Can you see what I see? Transistor (https://transistor.fm) https://feeds.transistor.fm/can-you-see-what-i-see Would you like to live in a kinder, happier world where people are safe, empowered and inspired to choose greater? A world that has a different vocabulary from what is considered "normal" .... and the language is empowering and actually COMMON for us all. We see that world. © 2025 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 49a4ef69-8a15-525f-91fb-f0bede8fe821 no en Fri, 08 Dec 2023 09:23:14 +1000 Wed, 03 Dec 2025 09:01:13 +1000 https://img.transistor.fm/0Y2oqk4jJY7DQSzzbqZUd-YJvYXS0R_qUUwXqG3v_Tk/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:1400/h:1400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzIyNTYwLzE2MjU2/Mzc2ODgtYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.jpg Can you see what I see? episodic Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Would you like to live in a kinder, happier world where people are safe, empowered and inspired to choose greater? A world that has a different vocabulary from what is considered "normal" .... and the language is empowering and actually COMMON for us all. We see that world. Would you like to live in a kinder, happier world where people are safe, empowered and inspired to choose greater. trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, Grace Hart & Vicki Scott No Yes What is a TRUE apology? 19 19 What is a TRUE apology? full eed50648-e0bf-4ded-9202-705396fcf89b https://share.transistor.fm/s/3721583c There is no one size fits all for most situations...... but really getting the ENERGY of "Sorry"  is very empowering - and creative!  Coming from a place of vulnerability in our hearts when we say sorry, is actually putting us in a place of "the birthplace of creativity and change" (to quote Dr Brene Brown!)


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]]> There is no one size fits all for most situations...... but really getting the ENERGY of "Sorry"  is very empowering - and creative!  Coming from a place of vulnerability in our hearts when we say sorry, is actually putting us in a place of "the birthplace of creativity and change" (to quote Dr Brene Brown!)


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]]> Mon, 20 Jun 2022 12:01:34 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 2046 Have you ever noticed how often we say sorry? And how often we have received, or given, an apology - but something about it feels conditional, defensive, justifying, or even just wonky??? Have you ever noticed how often we say sorry? And how often we have received, or given, an apology - but something about it feels conditional, defensive, justifying, or even just wonky??? trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, Yes Is it our need, or are we being needy? 18 18 Is it our need, or are we being needy? full ed3d45b0-99db-4390-8003-056f72346cbc https://share.transistor.fm/s/b50eb1ed
  • What does it mean to be needy?  Anxiety and constant worrying can leave us feeling needy and insecure.
  • What are some of the signs of being needy?
  • Are we confident that we can find the words to express our own needs?  And then to make sure we have boundaries around them.
  • How can we stop being insecure and build self-esteem?

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    ]]>
  • What does it mean to be needy?  Anxiety and constant worrying can leave us feeling needy and insecure.
  • What are some of the signs of being needy?
  • Are we confident that we can find the words to express our own needs?  And then to make sure we have boundaries around them.
  • How can we stop being insecure and build self-esteem?

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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 12:01:20 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 2349 Grace and Vicki talk about the difference between asking from a place of us knowing we have a need, or asking from a place of being needy. Grace and Vicki talk about the difference between asking from a place of us knowing we have a need, or asking from a place of being needy. trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, Yes     My Life - My Project 17 17 My Life - My Project full 527c774e-23d7-4003-a2d4-30860c656104 https://share.transistor.fm/s/476441dd
  • We cannot do it in isolation - we have a basic need of interdependence, and that involves Respect and Trust.
  • There are many "smaller projects" within our Project Life - but each of them have things in common:
    • being clear on what our vision is, what it will look and feel like when we have achieved it, and understanding WHY IT IS IMPORTANT TO US???
    • take time to plan and prepare - being clear on what our goals, actions and milestones are going to be, who can empower or assist us, what might be some of the things that might stop me, and how can I overcome them?
    • taking action - checking in, am I taking the daily actions I need to stay on track and achieve my goal, am I achieving my milestones, what challenges and breakthroughs am I having, do I need to look at any of my "beliefs" to see if they are still serving me?  Why is achieving my vision important to me?
    • take time to celebrate ourself for achieving our goals and vision;  and others who empowered us to achieve them;  what worked well and what didn't work as well as I would have liked;  what am I going to do with the results I produced, and what do I want now?



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    ]]>
  • We cannot do it in isolation - we have a basic need of interdependence, and that involves Respect and Trust.
  • There are many "smaller projects" within our Project Life - but each of them have things in common:
    • being clear on what our vision is, what it will look and feel like when we have achieved it, and understanding WHY IT IS IMPORTANT TO US???
    • take time to plan and prepare - being clear on what our goals, actions and milestones are going to be, who can empower or assist us, what might be some of the things that might stop me, and how can I overcome them?
    • taking action - checking in, am I taking the daily actions I need to stay on track and achieve my goal, am I achieving my milestones, what challenges and breakthroughs am I having, do I need to look at any of my "beliefs" to see if they are still serving me?  Why is achieving my vision important to me?
    • take time to celebrate ourself for achieving our goals and vision;  and others who empowered us to achieve them;  what worked well and what didn't work as well as I would have liked;  what am I going to do with the results I produced, and what do I want now?



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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 12:00:53 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 3070 Our life is probably the biggest project we will ever have - it has a beginning and it has an end - and when we get to "the end", would our vision for "our project" be that we had consciously used all the gifts that our Soul came into existence to express. We all have our own gift, and what if sharing that gift is our purpose in life? Our life is probably the biggest project we will ever have - it has a beginning and it has an end - and when we get to "the end", would our vision for "our project" be that we had consciously used all the gifts that our Soul came into existence to express trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, No     What do YOU know? 16 16 What do YOU know? full 50f601f3-598b-47ff-8e3c-5cb2dd79d2ac https://share.transistor.fm/s/a1d1c5f0
  • How many times have you thought "I knew that didn't feel right when I did/said it!"
  • What if we are all here for our own unique journeys, and they are not meant to look and sound and feel like someone else's?
  • Does it feel "light" for you to pursue SUCCESS as we are currently encouraged to see it...... the pursuit of money, position, status, power, possessions, holidays, cars, caravans, boats....????
  • "You are not your mother, your father, your history, or your cultural influences.  You are uniquely and originally You.  Be bold and daring and fearless and unconventional.  Be willing to use your voice in service to our Soul.  Go on.  Rock that damn boat.  The wave you create might just change the world!"


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  • How many times have you thought "I knew that didn't feel right when I did/said it!"
  • What if we are all here for our own unique journeys, and they are not meant to look and sound and feel like someone else's?
  • Does it feel "light" for you to pursue SUCCESS as we are currently encouraged to see it...... the pursuit of money, position, status, power, possessions, holidays, cars, caravans, boats....????
  • "You are not your mother, your father, your history, or your cultural influences.  You are uniquely and originally You.  Be bold and daring and fearless and unconventional.  Be willing to use your voice in service to our Soul.  Go on.  Rock that damn boat.  The wave you create might just change the world!"


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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 12:00:39 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 1945 We all have that innate wisdom, but over time we have allowed society and its beliefs to cause us to trust it less and less over time. This usually results in us approaching every decision/choice on the logic of it, rather than trusting that inner knowing that we know something feels light, and something feels not-so-light - or even heavy! In this episode, Grace asks Vicki what she knows........ We all have that innate wisdom, but over time we have allowed society and its beliefs to cause us to trust it less and less over time. This usually results in us approaching every decision/choice on the logic of it, rather than trusting that inner knowin trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, Yes     Possibilities of 2022 15 15 Possibilities of 2022 full a0335088-82fa-4423-b3b6-d57a9454aac0 https://share.transistor.fm/s/140a8fd6
  • our different "personality" parts have a knack of showing up when we are under pressure, they all want to get into the driver's seat of our lives.  Christmas can be a time for all of them to show up together :( 
  • it is our thoughts, feelings and emotions that can indicate to us we are operating from a "personality" part.
  • what if we aren't our "personality" parts, but a beautiful BEING that only knows peace and harmony and possibilities?
  • and what about that "inner critic" that also shows up - it is different from a "personality" part.
  • how stifling is judgment????  and how can "making a routine" actually cause us to feel like a failure...... WHAT ELSE IS POSSIBLE?


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  • our different "personality" parts have a knack of showing up when we are under pressure, they all want to get into the driver's seat of our lives.  Christmas can be a time for all of them to show up together :( 
  • it is our thoughts, feelings and emotions that can indicate to us we are operating from a "personality" part.
  • what if we aren't our "personality" parts, but a beautiful BEING that only knows peace and harmony and possibilities?
  • and what about that "inner critic" that also shows up - it is different from a "personality" part.
  • how stifling is judgment????  and how can "making a routine" actually cause us to feel like a failure...... WHAT ELSE IS POSSIBLE?


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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 12:00:26 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 2041 What else is possible for the new year? Grace and Vicki talk about being conscious of what we create, and how that influences our future....... what are the things that show up for us that don't work for us? This chat is about clearing the slate in order to leave an empty canvas for us to create our own masterpiece. Happy New Year to all! What else is possible for the new year? Grace and Vicki talk about being conscious of what we create, and how that influences our future....... what are the things that show up for us that don't work for us? This chat is about clearing the slate in ord trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, Yes     Abundance 14 14 Abundance full 7fc8beff-933e-490d-8302-820db95fee1e https://share.transistor.fm/s/c74fc3d3
  • The opposite of abundance is scarcity.......  how do you feel when you come from the energy of "scarcity", and how would you be thinking mentally when you come from the energy of "abundance".
  • Beliefs can influence whether we look at life through the eyes of Abundance vs Scarcity.
  • Some ways to create an abundance mindset:     recognise the power of your thoughts;  practice gratitude, surround yourself with people who have an abundance mentality.......

    • "No Bad Parts" by Richard C. Schwartz, PhD.

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  • The opposite of abundance is scarcity.......  how do you feel when you come from the energy of "scarcity", and how would you be thinking mentally when you come from the energy of "abundance".
  • Beliefs can influence whether we look at life through the eyes of Abundance vs Scarcity.
  • Some ways to create an abundance mindset:     recognise the power of your thoughts;  practice gratitude, surround yourself with people who have an abundance mentality.......

    • "No Bad Parts" by Richard C. Schwartz, PhD.

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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 12:00:01 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 1887 "Money is a thing, a medium of exchange. Abundance is an attitude and a bountiful feeling. It refers more to an inner state than to worldly achievement." ....... what do you see? "Money is a thing, a medium of exchange. Abundance is an attitude and a bountiful feeling. It refers more to an inner state than to worldly achievement." ....... what do you see? trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, Yes     I Gotta Tell Ya: You Got This Kid 13 13 I Gotta Tell Ya: You Got This Kid full 85c64154-f455-4f92-9c2f-92bffed5f90e https://share.transistor.fm/s/bc109e3f Availability of Beck's book:
    https://www.amazon.com.au/Gotta-Tell-Ya-You-This-ebook/dp/B08CMZRR63
    https://www.ebay.com/p/8039276145

    Peter Levine
    https://traumahealing.org/ 

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    ]]>     Availability of Beck's book:
    https://www.amazon.com.au/Gotta-Tell-Ya-You-This-ebook/dp/B08CMZRR63
    https://www.ebay.com/p/8039276145

    Peter Levine
    https://traumahealing.org/ 

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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 11:59:32 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 2605 Grace and Vicki want to see what others can see what they can't see...... so they decided how better to find that out than to ask a few people...... the person this week is Rebecca Zadegan, the author of "I Gotta Tell Ya: You Got This Kid". We hope you enjoy Beck's humility and authenticity, and her courage in sharing her story. How many of us are afraid to look deep within ourselves? .... whether it is for fear of being judged by others, for the pressure we put on ourselves for not being as perfect as we think we "should" be....... and as a result, we put off even starting a journey of "what else is possible?" Grace and Vicki want to see what others can see what they can't see...... so they decided how better to find that out than to ask a few people...... the person this week is Rebecca Zadegan, the author of "I Gotta Tell Ya: You Got This Kid". We hope you trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, Yes     Is Social Conditioning Running Our Lives? 12 12 Is Social Conditioning Running Our Lives? full 69ebf146-3890-4541-bd2e-6dee1c2b480a https://share.transistor.fm/s/a5975bdc
  • There are many advantages of social learning - we all use it naturally every day, consciously and unconsciously.  But sometimes it can be used in ways that is not in the best interests of us or others.  
  • "Social condition" has been defined as characteristics of both social and physical environments at the individual, household, and community levels that are potentially modifiable - so that includes homes, schools, workplaces, and neighborhoods that could be shaped by policies (at least in theory, but as we know, without political will it isn't going to happen).
  • Media and marketing industry is probably responsible for one of the most common (and pervasive) examples of social learning situations are television commercials...... and probably now social media.
  • But this is how Hitler and Goebbels, who was appointed Hitler's Minister for Public Enlightenment and Propaganda, were so effective in exploiting the German people's discontent after World War I..... Goebbels had complete jurisdiction over the content of German newspapers, magazines, books, music, films etc - his mission was to censor all opposition to Hitler and present the Nazi Party in the most positive light.... at the same time stirring up hatred for Jewish people.  We all know how that ended!
  • Is it time to think about how we form our own opinions these days?  Are we influenced by media and marketing?  Are we making others wrong because we think they are responsible for us not feeling so good?
  • Time to trust our own Awareness.....


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    ]]>
  • There are many advantages of social learning - we all use it naturally every day, consciously and unconsciously.  But sometimes it can be used in ways that is not in the best interests of us or others.  
  • "Social condition" has been defined as characteristics of both social and physical environments at the individual, household, and community levels that are potentially modifiable - so that includes homes, schools, workplaces, and neighborhoods that could be shaped by policies (at least in theory, but as we know, without political will it isn't going to happen).
  • Media and marketing industry is probably responsible for one of the most common (and pervasive) examples of social learning situations are television commercials...... and probably now social media.
  • But this is how Hitler and Goebbels, who was appointed Hitler's Minister for Public Enlightenment and Propaganda, were so effective in exploiting the German people's discontent after World War I..... Goebbels had complete jurisdiction over the content of German newspapers, magazines, books, music, films etc - his mission was to censor all opposition to Hitler and present the Nazi Party in the most positive light.... at the same time stirring up hatred for Jewish people.  We all know how that ended!
  • Is it time to think about how we form our own opinions these days?  Are we influenced by media and marketing?  Are we making others wrong because we think they are responsible for us not feeling so good?
  • Time to trust our own Awareness.....


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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 11:59:02 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 2426 "Social Conditioning" has been happening since time began..... that is how wisdom was passed down through the ages by observing, modelling and imitating the behaviours of others....... It probably only was named as "social conditioning" over the last century when academia looked at what was happening in the world.... But how is it now impacting OUR daily lives? "Social Conditioning" has been happening since time began..... that is how wisdom was passed down through the ages by observing, modelling and imitating the behaviours of others....... It probably only was named as "social conditioning" over the last cen trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, Yes     Our Addiction to Judgment 11 11 Our Addiction to Judgment full 684e6c77-6732-425d-b6ad-0b79a56de4b0 https://share.transistor.fm/s/27aa42c4
  • Youtube Dr Gabor Mate "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts"   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=07nOScAHnXI
  • Youtube CPTSD Procrastination by Crappy Childhood Fairy  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ykZiTugimFU 
  • Book by Dr Gabor Mate:  When the Body Says No


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  • Youtube Dr Gabor Mate "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts"   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=07nOScAHnXI
  • Youtube CPTSD Procrastination by Crappy Childhood Fairy  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ykZiTugimFU 
  • Book by Dr Gabor Mate:  When the Body Says No


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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 11:58:38 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 2141 When we become aware of how often we judge ourselves and others, we will see that we are actually causing stress to OUR body! And what if we could just be in Awareness of what is happening around us, and not in judgment about it???? When we become aware of how often we judge ourselves and others, we will see that we are actually causing stress to OUR body! And what if we could just be in Awareness of what is happening around us, and not in judgment about it???? trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, No     How Awareness helps us live our Purpose 10 10 How Awareness helps us live our Purpose full 2f1929ef-08bf-44de-816e-6715e3f69e37 https://share.transistor.fm/s/9959a564
  • Dr Deepak Chopra on how to be more present, and not be overwhelmed with life...... Deepak is interviewed by Jay Shetty who has a Podcast "On Purpose"     https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NJoeh6itLUA 
  • Simon Sinek has very reasonable programs about "finding your Why".....      www.simonsinek.com 
  • The Good Life:  What Makes a Life Worth Living? (Hugh Mackay)
  • Take Charge of Your Life:  how to get what you need with Choice Theory Psychology (William Glasser, MD)


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  • Dr Deepak Chopra on how to be more present, and not be overwhelmed with life...... Deepak is interviewed by Jay Shetty who has a Podcast "On Purpose"     https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NJoeh6itLUA 
  • Simon Sinek has very reasonable programs about "finding your Why".....      www.simonsinek.com 
  • The Good Life:  What Makes a Life Worth Living? (Hugh Mackay)
  • Take Charge of Your Life:  how to get what you need with Choice Theory Psychology (William Glasser, MD)


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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 11:58:21 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 1517 Ever asked yourself "what's my purpose?" or "why am I here?" Many of us get stuck on looking for the Holy Grail, or my ONE thing..... and what if it is in the meandering of life, and being conscious during that meandering, that we have an untethered awareness about what feels light for US.... and we follow THAT Energy....... what if??? Ever asked yourself "what's my purpose?" or "why am I here?" Many of us get stuck on looking for the Holy Grail, or my ONE thing..... and what if it is in the meandering of life, and being conscious during that meandering, that we have an untethered a purpose awareness trauma social anxiety Yes     Values - what are they really? 9 9 Values - what are they really? full 981b63dc-3ee7-4793-8995-dd1c84a2d749 https://share.transistor.fm/s/e5b391bc Is it a value, or is it a belief?  Sometimes they are intertwined/confused.
    What if we just needed to work on our Awareness which would make us making conscious choices in every moment about what would create greater for us and others?

    • The Good Life:  What Makes a life worth living (Hugh Mackay)
    • Take Charge of Your Life:  how to get what you need with Choice Theory Psychology (William Glasser, MD)
    • Dr Lynette Maguire  www.nowgeneration.com.au 


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    ]]>     Is it a value, or is it a belief?  Sometimes they are intertwined/confused.
    What if we just needed to work on our Awareness which would make us making conscious choices in every moment about what would create greater for us and others?

    • The Good Life:  What Makes a life worth living (Hugh Mackay)
    • Take Charge of Your Life:  how to get what you need with Choice Theory Psychology (William Glasser, MD)
    • Dr Lynette Maguire  www.nowgeneration.com.au 


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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 11:57:55 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 2350 Values have been around forever - though for a long time there was no language to articulate it. However, as language became necessary to make ourselves understood, words were found to describe things...... and we placed a good or a bad label on something.... Over the last 4 generations, core values have changed from family/community (we) to individuality (me). Is it time to be more conscious of what we are labelling as good and bad, and to ask "how is it working for us?" Values have been around forever - though for a long time there was no language to articulate it. However, as language became necessary to make ourselves understood, words were found to describe things...... and we placed a good or a bad label on somethin trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, Yes     It's Time for a Different Conversation About Trauma 1 1 It's Time for a Different Conversation About Trauma full 23ef5701-5ca9-44c9-9836-bcb8dfcbadda https://share.transistor.fm/s/689a0023
  • What Happened to You?  Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing (Dr Bruce D Perry and Oprah Winfrey)
  • When The Body Says No:  The Cost of Hidden Stress (Dr Gabor Mate)
  • The Divided Mind:  The Epidemic of Mindbody Disorders (Dr John E Sarno)
  • The Mind-Gut Connection:  How the Hidden Conversation Within Our Bodies Impacts Our Mood, Our Choices, and Our Overall Health (Dr Emeran Mayer
  • I Thought It Was Just Me (But It isn't) (Dr Brene Brown)

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    ]]>
  • What Happened to You?  Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing (Dr Bruce D Perry and Oprah Winfrey)
  • When The Body Says No:  The Cost of Hidden Stress (Dr Gabor Mate)
  • The Divided Mind:  The Epidemic of Mindbody Disorders (Dr John E Sarno)
  • The Mind-Gut Connection:  How the Hidden Conversation Within Our Bodies Impacts Our Mood, Our Choices, and Our Overall Health (Dr Emeran Mayer
  • I Thought It Was Just Me (But It isn't) (Dr Brene Brown)

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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 11:57:32 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 1587 Having a new conversation around trauma: - survival brain and how it continues to impact us, even when there hasn't been what society calls "significant trauma" - We talk about the survival brain and how we go into fight, flight, freeze or fawn - How fawning is about people-pleasing, which most of us will do in our personal and professional lives - How we operate from our dissociated parts, without even realising we are doing it Having a new conversation around trauma: - survival brain and how it continues to impact us, even when there hasn't been what society calls "significant trauma" - We talk about the survival brain and how we go into fight, flight, freeze or fawn - Ho trauma, domestic violence, Oprah, Dr Bruce Perry, vulnerability, people pleasing, safety security support No     Is Kindness Always a Virtue? 2 2 Is Kindness Always a Virtue? full ba49169d-7b72-4f10-99fd-2bda70b5e20e https://share.transistor.fm/s/63787bbd True Kindness is being in a space of no judgment, offering assistance ONLY when it is requested or agreed, and delivered in a way that it can be received, rather than telling the other person your point of view.  Bastardised kindness is when there are hidden agendas, an intent to control, there is an ulterior motive, and particularly when it leaves the other person with a twisted feeling in their gut.  Gas lighting happens in everyday life, in the workplace, not just in a DV relationship.... when it causes us to question our own reality - what we know to be true.  It happens when when we are being one of "petals", not coming from the "centre of the flower".
    The Divided Mind:  The Epidemic of Mindbody Disorders (Dr John Sarno)
    What Happened To You?  Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing (Dr Bruce D Perry and Oprah Winfrey)
    When The Body Says No:  The Cost of Hidden Stress (Dr Gabor Mate)

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    ]]>     True Kindness is being in a space of no judgment, offering assistance ONLY when it is requested or agreed, and delivered in a way that it can be received, rather than telling the other person your point of view.  Bastardised kindness is when there are hidden agendas, an intent to control, there is an ulterior motive, and particularly when it leaves the other person with a twisted feeling in their gut.  Gas lighting happens in everyday life, in the workplace, not just in a DV relationship.... when it causes us to question our own reality - what we know to be true.  It happens when when we are being one of "petals", not coming from the "centre of the flower".
    The Divided Mind:  The Epidemic of Mindbody Disorders (Dr John Sarno)
    What Happened To You?  Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing (Dr Bruce D Perry and Oprah Winfrey)
    When The Body Says No:  The Cost of Hidden Stress (Dr Gabor Mate)

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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 11:57:12 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 2076 We have been conditioned to believe that "kindness" is what society expects of us, or else we are not a good person. What if that conditioning opens us up to potential abuse? What is TRUE kindness? We have been conditioned to believe that "kindness" is what society expects of us, or else we are not a good person. What if that conditioning opens us up to potential abuse? What is TRUE kindness? Oprah, mental health, relationships, trauma, abuse, kindness, dissociated parts No     Grandparents Raising Grandchildren 3 3 Grandparents Raising Grandchildren full a2ee015e-fa14-4be7-9a36-02d8d288c0a3 https://share.transistor.fm/s/c60c4255
  • If grandparents take this responsibility on from a place of conscious choice, there is a "cleanness" around it...... and this usually comes from an awareness that it really does take a village to raise a child.
  • But if the choice is from a place of necessity.... "I have to do this, there is noone else"...... it is a form of martyrdom, and it limits other  possibilities.
  • By getting into the centre of "your flower" (episode 1), and asking the question "would it generate and create greater for me to do this?" could have a very different impact on both the grandparent and the grandchild.
  • When The Body Says No:  The Cost of Hidden Stress (Dr Gabor Mate)
  • The Mind-Gut Connection:  How the hidden conversation within our bodies impacts our mood, our choices, and our overall health (Dr Emeran Mayer)
  • What Happened To You?  Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing (Dr Bruce D Perry and Oprah Winfrey)

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  • If grandparents take this responsibility on from a place of conscious choice, there is a "cleanness" around it...... and this usually comes from an awareness that it really does take a village to raise a child.
  • But if the choice is from a place of necessity.... "I have to do this, there is noone else"...... it is a form of martyrdom, and it limits other  possibilities.
  • By getting into the centre of "your flower" (episode 1), and asking the question "would it generate and create greater for me to do this?" could have a very different impact on both the grandparent and the grandchild.
  • When The Body Says No:  The Cost of Hidden Stress (Dr Gabor Mate)
  • The Mind-Gut Connection:  How the hidden conversation within our bodies impacts our mood, our choices, and our overall health (Dr Emeran Mayer)
  • What Happened To You?  Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing (Dr Bruce D Perry and Oprah Winfrey)

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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 11:56:57 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 1532 More than 22,000 families in Australia are made up of grandparents actually raising their grandchildren fulltime, usually as a result of a family crisis of some kind. Some of this is done from a place of necessity as there is no-one else, or it is expected of them. The way we are when we make a choice to do this, can make the difference between creating greater for the grandparent and grandchild. More than 22,000 families in Australia are made up of grandparents actually raising their grandchildren fulltime, usually as a result of a family crisis of some kind. Some of this is done from a place of necessity as there is no-one else, or it is expec trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, Yes     The Magic That We Hide From Ourselves 4 4 The Magic That We Hide From Ourselves full 19880a2c-9df9-473b-86fe-41f75af4db8a https://share.transistor.fm/s/5d0daba0 It has been encouraged and accepted as "natural" over lifetimes that we human beings are in competition with each other, or are being compared with others to make a judgment as to whether we are "successful" or "worthy".   We have all been indoctrinated to some extent by our parents, school, media, society, workplaces etc.   
    This has set up a polarity of good/bad and right/wrong...... which makes someone right and someone wrong.  As a result, separation occurs - within ourself, in relationships, workplaces, in all aspects of life.  It stops us from being ALL of the magic that we are.  And we can make a choice in every moment to be that.
    Trauma in childhood can cause us to not feel safe, secure and supported, so we are unable to have the tough conversations that are so important in creating meaningful relationships.......  Dr Gabor Mate believes that all human beings have experienced trauma to some degree.
    A base need we have as human beings, is connection - and we all need it to thrive.
    So how do we connect from a place where we feel safe, secure and supported to be the magic we are?


    Song:  I Am Light by India.Arie
    In An Unspoken Voice (Peter A Levine)
    Complex PTSD:  From Surviving to Thriving (Pete Walker)
    What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing (Dr Bruce D Perry and Oprah Winfrey)
    TraumaTrails:  Recreating Song Lines  (Judy Atkinson)
    The Mind-Gut Connection:  How the Hiddenj Conversation Within Our Bodies Impacts Our Mood, Our Choices, and Our Overall Health (Dr Emeran Mayer)
    Dare To Lead:  brave work, tough conversations, whole hearts (Brene Brown)

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    ]]>     It has been encouraged and accepted as "natural" over lifetimes that we human beings are in competition with each other, or are being compared with others to make a judgment as to whether we are "successful" or "worthy".   We have all been indoctrinated to some extent by our parents, school, media, society, workplaces etc.   
    This has set up a polarity of good/bad and right/wrong...... which makes someone right and someone wrong.  As a result, separation occurs - within ourself, in relationships, workplaces, in all aspects of life.  It stops us from being ALL of the magic that we are.  And we can make a choice in every moment to be that.
    Trauma in childhood can cause us to not feel safe, secure and supported, so we are unable to have the tough conversations that are so important in creating meaningful relationships.......  Dr Gabor Mate believes that all human beings have experienced trauma to some degree.
    A base need we have as human beings, is connection - and we all need it to thrive.
    So how do we connect from a place where we feel safe, secure and supported to be the magic we are?


    Song:  I Am Light by India.Arie
    In An Unspoken Voice (Peter A Levine)
    Complex PTSD:  From Surviving to Thriving (Pete Walker)
    What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing (Dr Bruce D Perry and Oprah Winfrey)
    TraumaTrails:  Recreating Song Lines  (Judy Atkinson)
    The Mind-Gut Connection:  How the Hiddenj Conversation Within Our Bodies Impacts Our Mood, Our Choices, and Our Overall Health (Dr Emeran Mayer)
    Dare To Lead:  brave work, tough conversations, whole hearts (Brene Brown)

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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 11:56:36 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 1928 We rarely acknowledge ourselves and our unique gifts and talents. It seems that for generations, we have been playing small, wanting to fit in rather than stand out. This has lead to a world where we are not allowing ourselves to be the magic that we all are. This can be as a result of indoctrination, or from trauma caused in childhood that continues to impact our decisions into adulthood. We rarely acknowledge ourselves and our unique gifts and talents. It seems that for generations, we have been playing small, wanting to fit in rather than stand out. This has lead to a world where we are not allowing ourselves to be the magic that we al trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, Yes     Why We Separate - From Ourselves And From Each Other 5 5 Why We Separate - From Ourselves And From Each Other full a55c4076-e6ab-4345-b34c-535d8cbc314c https://share.transistor.fm/s/3cbd3100
  • "Trauma is about loss of connection - to ourselves, to our bodies, to our families, to others, and to the world around us.  This loss of connection is often hard to recognise, because it doesn't happen all at once.  It can happen slowly, over time, and we adapt to these subtle changes sometimes without even noticing them."  (Peter Levine)
  • We see that loss of connection as a separation from ourselves.
  • Our choices become limited as we avoid certain feelings, people, situations and places.  The result of this gradual constriction of freedom is the loss of vitality and potential for the fulfilment of our dreams....... it stops us from being the Magic of Us (episode 4).
  • While it is true that all traumatic events are stressful, all stressful events are not traumatic.
  • Dr Gabor Mate believes trauma is not what happened to you, but what happened in your body as a result of what happened.   Peter Levine agrees with this assessment ...... he says the body is the container of all of our sensations and feelings.  It is also the boundary separating us from our environment and from others.  This boundary gets ruptured in trauma so that we often feel raw and unprotected.  Skin is our first line of defence.

    • References:

    • Youtube - Vagus Nerve Reset to Release Trauma Stored in the Body
    • Healing Trauma:  A Pioneering Program for Restoring the Wisdom of your Body  (Peter A Levine PhD)
    • In An Unspoken Voice (Peter A Levine)
    • Complex PTSD:  From Surviving to Thriving (Pete Walker)
    • When The Body Says No:  The Cost of Hidden Stress (Dr Gabor Mate)
    • What Happened to You:  Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing (Dr Bruce D Perry and Oprah Winfrey)


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    ]]>
  • "Trauma is about loss of connection - to ourselves, to our bodies, to our families, to others, and to the world around us.  This loss of connection is often hard to recognise, because it doesn't happen all at once.  It can happen slowly, over time, and we adapt to these subtle changes sometimes without even noticing them."  (Peter Levine)
  • We see that loss of connection as a separation from ourselves.
  • Our choices become limited as we avoid certain feelings, people, situations and places.  The result of this gradual constriction of freedom is the loss of vitality and potential for the fulfilment of our dreams....... it stops us from being the Magic of Us (episode 4).
  • While it is true that all traumatic events are stressful, all stressful events are not traumatic.
  • Dr Gabor Mate believes trauma is not what happened to you, but what happened in your body as a result of what happened.   Peter Levine agrees with this assessment ...... he says the body is the container of all of our sensations and feelings.  It is also the boundary separating us from our environment and from others.  This boundary gets ruptured in trauma so that we often feel raw and unprotected.  Skin is our first line of defence.

    • References:

    • Youtube - Vagus Nerve Reset to Release Trauma Stored in the Body
    • Healing Trauma:  A Pioneering Program for Restoring the Wisdom of your Body  (Peter A Levine PhD)
    • In An Unspoken Voice (Peter A Levine)
    • Complex PTSD:  From Surviving to Thriving (Pete Walker)
    • When The Body Says No:  The Cost of Hidden Stress (Dr Gabor Mate)
    • What Happened to You:  Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing (Dr Bruce D Perry and Oprah Winfrey)


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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 11:56:17 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 2856 We did not see this discussion coming....... but we both are passionate about creating a different conversation that leads to a greater world where we feel safe, secure and supported, so decided to let the conversation flow. We both know that in order for things to improve, we need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable in these difficult discussions. We are not health professionals, we are sharing our own experiences. This episode may trigger some people and we recommend you seek support from a professional who is at least trauma informed. 33% of all Australian marriages are expected to end in divorce, and countless more relationships fall by the way side. We are seeing 4th generation of people having to stay in a shelter....... we are talking inter-generational impacts of unresolved trauma. We did not see this discussion coming....... but we both are passionate about creating a different conversation that leads to a greater world where we feel safe, secure and supported, so decided to let the conversation flow. We both know that in order fo trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, Yes     Joy and Laughter - the antidote to pain and suffering 6 6 Joy and Laughter - the antidote to pain and suffering full decba829-6fbc-4750-b33e-727b5571a6fc https://share.transistor.fm/s/08583439
  • Regardless of whether it is a myth that it takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile, smiling makes us feel happier.  Smiling and laughter help to temporarily reduce cortisol and adrenaline levels and stress - which improves our mood and energy levels..  Laughter yoga has the same effect as Pranayama breathing.
  • With the pandemic, it has become hard for people to laugh these days.  Fear can push us into exhaustion and into a dystopian world - where we imagine a place in which EVERYTHING is unpleasant and bad.  This is a drip-feed of trauma - and we know the impact of trauma on our physical, mental, and emotional states.
  • Sometimes we feel we can't have happiness, joy, and laughter when something "not great" is happening.  
  • Laughter can expand our thinking to open up greater possibilities......  it can be the antidote of having the laser vision of survival which limits our choices.

    • If you want to have a laugh, here is a link to a short video about the difference between men's brains and women's brains..... 
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZ6mVumHY9I 

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    ]]>
  • Regardless of whether it is a myth that it takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile, smiling makes us feel happier.  Smiling and laughter help to temporarily reduce cortisol and adrenaline levels and stress - which improves our mood and energy levels..  Laughter yoga has the same effect as Pranayama breathing.
  • With the pandemic, it has become hard for people to laugh these days.  Fear can push us into exhaustion and into a dystopian world - where we imagine a place in which EVERYTHING is unpleasant and bad.  This is a drip-feed of trauma - and we know the impact of trauma on our physical, mental, and emotional states.
  • Sometimes we feel we can't have happiness, joy, and laughter when something "not great" is happening.  
  • Laughter can expand our thinking to open up greater possibilities......  it can be the antidote of having the laser vision of survival which limits our choices.

    • If you want to have a laugh, here is a link to a short video about the difference between men's brains and women's brains..... 
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZ6mVumHY9I 

    To connect with Grace please visit 

    choosinggreater.com 


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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 11:55:27 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 2311 Life is all about BALANCE. With pain and suffering being experienced by so many human beings, it is important to know how to balance the impact of this. All emotions matter. Joy and Laughter is an antidote to pain and suffering! Life is all about BALANCE. With pain and suffering being experienced by so many human beings, it is important to know how to balance the impact of this. All emotions matter. Joy and Laughter is an antidote to pain and suffering! trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, Yes     Boundaries - do they always serve us? 7 7 Boundaries - do they always serve us? full f6d96430-e7ef-4070-a59c-5873bbd552de https://share.transistor.fm/s/5df8ccc3 Everyone should have healthy boundaries".... and Cloud & Townsend guide us on what that might look like in all areas of our life, including family, friends, spouse, children, work, the digital age, and even ourself.
    If we don't have those healthy boundaries in place, it can be for many reasons including a fear of guilt, not being liked, losing the love or connection or approval of someone we care about.
    Sometimes we confuse "boundaries" with a perception that someone or some experience has not met a need we have (even if we don't name it like that!), and we might put up a wall - which brings a disconnection with a person or experience - so we shrink the possibilities for us and our life, our world becomes smaller.   
    It is important to have an awareness of energetic boundaries - this is powerful in being able to be fully present in situations which we might otherwise avoid.  You will know in every moment whether it is right for you to engage or not.
    Becoming trauma aware will help you understand whether the matter is one of boundaries, or whether a person/situation has provided you with an opportunity to heal a past trauma you didn't even know you had, which means you are back to the centre of our flower, or reconnected with your true self.

    • Dr Gabor Mate YouTube video called “Discover Your True Self”   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ybld6IG1KtA  
    • Boundaries:  When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control Of Your Life (Cloud & Townsend)
    • Boundaries With Kids:  How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children (Cloud & Townsend)
    • The Body Keeps The Score:  Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma (Bessel Van Der Kolk)
    • In An Unspoken Voice (Peter A Levine)
    • Complex PTSD:  From Surviving to Thriving (Pete Walker)
    • When The Body Says No:  The Cost of Hidden Stress (Dr Gabor Mate)
    • www.thewisdomoftrauma.com 


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    ]]>     Everyone should have healthy boundaries".... and Cloud & Townsend guide us on what that might look like in all areas of our life, including family, friends, spouse, children, work, the digital age, and even ourself.
    If we don't have those healthy boundaries in place, it can be for many reasons including a fear of guilt, not being liked, losing the love or connection or approval of someone we care about.
    Sometimes we confuse "boundaries" with a perception that someone or some experience has not met a need we have (even if we don't name it like that!), and we might put up a wall - which brings a disconnection with a person or experience - so we shrink the possibilities for us and our life, our world becomes smaller.   
    It is important to have an awareness of energetic boundaries - this is powerful in being able to be fully present in situations which we might otherwise avoid.  You will know in every moment whether it is right for you to engage or not.
    Becoming trauma aware will help you understand whether the matter is one of boundaries, or whether a person/situation has provided you with an opportunity to heal a past trauma you didn't even know you had, which means you are back to the centre of our flower, or reconnected with your true self.

    • Dr Gabor Mate YouTube video called “Discover Your True Self”   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ybld6IG1KtA  
    • Boundaries:  When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control Of Your Life (Cloud & Townsend)
    • Boundaries With Kids:  How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children (Cloud & Townsend)
    • The Body Keeps The Score:  Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma (Bessel Van Der Kolk)
    • In An Unspoken Voice (Peter A Levine)
    • Complex PTSD:  From Surviving to Thriving (Pete Walker)
    • When The Body Says No:  The Cost of Hidden Stress (Dr Gabor Mate)
    • www.thewisdomoftrauma.com 


    To connect with Grace please visit 

    choosinggreater.com 


    To attend Grace’s Trauma Transformer weekly zooms please go to 


    https://www.theunseenadvantage.com/online-zoomy-zoom-zoom-room


    For other podcasts with Grace please visit


    https://www.theunseenadvantage.com/podcast-room


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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 11:55:12 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 2526 Cloud & Townsend in their book "Boundaries" say people often focus on being loving and giving that they forget their own limits - they wonder "can I say no and still be a loving person?" But what if "setting boundaries" is actually much bigger than we realise? What if an awareness of Energies is also an important part of our toolbox? What if we use boundaries as an excuse to shut out something, and what if letting something in is actually an opportunity to reconnect with our true self? The wisdom is in recognising the difference........ Cloud & Townsend in their book "Boundaries" say people often focus on being loving and giving that they forget their own limits - they wonder "can I say no and still be a loving person?" But what if "setting boundaries" is actually much bigger than w trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, Yes     Control - both a negative and a positive, you choose.... 8 8 Control - both a negative and a positive, you choose.... full f15b092d-e9e7-4f67-9c96-0595afb43c7e https://share.transistor.fm/s/2cea3f29
  • Control is both a noun (the power to influence or direct people's behaviour or the course of events), and a verb (determine the behaviour or supervise the running of).....
  • How "nice" people can control you..... sometimes without even consciously knowing that is what they are doing.
    • "I'm only raising this because I'm concerned about you".... which for teenagers it MAY be OK, but for adults it is not appropriate and is a form of shaming and trying to control someone else in doing what YOU think they should do....
  • Then there is COERCIVE Control..... which causes trauma for individuals..... and our body holds the impact of a trauma by holding the energy of the trauma.....
    • Control is not WHO decides, but who decides who decides!  
  • Control the controllable in our lives - fear is all around us, but much of it is outside our control.  By plugging into the "uncontrollable", it puts us in a place of helplessness, and even hopelessness, which leads to more cortisol being drip fed into our bodies.... not good! 
    1. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDNXKWvfCtY    Stop letting other people control your emotions
    2. Accessing the Healing Power of the Vagus Nerve:  self help exercises for anxiety, depression, trauma and autism (Stanley Rosenberg)
    3. Invisible Chains:  overcoming coercive control in your intimate relationship (Lisa Aronsen Fontes PhD.)
    4. See What you Made Me Do (Jess Hill)
    5. In An Unspoken Voice (Peter A Levine)
    6. Complex PTSD:  From Surviving to Thriving (Pete Walker)
    7. When The Body Says No:  The Cost of Hidden Stress (Dr Gabor Mate)


    To connect with Grace please visit 

    choosinggreater.com 


    To attend Grace’s Trauma Transformer weekly zooms please go to 


    https://www.theunseenadvantage.com/online-zoomy-zoom-zoom-room


    For other podcasts with Grace please visit


    https://www.theunseenadvantage.com/podcast-room


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    ]]>
  • Control is both a noun (the power to influence or direct people's behaviour or the course of events), and a verb (determine the behaviour or supervise the running of).....
  • How "nice" people can control you..... sometimes without even consciously knowing that is what they are doing.
    • "I'm only raising this because I'm concerned about you".... which for teenagers it MAY be OK, but for adults it is not appropriate and is a form of shaming and trying to control someone else in doing what YOU think they should do....
  • Then there is COERCIVE Control..... which causes trauma for individuals..... and our body holds the impact of a trauma by holding the energy of the trauma.....
    • Control is not WHO decides, but who decides who decides!  
  • Control the controllable in our lives - fear is all around us, but much of it is outside our control.  By plugging into the "uncontrollable", it puts us in a place of helplessness, and even hopelessness, which leads to more cortisol being drip fed into our bodies.... not good! 
    1. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDNXKWvfCtY    Stop letting other people control your emotions
    2. Accessing the Healing Power of the Vagus Nerve:  self help exercises for anxiety, depression, trauma and autism (Stanley Rosenberg)
    3. Invisible Chains:  overcoming coercive control in your intimate relationship (Lisa Aronsen Fontes PhD.)
    4. See What you Made Me Do (Jess Hill)
    5. In An Unspoken Voice (Peter A Levine)
    6. Complex PTSD:  From Surviving to Thriving (Pete Walker)
    7. When The Body Says No:  The Cost of Hidden Stress (Dr Gabor Mate)


    To connect with Grace please visit 

    choosinggreater.com 


    To attend Grace’s Trauma Transformer weekly zooms please go to 


    https://www.theunseenadvantage.com/online-zoomy-zoom-zoom-room


    For other podcasts with Grace please visit


    https://www.theunseenadvantage.com/podcast-room


    To read our terms and conditions and disclaimers includes all interviews and podcasts by Grace - Vicki Scott and Choosing Greater. 


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    ]]>     Mon, 20 Jun 2022 11:54:15 +1000 Vicki Scott & Grace Hart Vicki Scott & Grace Hart 2926 Control can be both negative and positive....... like power, it can be control over, and control of...... If we are responsible for our own lives, acceptance that we have the power to control our life should be a given. But it is not always that simple..... or easy....... Control can be both negative and positive....... like power, it can be control over, and control of...... If we are responsible for our own lives, acceptance that we have the power to control our life should be a given. But it is not always that simple trauma, dv, oprah, survival brain, Yes