Whether you are navigating the 12 steps for the first time or supporting a loved one, this conversation explores the mechanics of surrender, the traps of the ego, and why abstinence is only the first step toward true freedom.

Key Topics Discussed:

• The Ego Trap: Why successful professionals (lawyers, doctors, veterans) often struggle most with the admission of powerlessness.
• Redefining Surrender: Shifting the perspective from "giving up" to surrendering to a new way of life.
• The Spiritual Malady: Addressing the "ick" that remains once substances are removed.
• Agnosticism & Recovery: How to build a higher power of your own understanding when traditional religious concepts don't fit.

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• Learn about our treatment programs: www.laventanatreatment.com
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In this episode of Beyond the Window, Sharon Volner sits down with board-certified psychiatrist Dr. Carol Kiriakos to explore a powerful reframe of ADHD, not as a limitation, but as a unique cognitive advantage.

Dr. Kiriakos shares insights from her clinical experience and her book The ADHD Advantage, breaking down how ADHD shows up across different stages of life, why it’s often misunderstood, and how individuals can learn to work with their brains instead of against them.

This conversation goes beyond surface-level symptoms and dives into the deeper patterns behind attention, motivation, self-esteem, and performance.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

•  Why do many people with ADHD have high intelligence but struggle with consistency? 
•  How ADHD impacts attention, focus, and decision-making 
•  The concept of hyperfocus and why pressure can improve performance 
•  How ADHD presents differently in children vs adults 
•  Why ADHD often goes undiagnosed until later in life 
•  The connection between ADHD, self-esteem, and rejection sensitivity 
•  How ADHD can influence career paths, relationships, and daily life 
•  The link between ADHD and substance use or self-medication 
•  The truth about stimulant vs non-stimulant medications 
•  Practical, behavioral strategies to manage ADHD without relying solely on medication 

Key Insights from Dr. Kiriakos

ADHD Is Not an Intelligence Problem

Many individuals with ADHD are highly intelligent and creative. The challenge lies in attention regulation, not ability.

Hyperfocus Is a Hidden Strength

People with ADHD often perform best under pressure, using urgency and deadlines to activate deep focus and productivity.

ADHD Evolves Over Time

While hyperactivity may be more visible in childhood, ADHD in adults often shows up as overwhelm, inconsistency, and difficulty managing responsibilities.

Compensation Can Mask ADHD

Many individuals develop coping mechanisms early on, only to reach a breaking point later in life when demands increase.

ADHD and Self-Esteem Are Closely Linked

Repeated struggles despite high ability can lead to internal doubt and the question: “What’s wrong with me?”

Practical Strategies for Managing ADHD

•  Use structured breaks to maintain focus and avoid burnout 
•  Work during your most productive times based on your natural rhythm 
•  Introduce controlled background noise to reduce internal distractions 
•  Break large tasks into smaller, manageable segments 
•  Use external tools like reminders, notes, or AI to support the organization 
•  Create small rewards to stay motivated 
•  Prioritize sleep, exercise, and overall balance 

Medication vs Behavioral Approaches

Dr. Kiriakos explains that ADHD treatment is not one-size-fits-all.

•  Stimulants may help improve focus and motivation for some individuals 
•  Non-stimulant options can be beneficial, especially for those with anxiety or other conditions 
•  Behavioral strategies are essential, whether or not medication is used 
•  Proper treatment can reduce the likelihood of self-medicating with substances 

Important Topics Discussed

•  ADHD medication shortages and access challenges 
•  Misconceptions about ADHD in boys vs girls 
•  The overlap between ADHD and other conditions, like anxiety, OCD, and autism spectrum traits 
•  How ADHD can impact communication and social interactions 

Who This Episode Is For

•  Adults who suspect they may have ADHD 
•  Parents are trying to better understand their child’s behavior 
•  Professionals struggling with focus, consistency, or overwhelm 
•  Anyone interested in mental health, performance, and productivity 

Learn More About La Ventana

For more details about our process at La Ventana, call us at (800) 560-8518. We pride ourselves on real people picking up the phones seven days a week from 8 am to 8 pm.

Final Thought

ADHD isn’t just about distraction. It’s about how the brain prioritizes, processes, and responds to the world. When understood and managed correctly, it can become a powerful advantage rather than a limitation.

While often viewed through a negative lens, our clinicians—Lori Holdren Scott, Christina Navarro, and David Ruda—explore manipulation as a neutral, learned skill that begins in infancy as a way to have needs met. They discuss why clients (and all of us) use social influence to survive, how to distinguish between malicious intent and "maladaptive" coping, and how setting healthy boundaries can disrupt the cycle of manipulation in families and relationships.

Whether you are a clinician, a family member of someone in recovery, or simply curious about human behavior, this conversation offers a refreshing, non-judgmental look at how we all navigate the world to find connection and safety.

Episode Notes

Meet the Panel:

• Lori Holdren Scott, LMFT: Director of Clinical Supervision at La Ventana Outpatient.
• Christina Navarro, LMFT: Clinical Director for the Outpatient Program.
• David Ruda, PhD, APCC: Primary Therapist in the Outpatient Programs.

Key Highlights:

• The Origin of Manipulation: Why it starts as early as 12 months old and how it evolves from a survival skill into a social tool.
• Neutrality vs. Nefariousness: Comparing manipulation to "fire"—a tool that can be used to warm a home or cause destruction, depending on the intent.
• Substance Use & Survival: Understanding why manipulation is often a symptom of addiction and personality disorders, and why it shouldn't be taken personally by loved ones.
• The "Mean Girls" Dynamic: A deep dive into social influence using the "Regina George vs. Cady Heron" comparison—identifying transparent vs. insidious behavior.
• Clinical Benefits of Outpatient (PHP/IOP): Why group therapy provides a unique "360-degree view" of a client’s behavior that private practice often misses.
• Breaking the Cycle: How family systems can disrupt manipulative feedback loops through education, curiosity, and firm boundaries.

Top Takeaways for Listeners:

1. Be Curious, Not Judgmental: When you feel manipulated, ask why the person feels they can't be transparent about their needs.
2. Secrecy vs. Transparency: Manipulation becomes harmful when secrecy is involved; transparency allows both parties to maintain their autonomy.
3. The Role of Social Media: How "influencer culture" is a modern form of mass manipulation and the importance of digital detoxing.

Connect with La Ventana Treatment Programs:

• Website: laventanatreatment.com
• Instagram: @LaVentanaTreatment
• Facebook: La Ventana Treatment Programs

David shares his journey of returning to sobriety after a relapse and how approaching recovery differently the second time led to a deeper transformation. Together, he and Ty break down the process of change through the 12 Steps, focusing especially on steps four through nine and the life-changing power of doing the work rather than just understanding it intellectually.

They discuss how unresolved shame, fear, and childhood experiences can shape addictive behaviors and how the inventory process helps uncover the underlying patterns that keep people stuck. Through honest conversation, they explore how writing things down, identifying character defects, and taking responsibility can create the awareness needed to heal.

The episode also dives into topics such as:

• Why real recovery requires a complete personality change
• The difference between intellectual understanding and lived experience in recovery
• How resentment, fear, and shame drive destructive patterns
• Why connection is the true antidote to addiction
• The role of heart-brain coherence and emotional healing in recovery
• How self-forgiveness, healthy boundaries, and self-care help repair the past
• Turning painful life experiences into purpose by helping others

Tye explains how many of the struggles people face in addiction stem from deep, unresolved shame and insecure attachments, and how the recovery process allows individuals to rebuild healthy connections with themselves and others.

The conversation ultimately highlights one of the most powerful ideas in recovery: your past does not have to be your burden. It can become your greatest asset.

This episode is a thoughtful and honest look at what it really takes to change, heal, and build a meaningful life in sobriety.

In this episode of Beyond the Window, hosts Sharon Wner and Jennifer Enriquez sit down with Carrie Simmons, LMFT, a clinician-turned-musician whose story blends recovery, creativity, and self-mastery in a way that’s both raw and inspiring.

Carrie shares her journey from a rebellious, angry teen searching for belonging to navigating addiction, reinvention, and sobriety: all while building a creative life in Los Angeles. Along the way, she recounts a bold Hollywood moment that says everything about her personality: pulling over on Sunset Boulevard to rap for Dr. Dre.

The conversation also explores how Carrie uses music and performance to create a safe, welcoming space where people can feel connected, drop the mask, and remember they’re not alone. This is a powerful episode about turning pain into purpose, embracing vulnerability, and building a life rooted in truth, community, and hope.

In This Episode, We Cover

• Clinician to musician: how Carrie’s path evolved
• The Whiskey a Go Go show that felt “therapeutic” to the audience
• Identity, belonging, and finding your voice
• Addiction, sobriety, and the work behind long-term change
• Why vulnerability, community, and spiritual discipline matter in healing
• Turning pain into purpose, and using creativity to give back

Guest Links: Carrie Simmons
Instagram: @carriesimmonsofficial
Website: carriersimmonsofficial.com
YouTube: Carrie Simmons Channel

About Beyond the Window
Beyond the Window is a podcast from La Ventana Treatment Programs, featuring conversations about mental health, recovery, and real stories of transformation.

La Ventana Treatment Programs
Learn more: loveatreatment.com

Disclaimer
This episode is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.

Hear from Clinical Directors Bryce Colvard, LMFT and Carla Fernandez, LCSW, Staff Trainer Allison Silipigni, and Mental Health Technician Joshua Peraza as they pull back the curtain on their work. They share raw stories about breaking down stigma, why "anger is just the surface emotion," and the transformative power of holding a boundary with empathy.

This is a candid look at the challenges, breakthroughs, and human connection that define modern mental health treatment.

Listen to discover:

• How to see past surface-level behaviors (like anger) to the real issues.
• The unique experience of women and men working in men's mental health.
• Why a "safe space" is built on structure and boundaries, not just comfort.
• The powerful, reparative work that helps clients rewrite their stories.

#MensMentalHealth #MentalHealthPodcast #Therapy #BreakTheStigma #LaVentana

Dr. Talei offers her direct, compassionate wisdom on how to break the cycle of projection, stop taking things personally, and learn to parent the child you actually have—not the one you're trying to heal through. We tackle tough topics like setting boundaries without guilt, why doing your teen's homework (or college applications) hurts them, and how to move from reactive parenting to responsive understanding.

This episode is a must-listen for any parent, guardian, or caregiver who wants to build a healthier, more resilient relationship with their child—whether that child is 15 or 50.

Key Topics:

• Why we take our children's behavior personally
• Healing your own wounds so you don't pass them on
• The danger of over-involvement (helicopter parenting)
• The importance of letting kids fail (especially in middle school!)
• How to model emotional regulation and accountability
• Practical steps to parent from a place of understanding, not reaction

Find Dr. Bahareh Talei, Psy.D.
https://www.centerdcs.com/
https://www.hiveofhope.org/

Learn more about our treatment programs:
https://laventanatreatment.com/

• How trauma embeds itself in our DNA—and behaviors.
• Why breaking cycles requires more than willpower.
• The cultural stigmas that keep families silent.
• Practical steps to heal and reclaim your narrative.

Whether you’re navigating your own legacy or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers compassion, clarity, and a path forward.

🔹 Follow Beyond the Window for more on mental health and addiction recovery.
🔹 Visit [La Ventana’s Website] for resources.

#GenerationalTrauma #BreakTheCycle #MentalHealthPodcast

In this profound episode of Beyond the Window, La Ventana Clinical Director,  Sharon Volner, LMFT, sits down with TJ Woodward—author, recovery expert, and creator of Conscious Recovery—to challenge the myths of brokenness and explore seven transformative principles for healing.

From “There is nothing wrong with you” to “The only prayer is thank you,” TJ shares how his own journey from addiction to ministry reveals a path back to wholeness. You’ll hear:

• Why addiction is a “brilliant strategy” (not a life sentence)
• How to heal trauma without retraumatizing yourself
• The shadow side of the treatment industry—and what’s changing
• Why connection, not willpower, is the antidote to shame
For those tired of “fixing” themselves and ready to remember their inherent worth.

🔗 Explore TJ’s work:

www.consciousrecovery.com
www.tjwoodward.com

💬 Join the conversation: What’s your “brilliant strategy”? Share in the comments below.

#AddictionRecovery #TraumaHealing #ConsciousRecovery #BeyondTheWindow

💊 Gwen’s hospice analogy: Why treating patients like "rock stars" is non-negotiable
🔗 Laurie's Ferragamo betrayal: How selling her husband’s shoes for pills became her turning point
🧠 The lie of ‘living clean’: Laurie's year of faking sobriety—and what finally broke her
👊 Jailhouse redemption: “I tell women behind bars: I was you. The difference? I surrendered.”

This isn’t a recovery podcast. This is a war story.

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#RockBottomToRecovery #AddictionAndRedemption #NoFilterRecovery

Nine years after losing her son Luke to an overdose, Sheila Scott has since founded the LukeLove Foundation to prevent other families from experiencing this pain. In this raw conversation on Beyond the Window, she reveals:

🔹 Why EVERY family needs naloxone (yes, even yours)
🔹 How 3 grains of fentanyl can be fatal
🔹 Why "good kids" are just as at risk
🔹 How teens are becoming overdose first responders

Sheila's story will change how you think about:
• The opioid crisis
• Teen drug use
• Grief that transforms into action

Take action today:
1️⃣ Get free naloxone training: www.lukelove.org
2️⃣ Share this video to break the stigma
3️⃣ Leave a comment with your thoughts

#OverdosePrevention #NarcanSavesLives #AddictionRecovery #HarmReduction #GriefAndHope

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This is a conversation about truth-telling, the weight of unspoken pain, and the small but brave steps toward wholeness. Because healing doesn’t begin with being "fine." It begins with honesty.