Can We Get Your Number? Transistor (https://transistor.fm) https://feeds.transistor.fm/can-we-get-your-number Join metamours Kellie and Shiloh as we help navigate the tricky world of out-of-the-box relationships using the enneagram, witty banter, and more! © 2026 Shiloh and Kellie fa928b70-0c04-552b-8cc5-1d0052b8aa21 yes Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner en Thu, 02 Apr 2026 17:02:10 -0700 Thu, 02 Apr 2026 17:03:03 -0700 https://img.transistorcdn.com/mZce3PWlnSvAk2WEHx46Id9WgPxBeLVI-h-53l4dues/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:1400/h:1400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS85YjE3/YTI2M2U2MTM5MTE1/NzczNGYyM2E4YzI0/ZGQ5MC5wbmc.jpg Can We Get Your Number? episodic Shiloh and Kellie Join metamours Kellie and Shiloh as we help navigate the tricky world of out-of-the-box relationships using the enneagram, witty banter, and more! Join metamours Kellie and Shiloh as we help navigate the tricky world of out-of-the-box relationships using the enneagram, witty banter, and more. enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM Randy Warner No No #30 - How do YOU seek comfort and safety - getting to know the Self Preservatioon instinct! 30 30 #30 - How do YOU seek comfort and safety - getting to know the Self Preservatioon instinct! full e2051fce-5847-48e1-b419-3c431c3f386a https://share.transistor.fm/s/6f2374d4 In this episode we introduce…The Instincts!  Ever wondered why your number doesn’t totally resonate with you?  Or maybe your number fits you to a T but you know someone who is your same number and they relate to life in a way that seems bananas to you?  It could be that figuring out your instinct will make everything fall neatly into place!  Join us as we deep dive into the Self Preservation Instinct in episode 30.  As you will see throughout this 3 episode series, knowledge is power.  Even though Kellie and I thought we had our instincts dialed in, we got more clarity as we discovered more about each instinct.  We are here to affirm that changing your mind is totally awesome and totally allowed as you find out new information!  🤷

]]> In this episode we introduce…The Instincts!  Ever wondered why your number doesn’t totally resonate with you?  Or maybe your number fits you to a T but you know someone who is your same number and they relate to life in a way that seems bananas to you?  It could be that figuring out your instinct will make everything fall neatly into place!  Join us as we deep dive into the Self Preservation Instinct in episode 30.  As you will see throughout this 3 episode series, knowledge is power.  Even though Kellie and I thought we had our instincts dialed in, we got more clarity as we discovered more about each instinct.  We are here to affirm that changing your mind is totally awesome and totally allowed as you find out new information!  🤷

]]> Thu, 02 Apr 2026 17:02:10 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 2750 In this episode we introduce…The Instincts!  Ever wondered why your number doesn’t totally resonate with you?  Or maybe your number fits you to a T but you know someone who is your same number and they relate to life in a way that seems bananas to you?  It could be that figuring out your instinct will make everything fall neatly into place!  Join us as we deep dive into the Self Preservation Instinct in episode 30.  As you will see throughout this 3 episode series, knowledge is power.  Even though Kellie and I thought we had our instincts dialed in, we got more clarity as we discovered more about each instinct.  We are here to affirm that changing your mind is totally awesome and totally allowed as you find out new information!  🤷

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #29 - I’ve got the power or The Harmony Triads 29 29 #29 - I’ve got the power or The Harmony Triads full d979090c-8070-4707-acbd-10349c172b4f https://share.transistor.fm/s/9b3f97e1 In this episode we are finishing off the triads with the Harmony Triad! The triad our numbers fall into here gives us great insight into how we relate to the big wide world, and from there we can learn how to get out of those relational patterns that keep kicking us in the junk. 

Remember all of this is just a map to help you choose your own adventure and not a cage to trap you in the abyss of your personality. We are running away from a stance of “this is my personality so deal with it, pal” to “hmmm…these are some things about my personality, so how would i like to deal with it”.  Gentle course correction for the win!!

]]> In this episode we are finishing off the triads with the Harmony Triad! The triad our numbers fall into here gives us great insight into how we relate to the big wide world, and from there we can learn how to get out of those relational patterns that keep kicking us in the junk. 

Remember all of this is just a map to help you choose your own adventure and not a cage to trap you in the abyss of your personality. We are running away from a stance of “this is my personality so deal with it, pal” to “hmmm…these are some things about my personality, so how would i like to deal with it”.  Gentle course correction for the win!!

]]> Wed, 25 Feb 2026 07:55:44 -0800 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 4402 In this episode we are finishing off the triads with the Harmony Triad! The triad our numbers fall into here gives us great insight into how we relate to the big wide world, and from there we can learn how to get out of those relational patterns that keep kicking us in the junk. 

Remember all of this is just a map to help you choose your own adventure and not a cage to trap you in the abyss of your personality. We are running away from a stance of “this is my personality so deal with it, pal” to “hmmm…these are some things about my personality, so how would i like to deal with it”.  Gentle course correction for the win!!

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #28 - What if it’s the best thing ever - How we get our needs met! 28 28 #28 - What if it’s the best thing ever - How we get our needs met! full decd0094-7838-4b66-93a7-6bf14285534a https://share.transistor.fm/s/d25d9912 In this episode we are diving into the Hornevian Triad! The triad our numbers are in give us insight into how we interact with others to get our needs met. The triads are as follows:


Move Toward others (Compliant stance) - Numbers 1,2 and 6

Move away from others (Withdrawn stance) - Numbers 4, 5 and 9

Move against others (Assertive stance) - Numbers 3, 7 and 8


We will get into all the juicy details of what this looks like for each number, which pairings might be difficult and TONS of tips and tricks on how to connect, communicate and repair depending on which triad you fall into!


Listening to the descriptions of each triad might bring you closer to knowing your enneagram number and getting on the path toward better understanding of yourself and the people you love!

]]> In this episode we are diving into the Hornevian Triad! The triad our numbers are in give us insight into how we interact with others to get our needs met. The triads are as follows:


Move Toward others (Compliant stance) - Numbers 1,2 and 6

Move away from others (Withdrawn stance) - Numbers 4, 5 and 9

Move against others (Assertive stance) - Numbers 3, 7 and 8


We will get into all the juicy details of what this looks like for each number, which pairings might be difficult and TONS of tips and tricks on how to connect, communicate and repair depending on which triad you fall into!


Listening to the descriptions of each triad might bring you closer to knowing your enneagram number and getting on the path toward better understanding of yourself and the people you love!

]]> Mon, 26 Jan 2026 21:03:54 -0800 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 2219 In this episode we are diving into the Hornevian Triad! The triad our numbers are in give us insight into how we interact with others to get our needs met. The triads are as follows:


Move Toward others (Compliant stance) - Numbers 1,2 and 6

Move away from others (Withdrawn stance) - Numbers 4, 5 and 9

Move against others (Assertive stance) - Numbers 3, 7 and 8


We will get into all the juicy details of what this looks like for each number, which pairings might be difficult and TONS of tips and tricks on how to connect, communicate and repair depending on which triad you fall into!


Listening to the descriptions of each triad might bring you closer to knowing your enneagram number and getting on the path toward better understanding of yourself and the people you love!

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #27 - Check your superlatives - or getting to know the Harmonic Triads! 27 27 #27 - Check your superlatives - or getting to know the Harmonic Triads! full b1560f1f-bb34-484d-916f-4807c1e227ee https://share.transistor.fm/s/2495ac9c This episode is all about the Harmonic Triads!  The Harmonic Triads categorize types by their coping mechanisms for conflict and disappointment.  If you have ever been in any relationship of any sort then you are likely no stranger to conflict AND disappointment!!!

We talk all about the Positive Outlook triad (2,7,9 and newsflash, Kellie and Shiloh are in this one!!), the Competency Triad (1,3,5) and the Reactive Triad (4,6,8).  We talk about how all of our reactions, no matter the triad we are in, are coping mechanisms we've learned throughout our lifetime.  We give tips for each number to move toward growth and tips for the partners of those numbers to move through conflict with ease (or at least understanding).

If you've ever wanted the cheat codes to how to get your partners' back when they are going through it, this is the episode for you!!!

]]> This episode is all about the Harmonic Triads!  The Harmonic Triads categorize types by their coping mechanisms for conflict and disappointment.  If you have ever been in any relationship of any sort then you are likely no stranger to conflict AND disappointment!!!

We talk all about the Positive Outlook triad (2,7,9 and newsflash, Kellie and Shiloh are in this one!!), the Competency Triad (1,3,5) and the Reactive Triad (4,6,8).  We talk about how all of our reactions, no matter the triad we are in, are coping mechanisms we've learned throughout our lifetime.  We give tips for each number to move toward growth and tips for the partners of those numbers to move through conflict with ease (or at least understanding).

If you've ever wanted the cheat codes to how to get your partners' back when they are going through it, this is the episode for you!!!

]]> Mon, 05 Jan 2026 20:18:29 -0800 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 4343 This episode is all about the Harmonic Triads!  The Harmonic Triads categorize types by their coping mechanisms for conflict and disappointment.  If you have ever been in any relationship of any sort then you are likely no stranger to conflict AND disappointment!!!

We talk all about the Positive Outlook triad (2,7,9 and newsflash, Kellie and Shiloh are in this one!!), the Competency Triad (1,3,5) and the Reactive Triad (4,6,8).  We talk about how all of our reactions, no matter the triad we are in, are coping mechanisms we've learned throughout our lifetime.  We give tips for each number to move toward growth and tips for the partners of those numbers to move through conflict with ease (or at least understanding).

If you've ever wanted the cheat codes to how to get your partners' back when they are going through it, this is the episode for you!!!

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #26 - It's a map! - A deep dive into how to use the enneagram 26 26 #26 - It's a map! - A deep dive into how to use the enneagram full 87a7278e-a715-4b4b-9596-f0e74957a7c8 https://share.transistor.fm/s/3d201abf In this episode, we do a surface level deep dive into all the pieces of the enneagram.  We give you a new definition of the enneagram and decide that the enneagram is just a map to lead you to yourself.  We talk about wings, stress and growth arrows, instincts, triads and how you can utilize all of this information to find balance in yourself and in your relationships.  We are crossing our fingers that even though you might feel overwhelmed with the bulk of info, that all the little tips and hacks we give you will add some immediate value to your life helping you stay curious and connected!

https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/
https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/store/

]]> In this episode, we do a surface level deep dive into all the pieces of the enneagram.  We give you a new definition of the enneagram and decide that the enneagram is just a map to lead you to yourself.  We talk about wings, stress and growth arrows, instincts, triads and how you can utilize all of this information to find balance in yourself and in your relationships.  We are crossing our fingers that even though you might feel overwhelmed with the bulk of info, that all the little tips and hacks we give you will add some immediate value to your life helping you stay curious and connected!

https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/
https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/store/

]]> Mon, 13 Oct 2025 21:06:50 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 3037 In this episode, we do a surface level deep dive into all the pieces of the enneagram.  We give you a new definition of the enneagram and decide that the enneagram is just a map to lead you to yourself.  We talk about wings, stress and growth arrows, instincts, triads and how you can utilize all of this information to find balance in yourself and in your relationships.  We are crossing our fingers that even though you might feel overwhelmed with the bulk of info, that all the little tips and hacks we give you will add some immediate value to your life helping you stay curious and connected!

https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/
https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/store/

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #25 - The mystery is where all the juice is: cultivating the beginners mind 25 25 #25 - The mystery is where all the juice is: cultivating the beginners mind full 440d0907-3039-4619-a5ee-5d431ded1858 https://share.transistor.fm/s/ce64bb86 In this episode, we talk about cultivating beginners mind and how nobody is just how they are. We talk about how you get to be so many different you's in your lifetime and how your also partners get to be so many different them's. Beginners mind helps us stay open and curious about our partners over the course of our relationships, and each number has some areas where they might struggle.  We give some new thoughts to help you get unstuck. Lets get curious!!

]]> In this episode, we talk about cultivating beginners mind and how nobody is just how they are. We talk about how you get to be so many different you's in your lifetime and how your also partners get to be so many different them's. Beginners mind helps us stay open and curious about our partners over the course of our relationships, and each number has some areas where they might struggle.  We give some new thoughts to help you get unstuck. Lets get curious!!

]]> Tue, 16 Sep 2025 07:54:28 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 3098 In this episode, we talk about cultivating beginners mind and how nobody is just how they are. We talk about how you get to be so many different you's in your lifetime and how your also partners get to be so many different them's. Beginners mind helps us stay open and curious about our partners over the course of our relationships, and each number has some areas where they might struggle.  We give some new thoughts to help you get unstuck. Lets get curious!!

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #24 - Shiloh hates hugs or What are your core values? 24 24 #24 - Shiloh hates hugs or What are your core values? full 5fb1d407-7868-4b0b-a8aa-818a3ba1d3d3 https://share.transistor.fm/s/edefe20a In this episode we talk about Shiloh's creepy-ass house, Lily moving out, and how life is all transitions. We dive in to all things core values, including examples of potential core values for each Enneagram number, and how core values might also be things that point you toward growth or how you get your needs met.

There is some crossover between core values and love styles. You can find out more about loves styles in episode 18.

]]> In this episode we talk about Shiloh's creepy-ass house, Lily moving out, and how life is all transitions. We dive in to all things core values, including examples of potential core values for each Enneagram number, and how core values might also be things that point you toward growth or how you get your needs met.

There is some crossover between core values and love styles. You can find out more about loves styles in episode 18.

]]> Sun, 27 Jul 2025 21:35:13 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 3583 In this episode we talk about Shiloh's creepy-ass house, Lily moving out, and how life is all transitions. We dive in to all things core values, including examples of potential core values for each Enneagram number, and how core values might also be things that point you toward growth or how you get your needs met.

There is some crossover between core values and love styles. You can find out more about loves styles in episode 18.

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #23 - we all live in a pie: cohabiting in polyamory 23 23 #23 - we all live in a pie: cohabiting in polyamory full 65e8ea79-e62e-4744-a0af-a54f43d78ce1 https://share.transistor.fm/s/e8a89483 In this episode we look at cohabitation! We explore what each number might need when sharing space with others. You will get a glimpse at what our own polycule cohabiting looks like and some tips for helping all the numbers in your ‘cule feel at home! We also add ‘cohabitation’ to the ever growing list of words we don’t like!!

]]> In this episode we look at cohabitation! We explore what each number might need when sharing space with others. You will get a glimpse at what our own polycule cohabiting looks like and some tips for helping all the numbers in your ‘cule feel at home! We also add ‘cohabitation’ to the ever growing list of words we don’t like!!

]]> Tue, 03 Jun 2025 17:05:07 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 4281 In this episode we look at cohabitation! We explore what each number might need when sharing space with others. You will get a glimpse at what our own polycule cohabiting looks like and some tips for helping all the numbers in your ‘cule feel at home! We also add ‘cohabitation’ to the ever growing list of words we don’t like!!

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #22 - Blabbing on about security, part 2 22 22 #22 - Blabbing on about security, part 2 full 3f9df7ef-9aab-4f83-88db-6ede6bd06a10 https://share.transistor.fm/s/79580453 In this episode, we have more tips and tricks to navigate security in polyamory. We talk about the challenges that might trigger the insecurity, specific strategies to find security based on your enneagram number, and affirmations tailored to each number. Shiloh and Kellie both get on the soapbox on this episode and we find out Kellie doesn't like the work encroach. Listen in to learn how to be an experimenter in the science project that is you. 

]]> In this episode, we have more tips and tricks to navigate security in polyamory. We talk about the challenges that might trigger the insecurity, specific strategies to find security based on your enneagram number, and affirmations tailored to each number. Shiloh and Kellie both get on the soapbox on this episode and we find out Kellie doesn't like the work encroach. Listen in to learn how to be an experimenter in the science project that is you. 

]]> Mon, 12 May 2025 21:26:47 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 2759 In this episode, we have more tips and tricks to navigate security in polyamory. We talk about the challenges that might trigger the insecurity, specific strategies to find security based on your enneagram number, and affirmations tailored to each number. Shiloh and Kellie both get on the soapbox on this episode and we find out Kellie doesn't like the work encroach. Listen in to learn how to be an experimenter in the science project that is you. 

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #21 - Finding security when polyamorous things are happening (part 1) 21 21 #21 - Finding security when polyamorous things are happening (part 1) full 5a6c0675-c358-47a4-9411-c3dbc2809cf5 https://share.transistor.fm/s/b0e8da7a There was so much good info for this one that we had to split it into 2 parts!!  This week we will go over how polyamory brings up insecurity AND security and then we go through how each enneagram number seeks security in their relationships.  We talk about how to recognize your own security patterns based on your type. Listen for boundary sandwiches and surprise shoes.  And stayed tuned after the episode for a bit of our pre-show meeting where we talk about deep diving to the bottom of the pool!

]]> There was so much good info for this one that we had to split it into 2 parts!!  This week we will go over how polyamory brings up insecurity AND security and then we go through how each enneagram number seeks security in their relationships.  We talk about how to recognize your own security patterns based on your type. Listen for boundary sandwiches and surprise shoes.  And stayed tuned after the episode for a bit of our pre-show meeting where we talk about deep diving to the bottom of the pool!

]]> Tue, 25 Mar 2025 17:14:12 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 2721 There was so much good info for this one that we had to split it into 2 parts!!  This week we will go over how polyamory brings up insecurity AND security and then we go through how each enneagram number seeks security in their relationships.  We talk about how to recognize your own security patterns based on your type. Listen for boundary sandwiches and surprise shoes.  And stayed tuned after the episode for a bit of our pre-show meeting where we talk about deep diving to the bottom of the pool!

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #20 - Striving feels pokey in my soul 20 20 #20 - Striving feels pokey in my soul full 42886e25-6b12-48a2-80df-2c2bec1ac248 https://share.transistor.fm/s/3141c8a1 In this episode, we talk about contentment vs striving in relationships. We figure out how to find out if you are over-striving or over-contenting and what you can do about it based on your enneagram number. We invented the word "strowth" because Shiloh discovered she does not like the word "striving" so we combined the words "striving" and "growth" because that felt nicer. 

You can find us on SubStack:
https://canwegetyournumber.substack.com/

If you're interested in the Sacramento Enneagram group you can sign up here:
https://www.sacroot.com/enneagram

]]> In this episode, we talk about contentment vs striving in relationships. We figure out how to find out if you are over-striving or over-contenting and what you can do about it based on your enneagram number. We invented the word "strowth" because Shiloh discovered she does not like the word "striving" so we combined the words "striving" and "growth" because that felt nicer. 

You can find us on SubStack:
https://canwegetyournumber.substack.com/

If you're interested in the Sacramento Enneagram group you can sign up here:
https://www.sacroot.com/enneagram

]]> Sat, 08 Mar 2025 13:05:22 -0800 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 3153 In this episode, we talk about contentment vs striving in relationships. We figure out how to find out if you are over-striving or over-contenting and what you can do about it based on your enneagram number. We invented the word "strowth" because Shiloh discovered she does not like the word "striving" so we combined the words "striving" and "growth" because that felt nicer. 

You can find us on SubStack:
https://canwegetyournumber.substack.com/

If you're interested in the Sacramento Enneagram group you can sign up here:
https://www.sacroot.com/enneagram

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM Yes Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #19 - Vagina time with Shiloh, Emily is in her exploration phase 19 19 #19 - Vagina time with Shiloh, Emily is in her exploration phase full 8073a0a7-0bd2-474a-b4b2-55be1ee19790 https://share.transistor.fm/s/b2159ae6 In this episode we have special guest Emily on to talk about her and Kellie's new polyamorous adventures. We'll talk about exactly what they've been up to and why, and we'll see what it triggered for both through an enneagram lens. We'll also get in to how it's making their relationship even stronger! 

]]> In this episode we have special guest Emily on to talk about her and Kellie's new polyamorous adventures. We'll talk about exactly what they've been up to and why, and we'll see what it triggered for both through an enneagram lens. We'll also get in to how it's making their relationship even stronger! 

]]> Sat, 22 Feb 2025 17:29:53 -0800 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 1845 In this episode we have special guest Emily on to talk about her and Kellie's new polyamorous adventures. We'll talk about exactly what they've been up to and why, and we'll see what it triggered for both through an enneagram lens. We'll also get in to how it's making their relationship even stronger! 

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM Yes Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #18 - wordage of affirmation and other love styles 18 18 #18 - wordage of affirmation and other love styles full fe83a24f-1090-4bcd-99cd-c9a3128215bd https://share.transistor.fm/s/f10c3f47 In this episode we talk about love languages vs. love styles and how they intersect and overlap with Gottman's 7 principles for making relationships work. We want you to be able to use both tools to make really good relationships of all kinds! We do our best to decide which love style each enneagram numbers might fall under. We also talk about doing White Elephant in July,  how Shiloh will wink the fuck out of you, and the very secret formula for relationship success!! Listen for these quotable gems - “Some perverts ruined it for everyone” and “nobody wants to be loved from a place of ‘I hate this’”.

]]> In this episode we talk about love languages vs. love styles and how they intersect and overlap with Gottman's 7 principles for making relationships work. We want you to be able to use both tools to make really good relationships of all kinds! We do our best to decide which love style each enneagram numbers might fall under. We also talk about doing White Elephant in July,  how Shiloh will wink the fuck out of you, and the very secret formula for relationship success!! Listen for these quotable gems - “Some perverts ruined it for everyone” and “nobody wants to be loved from a place of ‘I hate this’”.

]]> Wed, 12 Feb 2025 12:13:43 -0800 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 3215 In this episode we talk about love languages vs. love styles and how they intersect and overlap with Gottman's 7 principles for making relationships work. We want you to be able to use both tools to make really good relationships of all kinds! We do our best to decide which love style each enneagram numbers might fall under. We also talk about doing White Elephant in July,  how Shiloh will wink the fuck out of you, and the very secret formula for relationship success!! Listen for these quotable gems - “Some perverts ruined it for everyone” and “nobody wants to be loved from a place of ‘I hate this’”.

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #17 - Salves, ointments & a splooge of feelings 17 17 #17 - Salves, ointments & a splooge of feelings full e86eefed-51bd-46a8-a950-e0040e9053ee https://share.transistor.fm/s/fc06ad45 In this week's episode we talk about using journaling as a processing tool for some of the sticky emotions brought up by your out-of-the-box relationships. We give you lots of journal prompts to help you get to the juicy good stuff using your enneagram number to guide you! We also talk about the fuck it fifties, why podcasting at night isn’t for us,  how 2025 is the year we can do whatever we want, and why Shiloh gives a big thumbs down to the words salve and ointment.  


And listen to the end to hear our new pre-show meeting outtakes!

Silkandsonder.com


Five Minute Journal


]]> In this week's episode we talk about using journaling as a processing tool for some of the sticky emotions brought up by your out-of-the-box relationships. We give you lots of journal prompts to help you get to the juicy good stuff using your enneagram number to guide you! We also talk about the fuck it fifties, why podcasting at night isn’t for us,  how 2025 is the year we can do whatever we want, and why Shiloh gives a big thumbs down to the words salve and ointment.  


And listen to the end to hear our new pre-show meeting outtakes!

Silkandsonder.com


Five Minute Journal


]]> Fri, 24 Jan 2025 12:12:23 -0800 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 3843 In this week's episode we talk about using journaling as a processing tool for some of the sticky emotions brought up by your out-of-the-box relationships. We give you lots of journal prompts to help you get to the juicy good stuff using your enneagram number to guide you! We also talk about the fuck it fifties, why podcasting at night isn’t for us,  how 2025 is the year we can do whatever we want, and why Shiloh gives a big thumbs down to the words salve and ointment.  


And listen to the end to hear our new pre-show meeting outtakes!

Silkandsonder.com


Five Minute Journal


]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #16 - Keep Your Cookie Batter in your Bowl: Relating Goals 2025 16 16 #16 - Keep Your Cookie Batter in your Bowl: Relating Goals 2025 full bead17b9-2d20-4c47-9aed-aa677caa8b51 https://share.transistor.fm/s/30362296 Where we learn that YOU deserve brownie batter too, you get to lick the sides and lest you think that this entire goal episode is about brownies, that when you move your shoulders back and forth it means floaty. Enjoy these and many other ways to incorporate your enneagram into your relationship and relating goals!!

https://bethkempton.com/kokoro-2/

And stick around to the very end to listen to our outtakes!!! This is something new we are monkeying around with for 2025!

]]> Where we learn that YOU deserve brownie batter too, you get to lick the sides and lest you think that this entire goal episode is about brownies, that when you move your shoulders back and forth it means floaty. Enjoy these and many other ways to incorporate your enneagram into your relationship and relating goals!!

https://bethkempton.com/kokoro-2/

And stick around to the very end to listen to our outtakes!!! This is something new we are monkeying around with for 2025!

]]> Tue, 07 Jan 2025 19:33:53 -0800 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 5226 Where we learn that YOU deserve brownie batter too, you get to lick the sides and lest you think that this entire goal episode is about brownies, that when you move your shoulders back and forth it means floaty. Enjoy these and many other ways to incorporate your enneagram into your relationship and relating goals!!

https://bethkempton.com/kokoro-2/

And stick around to the very end to listen to our outtakes!!! This is something new we are monkeying around with for 2025!

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #15 - Point your long gray finger somewhere else 15 15 #15 - Point your long gray finger somewhere else full 93bbdcf9-2469-491e-88d3-c490e2a65d63 https://share.transistor.fm/s/c95d39a9 In this episode we are going to be going through all the numbers to discuss what each one might need in order to have a fulfilling and fun poly holiday experience! We even have special guests Randy and Emily to talk about their own numbers! 

]]> In this episode we are going to be going through all the numbers to discuss what each one might need in order to have a fulfilling and fun poly holiday experience! We even have special guests Randy and Emily to talk about their own numbers! 

]]> Mon, 16 Dec 2024 19:24:55 -0800 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 4670 In this episode we are going to be going through all the numbers to discuss what each one might need in order to have a fulfilling and fun poly holiday experience! We even have special guests Randy and Emily to talk about their own numbers! 

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #14 - Take care of your candy, 7s! 14 14 #14 - Take care of your candy, 7s! full c5c8ab84-3e62-4e33-82be-e4712bd4e3ea https://share.transistor.fm/s/2c6732ab In this episode, we talk about outgoing fun-loving 7s. Also known as the Enthusiast. We discuss how everyone's lost childhood message is still hidden inside of them, and that some things in relationship cannot be fixed. 

]]> In this episode, we talk about outgoing fun-loving 7s. Also known as the Enthusiast. We discuss how everyone's lost childhood message is still hidden inside of them, and that some things in relationship cannot be fixed. 

]]> Sat, 30 Nov 2024 20:27:05 -0800 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 3824 In this episode, we talk about outgoing fun-loving 7s. Also known as the Enthusiast. We discuss how everyone's lost childhood message is still hidden inside of them, and that some things in relationship cannot be fixed. 

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #13 - A 6 would have saved the Titanic 13 13 #13 - A 6 would have saved the Titanic full 5822be74-b546-4eeb-b201-f9300e228ec7 https://share.transistor.fm/s/7c4dc32a Join us in this episode as we interview Kellie's wife, Emily, and do a deep dive on enneagram number 6! We talk about how Emily is scared, the polycule is recruiting for numbers 8, 3, and 4, and that Kellie can't stop scissoring!

]]> Join us in this episode as we interview Kellie's wife, Emily, and do a deep dive on enneagram number 6! We talk about how Emily is scared, the polycule is recruiting for numbers 8, 3, and 4, and that Kellie can't stop scissoring!

]]> Sat, 16 Nov 2024 15:44:12 -0800 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 3732 Join us in this episode as we interview Kellie's wife, Emily, and do a deep dive on enneagram number 6! We talk about how Emily is scared, the polycule is recruiting for numbers 8, 3, and 4, and that Kellie can't stop scissoring!

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #12 - Go Feed Your Polyamorous Baby 12 12 #12 - Go Feed Your Polyamorous Baby full b61c1cd5-c35b-470e-b309-65e5dd2db8ba https://share.transistor.fm/s/33a86369 In this episode we do a deep dive into 5s, the observer. We discover that 5s are energy conservationists, very equanimous (maybe this word is made up), objective, and it’s likely they don’t think you are stupid. We discuss our break from recording in September and how much we want you to have a gentle lovely time being polyamorous. Enjoy!

]]> In this episode we do a deep dive into 5s, the observer. We discover that 5s are energy conservationists, very equanimous (maybe this word is made up), objective, and it’s likely they don’t think you are stupid. We discuss our break from recording in September and how much we want you to have a gentle lovely time being polyamorous. Enjoy!

]]> Tue, 29 Oct 2024 20:22:14 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 3441 In this episode we do a deep dive into 5s, the observer. We discover that 5s are energy conservationists, very equanimous (maybe this word is made up), objective, and it’s likely they don’t think you are stupid. We discuss our break from recording in September and how much we want you to have a gentle lovely time being polyamorous. Enjoy!

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #11 - I Love You. Don't Leave Me. Okay, BYEEEEEEE! 11 11 #11 - I Love You. Don't Leave Me. Okay, BYEEEEEEE! full 7bb0f047-26d2-4d0d-b362-39cb30c6b842 https://share.transistor.fm/s/8c8ba8e9 Join us this week as we deep dive into Enneagram #4. We will be talking to our special guest Alyssa and getting in to all the dirt on needing to feel special, when hikes go awry, and being non-monogamous as a single parent. 

]]> Join us this week as we deep dive into Enneagram #4. We will be talking to our special guest Alyssa and getting in to all the dirt on needing to feel special, when hikes go awry, and being non-monogamous as a single parent. 

]]> Fri, 11 Oct 2024 22:15:51 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 4884 Join us this week as we deep dive into Enneagram #4. We will be talking to our special guest Alyssa and getting in to all the dirt on needing to feel special, when hikes go awry, and being non-monogamous as a single parent. 

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #10 - Poly Camping and Meeting the 'cule 10 10 #10 - Poly Camping and Meeting the 'cule full fe1f4759-c11f-4972-92b4-e2d41995a96c https://share.transistor.fm/s/849075f7 In this episode we are on location in beautiful Pioneer, CA for our 3rd annual poly ‘camping’ trip!  And we introduce all of our weirdos!

]]> In this episode we are on location in beautiful Pioneer, CA for our 3rd annual poly ‘camping’ trip!  And we introduce all of our weirdos!

]]> Wed, 11 Sep 2024 10:22:51 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 1288 In this episode we are on location in beautiful Pioneer, CA for our 3rd annual poly ‘camping’ trip!  And we introduce all of our weirdos!

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #9 - Action-Packed Compliment Sandwich 9 9 #9 - Action-Packed Compliment Sandwich full fa14e7c6-e569-424e-adfb-f08c97f23951 https://share.transistor.fm/s/540e08db In this episode, We learn what a paragon is, decide that we might have openings in the family for enneagrams 3, 4, and 8, and why you need a 3 to calendar for your polycule.

Also here is the link to get your own mini dip!

Minidip.com

]]> In this episode, We learn what a paragon is, decide that we might have openings in the family for enneagrams 3, 4, and 8, and why you need a 3 to calendar for your polycule.

Also here is the link to get your own mini dip!

Minidip.com

]]> Mon, 26 Aug 2024 22:17:59 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 4118 In this episode, We learn what a paragon is, decide that we might have openings in the family for enneagrams 3, 4, and 8, and why you need a 3 to calendar for your polycule.

Also here is the link to get your own mini dip!

Minidip.com

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #8 - Broken Birds, Dry Cups, and "Special" Friends 8 8 #8 - Broken Birds, Dry Cups, and "Special" Friends full 393d3047-f6cd-430d-8a12-8ff8acf8b5e6 https://share.transistor.fm/s/c10e1fe7 In this episode of Can We Get Your Number, we do a deep dive into Kellie's number - Enneagram 2. We'll get in to why she wants to be loved by the world, the torture of not being able to help, and how to stay out of the web of neglect. We also talk about how polyamory is just a different type of hard than monogamy and why we choose this kind of hard.

]]> In this episode of Can We Get Your Number, we do a deep dive into Kellie's number - Enneagram 2. We'll get in to why she wants to be loved by the world, the torture of not being able to help, and how to stay out of the web of neglect. We also talk about how polyamory is just a different type of hard than monogamy and why we choose this kind of hard.

]]> Mon, 12 Aug 2024 21:01:24 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 4587 In this episode of Can We Get Your Number, we do a deep dive into Kellie's number - Enneagram 2. We'll get in to why she wants to be loved by the world, the torture of not being able to help, and how to stay out of the web of neglect. We also talk about how polyamory is just a different type of hard than monogamy and why we choose this kind of hard.

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #7 - The frosting wasn't on the ultrasound! 7 7 #7 - The frosting wasn't on the ultrasound! full 22f4449b-6940-4797-a82b-db9a53ed77cd https://share.transistor.fm/s/d455f87b Number one this week, we do a deep dive into Enneagram number one. Our special guest is Randy J. Warner, the podcast producer and Mr. Shiloh. We talk about frosting, Wild Boyz, and Randy finds out he is actually a 1 when he thought he was a 9.  Join us for this super fun and funny interview!

]]> Number one this week, we do a deep dive into Enneagram number one. Our special guest is Randy J. Warner, the podcast producer and Mr. Shiloh. We talk about frosting, Wild Boyz, and Randy finds out he is actually a 1 when he thought he was a 9.  Join us for this super fun and funny interview!

]]> Fri, 26 Jul 2024 22:35:38 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 5201 Number one this week, we do a deep dive into Enneagram number one. Our special guest is Randy J. Warner, the podcast producer and Mr. Shiloh. We talk about frosting, Wild Boyz, and Randy finds out he is actually a 1 when he thought he was a 9.  Join us for this super fun and funny interview!

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #6 - Nines are Horcruxes 6 6 #6 - Nines are Horcruxes full df9e3951-293a-4c37-8da6-8de00ee86afb https://share.transistor.fm/s/2850dc76 In this episode, Kellie and Shiloh do a deep dive into Enneagram 9. Shiloh is the resident 9 and she gets in to all the details on what it's like to be a peacemaker. She talks about why she doesn't want to be annihilated, how trauma combined with anxious attachment is a shit sandwich, and how probably everyone hates her. It's good, juicy stuff!

]]> In this episode, Kellie and Shiloh do a deep dive into Enneagram 9. Shiloh is the resident 9 and she gets in to all the details on what it's like to be a peacemaker. She talks about why she doesn't want to be annihilated, how trauma combined with anxious attachment is a shit sandwich, and how probably everyone hates her. It's good, juicy stuff!

]]> Fri, 12 Jul 2024 21:33:40 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 3843 In this episode, Kellie and Shiloh do a deep dive into Enneagram 9. Shiloh is the resident 9 and she gets in to all the details on what it's like to be a peacemaker. She talks about why she doesn't want to be annihilated, how trauma combined with anxious attachment is a shit sandwich, and how probably everyone hates her. It's good, juicy stuff!

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #5 - Is Conflictive a Word? 5 5 #5 - Is Conflictive a Word? full 6e34d50c-9d48-4483-876c-6f723000cbad https://share.transistor.fm/s/a304265c In this episode, we deep dive in to Enneagram 8's: the Challenger. We discover that 8's get off on being big, alive, assertive, and highly charged personalities. We discuss different ways that will help you know if you're an 8 and what your superpowers are. And we think we make up the word conflictive, but we actually make up the word conflicty! 

]]> In this episode, we deep dive in to Enneagram 8's: the Challenger. We discover that 8's get off on being big, alive, assertive, and highly charged personalities. We discuss different ways that will help you know if you're an 8 and what your superpowers are. And we think we make up the word conflictive, but we actually make up the word conflicty! 

]]> Fri, 28 Jun 2024 23:40:38 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 3271 In this episode, we deep dive in to Enneagram 8's: the Challenger. We discover that 8's get off on being big, alive, assertive, and highly charged personalities. We discuss different ways that will help you know if you're an 8 and what your superpowers are. And we think we make up the word conflictive, but we actually make up the word conflicty! 

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #4 - Fives Are Iguanas 4 4 #4 - Fives Are Iguanas full ddfe8c79-64fc-4400-94a1-ba2c565cc680 https://share.transistor.fm/s/622bbb0f In Episode 4, Kellie and Shiloh talk about the head triad: enneagram numbers 5, 6, and 7!  There is talk about avoiding the danger zone, collecting underpants, and many other offshoots and tangents!! Enjoy this episode!

]]> In Episode 4, Kellie and Shiloh talk about the head triad: enneagram numbers 5, 6, and 7!  There is talk about avoiding the danger zone, collecting underpants, and many other offshoots and tangents!! Enjoy this episode!

]]> Fri, 14 Jun 2024 20:24:34 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 3138 In Episode 4, Kellie and Shiloh talk about the head triad: enneagram numbers 5, 6, and 7!  There is talk about avoiding the danger zone, collecting underpants, and many other offshoots and tangents!! Enjoy this episode!

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #3 - Shame is Slimy 3 3 #3 - Shame is Slimy full 429bf545-3e08-4d4e-8ce9-7fa54e9b214c https://share.transistor.fm/s/e22f085d Shiloh and Kellie talk about the heart triad, enneagram numbers 2, 3, and 4. They talk about how feelings are jerks, solve all the problems for 2s, and reference Jesus, Harry Potter, and Lord of the Rings. Enjoy this episode and see how it all fits together…or doesn’t!

]]> Shiloh and Kellie talk about the heart triad, enneagram numbers 2, 3, and 4. They talk about how feelings are jerks, solve all the problems for 2s, and reference Jesus, Harry Potter, and Lord of the Rings. Enjoy this episode and see how it all fits together…or doesn’t!

]]> Fri, 31 May 2024 10:59:16 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 3243 Shiloh and Kellie talk about the heart triad, enneagram numbers 2, 3, and 4. They talk about how feelings are jerks, solve all the problems for 2s, and reference Jesus, Harry Potter, and Lord of the Rings. Enjoy this episode and see how it all fits together…or doesn’t!

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #2 - Sometimes you just need to fall into a pile of laundry 2 2 #2 - Sometimes you just need to fall into a pile of laundry full a07ee575-7425-4c68-ae4f-548c536135fd https://share.transistor.fm/s/530e60a4 Kellie and Shiloh talk about the Gut Triad, how those numbers (8, 9, 1) might react when their partners have NRE, and a glimpse into Randy and Shiloh: the early years.

]]> Kellie and Shiloh talk about the Gut Triad, how those numbers (8, 9, 1) might react when their partners have NRE, and a glimpse into Randy and Shiloh: the early years.

]]> Fri, 17 May 2024 22:09:31 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 3843 Kellie and Shiloh talk about the Gut Triad, how those numbers (8, 9, 1) might react when their partners have NRE, and a glimpse into Randy and Shiloh: the early years.

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner #1 - Kellie, not everything is a placenta! 1 1 #1 - Kellie, not everything is a placenta! full e7f40059-f638-451a-95ec-a88989572f06 https://share.transistor.fm/s/2b9755ac In this episode, Shiloh and Kellie introduce the Can We Get Your Number? podcast, types of non-monogamous relationships, and the general outline of the nine enneagram types. We talk about how the enneagram could be useful in navigating various polyamorous challenges and give some insight into our own brand of family chaos. Plus, you will get to hear the juicy details of one of our own personal challenging conversations, and much, much more. We are so excited to take this journey with you!!!

]]> In this episode, Shiloh and Kellie introduce the Can We Get Your Number? podcast, types of non-monogamous relationships, and the general outline of the nine enneagram types. We talk about how the enneagram could be useful in navigating various polyamorous challenges and give some insight into our own brand of family chaos. Plus, you will get to hear the juicy details of one of our own personal challenging conversations, and much, much more. We are so excited to take this journey with you!!!

]]> Fri, 03 May 2024 20:22:27 -0700 Shiloh and Kellie Shiloh and Kellie 3508 In this episode, Shiloh and Kellie introduce the Can We Get Your Number? podcast, types of non-monogamous relationships, and the general outline of the nine enneagram types. We talk about how the enneagram could be useful in navigating various polyamorous challenges and give some insight into our own brand of family chaos. Plus, you will get to hear the juicy details of one of our own personal challenging conversations, and much, much more. We are so excited to take this journey with you!!!

]]> enneagram, relationships, polyamory, ENM No Shiloh Warner Kellie Edson Randy Warner