Brandon The Dom

BDSM Q&A: Intense Sexual Feelings, Dom Drop, Truth About 24/7 Dynamics, Communication in BDSM

Brandon The Dom — Tue, 31 Mar 2026 14:40:25 -0700

In this special video, I'm addressing your burning questions from the Red Room Forums and YouTube comments section, offering more detailed responses than a quick reply. Stay tuned for practical insights on navigating complex dynamics and fostering stronger connections in bdsm dynamics and relationships.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:24) - Q1: Dealing With Intense Sexual Feelings
(04:00) - Q2: Dom Drop
(08:38) - Q3: Truth About 24/7 Dynamics
(16:24) - Q4: Why So Much Communication in BDSM

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The Submission That Isn't: Identifying Topping from the Bottom

Brandon The Dom — Tue, 31 Mar 2026 14:37:28 -0700

‍Are you struggling with topping from the bottom in your D/s dynamic? Learn what topping from the bottom really means, why it happens, and how Dominants and submissives can rebuild trust, improve communication, and create deeper, more satisfying power exchange relationships.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:16) - What Is Topping From the Bottom?
(03:32) - What Isn’t Topping From the Bottom
(07:06) - Topping From the Bottom vs. Bratting
(08:13) - Why Do Submissives Top From the Bottom?
(15:59) - How to Address Topping From the Bottom
(16:27) - What the Dom Can Do
(24:54) - What the Submissive Can Do

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Tantric Touch: More Than Just a Pleasurable Massage

Brandon The Dom — Tue, 31 Mar 2026 14:32:42 -0700

Want to deepen intimacy and pleasure through touch? Tantric Touch enhances connection with intentional, mindful techniques for sensual intimacy, deeper bonding, and experiencing pleasure beyond goal-driven sex.

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Service Top: An Overlooked Role (Which Can Make You A Better Dom)

Brandon The Dom — Tue, 31 Mar 2026 14:27:21 -0700

What does it mean to be a Service Top in BDSM? Discover how giving from the Top can be just as fulfilling as receiving, why Dominants should learn to serve too, and how genuine service deepens trust, pleasure, and connection.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:15) - What Is a Service Top?
(03:50) - Why Be of Service as a Top?
(05:29) - Why Be of Service as a Dom?
(07:23) - How to Be of Service as a Top

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BDSM Q&A: Discipline Without Punishment, Praise Kinks, Trust Building & Attachment Styles in D/s

Brandon The Dom — Tue, 03 Mar 2026 14:40:42 -0800

In this special video, I'm addressing your burning questions from the YouTube comments section, offering more detailed responses than a quick reply. Stay tuned for practical insights on navigating complex dynamics and fostering stronger connections in bdsm dynamics and relationships.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:16) - Q1: Trust Building After Harm
(06:52) - Q2: Discipline Without Punishment
(12:02) - Q3: Giving Spiritual Praise
(15:51) - Q4: Opposite Attachment Styles in D/s Dynamics

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Supporting a Traumatized Partner in BDSM & Sex

Brandon The Dom — Tue, 03 Mar 2026 14:40:20 -0800

How can you support a partner with trauma while exploring sex or BDSM safely and lovingly? Learn trauma-informed ways to build trust, create emotional safety, and help your partner reconnect with their body, pleasure, and power.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:17) - What Is Trauma?
(02:36) - How Trauma May Manifest in BDSM
(05:33) - How Trauma Impacts Pleasure
(06:14) - How Trauma Impacts Power Exchange
(07:35) - How to Support a Partner with Trauma
(10:02) - Stage 1: Safety & Stabilization
(16:59) - Stage 2: Remembrance and Mourning
(18:57) - Stage 3: Reconnecting and Integrating
(28:27) - Stage 4: Consolidation and Resolution

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How to Navigate Age Gap Relationships (and Other Power Imbalances)

Brandon The Dom — Tue, 03 Mar 2026 14:35:14 -0800

What is an age gap relationship, and can it really work? Explore the dynamics, benefits, and potential risks of age gap relationships, and learn how informed consent, communication, and mutual respect can make them fulfilling and nurturing for both partners.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:16) - What Are Age Gap Relationships?
(01:59) - Why Would Someone Want to Be in an Age Gap Relationship?
(02:34) - Why a Younger Person Might Want to Engage in an Age Gap Relationship
(04:30) - Why an Older Person Might Want to Engage in an Age Gap Relationship
(06:36) - Mutual Intentions and Considerations
(07:26) - How to Mitigate the Risks of Power Imbalance
(09:09) - Fallacy of Age Equals Maturity
(11:36) - Fallacy of Power Imbalances Leading to Exploitation
(13:07) - How to Engage in an Age Gap Relationship
(18:41) - How to Express Concerns About Age Gap Relationships

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Make Roleplay Hotter, Easier, and Less Awkward

Brandon The Dom — Tue, 03 Mar 2026 14:26:35 -0800

What makes roleplay sex so exciting? Discover how erotic roleplay engages your most powerful sexual organ—the brain—while helping you explore taboo desires, deepen intimacy, and have a lot more fun in and out of the bedroom.

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(00:00) - Intro
(00:15) - What is Sexual Roleplay?
(01:02) - Why People Roleplay
(03:45) - How to Roleplay
(05:44) - Levels of Roleplay
(08:36) - What To Do When It Feels Awkward
(09:23) - Returning to Reality

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Discipline Isn’t Punishment: The Secret to a Thriving D/s Relationship

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 30 Jan 2026 13:29:31 -0800

Ever wondered how discipline can make your BDSM dynamic stronger and more erotic? Discover how expanding your understanding of discipline—beyond just punishment—creates structure, accountability, and deeper connection for both Dominant and submissive.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:16) - What is Discipline?
(01:43) - Discipline vs. Punishment
(02:44) - Why Use Discipline?
(04:47) - Step 1: Start with Self-Discipline
(06:20) - Step 2: Give the Dynamic a Purpose
(09:52) - Step 3: Create a Code of Conduct
(13:59) - Step 4: Use the Accountability Triangle
(14:50) - Rewards
(16:49) - Punishment
(19:54) - Feedback
(24:31) - Step 5: Adjusting the Code of Conduct

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Tantric Eye Gazing: A Practice Far More Vulnerable Than Sex

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 30 Jan 2026 13:24:59 -0800

What if deeper intimacy could begin with a single gaze? Eye gazing is a powerful Tantric practice that helps couples and individuals build connection, trust, and presence by simply looking into each other’s eyes. Learn the difference between eye gazing and staring, why it’s so transformative, and how to start your own practice—solo or with a partner.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:22) - What is Tantric Eye Gazing?
(02:12) - Eye Gazing vs. Staring
(03:12) - Why Engage in Eye Gazing
(07:28) - How Does This Improve Your Relationship and Sex Life?
(08:46) - How to Engage in Tantric Eye Gazing
(09:33) - How to Eye Gaze with a Partner
(13:15) - How to Eye Gaze on Your Own

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Predicament Bondage: Turning Submission into an Exhilarating Game

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 30 Jan 2026 13:21:54 -0800

Curious about predicament bondage? Discover how this unique form of BDSM combines restraint, creativity, and psychology to create thrilling challenges where the submissive must choose between pain, pleasure, or surrender.

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(00:00) - Intro
(00:15) - What Is Predicament Bondage?
(02:01) - Why Do People Enjoy Predicament Bondage?
(03:59) - How to Design Predicament Bondage
(04:29) - Risk Management & Safety
(08:27) - Motivations
(09:51) - Strategies
(13:28) - Tips for the Submissive

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10 Unexpected Benefits of Dom-Sub Relationships

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 30 Jan 2026 13:19:53 -0800

Ever wondered what makes a Dom sub relationship so powerful? This video explores the potential benefits of power exchange within BDSM dynamics, from deeper intimacy to hotter passion. I discuss how these relationships can lead to personal growth and offers valuable relationship advice for those curious about this kink lifestyle.

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(00:00) - Intro
(00:11) - What Are Dom/sub Relationships?
(03:37) - Who Actually Has the Power in the Relationship?
(06:08) - Benefit 1: Needs Are Met. Boundaries Are Respected.
(08:54) - Benefit 2: You Establish Consent for Everything
(12:04) - Benefit 3: Shared Purpose & Values
(13:47) - Benefit 4: Clearly Defined Roles
(16:28) - Benefit 5: Knowing What You're Supposed To Do
(17:51) - Benefit 6: Becoming New Versions of Yourself
(19:31) - Benefit 7: Exploration of Identity
(21:17) - Benefit 8: Polarity & Erotic Tension
(23:34) - Benefit 9: Intimacy Through Vulnerability
(24:43) - Benefit 10: Sex in the Foreground

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Your First BDSM Party: Here's What to Expect

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 30 Jan 2026 13:12:04 -0800

Ever wondered what really goes on at a BDSM Play Party? Learn how to survive your first event, turn nerves into confidence, and have an unforgettable night of kink, connection, and fun—without feeling lost or overwhelmed.

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Is a Free Use Kink Really Just Unlimited Sex?

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 26 Dec 2025 10:10:29 -0800

Curious about free use kink? Discover what it is, how it works, why people enjoy it, and the rules of consent that make it both thrilling and safe. Learn how to explore free use kink responsibly in this guide.

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(00:00) - Intro
(00:09) - What is a Free Use Kink
(03:49) - Types of Free Use
(04:41) - Why Do People Enjoy Free Use?
(06:28) - How to Engage in Free Use
(09:58) - Free Use Scenarios to Try

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Types of Doms: Which One Are You Meant to Be?

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 26 Dec 2025 10:07:00 -0800

Curious about which Dom you are—or could become? Explore the different types of Doms in BDSM, from classic Masters to sensual Pleasure Doms, and learn how to find or craft a persona that fits your true desires.

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(00:00) - Intro
(00:15) - What is a Dom?
(02:36) - Types of Doms
(08:45) - How to Create Your Own Dominant Persona
(11:59) - Step 1: Understand Yourself
(12:22) - Understanding Your Desires
(15:56) - Understanding Your Personality
(17:50) - Understanding Your Values
(18:58) - Step 2: Decide What You Do
(19:15) - Choosing Activities
(20:23) - Choosing the Energy in Your Behavior
(21:39) - Choosing Your Tools & Toys
(23:21) - Step 3: Craft How You Look
(23:57) - Craft Your Wardrobe
(24:49) - Craft Your Environment

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How to Set Boundaries and Limits in BDSM

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 26 Dec 2025 10:01:49 -0800

What’s the difference between BDSM limits and boundaries—and why do they matter so much? Learn how to confidently set, communicate, and honor your BDSM limits and boundaries to create safer, hotter, and more connected power exchange dynamics.

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(00:00) - Intro
(00:16) - BDSM Limits vs. Boundaries
(02:41) - Why Have Limits and Boundaries in BDSM?
(05:07) - How to Discover Your BDSM Limits
(07:46) - How to Set Boundaries
(10:15) - Set Boundaries for What You Can Control

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Praise Kink: The Deeper Intimate Power Play You’re Not Talking About

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 26 Dec 2025 09:58:55 -0800

What if praise could unravel you more than pain? In this video, we explore the psychology behind the praise kink and how affirmation play can deepen intimacy in your D/s relationships. Discover the emotional intelligence involved in this BDSM dynamic and how it contributes to personal growth and healthy relationships.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:10) - What is a Praise Kink?
(01:13) - Praise Kink vs. Words of Affirmation
(02:15) - Why People Might Have a Praise Kink
(05:12) - Risks of a Praise Kink
(06:26) - Praise vs. Intimacy-Deepening Praise
(12:01) - How to Stop Seeking External Validation

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Why BDSM Play Is More Than Just Kinky Fun

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 26 Dec 2025 09:56:24 -0800

What if BDSM play is more than just kink? Explore how BDSM play can become a powerful tool for psychological growth, shadow integration, and deeper self-awareness through role play.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:14) - What is BDSM Play?
(01:09) - Play as Cognitive Development
(03:27) - Play as Integrating the Shadow
(05:45) - Why Use BDSM Play to Explore Your Shadow
(08:50) - How to Engage in BDSM Play

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13 Ways to Engage in Public Play & Sex

Brandon The Dom — Wed, 26 Nov 2025 13:29:22 -0800

Curious how to explore your kinks in public without getting caught? This guide to public play and public sex shows you how to stay discreet, ethical, and wildly turned on—anywhere.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:12) - What is Public Play?
(01:20) - Why do people enjoy orgasm control?
(03:21) - 16 Ways to Practice Orgasm Control
(08:41) - Important considerations for orgasm control

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Light Bondage for Beginners (Without Learning Rope!)

Brandon The Dom — Wed, 26 Nov 2025 13:26:06 -0800

Curious about bondage but not ready for rope? Discover light bondage for beginners—safe, sexy ways to restrain your partner without needing knots. Learn fun, easy techniques using everyday items and build trust and intimacy in your BDSM play.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:18) - What is Bondage?
(02:38) - Why Do People Enjoy Bondage?
(04:35) - Risks & Safety
(08:14) - Ways to Perform Bondage
(09:53) - Types of Light Bondage for Beginners

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How To Train a Service Sub in BDSM

Brandon The Dom — Wed, 26 Nov 2025 13:23:10 -0800

What if the most powerful kind of submission didn’t involve ropes, pain, or punishment—but quiet devotion? This deep dive into the world of the service sub explores the psychology, practices, and emotional intimacy behind acts of service in Dom/sub dynamics. Discover how small tasks become sacred rituals and why this underrated role holds transformative potential for both Dominants and submissives.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:27) - What is a Service Sub?
(02:30) - Why Might Someone Enjoy Being a Service Sub?
(05:26) - Why Might Someone Enjoy Being Served?
(07:12) - Creating Tasks for Service Subs
(10:52) - Addressing the Service Submissive’s Needs
(13:27) - Training a Service Sub
(14:44) - Correcting Mistakes
(15:58) - Aftercare for Service Submission
(16:48) - Principles for Being a Service Sub

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How to Have Difficult Conversations with Your Partner

Brandon The Dom — Wed, 26 Nov 2025 13:16:27 -0800

Need to have a talk with a partner? This guide explores the art of navigating difficult conversations, with proven tools for improving communication skills, and creating deeper connections—whether in serious or casual relationships.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:13) - Why are difficult conversations so hard?
(02:44) - How to Have Difficult Conversations
(03:36) - Step One: Prepare Yourself
(05:50) - Step Two: Setting the Stage
(11:23) - Step Three: Create a Container
(16:36) - Step Four: Having the Conversation
(24:16) - Bonus: Difficult Conversations in Situationships

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Degradation Kink: A Misunderstood Dark Art in BDSM

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 31 Oct 2025 07:22:02 -0700

What draws people to degradation kink, and how can something so taboo become deeply healing? This article unpacks the psychology, purpose, and ethical practice of degradation kink in BDSM, including how it differs from humiliation and objectification. Learn how to engage in these dark arts with intention, consent, and care—for both Dominants and submissives.

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(00:00) - Intro
(00:23) - What is Degradation
(01:40) - Degradation vs Humiliation vs Objectification
(03:53) - Why Might a Submissive Want to Engage in These Types of Play?
(06:46) - Why Might a Dom Want to Engage in These Types of Play?
(11:52) - Those Using Degradation to Cause Harm
(15:44) - How to Engage in Degradation
(17:49) - Ways to Engage in Degradation Play

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Master the Dominant Mindset: 3 Keys to Authentic Power in the Bedroom

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 31 Oct 2025 07:18:26 -0700

Want to step into a truly dominant mindset without feeling like you're just playing a role? Discover how embracing your authentic desires, removing shame, and learning to take control will transform your confidence and give your submissive exactly what she craves.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:16) - Three Keys
(01:01) - Key 1: Identifying Your Desires
(07:57) - Key 2: Removing Shame
(11:29) - Key 3: Ask For Your Desires
(15:15) - Learning to Take
(18:17) - Learning to Accept
(21:02) - Learning to Serve
(24:17) - Learning to Allow

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Primal Play: Learn to Have Sex Like an Animal

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 31 Oct 2025 07:14:46 -0700

Ever felt the urge to growl, bite, or pin your partner down in a wild, uninhibited frenzy? Primal play is a raw and instinctual form of BDSM that strips away rules and protocol, letting your animalistic desires take over. Whether you're into rough sex, consensual non-consent (CNC), wrestling for dominance, or simply craving deep, carnal connection—this guide explores everything you need to unleash your wild side.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:28) - What is Primal Play?
(01:17) - Primal Play vs Pet Play vs Furries
(02:45) - Primal vs Rough Sex vs CNC
(04:47) - Primal Play vs Dominance and Submission
(05:46) - Primal Play vs Tantra
(06:29) - Psychology of Primal Play
(10:48) - Risks of Primal Play
(12:14) - Ways to engage in Primal Play

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16 Ways to Practice Orgasm Control

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 31 Oct 2025 07:11:34 -0700

Curious about orgasm control? This video goes beyond a simple edging technique, exploring how dominance and submission can be heightened with techniques like forced orgasms and orgasm denial. Learn how to intensify pleasure with these bdsm practices.

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Do You Want a Dom, a Top, or Just Some Rough Sex?

Brandon The Dom — Mon, 29 Sep 2025 08:21:21 -0700

Do you actually want a Dom, a Top, or just rough sex? Many people use the word "Dominant" without defining their desires, leading to frustration and disappointment. Learn the differences between rough sex, kinky play with a skilled Top, and power exchange with a Dom—helping you clarify what you want and communicate it effectively.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:23) - Common Mistake
(02:09) - Difference between Dom, Top, and rough sex
(02:17) - How to Be a Trustworthy Dom
(04:25) - Wanting Rough Sex
(05:04) - Wanting a Top
(06:00) - Wanting a Dom
(07:35) - What do you actually want?

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Secrets to Building Trust in D/s (And Any Relationship)!

Brandon The Dom — Mon, 29 Sep 2025 08:18:25 -0700

Explore the two sides of trust in Dom/Sub dynamics. Understand how to be trustworthy and how to trust your partner, creating a fulfilling and secure D/s relationship.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:01) - What is trust?
(01:38) - Why Is Trust Important in D/s Relationships?
(02:17) - How to Be a Trustworthy Dom
(08:40) - How to Be a Trustworthy Submissive
(13:54) - How to Be Trusting
(18:22) - How to Start Trusting as a Submissive
(20:53) - How to Start Trusting as a Dom

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How to Find a Good Sub (Advice from 3 BDSM Doms)

Brandon The Dom — Mon, 29 Sep 2025 08:17:04 -0700

Advice from 3 experienced Doms, including @Andy_Wells , Mario, and myself, for Doms focusing on the search for a compatible sub. Learn key elements of dominance and submission, ensuring a safe and fulfilling dynamic.

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5 Principles for BDSM Rewards for Submissives

Brandon The Dom — Mon, 29 Sep 2025 08:09:47 -0700

Has your submissive been a good girl? Need a way to encourage and appreciate her for her efforts? Learn about BDSM rewards for submissives including the 5 principles of rewards, the different systems and levels of rewards, and different types of rewards with examples.

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(00:00) - Intro
(00:17) - What are BDSM Rewards?
(01:33) - Why reward a submissive?
(03:06) - Principle 1: Internal vs. External Motivation
(05:11) - Principle 2: The Reward Must Be Something They Want
(06:06) - Principle 3: The Reward Must Be Given Enthusiastically
(06:55) - Principle 4: Let Your Submissive Know the Rewards in Advance
(07:20) - Principle 5: Explain Why They Are Being Rewarded
(08:08) - Timing of Rewards
(11:32) - Levels of Rewards
(13:51) - Examples of Rewards

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7 Principles for BDSM Punishments for Submissives

Brandon The Dom — Wed, 03 Sep 2025 08:46:36 -0700

When a submissive breaks a rule, what is the best course of action? This video explores BDSM punishments for submissives including the 7 principles of punishments, the different levels of punishment and how to choose the correct one, and different types of punishments with examples.

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(00:00) - Intro
(00:17) - What are BDSM Punishments?
(01:06) - Why Punish a Submissive?
(02:16) - Principle 1: Check Yourself First
(03:33) - Principle 2: The Punishment Should Match the Crime
(04:05) - Principle 3: Let Your Submissive Know the Punishments in Advance
(04:58) - Principle 4: Be Prompt in Administering Punishments
(05:56) - Principle 5: Be Firm Yet Understanding
(06:37) - Principle 6: Explain Why They Are Being Punished
(07:41) - Principle 7: Punish from a Place of Love
(08:26) - Levels of Punishment
(12:43) - Types of Punishments

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Why Cockwarming Might Be Your New Favorite Thing!

Brandon The Dom — Wed, 03 Sep 2025 08:43:52 -0700

Explore the world of BDSM and discover how subtle acts can be incredibly fulfilling. This video delves into the concept of cockwarming, emphasizing that not every act needs to be high dominance or aggressive. Learn how to incorporate this simple act into your dynamic.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:15) - What is cockwarming?
(01:10) - Why do people enjoy cockwarming?
(03:03) - How to engage in cockwarming
(04:19) - Tips & techniques for cockwarming

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How to Find a Good Dom (Advice from 3 BDSM Doms)

Brandon The Dom — Wed, 03 Sep 2025 08:43:37 -0700

Advice from 3 experienced Doms, including @Andy_Wells, Mario, and myself, for submissives focusing on the search for a compatible Dom. Learn key elements of dominance and submission, ensuring a safe and fulfilling dynamic.

TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:41) - Green flags in Doms
(04:21) - Starting slow
(08:03) - Discussing play beforehand
(16:14) - Meeting the submissive at their level
(22:19) - Having humility as a Dom
(33:03) - Understanding the intention behind desires
(43:20) - Feeling safe with the Dom
(47:58) - Asserting yourself as a submissive
(52:30) - Handling trauma triggers
(56:22) - Separating kink and sex
(01:05:38) - Aftercare
(01:10:07) - The Overconfident Dom

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What Happens When Kindness Meets Power? (Advice from a Pro Domme)

Brandon The Dom — Wed, 03 Sep 2025 08:36:50 -0700

This video features an interview with @domme_claire , a professional dominatrix, and @Andy_Wells , discussing dominance and how it can be used to help others. The conversation highlights a philosophy of kindness, care, and building up submissives through positive leadership.

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Two Must-Ask Questions for Better Sex

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 08 Aug 2025 11:33:00 -0700

These two deceptively simple questions will change your sex life and drastically improve your chances of finding fulfillment in your pleasure.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(01:36) - Question 1: Who is in control?
(04:56) - Question 2: For whom is this intended for?
(12:28) - Challenges in answering these questions

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Face Fucking Guide: Techniques and Positions for Aggressive Oral Sex

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 08 Aug 2025 11:28:57 -0700

For those who enjoy rough sex or BDSM power play, traditional oral sex can be turned up a few notches to become face f**king. This article will take you through how to (safely) have sex with your partner’s face and make it pleasurable for the both of you.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:15) - What is Aggressive Oral Sex?
(01:59) - Why do people enjoy Aggressive Oral Sex?
(03:12) - Risks of Aggressive Oral Sex
(04:26) - Positions for Aggressive Oral Sex
(08:44) - Tips & Techniques for Aggressive Oral Sex
(13:38) - Tips for the submissive

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Ethical Non Monogamy: A Practical Guide to Having Multiple Partners

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 08 Aug 2025 11:24:59 -0700

Curious about ethical non monogamy? Learn what ethical non monogamy (ENM) is, why someone would want to share or have multiple partners, and how to practice ENM for multiple happy relationships.

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(00:00) - Intro
(00:14) - What is Ethical Non Monogamy
(02:05) - Myths about ENM
(04:57) - Spectrum of ENM
(06:45) - Popular types of ENM
(09:49) - My journey into ENM
(17:09) - Common reasons why people choose ENM
(20:38) - How to Practice Ethical Non Monogamy
(21:30) - Desires
(22:40) - Boundaries
(24:41) - Capacity
(31:10) - Communication

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3 Pillars to Structure the Perfect BDSM Scene

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 08 Aug 2025 11:21:16 -0700

Want to craft a great BDSM scene? These 3 foundational pillars will equip you with an easy to use formula for you to create scenes that will help Doms and subs reach the heights of pleasure and depths of subspace.

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(00:00) - Intro
(00:15) - Secret to great scenes
(01:24) - Planning a scene vs winging it
(02:51) - Pillar 1: Goal
(08:08) - Pillar 2: Sequencing
(11:45) - Pillar 3: Perfect Moments
(12:37) - Perfect Moments: Intention
(18:03) - Perfect Moments: Energy
(22:22) - Perfect Moments: Action

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Biting During Sex Tips & Techniques

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 08 Aug 2025 11:07:07 -0700

Today's episode is a guide on biting during sex, focusing on safety and technique. Learn how to ensure a positive experience with these sex education tips for achieving mutual pleasure. This step-by-step guide provides crucial safety tips for those interested in exploring BDSM.

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(00:00) - Intro
(01:14) - Why do people enjoy biting during sex?
(03:37) - Risks with biting
(04:52) - Where to bite
(06:19) - Techniques for biting
(10:49) - Goal of biting
(11:25) - Start low and slow
(12:58) - Timing your bites
(14:15) - Hickeys from biting
(14:59) - Tips for the submissive

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How to Stop Having Unfulfilling Situationships

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 27 Jun 2025 10:48:51 -0700

Tired of unfulfilling situationships? Learn the simple (but sometimes hard to do) practice to build a more fulfilling relationship.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:19) - What is a situationship?
(01:41) - Why you have anxiety in the relationship
(02:29) - Breaking down relationship needs
(04:05) - The need for monogamy
(05:45) - The need to feel special
(06:21) - How to build a fulfilling relationship

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▶️ Attachment Styles Explained: https://youtu.be/hri5rLcckao

Face Slapping Tips for Rougher Sex & Safe BDSM Play

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 27 Jun 2025 10:46:38 -0700

Today's video offers guidance on incorporating face slapping into rough play, focusing on safety and technique. Learn how to ensure a positive experience with these sex education tips. This step-by-step guide to face slapping provides crucial safety tips.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:54) - Why do people enjoy face slapping?
(02:33) - Risks with face slapping
(05:28) - Face Slapping Technique
(08:42) - Goal of face slapping
(09:52) - Practice with spanking first
(10:26) - Remove jewlery
(11:07) - Start close to their face
(12:39) - Place your hand on the other cheek
(13:54) - Tips for the submissive

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📖 Manhandling: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/manhandling
▶️ Hair Pulling: https://youtu.be/O3i5mQ8UPFo
▶️ Choking: https://youtu.be/mnfS7X2HjXQ
📖 Spanking: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/spanking

7 Techniques To Last Longer In Bed

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 27 Jun 2025 10:44:40 -0700

Cumming to quickly? Want to increase the amount of time you have intercourse? This video will breakdown everything you need to know about lasting longer during in the bedroom including the one must know concept of PNR and 7 techniques that will take from ejaculating in mere minutes to lasting as long as you'd like.

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Consent, Trauma, & Healing in BDSM

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 13 Jun 2025 08:01:06 -0700

Can BDSM be healing for those who have experienced their consent being abused? @Andy_Wells and I discuss navigating consent, helping women through bad past experiences, speaking up for needs, and how men can be judged and shamed in the bedroom too.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:41) - Using BDSM to regain power from trauma
(06:28) - Exploring new boundaries
(18:20) - Learning to say no game
(21:43) - Past experiences of saying no
(26:15) - Speaking up for your needs
(28:31) - When acts are traumatic vs not
(36:50) - Doms can't read minds
(47:03) - Creating safety
(50:13) - Being judged as a man in the bedroom
(01:03:15) - Standing up for your values
(01:09:15) - Introducing your partner to new sex acts

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▶️ 7 Essential Behaviors of a Good Dominant in BDSM: https://youtu.be/X71KFnyNreo
▶️ Quick Guide to Becoming a Sexually Dominant Man: https://youtu.be/nvrmToZ8cdc

Hair Pulling During Sex Guide: Tips & Techniques

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 13 Jun 2025 07:49:52 -0700

Today we're diving into the world of hair pulling and sex, but we're focusing on proper techniques. Learn how to make hair pulling a pleasurable experience, not a painful one. Explore the best way to achieve mutual pleasure with these sex education tips.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:38) - Why do people enjoy hair pulling during sex?
(02:00) - Risks of hair pulling during sex
(03:05) - Where to pull hair to avoid damage
(03:44) - Hair pulling techniques
(24:26) - Tips for using hair pulling during sex

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How to Deal with Sub Drop Physically, Mentally, and Emotionally

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 13 Jun 2025 07:48:03 -0700

Feeling down after a scene? You might be experiencing sub drop, a common occurrence in the BDSM world. This video helps you understand the feelings associated with sub drop and offers simple tips on how to navigate it with your dominant and submissive partner.

TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:13) - What is sub drop?
(01:41) - What does sub drop feel like?
(03:12) - How to deal with sub drop
(03:40) - Physical remedies for sub drop
(08:47) - Mental remedies for sub drop
(13:05) - Emotional remedies for sub drop

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▶️ 7 Essential Behaviors for a Good Submissive in BDSM: https://youtu.be/c7OY-RzF0RM

Manhandling Techniques & Tips for Rougher Sex & BDSM

Brandon The Dom — Sun, 18 May 2025 11:01:45 -0700

Learn how to manhandle your submissive in the bedroom so she can feel your Dominance and intensify her pleasure in sex and BDSM play.

TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:08) - What is manhandling?
(02:45) - Why do submissives enjoy being manhandled?
(04:21) - One key mindset for manhandling
(05:55) - Best techniques for manhandling
(20:45) - Tips for putting manhandling into practice
(24:26) - Tips for the submissive being manhandled

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🔥 Manhandling Article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/manhandling
▶️ 7 Essential Behaviors of a Good Dominant in BDSM: https://youtu.be/X71KFnyNreo
📖 Quick Guide to Becoming a Sexually Dominant Man: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/dominant-sex
📖 A Complete Guide to Dirty Talk for Doms: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/dominant-dirty-talk

How to be a Brat Tamer - The Secret to Taming Bratty Submissives

Brandon The Dom — Sun, 18 May 2025 11:00:05 -0700

Learn the secret to taming brats, misconceptions about brats, different brats you might run into, effective strategies and mindsets for being a brat tamer, and example punishments for brats.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro
(00:17) - What are brat submissives?
(00:57) - Misconceptions about brats
(03:31) - Why do submissives brat?
(07:05) - How to tame brats
(09:18) - Mindsets for brat taming
(11:29) - Brat tamer punishment ideas

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📖 BDSM Punishments for Submissives: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/bdsm-punishments
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Dating Coach Thomas Crown Reviews My Book on Dominance & BDSM

Brandon The Dom — Fri, 02 May 2025 06:12:49 -0700

Daygame & Dating Coach, Thomas Crown reviews my recent book, Enter the Dom: The No BS Book on Dominance. He gave Mario and I some in depth feedback about the book. The book is part self-help, part-BDSM introduction, and aims to help men discover their dominance and explore their sexual fantasies.

We had a great idea for me to give my feedback and discuss the book as a podcast. I hope you enjoy the discussion.

Follow
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- Thomas on X @ CrownDaygame
- Mario on X @ MarioTheDom

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▶️ What is a Pleasure Dom?: https://youtu.be/OGW7RinAn-o

How to Be a Better Dominant (Advice from 3 BDSM Doms)

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 01 May 2025 14:35:27 -0700

Want to become a better Dominant? In this powerful and candid interview, three experienced Doms share real talk on what it truly means to lead in the bedroom—and beyond.

We dive into:
- The true essence of dominance
- Common mistakes new Doms make
- What to do your first time with a new submissive
- How to step into a dominant mindset
- Proven tools, tips, and techniques
- Plus, some hilarious and eye-opening stories from the field

This conversation originally took place on @Andy_Wells channel and features myself, my co-author Mario Tubone, and Andy himself—three Doms with decades of combined experience.

We're also talking about our new book: Enter the Dom: The No-BS Book on Dominance—a practical, no-fluff guide for anyone looking to deepen their dominant presence.

Whether you're just starting out or looking to level up your power exchange dynamics, this is a must-watch.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - - Intro
(00:56) - - Introducing Mario Tubone and Brandon the Dom
(03:56) - - What is Dominance and Submission mean to us?
(09:33) - - Mistake the First Time Doms Make
(10:39) - - What to Do Your First Time with a Submissive Woman
(26:58) - - Intentions and caring for your submissive
(36:12) - - Vulnerability & power as a Dom
(48:23) - - How to try your first kinky things
(01:03:33) - - Starting with dirty talk
(01:12:47) - - Getting into a Dominant Mindset
(01:15:24) - - Surrendering as a Dom
(01:24:57) - - Building trust between the Dom and submissive
(01:41:43) - - A healthy mindset for dating as a Dom
(01:46:02) - - Enter the Dom Book

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5 Techniques for Safer Erotic Choking in Sex and BDSM Play

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 01 May 2025 14:27:21 -0700

Learn 5 techniques, risks and considerations for engaging in erotic choking (erotic asphyxiation) and how to safely incorporate it into sex and BDSM play with your submissive.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - - Intro
(00:18) - - What is Erotic Choking?
(01:12) - - Why do people enjoy Erotic Choking?
(03:02) - - Risks of Erotic Choking
(05:06) - - Where to Choke
(06:49) - - Best Techniques for Erotic Choking
(08:11) - - Level 1: Resting hands on chest
(09:24) - - Level 2: Fantasy Choke
(10:48) - - Level 3: Breath Choke
(12:02) - - Level 4: Blood Choke
(13:41) - - Level 5: Extreme breath play
(14:22) - - Remember your goal
(14:46) - - Medical considerations
(15:34) - - Start softly
(16:24) - - Time on, Time off
(18:00) - - Communication
(19:40) - - Passing out
(20:51) - - Tips for the submissive

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▶️ Three Tools to Discover Your Turn-Ons: https://youtu.be/Hl4J7hWqk7M
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Attending Your First BDSM Munch? Here’s What to Expect

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 01 May 2025 14:24:41 -0700

Want to start getting into the kink scene and community? Try a munch, a social gathering for kinky people. In this video, learn what happens at munches, what to talk about, how to act, and where to find them.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - - Intro
(00:19) - - What is a munch?
(02:16) - - What do you do at a munch?
(04:36) - - What do you talk about at a munch?
(06:03) - - Why attend a munch?
(09:42) - - How am I supposed to act at a munch?
(14:17) - - Getting into the kink community

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Improve Your BDSM Spanking Skills With These Essential Tips

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 01 May 2025 14:22:16 -0700

Learn the best techniques and positions for delivering an unforgettable spanking experience for your submissive.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - - Intro
(00:45) - - Why do people enjoy spanking?
(03:33) - - Where to spank
(06:31) - - Best spanking positions
(10:27) - - Best spanking techniques
(15:20) - - Remember your goal
(15:51) - - Warm up
(17:28) - - Start at the appropriate intensity level
(19:31) - - Find a Rhythm
(20:18) - - Communication during spanking
(22:22) - - Using sensual & erotic touch in between
(23:51) - - Tips for the submissive being spanked

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FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED:
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▶️ Subspace: What Every Submissive Needs to Know About This Drug Like State: https://youtu.be/rt1-B_m-6yE
▶️ Three Tools to Discover Your Turn-Ons: https://youtu.be/Hl4J7hWqk7M
📖 Free Sex Menu with 350+ Acts: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/sex-menu

9 Tools for Dominants to Pleasure Their Submissive

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 01 May 2025 14:18:06 -0700

If you think being a Pleasure Dom is just about giving orgasms, you're mistaken. In this video, I will reveal to you what a Pleasure Dom is, their psychology, nine sexy tools to use as a Pleasure Dom, how to be submissive for one, and an example scene for you to try.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - - Intro
(00:20) - - What is a Pleasure Dom?
(06:55) - - Why Be a Pleasure Dom?
(08:34) - - Tool 1: Indulging Your Sub’s Kinks & Fantasies
(09:22) - - Tool 2: Orgasm Control
(11:22) - - Tool 3: Edging
(12:16) - - Tool 4: Teasing
(13:19) - - Tool 5: Sensation Play
(14:15) - - Tool 6: Spanking
(15:54) - - Tool 7: Toys
(16:51) - - Tool 8: Tantric Sex
(19:23) - - Tool 9: Overstimulation
(21:12) - - When to use the tools
(24:08) - - How to be a Submissive
(28:28) - - Example Scene

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▶️ Subspace: What Every Submissive Needs to Know About This Drug Like State: https://youtu.be/rt1-B_m-6yE
▶️ Overcoming Sexual Shame With Seven Powerful Tactics: https://youtu.be/OXaSErYnl50
▶️ Three Tools to Discover Your Turn-Ons: https://youtu.be/Hl4J7hWqk7M
▶️ Five Tools to Communicate Your Turn-Ons: https://youtu.be/uQdZ_dmdHxo
📖 Free Sex Menu with 350+ Acts: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/sex-menu
📖 Tantric Touch: More Than Just a Pleasurable Massage: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/tantric-touch
📖 Tantric Yoni Massage Guide: Pleasure Her Body Like She’s Never Felt Before: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/yoni-massage
📖 BDSM Spanking Guide: Tips, Techniques, and Positions for Erotic Spanking : https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/spanking
📖 A Complete Guide to Dirty Talk for Subs: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/submissive-dirty-talk

Overcoming Sexual Shame With Seven Powerful Tactics

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 03 Apr 2025 07:00:31 -0700

In this episode, Brandon the Dom will explain seven powerful tactics to help you overcome sexual shame and embrace your sexuality. If you struggle with feelings of shame around sex, this video is for you.

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🔥 TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - - Intro
(00:13) - - What is Shame?
(02:05) - - Why do you feel shame for your sexual desires?
(04:17) - - Are your sexual desires wrong?
(08:16) - - My Experience with Sexual Shame
(10:36) - - Tactic 1: Leave groups where sexual acts are shameful
(13:04) - - Tactic 2: Join groups where sexual acts are accepted
(15:52) - - Tactic 3: Journaling
(16:34) - - Tactic 4: Digest your emotions
(20:31) - - Tactic 5: Exposure
(22:14) - - Tactic 6: Sexual Disclosure
(24:47) - - Tactic 7: Stop praising and punishing yourself

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5 Steps to Make Your Man More Dominant in the Bedroom

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 03 Apr 2025 06:54:46 -0700

Are you craving more dominance from your man in the bedroom? In this episode, Brandon the Dom reveals 5 psychology-based steps to naturally encourage and draw out his dominant masculine energy. Perfect for women who love their partner's caring nature but want him to take more control intimately. Learn how to create the right environment for his dominance to flourish without nagging or criticism.

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🔥 TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - - Intro
(02:04) - - Why He's Afraid to Be Dominant
(06:56) - - Step 1: Express Your Desire for Dominance
(09:08) - - Step 2: Give Him Opportunities to Lead
(10:59) - - Step 3: Act Submissive to Polarize the Dynamic
(12:58) - - Step 4: Be More Sexually Forward
(14:21) - - Step 5: Encourage and Praise His Dominant Acts
(17:00) - - Conclusion: Your Power as a Submissive

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- Five Tools to Communicate Your Turn-Ons: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/turn-on-communication
- Sex Menu Template: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/sex-menu
- Essential Behaviors for a Good Submissive: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/what-is-a-good-submissive
- Quick Guide to Becoming a Sexually Dominant Man: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/dominant-sex
- Get Free Advice: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice

Subspace: What Every Submissive Needs to Know About This Drug Like State

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 03 Apr 2025 06:49:47 -0700

In this video, Brandon the Dom explains the concept of subspace in the BDSM scene, detailing its euphoric and trance-like nature. He discusses why subspace occurs, the risks involved, and how to achieve and safely transition out of it to avoid subdrop. Brandon also shares his personal updates and provides insights into related research studies, the complementary state of 'Domspace', and aftercare practices.

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(00:00) - Introduction to Subspace
(01:48) - What is Subspace?
(02:26) - What does Subspace feel like?
(04:26) - The Science Behind Subspace
(09:10) - Can Doms Experience Subspace?
(11:16) - How to Achieve Subspace
(14:57) - Is Subspace Safe?
(17:24) - Subdrop
(18:50) - Aftercare

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📖 Subspace article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/subspace

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Sex Menu: Best Communication Tool for Turn Ons for Kink, BDSM, and Intimacy

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 03 Apr 2025 06:45:06 -0700

In this episode, Brandon the Dom introduces the concept of a 'sex menu' as a powerful communication tool for couples to express their desires effectively. This framework involves creating a comprehensive list of sexual acts and using a rating system to indicate preference levels, alongside detailed notes to enhance clarity. It aims to foster open communication, consent, and exploration of new experiences in intimate relationships. Whether in monogamous or non-monogamous settings, the sex menu helps couples share and update their evolving desires and boundaries, while respecting each other's needs and fostering a non-judgmental environment. Viewers are encouraged to download a free template provided by Brandon, which includes 350 sexual acts, to begin crafting their personalized sex menu.

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👉 Free Sex Menu with 350+ Acts: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/sex-menu

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(00:00) - Intro
(00:24) - What is a Sex Menu?
(01:18) - Benefits of a Sex Menu
(02:54) - Exploring the Sex Menu Template
(07:59) - Creating and Using Your Own Sex Menu
(11:08) - Tips for Filling Out the Sex Menu
(15:08) - Final Thoughts and Resources

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Referenced Content:
📖 5 Tools to Communicate Your Fantasies and Turn Ons with Your Partner: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/turn-on-communication
📖 Read the full article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/sex-menu

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Have Mismatched Libidos? Here's How to Fix a Sexually Incompatible Relationship

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 03 Apr 2025 06:42:17 -0700

In this episode, Brandon the Dom shares what to do if you're struggling in a sexually incompatible relationship. He explains why this occurring based on libidos being mismatched or having different sex drives, desires, or relationship structures you wish to pursue. He also shares questions to ask yourself and signs to look out for. Finally, he gives you three options so you can fix your sexual incompatibility and return to a thriving sex life.

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(00:00) - Introduction
(00:22) - What is Sexual Incompatibility
(01:09) - Mismatched Libidos
(02:01) - Different Desires
(02:45) - Different Lifestyles
(03:13) - Signs of Incompatibility
(06:51) - Option 1: Stay in the relationship and work it out
(14:10) - Option 2: Fulfill your needs outside of the relationship
(17:34) - Option 3: You end the relationship

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📖 3 Secret Tools to Discover Your Turn Ons: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/turn-ons
📖 5 Tools to Communicate Your Fantasies and Turn Ons with Your Partner: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/turn-on-communication
📖 A Practical Guide to Tantric Sex for Beginners: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/tantric-sex
📖 Free Sex Menu with 350+ Acts: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/sex-menu
📖 Read the full article: https://www.brandonthedom.com/advice/sexually-incompatible-relationship

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BDSM Sex Homework to Give Your Submissive with Example Task, Rules, and Rituals

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 03 Apr 2025 06:38:47 -0700

In this episode, Brandon the Dom shares how to assign sex homework or BDSM tasks to your submissive in order to improve your Dom sub dynamic and helping your submissive grow. He explains how to give tasks using systems, set deadlines, and creating the appropriate rewards and punishments for the homework tasks. Then he shares example task, rules, and rituals that can be done for sex homework for vanilla goals, sexual training, her self awareness, her self care, foreplay, getting her into submissive headspace, and making your life easier as a Dom.

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(00:00) - Introduction
(00:18) - What is Sex Homework
(02:59) - Step 1: Understand your goals as partners
(03:26) - Step 2: Give a task in the form of a system, not a goal
(04:53) - Step 3: Set a deadline
(05:18) - Step 4: Rewards and punishments
(09:01) - Examples of Sex Homework Tasks

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Sexual Performance Anxiety Treatment for Men: 6 Strategies for Success

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 03 Apr 2025 06:34:12 -0700

In this episode, Brandon the Dom addresses the common issue of sexual performance anxiety, explaining what it is, why it occurs, and providing effective strategies to overcome it. He discusses the psychological and physiological factors behind erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, and emphasizes the importance of reframing beliefs and focusing on pleasure rather than performance. Brandon also shares his personal experiences and offers practical techniques, including mindfulness meditation, communication with partners, and Sensate Focus exercises, to help men get out of their heads and back into their bodies for a more satisfying sex life.

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Attachment Styles Explained: Improve Your Relationships and Intimacy

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 03 Apr 2025 06:29:46 -0700

In this episode, Brandon the Dom explores the concept of attachment styles and their impact on relationships and intimate life. He explains the four types of attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—detailing how each one is formed and its effects on adult behavior. Brandon also provides practical tools and strategies for developing a more secure attachment style, offering valuable insights for anyone looking to improve their emotional health and relationship dynamics.

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5 Tools to Communicate Your Fantasies and Turn Ons with Your Partner

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 03 Apr 2025 06:24:58 -0700

In this video, Brandon the Dom addresses the common fears of sharing intimate fantasies and desires with a partner, fearing judgment or rejection. He offers five practical tools to effectively communicate these turn-ons in a non-judgmental and open environment. These tools include desire statements, pillow talk, sexual bucket lists, sex menus, and sexual disclosure, each designed to foster trust, understanding, and vulnerability in the relationship. Brandon also emphasizes the importance of practicing these methods to build a strong, accepting container where both partners can openly share and explore their desires.

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3 Secret Tools to Discover Your Turn Ons

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 03 Apr 2025 06:20:28 -0700

In this episode, Brandon the Dom delves into the importance of understanding one's own desires and turn-ons. He introduces three tools to explore the erotic mind: an erotic journal, erotic quizzes, and a sexual disclosure with a trusted partner. Brandon covers the significance of Jack Morin's concept of the core erotic theme and explains how to use these tools to gain a deeper understanding of your turn-ons, which in turn allows better communication with your partner.

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(00:00) - Introduction: Discovering Your Desires
(00:22) - The Importance of Understanding Your Turn-Ons
(01:04) - Exploring the Erotic Mind
(02:54) - Tool 1: Keeping an Erotic Journal
(09:12) - Tool 2: Taking Erotic Quizzes
(14:39) - Tool 3: Sexual Disclosure
(18:49) - Conclusion and Next Steps

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Quick Guide to Becoming a Sexually Dominant Man

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 03 Apr 2025 06:16:24 -0700

In this episode, Brandon the Dom provides a comprehensive roadmap to developing sexual dominance in the bedroom. He explains why your partner may desire dominance and outlines specific acts you can perform, from low to extreme dominance, ensuring healthy communication and consent. Brandon covers how to start with basic acts like kissing and dirty talk, progressing to more skill-intensive acts, and the importance of sequencing, maintaining tension, and building confidence. Learn how to make your partner feel desired, safe, and loved while mastering the art of dominance.

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(00:00) - Introduction to Sexual Dominance
(00:23) - Understanding Her Desires
(03:12) - Developing Your Sexual Dominance
(04:32) - Universal Acts of Dominance
(06:44) - Low Dominance Techniques
(09:05) - Medium Dominance Techniques
(10:59) - High Dominance Techniques
(12:16) - Extreme Dominance Techniques
(13:30) - Principles of Effective Dominance
(14:18) - Building Confidence and Competence
(17:01) - Sequencing
(20:12) - Tension Management
(23:03) - Conclusion and Further Guidance

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A Practical Guide to Tantric Sex for Beginners

Brandon The Dom — Thu, 03 Apr 2025 06:06:45 -0700

Join Brandon the Dom as he presents a comprehensive guide to Tantra, including its spiritual roots and practical applications for enhanced sex life and personal growth. Learn the key differences between traditional Tantra and Neo Tantra, explore the philosophies behind Tantra's practices, and discover the three essential pillars: eye contact, touch, and breath. Gain insights on integrating these principles into your intimate moments to deepen emotional connections, achieve heightened pleasure, and possibly reach a sense of divinity. Brandon also provides resources for further learning and offers free coaching sessions for personalized guidance.

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(00:00) - Introduction to Tantra
(00:31) - Understanding Tantra and Neo Tantra
(02:38) - Philosophies Underlying Tantra
(05:21) - Energy in Tantra
(06:31) - The Three Pillars of Tantra
(10:07) - Pillar 1: Eye Contact Practices
(12:05) - Pillar 2: Touch Techniques
(16:00) - Pillar 3: Breath Control
(21:30) - Combining the Pillars
(21:37) - Resources
(25:01) - Next Steps

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5 Stages of a Relationship in Pursuing Purpose (Monogamy & Non-monogamy)

Brandon The Dom — Mon, 12 Aug 2024 16:03:36 -0700

In this episode, Brandon the Dom delves into evaluating long-term life partners. Drawing from his personal experiences, Brandon explores how to assess your partner's alignment with your life purpose. He outlines five stages of relationships—need fulfillment, mutual benefit, romantic trial period, engagement/resource trial period, and full commitment—highlighting the importance of aligning purposes for a successful partnership. Brandon also provides practical advice for both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships.

(00:00) - Intro
(00:21) - Personal Story: Marriage and the Book 'Sex at Dawn'
(03:08) - The Importance of Purpose Alignment in Relationships
(07:03) - Stages of a Relationship: Monogamous and Non-Monogamous Tracks
(09:33) - Stage One: Need Fulfillment
(11:24) - Stage Two: Mutual Benefit
(13:27) - Stage Three: Romantic Trial Period
(15:25) - Stage Four: Engagement or Resource Trial Period
(16:20) - Stage Five: Full Commitment
(17:17) - Challenges and Realities of Long-Term Commitment
(18:33) - Final Thoughts

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7 Essential Behaviors for a Good Submissive in BDSM

Brandon The Dom — Sun, 28 Jul 2024 18:00:00 -0700

In this episode, Brandon the Dom discusses seven crucial behaviors that make a good submissive in a dominant-submissive (DS) relationship. These behaviors, which complement those required of a good Dom, include service towards the Dom's vision, respect and trust, challenging the structure when necessary, effective communication, play and servicing pleasure, openness to learning, and serving with intention and love. These practices aim to create a stronger, more cohesive dynamic between Dom and submissive, emphasizing teamwork and mutual growth. For more insights, visit brandonthedom.com.

(00:00) - Introduction to Submissive Behaviors
(01:17) - The Importance of Service
(02:21) - Respect and Trust
(03:55) - Challenging the Structure
(05:25) - Effective Communication
(07:18) - Play and Pleasure
(09:15) - Commitment to Learning
(10:22) - Serving with Intention and Love
(11:42) - Conclusion and Further Resources

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7 Essential Behaviors of a Good Dominant in BDSM

Brandon The Dom — Mon, 22 Jul 2024 19:16:03 -0700

In this episode, Brandon the Dom discusses seven crucial behaviors that make a good dominant in BDSM. Moving beyond basic consent and research, these behaviors delve into deeper concepts like leadership, responsibility, order, communication, awareness, education, and love. Brandon explains the importance of each behavior, offering insights and practical examples for both dominants and submissives to enhance their dynamics. He emphasizes creating trust, clear communication, and fostering growth while maintaining a healthy, safe, and consensual environment.

(00:00) - Introduction to Dominance
(01:40) - Leadership
(04:24) - Responsibility
(05:08) - Order and Structure
(06:43) - Effective Communication
(08:57) - Awareness in Dominance
(10:32) - Educating and Creating Growth
(11:50) - The Role of Love and Intention
(12:51) - Conclusion

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