion they are able to show. Oscar explains how you can build both in a simple way and how you can get away from sticking to the bullets of your PowerPoint presentation. 

About Oscar Santolalla:

Oscar Santolalla is the author of Rock the Tech Stage (Apress, 2020) and Create and Deliver a Killer Product Demo (Apress, 2018). After a decade and a half in the technology arena, he embarked on a mission to help people in technology companies present better, inspire others, and sell more. Since 2014, he is hosting the public speaking podcast Time to Shine, for which he has interviewed more than 150 communication professionals. He works as a sales engineer at Ubisecure, in which he hosts a podcast and leads the company’s product training program. He has also contributed as a speaking coach in three TEDx events. Born and raised in Peru, Oscar lives in Helsinki, Finland.

Outline of the Episode:

[01:53] Replacing facts and data by metaphors 

[09:53] An easy way of storytelling

[13:04] And what about PowerPoint?

[14:04] The key ingredient to convince with your message

[17:27] What if I’m an introvert?

[21:11] Connection versus delivering the “perfect” presentation

Resources:

Websites: https://www.killerproductdemobook.com/ and https://rockthetechstage.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/oscarsantolalla/ 

Connect with Ulrike!

Website: https://ulrikeseminati.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/empowering-female-leaders/ 

Email: contact@ulrikeseminati.com

Surface Level Diversity

Mali believes that Europe is not that diverse. Yes, it has a unique mixture of genders, ages, colors, attitudes, backgrounds, and cultures, so it is said that Europe has diversity. Yet, Mali says that people fail to look inside the company and university setting. In her example, the people behind one successful company are three white males of the same background. Jumping to another venture capital company, and it is still the same three. Mali aims to break this cycle by diversifying venture capitals, but another problem is the difficulty of finding investors and getting accepted in startup programs. As a solution, she puts up a company for women to push them and pitch their ideas. It is her way to achieve real diversity.

Empowering Female Leaders

European women do not have the courage to fundraise their startups. They are too scared to make it ready for their customers, the market, and a pilot test. Mali says it is all traced back to the culture. No one gave European women the idea that they could build big companies. To push women to become leaders, Mali has a 12 skills development program exclusively for women. She found out that communication is the most needed skill, so women have more trust in themselves. The network is capable of opening almost any door when women are very sharp. Communicating in the right way helps them to be their best. 

About Mali M. Baum:

Mali M. Baum is a serial entrepreneur, investor, mentor and community leader, and podcaster.

Mali is a key person in shaping Female Founders Future and opportunities at the Startups Ecosystem in Berlin and Europe. She founded one of the biggest and the significant networks and communities, WLOUNGE.de for startups, VCs and corporates supporting Female founders and diverse teams. Raising a new fund, MAGDA GROUP, with focusing on a diverse team, impact, ESG to invest into the European technology (+TLV), building more success stories/ Unicorns, and uplifting the local tech ecosystem, her global career is bringing many business opportunities to the German/ EU economy from the US, Africa, Asia, and Israel.

Outline of the Episode:

[01:12] Without communication, one cannot do business as it is the key enabler of success 

[01:55] Differences of how people from Europe communicate compared to other countries

[04:25] In what aspects is diversity totally missing in Europe?

[06:57] Lessons from other countries in terms of having the courage to promote and present

[10:27] How WLOUNGE prepares founders on having a strong mindset

[14:36] The tendency of people to extend their network proactively without third party help

[17:26] Evolution towards an understanding that own personality is the most powerful personality

[21:09] What kind of attitude is most needed?

Resources:

Website: https://mali-talkshow.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mali.baum

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mali-m-baum-0353b027/

Connect with Ulrike!

Website: https://ulrikeseminati.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/empowering-female-leaders/

Email: contact@ulrikeseminati.com

Outline of the Episode:

[00:56] The first word that makes all the difference

[04:55] Leveraging the most frequently asked question

[08:39] An efficient tweak to make your elevator pitch stick

[10:59] Best practice tips on how to shape a crisp message

Connect with Ulrike!

Website: https://ulrikeseminati.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/empowering-female-leaders/

Email: contact@ulrikeseminati.com

Women and Credit

It is demotivating to have someone take credit for your hard work, and women are mostly victimized. There is a difference in the way men and women are socialized, as told by Mary. As a result, varying expectations are placed, and different behaviors come out in adulthood. When it comes to sharing views, men are encouraged to be active, competitive, and full-flight. Women, meanwhile, are encouraged to be dim, considerate, and gentle. Because of this, women are much prone to have their credit taken as opposed to men. It all boils down to socialization, and Mary’s strategic approach to turn the situation around is to have a network of allies. Through this network, it encourages you to tell people even the smallest of victories. It is a small step that progresses gradually. 

Humility in the Right Place

Humility is an excellent quality, but there are times when it does not serve you. For example, some people are conflicted between taking credit and staying humble. Humility is not to be used as a lead to get your point across, set boundaries, and address things. It must be understood that it is only one of the tools in the box and is not to be used all the time. Go ahead and take the credit you deserve for the job done. Humility is also giving someone the spotlight for their achievement and not take center stage for them. 

About Mary McGuire:

Mary started her career in social work where she worked with children and adults facing many difficulties and traumas. Later she entered manage­ment consulting, where she found that her deep insights into human behaviour and development brought a fresh new perspective in creating positive change.

After many years working with global companies on their transformation challenges to become more pro­ductive, effective and engaging, she observed that females, particularly in senior roles, were often poorly served by their employers. Helping women to find success in their career has become Mary’s deep passion and she has created several coaching program to help women to find their authentic path to success.

Her second book, The Female Edge: How to accelerate your leadership ambitions and craft a career on your own terms is out now on Amazon.

You can reach her at:
https://findyourjoyfullife.com
www.linkedin.com/in/marymcguire
Twitter: Marytmcguire

Outline of the Episode:

[02:13] When hard work goes unnoticed, or worse, somebody takes the credit

[06:24] The cause that is derived from our belief systems and how to be empowered to speak up

[10:10] An internal conflict of taking credit or staying humble

[13:43] Why take the specific approach of creating a network of allies

[18:01] Address a colleague without a direct connection to you the right way

[23:50] How to maintain and nourish your established network of allies

[27:44] The main ingredients to create a simple yet compelling pitch of what you do

[31:07] The first step to blow your trumpet the right way, according to Mary

[34:03] What to look out for in Mary’s book, “The Female Edge”

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But for some reason, it didn't land. People do not look particularly convinced or excited about what you presented to them. 

If you want to understand what has happened and shine next time with a compelling presentation that blows everyone away this episode is for you. Ulrike will provide you with a simple yet efficient tool that you can use to shape your message in a way that lands. 

The Limbic System In Our Brain

The limbic system is a small part of our brain that sits right in the center of it. Even though our whole brain is involved in our behavioural and emotional responses, the limbic system takes over especially when it comes to behaviours we need for survival: feeding, reproduction and caring for our young, and fight or flight responses.

And it is roughly 500 times older than our neocortex, the frontal part of our brain that is involved in higher functions such as sensory perception, conscious thought, and language. 

We refer to our limbic system it in any given situation where we have to make quick decisions in a pretty instinctive and rapid way. 

Four Drivers Are Steering Our Reactions

When we are evaluating if someone is trustworthy, when we make a quick decision to speak up (or not) in a meeting, or when we are getting nervous we are triggered by one of four main drivers that are sitting in our limbic brain.

Understanding which drivers are the dominant ones for you and which ones are the drivers your audience relates to is tremendously useful when it comes to landing your message. 

Outline of the Episode:

[02:08] Our limbic system plays a key role

[04:23] Four key drivers and how to make use of them

[11:12] Promotion - a tangible example

[14:12] A simple exercise to shape your message

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Communication With an Impact

For Halelly, communication is like the expression of your psychology. She explains that psychology is what goes on inside. So with that, communication is the way in which you can convey what you think to others. She also believes that communication is crucial in every endeavor, whether in personal or professional relationships. It is a stepping stone to success regardless of what profession one chooses. To communicate with an impact, Halelly says that there must be a shared goal. She means that the conveyor and receiver of the message should have the same way of thinking and seeing things. The message should be clear enough that both parties understand.

It’s Not Just About Content

Most people focus on the content of their speech when preparing for a presentation. While this is not wrong, Halelly comments that they forget about nonverbal cues. So, when she trains, one of the things she teaches is making sure that the verbal and nonverbal messages are aligned. The science behind it is that the human brain continually seeks information that tells when there is some potential danger. Social safety is just as important as physical safety. 

So, when there is an incongruence between what is said and how it is said, the brain always assumes the nonverbal part to be true. Halelly gives an example of saying, “I am not angry”, but her facial expression tells that she is angry. For the other person, they believe that Halelly is angry despite her words. From this, the conclusion is drawn that body language is just as critical as the delivered message.

About Halelly Azulay:

Halelly Azulay is an author, speaker, facilitator, and leadership development strategist. She is also an expert in communication skills and emotional intelligence.

In 2006, Halelly founded TalentGrow LLC, a consulting company focused on developing leaders and teams, especially for enterprises experiencing explosive growth or expansion that want a more proactive, strategic approach to leadership development. They specialize in growing leadership capabilities, improving communication skills, building stronger teams, and upgrading emotional intelligence. TalentGrow develops leaders across all organizational levels, including C-level leaders, frontline managers, emerging leaders, and individual contributors.

Halelly is the author of two books, Employee Development on a Shoestring (ATD Press) and Strength to Strength: How Working from Your Strengths Can Help You Lead a More Fulfilling Life. Her books and workshops build on her 20+ years of professional experience in communication and leadership development in corporate, government, nonprofit and academic organizations.

Outline of the Episode:

[02:11] Importance of good communication skills to being a charismatic leader

[07:31] “Communication is about achieving shared meaning.”

[09:01] Pinpoint what needs to be honed as a communicator and address the challenges directly

[11:48] How to work more on the nonverbal cues aside from the message itself

[16:30] What to do beforehand to be authentic when presenting

[21:26] Recommendations for women on how to position themselves towards being interested

[26:47] The first step to change ways of preparation to become a good communicator

Resources:

Get your guide "10 ways to become a more engaging communicator" here: 

https://www.talentgrow.com/charisma

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If you follow the exercises you will discover some fundamental elements and get more clarity about your life. You will find out what guiding value you carry inside of yourself and what most important underlying positive belief gets you there. These are both powerful resources that help you to stand by who you truly are and to increase your level of self-confidence and authenticity - and by this - your level of charisma. 

Your Guiding Value

We all have a specific guiding value inside of us, yet only a few people ever identify it. This guiding value is not to be understood as being just your most important value, like, the value of your values. It is an overarching goal, similar to a higher aim. It is like a guiding principle on how you want to feel and how you want to live your life. Once you are aware of it you can align your activities and make decisions accordingly. 

The Underlying Positive Belief

Awareness of your beliefs is the first step to make a change and a true mindset shift. Once you have identified your positive beliefs you can use them as a concrete and tangible engine to reach your goals. In this episode, you will not only identify this belief you will also use it to get a compelling vision of your best-case scenario, and, last not least, you will understand what is holding you back right now to achieve it.

Outline of the Episode:

[01:38] What is a guiding value

[03:10] Identifying your guiding value

[07:56] Identifying the underlying positive belief

[10:33] Understanding your best case scenario

[12:29] What is holding you back?

If you have questions about this episode and its method do not hesitate to reach out to Ulrike. 

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Do you have a specific goal in mind, something that you want to achieve? And you even know exactly which steps you can take to get there, but for some reason, you are not making these steps? If this sounds familiar to you, this episode is for you!

Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs are omnipresent in our lives. They mostly operate from the background without us realizing what is going on. If you want to build the confidence to speak up for your opinion, to be listened to, and to communicate with charisma it is worth digging deeper into your inner world and finding out how and when your limiting beliefs come into play. 

Limiting beliefs are creating emotions and these emotions are triggering our actions. Everything we do is triggered by a thought. And sometimes these thoughts are limiting beliefs that are holding us back from taking action - despite us knowing what we could do to move on with pursuing our goals. 

Getting Crystal Clear Awareness

Awareness of your beliefs is the first step to make a change and a true mindset shift. Once you have identified them they can no longer operate from the background. To understand what is going on inside of you, you need to find out what limiting beliefs are showing up regularly and in crucial situations of your life.

Outline of the Episode:

[02:12] Why identifying your limiting beliefs makes such a difference

[09:38] Identifying your most prominent limiting belief

[13:07] Using this new awareness to achieve your goals

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Fear of Judgment

No one wants to be judged; it definitely does not feel good to be judged. Hailima says that to present yourself with confidence, you should have enough self-love. It allows you to be yourself and so you will not be so concerned with being judged, criticized, abandoned, or rejected. By being as authentic as you can be, whoever likes it or not, you are happy with who you are at the end of the day. You have to make sure that you are presenting yourself the best way you want to because several people may or may not agree with you. You want to make sure you are true to yourself, let people build relationships with your true self, and let the message resonate with them. Your true self is key to communicate and build trust with your listeners credibly. Moreover, there is a positive side effect of genuinely standing by yourself. 

Self-Transformation

People usually look at self-transformation as a sunny day full of rainbows and roses, but in reality, it is rough. It does not look pretty at all since you have to face things about yourself that you do not want to face. It can be scary to look at it that way. You have a choice: to continue being in your pain and having undesirable and unfavorable experiences or realize that you can create the life you want and make intentional choices to change your life. To do that, you have to recognize your mindset, what you have experienced, and what you’ve learned that made you have the mindset preventing you from being happy. Once you have that awareness, you are able to know what areas to resolve consciously, and you are ready to change your life. 

About Hailima Yates:

Hailima Yates is an Author, CEO/Founder of Luv Mrk, Transformation Speaker, and Mindset Coach. She was born in Wichita, KS, grew up in Denver, CO, and spent another portion of her life traveling, which helped shape her into who she is today. Due to her mental and emotional journey, along with other battles society and the world can throw, Hailima loves dedicating her time to provide sustainable methods that allow us to consciously treat ourselves and others in a loving manner. Hailima has over 20 years of experience participating in and providing various programs that guide us on how to be aware of past circumstances influencing current choices, along with how to manage current adversities. The tools she provides through her programs help us to know how to shift self-defeating, undervaluing, and limiting beliefs to build a healthier mindset and constructive habits to take control of our life and purposely create a happier lifestyle.

Outline of the Episode:

[01:41] Introduction of guest, Hailima Yates

[03:35] Skills to replace a destructive mindset with a new, authentic, and positive internal dialogue

[05:00] Rise above the fear of judgment when expressing opinions

[06:56] How to detach yourself from the idea of having to please other people

[08:40] The value of authenticity and its importance to developing self-confidence

[09:26] Magic steps to move away from negative areas of life

[13:05] What to tell people who do not feel comfortable about themselves

[14:30] Tips and tricks to empower the self and not go back to old habits

[19:50] Acceptance of all the shadow areas of life is part of the personal puzzle

[20:55] What Hailima’s purpose is and how she figured it out

[21:59] How vital gratitude is to everything

[23:13] A message of encouragement to take control of your life

Resources:

Website: https://www.hiyates.com/

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The Value of Values

Values lead you in one direction whenever a decision is to be made. Therefore, defining your values is the only route to authenticity, the key to communicating with charisma. It is crucial to pinpoint personal values as these will materialize specific goals in life that drive, motivate, and inspire you. If personal values are not pointed out, it will result in setting goals that do not correspond to the authentic self, thus going in the wrong direction. Getting clarity about your values ground you in who you are and who you want to be. Moreover, making decisions is an easy feat if values are already identified. People who know their values feel much safer in what they do. They are more courageous when standing up for their opinion and are more consistent with their actions. They establish their trustworthiness in their environment, letting their charisma exude.

Own It

Having values that you truly own is essential to your personal life and your business life. Ulrike gives an anecdote of a leader she worked with. She asks her if she has values, and the leader said yes, then provided three – performance, innovation, and creativity. Ulrike and the leader went into a discussion to dig deeper into where these values were coming from. They found out that her true values were not the three she mentioned earlier. Instead, those values were conditioned and biased by her current work environment. So, what is the point? Why is it not good to have values that fit your current work environment? The answer to that is because decisions made according to wrong values are made in a way that does not do justice to your authentic self. It will make you feel bad about yourself. You will feel guilty about how the decision was implemented. Worst, there will be regret. Therefore, it is important to own your values to be as authentic as you can be.

Outline of the Episode:

[01:10] Personal values are your compass in life that guide your decisions and actions

[04:38] Why values are important in decision-making, and why exercise caution when defining it

[10:42] Three steps to identify your values so you can increase your level of authenticity

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Thoughts to Emotions to Actions

The subconscious controls majority of the brainpower. Not only does it handle bodily functions, but also emotions. Thus, the subconscious is in charge of managing thoughts. Social psychologist Jonathan Haidt used a compelling analogy by comparing the conscious and subconscious mind to a rider and an elephant. The rider is in control when the elephant agrees to the direction they go. But when the elephant goes another way, the rider loses control. What happens is that the thoughts trigger emotions, which then trigger actions. A typical example is when one feels anger or jealousy. It is also applicable when one lacks confidence, which results in becoming paralyzed or speaking with a less assertive voice. 

Brain Paradox

There is one thing the brain does not understand – negation. It does not understand the word “not” at all. So when one thinks of not doing something, it becomes all the more present in mind. For example, when thinking about “not coming in late,” the person comes in late because the “coming in late” part is where the brain focuses. This is a problem-oriented thought. To change this, negation must be turned into a positive affirmative sentence – a resource-oriented thought. Instead of “I do not want to be nervous,” think of “I will be calm and focused.” This way, there is more energy used in thinking positive affirmations than pushing negations aside. 

Outline of the Episode:

[01:25] The feeling of not being good enough that prevents reaching full potential

[03:07] A mindset switch with a direct and immediate influence on self-confidence

[07:42] Negations – the things that the brain do not understand

[10:36] A simple trick to get a hold of thoughts that bother the most

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In this first episode, we will go through the four core elements that you can activate to get this recognition by communicating with impact and charisma. 

This is the recipe that I apply with my clients who want to level up their profiles and become charismatic leaders able to engage and motivate in an inspiring and authentic way. Communicating with impact, however, takes more than acquiring solid communication and presentation skills. It takes charisma –  communication “from the inside out.” 

If you are keen on learning this you've come to the right place! Welcome to “Charisma Hacks”, the show where you get strategies, tools, and mind training to learn to speak from your innermost conviction, to own who you truly are, and to stand in your full power. 

I am Ulrike and I am wholeheartedly dedicated to empowering leaders to connect with their authentic self so that they can sparkle from the inside and lead and communicate with charisma.  

To make all of this as valuable and useful as possible for you, I am highly interested in learning about your questions and challenges about how to become more charismatic. What do you want to know, what is important for you? 

Please drop me a message at contact@ulrikeseminati.com -  or check out my full offer for individual leaders and corporations on my website https://ulrikeseminati.com